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I'm a graduate student at one of the largest universities in the US. I'm sure all of you know if you're out somewhere talking to a random girl breaking the ice often one of the first questions that comes up is "What do you do?" If I haven't had enough chance to show DHV or build sufficient interest than answering this question truthfully is usually the last thing I want to do.

girl: What do you do?

me: I'm a college student.

girl: Oh me too blah blah what do you study?

me: I'm a graduate student.

girl: studying what?

me: physics.

girl: oh... I hate physics

Seriously 90% of the time that's what girls say. It's a conversation killer because NOTHING in their lives relates to what I do. To make matters worse they associate me with socially awkward beta nerds (not an unfair stereotype, I'm like the only one in my class who dresses well, lifts, and spends a great deal of effort developing my social skills). I've tried powering through it and it's marginally effective:

girl: You're a grad student? So what do you study?

me: physics oh are those your panties on the floor?

girl: (laughs) so are you getting your PhD then?

me: nod yes

fast-forward to later in the night.

girl introducing me to other people: This is mark. He's getting his PhD in physics.

guy: your into physics people now?

girl: (scoffs) no.

To make matters worse, most girls I interact with are college students and almost always the first thing that comes up in conversation with them is "what do you study?" which is so direct it's impossible to avoid.

Any advice out there for this situation?

[–]2RPstudent 45 points46 points  (6 children)

stop trying to qualify yourself.

stop caring what she thinks about what you're studying. She can't even spell physics. You're a badass physics studying atom bomb making motherfucker.

Be the prize.

She picks up on your trepidation to share your course of study and she associates that with a lack of confidence. So respond, confidently, then transition to her course of study. neg what she's studying whatever it is with a backhanded compliment that leaves her wondering whether she should thank you or slap you. That gets the hamster spinning.

You're placing primacy on her thoughts on her feelings of what you do. And really, you're projecting onto her your own worst fears about how physics is perceived by others.

[–]lateralus01[S] 17 points18 points  (4 children)

atom bomb making motherfucker.

I've got to use this one.

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[–]j0hnan0n 5 points6 points  (0 children)

atomize her panties.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly man.

Don't be afraid to fucking own it. You see the skyscapers, rockets, atom bombs, fucking jet fighters? Those were invented by means of understanding physics.

99% of college chicks you talk to will be education/comm/womyns studies idiots. If they get all pissy abiut your major, fuck 'em. You're the prize, not them.

[–]1smile_e_face 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It's all a matter of perception and the way you carry yourself. Whenever people used to ask me what I was majoring it, I'd just mumble out, "I'm in computer science..." and sort of hang my head about it. It reinforced the awkward nerd image that they already had in their head about CS majors. Then, I had a profound realization: that pretty much every facet of these people's lives was governed by people in my profession. From the way they interact socially (Facebook, email, texting) to the way they shop (debit and credit cards, reward programs, Amazon) to the way they do their jobs (every office or retail job in existence). That knowledge gave me the confidence I needed to feel proud of what I did, and I stopped letting the ignorance of other people get me down. People, including girls, can sense that self-assurance.

As blue pill as the show itself is, this clip from How I Met Your Mother illustrates the point: Ted Mosby, Architect.

[–]3redpillshadow 30 points31 points  (1 child)

You are looking at it wrong. The problem is not you studying physics. The problem is you being beta trained that physics is bad to get women.

You are expecting a bad outcome so you are defensive from the start and try to make up for that "flaw". In your first example you tip toe around that "ugly" fact until you finally release the horror.

girl: oh... I hate physics

Seriously 90% of the time that's what girls say.

Yes. It is a shit test. She is trying to make it about her feelings about her not being able to understand this evil sorcery in high school. Find your inner arrogance. Get cocky. Tell them how fucking easy physics in high school was.

"It is weird how many people I meet say this. I always found it easy. At least now it is a bit challenging."

You want her in your frame. You are a bad ass smart motherfucker and are studying something most people are not smart enough to understand.

It's a conversation killer because NOTHING in their lives relates to what I do.

Once you are in the frame that you are smart they will qualify to you. But as long as you stay in that self-deprecating frame "me: physics oh are those your panties on the floor?" you are fighting windmills. You don't even let her time to answer the bad news and soften the blow immediately with a sarcastic joke. What you said there was basically "Physics please don't run away I know it sucks".

