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It's wise to learn from other people's mistakes after all. It'd be much appreciated if you also write what you learned to do/not to do from those mistakes.


[–]mrpthrowa 111 points112 points  (22 children)

Get emotional with women. "open up". Seek emotional support from women.

This is almost always the reason men betasize and fuck up.

The temptation will be great.

She will be infatuated with you, she'll love you, she'll kiss the ground you're walking on and suck you dry.

And she does that because your frame is strong and you're a rock, a man with a mission who gets what he wants.

But you'll get the urge. you'll get the urge to feel up. The temptation will be great especially with girls who are hot, submissive and shower you with displays of affection and emotion.

Ah finally I'm sure she'll understand me.

At this point, STFU. SHUT THE FUCK UP.

If you "open up", show a little crack, boy the punishment will be very quick. Nothing gets vaginas drier quicker.

You're on your own.

[–]TryhardPantiesON 34 points35 points  (2 children)

Made the same mistake several times.

This is one of those things that you learn the hard way. When you are feeling sad, or emotiona, seek your male friends, never women.

[–]TB12thMan 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I would go even further; talk to your father. Talk to your brother. Hell talk to a therapist. By opening up to your friends, they may respect you at first but if you are a deeply rooted beta or have actual emotional problems your friends will begin to see you as needy and weak, and will learn how to pull your strings.

Edit: changed councilor to therapist

[–]DamiensLust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is where the distinction between buddies & your best friends, your brothers, your fucking tribe.

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness 24 points25 points  (7 children)

And she'll keep telling you that it's good that you've opened up, that now she feels better connection between the two of you, et cetera...

By the way sex quality (or quantity) got a nosedive? "Oh must be my libido cause of the depression..." or some other BS

It's not that she lies, she might, most likely, not realize what's happening. It's kinda the weirdest thing since I've got to read TRP (a;though I don't agree with a lot of stuff). Situations which prove one by one, another after another that she desires you way more when you do all the stuff that she supposedly doesn't like and that put her off. You do you and she's on her knees waiting for you with her eyes just locked into you, you do what she recommends is the best course of action and she's gonna be indifferent, bored with you.

Honestly it's painful to watch, I don't even want to believe this shit and I won't ever tell the girls because they're not going to believe anyway. They just notice it sometimes but don't have the balls (and never will have) to admit it before themselves because it's too animal-like.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 5 points6 points  (5 children)

It's not that she lies

I'm pretty sure she does lie.

While they're attracted to alpha, they relentlessly need to have it confirmed. They relentlessly pick away, looking for weakness, looking for a way to increase your dependency on her.

All weakness and attachment and dependency directly decreases your attractiveness.

They know it..... but they do it because they want the security of getting you attached.... and they want to see if you can pass shit tests or not.

I've talked to women. They know they test, and they know they do it deliberately, and they think we haven't noticed. And they know the consequences of failing those tests: increased resources/commitment for her and decreased attraction for us.

[–]TB12thMan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What's worse is some women will try to make you feel like the only way to improve your relationship is by opening up more so; meanwhile they will become more reserved the more open and willing you become. Doesn't matter how good your pipe game is, if you start becoming too emotional and open they will stop finding you biologically attractive, will shut down, and make you feel guilty because they don't understand that they are driven by emotion. Keep it to yourself and figure out how to use your pain to your advantage. That being said, depression and anxiety are no joke, so if you are dealing with these then seek dietary and medical assistance. Its almost 100% going to be your diet and exercise, but that isn't always enough.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

decreased attraction for us

What do you mean by this exactly?

Why would she want you to become less attractive in her own eyes?

Or did you mean that she wants you to become less attractive in other women's eyes? (But why would being more attached to her in private make you less attractive in other women's eyes?)

[–]TB12thMan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She doesn't WANT you to become less attractive. She NEEDS the validation though, and so she'll test your frame. She wants to see if you're a man, or if you're her bitch.

