What was your most brutal firsthand experience of AWALT? (self.asktrp)
submitted 9 months ago by DeeLad29
[–]KinkysMT 103 points104 points105 points 9 months ago* (4 children)
My first and only LTR of 4,5 years. As soon as you're not on top of your shit temporarly and open up your emotions she's gonna cheat on you and lose attraction. Even if she said "I love you" two weeks before. Sad but true.
The biggest mistake I ever make was going back with her after our first breakup (2 years since I met her) and slowly giving her my trust again, just to be stabbed in the back again after one year with her cheating again.
I was a masochist.
I'm greatful for it because I then discovered TRP and now i know that AWALT.
[–]OfficerWade 7 points8 points9 points 9 months ago (0 children)
This seems to me the common bond we share here. I too was in a similar situation. Twice. Long term relationships, covert contracts and cheating. AWALT
[–]Lambdal7 7 points8 points9 points 9 months ago* (2 children)
That’s because you didn’t show vulnerability beforehand.
You need to show vulnerability at the beginning of a relationship. Insecure women are scared of a vulnerable man, because they are very scared of life themselves and they have no clue how to navigate it successfully. They need a man who pretends to be infallible, only then they feel secure.
Confident women don’t need that. In fact, they feel jnsafe with a man who isn’t vulnerable, because they can take care of themselves and they feel as if he is hiding something and is insecure deep inside.
That’s why you need to show vulnerability early on to weed out the insecure women who’ll leave you the first time you slip up.
[–][deleted] 24 points25 points26 points 9 months ago (1 child)
Where did you read this? in Cosmo?
[–]Lambdal7 6 points7 points8 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Lots of experience.
[–]DadOnDabs 85 points86 points87 points 9 months ago (13 children)
Stereotypical "good girl" who had her shit together, took care of herself, educated, and everyone liked.
I was surprised she even talked to me and she lead me on for a long time. I reinforced it and didn't see through the bs. She said, "if you're just looking for sex that's not me, I don't even like sex that much." I believed her until I was working the front desk (dorm RA) and had to check her out of our resident light skinned Chads room at 7am for her early morning walk of shame. She wouldn't even look me in the eye, the smile on that guys face. That was the day I swallowed the pill.
[–]Elfclan30 8 points9 points10 points 9 months ago (6 children)
How did she start behaving around you after the event?
[–]DadOnDabs 26 points27 points28 points 9 months ago (5 children)
Never spoke to her again but she would talk to other people around me as she worked in my building and was often there. She would say some slutty shit about what she would let celebs do to her and stuff like that.
[–]ahackercalled4chan 14 points15 points16 points 9 months ago (0 children)
damn that's cold blooded
[–]dobbekz 1 points1 points1 points 9 months ago [recovered]
Wait how old was she? You said dorms so I'm assuming college aged? How did she have access to celebs? That's what I've always wondered no matter how good looking you are a celeb can always potentially try to get with your girl and most girls will do it for bragging rights. What would you rate her as and what did she say the celebs did to her?
[–]electric_drifter 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
He means that she would fantasize about celebrities, not that she knew them personally.
[–]DadOnDabs 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (1 child)
She didn't. It was all hypothetical. She was like 22 or 23
[–]Andgelyo 29 points30 points31 points 9 months ago (4 children)
lmaoooo damn. She likes them light skin drake type of niggas
[–]ScratchinCommander 1 points1 points1 points 9 months ago [recovered]
Drake:I'd like to report a clown
911:ok go on
911:...Drake ur not a clow-
Drake: then why did she take my love as a joke?
[–]Andgelyo 49 points50 points51 points 9 months ago (2 children)
“Drake the type of nigga to smack his own ass during sex” lmao
[–]AtlasCuckd 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
[–]InstigatingDrunk 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I missed this meme lmao
[–]jakethesnake5000 63 points64 points65 points 9 months ago (8 children)
Divorce. Her coming at me for money after she promised she wouldn’t. Can’t trust these hoes
[–]flapjacksrbetter 24 points25 points26 points 9 months ago (3 children)
Why u turn a ho into a housewife?
[–]Blackhawk2479 32 points33 points34 points 9 months ago* (0 children)
Because he couldn’t find a unicorn.
[–]mikeyp_88 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago (0 children)
He got blinded by da pussy
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
If it was that easy. Every girl you meet could be a whore, that’s the big BET with going into a relationship.
