I had a partner for 2 years that was mega domestically abusive and fucked me up big time. It was only after i left i learnt of this.

Its similar to narcissists. But more .... insidious. I know she didn't know what she was doing or even recognize she had the disorder.

Thats part of the disorder though unfortunately.

Yeah my doctor told me that any patient that he has that has come from a BPD partner is seriously fucked up for years.