Either own it or as others have said make up some bs job which doesn't exist.

[–]skoobled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The guys who built The Bomb were RP as fuck

[–]robesta 77 points78 points  (13 children)

me: physics.

girl: oh... I hate physics

Me: You can't cute your way through physics. It takes work and smarts.

Watch the sparks fly. Get her to start quantifying why she's not just a pretty face. If you get women to quantify themselves to you, you're well in your way. Suddenly you're the one she's trying to impress and get validation from.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (3 children)

If they arent 100percent thrilled to hear what you do, slight neg when they bring up whay they do. As light and gentle and indirect as possible. They can be so sensitive to being put down

[–]robesta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Good call. It also depends on the girl and the venue. If its at a bar and she thinks she's hot shit, I'll neg her hard and blatantly. In a day game type environment, I'll be very subtle.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She breaks rapport, you break rapport. Tit for tat. When dealing with shit tests she wants to know, is this guy cool, confident calm, and internally strong? If she can't rile you up with her pokes, she'll feel safe and melt in your arms. It was mentioned on a blog, maybe CH.

RSDTyler has a great view on this. Look her right in the eyes and relax inside. Don't hide anything just let it all out, let her feel it all. The more she shit tests you at first, the better, that means it's on. She just needs to know you're safe, and socially suave enough to not get butthurt at a little tease/rapport break.

[–]RedSpectrum 2 points2 points [recovered]

Watch the sparks fly. Get her to start quantifying why she's not just a pretty face. If you get women to quantify themselves to you, you're well in your way. Suddenly you're the one she's trying to impress and get validation from.

Question about this as my game currently sucks. If you make her quantify herself, wouldn't it be easier for her to waste less energy by going to someone else worth her time? She would only stay and actually begin to qualify herself if she still sees you as interesting and worth a catch, right?

And would this be harder to try and pull off in, say, like a bar scene? Because then she could just go off and find another guy with higher SMV who could be more interesting/give her tingles.

Edit: qualify

[–]robesta 2 points3 points  (4 children)

>And would this be harder to try and pull off in, say, like a bar scene? Because then she could just go off and find another guy with higher SMV who could be more interesting/give her tingles.

No. A woman's SMV is her looks. A man's SMV is harder to figure out. Looks are part of it, but they also have to use context to figure it out. They look and see your friend and if you're generating other female interest and use that to determine your SMV.

Think about this:

Would a high value man qualify himself to a woman or screen her?

If you're high value, you have options and you should be trying to figure out if she's worth your time. Plus, women love a challenge. Don't compliment them, especially on their looks. Don't validate them. Leave them hungry for validation. Give them one way to validate themselves: your dick.

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[–]Manuel_S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good and short explanation.

[–]KyfhoMyoba 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Qualify, not quantify.

[–]robesta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good call. I'll edit.

[–]j0hnan0n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your question would be best answered by trial and error. Some females will indeed walk away, but you'll be surprised how many will follow the flight plan scheduled by robesta.

[–]WillClickOnAnything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wouldn't it be easier for her to waste less energy by going to someone else worth her time?

This is why everyone here will tell you to get your ass in the gym. ;) Anyways, if she moves onto someone else, who cares? Next.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you're acute angle...

[–]1etcomro 17 points18 points  (10 children)

I ask this, why do you have to tell them at all? Many PUAs say to never answer this directly. David X said he tells women(at least initially) that he's a disposable lighter repairman. You could say you work at a toothpaste factory putting caps on the filled tubes of toothpaste. Have fun with it, amuse yourself. A physicist is a fucking awesome job. I have a feeling though that you don't fully own who you are to begin with and that's why you're getting hung up on it.

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (7 children)

I've told girls I paint the M on M&M's, I rob homeless people, I run a farm for underprivileged ducks.

In the initial interaction don't tell them what you do. Be different than the other schlubs they talk to. Like /u/etcomro said in the comment above me: have fun with it, amuse yourself.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I like this technique.

