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Girlfriend Cheated, best stuff to read to get though it? (self.askTRP)

submitted by LogicalBrah

Both late twenties, lived together almost a year. I pay all expenses, she moved into my apartment (I know). I honestly felt like I could cherry pick TRP methods and disregard the ones that didn’t go with what I was wanting to do. I dropped my plates and let a girl move in with me that had a high n count and baggage with her ex.

Last month sex, affection, deep conversation dropped off a cliff. Went from awesome sex every day to starfish or blowjob when I asked. She would never say no so I just thought it was a funk, but it raised my alert.

She brought in some mail after work last week and in it was mail from her old address, the one with her ex. I asked about it and she had a wonderful excuse, so I dropped it.

It’s been eating me alive on the inside so I checked her Mac laptop yesterday and could see two weeks of conversation. She must have deleted the previous convo because what I could see was mid conversation, they’ve been talking for much longer.

In those two weeks of conversations she’s sending him recipes, asking about a job he applied for, telling him shit me and her talked about like her applying for new jobs and losing some weight. The last thing she sent was “lunch today at noon?” With him saying “yep”.

Long story short when she came home I told her I know she’s been lying to me and seeing her ex. Told her she needs to get her stuff and leave within 30 days (pretty sure that’s the law here). Told her I didn’t want to talk to her about it, didn’t want an explanation, just wanted her gone. I told her I wouldn’t be mean to her or purposefully make her jealous or anything, I said I just want you to leave without drama.

She cried and cried, didn’t really explain herself. Just apologized over and over and said she didn’t mean to hurt me and it’s not what I think. She said they were just good friends (5 years together) and she couldn’t let his friendship go. She promised they didn’t have sex =]

I half ass know what needs to be done. I obviously need to start lifting again - I let myself gain 25 pounds over the year - and hit the sidebar. Luckily for me at least one of my old plates is happy I’m single, already sending me dirty shit she wants to do to make me happy.

As I said I’m going to hit the sidebar from the top down and get myself together. I’d appreciate any articles, quotes or anything else I can read to help me get over the betrayal and realize it just is what it is and to move on.

Thank you.

TLDR; live in girlfriend talking to ex, going on lunch dates etc. Broke up and kicked her out, need reading material to get over the hump and stay positive.


[–]tenxs 52 points53 points  (44 children)

What a TRP textbook fuck up. Well, I am not going to twist the knife.

Try The Key Logger. Kind of relates to your situation with all that snooping through her Mac. It's a nice and easy read and gives you a realisitc impression of what usually goes on behind your back. Might help you to come to terms with female duplicity and give less fucks about it.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (43 children)

How do I give less of a fuck about it? I left my last girlfriend for sexting which I couldn’t find proof of them meeting but definitely invitations and work hour discussions.

How do I not care I’m being lied to or cheated ?

I found out when I snooped on her Mac. Apologized begged, etc. still left her. She swore they never met, but just sexted.

[–]tenxs 18 points19 points  (3 children)

By understanding it's just a symptom of hypergamy and increadibly common.

And especially because most of the time, it has nothing to do with you. This realization is important as we, men, are ego invested creatures and hate when our boundaries are crossed and our sense of self-worth is attacked.

[–]TLan718 3 points4 points  (2 children)

And especially because most of the time, it has nothing to do with you.

But it does. That's why Hypergamy is such a bitch. What we need to do is not be butt hurt, but use it as an opportunity to grow and not make the same mistakes next time

[–]tenxs 6 points7 points  (1 child)

No. Most of the time, it's just her validation and fee-fee addiction. If you truly believe, that whenever a female doesn't fend off some attention dispensers or emotional tampons immediately, it's because of your lack of value as man... you're going to have a bad time.

[–]throwitdownman 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This...I truly believe that the only way to objectively 100% fail proof guarantee a girl stays loyal is to be with her every minute of every day and watch her like a hawk, and allow her to get all feels from one source (you).

But that’s just unrealistic. Accept that she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.

[–]LordThunderbolt 11 points12 points  (38 children)

"How do I not care I’m being lied to or cheated ?"

By not committing to these hoes. Seriously, after all the shit you guys read here, you still get in relationships? You're all idiots if you ask me

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (29 children)

And if you find a chick you like after vetting her for 6 months ?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And if you find a chick you like after vetting her for 6 months ?

Ask the OP. He tried to use TRP tools to achieve his bluepill goals. How did that go?

