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Red Pill ExampleIf your SMV is low, EG: you're fat, poor, unpopular or whatever then forget women/socialising/doing pointless shit for a good year 6 months to a year - just be utterly selfish forget everyone else and go do your own thing. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan

If your SMV is low, go your own way for a bit. You get horny and need a release? Jack off to porn to get your release. Chasing poon with low SMV is just a disaster waiting to happen and it sets you back, a lot. I'm all for guys "overcoming approach anxiety" and getting good at game, but I wouldn't recommend anyone practices game until they're on a solid footing in life. Game is a "a less immediate need" than making sure your mental health is good and that you're in control of your finances and have some general life direction. Without a strong sense of self as a foundation at the bottom, it's a fools errand to pursue higher levels of need like sexual satisfaction, self-satisfaction should always take priority over sexual satisfaction.

Practicing game when you're dirt poor, suffering from low self-esteem/depression/lack of confidence, don't have enough food in the fridge or whatever is retarded, you're placing a "less immediate need" higher in priority than the shit that matters. You need a good foundation to build a strong empire, if you're focusing on getting laid and getting good with women before you have any sort of stability in your life, you're lacking disposable income, your mind isn't thinking healthy/productive/positive etc then you really need to take time out to fix yourself before you start trying to go and get other people to like you. You'll find it hard to make friends, let alone get laid, if your life is a fucking state because you're a fucking state.

Make money, learn some shit, go to the gym. Too scared to go the gym because it's full of guys twenty times your size? Try to get over it. Can't get over it? Get a weight set and work out at home, use a fitness program from the internet, once you have acquired some fitness and seen some gains and got a bit of confidence you won't be so bothered about entering an actual gym. Small steps. Everyones at different stages, some low value guys have crippling social anxiety as a result of their lack of value, other guys don't find doing normal things like going out and talking to people or entering a gym and working out there a big deal, whatever, this advice is here for those who need it, it'd be pretty obnoxious to disregard common issues low value men have "because it's beta" remember most people in this sub start beta, some even omega, everyone's on a quest to become more alpha/masculine. Don't forget your roots if you're not a natural, don't scoff at the new guy if he's trying, respect that. Not just on the sub, but in real life too.

Often self-improvement means other shit has to go on hold. If you're a fat guy or an omega WoW player who aimlessly jacks off all over the hotkeys and has no direction in life, you stumbled on TRP and you message me asking me for advice on "how to incorporate TRP into your life" I would say forget bitches for about 6 months to a year and go work on yourself. You have to like yourself so other people can like you. Make sure you're in a job that doesn't have you working with people that make you want to cut your own wrists on a daily, better to lower your income and work with people you enjoy working with, rather than earn more but be stuck with thunder cunts who make you contemplate the merits of self-harming. If you have no source of income, get one. You need one. Money = freedom. More money equals more freedom.

Have direction, have projects. Focus on things. Lack of focus = failure. Myself included, I've known many people full of talent who lack the proclivity to apply themselves. You can be a brain box but if you don't feel motivated or see a point in anything then you'll just fulfill your immediate needs and end up a failure rather than build yourself into a success. Fear is relevant, fear of the unknown. Something 50 Cent says is "Those who are afraid of change stop themselves from becoming great" it's true. Potential can be wasted. Don't waste your life away. The younger you are the better, but fuck even if you're 40 - better to turn around now than turn around at 50. Once you hit 50 you only would have said "shit I've known this since 40, I should have done something then" and then compounded your own sense of frustration even further. Control the time you have left and make it valuable.

Remember, nobody gives a fuck about you except your parents (assuming your parents aren't cunts too or you're not so old that they've gone and died.) Most of your friends are more associates than they are friends, they won't give much of a fuck about you they're so busy doing their own shit the only time they think about you is when they want you for something that benefits them - need company to go drinking or some crap like that.

You're practically invisible to girls if you have low SMV so don't even bother. Don't resent them, you don't like low smv girls yourself, just become better to become noticeable. You don't even like yourself. Go give yourself a reason to like yourself. Try to do at least TWO THINGS everyday that make you a better person. Jog, read an interesting book, earn some money. Learn to be funny, surround yourself with funny people. I make it a habit to talk to people with wit/sense of humour, I watch a lot of stand up comedy. Comedy is important to me, comedy is medicine. Comedy can stop a man in pain turning insane, watch that shit. Not taking serious things seriously is a great coping mechanism for dealing with the bullshit life throws at you. Keep your mind healthy by working on yourself, use comedy as a painkiller to assist in that if you need to.

I believe a lot of guys who are really bottom of the barrel whether they're flat out undesirable or just ridiculously poor (and thus need to get money on lockdown) need to take a serious hiatus from the sexual/social game and just focus on improving their situation, their money, their inner game/sense of self. It's like sports, sometimes a player has gotta go on the bench when he's too worn out or injured. Get on the bench and fix yourself and then you can fight to live another day.

Keep at it, you can make it.


[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad 132 points133 points  (53 children)

Rock solid advice. It's a marathon, and you'll be amazed how far you'll get by perseverance alone. Talent is mostly a myth. I see so many young people with advantages they squander away by relaxing into their advantage. With attractive girls certainly among the worst offenders.

My sons were so relieved to know how the shitty grind they face in their 20's pays off handsomely in their 30's. And all those rude bitches they meet will eventually get the harsh reality they deserve.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad 76 points77 points  (25 children)

Here's something I worked on that might help broaden perspective...

Spectator Mode: Waiting around for something to happen. This passive (feminine) approach kills the potential for seduction.

