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Red Pill TheoryMake her day. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Endorsed ContributorHeathcliff--

A few weeks ago I was standing on an underground escalator and did that thing where I turn around to watch all the bored people behind me as I slowly rise backwards into the air and feel like I’m in some kind of dystopian movie cutscene.

As I turn I’m greeted by the face an older woman. She’s standing right behind me on the step below, and notices me turn around; looks a bit puzzled about it. Of course it’s kind of a weird thing to do to turn around on an escalator, I don’t blame her, and I can’t just ignore her presence as if she’s not there, we’re standing uncomfortably face to face. Hey don’t blame me she broke the escalator etiquette of leaving one step in-between each person. We have those rules for a reason man.

Okay so she’s not that old, like middle age, but I’m young so she’s out my range for women I can comfortably hit on. I can tell that back in her time she must have been a real looker, wall hasn’t smashed her too hard yet, nice hair and makeup, but I can see the tiredness of a long office day in her eyes. It’s kind of awkward though and I’ll look like more of a sperg if I don’t say something.

So I say “Hi”.

She’s very suspicious of me. Of course, I got that whole fuckboy thing going on.

“Hello” she says.

“You’re very pretty” I say.

Her eyes light up, then her mouth follows, into a big, toothy smile.

“Um, thank you” she stammers out, blushing. She seems very surprised yet pleased by this. Her face looks younger and softer.

“That’s all I wanted to say-bye”.

I walk up the remainder of the escalator.

She laughs hard and then says “bye” too.

As I hop off I sneak a glance behind me and she’s still beaming like a happy child, smiling to herself.

When I got home I had this tremendous sense of satisfaction with myself, a wellbeing that followed me into a pleasant dream and a happy morning. It felt great.

So I did it again.


It was an underground train, and a girl hopped on in what seemed to be a cosplay. Had a blue wig on and the pleated schoolgirl skirt and the zettai ryouki; had she been older I would have been all over that shit but actually probably not because I still have mad anxiety with hitting on girls on public transport… everyone’s watching and can hear everything!

But I remembered what happened the day before… what if I just… complimented her…. and didn’t hit on her explicitly?

The idea that I’m not actually after anything and there’s no possibility of rejection at the end because I’m not gonna request anything off her was absolutely freeing… so I spoke to her as the train stopped into the next station.

“Hey, I like your cosplay”

She blushes. “Um, thanks”

“Who’s it supposed to be?”

She told me an anime that I didn’t know, and that she was going to a photoshoot, stuttering the whole time.

It’s cute when you can make girls malfunction like that.

I was going to say something else but then the train started moving again and the Jubilee line wails like the grinding gears and billowing winds of hell itself. So we waited, awkwardly, in silence, while people around snuck glances at us. We reach the next stop.

“Well, have fun at your photoshoot” I say, as I hop off. This stop was actually mine.

“Thanks” she says back, looking kind of upset I was leaving.

Once again, easy peasy. I was kinda bummed I didn’t get her number but she was also a bit too young and that wasn’t the intention anyway. I just wanted to make her happy. I bet her photoshoot went much nicer and her smiles were much brighter in the pictures.

And it didn’t cost me anything. In fact, I probably got just as much out of it as she did.

Looking back, if I set out with the intention of actually closing on her, I know for a fact I would have hamstered myself into pussying out. “Not in front of all these people” I would have said. “She’ll think I’m creepy”, I would have said.

But this… this was practice…this was benign, no ulterior motives. And in fact I just proved to myself that it actually would have gone well and she wouldn’t have gone super bitch-mode and girls aren’t that mean and strangers aren’t that scary.


I remember whenever my ex-LTR would get hit on by Incels and pickup artists she would come home beaming and tell me about it immediately. We’d laugh about their cringey lines together but I could tell she loved it because it was the best compliment she received all day.

Women love compliments. They feeeeeeed off of them. They live for them. They want them all the time.

But compliments from friends and family come in thick, and they can be disingenuous, or repetitive. Does she really look pretty in that dress or is her boyfriend just trying to get head later?

But a compliment from a stranger? That’s a real compliment. There can be no other reason for it except that it’s genuine. Getting hit on or stared at by random dudes is a huge life-giver to a lot of women… because it tells them that they are objectively attractive, attractive enough to meet the criteria of strangers on the outside world, attractive enough that a dude literally broke social convention just to tell her “that dress really suits you”.

It makes her day. Quite literally. It will bring a skip to her step and she’ll go to bed thinking about it, a small highlight of an otherwise monotonous life.

So why not do it? Why not bring some happiness into the life of a stranger, and yourself in the process? It feels good to make others feel good.

And it’s good practice, especially for those of you who are still having trouble with cold approaching. Go cold approach a girl and tell her you like her shoes, or she’s just so pretty you had to say something, or “hey, sorry I can’t stop staring at you, you’re beautiful”… and then just leave.

Over time, after the first few nervous failures, you’ll get used to just approaching random girls, and you’ll find out that a lot of them, more than you would expect, are very kind and take it very well.

