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Blue Pill ExampleAlways remain calm. Nothing is worth your anger. (Divorce story) (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Alejandroses

I married on 4/20/13 (420 ayeeee) and it was a huge mistake.

Fast forward to November 2014. I flew home from South Korea on a moments notice to save my marriage. It did not work, she was done and had already cheated multiple times. My dumbass forgave her for this. The months leading up to this took a toll on my brain. I was so exhausted from dealing with my wife (she was in California while I was in South Korea) that once November came my brain knew nothing but calmness. It was tired and I was done. I will fast forward to the night I finally decided to end it.

We're laying in bed. No talking, no sex, no nothing. I thought to myself "Wtf is this?" and I got up and started getting dressed. This is the moment I feel like the natural Red Pill kicked in.

"Where are you going?"

"Im done. This is stupid. Its a waste of life."

"Youre just overreacting."

"I am not. I will come for my stuff tomorrow and this marriage is done."

The next day I showed up to get my things. There are only 3 things I wanted. My 51 inch TV, my surround sound system for my room, and my car. These 3 things were super important to me because its the 3 things I most cared about prior to getting married lol (got married at 21, I was blue pill betaboi). I knew I was about to live alone and I did not want to go out and get a new TV and a new surround sound and I definitely was not going to give her the car I had gotten at 19. That was my baby.

So I get out of my car and I say "I am here for my TV and the surround sound. Anything else you can keep I dont care."

"Yeah sorry but no. I mean youre already taking the car so I am going to keep these things."

Lol. All I could think of was "I pay for your phone bill. Prior to today I was your main source of income. Now I want 2 things and I cannot have them because Im already taking the car? That I had prior to marriage? I cant have MY stuff?" Some women have no shame. I was so over this stupid marriage that I said "fuck it." and I left. I just wanted out, no drama.

I flew back to South Korea and did not pursue the divorce until March, when I returned. From November 2014 to March 2015 she:

  1. Called to ask me about my taxes. She wanted money. I refused and told her I filed for taxes alone.
  2. Tried to kill herself. Luckily we had insurance and that paid for the bills.
  3. Got pregnant by some other dude.

Now here comes the fun part. I knew who the guy was. It was one of her ex-bfs lol. His mother was super close to my ex wife because my ex wife took her to her cancer treatments even after he had broken up with her. My ex wife had moved into her "mothers" house around December and around that time her ex bf lost his job and moved back in with mommy. Once they were living together they fucked and she got preggo.

I returned from South Korea in March and my second day back I met up with the "mother". She loved me! When my ex wife introduced me she took me in as her "son" and she adored me. She was super cool and I decided to meet up with her to ask about her son and my wifes kid. (She had also called me back in December to tell me my wife had moved in and that it was nothing personal against me. She just needed to help my ex wife like my ex wife helped her with cancer. I took it with no hard feelings. She was just an innocent woman trying to help.)

"Are they going to take responsibility for their child? Or will she say its mine because were not divorced yet and expect me to pay for this?"

A few moments of silence..."My son is scared. He already lost his first girl to his other baby momma (lmfao) and now he's scared that you will claim this kid and he will loose it too."

I thought to myself. "I want my tv, my fucking surround sound system, and my car. If I dont get these things I am going to be a fucking wonderful single dad." I look a her in the eye and say. "I only want a few things. My tv, my surround sound, my car, and for her to sign the divorce papers with no questions."

She looked at me like if she had just seen Jesus. "That is all you want?"

"Yes. If I get that I dont care about her child, I dont care about your son, and they can live happily ever after. I told her back in November that I just wanted my stuff."

"Wait.....she knows this?"

"Yes..."

Her eyes filled with rage. I am assuming that her son and her were worried that I would want the baby lol. And I am assuming that my ex wife had not told them what I wanted because my ex wife was still trying to milk me for my money. She looks at me and says "Tomorrow I will call you, I will tell you were to meet me and I will have your stuff for you."

I raised one eyebrow (jk I didnt because I cant but If I could I would have). I said "Mmmm. Well if you say so." A part of me did not believe her because my ex wife is a bitch.

She left soon after that and I went to visit my Father in Law (He knew I was divorcing his daughter. I had a talk with him and shit and he ended up crying and told me that if I needed to divorce her, to do it. He knew she was a fuck up too lol). I had not visited him and he was a nice guy so I just wanted to say hi. As I was talking to him my phone vibrated and I got a text from "mother"

"Can you come right now?"

