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How many people here ACTUALLY cold approach? (self.asktrp)

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Why didn’t you cold approach before and did you think girls thought you were ugly before but you started approaching and you realized damn I’m actually getting IOIs

[–]mlgpc 81 points82 points  (17 children)

I've been doing daygame for about 3 months now. I try to approach 3 or 4 girls everyday to maintain the habit of cold approach.

I didn't cold approach before because I was scared of getting rejected. It all changed when I saw a really beautiful girl walking past, but I didn't approach and I was full of regret after. I still remember that moment and it made me realize that the statement "Rejection is better than Regret" is so true!

As far as IOI, don't wait for them. Approach and escalate.

[–]boredathome19 1 points1 points [recovered]

So how is that working out for you? What do you say to them, what are your results?

[–]Youcheekylilmonkey 35 points36 points  (8 children)

Not OP but I’ve just started myself so results are pretty poor (it has a notorious steep learning curve), be prepared to get shat on for 6 months.

However, my wing is a dad bod ginger haired receding guy who’s been doing it on and off for 6 years. Naturally he’d be a 3-4 but he does have great fashion and comes across clean and confident. He regularly gets 1-2 dates a week from it from solid 6-7’s.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (7 children)

is his name rsdtyler

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

That beard he grew out was fucking incredibly large and it did look like he stopped working out like.. at all.

Last video I saw he was hiking in Hawaii waiting on his model level girlfriend to finish a shoot under a waterfall. Owen is such a fucking animal at this point I don't think he ever has to work again.

[–]saladon 1 points1 points [recovered]

People call him a scamming cultist for it, but I actually love his recent TRP-ish videos that deal with bpd girls, meditation, and law of attraction.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, they call him that for charging the prices he does... If you ever find a copy of 'the blueprint' it's rpretty helpful. I listened to it about 9 times when I got divorced and stopped doing a ton of shit that made me fat and weak.

[–]mmishu 0 points1 point  (1 child)

where can i see this and learn more about him and his girlfriend and his game?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[–]RedHoodhandles 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Huh? I always thought he was gay.

[–]Aarxnw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes charisma can come off as camp

[–]mlgpc 2 points3 points  (5 children)

It's working well. I'm still a beginner but I am learning with experience.

I usually say "Hey, I know this is forward but I saw you from over there and I though you were cute and wanted to say hi".

Aside from losing my virginity and having 3 plates currently, the best thing is that you develop a IDGAF attitude from all of the rejections from girls. I've been rejected hundreds of times and it made me realize that other people's opinion of you is irrelavant and it also develops confidence.

[–]ZephyrBluu 1 point2 points  (1 child)

How old are you?

[–]mlgpc 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]LiftMeditateApproach 0 points1 point  (2 children)

It's working well.

I've been rejected hundreds of times...


[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many plates?

[–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (1 child)

Don't think of it as cold approaching. Think of it as talking to new and exciting people. Two of the downsides of living in bumfuck southern united states are as follows: this will get you a reputation, and people are boring. These and my success in classes and on tinder (2 plates and counting) have made me put more sexual cold approaches on hold and focused on being funny and building my social network in person.

[–]Flpgneves 31 points32 points  (5 children)

One of the most incredible things I realized when I started was how many girls are fine with it and give you a good response. Not all, cause that's impossible, some won't even look at you, but more than most guys think.

And, obviously, there more you improve the more IOIs you get.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

How long should s conversation be to get the number and escalate into a date? Do you tell her you wanna go on the date the first time you cold approach her?

[–]Flpgneves 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on the situation, it's random. A guy with great game is the one that can calibrate in any situation.

But overall, in daygame, the interaction can't be long, 5-10 min. When she starts giving you IOI more frequently, you either move her to instadate (preferable) or get the number.

[–]_Neon_Shadow_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah, this was my first realization as well. I'm pretty autistic, but I can read body language incredibly well. I went in expecting it to be a trainwreck, and for her to be repulsed and uncomfortable. Complete opposite experience. It shocked me.

The girl was legitimately flattered. Smiling, stroking her hair, bubbly. She came closer to me as we talked. Regrettably, she had a boyfriend. But the way her face lit up, made it worth it. It gave me a bit of confidence and hope.