[–]amekooky 10 points11 points  (19 children)

AWALT trumps vetting.

you gotta remind yourself everyday that she can and will cheat on you. This is why she should be a recurring character of your show at best, not a part of the main cast.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (18 children)

Got it. And what do you do when you want children and a family vs plating women your whole life as a bachelor ?

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP 8 points9 points  (3 children)

You have to learn game like a motherfucker. Plate a good number of women to gain experience (if you pretend you've got experience after 2 women then you should shoot yourself) there is no set number but you will notice your ability to manage plates improves over time. If you can string a plate along for over 6 months then you can evaluate whether you're ready to take on the challenge of an LTR.

In addition, you'll need to learn more advanced game techniques to ensure you're constantly moulding the correct dom/sub dynamic with a particular attention to leadership. You can consult the sidebar on the asktrp sub for basic guides to game and a good guide to LTRs. Vet vet and vet some more, be extremely picky on attitude. Unfortunately this means you won't get to be so picky on looks. We all want to get with that 9 and you can always plate her, but don't start following your dick and decide your best LTR option just so happens to be the most physically attractive woman. It never turns out like that. This isn't a fairy tale. Just establish a cut off point at 7 or 6 depending on your preference. Then be objectively honest about how well you're able to manage that woman. Remember, n count of above 5 is an automatic no-no... and 5 is being generous. Finally, always remember that she must put huge effort into gaining your commitment. It must be given reluctantly because once you've given it then the game changes. It must be clear your commitment can and will be taken away. You will never give up that card and are more than happy to play it in a number of circumstances.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

5 is unrealistic for an N count. But I’ll agree with your point about being realistic with her looks

[–]Endorsed ContributorNightwingTRP 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It's definitely rare. Not unrealistic. You're intending to put your entire life essentially on the line here by starting an LTR with the intention of moving on to family life. You CANNOT compromise here. It will require going through a huge number of women to find one. (You must also not forget that many women will lie about their N count, so naturally various tactics to make her open up honestly are the way forward. You have no intention of judging her for having a high N count, you just won't be LTRing her and she doesn't need to know the latter.) And you won't find her on tinder or in a bar. So if you haven't already researched other places to meet women and/or daygame then you need to get on that.

[–]Psychocist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've recently met someone who definitely has a very low n-count. Lots of involuntary behaviour giving it away - I did my best to completely ignore her words and watch her actions.

Still... it doesn't mean anything. Whether she's a virgin or not, she will not sexually commit to one guy for the rest of her life, just like I won't sexually commit to one girl for the rest of my life. Seems one of our biggest issues is in accepting this reality from both sides.

Nobody should be accepting monogamous relationships at all - it's gross self-denial.

[–]amekooky 2 points3 points  (10 children)

I would say an extremely high percentage here on TRP, never truly follow the paradigm of what this subreddit tries to instill, specifically to the sidebar.

In short, this is a paradox.

wanting a family and children is perfectly acceptable, however be aware that the risks heavily outweigh the benefits.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (9 children)

And how do people with wives and children last so long? Where they seem happy etc?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Marriage is like the Jesuits; you only really know if you're on the inside.

[–]amekooky 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Thats a good question, by so long do you refer to an old couple which was raised in a different era or do you refer to a couple within this day in age?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (4 children)

My sister and her man have been together 7 years no issues.

My sister was raised not to be a whore and they’re great together.

I’ve seen couples 25-30 happy for years. Is it settling?

[–]Thinkingard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the woman has a low N count.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the outside everything looks great. On the inside, thjngs are very different. Just like your Facebook and your Instagram, people are just keeping with appearances.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 1 point2 points  (2 children)

You can have kids without marriage. People do it all the time.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

These guys cling on to this idea that to "start a family", they HAVE to get married. Since when do you need a ring on her finger to cum inside her?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the “Cypher” problem. A lot of guys want to use red pill tools to achieve their blue pill goals.

[–]LordThunderbolt 1 point2 points  (7 children)

You keep vetting

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (6 children)

Vetting and Dreading.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Until? She leaves ?

[–]empatheticapathetic 2 points3 points  (2 children)

That was the goal right?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sounds pointless

[–]empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you ever see me showing up here: "BWAHAHAHAHA!!! MY GF CHEATED ON MEEEEEEEE!"

No, you don't.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until u reach a point where you can confidently agree with urself that you can pump a few kids in her. And then u keep vetting and dreadin.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 1 point2 points  (6 children)

"How do I not care I’m being lied to or cheated ?"