Eventually you can learn to extend these into actual conversations, and then a number, and then a date, and then a marathon fuck session.

But it all starts with having the balls to compliment a stranger.


So let’s go over the benefits:

1) Kills Approach Anxiety

Immunises you to talking to strangers. You get used it and realise it’s not that bad.

2) You realise most women are kind

Teaches you the majority of women respond positively to strangers speaking to them and aren’t rude about it.

3) You realise rejection isn’t that bad

Some will be bitchy, but who cares, you weren’t trying to pick her up… and then you’ll be fine and you didn’t die after… hmm, maybe this rejection thing is kind of okay. Maybe some people are just rude or having a bad day and it reflects nothing on me…

Plus then you get to reverse her once you leave and think like “ha, you were bitchy but I was actually just being nice how does that feel huh?” Good shit.

4) Abundance mentality

Do it once a day, or whenever you feel like it, and you’ll quickly realise there’s a huge amount of very pretty girls everywhere and maybe your one-itis isn’t the only beautiful woman to ever exist.

5) You did a good thing

And most importantly, it spreads happiness and good intentions without asking for anything in return; yet you will reap the rewards in Karma, almost instantly.


So try it, for me, and yourself. Make her day.


[–]Iron_Disciple 321 points322 points  (7 children)

“I can live off a good compliment for two months.”

~ Mark Twain

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet 51 points52 points  (6 children)

Not if you're a woman.

Women need compliments only slightly less urgently than they need food. Women need attention (of any kind) only slightly less urgently than they need air.

[–]IkWhatUDidLastSummer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

True. And they need the "right" compliments. Women have abundance of attention from strangers, irrelevant people constantly, and they already have ton of immaterial validation and compliments in the form of facebook/instagram likes and they constantly get feedback on every little move they make. OP makes good points here, but hes a bit wrong on the idea that women love compliments; they only love it so long as it is from a high SMV man, if youre low SMV and she responds nicely it will likely be out of pity or just out of kindness, but solipsistic women will rarely leave nice feedback and will not care about that attention, they get a lot. Especially from the night clubs they attend weekly.

[–]watusaym8 10 points11 points  (3 children)

That's bs though. Women get compliments all the time. Men have this urge to compliment women and tell them how great they look, but a pretty girl will get 10 of these comments a day. It's nothing for her. If you want to "make her day" sure you can go ahead say something nice and feel like a hero, maybe she did actually need a compliment, who knows ... but most of the times she'll just internally roll her eyes and think to herself: Wow ... another one ... getting bored.

If you want to start a relationship with a woman it's an entirely different story. Treat her like you'd treat a friend, just slightly more rude. Women are grown children and they are permanently horny. Exerting dominance makes them wet. Some fuccboi approaching them being like "hey you look really nice today" - desert.

This post is nothing but a niceguy being a nice guy and telling other people about what a nice guy he is. Sure, I bet he's a nice guy, but will he get laid?

[–]bikermonk 4 points5 points  (1 child)

but will he get laid?

Asking the right questions

[–]kendallb183 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Also, key thing here... no expected outcome, so you didnt project that you were expecting something.

Nobody likes a salesman trying to make contact with them when were just walking around a store... because they want something we have (our time and money) and we know it.

You weren't coming off as a salesman. Outcome independent.

[–]anon_nonapplicable 847 points848 points  (27 children)

Note: Compliments are good when you say it from a place of power, not looking for approval.

Good job, simple but immensely effective

[–]barricade551 104 points105 points  (0 children)

This is key. How you say something rather than what you say is what’s important

[–]helaughsinhidden 64 points65 points  (2 children)

Compliments on things besides looks work on anyone too. I like the cosplay compliment, but other things like shoes, hair, makeup, shoes, a scarf, earrings, necklace, shoes, belts, outfit, and did I mention shoes? Women put a shit ton of thought into those things and when you notice them, it is non-threatening and appeals to WHO they are instead of WHAT they are. Feels more heartfelt, authentic, and like THEY have been noticed.

[–]3nebder 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Agree fully. Compliment choices, not physical beauty.

I get called handsome, hot, wtfever enough now to grasp why it’s the worst thing in the world to say. Low effort on the person who tells it to you. It’s a legit turnoff. You simply don’t appreciate it after the first couple times.

[–]fortifel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, looks can be complimented in some cases. If she has an athletic body, it is ok to say "Hi, I see you are into fitness. What do you prefer?". This way you are complimenting not her looks as such, but the hard work she's putting into it. Btw, if you lift (and you should), fitness and sport could be a good starting topic in this case.

[–]Youngyoda89 13 points14 points  (13 children)

So let me ask you this. You can say it from a place of power in a meaningless way. What if you do have intentions of fucking her? Does the same still go?

What I mean is this- if you’re a high smv male like heath, can you compliment her from a place of power and then proceed to put the Mack down on her? As in- “I just wanted to tell you your look beautiful” and follow up with some meaningless small talk and then go for the kill?