[–]BusterVadge 20 points21 points22 points 9 months ago (2 children)
In the sake of fairness, it's possible that she didn't want to go after your money until a lawyer got involved. I've heard of divorces that start out amicable until both lawyers push their clients to fight over things. Some are scummy fucks, but it makes them money.
[–]jakethesnake5000 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Nah she’s just a gold digging bitch
[–]jackandjill22 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
[–]1319Skew 53 points54 points55 points 9 months ago (3 children)
Nothing like the woman you love taking you to court, alleging you assaulted her, so she can get sole custody and you get supervised visits for your son.
Oh wait. Never mind. No, there's the feeling of paying her an incremental percentage of your monthly income, seeing her waste it on frivolous crap, seeing her (poorly) attempt to hide going on the cock carousel, and then hearing her excuses why you can't have more time with you own child.
This is coming from a born again 'Christian'.
She went from virgin sweetheart to woman that was out to destroy me in every way possible.
[–]EntropyForeverx 12 points13 points14 points 9 months ago (0 children)
sick shit dude.
[–]Popeman79 12 points13 points14 points 9 months ago (1 child)
This is fairly common, and terrifying. The woman who loved you and was honest and caring turns into machiavelic psycho the minute she doesn't need you anymore. Ready to lie and stab you in the back for her own interests. Even if you didn't do anything wrong.
I have seen it happen so many times (to me and many friends), it's a real eye-opener on the nature of women
[–]1319Skew 8 points9 points10 points 9 months ago (0 children)
That's the part that set me back the most.
The "did nothing wrong". Took me awhile to realize that I fucked up.
She got with me because I was perceived as a high value rebel in high school and had a strong frame.
Over time I started to give more and more.
I funded her career change, I helped her try to run a business, bought her anything she wanted - christ I bought her a sauna.
I bought the we are the same lie and the pc women can do it culture.
I lost myself in almost every way except for dread and sex. I'm an attractive man that's really good in bed. In bed I forced her to submit and feel like a woman. Made her jealous of any woman that talked to me.
When I lost my job after the birth of our son, the only time I had no work, was weak, and couldn't have sex (recovery from difficult birth), that's when I lost the last real thing holding frame and she grew away from me.
Hindsight is a bitch and I can't change the past or how hard this will be for my boy.
I'll have to be the best me and teach my boy how to be a better man than I ever was despite all the challenges. That is all I can do. Enjoy my life and bury the past.
Some days I miss the lie but just like when you are sore from a work out or a hard day of breaking your back getting a job done, you achieve the most in life when you are sacrificing and struggling to grow.
That's what makes a man, the ability to shoulder the hardship and not break.
I wish my ex luck as a single mother. When she's done with her "freedom" and "empowerment" and she finds a chump to replace me, she'll continue oblivious to her actions.
I'll just have to contend with enjoying my life.
[–]1byronshadow 45 points46 points47 points 9 months ago (4 children)
Back in the 00’s I orbited a friend of mine, a down-to-earth country girl. Tomboyish, brilliant green eyes, always ready for a road trip or hike. I thought she was perfect. She had this abusive on-and-off college boyfriend she was always whining about but never left.
She’d landed a life-changing internship that was the holy grail for people in her major. A week in she just ghosted them because Chad wanted her to move out to his home state.
After a few months she called us all crying that he’d turned abusive, had become addicted to drugs, yadda yadda. He’d been jailed for some crime or another giving her a window to escape. So me, a couple other orbiters, and a mother hen hopped in a van and drove a thousand miles to rescue her(sounds like the setup for a movie).
We got her back and the next six weeks were perfect. We helped find her a job, went camping, and things seemed normal again. Then she vanished. Ghosted work, left her studio apartment empty, and so on. A few days after that her MySpace is full of pictures of her back with Chad.
So many lessons learned. They all want Chad, don’t white knight, etc. Our ancestors chose husbands for their daughters because they don’t have the maturity to make good decisions for themselves. It’s like letting a toddler eat nothing but ice cream because it’s their favorite food. Give them free reign and a quarter of them will run out and get impregnated by an unemployed alcoholic.
Sexual liberation is destructive to societies because women miss the days of Cave Chad fathering most of the kids. Men on the other hand crave the hierarchy and order that only punishing adultery and providing a wife for every man who works and obeys the law can bring. Enjoy the collapse, but remember that the goal is the restoration of patriarchy.
[–]lnternetLiftingCoach 9 points10 points11 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Best reply in this thread. Very well written.