One that I use (as a service member) is that when they ask what I do specifically, I throw out the "well...I really shouldn't talk about it". Interest goes up because she doesn't know if you're into some shady black ops stuff or you're full of shit. She'll try to pry it out of you constantly, and as long as you keep her in your frame, she's hooked

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

She'll try to pry it out of you constantly, and as long as you keep her in your frame, she's hooked

Exactly. Always keep her guessing. Taken from Roissy's blog:

VI. Keep her guessing

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.

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Agree completely. I often say, Me: "I am many things...kind of a renaissance man...if you will. That is definitely a conversation in itself."
Her: "So what do you do?" Me: ___________________(insert personal mission here) Yours might be: Understanding the very fabric of the itself, and describing it in a most elegant and beautiful way.
or Professional star gazer. (astro-physicist) You literally have to sell yourself. Women are looking for a man with conviction and purpose.

[–]1etcomro 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I run a farm for underprivileged ducks.

You sir, are a genius.

[–]Olipyr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually go with gay porn star who's totally just doing it for the money or something off the wall, at least here in the South.

It usually gets great reactions and almost always gets them touching me playfully.

[–]through_a_ways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I run a farm for underprivileged ducks.

Ah, I get it. Farming "underprivileged" duckface women.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing this since forever. Pick up taught me that deflecting this was the safest reaction... unless you're a doctor!

[–]phasetwenty 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I've used contract killer (thank you, Grosse Pointe Blank) and it usually gets a laugh. If it doesn't and she's pressing you for your real credentials in the initial interaction, take this as a sign that she's not going to be fun.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you know you can't have fun with someone unless they make $70,000/year +, right? ;)

[–]Doomsday_ 5 points6 points  (4 children)

A few options:

1) Drop the real answer in an offhand fashion, then change the subject immediately if it's clear she's not interested.

2) Make up funny, bullshit answers: "I'm a stripper." "I'm a professional pantyremover." "I'm a hitman." "I'm a ninja."

3) Claim you're not allowed to talk about it. "I'm not at liberty to discuss that." "I'm bound by a non-disclosure agreement."

[–]robesta 6 points7 points  (2 children)

This is a good way to go too. I prefer to try to use a DLV (demonstration of lower value) type response:

I'm unemployed and I live in my mom's basement.

With a slight smirk on my face. They never believe it. If you look like this is believable, I wouldn't use it. I think the fact that I'm deliberately DLVing myself makes them more curious and shows higher value.

[–]2RPstudent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also heightens your mysteriousness. Mystery leads to tingles, because you require her to qualify for your attention, interest and validation.

[–]Doomsday_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seinfeld classic, where George does the opposite of what he's normally do in order to succeed with women:

[–]FinnianWhitefir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, and find something ridiculous/exciting to say about what you do. I do computer security, which no one wants to hear about. So I tell girls "I fight Chinese hackers all day. It's kind of like the Matrix." It gets them to laugh, it makes it sound exciting, then I get back to doing paperwork all day long.

[–]1RedPillington 6 points7 points  (1 child)

you suck at talking about yourself. if you have passion for something, you should be able to communicate that passion about the thing without having to rely on the particulars of the thing.

if your first conversation snippet is real, here's how you fix it:

girl: What do you do?

Me: i'm a physics grad student. i study explosions and shit. you ever see armageddon transformers? like that. what do you do?

BAM. no bullshit back and forth, you get to the point and present yourself well.

EDIT: better movie

[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I was going to say.

The problem isn't physics. The problem is that (from your description) you say "physics" and just leave it at that. Pick any other major and give a one-word answer and you'll get the same reaction.

When they ask you what you study, tell them what you're actually studying. "I work with computer models of nuclear decay - it's pretty cool, I get to play with some really complex and cutting-edge simulations that can only run on super computers, and even then they take hours to run - gives me time to practice guitar and stuff"

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[–]lateralus01[S] 4 points5 points  (4 children)

I haven't, but Feynman is a god. I've seen what I'm capable of when I apply my mind to women, for him I can only imagine. If a girl asks what he does he just has to say I'm Richard motherfucking Feynman.

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[–]captshady -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her: What do you do? /u/lateralus01: I'm Richard motherfucking Feynman Her: Huh? I thought your name was lateralus01? /u/lateralus01: It is. You asked what I do, and I told you. It's not something the feeble minded usually understand. If you're good, I might explain it to you later.

