I failed at every goal i set for myself. I'm in though position, but i wanna keep going. What do i do next?

tobascoslice · 2017-01-17T20:48:14+00:00

I would say you simply do not have enough in the gas tank to manage all those goals. Focus on a maximum of 3 outside of school. School is priority 1. If you miss everything else, who cares, ace school. Now pick 1 in which you want to start. Start doing that goal for about 2-3 months while balancing school. Let's say good nutrition. Then pick another one to add to your daily life. Meditation, but start small! Like 5-8 mins a day. Remember, you still have to balance school and good nutrition above.. both of those alone take energy and focus. Then add another after 2-3 months of solid practice. Then another, etc.. don't try to master all these goals in one month.

You could start even smaller goals. Like making your bed every morning for a month straight.

Have end dates to these at first. So, eat healthy for 1 month straight. If you succeed, great. If you "fail" record out of 30 days, how many did you succeed at that goal? Once you become proficient in a goal for 30+ days, I would say no longer need to have an "end" date.

Uberfeedus · 2017-01-18T01:36:51+00:00

Self authoring suite 100 percent. Do some reading and research about it. Absolutely totally worth the money

-ATLAS-_ · 2017-01-18T08:50:41+00:00

You're not as bad as you think you are, that's the first thing you'll learn when you start tracking yourself. People vastly overestimate what they can accomplish in one year and vastly underrate what they can do in five years/decade. You haven't fucked up just yet, and I bet if you looked at the actual data of how far you've come you might just be surprised.

Secondly, checkout Philip Zimbardo videos on time paradoxes. He did the original Stanford prison experiment and the marshmallow/delayed-gratification experiment, the guy is a genius but also has some amazing perspectives and studies on the optimal way for our brains to work that in my opinion out class those books you mentioned (even though they're great, they didn't have nearly the "Ah-hah" moments I got from Zimbardos stuff). I saw you wrote about ADD in another thread, and he covers that extremely well. Trust me and check out a few of his videos and set aside some time to rewrite how you look back on your past and how to view your present and future positively. It sounds crazy right now, but just trust me and check it out, worst case is you waste a few minutes watching his RSA animated video, best case you watch a few videos and realize he's giving the exact pieces for what separated people from succeeding or not and has all the numbers and data behind his conclusions and the experience of helping people out and discovering what worked and what didn't.

As far as vitamins and such, there is a ton there that can lead to brain fog if you're not adding in some kind of cardio to help your body burn/get rid of excess stuff. It stops being supplements and turns into your body having excess and it can cause loads of problems. The two biggest difference makers for me in the plethora of choices and after 12 years of tracking is fish oil and 15 minutes of cardio, to the point of sweating. If you start with those two and cut out all weed and spicy foods, you should eliminate brain fog pretty quickly (but it could be from other factors from other supplements you mix or taking them at night or in the morning instead of reverse or if they mess with hormones, etc... Heck even altitude and humidity significantly affect it in the right scenarios). If you have any questions feel free to ask them, I've been on the same road for a while and have no problem talking about the paths I found.

Anyways, best of luck!

ikigaiaru · 2017-01-18T00:34:03+00:00

Start with baby steps. Your motivation will snowball from small progress. Make a list of priorities, focus on a MAX of 3 things at a time. Once habits are established, you can move on making more progress on the other priorities on your list.
Be patient. It takes time. Just make sure you are heading in the right direction and don't expect too much too quickly. Success is not a straight line, 3 steps forward, 2 steps back will often be the case.
Be tough on yourself, but forgiving. You will fuck up. You will slip (for a day, week, maybe even months) but you must get back up. Success is not always being great, it's getting back up and dusting yourself off when you slip.
Write. Write your thoughts and your goals. Make lists daily. To-do lists. Organize your brain and your goals on paper.
Rest, but not too much. Give yourself time to be easy on yourself, but not too much time. This balance is crucial. It sounds like you're being too hard and impatient with yourself.

Remember: If you're going through hell, keep going.

maxofreddit · 2017-01-18T03:27:27+00:00

Really good advice here already, I'll add mine, take it or leave it.

Echoing the others, start small...like so small that it's almost nothing to do it...examples.

take a multivitamin
do 10 push-ups
write one sentence about your day.
read the first sentence of each paragraph of your studies, or the underlined part of your notes.

You want to make these things so small that to do them takes almost no effort. Once you've got the habit going for a couple weeks, move onto the next thing.

As far as a book that helped me a lot, Do the Work, by Stephen Pressfield is about a clear as a person can get that you're going into battle every fucking day, and the more you see it that way, the better you're going to feel at the end of it, knowing that you showed up, instead of chickening out (which, hard love style, is what you're doing now).

onmyownpath · 2017-01-18T15:23:19+00:00

You didn't fail at all. Just keep going forward. People think success is some profound event. It isn't.

Success is the ability to keep growing and moving forward when circumstances, the world, your friends and family, and even yourself causes a letdown.

You succeeded already by working towards the goals. The only way to fail is to quit.

You have improved already in this process even if you can't see it.