Advice to channel embarrassment

drFink222 · 2014-01-25T20:22:03+00:00

You are not at fault at all, they screwed up and need to fix it. Keep bugging them, tell them that you can't accomplish any tasks or work that you have. I'm not saying to call/e-mail them more than twice a day, but remind them (maybe even politely) that they fucked up and need to fix shit now. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.

GaiusScaevolus · 2014-01-27T18:45:14+00:00

In general when dealing with people, your best move is to show them they really do want you to have what you want. It's generally important to project a calm and confident demeanor. Don't run around throwing blame at them, but if the subject is broached, do maintain a firm sincerity that the error was theirs.

Call them up and remind them that the calls would stop and the company could resume doing it's actual job if they would do as you have requested.
If they respond rudely, go in person and demand the issue be fixed. A lot of keyboard tough guys fear actual confrontation.
If all else fails, go over their head. Have them get a reminder from their boss to get off their asses and fix the problem.

(DISCLAIMER: Gauge advice to your situation as appropriate. Don't blame us if you get too big for your britches and get sacked.)

thehigheststatusmale · 2014-01-25T23:30:53+00:00

It isn't an upper echelon. It is another branch that serves a managerial role. You're a acting like a baboon lower on a totem pole. We are humans. You can reason with them. Call out their bull shit.

2014-02-17T02:01:41+00:00

Don't stop the emails altogether but reduce the frequency. It's quite annoying to be spammed with emails when you're fixing something. Your coworkers aren't going to give you advice with your best interests at heart. They will just complain/ruminate with you then go about their day. Your coworkers and supervisor are all aware of the situation; that's all you need to do by them.

Your pestering is the equivalent of a dude continually texting a girl that flaked on him and speed responding.

Give them a full week. When you're going to be penalized or given shit for poor work, reply with this scapegoat that you have poor tools. Keep relationships in good terms and it won't be held against you.

2014-06-01T02:46:14+00:00

I would not have been embarrassed in that situation, although I don't think you're feeling embarrassment exactly. Hear me out.

It sucks when someone you have to answer to gets shitty with you and it makes you feel bad even if you're not at fault. You're going to feel bad - no matter what.

When you have that shoved on you and it's outside of your control, it can be instinctual to fight that feeling. Normal day to day life doesn't typically feel too bad so you don't want to accept the bad feels - it seems somehow unnatural and you go through a small panic not wanting to accept that you have to wait out feeling shitty.

If that's the case, all you really have to do is accept that you're going to feel shitty when you get yelled at, even if you didn't deserve it, and that it's ok and normal to feel shitty when shit happens. The correct course of action is to accept that something made you feel lousy, wait out that feeling, and see it as a something that happened rather than a reflection of who you are.

It sounds weird, but it's a real thing. And surprisingly once you get what this means then "feeling bad" about stuff like this somehow stops being so overwhelming when it does happen.