[–]Jampak_5000 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago (0 children)
upvote for this, made me smile
[–]imboredofitall 29 points30 points31 points 9 months ago (4 children)
Hooking up with my dream girl in a foreign land, knowing she was cheating on her boyfriend of five years with not only myself, but with another guy at the same time. She was shopping around and I sold that bitch in a dream the others couldn’t compare to. I witnessed her speaking in the phone with her boyfriend while we were off to stock up on condoms
[–]DeeLad29[S] 15 points16 points17 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Haha ice cold. Kinda similar thing happened to me. There was this girl I'd occasionally take to pound town, who had a boyfriend. She'd sometimes receive a phone call from her boyfriend right after riding me. Poor bastard thought he'd found "the one".
[–]jackandjill22 14 points15 points16 points 9 months ago (0 children)
"A foreign land" what is this a fairytale?
[–]clausternn 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (1 child)
Which country was this? Philippines? PM me if you're afraid of disclosing info.
[–]imboredofitall 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
[–]1atticusfinch1973 57 points58 points59 points 9 months ago (6 children)
First time I went through a girl's phone I was dating who had acted suspiciously. Every guy she said was a "friend" she had slept with. She had done things with other guys that she lied about, including incredibly slutty things she claimed she hadn't done. And she had been active on Tinder while we were dating even though she denied it.
When your instincts tell you she's lying, she is.
[–]jackandjill22 7 points8 points9 points 9 months ago (0 children)
This one's actually funny. But not surprising. & once a guy gets a taste even if it's an impermanent relationship he's going to keep pushing for it repeatedly. So, she always has a circle of options to choose from.
[–]allcryptal 9 points10 points11 points 9 months ago (0 children)
The "you're insecure" defense is so easy to dismiss once you realize that she has slept/sleeps with 75% of the army of dudes she talks to or who posts she likes.
[–]iChoseTheWheyOfJesus 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (2 children)
You mean the gut feeling? How to train and sharpen gut feeling, anybody knows?
[–]1Scriptopeia 4 points5 points6 points 9 months ago (1 child)
[–]iChoseTheWheyOfJesus 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
[–]vullnet123 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Yep. Checked her phone on the guy she told me not to worry about, and he would constantly flirt with her try to get with her.
[–]letsbiohackslaves 40 points41 points42 points 9 months ago (7 children)
LTR of 2 years cheated with my best friend who I have known for 10 years. I am glad it happened because it made me into the person I am now. One has to have chaos in oneself in order to give birth to a dancing star.
[–]EntropyForeverx 10 points11 points12 points 9 months ago (4 children)
I'm assuming that you dumped both of them?
[–]letsbiohackslaves 13 points14 points15 points 9 months ago (3 children)
I actually did a little ploy, but now that I think of it I shouldnt have done any revenge at all. But yeah, dumped them both after that.
[–]Morphs_ 12 points13 points14 points 9 months ago (1 child)
Tell us about the ploy, now that you've started your story. Did you do something to mess up the situation between them?
[–]The_Belony 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Cmon man what's the ploy?
[–]jackandjill22 6 points7 points8 points 9 months ago (1 child)
Nice Frederick Nietzsche quote.
[–]letsbiohackslaves 4 points5 points6 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Haha glad you recognized him. I love reading him
[–]Popeman79 36 points37 points38 points 9 months ago (2 children)
I dated a sweet girl who was prude in the bedroom, and who kept telling me about an ex who was 'abusive and only used her as a sex toy'. I understood and was supportive. Still it didn't work and I dumped her after a couple months, then one year later her new guy contacted me, we met and he told me she kept telling him about me, how I was 'abusive and only used her as a sex toy'.
[–]BurningOrangeHeaven 9 points10 points11 points 9 months ago (0 children)
What the fuck o.o
[–]Aesthetik_1 0 points1 point2 points 8 months ago (0 children)
[–]cat_magnet 16 points17 points18 points 9 months ago (2 children)
I could tell stories but at the end of the day they all had red flags I chose to ignore in the beginning.
[–]ProFriendZoner 9 points10 points11 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Thanks for the honesty. Reading all of these I think the red flags were not known at the time or ignored.
[–]dani098 15 points16 points17 points 9 months ago* (1 child)
I don’t have a terribly brutal one but I love learning these lessons. Reinforces why I am here. Thanks OP, Great post and great comments.
[–]DeeLad29[S] 4 points5 points6 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Long live TRP!