[–]3nebder 59 points60 points  (5 children)

The goal here is to spread beauty into the world. An ulterior motive will show in your demeanor.

You can and should freely share your value with the world particularly when it costs you nothing to do so.

[–]maxofreddit 48 points49 points  (1 child)

Jesus Christ. YES.

If you are a positive & valuable man in this world, you won’t even have to “close.” It’ll happen on its own.

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillcad 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Compliments should be given from the frame of magnanimous King who expects or needs nothing in return.

Otherwise the compliment has no value.

Women are drowning in adulation from soyslobs who wrongly think this will turn them on

[–]3nebder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This point is worth explicitly stating for guys who aren’t at this point.

Act like a king to be treated like a king is both one of the best laws and one of the easiest to put into practice.

[–]sadie_gee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And a genuine compliment is one which makes you feel confident and great for weeks.

[–]1empatheticapathetic 14 points15 points  (6 children)

From a place of power would be outcome independence. Her reaction (positive or negative) doesn't affect you. You hold the power to your own reaction (frame). And yet you still chose to simply compliment.

A low SMV guy might get hit with a shit test by a simple compliment. At least in my experience anyway METOO

[–]magnificent18 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I do this, it definitely makes you feel good! And you have to be okay with nothing following after except feeling really good and knowing good karma will be coming your way.

But hey I'd rather get really good karma every so often instead of just trying to get sex.

At the same time I'm not hamstering. I'm not your typical guy that most chicks go for on glance, regardless of how much I workout, how I look/style/dress, and regardless of how I move.

At least karma is fair and not hypergamous. If you do and think good, good will come to you! Believe that!

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'm not your typical guy that most chicks go for on glance, regardless of how much I workout, how I look/style/dress, and regardless of how I move.

Watch your mouth boy, that's blasphemy on this sub.

[–]magnificent18 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Well I'm not Caucasian so it's a bit harder, since there's still a conscious barrier of interracial dating in America, unless you're super hot or loaded. Which I'm neither.

The only popular form of interracial dating I see quite often is a white guy with an asian woman.

No problem dating my own people but I'm limited since there's not many of us compared to caucasians.

Because I'm driven, workout, etc etc I want to find a partner around my level. But that's hard to find within my people. By saying I want a chick that's driven and works out is already being picky.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretend to be gangsta or smth. Also being white doesn't help you shit if you aren't decently attractive or tall.

[–]pmmedenver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the gym, it's like having good form when you lift. Even if your body is all fucked up, you still want to coax it into better form before you lift. And if your body is too fucked up, either don't lift super heavy (approach a 10 with intention to fuck that night) or take a break to get your form right first (for me that meant seeing doctors and a physical therapist. For the brain analogy maybe you need a psychiatrist). When you approach above your means (and fail) it has a cost. Do it enough times and your mind anticipates failure. You should be anticipating success.

[–]Paltenburg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an important viewpoint / frame to keep in mind when doing this.

[–]AmatureProgrammer 297 points298 points  (7 children)

This is the most wholesome thing ive read from this sub so far. Ill try to do this when in can.

[–]SuperCrazy07 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Ill try to do this when in can.

You should also try it when you are not going to the bathroom, you'll probably have much better results!

[–]sneakyMak 47 points48 points  (4 children)

Very much agree, stark contrast to the usual content that gets posted on here, also very popular. Makes you think about the direction this sub is heading. I am all for it.

[–]SILENTSAM69 31 points32 points  (2 children)

It has actually always been like this here. It's just that people are allowed to get mad and blow off steam here. They are allowed to express views and thoughts they otherwise hide. So you see a lot of those as well.

It's sad when people try to define TRP by the posts of some angry, or frustrated people. It's nice when people see the help there is here for people to improve themselves and their lives.

[–]sneakyMak 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I once tried to make an argument against one of these but got shot down promptly (in form of a 30 day ban) so I remain sceptic. But welcome content for sure!

[–]GodOfDinosaurs 241 points242 points  (5 children)

Simplest and most overlooked approach anxiety killer. I expected more "stop giving them validation" comments. This is more about how it makes you feel and what it does for you with the added bonus of improving someone's day. I see no downsides.

[–]chief-w 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It all comes down to frame at that point. In whose frame at you giving compliments? If your responding to compliment fishing or so cuked that you do it spontaneously than you deserve the attention you would get here. But if your acting for yourself, and not doing it in response to her than that's fine in RP theory.

[–]TheCondor96 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I thought the same at first but then I read the whole post. It did have a fairly weak start but it finished well enough.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's a buffer. that's the downside

[–]trollreign 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I think the point here is that it works great as a way of making someone's day and working on our approach anxiety, but this is not good as a pick-up strategy, unless your smv is considerably higher than hers (i.e. anything you say would work).

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

unless your smv is considerably higher than hers (i.e. anything you say would work).

Lol so what i should compliment fuggos on? I'm really horny guys... Don't judge.

[–]ItsFatAlpha 120 points121 points  (1 child)

Most wholesome TRP post ever.