[–]mrpthrowa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they are not rational

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mean by this

failed shit test = less attraction

[–]wiredtobeweird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Taking liability for their actions? Not having any plausible deniability? Surely it can't be. /s

[–]BusterVadge 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I believe this is the most common mistake men make. Sometimes it is necessary to "open up" a little, in the case of comfort tests from a LTR, but NEVER seek emotional support from women. This is what your bros are for.

[–]ioncehadsexinapool 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I've noticed if you show that you have emotions but aren't comfortable sharing them with her she goes coocoo for Coco puffs.

You have to show some form of vulnerability for most for them to be interested. I think this really teases them.

Has anyone else noticed this?

[–]Frosty_Resilience 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most important lesson I learned. LTR broke up with me. Now I'm better off though.

[–]Love8Death 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know what really sunk things in well for me, was when my SO said me crying made her Happy.

Oh so apparently without that, I'm emotionless, and she just thought I didn't have any. And this is someone that studied psychology in school too.

AWALT.

Too bad for her that I enjoy her tears way more.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fucking realz before feelz.

[–]frerri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been doing this recently, she says she loves me with all of her heart and I'm her other half and all of that shit. Tell me I'll be OK if I never open up like that again

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Made this mistake with my current girlfriend two years ago.

It's a long road to recovery my friends.

You're going to be in the moment, maybe cuddling with her, maybe feeling shitty about something. You are going to feel so safe and loved by her that you just want to share with this other human your deepest insecurities and worries.

Don't. Like really, don't.

She will not have any real advice that you couldn't figure out on your own, just comfort. Women will tell you themselves, when they are upset they don't want to discuss rational paths and plans towards solving the issue, they want comfort and reassurance. That's all they can give you.

So on that practical level it's not worth it, but on top of that you've shattered your frame and her perception of you as a man.

That doesn't mean you are always a closed book. If you need to talk to someone about that type of shit, grab a six pack and some bud and talk to a close buddy about it. I will vent to my girl about little things, but nothing major

[–]wiredtobeweird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spot on.

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, thanks.

[–]Renzotl56 42 points43 points  (9 children)

Let a girl take over my life. Everything revolved around her. Never again man. Pushed past all the red flags and tried to make it work. Red flags are there for a reason.

[–]dontbedenied 6 points7 points  (6 children)

I'll raise you letting a BPD/NPD woman take over my life. Twice. Seriously...never again.

[–]whatever11111111 1 points1 points [recovered]

My high school sweetheart with BPD recently left me, talk about unplugged.

[–]dontbedenied 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Consider yourself lucky that she left you. Most make your life hell until you can't take anymore and crawl out of the relationship. BPD women prey on guys who are deeply plugged in because they know guys who are unplugged smell their shit from a mile away, and will just pump and dump them.

I wanted to kill myself with my most recent Ex. It was so fucked up. I could sense that something was very wrong but I still couldn't walk away from the relationship. It was like having Stockholm Syndrome. I have no idea when she would have broken up with me. I finally pulled the trigger, discovered TRP and have been on the road to recovery ever since.

[–]-sr71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theres taking the red pill and then theres getting it rammed down ur throat on the tip of thick dick with a BPD girl

[–]HappyMexican 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Whats BPD?

[–]ollyollyollyoioioi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bipolar Disorder. It can be annoying as hell, could not imagine having to deal with that in pussy form.

[–]tenXten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amen, brother.

[–]nnamreflow 1 points1 points [recovered]

More than once, seeking validation from women. Waiting for texts, getting depressed when left on read, you get the picture.

Also, opening up. It's never good, ever.

[–]aasman1 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Needed to read this one. Thanks

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take you're steps.

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness 22 points23 points  (1 child)

Don't go rambo on your current relationships, i.e. trying to change the whole relationship dynamic all at once

[–]Peter_B_Long 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Told my first gf when I was 14 that I would do whatever she wanted me to do and that I was her puppet.