[–]Dimsml 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seriously, read the "You Must Be Jokiing, Mr. Feynman!", it is worth a read and it's not about him being a physicist, but rather him being a cool and clever person.

[–]WillClickOnAnything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd play it something like this bro.

I am Sancho

[–]DrXaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, on the other hand, in that era, soon after Hiroshima and in the space race, physicists were well regarded as Important People. The very wealthy were much less apparent in common culture.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

girl: What do you do?

you: I unlock the secrets of the universe. What do you do?

[–]KyfhoMyoba 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Properly stolen from The Big Bang Theory. Props.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a physics degree. Everyone hates physics. Get over it. They hate it because it's too hard for them, I don't know why this hurts your ego.

If a girl had said "girl: (scoffs) no." around me she would be nexted immediately. However, there's a bunch of clever responses you could have used to shame her for that response considering the stereotype of physics majors being intelligent.

Also, this doesn't say much about the quality of women you are attempting to copulate with. If this is that big a problem for you then you should be moving up to higher quality, more intelligent women.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

m8 this is just basic fucking socializing. 90% of people male or female aren't going to relate to your physics degree

[–]KyfhoMyoba 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her: "Oh I hate physics."

You: "It is hard, isn't it?"

[–]maximumutility 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"oh... I hate physics" doesn't have to be a conversation killer. In fact, it even gives you something to work with. Immediately tease them for being bad at math or something

[–]socio_j 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Physics fucking rocks, why be with people that cannot appreciate the value and the contributions made by physics, fuck these people. (I know its not advice, sorry)

[–]throwaway68746 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't be hanging out with very many women...

[–]3G6A5W338E 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lie, lie, lie.

Then fuck then move on.

[–]batfish55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some good posts here. But I have a question:

WTF do you actually talk about? Yes, you should have her doing most of the talking, but you have to initiate SOME conversation.

I just finished an EE degree (kudos on the physics). After 4.5 years, I am so far out of the game. All I have left to talk about is electrons, and that ain't exactly a panty dropper, not unless I can puzzle out how to conjure lightning from her margarita.

I'm sure you have a similar problem. What's your solution?

[–]1kick6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "what do you do" talk is boring anyway. So either make up something totally fucking ridiculous that makes them sound stupid for asking. Ergo "I'm a bee keeper," "I'm a drinking fountain repairman," "I'm a trashman." Alternatively, describe what you're doing/studying in an interesting way instead of outright saying it. For the later, listen to anything Carl Sagan or Feynman, or Neil deGrasse Tyson has said to audiences on the subject, and repeat it. You CAN make physics sound cool if you tell physics as a story instead of just say "I do physics." Shit, 99% of jobs sound boring as fuck when stated flatly like that, even the bank-ass ones gold diggers might otherwise find interesting.

[–]ThePrince_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the advice that's been given about responses in the moment have all been pretty great, as well as the advice about maintaining your frame etc.

However, I think there's some underlying issues in the way you appear to the outside world. Yeah, a physicist generally doesn't have a lot of attraction attached to it, it is a provider role. You need to have more attractive traits and then those provider traits will make you come across as a very high value male.

[–]through_a_ways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I hate physics."

"So you're bad at it?"

[–]2niczar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same discussion with a friend who was a computer security expert at the time. I advised him to say he was an "industrial espionnage consultant." Worked well.

Turn the job description into something with a bang. Say you're a rocket scientist. Or a nuclear physicist. If you're an astrophysicist, call yourself a "black hole researcher" or something. Materials or mechanics? You study explosive demolition. Statistical mechanics? Good, more explosions.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really it depends on what you want.

If you're looking to spin plates, just say whatever you're comfortable with. "STEM Grad student", "Professor of sexual studies", whatever, because it doesn't matter.

If you're looking for a relationship then be 100% honest. This way you can weed out the shitty women who are looking for beta bux. Good women will appreciate the fact you're a grad student in a hard subject (whether or not they have even the remotest understanding of that subject) and respect you for your drive, work ethic, and passion.