[–]doveenigma13 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Funny how talking to women like people makes a difference huh?

They can feel creepiness just like men can.

[–]1Entropy-7 146 points147 points  (1 child)

Many years ago I had a job manning the information desk for a local community college. A pair of women, obviously mother and daughter approached and asked for curriculum information and such. I pulled out two copies of each and gave one copy to each woman. Mom said something like "Oh, I don't need that."

I said "Oh, I thought you were two young ladies exploring your educational options."

Mom smirked and said to me "You are going places. I don't know where, but you are going places!"

She picked up the pamphlets, winked at me and then the two of them left.

(I was older than daughter but younger than mom. I made the right play. . .just for fun.)

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Most compliments don't "make her day" if context is not your friend. And most compliments don't get anywhere if they compliment the wrong thing.

[–]civilizedfrog 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If I have to talk to any mom-daughter combo at work, I will always refer to them as sisters.

[–]gains_o_clock 24 points25 points  (2 children)

honestly you can do this to men too. Spread some happiness around heck the world needs some now more than ever.

[–]Justhavingag00dtyme 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's exactly my thought process. I've received compliments from friends when I feel really crappy that have turned my mood around. I like to pass it forward.

[–]VenusHypergamy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's how I started approaching. And you still get a chance at battling/working on your approach anxiety inner dialogue (i.e "Will they think I'm gay") if you know what I mean.

[–]iknowthewhey 89 points90 points  (1 child)

Approaching someone and speaking first is like TRP on easy mode. It immediately puts them in your frame. Doesn't always have to be a complement either. Point is that approaching someone is great for imposing your frame. Also helps to be strong and attractive for optimal results.

[–]ChadsLeftNut 308 points309 points  (39 children)

Step 1. Be attractive.

Step 2. Dont be unattractive.

They responded in the way they did because of your high SMV. If you were of lower SMV their response would be more neutral and sometimes even negative

[–]Atheist_Utopia 200 points201 points  (11 children)

To women you're either attractive, or creepy.

[–]ChadsLeftNut 91 points92 points  (10 children)

Nah, attractive, neutral, or creepy

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck 87 points88 points  (4 children)

Attractive = good looking guy with a great physique, skincare and style. Girls react positively as they are attracting a guy above average.

Neutral = average skinny guy. Neutral reaction. She will respond to your questions most likely in a aloof way like you barely exist.

Creepy = Nerd guy whose SMV is that low that girls react negatively due to their self-image ("Is this the quality of guys I really attract?"). At this point you are invisible.

[–]green_tea_bag 13 points14 points  (3 children)

There is one more possibility. 'more attractive than they' which for some women is extremely aggravating and can result in undeserved hostility.

[–]ChadsLeftNut 24 points25 points  (1 child)

You have to be so much more attractive than them that they feel like you are making fun of them. Like an 8 complementing a 2. Because women generally like men who are more attractive than them, this a part of hypergamy

[–]cudder17 15 points16 points  (2 children)

So would this be a good way to see where your SMV is at? Complimenting girls and seeing their reactions?

[–]youlovethisish 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah. You'll also notice that the more you do it, the better responses you'll generally get.

This is because there is so much about your attractiveness that still depends on how you come across/your nonverbal language.

A guy faking the "coming from a place of power" compliment is easy for a girl to identify, based on his body language. And chances are, you'll be starting out by faking it. The more you do it though, the more you'll understand how to give these compliments from a place of power - the more your frame will strengthen.

This will change your body language in several subtle ways - that girls can pick up on very easily. Thus, you'll be responded to more positively.

Dont' forget to lift, eat clean, dress well, and get a haircut of course - those are much more overt ways to increase your attractiveness - but the nonverbal cues you give off will be equally important.

Also - use photofeeler to get your pictures rated. Furthermore, go to malefashionadvice and get a rating on your style/wardrobe. They're mad helpful.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck 50 points51 points  (6 children)

Exactly. I doubt a nerd bald 5'4 guy would receive the same reactions even by acting the same exact way OP acted.

SMV is everything.

[–]excaliboor 73 points74 points  (5 children)

Imagine a morbidly obese guy turning around on the escalator and telling a woman: "I just wanted to tell you that you're very attractive", whilst breathing heavily.

She picks up the phone, pushes a couple buttons and hears a voice from the other end:

"911, what's your emergency?"

[–]rigbed 40 points41 points  (3 children)

No sympathy from me. If you’ve gotten to the point of breathing heavily you can’t expect kindness from either gender.

[–]ReformSociety 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Exactly. How can he expect respect from others when he doesn't even respect his own body, allowing himself to become obese?

[–]RedPilledGodEmperor 9 points10 points  (1 child)

This is something I have never understood about obese people? How do you let yourself get that big. And I'm talking morbidly obese, not even a bit fat.

People who are that obese don't have respect for themselves. You don't go from in shape to obese overnight. It's a gradual process and at some point, most people look at themselves and say, "I'm fat, I gotta lose weight" before it gets to true obesity levels.