Approaching definitely isn't as bad as I imagined. If I had game, I'm sure I could get a few numbers, but oh well. You win some, you lose some.

[–]Flpgneves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's because there is an aspect to just approaching that shows courage, confidence, aka, alpha traits. But it's random, sometimes it happens, sometimes it does not. Depends on the girl, how she's feeling at that moment...

[–]BrutalMan420 51 points52 points  (3 children)

bro work on putting your hand up in class first.

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (2 children)

Ok I’ll raise my hands tomorrow

[–]n3ilz0 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fucking love your name

[–]Andgelyo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lmaooooo yoooo

[–]lostbuthopefull 18 points19 points  (9 children)

1-2 a week. Don't wanna be the weirdo on campus, and after a couple you should be able to set up at least one date

[–]D4rkr4in 6 points7 points  (8 children)

first month of school is such an easy time to cold approach, I cold approached so many chicks that month, now it's a little harder but you can always sit next to someone new in lecture and talk them up

[–]Li0nhearted 3 points4 points  (7 children)

What do u talk about with them? What do u say to them?

[–]ultrasuperthrowaway 7 points8 points  (6 children)

Literally any topic that's fun and exciting

[–]D4rkr4in 6 points7 points  (2 children)

oh, being the lamo I am I would ask them topical stuff like "what major are you? what year are you? why are you taking this class?" obviously not like all at once but just conversational points, and then after I would ask to exchange info (remember, don't ask for their number, learned that from RSD Max haha) and I would get their number

the issue is that I've fell out of contact with a lot of the numbers I got, will remember to do that next semester to put in dates or something

I'm trying for cuffing season, talking to a few chicks at once, maybe can get some plates

[–]ultrasuperthrowaway 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I Never ask about majors, I'm not their fucking guidance counselor. I literally ask them what cheese they like on their omelettes. Then make them one after sex, using that cheese they picked.

[–]D4rkr4in 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do you have a list of questions like that?

[–]Li0nhearted 1 point2 points  (2 children)

like what? explain it like I'm a social retard

[–]ultrasuperthrowaway 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It won’t be fun and exciting if I have to tell you what to say or you read from a script. What topics are fun and exciting to you? I like beer and cheese, what do you like? If you think you don’t like anything then you’re wrong and just not thinking critically.

[–]Li0nhearted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not that, it's just I've generally found girls don't find the topics fun that I do. It's also a cultural difference too imo.

[–]Auxfite 39 points40 points  (23 children)

3-8 girls a day for past 4 months. I didn’t before because I didn’t lift which leads to lack of testosterone which leads to lack of confidence.

I don’t even fear rejection anymore because other than the test boost you realize it’s how your perception of the world is. Women love getting attention and love when guys approach them but when you’re still stuck on the blue pill you don’t realize that and still stuck in fear (women love men who are confident) so if she rejects you she will still have respect for you because a lot of men don’t do that especially if she’s hot. Also out of all the girls I approach majority of them are married, Have bfs, a ex boyfriend they’re stuck on etc. it sucks i live in a city with over a million people and there’s way more men than women but some days you’ll hit the jackpot or only get the low value hoe that’s getting her pussy railed by mulplite men because she’s everybody’s girl. (Low value men get a ego boost from everybody’s girl aka tinder hoes)

I remember yesterday I was grocery shopping at Walmart. First girl I see is overweight but got a nice ass so I approach. She doesn’t even pay attention at all to me but I didn’t let it break my frame I kept it moving. I can tell she was uncomfortable for the next 20 mins every time I saw her but that’s her frame being broke. She probably has a nigga that has her on lock. Or she’s on tinder getting 800 matches so she feels she’s high value but in reality she’s an overweight slob that will most likely die young from heart diease or heart attack. Life goes on hope this helps.

[–]rewoomantle 3 points4 points  (19 children)

What are your openers that work the most?

[–]Auxfite 18 points19 points  (6 children)

Hey what’s your name?

Nice “whatever she has on that’s cool” you got there where did you get it at?