What the actual fuck. She had said tomorrow lol. I call her and ask "Whats wrong?"

"I got home. Asked your wife about your stuff. I said I was going to take them to you tomorrow and my son jumped in to defend her. Now hes against me. Yelling at me, telling me that why am I taking your side after just one talk with you. I told him that your wife is a bitch and shes been trying to get money from you and now he wants to talk to you". I reply "I will be there in 20." I say bye to my wifes dad and head over to the shitstorm.

Here's were the fun part begins.

I show up to the house and I knock. The door opens, its the son, he steps outside and says

"Lets talk bro."

"Sure thing man whats up?"

"So wtf is going on man, how did this all happen?"

"Well. She cheated so now I am done. Thats basically it."

"She cheated on you with these 2 girls right?"

"Uhhhh no bro. With this dude." For story purposes lets call him Jay.

"With a dude?!"

In my head "This is about to get fucking good." I begin to elaborate, "Yeah man, she cheated on me with this dude. She also talks to another one of her ex bf's now (different story) so that baby might not even be yours."

He cuts me off "Lets go inside." he says as he leads us inside.

I walk in side and I see his mother, his mothers roommate (lady was renting a room there) and my wife. Keep in mind, I have not seen my wife since November when she denied me my stuff. It has now been 4 months since I last saw her in person and it was a pretty strange feeling. I saw her there sitting on the couch, nice and quiet.

"Mom" the son looks to his mom "How long was I out there? 2 minutes? less?"

He then looks at my wife and asks "I told you if he came here and told me some shit about you I didnt know about I was going to help him take whatever the fuck he wants from this house. Remember?"

She nods.

"Who the fuck is Jay?"

This caught her off guard. She didnt expert to hear the guys name and she did not respond and that alone was enough to confirm to him that it was true. "What the fuck! I thought you had told me everything? I told you everything about me and my baby momma and all the drama I had in my life and you said you told me everything. Wtf is this!? Why does he show up here and within 2 minutes hes already winning."

I decided to add more fuel to the fire "She only cares about herself bro."

"I can see that! Well since it doesnt fucking matter anymore, I'll tell you who else she cheated on you with. With me."

I just stare.

"Before she went to Korea to see you I hung out with her. She told me she wanted to be with me and I let her know that she was married and that she should go home and talk to you instead. Maybe she just missed you. She responded and told me that she didnt miss you and that she had already made up her mind that she wanted to be with me. That it would NEVER work with you."

Strange as it sounds, I did believe him. The dude is not some monster. He might be a fuck up, but not a monster. What he said should have hurt me because my wife had gone to Korea for 3 months to see me, during that time she said she loved me and blah blah. So this ho had the nerve to say this to this guy and then go visit me and tell me she loved me. Hoes will be hoes.

"Youre a real piece if shit." I said to my wife. It was the only thing I said that night. I saw her eyes light up and I could see she was about to fire back with some bullshit but he cut her off "No! He can call you whatever the fuck he wants." He then looks at me "Did she try to get money from you?"

"Yeah, tried to get some of my tax money."

Wife chimes in "No I didnt, I called to tell you to take me off your taxes."

I started laughing so hard I swore all 4 of them were going to turn on me for being rude. "No lol, you called and got mad because I rejected you."

Mothers roommate chimes in "Its true. You were mad steaming that day in the car because he said no. I was with you."

She had nowhere to run. A defenseless animal cornered by the very same people she loved. The mother got up and went to open her room and the door was locked. "Give me the key to the room." she said.

"No." My wife responded.

"Give me the fucking key."

"No."

"GIVE ME THE FUCKING KEY BEFORE I BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOU!" as she yelled this she walked over to her and was about to bust her shit but the son jumped in and got in between. "You know what! This is my fucking house." and she slammed the door open. Hinges flying everywhere. "Get your stuff." she says to me.

I go in there and start getting my shit. As I am walking my shit out I can hear the guy yelling at my wife "YOU TOLD ME YOU FUCKING DID EVERYTHING FOR HIM. YOU FUCKING TREATED HIM LIKE A KING AND WENT ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR HIM. FUCK THAT, YOU GAVE THIS MAN HELL! I DONT KNOW HOW THE FUCK HE PUT UP WITH YOU!" and he just kept going.

I finally had all my shit out and the mom and son come out to talk to me. The guy says "I feel like telling her to leave." he was mad.