This is why I have OLTRs and plates. If one bails, I'm not watching 100% of my pussy supply walk out the door.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

OLTR?

[–]Way2Krazy 1 points1 points [recovered]

Open from only your side?

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sike

[–]DiggerClam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's open from both sides, but by that time they're so in love with you that there's a very small chance of them going elsewhere because they know you will drop them like it's hot.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. Otherwise they would just be long-term plates.

[–]Raikkonen716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you still get in relationships? You're all idiots if you ask me

Dude, you're being too extreme here. TRP never meant to discourage people from pursuing LTRs. Being aware of nature of women, knowing how to handle a LTR, knowing that she may always cheat, yes. Refusing to have any type of commitment ever, no.

[–]htbf 19 points20 points  (17 children)

Esther Perel is the BEST to listen to to start the healing process.

She cried but she did leave? Even if they didn't have sex, you bet your ass they did now.

[–]LogicalBrah 1 points1 points [recovered]

She asked me if I wanted her to leave right now (last night) and I told her I wasn’t kicking her out but wanted her gone within a month. This morning as we were leaving for work she asked if I would meet at lunch so she could get all of her stuff and I agreed. She’s going back with him I’m sure.

[–]_the_shape_ 35 points36 points  (2 children)

Let her. She's doing you a favor.

Look at it this way: the longer she sticks around, the greater the odds of some explosive fight or her manipulating you back into her clutches (i.e. drama)

There's plenty of material on this sub and the main one dealing with getting oneself together following a break up, but I'd suggest you do more and read less. Aim to do a little bit more every single day - more reps, another lap around the park, more studying, more meditation etc.

Reading helps, yes, immensely at times even, but try to keep your ratio disproportionately imbalanced in favor of doing things instead of reading about things.

[–]LogicalBrah 1 points1 points [recovered]

Thanks brother

[–]krefnasterploc 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And seriously dude never forget YOU ARE A FREE MAN FROM A DIRTY LYING SKANK PIECE OF SHIT SLUT

Think about it man. You are already winning huge on that alone. Now she will be back to you in a year as a plate cheating on this new retard in her life.

Or not. You can ignore her and when she gets jealous of how ripped you’ve become and how much money you make

[–]LordThunderbolt 17 points18 points  (11 children)

Dude fuck all that nice guy shit. Wow! She was living with you, expense free, and she cheated on you! Kick the whore out. If she has to drink sewage water and eat rats to survive, that's not your fucking problem. You still haven't swallowed the pill. You're housing a lying ans disrespectful cheating whore. Kick the bitch out. Her future is non of your concern.

[–]amekooky 7 points8 points  (3 children)

depends on the law. OP might get into more shit if he just kicks her out.

[–]LordThunderbolt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's not his wife.

[–]_flashpoint 1 points1 points [recovered]

If she’s not on the lease he has no obligation to honor any sort of law.

[–]amekooky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

law varies from state to state, even if tenant isn't on lease they can still fuck you up legally.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This

[–]Shtafoo 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Your heart must be broken, damn dude. Anger phase shouldn't take that long.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Nah son just seen too much and know too much.

[–]Shtafoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, I admit I haven't seen much at 26 take care man.

[–]MuhTriggersGuise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent. You want her out as quick as possible.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (6 children)

Kick her out NOW. Not a month. NOW

[–]SovereignSoul76 12 points13 points  (3 children)

If she's slacking, put all her stuff in the garage/POD/sidewalk/whatever, and change the locks.

You're exposing yourself to untold liabilities by letting her hang around.

[–]MuhTriggersGuise 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doing what you suggest exposes him to liability too. Having lived there, it's legally her residence, and if he doesn't go through the proper procedure he's opening himself up to it too. Whether one liability outweighs the other is up to debate.

[–]1ideal_lemon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Exactly she'll do anything to get you back / get power over you / boost her ago. What good is there allowing her to stay with you?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What good is there allowing her to stay with you?

Not getting fucked over by a tenant/landlord tribunal? In these cases, she just has to call a social worker and they take over from there, rather than through a lawyer (OP would be the one who would have to hire a lawyer). It would cost her next to nothing to make his life hell.

[–]SuperCrazy07 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The laws vary from place to place. It sounds like where he lives he HAS to give her 30 days notice.

