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how do I balance being a man and the alpha with being connected and in love? On the surface they seem mutually exclusive. To be the fucking man I have to distance myself from my emotions. Emotions are scary and distracting. Being the man means being focused and driven. These seem mutually exclusive or at least a complex balancing act. How do I connect and still maintain strength and purpose?


[–]TooMuchToDoo 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The way I see it, as a man you've gotta be "the fucking man" and not let your emotions sway you at all. The way you can have your cake and eat it too (cake being connection and emotion with a girl along with being "the fucking man") is to let the girl come to you emotionally before you display emotion back. Like /u/drqxx said, you've got to get the girl that fits your criteria when picking a mate. That way, you don't have to shift your emotions around to fit hers. hope that helps.

[–]should_ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The emotions you're thinking of might be the needy ones. Upbeat, positive, forward-moving emotions are the funnest to act on, and they're only scary if you're shy. Those kinds of emotions are fine. There's also an "I'm dominating you" element to intimacy when you're a man being a man with a woman.

[–]drqxx -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It takes a while What helped me was making a list of the qualities I want in a woman. I recommend dating a few girls nothing too serious. While looking for some one who meets your criteria. Enjoy the hunt.

Edit: btw I am 33

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