As were talking my wife finally comes out and starts saying "You think youre so innocent huh?"

"Get back in the house" says the mother.

"He thinks he so innocent, like hes done nothing wrong. You met with your ex last week they already told me.:"

This is true, I did. Shes an ex from years ago and now were just good friends. We met up to talk about our failed relationships lmao did not smash. I look at my wife and say "Okay...and?"

Mother chimes in "Get in the house." with a more serious tone.

Wife begins to spew more diarrhea and the mother raises her voice one more time "Get in the FUCKING house!"

My wife goes back in the fucking house lol

The son goes after her and 2 minutes later comes outside apologizing to the mom for the new hole in the wall. He goes back in and clothes start flying out the front door. "I told you if you decide to leave this house youre never fucking coming back."

The mom looks at me. "You got your stuff. You can go. I have to deal with this." I give her a hug and say bye.

Fast forward a few months my wife agrees to everything! I kept all my shit even the furniture and all sorts of crap. She never fought me in court because everyone in her life would have been againts her if she did because they all loved me. And that is the greatest revenge I could have ever asked for.

I think sometimes. What if I had shown up to the house, got in a fight with the dude and all that, this outcome would have sucked. I remained calm because I just didnt give a shit anymore and ever since that marriage I have never let anyone walk over me like that. Put yourself first! Do not let ANYONE dictate your life and always remember to remain calm, because when you are calm you make the wisest decisions.

Also dont get married lolz.

EDIT: Adding something here for feel good purposes. At the end before her mother told me to go, she told me that prior to me getting there the tension in the room was massive! The 20 minutes it took me to get there felt like years to her. She said you could hear an Ant walking. Every now and then my wife would say "Im leaving. I know what hes going to say when he gets here and I cannot believe you guys are going to just let him come here and talk his shit. This is stupid. I am leaving." The mother didnt let her though. She told her to sit her fucking ass down and wait. She told her "If you know what hes going to say, you have nothing to worry about than" but my ex wife knew that the shit was about to hit the fan, and she was right.


[–]1ozaku7 506 points507 points  (9 children)

This gave me a raging justice boner. Thanks for sharing this story, I enjoyed it to the fullest. It just shows that there are still decent women like her mother around who can turn against her own daughter and her bullshit. A clear gap in generations.

[–]Alejandroses[S] 178 points179 points  (8 children)

Yes dude that was the best part! One of the lines she threw at her prior to this (She had told me this when we conversated before she went home) was "You think just because you took me to my cancer appointments back then you can just come into my house and fuck under my roof? If the owner of this house (referring to herself, a single mother) is not fucking in this house, NOBODY is fucking!"

[–]1ozaku7 73 points74 points  (6 children)

Hahaha, brilliant! Now imagine you actually fucking her mom a year later under her roof.

[–]Mangiorno 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i spitted my teeths from laughin

[–]Trooper_1868 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU ARE THE MAN! HANDLED IT AWESOME!! :)

[–]Redpillandrew 60 points61 points  (3 children)

"I only want a few things. My tv, my surround sound, my car, and for her to sign the divorce papers with no questions."

Like the Big Lebowski, he just wanted his new carpet

[–]Smartass26 28 points29 points  (2 children)

A rug that tied the whole room together

[–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 8 points9 points  (1 child)

That's just, like, your opinion, man.

[–]sc1690 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Guess the bum's always lose.

[–]darkskies1094trump 128 points129 points  (1 child)

Lesson learned: Never be afraid to risk zeroing out, and start over. Even if she'd trashed the electronics and set the car on fire, divorce raped him, and leached him for child-support...leaving would still be the right answer.

Face your fears, walk through them.

[–]Rares5555 35 points36 points  (0 children)

So now you are 24 (25?), with all your life ahead and a fucking bomb ass divorce story? This might have felt better than the day you got married.

Hats off for you, my brother.

[–]t44g 152 points153 points  (18 children)

How can someone be this manipulative, evil, terrible human being, I just don't understand. She twisted everyone around her will, but as soon as they heard your story, they believed you. What a fucking bitch. I'm happy for you, imagine being with her for 10 years, some beta cucks are afraid of letting go, I'm glad you're not one of those.

[–]Herdsengineers 102 points103 points  (0 children)

they believed him that quick because they knew she was full of shit already. he just provided the missing pieces to finish putting the puzzle together for themselves.

glad OP got his stuff back.