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'm fat, I gotta lose weight" before it gets to true obesity levels.

Lol they probably think like this: "Loosing weight is hard, i'm already fat, let's see how fat can i become before heart attack".

[–]Oland_Devo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that this statement appy's to men also. I've had some pretty thick fattys complement/hit on me in the past, and all I can do is cringe. I think of cheese and vomit and gag a little.

[–]Youngyoda89 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Agreed. You can tell heath has high since from women’s reactions in his stories.

Indications that they find you attractive? Would a smile showing teeth upon initial greeting suffice?

[–]TheRealJesusChristus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If they look at you just analize their look.

If its a bit disgusted your unattractive. If its just a random look and thats it. No emotions, youre neutral. If its a bit longer than necessary and maybe she smiles when she sees you seeing her, youre attractive.

Of course thats just a general indication, like waiters are almost always the same (either overly smiling, but also to unattractive people, or bored, but also to attractive people, you get the idea), and some have a really good (smiling)/bad (not smiling) day. So its only a help.

I for example get looks that last longer than necessary but only from a certain type of girl (luckily those I like the looks of), and neutral looks (girls that are objectively hot, but not to me)... I some time ago recieved the disgusted look. I didnt take care of me, didnt lift, clothed like a guy that wanted to be incel, and didnt shower for like 1 week always. Thats why I know the whole spektrum.

I have to say that Im not that bad looking, judging by the girls I attract, I would say like a 7-8/10. but of course taking care of myself.

[–]kaazsssz 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I am new here, but I had thought from what I’ve learned so far, that even if you’re not attractive, you could still do much better than expected with women. Like if you’re a 2, at the very least you could upgrade to getting 5s or 6s. Is that true overall or nah? Because as I learn, I share a bit of info with friends who have self defeating mindsets, but they do because well they are ugly or really short or w/e it is.

Or is this just specific to the short compliment situations?

[–]ChadsLeftNut 12 points13 points  (3 children)

An average looking guy can score women through game and/or social status, yes. Just check out RSD Owen in YouTube. Search "RSD Owen vs Tall" and you will see how game actually can beat looks.

Most guys can become atleast average through maxing out your body, picking the right haircut/beard for your face and dressing good. Those who still cant become atleast average after extensive looksmaxxing, and solid game and social status, (which is a small percentage of people), those should look into semi invasive forms of plastic surgery (rhinoplasty, chin implant). But generally speaking, looks can be improved. And you dont need to be a model to score women. Looks for women is much more subjective, if you make them feel tingles through your game/frame they will hamster that you are more good looking/taller than you actually are

[–]The_Real_Cannaman 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Those who still cant become atleast average after extensive looksmaxxing, and solid game and social status, (which is a small percentage of people), those should look into semi invasive forms of plastic surgery (rhinoplasty, chin implant).

Wow finally someone who understands that for some people (not really a minority, thou) surgeries are needed.

[–]ChadsLeftNut 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It definitely is a minority

[–]DrankOfSmell 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This reads like an anime, lmao

[–]1empatheticapathetic 34 points35 points  (4 children)

Dr warlock has a post that is the exact opposite of this “stop fucking up the SMP by with glances/attention”.

I like to aimlessly flirt a lot and go nowhere with it. I’ve been told to by another EC to stop this and either go for the kill or don’t bother because they sense something if off with you if you never go for the number and it ends in hostility.

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    [–]Slim___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I can vouch for this. I've been there and done that. I've always loved to flirt. And chick's love it.

    But.

    There's been many a time I've progressed from making lots of eye contact, to openly admiring her body, to having her start to dick tease me, only to walk away without a number. Confusion and hostility is spot on. And there is no recovery, at least not that I know of.

    [–]bonusfruit[🍰] 42 points43 points  (1 child)

    1) you're definitely good looking if compliments illicit that kind of response from women. Women are neither kind nor mean. Their reactions depend on the guy. Dont encourage ugly guys to do this

    2) if the business woman was too old, but the cosplay girl was too young, I'm curious what your age range is

    [–]in_monk_mode 36 points37 points  (0 children)

    2). is just a reason for op to disqualify himself from the dating pool.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 126 points127 points  (31 children)

    Bad idea overall.

    The 10th commandment of Poon is "Ignore her beauty". It goes onto specifically saying:

    Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking.

    Sure it does have the few benefits of keeping your approach skills sharp, and making you feel good inside thanks to the double whammy of feeling like you're such an approach warrior AND feeling like you're doing good to the world.