What’s your nationality?

Are you single?

Hey you got Snapchat?

Lots of shit just depends on the girl. If you’re conscious it helps because some girls you can tell what type they are so it can be different. A lot of people say don’t push for some of the stuff I say but truthfully when you talk to as many girls as me the long fake convos just get boring and dull.. I rather be straight forward and get to the point. Saves the both of us time.

[–]rewoomantle 5 points6 points  (3 children)

I usually go for the whats your name, regular situational starters to get her number. especially when meeting while Im at work (court) (yeah I know dont shit where you work but I dont work "with" them as in I work for a different firm + Im at courts for 12 hours sometimes and there are a lot of hot chicks there). Sometimes through I have eye contact but freeze completely and look away and think the battle is lost, despite knowing the 3 second rule Im not able to pull it. How do you identify which type of girl they are?

edit: For numbers, Im able to open only 10-15% of the girls I run into. Not sure how to improve this.

[–]Auxfite 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Work is a disaster for meeting women especially if they’re your co workers or a customer you see a lot. Especially girls going to court. When I was in and out of the court system I was dealing with bad karma. I know this will get downvoted but don’t mess with women going to court. They have a lot of problems. And of course never hit on co workers

[–]rewoomantle 1 points1 points [recovered]

Thanks, No they are defo not my co workers. They are all from other firms. And defo not litigants either who are crazy for sure (woman litigant = trouble). Where I work too many gals (lawyers or paralegals) spend hours in courts taking down notes and stuff so it a big pond.

Otherwise my pool is significantly reduced, because at my level I got to put in the hours now and usually get only Sunday off which Im too fucking exhausted to do a thing.

The 10-15% I do open I try to vibe to see if there are IOI. Quite a few occasions I have eye contact but fail to open because I look away first and consider it lost. How do I get better at this?

[–]nhlfod21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stop that pussy mindset of declaring something “lost” without any evidence that this is true. Oh, you looked away... the horror!

If you look away first you can easily recover by maintaining frame. Count to 5, tell yourself you got this, and then look again and give an exaggerated wink or SMILE this time. If she smiles back then walk over there and talk. You are giving up too soon.

[–]bluechipmonk 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Nationality? Are you in a big city?

[–]Auxfite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes over a million people. There’s not one dominate race here. Indians, Asians, blacks, Hispanics, Africans, etc .. hardly any white people Nor Cal

[–]n0swad 1 points1 points [recovered]

I've always liked "Excuse me, I know this is a bit awkward because you're (trying to pick out apples, shopping for x, etc, whatever she's doing) but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi."

I find that acknowledging the awkwardness/weirdness (even if it's not) of the situation defuses any wall that a girl might have up.

[–]lookoutitscaleb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the opener, but I don't really like to validate my approach based on her looks. There's plenty of attractive women in the world. I usually try my best to compliment something specific about them that I like "smile, outfit, shoes, etc..."

Something I know she thought about so it makes her feel good that someone noticed X rather than " I like what your momma gave you gurl. "

[–]joner888 1 point2 points  (1 child)

What if the girl is working in the shop picking up goods on the shelves ?

[–]dream-hunter 1 points1 points [recovered]

what the fuck lol thats the WRONG way of showing intent. op pls don't take that line into consideration. you want to show interest in non-verbal ways aka body language, strong eye contact, etc. if you want to show interest verbally do it in a way that's not obvious aka "whats your phone number" -- shows intent but not the bp way

[–]n0swad 1 points1 points [recovered]

In my opinion walking up and opening with "what's your phone number" makes you look like an autist, considering you're skipping a handful of basic social norms.

I'd much rather approach with strong body language and eye contact, say hi, build brief rapport, and then get her number.

Whatever works though, I'm always looking to improve, but unless you're in the top 2% of guys or higher I'm thinking most girls would be like "wtf" if you don't even make basic conversation.

[–]dream-hunter 1 points1 points [recovered]

Didn't mean "what's your phone number" as an opener. You already walking up to her and asking what's her name already shows you're interested, no need to put her in an awkward position by saying she's cute because then you'll most likely get friendzoned or the I have a bf talk, unless you're 9/10.