[–]Endorsed Contributorsadomasochrist 51 points52 points  (1 child)

She twisted everyone around her will

Cluster-B with no FTO. They're all about exploiting and salvaging the current state of their life, with no concern to the future. The scary thing is that in the short and medium term, it's very effective.

Psychopaths use this strategy, it has a low future payoff which is why they end up having to move around constantly, to escape their reputation.

And well, being that the world is a hierarchy, if you have to keep starting at the bottom, well, good luck on that strategy.

[–]vicious_armbar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately if the psychopath has a pussy and is fertile, or has men willing to marry her; she can extract money very efficiently through the family court system.

[–]Alejandroses[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She twisted EVERYONE! All her posts on Facebook had all her little ho friends saying "Yeah you go girl. Sometimes its better to just let go" and yadda yadda.

All her male friends also putting in their 2 cents. Everything was going fine for her, until I returned home ;) lol

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 35 points36 points  (1 child)

How can someone be this manipulative, evil, terrible human being, I just don't understand.

So um, there is this thing about girls... It's in the sidebar. Might want to have a gander at it.

[–]juliusstreicher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What, like it'll give us some information about their behavior, or something?

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (5 children)

The biggest redpill is realizing that maybe 1% of men would be this heartless to carry out this kind of manipulation, and maybe only 1% of that 1% actually have the manipulation skills to get away with it. However for women, probably 75% of women can be this heartless and manipulative, and 50% of those actually have the manipulative skills to carry it out.

This is because to women, they actually convince themselves of their own lies. A manipulative man knows what he is doing is wrong, but to a woman, she innately knows how to manipulate and navigate social dynamics to stack the deck in their own favour - but once she becomes emotional, she genuinely believes her own story and will do absolutely anything to get what she wants. This is why you see women throwing around false rape accusations like candy - they aren't intentionally being manipulative snakes, they're simply following their biological drives aided by their cognitive abilities to spin the hamster wheel.

[–]Chaddeus_Rex 6 points7 points  (3 children)

That's why you fight fire with fire and manipulate the shit out of them too and don't worry about being a 'bad' man.

[–]sd4c 2 points3 points  (2 children)

No, no: you don’t stoop to their level. Assume the worst (divorce rape) and hope for the best (she doesn’t because you’re worth more as an ally).

Keep notes on your fights, occasionally come home from work early- and defend yourself- but never cheat, steal, or lie. Why?

Because being squeaky-clean robs her of blackmail, and gives you, the nuclear option (going public with 600 screenshots).

I once had a bitch thrown in jail. For weeks she’d been hitting me, I was pissed but too smart to just hit her back. Bided my time and pretended to submit. Tried to bait her into getting booked earlier, but then realized I had something in my trunk that might not have been legal.

I swung by the house, smuggled it inside in a damned cereal box, and two hours later she lost her shit in public and was arrested for assault.

[–]Chaddeus_Rex 1 point2 points  (1 child)

No, no: you don’t stoop to their level.

That's some Justin trudeau level shit. and a man doesn't stoop to Justin trudeau level shit lmao.

Keep notes on your fights, occasionally come home from work early- and defend yourself- but never cheat, steal, or lie. Why? Because being squeaky-clean robs her of blackmail, and gives you, the nuclear option (going public with 600 screenshots). I once had a bitch thrown in jail. For weeks she’d been hitting me, I was pissed but too smart to just hit her back. Bided my time and pretended to submit. Tried to bait her into getting booked earlier, but then realized I had something in my trunk that might not have been legal. I swung by the house, smuggled it inside in a damned cereal box, and two hours later she lost her shit in public and was arrested for assault.

Now that's some shit i can get behind. can you describe more of this?

[–]sd4c 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't get the political reference, sorry.

The exgf was a bad person, who ripped through people's lives spreading anguish and misery, by playing cute little miss victim, but was actually a demonic saboteur, who got her thrills from control, domination, and the satisfaction of successful deceit. She weaponized her vagina, to steal other chick's men, but her womb was both a tomb and an arsenal. She realized she could get more sympathy and money for herself, as a Mom. Cared nothing for her kids or the men she ruined. Had abortions like most people get fillings; and took a nap after.

