How do you guys deal with Past Cringe?

Onidramon · 2018-11-04T01:15:39+00:00

I deal with past cringe just by cringing. Then getting back to work. I don't even expect the cringe to go away. I accept it as an eternally burning rash of embarrassment on the gooch of my past that solely exists to remind me that existence is suffering and to stay humble. Sometimes you forget all about it, sometimes it'll come out of nowhere and hit you like a wave of fuck on one random restless night when you're alone with your thoughts. I wish I could say that at some point it permanently gets better, but some things aren't meant to get better. Some things are meant to make you better at not fucking up again. To motivate you to take massive action and make new things happen, instead of trying alleviate feels from the residue what's already happened. And that's alright.

DebonairD · 2018-11-03T23:58:08+00:00

Remember that you can’t change the past.

[deleted] · 2018-11-04T00:42:20+00:00

“That wasn’t me”

UshankaDalek · 2018-11-04T00:42:54+00:00

Lol jk tho you just gotta remember you did the best you could when you were brain washed.

It wasn’t your fault.

Now that you have the keys tho, don’t fuck up. It will be your fault.

ay013523 · 2018-11-04T01:38:25+00:00

Let go of the ego, "that wasn't me". You're a different person now. The past doesn't matter, only the present

kellykebab · 2018-11-04T02:23:00+00:00

Develop a present-focused mindset. You really have to internalize the fact that Time is a train without a conductor. You will die on a day with no great significance or meaning and with no warning. The past is the very definition of pre-determined and the reality is that people judge you more by your last interaction than by the entirety of your previous interactions. Always focus on the Now and engage in today above all else.

These may sound like cheap platitudes, but once you understand on a deep level that life offers zero redos the more you will take the present moment seriously.

herbage923 · 2018-11-04T01:21:14+00:00

Just know that means that your improving

Mr_KenSpeckle · 2018-11-04T04:21:47+00:00

Use it as fuel as you pursue your mission.
See it as validation of how far you’ve come.

GayLubeOil · 2018-11-04T04:59:18+00:00

People improve by making mistakes. That cringe got you here. Be greatful to the cringe.

InformalCriticism · 2018-11-04T00:19:00+00:00

Claim ignorance, deny everything, and blame another guy. Even if you were the other guy.

JoesIcedTea · 2018-11-04T02:35:28+00:00

'Ah, yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it...or learn from it.' Rahfiki

megaduff · 2018-11-04T03:41:48+00:00

Laugh it off. I’ve done some stupid beta shit in the past. Shit’s funny as fuck

joeswo214 · 2018-11-04T04:56:19+00:00

Focus on pulling alpha moves. The more alpha moves separating you from your beta past, the less you will think of it.

joeswo214 · 2018-11-04T04:56:34+00:00

Focus on pulling alpha moves. The more alpha moves separating you from your beta past, the less you will think of it.

joeswo214 · 2018-11-04T04:57:19+00:00

Focus on present alpha moves to bury your beta past with.

chazthundergut · 2018-11-04T05:22:32+00:00

Take all the cringe and frustration and put it under the squat rack.

kayfab · 2018-11-04T02:55:23+00:00

I kind of got over those hags... honest being single is so amazing fuck those useless bitches

chazthundergut · 2018-11-04T05:22:59+00:00

Take all the cringe and frustration and put it under the squat rack.

I_love_you_broskis · 2018-11-04T05:24:01+00:00

Same here. Checked my BP Messages to chicks on BP days. Horrendous, horrible and embarrassing

blocktq · 2018-11-04T06:26:47+00:00

You gotta be good to yourself. It is the hardest thing in the world but when I hear that voice talking shit. In MY OWN head. If you aren’t on your own team no one else will be. Feel it, but realize all you are doing is releasing chemicals that will hurt you.

redpill_scientist92 · 2018-11-04T06:42:16+00:00

Lots o drugs

iamthespectator · 2018-11-04T08:32:05+00:00

The more you improve the less you care about it. I used to think about this shit on a daily basis. But since I've made big improvements in myself I think about it less and less, and when I do I just legitimately laugh it off instead of feeling like shit.

RedHoodhandles · 2018-11-04T10:35:13+00:00

Leaving it in the past.

trp28287 · 2018-11-04T11:32:54+00:00

What the fuck is this question, you’re just posting this because you’re bored. Ask questions that you actually need to be answered and not bullshit like this, or go work on stuff

Pelikahn · 2018-11-04T12:26:03+00:00

Laugh at it, that stupid shit was all done by a boy who isn't around anymore. Yet without all those terrible moments, mistakes, and other stupid shit you wouldn't be who you are right now.

We all do stupid shit we later hate, regret, and/or cringe while remembering. These bad moments are chances to learn a lesson, and without those lessons you would have never changed and grown.

There is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past, so lamenting on it is useless. I think to myself "How did I handle the situation before? And can I do it better this/next time?". Get curious again, like a kid, and use that to pick apart the scene in your head to find a positive outcome.

[deleted] · 2018-11-04T13:48:04+00:00

One source of comfort is that you might be the only person who even remembers some of your mistakes. A lot of these girls have dealt with literally hundreds of awkward dudes missing obvious hints or shitting the bed when approaching them.

And very few of us are natural Giga-Chads. The horrible experiences are how you learn. The common scenario of your girlfriend going back to the ex she told you abused her is heart-wrenching but also a bigger red pill than any number of manosphere articles.