Chode Mode: Wasting time on distractions. Not achieving or learning anything. Acting like a self-centered, self-indulged child resisting the transition to adulthood.

Fantasy Mode: Where you lose yourself in an alternate reality - such as online games, porn and watching sports. With these forms of escapism, you feel successful, powerful and respected. They trick your brain with the illusion of success. You feel a sense of accomplishment, but, in reality, your real life is neglected.

Champion Mode: is intense and driven. It's stepping up to take charge of yourself and the situation. Ambition and self-discipline are the essence of what it means to be a man.

Beast Mode: Very physical approach with a more primal, masculine style. You act on primitive instincts instead of being stuck on the sidelines. This beast mode is effective in competitive sports as well as pickup. You want to clear your head of thoughts and attack forward without any doubts or inhibitions.

Pimp Mode: A variation of champion mode where all your drive is directed towards seduction. Pimp mode can help develop your swagger, but if you go overboard like some guys do, the game can completely take over your life.

Sustaining pimp mode can leave you off balanced, unsatisfied and less attractive as you neglect the champion mode aspects of your life... You don't want to be another shallow, damaged soul with hollow eyes who has dedicated his life to pickup and has amounted to nothing beyond that.

There are plenty of other mode variations to consider such as social mode versus professional mode. The point is to become intentional and more versatile. Most guys are flat out dull with no concept of mode variation.

EDIT: Be careful of "Critical Mode" where you sit back and poke holes in things. You want to build and strengthen, not come up with easy excuses as to why it's not worth the effort. You have to be willing to embrace ideas that serve you, even if they aren't perfect. It's a girly move to criticize, focus on exceptions and do nothing.

[–]peepshowfan 24 points25 points  (8 children)

I've been in chode mode for a solid two years now. Well, time to change.

[–]Shire_Leaf 26 points27 points  (7 children)

I've been in spectator/fantasy mode for several years, found TRP and How to become a man and it opened my eyes. This last week I said FUCK THIS LAZINESS and bitch slapped myself, got a decent paying job and some new clothes(for work), Started Nofap(had a serious porn addiction), restarted keto and working out, and cut alcohol and weed down too. Time to keep this shit going and fix myself. I am going 90days hardcore Fix myself mode to become a MAN. After that It will be time to evaluate where I am and see about outer game and put what I have learned into action.

[–]VelociReactor 2 points3 points  (5 children)

Nofap is a great exercise in self control. I'm on day 180 myself atm.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

I can't believe the lust i feel on a daily basis since I stopped jerking off. Talk about fucking motivation.

[–]daftpunkfunk 24 points25 points  (6 children)

Fantasy Mode: Where you lose yourself in an alternate reality - such as online games, porn and watching sports. With these forms of escapism, you feel successful, powerful and respected. They trick your brain with the illusion of success. You feel a sense of accomplishment, but, in reality, your real life is neglected.

Goddamn League of Legends

[–]morsX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still play Counter-Strike Global Offensive competively. I set aside about 12 hours a week to play with my team and view the time spent no differently than if I was engaged in a more physical sport. I work as a software engineer now and have been weight lifting seriously for 3 months now. I am in better mental and physical shape than I have ever been previously in my life.

Life is all a game of balancing your time.

[–]lillojohn 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I was there too.

[–]ButtonJoe 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I honestly don't think games are always a bad thing as long as you're not putting off other things that need to be done.

If you're sitting around all day playing wow or some shit, then you're wasting your time and fooling yourself into thinking you're anything but a lazy prick.

But if you're home after a days work, already worked out and done what you need to do, fuck it, have fun.

[–]Complecs 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This. Some people go overboard with their 'kicking the habit' mindset and drop the shit all together. For me at least, when I tried that I thought I had more self control because of it, but it didn't take long for me to realize it showed almost as little as playing all day(if it truly is a passion in your life). For me games are an outlet, and that 'cheers' like atmosphere that I can log into every night after a long day of work to catch up with friends, and do something fun while im at it. I now keep it under control now, versus the 3 years I spent 70+ hours a week playing games, I now keep it to less than 8 during the work week, and however much I want on the weekends, as long as I get my shit done. This was before I found TRP, and now instead of playing games all weekend I've found myself going out and finding other ways to enjoy life, but I've never excluded video games.

[–]stupid_fucking_name 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's true, but like any habit, some people just can't handle moderation and have to kick it altogether.

[–]t21spectre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Studies have been done on this. The brain makes no distinction in it's reward center between accomplishments in real life and in simulated worlds (video games, social networking likes/upvotes etc.) Like "achievements" on xbox, a cheap gimmick to keep people playing.

[–]InferiousX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pimp mode can help develop your swagger, but if you go overboard like some guys do, the game can completely take over your life.

I posted this a little while ago in regards to pursing women as part of the break up recovery.

A good gauge I think, is imagine talking about yourself and what you've been up too without mentioning any hookups or women. If you are coming up blank, you're spending too much time on pussy and not investing enough in yourself in other constructive ways.

[–]DreadMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have some friends that have gone into "fantasy mode" and not come out they are addicted to Wow. I used to play when I was younger, until I figured out it is really just a shitty version of real existence.

[–]ohsweetword 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think OP's point is if you're in the first 3 modes you can't just jump up into a new mode.

You have to take time off to better yourself before the pieces fall in place. Learning self-discipline is the first step.

[–]checkered_floor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was in Spectator mode for years... spent all last year to work on myself. About to join the military after shedding 50lbs got a beautiful girlfriend in the process, by this i guess im in Champion mode.

Love yourself first and everything falls into line.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been in spectator/chode/fantasy mode forever. slowly climbing out of that. awesome post.

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