It's not like he's trying to be nice to her.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't do that in most places. Your spouse is also considered a tennant, and as a result, they are entitled to 30 days of notice. Violating that in certain areas can result in them being able to successfully sue you.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (2 children)

I don't think you need to read anything.

"Don't turn a hoe into a housewife." - 2pac

If anything, just listen to rap songs from the 1990s and do what they tell you to do.

[–]MuhTriggersGuise 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Just capped a piggie cop in the ass. Now what?

[–]FUCK_YEA_GLITTER 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ride in yo low rida reeeeal slow

[–]PBRistasty 23 points24 points  (6 children)

You dont need to read, go to the gym and lift.

Then lift some more.

Then go put that plate to work.

[–]krefnasterploc 3 points4 points  (5 children)

‘Any man who is actively trying to be an Alpha will never be an Alpha’

-Nassim Nicolas Taleb

Go conquer the world son

[–]11-Eleven-11 0 points1 point  (4 children)

What's your point? People shouldn't try to better themselves?

[–]_PM_ME_YOUR_GOALS_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I believe this quote has more to do with comparing yourself to people further along than you in masculinity, weightlifting, dating, people skills, and anything else to do with the ideal "Chad" archetype.

When you get out of a relationship your first instinct once you get out of the dumps might be to make yourself more "alpha."

This isn't to say that setting goals or even choosing a mentor is a bad thing, it's the thinking "I'm not good enough" "I'm not alpha enough" or "I'll never be Chad" that this quote is criticizing.

Conversely, "I'm finally Chad," "I'm alpha as fuck," and similar lines of thought can be toxic to your psyche.

An 'alpha male' is a situational, subjective construct that differs from person to person. Your personality in the eyes of somebody else depends entirely on what experiences they have had with you. There will always be someone more alpha than you, and even if that wasn't the case, people's personal experiences with you would be too limited and distorted for them to know.

[–]sumethreuaweiei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yo you have me really fucked up. I do this so much and shut myself down because I'm not Alpha. Hell, I even made a post about it earlier this week if you wanna check it out

[–]krefnasterploc 0 points1 point  (1 child)

No. Better yourself until your life is consumed by improving

Eventually you will reach a state like the head lion of his pride. Does he look like he’s worried about being alpha sitting under his banyan tree relaxing? That’s he true spirit of that quote

[–]11-Eleven-11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Someone that has to say they are an alpha probably isn't an alpha meanwhile a true alpha never has to say he is an alpha? He just is.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Here's some videos that MIGHT help https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0MzQZ_eFEY&list=PLAYxecbGotUxSZhQ-Gte_UAMs1RQAckSv

I find a lot of people on TRP get Stoicism wrong, and if you're re-reading the sidebar it's a good addition. Acceptance of events and moving forward I believe is key in any sort of emotional heartbreak. All the luck to you

[–]Jebof 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Holly fuck dude! THANKS a lot for that video, schools should be teaching about stoicism and philosophy in schools! i really really enjoyed those videos!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Schools should be teaching all kinds of shit. In high school we learn a bunch of chemistry and math shit no one will ever use, but not personal finance or personal development. Pretty stupid :/

[–]demilitarizdsm 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I would try something that gets you considering travel/less nesting like Hemingway or Bukowski.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bukowskis a brilliant shout - a man who never minced his words

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The best thing to read to get over a breakup is a text message from another girl asking when you can fuck again like last time.

[–]1UnluckyPenguin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are smarter than someone my old ex was dating.

We'd meet up because she wanted to marry me, but I had very little interest in her because of her high n-count and she was crazy.

She desperately wanted to see me, so I stopped by for a few minutes. She started making out with me while she was wearing his jacket. I felt really bad for the guy and told him a few snippets about the baggage and the cheating, but the poor guy thought I was lying 100%, and you can be sure that girl was spewing lies to his face to cover her ass.

Your suffering is over. The best way to get over an ex is to get closer to your guy friends. Go camping/backpacking or motorcycle/ATV riding, or whatever you want to do.

[–]fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Both late twenties, lived together almost a year. I pay all expenses, she moved into my apartment (I know).

Um, duh!

Last month sex, affection, deep conversation dropped off a cliff. Went from awesome sex every day to starfish or blowjob when I asked. She would never say no so I just thought it was a funk, but it raised my alert.

Deep conversation aside, sex and affection dropping is a sure sign of something.

She brought in some mail after work last week and in it was mail from her old address, the one with her ex. I asked about it and she had a wonderful excuse, so I dropped it.

