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Alpha Male: THE 10 SIGNS WATCH OUT FOR IN A GIRL: https://youtu.be/m25TivVvS1E

Hey bros, here are my thoughts on this matter and you can check it out in a video form and give some feedback on it, would really appreciate it!

THE DUMBEST THING I SEE ALL THE TIME: Men getting in a relationship with a girl who cheated on the previous boyfriend in order to be with them. You have to be a moron to do this, but, again, I see it all the time.

Just before we begin we have to dismantle the dumbest concept in the world and that is: "Don't judge a book by it's cover". Of course it applies in some situations, the obvious ones that we can all agree are true, no doubt about that. However, if you make it universal you take away a lot of useful criteria which help you make better decisions.

And the people preaching it surely use it all the time, so it works both ways, if you're a girl you can definitely tell a lot about a man if you see him overweight, hunched over holding a beer in one hand and a joint in the other. Yeah, please tell me you're going to go by the: "Don't judge a book by it's cover" principle.

Finally let's get into the 10 traits, ideally all of these have to be in check, so good luck with finding your future maiden. Once again, ideally of course, the whole point of life is personal growth so if she doesn't fit all criteria but is on a path of bettering herself, that's a good sign she's a keeper.

Anyways Number #1: Appearance Now wait a minute, I'm contradicting myself, I said that you shouldn't think with your junk down there yet the first sign you should look for is her appearance? Well not in those terms necessarily . Yes, of course, you need to find her attractive before anything, but the appearance I'm talking about branches into two signs:

- Her physiological appearance. It can tell a lot man, we're talking about her health, her habits, genetics your future children will inherit, maybe the foods she will offer them to eat etc. So if you see an overweight woman there's a very high chance she's lazy or doesn't care about her health as opposed to being diagnosed with a non-existing disease of obesity. Although there is a possibility she's in the process of bettering herself, of losing the weight, if which the case, all props! Of course a lot more factors come into place, not just obesity.

- Her appearance in general: The way a woman dresses and her life choices can tell you a lot about her, and I don't know about you but I don't want my daughter looking up to MIley Cyrus or some other bimbo as a role-model. If you see her with a cigarette it can tell a lot: she doesn't have a strong character, she's not health conscious, there's a possibility of your future kids ending up without a mother at a young age due to her habits etc. These are not the things you should write off so easily just because of the pressure from others.

Maybe the most spot-on criteria would be the way she dresses. "Uhh, but she just wants to look sexy and show off what a strong woman she is". Spare me the comments, will you. Or "She doesn't do it for other men but for other women". Even worse.

So these were two criteria which you can determine without even talking to the girl, if she has those checked you can move on to the next ones, although as Jim Rohn would say "one habit follows another" which is so true, going to the gym follows healthy eating which follows regular sleep, no drugs, better mindset etc. Same with the bad habits. Nevertheless let's move on.

Number #3: I like to call this criteria: "instagram time waster". Although it doesn't only relate to Instagram. Dude if she's on social media an hour or two or more every single day, mindlessly scrolling through the news feed, counting the number of likes she gets on her latest profile picture or whatever. Knows all about what's going on with Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez, with the Kardashians. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

I don't think there's a need for going into depth on why this is bad and a lot of these apply for men as well.

Number #4. Which is in my opinion most important on both sides. It's the way she handles her emotions. Crucial! If she thinks one thing and then thinks something completely opposite when under the influence of emotions, that's a bad sign man. People make a lot of dumb choices in their life when influenced only by emotions and no brain processing behind their actions, so surely if someone is talking one thing one day and another day something else and so on in circles, you're bound to have less trust in that person. It's also going to have a negative effect on how your kids are raised, giving in to their every tear and feeding them pizza and ice-cream at 3 years old and buying them I-Phones just because they want it so bad.

This sign leads us to Number #5: Pay attention to her friends and the influence they have on her. A person's friends tell you a lot about that person. What's the saying, you're an average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with? Whether that's true or not, regardless of who her friends are, meaning maybe they have a bad characteristic but she's friends because of something else they love about the person, watch on the influence they have on her. Same goes for men as well. It shows you whether the person has their own opinion or is easily influenced and manipulated by others.

Easy example that goes both ways: "Girl, come with us to the club we're gonna get wasted, we should live a bit, hook-up, he's not gonna find out, he's a jerk who likes to control you and doesn't let you have fun". I'm telling you man, I've witnessed things like this both with men and women, falling under the influence of their friends and making some bad choices. I'm sure you have witnessed it as well.

Number #6: Watch how she behaves with other men. "Now wait a minute, what's wrong with her having to call her nerdy classmate for homework advice?" Nothing. "What's wrong with her getting called up at 3am from her ex-boyfriend with whom they're best friends currently to go to the club and get wasted?" I hope something dude. I've seen so many liberal boyfriends getting cheated on and left just because they either didn't have the balls to speak up about that kind of behavior or they thought it was completely appropriate, don't be naive. Now of course, you can't forbid her anything, nobody's talking about that, nobody forbids cheating and stuff like that but you have to have a strong attitude about these things and set some grounding rules. Mutual respect is a necessity. But you have to have a strong character as well when it comes to these things, to set an example, you can't be a drunk and tell your girlfriend something about clubbing at 3am with her ex-boyfriend.

Number #7: She constantly improves and betters herself. Not in a short term way of, "Oh, she constantly puts make-up on for me, or she just got breast implants", that's not the improvement I'm talking about. And since this is the most obvious one, we'll quickly use it to name a few positive characteristics: confidence, humbleness (meaning you don't have to take her to London, Paris so she could be happy, you're enough for her no matter where you two are (assuming you're decent)), strong character, positive thoughts on motherhood, intelligence (you don't want to talk about Katty Perry's new hits all day long with her), and other obvious traits.

Number #8: Past doesn't matter? I love the mentality of "it was all before you dude, now all of a sudden she's a different person". Hah, like I mentioned earlier, the dumbest thing you can do is get with a girl who cheated on her previous boyfriend to be with you. "But she realized who she really loves and cares about". So naive. Not just that, if she had dozens of boyfriends, cheating history, you heard stories about her you can be absolutely sure are true, don't be so naive that she's all of a sudden a different person. Who's more likely to get drunk the next Saturday, the person who got drunk all of the previous Saturdays, or the person who never touched alcohol in their life?

So don't go by the, well I have to call it satanic, principle of "no judging".

Number #9: Unreasonable jealousy. That's a red flag man

And finally Number #10: Maybe the most important one of all, her family! This is a golden advice I got from elders, they weren't dumb for checking out the family first before they even saw the daughter or the son. When you buy a dog you look at his ancestors 100 years ago yet people so easily get married or in a long-term relationship.

What do I mean by, her family. Ask a little what kind of people they are, if you meet them look at the relationship her parents have, how the mother respects the father and vice versa. And finally look at the relationship she has with her parents. That's the most green flag you can get. Growing up in a loving family with which she has good relationship.

Now of course, you can find one example where the girl grew up without both of her parents on the street and she molded the perfect character all by herself and of course you shouldn't neglect her, but we have to be realistic and generalize a bit.


[–]HeyDontDoxMe1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Most of this is good advice but I just want to highlight another important aspect: if dating her is not a good deal, you need to walk.

Mutual respect is huge.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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