[–]gulag_disco 1 point2 points  (2 children)

If you go on the Todd v Dating YouTube channel, he echoes this but also admits that it’s fine for beginner-level opening.

There is nothing wrong with showing interest, because if the girl has quickly assessed that she wants your attention, she’ll feed you feed you opportunities for stringing the conversation along.

Also, compliments should only be given if you mean them and have confidence in what you say. If your looks and/or demeanor are attractive, and you show that you stand by what you say, compliments can be very powerful. You’re taking a tenet like “don’t be a supplicating beta” to a stingy, self-centered extreme.

[–]IanFleming92 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m usually pretty direct, “do you have any plans this weekend?”

[–]markinsinz7 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Hey OP read this guy's comment right here closely especially the part about the Walmart girl. To an extent my gut tells me that this commenter is 'more goodlooking enough' than the Walmart chick so what gives?


Good old days of walking up to a women on the street and not having her flake later are mostly done. Unless like in eastern Europe or other places where apps like these are not popular.- this is usually where u see those PUA approaches showing infield videos success usually cause they have everything going for them especially the whole 'American' act - many hot easterns are desperate to green card shitt. And not to forget we don't know how many flake on that PUArtist but I digress.

Tinder changed everything. Chad's have big egos think loud douchebag -. Don't get me wrong they r fun n chill but they prefer the game of 'it just happens' whereby they hook up at parties n shitt or at bar using IOIs . Point being they were not confident enuf NOR needed it enuf to to go up n talk a chick

Now they get matched and from there it's basics. ..

SMV has become more n more important since smooth talking via cold approach is becoming less n less effective.

But I got a bit of a defeatist mindset so take it for whats worth. Check seduction sub rn or I think here in asktrp an extremely positive but 5ft5 guy alright in looks prolly had 3 LAYS OUT OF 183 APPROACHES. fuckin inefficient as hell, he'll be a smooth talker for life but time to do that much is a fuckin hard. Maybe ur 6ft and u'll manage more? Who knows

[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You'd be shocked at how men in attractive male social circles coudn't approach to save their life. Not 'game', but just can't even go and talk. They're scared. They vicariously live through me.

[–]RedHoodhandles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you approached that fat slob who dies of heart disease. Don't hamster if it doesn't work out.

[–]fignootins 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I never look for IOIs when cold approaching

[–]UnbreakableFrame 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I'm married, so it's slightly different, but I still cold start conversations all the time. I'm actually a beast at it, because I have 0 fear of rejection (because I'm not actually looking, just maintaining an abundance mentality). I get mostly extremely good responses. Women love getting approached by abnormally confident men.

Most men don't cold approach and the few that do usually treat it like the are cliff diving for the first time ever. Even though women appreciate any effort at all, they can tell when you are not confident.

A strong cold approach makes the WOMAN nervous about talking to you, not the other way around. Can you imagine how freaked out a woman would be meeting Johnny Depp? That's how your approach should make her feel. She should be thinking, "I can't believe this is happening... I can't believe this is happening" with a mix of excitement and panic.

I coach salesmen from time to time and a strategy that I'm constantly teaching them is also very useful for cold approach. You need to practice the art of actually having genuine conversations. Your conversations need to feel good enough that they can stand as just being conversations. Yes, you are trying to close a sale. Yes, you are trying to get a number. Yes, you want a number because you want to go out with her or hook up. However, if that is the #1 thing in the forefront of your mind, your conversations will always suck and fall flat. If after having a conversation, you think things like "how did I handle that conversation?", then you are doing it wrong.

No one thinks like that after just talking to someone without a goal, and those conversations are almost always much smoother and stutter free. You will never actually forget why you are talking to a girl, but stop laser focusing on it and just talk. It's okay to pause and not deliver lines that would make Eddie Murphy take out his notebook. If you can carry a conversation that feels natural and you have a baseline of attraction with her (that we all already know is non-negotiable anyways), she will respond.

[–]kabuto_mushi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, basically, just practice walking up to randoms wherever you're at and starting a conversation? Men and women... and eventually the women will sense your genuine interest and give you their number when you ask for it?