There was an unrelated, ruthless home invasion killing nearby my suburban home. So for a bit of time after, I had some tools to make repairs in case things fell apart. I'm no Navy SEAL, but I have no desire to beg for my life as last act on the planet. Nothing happened more, but I didn't want the law to think I was a thug. So I waited to call for "help" with the ex, until I could make sure I'd be in the clear.

[–]sd4c -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Shit-damn, this is a well-written comment. I’m guessing 130 IQ (~95 percentile on standardized tests, like LSAT or GRE).

[–]sd4c 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Success, is the best revenge.

[–]sori97 15 points16 points  (1 child)

For real man. Honestly, this is going to sound mysoginistic but, 80% of women are just fun seeking short minded individuals who have no sense of loyalty or ramifications because everything is handed to them amd because they are validated on top of it. Some men are like this but to a lesser degree compared to women because vagina

[–]cashmoney_x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's 100% but 30-500% don't have the circumstances to allow it and that's why they are so depressed and all on meds.

[–]idgaf- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yo they are trained this way from childhood, now.

Many little girls grow up with no discipline and no consequences. Then because of all the babying, they have fragile egos and have no problems lying to protect it. Even from very early age they pick up on how to manipulate others.

[–]redrogue12 118 points119 points  (16 children)

I had to masturbate to this. It was awesome.

[–]sd4c 68 points69 points  (8 children)

The best part, is that most of her inconvenience at the end, could have been averted JUST BY GIVING OP HIS DAMNED THINGS. I almost said, it stemmed from petty greed. But no, she didn't really want the stereo. It was petty cruelty. She wanted to "win", wanted to get away with something, just one more time. If he had asked her to hang onto the TV or car for safe keeping, say, so it wouldn't be taken from him in some accident lawsuit- she'd forced him to take it.

[–]Intubater69 26 points27 points  (7 children)

Thats like my ex. She just wanted my stuff so she could say she won. She even took and kept things of mine that I had long before I met her, and after the divorce, she would and still does send me pictures of them and says "these are mine". Ummm, no, they are mine but she won't return them, and the hassles and costs of having a lawyer fight for them is pointless. As far as I am concerned, being away from her and living my life without her, far exceeds the loss of personal items.

[–]Dragon_Garoo 19 points20 points  (1 child)

The biggest and best thing I ever did in a relationship was go through everything... and I mean everything... and gather it up as I found it, and give it back to her, un-requested, in three tranches, over several months.

I didn't want her shit, I didn't want her memories, I didn't want anything that was ever even slightly related. It. Drove. Her. Nuts. So much so that her roomie got mad the 2nd time I had a batch of things I had found in the storage closet for her. "Why does she even want it? Is it gonna be pictures or something she doesn't want?" To which I responded: "Well the pics were mostly her and her friends. We had fun times, it wasn't all bad, but y'know, I didn't want that stuff."

Each time, she had to have an intermediary, someone that wasn't me, cuz she just, couldn't, face me. LOL. Take your stuff, I don't want your xmas presents, i don't want your valentines shit, I don't want anything. Seriously, purge the girl the way she would purge you. It's cathartic and helps you move on. Breaks any BP neediness and really reminds her that she's not all that.

Don't worry about your stuff. She took things that didn't belong to her. Some annoyed me but really, I have money. I can buy new shit. Why would I want anything tainted with BP possibilities? Nope. Just nope. Move along. Nothing to see here. My turn is over.

[–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry about your stuff. She took things that didn't belong to her. Some annoyed me but really, I have money. I can buy new shit.

Yes, this. If it’s lifesaving medicine, or a gun- get it back. Anything else has more value, as proof you’d rather not see her, than have the stuff back. And the more valuable it is, the more vulgar the display of power.

[–]DrankOfSmell 2 points3 points  (1 child)

You've blocked her by this point right?

[–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (1 child)

A couple things:

1) The Rule from HEAT

2) Prepare for war during times of peace. Perhaps you could have found a way to retrieve your things without a fight. Or to imply that an item, had far more value than you actually attribute to it.

Mentioning: “That was my grandpa’s favorite watch.” Leaving out, “...for while mowing the lawn.”

[–]sd4c 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HEAT film quote:

“Never get involved in a deal you can’t walk away from in 30 seconds or less.”

[–]Alejandroses[S] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Thanks man! Glad you liked the read! There was so much more things that happened but too long to type and stuff lol but I have like so many examples of her failing to get what she wanted during this time lol. Life just shat on her as soon as I came back. Even her friends got annoyed with her.