[–]empatheticapathetic 38 points39 points40 points 9 months ago (15 children)
Only actual experience I’ve had which led me here. Was 25 year old virgin. Met some 18 year old girl who was basically my dream girl. Didn’t know such a girl could exist (same race, interests, upbringing, sense of humour. She looks like my mom and I look like her dad or something).
Had a great first and second meeting. We were really into each other. She told me she wanted to lose her virginity to me (she thought I was a player). She lost it 2 days before we were supposed to meet to some random bar guy and then shoved it in my face and shat on me to alleviate her guilt. She still was up to bang I believe but I wasn’t interested any more. Cut contact.
Told my sister and my mom about it and they both defended her AWALT actions and shamed me. Lost my job. Felt pretty suicidal for a few months after that while I read TRP 24/7.
[–]Morphs_ 44 points45 points46 points 9 months ago (1 child)
I guess your mom and sister defending her may be the biggest part of the AWALT here.. damn
[–]Jampak_5000 11 points12 points13 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I was going to write anything here it would be about the behavior of my seemingly normal mother. And for the record she is as normal as it gets. BUT - I have seen amazing snippets of AWALT from her its unreal. Her husband has been abusive, but was alpha - she never even got close to leaving him.
She also acts like money isn't important and that kind natured people are the best etc etc <- and genuinely think she believes this - Yet shes married to a narcissist with loads of money.
Always says "I love my children equally" and other bullshit like this, when clearly has favourites, again I actually believe she thinks she loves her children equally.
Its all about watching their actions and completely ignoring what they say.
[–]dani098 6 points7 points8 points 9 months ago (11 children)
How the duck can you defend that ? Wtf?
[–]empatheticapathetic 13 points14 points15 points 9 months ago (7 children)
Maybe defend is the wrong word but that’s what they were doing in reality.
My sister presented to me 3 scenarios where it was always my fault. I disproved each one then she said I misread the signals and the girl was never seriously interested and that she has the right to change her mind whenever she wants, which was never the point.
My mom said the girl was just young and finding herself and people make mistakes. And I shouldn’t get so upset over one girl. I can’t have an opinion until I’ve met more girls.
It was all just side stepping bullshit. Not the last time they put me last for other women. Fuck all of them. AWALT
[–]dani098 12 points13 points14 points 9 months ago* (4 children)
You mom might be right in some ways basically she is young and dumb, basically saying “that’s how they(we) are” but you can definitely have and opinion Don’t get me wrong I am not justifying it. It sucks when family does not have your back.
[–]empatheticapathetic 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago (3 children)
My mom knew this was the first girl I’d ever met and was acting like it was nothing and I should just move on. I wasn’t in any realistic position to meet new girls or move on from such a big experience with zero knowledge of what went wrong.
It doesn’t matter how young the girl is, she knew what she did and what was up. Girls don’t change their behaviour, they just learn how to hide it better. She was basically telling me to wait for a wall hitting girl to have her epiphany phase it seems to me. I was seeking advice and support and she provided neither. She would be the first to complain that I am acting like a doormat to my wife if I took the BB role yet she isn’t giving me any helpful or supportive advice on what to do or how to deal with what I just experienced. It was shitty.
[–]dani098 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (2 children)
“It does not matter how young the girl is...”. Yes, but what I am saying is, don’t expect these woman to have humanity. In one hand you have the right to be upset because a righteous human being would not do that. You are wrong for assuming the woman are righteous. You were wronged so you are up set. ....but you should not be upset because AWALT. That’s how they fucking are.
[–]empatheticapathetic 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (1 child)
At the time I knew nothing and was disappointed to be left in the dark by them. I didn’t know AWALT. They didn’t care that I’d never met a girl before 25 and didn’t care to help me figure out how to move on.
The point of the thread was your big AWALT moment. This was mine.
[–]dani098 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Yes you are right, I am with you man
[–]mams1724 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (1 child)
I mean your mom gave you solid advice to get over the dumb girl.
[–]empatheticapathetic -1 points0 points1 point 9 months ago (0 children)
She didn’t give enough context to a 25 year old virgin on how to get over the only girl he’d ever met. “Get over it” is useless.
[–]saladon 1 points1 points1 points 9 months ago [recovered]
You have a lot of reading left to do
[–]dani098 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (1 child)
I understand what you are saying but from the view if a logical human being it's not right. I under stand thots are not logical.