Wow. Bitch much?

It’s been eating me alive on the inside so I checked her Mac laptop yesterday and could see two weeks of conversation. She must have deleted the previous convo because what I could see was mid conversation, they’ve been talking for much longer.

I'd recommend a keylogger, but the free ones that used to run in Unix on the Mac don't seem to work anymore.

In those two weeks of conversations she’s sending him recipes, asking about a job he applied for, telling him shit me and her talked about like her applying for new jobs and losing some weight. The last thing she sent was “lunch today at noon?” With him saying “yep”.

Anything they do together is a DATE. Anything. Don't lie to yourself or believe her lies that it's anything else. Euphemisms don't change shit. Oh, and by lunch, she means his cum.

She cried and cried, didn’t really explain herself. Just apologized over and over and said she didn’t mean to hurt me and it’s not what I think. She said they were just good friends (5 years together) and she couldn’t let his friendship go. She promised they didn’t have sex =]

Riiiiight. Now you know you've been tasting cum in her kisses... the residuals she didn't swallow.

I half ass know what needs to be done. I obviously need to start lifting again - I let myself gain 25 pounds over the year - and hit the sidebar. Luckily for me at least one of my old plates is happy I’m single, already sending me dirty shit she wants to do to make me happy.

Fuck the plate. Literally. Forget the girlfriend. Completely. Your girlfriend will try getting you back after realizing that doing ass-to-mouth with her ex didn't work. Well, at least you both got to taste that shit. Literally.

Yeah. I'm being an asshole in my response because you need to keep reminding yourself of the harsh truth. They fucked. It was dirty. She swallowed more cum from him in the amount of time they've been cheating that she has probably ever done for you, even at the "best" of times. Don't respond to anything the cheating slut has to say going forward.

[–]1redhawkes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You already know what to do, now get busy and work towards your mission.

Don't ever do the mistake of cohabitation with LTR, spin plates and send her ass packing asap.

It's a textbook branch swinging, here's a quote to remember :

The pussy is never yours, it's just your turn.

and yea, block, delete on everything.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same situation as me buddy. I left her over a month ago. It’s hard. Focus on you and keep spinning plates I guess..

[–]life2thefullest 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I feel like some books that I'd be recommending myself if I was in your situation would be the Rational Male series, and 30 challenges in 30 days by Andrian Iliopoulos. This book is the best reset in order to get your life on a better track. The Rational Male series just lays out truths that will give you reassurance being single isn't the worst thing that can happen, and a solid blue print on how to guide yourself through the minefield of dating.

[–]SuperCrazy07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

being single isn't the worst thing that can happen

I read an article once (nothing to do with TRP) about how society makes single people feel worried about being single.

Then he pointed out, most married people are unhappy. If you're married and unhappy you have to first get divorced and second find a new girl you like. If you're single, all you have to do is find a girl you like.

So, in many cases, you're ahead of the game if you're single.

[–]brinkleybuzz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You knew better. You're like the guy who captures a wild coyote, tries to domesticate it, gets his ass mauled and now wonders what pet books he needs to read to feel better.

Whatever book can help you to use some common sense ... that's what you need to read.

[–]Scheme00 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to read this and see how you handled the situation like a man. Well done sir!

[–]beermagnate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't read, you fucking go out and slay.

[–]1ideal_lemon 2 points3 points  (4 children)

What kind of law forces you to allow her to sit with you in the same house for 30 days? You're not even married or share the rent?

[–]LogicalBrah 1 points1 points [recovered]

I could be wrong but I’m almost positive in the state I live in, someone becomes a tenant when they sleep over for more than 90 days. Even if they aren’t on the lease, it is required to give them a 30 day printed and signed eviction notice.

[–]1ideal_lemon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Well, you said on another comment she offered to leave, just allow her to do it before she does some crazy shit to fuck up your life in order to get revenge from you.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost positive? It sounds like you enjoy the lingering fog of disrespect she brings while she lives with you. Say it, you lowkey got excited when u realized she cheated. Check the fucking law so that you know without a doubt for sure that you dont have to give her 30 days.

Youre here askig for shit to read to get over the girl, yet youre not even putting in effort to get her out of your house. She has friends, family, her ex boyfriend let her figure her own shut out. Kick her out so you can start moving on.

Bet shes gonna stick around. In your BP weakness youll forgive her, have sex with her then take her back. Where is your spine?