    But let's list the negatives:

    • Worst of all: Giving free ego boosts to women is the pinnacle of beta strategy. Even if you give those random compliments to women you don't want to bang, there still is that beta unconscious idea behind it that "maybe if I make her happy, she will let me fuck her!". That's the real reason doing this gave you such a massive boost of endorphins. That's your inner beta telling you "you made a woman smile! good boy! you may be getting laid!". So by doing this you are feeding the inner beta. This basically negates all those efforts you're making to kill it.
    • It's bad Game. Giving compliments to women is the best way to make them feel above you, and therefore not attracted to you. This is one of the most basic mistakes men without game make. In human dynamics, offering unannounced, unwarranted, and unusually large value to a complete stranger rings the "what the fuck does this person wants from me?" alarm bell in the recipient's head, just like when you're approached by people in the street wanting you to sign their petition or hear them talk about Jesus. This over-eagerness in comfort-setting is interpreted as the setup for a covert contract. The only way an approach that direct is going to work is if you're obviously attractive to her.. aka she finds you attractive from your looks and attitude alone. You've given yourself no time to DHV, no time to impress her, no time to game her. Phone numbers generated this way have a terrible number-to-lay ratio because after a few hours/days and the effects of her ego boost are gone she has no real reason to chase you since she didn't take the time to estimate your value. So sure, approaching like this beats not approaching at all. But if you're going to approach anyway, there are much better options. You might answer "Yeah but I'm only doing it to girls I'm not interested in", but then I'd reply "why are you not talking to a girl you're interested in instead?" and "why are you learning techniques that will hurt your chances when you use them on girls you actually want to bang?"
    • Women's egos are over-inflated enough already thanks to beta orbiters and social media. Being an average woman receiving the one compliment in the world they crave from a man of high SMV in exchange for doing nothing at all is even worse. That older woman you complimented on the escalator? You made her smile! You made her feel valuable just for existing! A hot guy finds her beautiful! Maybe she should leave her beta husband - odds look pretty good she can land a hot guy! For that short ego-boost you gave yourself, you're fucking it up for every man out there. You're meant to give a woman what she wants as a reward for a positive behavior you want to reinforce, not for simply existing.

    So what should you do instead to get the benefits without the negatives?

    • To keep your approach skills sharp, just talk to strangers regularly. Guys and girls. To girls, do not give random compliments on her looks. Ask for an opinion, ask for advice, make a random comment about the environment you're in. Worse case scenario and you have no idea what to say, ask for the time or directions and try to ramble from there. Same benefits, without the negatives.
    • To feel good about being an approach-warrior, do actually approach... women whom you're attracted to. Sure it's easier to approach people you don't want to fuck, but that's the easy road that leads to nowhere. If you want to make it easier, approach a girl you're attracted to by telling yourself you just wanna chat with her for 30 seconds and then leave her there. Definitely do that but don't compliments on her beauty. Same benefits, without the negatives.
    • To feel good about making people feel good, just smile and engage conversation with them will be plenty enough. Ask them for direction, and after they tell you, say "thank you, you are very kind" with a big smile on your face. Men and women feel good to be valued for something they did, just as much as women feel good to be valued for existing. Same benefits, without the negatives.

    [–]look_good 21 points22 points  (0 children)

    Something felt off ab this. Thanks for putting into words.

    [–]kabuto_mushi 7 points8 points  (5 children)

    Ask for an opinion, ask for advice, make a random comment about the environment you're in. Worse case scenario and you have no idea what to say, ask for the time or directions and try to ramble from there. Same benefits, without the negatives.

    This is what I have the most trouble with still. I just can't wrap my mind around how to go about doing this without sounding... well, autistic as fuck. "Hey, how about that weather?" I guess I'm just making excuses, but isn't that weird? My social skills suck, I guess?

    At least if I state my intentions plainly ("Hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you") I polarize them quickly. I get a yes or no reaction right off the bat. I don't waste time on trying to become friends. I thought Models by Mark Manson was TRP endorsed (I read the whole book), and he advocates essentially doing it the way OP suggests to break through approach anxiety. Similarly, The Book of Pook talks about how "the sexual ones get the girls". No PUA bull, just straight punching. It kinda appeals to me... but what the fuck do I know, I'm a big beta coward either way.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 12 points13 points  (2 children)

    I just can't wrap my mind around how to go about doing this without sounding... well, autistic as fuck. "Hey, how about that weather?"

    Perfect if you make eye contact (IOI).

    • "Excuse me, do you know where is the nearest post office?"
    • "Excuse me, is that a good laptop? I'm looking to upgrade mine so I'm fishing for information"
    • "Excuse my curiosity, but could you tell me what song you're listening to right now? I want to create a random playlist from random strangers for an art project."

    I guess I'm just making excuses, but isn't that weird? My social skills suck, I guess?

    All guys have approach anxiety, and all humans are anxious to talk to strangers for no reason for fear of being misjudged. That's why it's good to practice on everybody.

    At least if I state my intentions plainly ("Hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you") I polarize them quickly. I get a yes or no reaction right off the bat. I don't waste time on trying to become friends. I thought Models by Mark Manson was TRP endorsed (I read the whole book), and he advocates essentially doing it the way OP suggests to break through approach anxiety.