That's an understandable situation, from your end. Should've blamed her more she was shifting the damage to you to alleviate her own suffering. Risk aversion. As for the ending, that's what TRP is here for. That's what we're here for.
[–]Ravenscar7 31 points32 points33 points 9 months ago (1 child)
I went out to play mini golf and my gf at the time introduced me to her work colleague, who had come with her boyfriend.
Her bf admitted to her that night that he was scared of me and didn't want to get on my bad side.
I had done fuck all but stand there and play mini golf. But he was a lanky skinny ginger fuck and I'm quite stocky, been lifting 10 hours a week for nearly 2 years.
Later that night my gfs work colleague dmed me on Facebook. I fucked her the same night.
lesson : Don't admit to a gf you feel threatened by another man lmao.
[–]The_Belony 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Holy shit dude, noted
[–]flashcash12 1 points1 points1 points 9 months ago [recovered]
Hooked up with a girl in class knowing she had a bf at another college (she didn’t tell me). Ran into them when he was visiting. She claimed he was a friend.
The look on his face said it all.
Then proceeded to send me nudes of her in the shower later that night. No boyfriend present obviously.
[–]EntropyForeverx 20 points21 points22 points 9 months ago (1 child)
she said he was a friend while you were there? damn.
Had something similar once: was going on a second date with a girl. She calls up her boyfriend and shows us together (didn't know she had a bf). She tells him that we are just friends hanging out. Straight up taught me that girls enjoy inflicting pain on men, emotional pain that is.
[–]Memeandmesomemore 5 points6 points7 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I suppose my first one was the first real girlfriend when I was like 16. She went ice skating with her friend and met me later but was really "off". Turns out some boy had "kissed her" at the ice skating and she "felt guilty".
It was my first taste of the kind of insane drama they like to pull, but of course I didn't learn from it.
A few years later I got involved with a married woman at work - started banging her about 3 weeks after she got back from her honeymoon. Same with her, lots of drama. She eventually cheated on her hubby with one of his woek colleagues, then cheated on him with someone else, then cheated on him with someone else - etc.
Another married colleague used to jerk me of etc in the storeroom at work.
Another convinced her hubby to let her go out with me "because we were friends and she was bored" and we used to go straight round to her friends house and bang each other stupid.
Another who'd had umpteen affairs (and her hubby knew and still let her go out - with other men - including me). He eventually threw her out.
Plus various other hook ups and fumbles in nightclubs etc with married women who'd "never done anything like this before - because they was in lubs with the husband" etc.
Then my unicorn wife of 20 years who started exhibiting all of the devious nature and actions of the married women I'd been involved with above.
So 6 months ago I swallowed the RP and kicked her the fuck out, started divorce proceedings and am now most definitely never going to be involved in any kind of LTR ever again.
You know why? Because AWALT.
[–]BloodSurgery 5 points6 points7 points 9 months ago (0 children)
These are the right questions to ask, instead of "how to pass X shit test?" 1000 times lmao. Thanks for making a good post with lots of info OP.
[–]WoodenToe 4 points5 points6 points 9 months ago (3 children)
Met this girl at church who seemed relatively wholesome. She told me she had only been with four guys and that she only has sex with guys in LTRs. Truth was 27 guys, including MMF threesomes, sex tapes, one night stands, etc.
[–]Russian_Bot_737 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (2 children)
How did you find the truth?
He made it up
[–]Russian_Bot_737 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
[–]supersonic-turtle 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I've been cheated on several times. My game isn't weak, I'm not broke, I'm not ugly. So either I'm a real piece of shit or awalt. Not denying I can be shitty but I'm seeing a trend. Now I'm older and wiser so first hint of branch swinging and I get out before the house burns down.
[–]vullnet123 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago* (1 child)
When I opened up to my ex. She was my only LTR, she left me a week ago. Since I've read TRP, I've come to realize why it failed. When I first started talking to her, I knew I was better than her. I treated her like I was a player, and that she wasn't on my level. And she chased after me before we became official, we went on one date, then I stopped communicating and she constantly tried planning stuff or texting me.
Fast forward to when we got into a relationship, I started making her my priority. started becoming vulnerable and emotional with her. At first she understood and supported me, but after it became just her being cold. She hadn't left me yet but she was a completely different person like I became. I'm glad I found TRP because I wouldn't have realized my mistakes and I'd keep making the same ones.