I had a plate when I was 16. She was a tall blonde HB 9. She modeled and got hit on by every guy in her friends group. I was a scrawny skinny fat Hispanic brown skinned beta but I had amazing social value. I lost my virginity to her. I was dgaf and aloof at first because she had a boyfriend, but after fucking a few times and opening up, I fucked it all up by crying / begging / manipulating her into leaving her boyfriend for me.

I cried once at the mall because my ex LTR wouldn't hold my hand at the mall. This one makes me cringe cause I was like 19-20.

Thank God for the red pill I don't even cry at funerals anymore.

[–]deadwoodcylon 1 points1 points [recovered]

CRINGE

Pay for everything, plus a nice trip to a couple islands

Take a chick out on multiple lavish dates, no bang

Stay "friends" after she said LJBF

Stalk her after she dumps you

Get her to your place, make out but not even attempt to bang, then oneitis

Tell her she has good babymaking hips

Get her to your place but can't get hard because too much alcohol

On your fist bang, not do everything you can to get her off and clamoring for more of your dick, instead she kicks you out because it was such a lame lay

[–]Peter_B_Long 12 points13 points  (5 children)

The limp alcohol dick isn't exactly beta. It happens.

[–]deadwoodcylon 1 points1 points [recovered]

Drinking too much when you know the bang is almost in the bag is beta and cockblocking yourself

[–]Psychocist 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Did exactly this last night with a plate I've only seen couple times :/ stupid!

[–]Peter_B_Long 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Drinking too much in general is beta. I've never had limp dick from too much alcohol. It does take longer to get hard though.

[–]Andrea-Amilcare 32 points33 points  (3 children)

God, where do I begin? I was so shock full of blue pill nonsense, it's a miracle I didn't choke on it to death.

 

Some things just off the top of my head:

  • Thought being a good boyfriend meant to be a complete doormat and say ‘Yes’ to whatever the Missus was asking
  • Believed in shit like "romance" and "chivalry"
  • Neediness on steroids. I just fucking cringe at some of the shit I would text to women I was chasing at the time.

 

More than anything, I was totally deluded into thinking that women were delicate little flowers that needed a “good guy” like me to take care of them. Just some sad sad shit.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was totally deluded into thinking that women were delicate little flowers that needed a “good guy” like me to take care of them. Just some sad sad shit.

I really wonder if that's how you really felt about yourself. Fragile, could collapse at any moment. Needed a mother figure in shining armour to support you. That's the hell of projection is it's totally subconscious.

So you just assumed that women thought and felt in ways that were equally parasitic.

[–]Psychocist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neediness on steroids. I just fucking cringe at some of the shit I would text to women I was chasing at the time.

Oh man. Some of the crap I must have come out with, too. Right there with ya!

I cringe every time I think of how I would try to negotiate desire over text if I got a LJBF after a first date. Now it's simple: maybe one text, but otherwise don't chase at all. Women who are interested will chase you.

I've lost a few women like that, but it leaves you with women who are genuinely into you.

[–]GreenPiller 22 points23 points  (19 children)

A male nurse would fuck my oneitis once a week. She would go out with me the rest of the week and we would talk over the phone every day. Spent 2 years like this and I still didn't get pussy. Wish I could go back in time and beat the shit out of me, I would probably beat the shit out of that nurse as well, she never told me who he was though. I would've probably killed him.

[–]WinstonMcFail 18 points19 points  (12 children)

Why the fuck do you want to beat up the male nurse? He was just getting his, like you should've been doing. Not his fault. If anything, he deserves props. Never understood some guys' urge to beat up other dudes just bc they get the female.

[–]tenXten 7 points8 points  (2 children)

I agree. SHE is to blame here.

[–]TB12thMan 5 points6 points  (1 child)

She is partially to blame; but in reality, the dude should have realized that he was in a toxic relationship that was causing him emotional stress and torment. He was making sacrifices for what, friendship? Why be exclusive? Why even have that girl in your life at all? You have to realize that she did not respect you and that's on YOU for letting someone disrespect you and stay in your life. It's very tough to realize, but once you shift the blame to yourself and figure out where you went wrong, you can start progressing in life and have a much more healthy, happy existence.