Seems much more wholesome that PUA that's for sure...

[–]DadOnDabs 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm on a college campus and yes I cold approach. Usually just going throughout my day (bus stop, lunch, studying between classes, waiting for coffee, etc.) I'll stop girls here and there but most people are busy so I usually take them as they come.

Also I recently deleted all dating apps so it's my only source right now. Forcing myself to grow my social skills.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

honestly bro, i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but most people are larping and coping about cold approaching. most guys become "experts" online about cold approaching, but never actually cold approach lol.

unless your good looking (7/10+), cold approaching will only work like sub 1% of the time, and thats to get a obese fatty.

your better off social circle maxing and doing luke warm approaching.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

what's luke warm approaching?

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is an incel faggot you're talking to

Disregard and move on

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when you have something in common or you both show clear IOI's. cold approaching like a chicken with its head cut off is cringe.

[–]sorryforthelifestory 4 points5 points  (3 children)

10 at most

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

A day?

[–]failingtheturingtest 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I think he was suggesting that 10 people here cold approach.

[–]sorryforthelifestory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Me. All the time. And you never see me here, whining about how I can't get laid.

[–]LiftMeditateApproach 2 points3 points  (1 child)

im sure you do.... i see old men trying to chat up cashiers at walmart all the time... maybe you can use alpha male tactics that you had learned here to save 10 cents off your next purchase of 2 oranges....

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why you gotta be a little hater? You should be happy it works for old ugly dudes, because that means it can work for you too.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So you can't get laid even though you cold approach? Why not?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You misunderstand. Cold approach works for me.

[–]AWorseManThanYou 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Knowing how to cold approach is an absolute. All successful men here do.

It should be the second commandment behind lift.

I didn’t at one point because I was afraid of rejection. Or I had a GF. Dumb reasons.

[–]coconutscentedcat 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I've always been getting IOIs; I was just too much of a coward to act on it. First time I cold approached in my life was a few months ago and the girl is now my GF.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, this is almost giving me feels.

[–]1RedPillFusion 3 points4 points  (1 child)

My entire adult life, including the 8 years I was married. I never fucked around, but skills get rusty and cold approach has many different benefits.

[–]Just_saying_brah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you say are the benefits?

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I talk to people. Some guys some girls. Some hot girls. Every once in a while I have a great conversation with a hot girl, and my go to phrase is “I had a really good time talking to You and you’re really cute, can I get your number?” 90% successful.

But I don’t really “day game”. It’s just conversation that sometimes leads to more.

[–]Corvus_Uraneus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cold approach every attractive girl who returns my smile. Well, that's not true, I say hello to every pretty girl who returns my smile. Then I scan them for something that stands out that I can ask them about, or give a TARGETED compliment regarding something they have clearly put effort into. I try to keep the conversation witty and watch for IOI's like lingering to keep the conversation going. If I don't catch one, I don't ask for the #.

The only times I didn't approach are:
1. Ring on it.

  1. A group of girls in a setting where I can't isolate.

  2. When she will be around for a while so I can play it cool and use others for status/preselection/laughs.

[–]ReasonablyGoodMexica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been cold approaching for about a couple of months already. Overweight and no lifts in forever, so results are poor. Few numbers, only about two dates and no good closes. It might limit me not to have a wingman, but I'm getting the hang of approaching strangers and keeping up a good conversation.

Why I didn't do so before? Because I was a dumb blue idiot.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If youre in a grocery store, the mall, an airport, etc...only works if you are more attractive than the mark. Otherwise you are better advised to just start a friendly conversation and gain experience chatting with a hottie about some shared hobby or interest. This is reality.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly a part of it is just how confident you are in yourself as a person. The more confident you get in who you are, the more you will notice IOIs. If you're not confident in yourself you will subconsciously not notice IOIs because "who would be interested in me?"

Once I became more confident in myself, I started spotting the subtle IOIs all over.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

I never have. I know enough about it to give good advice about it.

My tinder experience was as close to true Redpill as I have ever gotten as far as picking up women, but for me they are always around and always willing to hook up. I didn't realize just how high my SMV was till I fixed my tinder profile and my matches quadrupled. Great looking big titty women with jobs and good manners suddenly became very normal.