She probably branch-swung to one of the guys I would get worried about, but at this point its whatever. I'm still not over her and am BP in some ways, but I'm better. I realize I cant cry and be depressed all the time and hope for the best. I'm in charge of my life. I make it what I want. I can't just lay in bed all day and become better(She also told me this).
[–]bbcbarbarossa 1 points1 points1 points 9 months ago [recovered]
This chick when riding me got a call on her phone and she answered and said "Yeah I'm studying babe. Will call you back in an hour."
Then took a selfie of just her face and probably sent it to him. Then she kept her phone away and resumed the proceedings like nothing happened.
What a bitch. I switched positions and angrily dogged her brains out.
[–]Morphs_ 10 points11 points12 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Absolutely brutal. There was a time when I would call bs on such a story, but I've read too many of these.
[–]look_up_there 2 points3 points4 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Was about 6 months out of a 3yr ltr and met this hb 9. She came onto me to which rocked me big time, preselection helped immensely with this. I fell for her hard, thought she was perfect and put that pussy on the grandest pedestal youve ever seen. I left the country after sleeping with her for a few weeks and realised that I had genuine feelings. Some part of me swore to myself that I would not return home for this girl and im so happy i didnt, but it was the hardest mental battle Ive fought yet. This bitch was BPD material and she played me for months. Most manipulative and cunning women ive ever known. Lesson learned, I will never let it happen again.
[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
They WILL use your kids against you.
Got divorced and was constantly getting threats that if the divorce didn't go her way she'd fight for full custody and, because she's a woman, win. Later I started dating a single mom (I was pre-red pill) who's ex left her with a kid. She always talked about the need and value of fathers because of this, so I figured she was sympathetic to my position regarding my son with my ex. She ended up pregnant by me, I told her I'd step up and take care of my kid, but I wasn't going to commit to a relationship. When she realized I was serious, she punished me by taking my son and moving far away. So much for the value of a father to a child.
Eventually she realized our son did need me and she could use the help, so she moved back, and we made an arrangement for joint custody. But I'm one of the lucky ones. Some fathers lose their kids forever.
Never trust that a woman will put the kids first. Her emotions and spite come first.
[–]PrincepsFerrous 1 point2 points3 points 8 months ago (0 children)
Two moments of clarity:
The first after my relationship that I acted incredibly beta and withheld sex from me. Cheated on me after I bought her a ring for Valentine's and proceeded to hook-up with other people while "on a break to find herself."
Second was today, a plate of mine is contemplating getting back with her ex. She proceeds to cut ties with me, I ignore and she comes back. Asks for sex, goes on to say how she loves to chase me, I don't do anything for her and "make her feel like a woman." I have a way of "bringing her into my life" while at the same time "not giving a shit to what happens." She also likes that fact that I can plate other women, as she frequently sees me flirting/talking to other girls.
It's both heartbreaking and exciting that this is how it works. TRP is the most bittersweet pill I will ever experience in my life.
[–]drSiAl9782 1 point2 points3 points 6 months ago (0 children)
Got married to a girl (not diagnosed, but strong BPD tendencies) who turned on me, cheated repeatedly, and tried to destroy me. I did what I thought was right in that relationship, I gave her everything she ever wanted and treated her very well. And she turned on me like a switch, she didn't have the courtesy to stab me in the back, she just did it right in front of my face.
For the record, after discovering all this, and after truly following my own path and taking full responsibility and control of my life, I believe I am the happiest divorced man on the planet.
[–]Drop_the_Dead_Donkey 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
An AWALT I was banging for a few weeks got with a so called friend of mine. Officially from one day to the next but I don't doubt there was some crossover. It could have been fine if they hadn't both been sly about it.
I revenge banged his ex-wife that had just dumped him that he was still pining for. Kept in touch with his ex-wife but never spoke to either of them again. They actually got married for a few years before separating. Now the AWALT is post wall and bouncing from one existential crisis to another. Haven't heard anything about the dude for a few years.
The red pill was slowly on it's way down but this damn well near jammed it out the other side.
[–]imtheoneimmortal -4 points-3 points-2 points 9 months ago (2 children)
Nothing, why it should be brutal?
[–]Morphs_ 9 points10 points11 points 9 months ago (1 child)
You were born redpilled? For most guys their first real experience with AWALT is a brutal shock.
[–]imtheoneimmortal -2 points-1 points0 points 9 months ago (0 children)
i didn't say that, actually i'm i was bp, is just that this didn't bothered me I'm sorry for them, at least they learn something good from something bad