[–]tenXten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree...It starts with self. But after that....

[–]GreenPiller 2 points3 points  (6 children)

That shit is in the past already. Although don't expect me to be a cuck and give him props. I hate that mentality and it is quite common in here. I accept the truth but I still hate his guts, don't care what anyone thinks.

[–]WinstonMcFail 1 point2 points  (5 children)

You don't have to care what anyone thinks but the fact that you hate his guts is a sign of insecurity, no doubt. There's literally no logical reason to harbor feelings of hate towards the dude. He did absolutely nothing to you. You're being emotional rather than rational. That's a female trait. The whole point of trp is to recognise this truth, accept it, and grow from it

[–]GreenPiller 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I already moved on. Just don't expect me to shake his hand and tell him what a good job he did. I'm not a fan of this whole stoic bullshit, I'm a human not a sociopath, I have plenty of reasons to hold a grudge. I move on but I don't forget.

[–]WinstonMcFail 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Fair enough dude. You can choose to react however you feel think is good for you.. that's all that matters i suppose

[–]GreenPiller 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sorry man. I'm not Marcus Aurelius and I won't pretend to be him. I'll always defend angry newbies, its ok to feel anger and frustration. Just my point of view.

[–]WinstonMcFail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm totally with you man. Everyone is allowed to process situational emotions as it suits them. We agree. But to hate the dude does seem somewhat unhealthy

[–]Gawernator 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Because of jealousy.

[–]WinstonMcFail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth. It's weakness and to be avoided. Not saying its easy or natural

[–]kieran9323 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would've probably killed him.

You can't fix stupid. If it's not a friend zone, it's going to prison for murder with intent and assault on a female

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Holy shit, man. I feel for you

[–]GreenPiller 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The blatant manipulation was disgusting. I never felt so used and manipulated before... I imagined her getting pounded, wiping the cum from her face and giving me a call. Shit makes me wanna vomit.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Shit dude, it wasn't even good pussy. Like, it really wasn't. Why do you want to beat some guy you don't even know, just for lowering himself to have crappy sex with the STI ridden office whore?

At worst, he deserve a slap in the face for shitting where he eats. But don't worry, that habit will bite him right in the balls in due time.

You had other opportunities. You didn't want them. You're going to beat up a guy because you didn't want other options? That's like attacking your roommate for watching the "Twilight Series Marathon" without you.

[–]GreenPiller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not about the pussy its about the humiliation and he was part of the equation. I simply hate the guy and I won't pretend not to. Enough kissing Chad's ass, you are allowed to dislike him.

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 10 points11 points  (5 children)

  • Bought several girls flowers before or on first dates. (It kinda worked once and terrified the other).

  • Attempted to negotiate our relationship, pointing out where my needs weren't being met. Based this on the mistaken assumption she gave a fuck about me or "our relationship".

  • Took a girl for a great meal out at a great restaurant. Let it known it was her turn next. She/we went to the cheapest/closest place and she said to the serving staff "it's buy one get one free today right?". Didn't dump her on the spot.

  • Assumed my mother gave a fuck about me rather than someone who will just parrot feminism endlessly rather than care about anything her son said.

  • Thought women were caring creatures, regardless of the endless evidence to the contrary, due my own stupid wishful thinking.

[Edit] Oh... and once wrote 12 pages about "our relationship", on the mistaken assumption that the girl would read it, understand, and want to improve things.

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Damn. Appreciate the honesty Matty.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I was fully committed to being beta, and I was happy with it, thinking women would appreciate it, be attracted to me, and we could build a relationship and a future together. When it didn't work I was convinced I was doing everything right but she was the wrong girl. Everyone agreed I was doing it right, the girls included.

There was some sex.... I'm reasonably physically attractive.... I didn't get stuck being an orbiter after doing it once and reaslising it didn't work.