[–]Kafkaevsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could read all of it. I like your writing style.

[–]Extremely_Photogenic -2 points-1 points  (4 children)

You like your blue pill pornography?

[–]sd4c 4 points5 points  (3 children)

This ain’t BP pornography. This guy got cheated on, made the fool, and almost cucked. It seems like karma got her in the end, but that’s not really true: it was her own fallibility, her entitlement complex, that fucked her in the end.

Blue Pill pornography would have been: he forgave her for the betrayal, raised the other guys kids, and something happened to her at the end to even the score.

Nope, not even close. OP still got a bad deal. She just cut herself, sheathing the sword.

[–]Extremely_Photogenic 1 point2 points  (2 children)

No, this is a revenger fantasy where the chat is getting boners over a girl suffering. Anger phase

[–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Not "over a girl suffering". Over a liar being exposed. Even some women, would take satisfaction in this.

[–]Extremely_Photogenic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even some women

Your example of this being Red Pill is that some women would agree with you?

[–]PoseidonsNutsack 64 points65 points  (4 children)

what kinda sound system you got bro

[–]PM_ME_YOUR_RC51 15 points16 points  (1 child)

I want wondering what kind of car honestly...it's his baby after all..

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Asking the real questions! You sir are the hero we need!

[–]Endorsed Contributorsadomasochrist 50 points51 points  (4 children)

Reflair this as blue pill example. Your life is about to improve dramatically, congratulations. Feels good to play to the end, but it was foolish to expend that much energy for ego battles.

But we all do it.

Check out some info on NPD etc. The ego battles are obvious, things will be better once you sort yourself out there, if that is your issue.

Either way, this is a bigger blessing than you could ever imagine without kids.

[–]Alejandroses[S] 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I have reflaired! I suck at the flairs thanks for helping! lol

I will check out some of the info you put. Thanks for the positive words dude! It feels good to read comments like these and thanks for taking the time to read! I have never been happier than I am now man. I fully embrace the Red Pill because of this situation lol

[–]Future96 0 points1 point  (1 child)

One more thing...use less LOLs...just kidding :)

[–]Sad_Larry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the lols were my favorite part

[–]twy3440 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah but he did want his stereo, TV, etc.

[–]Andgelyo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Fucking love it, A+ post lmao sounded like some shit from a comedy movie. The now (ex?) boyfriend sounded like a total bro. It was like your ex wife was getting rammed from all sides and she couldn’t do shit lmao

[–]Top_Brazzler 11 points12 points  (0 children)

http://archive.is/5YBVS

Great story, 10/10, need to use names for your ex wife and the guy so the story is more readable though, lol.

[–]Reanimated1 28 points29 points  (2 children)

This is some Beverly Hillbillies shit.

[–]dongus88 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Guarantee this happened in an inner city ghetto

[–]DenyHerYourEssence 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Great story, thanks for sharing. My takeaway lessons (which won’t be new to people who do any reading on this sub) are:

1) Never get married; 2) Never live together; 3) Once you follow 1 and 2, never underestimate the power of your ability to leave; 4) Never underestimate a woman’s ability to rationalize an action, no matter how selfish, evil, or ridiculous it is.

[–]sd4c 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I almost agree with this. Except to real alphas, it doesn’t apply. Cartel bosses pick wives all the time. The chicks do as they’re told, so they don’t end up fed to dogs.

You just don’t take on a fight you can’t win, and don’t get attached to your pets. If you’re a middle class guy, in the US or same- you CAN get married, you can live together, you just have to do so in Guatemala or the Philippines. You won’t have enough power-difference, to win in the states, because of your (4): selfish and evil.

[–]prettyflyforabrowngy 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Was this girl really hot or something? She sounds terrible

[–]sd4c 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Just needs to be hot to OP, comparative speaking.

[–]prettyflyforabrowngy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and a bunch of other dudes, from what it sounds like

[–]ShotgunTRP 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is some men's magazine soap right here

[–]BigRingsLikeMJ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If this story was a movie I'd watch the shit out of it

[–]tompanz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Far too many guys think flying off the handle for almost no reason is somehow manly. It isn't. The strong emotions such as rage and hatred and the inability to control are feminine traits. Be assertive, be aggressive, always stand up for yourself, but always keep your cool except in extreme circumstances.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

South Korea.... married young... lots of cheating...

Let me guess. You were a soldier.

I can predict the rest of the story from that.