I picked a few and started dating them because I wasn't used to having so many women available, and I've always been an LTR man. Fucking conditioning. I did however, hardly care if any of these women remained my 'girlfriend' and did continue keeping up with a few women on tinder, still hunting for that snow leopard.

Eventually I DID stop dating and started spinning an old, fantastic standby plate of mine I've had for years, but then once again moved her to LTR out of habit. She's a great woman, and since I broke it off with her I have pushed her to embrace her inner whore.

I mostly do this because the men she has typically dated [one at time, worthless losers] weren't really giving her any perspective on what she needs from a man, they are mostly shit partners.

I am still pushing her to get up into the larger cities back home. She's a solid fucking 8 with a good family and average cooking skills.. She's a bit of a shut in coward, really just wants to spoil and fuck one man.... Shit I'm rambling

I never cold approach because I believe it is rude, even though now that I am engaged it IS rude because I wear a ring and the stigma of that ring. Could I still fuck some young college sluts that don't give a fuck? Yes, doesn't interest me.

The current LTR is solid. She's got a very average face but is shockingly beautiful the rest of the way down. She keeps very fit and fucks and sucks like a porn star. I'll fuck her like a bull for a few days, then I'll relax a few days and get hour long blowjobs and have her ride on top.

I believe in cold approaching. I think the world is full of people who suck ass at talking with people they don't know, and that as a society we should all communicate with each other much more, especially near our homes. There should be no strangers on your block, you should know most the employees by name in your stores and local hang out spots.

We are just little fucking social bubbles with our phones and the internet, work and home and family. It's enough for most of us, but it allows the evil unknown to walk around unchecked. It keeps us contained and dull and stops us from banging really really really attractive women.

I'd say I fucked 8 very hot women in my life, stunning unbelievable mostly fucking crazy women. That took the social skills to engage with those women and not be intimidated. I did it the easy way, they came into my space where I was already the fucking man.

I hope to push myself to be the fucking man everywhere I go, but this is sadly one part of TRP that I am highly deficient. I don't go where I am not known much, but when I do, any woman I talk to is highly receptive... I just usually have my fiance right there with me. She's not jealous and she loves women so it's not a huge deal. I just have a hard time imagining most of these women want to fuck me and my future wife, though since I rave, I bet it's more common than I think it is, and that I am fucking myself over by not approaching much more than I do.

[–]Atheist_Utopia 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I did it the easy way

Could you elaborate what you exactly did?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I had a circle of friends that was rather social. I usually kept up with them every few weeks but mostly worked and kept to myself. When new women would come into the circle, they would gravitate to me.

Some of my friends had very hot sisters. Some of my friends sisters had very hot friends. Sometimes a pack of women would come home from the bar at 3am with my friend the bartender.

I still to this day have very social friends, they generally screen most of the people I meet before I am ever introduced. I keep to myself and keep everything abundant and positive on my path and they are welcome to participate with me while living it up, being much more adventurous and social.

A few of them work festival circuits. Others are just world travelers in general. A few of them own some successful businesses and some of them are like me, family men that stay home and work hard and don't get out very much..

This has a ton to do with me having children. If I was single I would probably go out more, but at this point I am mostly focused on other families, so my children have something to do while the adults 'sit around and just talk'

[–]Atheist_Utopia 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hmm interesting, so you are basically using your friends for social proof, generating passive attraction from the girls?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but this is certainly because of my own social weakness reinforced by my own personal addictions and work ethic.

My house is overly clean and organized and so is my office space. I don't really crave social interaction too often and never have that feeling that I need someone new in my life..

I have too many friends and associations back home, but here 1500 miles from home I have very few so most of my friendships are carried out online.

[–]TheIslander829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day.

[–]red_matrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to, it was pretty hot or miss. Mainly it’s good for improving your confidence. Over 30 I don’t bother as much anymore, but it works wonders when your in college.