[–]pbj_sammichez 0 points1 point  (4 children)

This is my first red pill post, and I was driven to post because I face this exact same problem. I have degrees in physics and math, and I frequently get the "Oh man, I hate physics." response. But sometimes I get, "Wow, physics? You must be really smart." (I actually just got this line from a cute little vietnamese girl at work a few weeks ago when I introduced myself - feels good man) How much should I be running with this? I tried to keep the attitude positive, and I talked about my other job like it's the greatest thing in the world because I work as a tutor. I get to do the cool part of teaching (helping people learn) without all that tedious crap like grading papers. I mentioned that the hours are great and the pay is awesome. However, I really had no idea what I was doing or saying. No strategy, no underlying goal (is this the idea of "frame" that I keep reading about?), just spouting off about my passion. I'm new to all of this stuff, and I'm trying to incorporate things as I go along rather than making excuses. The blue pill is strong with me, I have a lot to unlearn.

[–]3redpillshadow 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You have a frame when you talk about that passion.

Unfortunately it is the beta bux/ provider frame.

You are talking about helping others to achieve their goals. About not making hard decisions which hurt and offend others. And then you qualify to them by telling them that it earns you enough money to provide for them.

That puts you into the beta bux category. The nice guy who gets the 30 year old women who are finding themselves mature now after riding the cock carousal for years. The stable guy. The reliable guy. The boring guy. Not the exiting, wild one with his own mission in life.

[–]pbj_sammichez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn't considered that point of view. I was hoping that maybe my rambling had displayed that I have a passion for what I do, and that this passion would be an attractive trait. I hadn't considered how much my beta training was really coming through. Thanks for a unique insight.

[–]lateralus01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea man it's all about maintaining frame. Take a look at the comment from RPstudent cause I think he's right on target. I'm not sure why I didn't see it that way sooner but hey that's what this subreddit is all about. Embrace what makes you unique and forget all your insecurities. When you first start talking to a girl or a group of people just be cocky even though it may not be part of your natural personality. Once you've displayed your confidence and people can feel your energy it usually doesn't matter what you say and you can relax and just put out whatever comes to mind.

Relevant quote from game of thrones:

Never forget what you are. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you.

[–]lateralus01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should also mention that in my experience Asian girls in general aren't turned off by intelligence and are usually turned on by success ($$) so you can really use this to your advantage with them. They're nearly impossible to have casual sex with but pretty easy for people like us to have relationships with. They also look exactly the same between the ages of 14 to 60 which is why I'll probably marry one. They'll never cheat on you, they'll tell you that your dick is gigantic every time you fuck, and they're kinky as fuck too.

[–]DrSqua7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in a LTR with this girl for about 8 months, and I've never told her about my studies (pure math major) in detail. Sometimes I will tell her how much fun a certain class is, but there is no need to go any further than that.

[–]TheRealMewt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lie about what you do.

I'm in the military, so going out is a bit of a chore if I decide to hit up venues around base. They don't really stand out too much and more or less all act the same, but suddenly you start saying that you play professional tennis or (perhaps what I'd do if I were in your shoes since it really does tie into my career) "I study aviation", you stand out much better.

Granted, your issue is a little different from just merely standing out more when compared to the other males in the establishment, the falsification of what you do still works. Just make it believable. It's not like you're pursuing these girls for anything other than sex anyway.

[–]Paklenipas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl: studying what?

me: physics.

girl: oh... I hate physics

You, with a straight face: It's all relative...

What you want to do is show how unimportant the conversation subject is to you. You study what you study, moving on.

If you do get amoged, go full blast. YOU get the privilege to talk light about your profession because YOU are the one doing it. Anyone else should show you respect and if they don't should be the subject of a verbal ass whooping.

you: what do you do? Oh, you're a mechanic? I'm looking for some CHEAP parts for my car, I'll have to talk to you later. (You're making him your bitch and making him look cheap)

you: oh, you're a cop? I just saw one of you guys park in a handicap spot. I'll have to see if I remember the number of the unit. (You're making him look like a douche)


Also, lift heavy. When you improve your physique your "nerdy" profession will switch from being a negative for your SMV to becoming a boost, as you will become strong AND smart, a pure example of Alphaness.

tldr: do NOT talk about Start Trek and you'll be fine

[–]DrakeSaint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me: I'm a graduate student. girl: studying what?

Me: I'm studying to become a nuclear bomb maker.

Girl: What, really???

Me: Nah, just kidding; I'm a physicist, but the thought has crossed my mind.