[–]amekooky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no fucking half measures.

[–]Andgelyo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read? Try praying at the iron temple to get tangible results. Profit and bang hotter girls.

[–]revosfts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try reading the tramp stamp on the back of some tenderoni while crushing. Should sort you out nicely.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take her back and guve her another chance bro. TRP doesn't apply to your special case and your special gf

[–]amekooky 0 points1 point  (1 child)

In some states even if tenant isn’t on the contract, if they are on a utility bill or something they still have rights to live at that location .. I’m not a lawyer but I do own multiple properties and rent out

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo could you make a post on how you got started with owning property and renting out? Post it on the main sub and please tag me. Im always looking for information from real people on this. Thanks.

[–]Toyobruh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tinder profiles 🤙

[–]1DonaldBaelish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

808s and Heartbreak.

Kanye West.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would read the tattoo on that girls back who winked at you. Usually good for something to do.

[–]Carbone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A guide to the good life : the ancient art of stoic joy. William B. Irvine

[–]oldslut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't give a shit if my plates or chicks meet up or talk to exes... as long as i they tell me. if i caught them on the sly, that would be a different story. but i'm ok with it otherwise. that way, i know when it's time to meet up with an old fwb for a drink or two

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless they broke up because said ex came out of the closet as a gay man or something, or they broke up because both came to the realization that there just wasn't that sexual spark needed (which would have happened almost immediately and predate you entirely(, then they have absolutely zero reason to maintain a friendship after such a dramatic split that there would be baggage. I was with my ex for over a decade. The minute that shit ended, it ended. There is no "friendly friendship for old time's sake", none of that shit. Over is over.

Sex dropping off a cliff indicates that she still maintains feelings for him, and her attention is divided and being focused on to this other guy. Even if she did not physically cheat, devoting emotional resources in any way that can impact the current relationship, is a no-no.

With that said rather than self-help stuff, here's a couple films that get me pumped.

Брат

Брат 2

Takes place in 90s Russia, Danila is a Chechen war veteran who moves to St Petersburg to help his brother who is in the mob/works as a hitman. In the sequel he moves on to the US to take revenge for the killing of his best friend, and help his best friend's little brother out of getting screwed by a shitty NHL contract.

Бумер

A few guys steal a car and drive it across Russia, getting in trouble and witnessing the bullshit of corruption along the way.

Кочегар

A major who was an Afghanistan war veteran is a bit strange from PTSD, spends the rest of his days typing out a book while working as a flame stoker. He helps his former comrades who became mobsters dispose of bodies in the fires he tends to in the factory/building.

[–]b757pilot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be happy you did not put a baby in her or marry her.

[–]that_italia_guy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sidebar

[–]mabden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The System by Doc Love

Not Just Friends by Dr Shirley Glass

Watch/Listen to the late great Sam Kinison

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJDkhTiFWHU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwNW8lqe1tk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSw2MfEGK7I

[–]Forgot_Pword -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Welcome.

[–]Cool_Mob 1 points1 points [recovered]

No Ltr should have any male friends,ex or anyone.

Also,no female friends.

This is the perfect time to go hard on yourself. Get into discipline.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Ltr shouldn’t have ANY friends, male or female? Wtf did I just read?

[–]Cool_Mob 1 points1 points [recovered]

It seems redpill has been diluted in this sub. Yes,Ltr female shouldn't have male friends and male shouldn't have female.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

No, your phrasing was just shitty and you made it seem like the ltr shouldn’t have male or female friends.

Also, I addressed the no female friends thing below. If I enjoy their company and they help me get laid, I’m not gonna drop my female friends.

[–]Cool_Mob 1 points1 points [recovered]

Hahahaha.

Here,try to learn something from this

https://twitter.com/kingcobratate/status/936173871815946242?s=17

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He forgot to account for the fact that not every woman is attractive. My female friends are unattractive which means there is no sexual tension or interest on my behalf.

And I don’t mean “friend” in the sense that I hang out 1on1 with them. I would never hang out 1on1 with a girl I wasn’t trying to fuck.

[–]vonbehren 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yea I don’t know what the hell he meant by no female friends. Unless you want some degenerate girl, having friends is fucking human.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only thing that might make sense is if he meant that the LTR should have no male friends and OP should have no female friends. Which I don’t agree with either.

I have female friends and I’ve gotten laid plenty of times with mutual friends I met through my female friends