Gradually I snapped out of it and stopped being so nice, culminating in me tattooing TRP Endorsed across my chest in red.

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Thanks for sharing your story. It's good to know the moderators are human just like us.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Not a mod.

The reason I am an EC is because of my insights into female behaviour and motivations... and a lot of that came from how I was treated when I was trying to benefit them rather than myself.

I've done all the things women say they want. I've been the loyal, decent, honest, faithful long term committed boyfriend. And been lied to and treated like shit for my efforts.

I don't think I'd be qualified to say "commitment kills attraction" unless I'd been there and done it enough times to be certain.

[–]mrpthrowa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks dude. I can say i honestly look out for your responses sometimes - some of the insights you spit out into female psychology are so spot on.

[–]IRideParkCity 9 points10 points  (5 children)

Fell for a girl 10 years younger than me and orbited for months while never getting anywhere.

Lawl what a fucking joke I was. Learned trp, found the 3 rules, made a move, got rejected, cut her from my life, and life suddenly got amazing.

Thank you trp.

[–]kenpachitz 1 points1 points [recovered]

the 3 rules

What are those?

[–]IRideParkCity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rule #1: assume every girl is in to you. Rule #2: escalate until you get a no. Rule #3: don't stick your dick in crazy.

[–]Kellywasmyfirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. be attractive

  2. don't be unattractive

  3. follow rule 1 & 2

????

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Nice. How did you know when you were rejected.

[–]IRideParkCity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to escalate. Got as far as touching a nipple. Haven't seen her since that day

[–]mikehillfin 1 points1 points [recovered]

Because of my community background got into social media late. Sent too many messages to too many girls. Most of these girls I would meet during the week. I did get girls at that time but never the ones who I sent messages to.

Anger/desire is your enemy patience is your protector, remember that.

[–]chachaChad 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Got married. Had kids.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Didn't I see you driving that powder blue chrysler minivan the other day. Thousand-yard stare on your face?

[–]chachaChad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some fucking days...

Honesty, I’ve been like that but that’s all about feeling like a victim. I’m not a victim which means I ducked this up and I can unfuck it.

[–]idgaf- 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Writing letters to a girl. lol

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can work as part of seduction in a LTR

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wrote my crush a 3 page hand written love letter in high school. Couldn't even muster up the balls to arrange shit in person.

[–]Adamn27 1 points1 points [recovered]

  • Cried like a bitch when my ex pulled up shit and she saw me weak
  • Not fucking the religious-virgin neighboor chick in her butt when me and my ex got apart, because the "break up was too fresh"
  • Not fucking girls in general because I tought it's not "right" to have sex with somebody when you are not in a relationship with them.

[–]HappyMexican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hah, It is good to see all the replies of "crying"," begging", and stalking.

TRP is full of burnt men indeed. Including me, I am no better then you guys :(

Not fucking girls in general because I tought it's not "right" to have sex with somebody when you are not in a relationship with them.

It took me all the way to 25 to figure this one out. I had TWO different occasions at 24 and I passed on having easy sex with both of them for this reason. Wanted to be their boyfriend first. They honestly just seemed frustrated the next morning.

They were literally naked on my bed and I was drunk, but stupid ass misguided conscious got the better of me. I still regret years later.

[–]TomKN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Writing a letter to my ex and going round with flowers and having to hand it to her dad because she wouldn't see me. Then writing her a song - the letter i can live with, the song was next level cringe.

[–]honorocagan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fucked up a golden threesome opportunity.

Man, that fucked with my head.

Luckily, I got a do-over later down the road.

Carpe diem, go get em.

[–]CameronBronson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After I broke up with my ex, I bought her a birthday present because I thought that maybe she would take me back.

I also was in a relationship with this same girl for 6 months, and never had sex with her. She wasn't a virgin and had been with many other guys before me...