[–]Solon64 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the ladies I work with is getting married young to a soldier. She has lots of tatoos and piercings, was kind of a ho before she got with this guy, and he's getting deployed soon.

I already know where this story is headed, I've got my bowl of popcorn ready and everything.

[–]CSizzler 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Moral of the story is get high on 4/20 rather than married!

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[–]Alejandroses[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They are not! Lmao he bounces back between her and his other baby momma and every time he does they fight each other. The two moms lmfao! Then they become best friends and then once he shows one more attention they fight again. At least this used to be the case, I dont know anymore. The mother moved out of state and I havent had a chance to catch up. But I do know they are not together lol.

That guy was Red Pill candidate for sure! Hopefully he runs into this sub at some point in his life. I am sure he felt bad too. One moment he was sitting on the couch watching TV with his girl lol, the next moment his mom is up their ass and within the next few minutes his whole world has changed lol

[–]redblueninja 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man! That must have been one hell of a surround sound system. You are the DUDE! the big lebowski dude. Your rug is that sound system.

[–]1GreenPiller 22 points23 points  (4 children)

Thank you for this post, many faggots advocating for marriage are asking for the banhammer

[–]Alejandroses[S] 11 points12 points  (3 children)

Yeah man Im tired of these sillybois advocating for marriage. I mean marriage is for some people, but not for everyone.

[–]henrysmyagent 26 points27 points  (2 children)

...marriage is for some people = Women

...but not for everyone = Men

[–]sd4c -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not marriage if either can leave.

It’s not sex if there’s no chance of children.

She’s not a woman if dicks meaned her up. She a man with a little tiny tiny dick, you’d be mad too

[–]eccentricrealist 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Shit man you could post this on ProRevenge and they'd love it. I'm glad you kept your cool. It's nice when you can set aside your differences and reach a common ground, because sure, you can be pissed off with the guy your wife was with, but the compromise was hers in the first place.

[–]shredzro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So many lessons in one OP. I usually don’t like stories on trp but this one goes down in the books!

[–]Heart_of_a_Lion0414 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whoever said this sub Reddit couldn't be a source of feel good inspiration? My faith in the world is slightly restored.

[–]nhlfod21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although AWALT to some extent, this woman seems to have enough things going on to make me think "borderline"! Yikes that's some special crazy you escaped there.

[–]NotLuceBree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gotta say, this is one of the most satisfying things I've read.

A true lesson in the power of detachment during life's most pressurized moments. "Grace under fire", as they call it.

Well done, sir.

[–]rorrr 15 points16 points  (4 children)

That's way too much stupid drama over a fucking TV and a stereo.

[–]leviathan51 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And divorce signature. Without this drama, he may had to fight in a court.

[–]sd4c 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Bullshit. You hold the fucking line, Private.

“If I let a man steal my chickens, I might as well give him my daughters.”

Don’t give one fucking inch, you don’t have to. Your life is not worth that much, cause you’re really, already dead.

[–]rorrr -1 points0 points  (1 child)

He could've made more money in the time he had wasted on this bullshit. Used TVs and stereos are really not that expensive.

[–]8n0n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He could've made more money in the time he had wasted on this bullshit. Used TVs and stereos are really not that expensive.

...and lost it later when he let some other woman walk all over him.

The point of the OP is not the possessions but being able to 'man up' and stand up for himself. It doesn't matter if its a house or a packet of skittles, own your shit.

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[–]Self-honest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keeping your calm is everything man. Patrice O'neal always talks about being righteous. To me, this is a huge reason everyone took your side. Obviously they already thought she was a liar, but the ex boyfriend's self deception is a powerful thing to overcome from that position. Going over to talk with him calmly and respectfully definitely tipped the scales in your favor.

I recently went through something similar with a terrifyingly crazy SO. We were not married, but the breakup could have gone horribly wrong. Thanks to TRP I kept my fucking mouth shut and and my emotions in check enough to walk away unscathed. I'm planning a post when I have time to go through it all in detail. Glad things worked out for you. Best of luck to you my dude.

[–]omega_dawg93 5 points6 points  (1 child)

when i left my ex in Texas, i left everything behind... just wanted to see the Louisiana state line ahead of me and "welcome to texas" in my rear-view mirror.

left an NAD 5 component stereo system behind ($4000)... that's my only regret.

[–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go back. They’re called breaching slugs for a reason.