    Some like Manson. I don't. I prefer Roosh, and Roosh advises the above more gradual approach. Roosh justifies it this way: when you polarize super early, you force her to make a choice right fucking now about your potential as a lover. So you better be obviously good-looking. And even then, because she doesn't know anything about you, she could just blow you off because she's afraid of what you could be that she doesn't know. Or she could enthusiastically give you her phone number and then flake on you later after she has cooled down and doesn't know why she should meet with some random stranger she knows nothing about. Roosh says a direct approach gives you more phone numbers (as you don't spend as much time per approach) but less lays, and my personal experience confirms it. Unless you go to clubs where girls go to get laid tonight, approaching a girl too directly ends up in massive amounts of flaking.

    I picture it like kino. Try going on a date and as soon as the girl arrives, try french kissing her straight away. It's possible she might welcome it because it's bold, but it's a much higher chance you'll shock her away even though she might have been keen on you. Better approach is to kino escalate. Fast, but escalate.

    [–]Chaddeus_Rex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Good post. Can confirm that 'indirect' openers land a higher approach rate. I have found a greater amount of success (dates/lays) using Roosh's 'ramble' technique, where I ask her about a random thing (her backpack, her shoes, her laptop, the environment, how to get to a certain place, etc). I am not the best looking guy, but having open body language, being tall and just seeming 'friendly' is enough to get numbers, dates and lays. Also, I want to note that going for an indirect approach, the best thing to do is to go for an 'instadate' as it gives her an opportunity to relax and to 'know you better' (as if that matters to a guy lol). Plus she's invested sometime already, so going out with you again is not that big of a deal anymore.

    [–]kabuto_mushi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Okay, that's the info I was kinda looking for. I've read Roosh too, "Day Bang", and was incredibly confused in the differences. Manson's methods are more appealing in that they are easier (if you have the balls to willingly be rejected) and more "honest". Roosh's seem more effective in turning numbers into dates, even in my own (very limited) experience. I'm interested in trying to find a copy of "Bang" as well to see the differences he puts into day and night game...

    [–]ReformSociety 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    "Hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you"

    In this scenario, who would you say is doing the chasing? Who is putting who on the pedestal?

    The Book of Pook talks about how "the sexual ones get the girls".

    I haven't read it yet but there's many ways to be sexual than blurting out that you're attracted to them.

    You flirt, give subtle cues, kino, be mysterious, take command of any situation.

    [–]kabuto_mushi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    True, true. I guess Manson kinda advocates the easy way out... you don't have to learn how to actually be social...

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      [–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 14 points15 points  (3 children)

      I anticipated that answer at the end of my second bullet point:

      You might answer "Yeah but I'm only doing it to girls I'm not interested in", but then I'd reply "why are you not talking to a girl you're interested in instead?" and "why are you learning techniques that will hurt your chances when you use them on girls you actually want to bang?"

      Guys who are to scared to approach the right girls with the right playbook should not use the crutches that give them bad habits.

      Seriously, complimenting unattractive girls on their looks to practice approach is like masturbation: it's something we are inclined to do, because it's similar to the real thing and it makes you feel good. You may rationalize it as a practice for the real thing, but it actually seriously hinders your capability to do the real thing right. It's a behavior that does you a great disservice. You may indulge in it very very occasionally if you want, but given that it requires a conscious, regular, strong, and long-term mental effort to effectively stamp out you should definitely not encourage it.

      [–]Jampak_5000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      I think you are right in theory - but that OP is basically providing a fake it till you make it piece. And if what he's said allows one beta-nerd to talk to a stranger that he wouldn't have otherwise been able to, isn't that still a step in the right direction?

      I do agree it could be a bad habbit to fall in to and the whole feeding the inner beta is something to be aware of.

      [–]Zech4riah 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      I sort of disagreed with you first but after given some thought, I agree with you.

      Trying to overcome your approach anxiety by throwing out random compliments just gives you bad habits even tho it may help with your anxiety in the short run.

      Your advice about having a random conversation and/or thanking the person (with slight compliment included) when they have put in some effort like instructing where some place is would be the right way to go.

      But this is all for beginners. Personally I like direct approach without actually complimenting the girl in the way that she knows right away why I approached her but this is actually something you may have meant by saying "approach and then escalate".

      [–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Yep you got my message, and I like your approach.

      Approaching a girl is already an indicator of your interest. So if you go with an indirect opener, it sends mixed messages that will start arousing her imagination. Going more direct but not with too much interest ("Hey I noticed you over there and thought I'd come say hi and see if you're up for a chat") kills the mixed message, but I understand the point of introducing boldly some sexual tension from the start. I guess both are worth trying out.

      But yeah going for an indirect opener doesn't mean talking about the weather for 20 minutes. You go indirect, start rambling about a topic, and quickly introducing value. If at night, you add your first kino and teases very early.

      [–]ReformSociety 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      Great breakdown.

      I can't believe more people didn't point out OP's mistake for complimenting physical looks. It's actually a bit worrying.

      “You’re very pretty” I say.

      Go cold approach a girl and tell her you like her shoes, or she’s just so pretty you had to say something, or “hey, sorry I can’t stop staring at you, you’re beautiful”… and then just leave.

      Cringe.