[–]CaptainSupream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cold approach. Around 5 times a week. Usually girls who are in my classes sometimes in the halls. Im an artist with good observational drawing skills. Im a regular at some cafes and if people catch me drawing them I approach and show them what Iv sketched, provided that the sketch is decent/flattering.

[–]Zanford 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When not in a LTR, tons. Probably a few hundred lifetime cold approaches (which is not even that many, if you're never in LTRs you should do a few hundred a year), a school campus daygame (still a cold approach if you don't know each other), other daygame, parties, and a little in clubs/bars.

[–]VoidInvincible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't, but plan to approach at least 1 girl a week starting next year. To put that in perspective: That's 52 girls a year.

[–]NotMeUsee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did today. Been a while. I needed to see how it would go. Walked into the store. Asked the people there where the lived. They said nearbye. I told them I just moved here and wanted to know if they wanted to get a drink over the weekend. I invited everyone but the girl gave me her number.

Shes nothing special but it was nice to do so after being single and drowing in work. She seems nice though. At least I might have made some friends. I say do it. But read the room. She would always light up when I was in the store. I figured why not.

[–]500bands 0 points1 point  (1 child)

what is a cold approach?

[–]chumjetze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you approach someone you don't know

[–]_Neon_Shadow_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done it a few times. My last approach was last Friday. This plain looking (white or latina?) girl in my Astronomy class. She was unremarkable, but her ass is what men go to war and die for. Ass fat as fuck bruh, ass had it's own gravitational pull. Literally a work of art. Ahem... I'm getting ahead of myself, but you get the idea. Nothing came from it, but at least I tried.

[–]Atheist_Utopia 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Hmm interesting, so you are basically using your friends for social proof, generating passive attraction from the girls?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

what bro i have no idea what you just said

[–]Atheist_Utopia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, was meant for another guy

[–]Notsouh78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never much thought of it. I talk to people. If a girl happens to show interest, I'll talk to her. I think I was kinda anxious the first time talking to girls, but I was a kid, and that's been awhile. These days? Been told I am intimidating, but laid back.

That and I got deep voice. Women like the baritone. When they ask about me, they always mention it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's how it went for me:

  • #0 to #10: "I didn't die. The girls appreciate it. I can actually put work into this and get good at it. OEUHOWEGYEEEEEEEEE!!!"
  • #10 to #40: "I don't wanna go out man, this is fucking scary."
  • #40 to #50: "I'm getting numbers, better shave my balls"
  • #50 to #70: "They all fall off the radar before or in the texting, I thought they were ready to jump into my bed... really discouraging. Also my approaches have been all boilerplate lately, hmmm"
  • #70 to #90: "Getting average response rates, but that's okay, it doesn't faze me anymore"

Currently I'm at around 90 approaches. On good days I pull off push/pull, compliance, rapport-building, teasing in a fairly intermediate, smooth way. Now that I'm good enough to ditch the boilerplate crutches, it becomes a lot more entertaining. I honestly would do daygame even if a evil genius' curse would physically restrain me from getting laid.

No dates or lays from daygame so far. It doesn't bother me. After 3 months in the gym, I wouldn't expect to see much either.

[–]Izakthegreat23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been doing daygame for about 2 years and night for about 6 months. Just got my first same day lay last week and have been consistently getting dates and girls on the line for a few weeks now so I’ve finally reached a more intermediate level.

[–]mysteryspoN -3 points-2 points  (6 children)

I’m afraid to cos I’m 16, but going to Barcelona in summer with the boys and I’ll be 17 then so I’ll deffo cold approach + got a fake ID. Edit: Why the downvotes? Fake ID is just to get alcohol and into clubs. Not to trick girls into thinking I’m above age of consent ffs. I’m not that evil.

[–]itsdir0 0 points1 point  (1 child)

How did you get a fake ID lmao. I am from Spain, 22 yo. Just curious.

[–]mysteryspoN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ordered one online

[–]bluephayde 0 points1 point  (1 child)

....the drinking age is like 16 in Spain so you probably won't need the fake ID...

[–]mysteryspoN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clubs tho

[–]Foolish_ness 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The legal age for consent isn't 18 either, so don't worry about the haters.

[–]mysteryspoN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the age of consent ? Ill google it