[–]HS-Thompson 32 points33 points  (5 children)

What is this some kind of white trash serial novel or something?

Jesus man, aim a little fucking higher in life. None of this shit matters at all and every single person in this story is making horrible life choices, including you. There's nothing to be proud of here at all.

[–]Alejandroses[S] 39 points40 points  (4 children)

She acted like a fucking angel up until the point where I married her. After that she went berserk and started being a bitch about everything.

Only thing I am proud of is that I made is out alive lol

[–]telluwhut 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Were there really no warning signs or anything that you brushed aside? She seems a little beyond the normal AWALT and into personality disorder territory.

[–]Ivan_The_Reddish 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He said he was blue pill up to that time. Captain Save-A-Ho isn't the world's most popular super hero for no reason.

[–]vicious_armbar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Incentives effect behavior. Why does that surprise you? Once he put a ring on it she knew he had to continue to support her. Or divorce her and she would take half and maybe get alimony. Do you think men here would work so hard to improve every aspect of their lives; if instead they could just press a button, and a hot virgin willing to fuck them would show up at their front door?

[–]DalekJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would do the same for my tv and stereo

[–]Arhamzubair 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't normally read long stories, but had a great time reading this! Thanks for sharing!

[–]RedPilledRoaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was entertaining as fuck to read. A good way to end the day.

[–]manvscode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, I’ve lived your life. Your wife has BPD most likely.

[–]p3n1x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't make decisions when you are angry, and don't make promises when you are happy.

[–]1empatheticapathetic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll get down voted to fuck but...nothing happened at all in this story. I don't see what the big deal is.

You got a divorce in the end and your stereo. No kids involved. No fucked up shit. A little stand off. What's the big deal.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved this story i could just see the walls caving in on all her bullshit that she told everyone. Its wonderful

[–]Beanx94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, just reading this post made me angry...how did you stay calm?

[–]SpaceViolet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

got married

We all know the real mistake in this story

[–]shermanator987 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I wish I could be this strong

[–]sd4c 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You are under no obligation, to be the person you were five minutes ago”

[–]Eclectiqque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

deadass serious you should make a short movie/maybe short book about this. i rarely get the "emotional rollercoaster" feeling when I read stuff but this thing really got me.

[–]jethreezy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never fought me in court because everyone in her life would have been againts her if she did

The only thing that has ever been and will ever be able to somewhat hold female hypergamy and malice in check: social ostracism.

[–]waldo888 2 points3 points  (1 child)

BULL SHIT. You lying piece.

[–]notforporn155 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This reeks of some daydreamed revenge fantasy

[–]MaxWyght 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My justice boner is rock hard.

[–]Luckyluke23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this story was awesome man. loved it!

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[–]1Sir_Distic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Almost never. I'm not talking about feeling anger. That's impossible. But displaying it. I'd personally say the only time to display anger is when defending yourself from violence. Now that's easier said than done. But if some woman says some hurtful, hateful, evil shit to you... laugh in her face. Laugh right at that silly teenage girl. Emotionally teenage. Don't take women seriously.

[–]NofapFrance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, there are still decent women. Man you made my day, 10/10 Would fap again to that justice porn tape.

[–]40PercentChromium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First example for me, where the guy wasn't skinned alive after divorce. Hats off to you sir

[–]cashmoney_x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all lie the exact same way.

[–]Psychocist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's horrific how selfish and remorseless someone can be. I know AWALT but I truly hope most don't do shit like this.

Anyway, nice one! You managed this well. I think lesser men would have drove that car through a wall.

[–]virtualvirgincake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice one man. Good luck for the future

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its seems to me at least a little hard to believe that all this happened the way it did but if it did really great job bro :) your right when you are calm you make the best decisions

tnx for the post

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[–]Wel108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was epic man. Fuck, so epic. One day you'll be in some shit again, and you'll always think back at this story about yourself. This will pull you through.

Now go find happiness in whatever the fuck fulfills you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad it worked out for you, but you made many risky moves. This could have gone super badly for you. Like, you wind up seriously hurt, in prison, and losing what little you had, on top of probably getting on the hook for child support.

Next time (there better not be a next time) just walk away and take your shit on the spot. Go no contact and record any communication she sends you and lawyer up.

[–]Impatient_Virgin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL;DR don't drop out of college.

[–]AkikoAlbay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jesus! This guy's Abundance Mentality is OVER 9000!