[–]TB12thMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being too open with my emotions and past. As some have stated before this, I expected that women wanted honesty and that being a good guy and being as close to perfect as possible would allow me to find happiness. Even when I was a complete alpha douche, I was actually incredibly insecure in my frame and emotionally unstable. I lifted frequently, almost obsessively, but for the most part this hobby was a facade for me to cover up the fact that I put all of my value in pussy. Leads to you getting drunk and saying stupid shit, acting irrational, and probably either fighting someone or acting incredibly desperate.

[–]Mrm1ster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ltr of 4 years left me and started seeing a guy right after (probably fucking him before she left me). Wrote her this long love letter accompanied by sending her 4 dozen roses that week. She kept telling me she was confused and I acted like a beta cuck that kept begging her to come back to me.

Should have just went no contact and started fucking other women asap. I've learned my lesson.

[–]west3rn1deals 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cried in front of a girl, after i told her of my oneitis with her. Right after she told me all the styles of sex she did with her boyfriend at the time. Go on, lay it all out... i deserve it.

[–]11-Eleven-11 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Went on a date with a friend of my cousins... with my cousin... twice. (Cousins a girl btw.)

[–]HappyMexican 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Wait did you date your cousin or her friend... or both?

[–]11-Eleven-11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The friend. But I was so beta they thought it would be a good idea if my cousin tagged along. We were all 19 btw. She was pretty shy also so I basically failed a comfort test because I had no idea what I was doing.

[–]Gawernator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Typical doormat bf

[–]jackandjill22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's ironic now, I was an introvert that broke out. I have neckbeard "old" Facebook friends who never learned to hunt for pussy & go out/spend their weekends playing vidya & doing to hobbyist type shit with WOW posters on their walls. They like their safe upper-middle class bubbles.

They marvel at my transformation.

My family now criticizes my female choices. "I don't approve of her" they say. These girls are mostly burnaways that I use as plates for hot ass, practice game. & watch poor decision making in action. Rejected giving a ride to one yesterday night. Was on the phone with another almost directly afterward.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took a drunk chick home in college because she jumped in my pledge rides car and put her on her couch then went home.

Had a nice hearing by the admisitration of my school for bad conduct the next week.

Apparently I should have pushed her out to the curb.

[–]isthatsuperman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year ago before I found myself on my RP journey, I wouldn't have considered myself a beta but was I wrong.

A girl I used to be close friends with back in middle school had reconnected with me. And holy fuck is she hot now like HB9 status. We were like forest and Jenny back in the day and I thought she was "the one" and that this was "meant to be." (I laugh at myself now for it.)

So we go out she comes back to my place she is practically attacking me at this point, we fuck. Its great. We continue to fuck for the next two weeks I'm constantly texting this girl day in and day out.

One night after going at it we're talking and she asks me how I feel about her. Normally I keep this stuff in and don't share emotions but I thought it was meant to be like I was in the notebook or something. So what do I say? "I love you." <- the fuck up of a lifetime

The next week she practically ghosts me. She finally lets me know she needs time for herself and this and that.

I was blind sided. Completely confused as to what In the fuck happened. How was it this girl couldn't get enough of me two weeks ago and now this? I couldn't figure it out. I was devastated over it for a couple weeks. I eventually got past it. Flash forward to finding the RP reading the theories and what not, then it dawned on me. I lost all my status with her by opening up and displaying feelings and emotions. It was a tough lesson to learn, she was easily the hottest girl Ive ever been with and I blew it. Never again, will I repeat that mistake.

[–]mancozbi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that women like sex to be nice, gentle, sweet, that they want a cuddly, fluffy toy/man in bed. Pathetic I know. My excuse is that is what women told me they want, and what I saw on mass media. As soon as I realised the truth my sex life rocketed.

The other shit that I deeply regret is porn, masturbation and prostitution. Good sex is what we need, with a real person - not an image on a screen, not a prepaid service. Sex is good for men if we've put the effort in, chase,, seduce and fuck hard (and that includes sex in a LTR).