[–]1AverageAsian69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a geophysicist, so I guess I'm not reaally a physicist, I do signal analysis for mineral/oil exploration applications, but when I tell girls that they're usually pretty interested. Once a girl asked if I'm in geology/geophysics does that mean I'm an environmentalist, I said fuck no honey I'm in the business of exploiting the earth's resources for huge profits, she couldn't resist it.

Maybe try to phrase what you do in a more interesting manner. What exactly do you study in the physics field? Start talking about some cool sounding shit and even if she doesn't understand, she should be impressed that you're an extremely intelligent individual. When you make yourself superior to her, it will turn the tables and she will naturally try to validate/prove herself to you that she's a worthy person to spend time with.

[–]mormon-virgin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just reframe it into something useful... physics is unending education due to new discoveries constantly. Do you have a specific subset of physics education that you find more interesting? Astrophysics? What are you going to do once you graduate? Say you're a scientist or whatever. If they hate physics they are stupid, physics runs the universe. I was talking to this chick who competed in body building (light weight, not a steroid chick) and one of her hobbies was reading books about physics, so not all girls think it is boring or stupid.

You want to lose a chick's interest fast? Tell her you're a computer programmer. zzzzZZZZzzz

[–]loveofnotes 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Doesn't EVERYTHING in EVERYONE'S lives relate to physics?

[–]masterrod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude if you're doing physics you must have some passion.. Tell her about your passion and make her believe in it..

Now you're playing into automatic response.

[–]Pushnikov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never tell people what you do, keep it mysterious. Hold your ground. Say something misdirecting instead.

"I'm a graduate student in being handsome."

Point at a bald guy, "Hey, is that Patrick Stewart over there?!"

Whatever it takes man. Trust me, have an arsenal up your sleeve to use. There's a lot of ways to get around it.

When you've already got her deep into the situation where she can't back out, then she can find out eventually.

[–]gerrrrrrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a nuclear physicist. It's fun... I can power entire cities or wipe them out.

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You: physicist Her: I hate physics You: well, we can't all work at a grocery store.


If it's medical physics, just tell them you cure cancer! Easy!

[–]thelotusknyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her: what do you do? Me: I figure out how to teleport shit

[–]drallcom3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say rocket scientist.

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Wiffle ball hole puncher or Strategic sesame seed installer at the local McDonalds

[–]tsudonimh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try something like

Her: What are you studying? You: I'm studying how the universe works so I can blow bits of it up. I see myself as the next Bond Villain.

[–]redpillspeeddate -1 points0 points  (2 children)

I work in tech in an area where working in tech is so common and can bring the same sort of reaction. My advice would be to get a side gig.

I host speed dating events, do brand promo work (you know the cute girls giving you free booze at events? They higher guys for that too, instant pre-selection as you are managing 2-3 of the hottest girls at the event) and I give surfing lessons.

My conversations used to be like this:

girl: So what do you do?

me: I'm a web developer.

girl: oh... I'm not really into computers...


Current answer:

girl: So what do you do?

me: I'm a surfing instructor

girl: ohhhh I have always wanted to learn how to surf....

me: It's the second most fun thing in the world...

girl: Whats the first...

me: I'm more of a shower than a talker, lets get out of here and I will show you....


girl: So what do you do?

me: I host speed dating events

girl: Ohhhh interesting I have never done that.

me: Yeah, you wouldn't do very well at it...

girl: Really why is that??? am I not X enough?

me: Nah, it really works well for 4-6's - below a 4 nobody likes you, above a 6 they don't like anyone else.

girl: So what would you say I am....

me: I need a bit more time to make a judgement, I can be bought for the price of a drink....

Its about framing what you do and putting it into an emotional context. Surfing lessons play on the desire, leadership and excitement emotions, the speed date hosting plays on her wanting to be better than others and its a huge source of gossip for her and her friends.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yea..... he should get a side gig while he's a grad student in a physics program just so he can have something to talk to bitches about....

That would be pathetic. He should learn to make physics sound badass as fuck.

[–]redpillspeeddate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes getting an easy side gig for a night is a hell of a lot of fun. Doing brand ambassador work is easy, gets you into parties and if he has time to go to parties he has time for an evening side gig that brings him into contact with women.

[–]tylertgbh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

...If only they realised how much money you'll make with that degree.