      Plus then you get to reverse her once you leave and think like “ha, you were bitchy but I was actually just being nice how does that feel huh?” Good shit.

      I'd guess OP is 20 years old from this sentence.

      [–]ThrowTheTRP 23 points24 points  (1 child)

      I instinctively felt a minor cringe from my mind when I read the part about giving random compliments (validation) to women, especially for just existing.

      Whilst I can appreciate the good intent from the OP, what you said here put into words what my head was trying to work out perfectly.

      [–]jpmonger 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Really? You can’t just compliment a person to make you and someone else feel good? Jfc what is wrong with some people on this sub

      [–]Paltenburg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      There we go...

      There's the old TRP as we know it!

      [–]tino125 19 points20 points  (1 child)

      Dude I love this. When I'm in a good mood I can be the friendliest dude to everyone in my vicinity, guys, girls, whatever.

      Nothing wrong with improving the world a little bit and making a stranger happy. This works especially well on older women, less attractive women, etc... they get a compliment from some young stud and their day is completely made.

      I also wouldn't exclude this to just women. Idk about male strangers, but complimenting the guys in your friend group (or new people to the group/friends of friends) is an incredibly easy way to basically have everyone love you. The guys will talk you up to chicks, you'll have a friend in every bar you go to.

      I know TRP is about sexual strategy, and yes this is tangentially related... but making the world a better place to live in isn't the worst thing in the world either.

      Great post OP, although I should mention this might not work if you're socially awkward or low SMV, then it might come off creepy.

      [–]3nebder 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      I love this approach. I forced myself out of my self imposed “antisocial” behaviors using the talk to anyone captive approach like checkout lines, service staff, etc then stepped it up to giving genuine compliments to people. “Hey man great pulls there” after you see someone shred some deads. “Oh that shirt is awesome” when you see someone walking by. It’s just giving people a taste of my inner monologue.

      It went over well when I was still in the neutral dude category. Now I have the practice to spout off whatever bullshit pops in my head. Giving and swatting shit tests, smalltalk and banter all flow out of me now. Sometimes I look back and go fuck I just said that didn’t I.

      The spergs don’t understand the nuance here. There’s nothing unplugged or red or wtfever about being hateful or hoarding your value. The whole purpose of gaining value is being able to spread it to the world at your choosing. Yes you have to understand the difference between being a validation whore and giving a genuine compliment. That knowledge should come pretty quickly once you get your smv in place and really start interacting with the world.

      [–]Chaddeus_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I love this approach.

      you love it because its an easy ass pussy approach.

      want to get over aa? go say a few words to a cashier with a smile while buying bubblegum. say something like 'ahaha look at me a grown ass man buying bubblegum. is it weird for a grown ass man to like bubble gum? What do you think?'. BAM. Easy as pie and minimal anxiety because it is merely being friendly and there is no expectation of closing. It also develops good conversational habits and an ability to think on ones feet.

      [–]ozenmacher 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      I do this all the time with cashiers. They have the most mundane, thankless job. Most people NEVER say hi to them and reference their name. Most just look down and stick their credit card in the reader and leave. So, I always make a concerted effort to say hello and reference their name. You will get more beaming responses and a day made when you do it. Women (and dudes...I say hello to them too and try and start convos) absolutely love it, and I rarely ever get a sour puss when I do this.

      [–]EnolaGay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      this is true. complimented one of the guys at my local walmart on his hard work, 2 days later he see me checking out and seems very happy to see me and even compliments my cowboy boots I was wearing. he never did anything like this until I complimented and acknowledged his work.

      [–]BurningOrangeHeaven 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      I dont say things like that unless i actually DO like the girls hair/dress/whatever.

      [–]Slim___ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      "Only a fool tells a woman she's beautiful." - Casanova

      Girls know why we approach them. There's no need to verbalize it.

      [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      this is some blue pilled thinking. you'll grow out of it eventually. I can tell you are young without you mentioning it. Dont know why you would want to go around 'feeding' random women

      in fact when i was a bit younger (20) i would compliment MEN as they almost never hear compliments from friends family or strangers.

      I'd rather re-affirm the self esteem of someone that wasnt constantly seeking attention

      [–]roboisdabest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      I often will tell people (out the blue), "you look great!" in a genuine, non sexuaul manner - if they are wearing good clothes, nice make up, whatever. You, as the initiator, are in the position of power, and it really does brighten both their day and your own. I love trp and it has helped me more than can be said, but sometimes it can be very focused on the aggressive side of seduction - soft skills are important too and once you are good at them it can often be a powerful tool. I think that it might be argued that small, genuine compliments like this to random people are a development of the skill of charm.

      [–]Imadeathtrap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      This is how i met my LTR of 5 years... which led me here after i ended it

      [–]farendsofcontrast 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Lol I can feel the ancient fathers of the manosphere cringing as they read this shit. And all the people talking about this being the most wholesome thing they read... Lol

      [–]Onidramon 24 points25 points  (3 children)

      Fuck her day nigga

      Make your day by saying some wild shit and watch her stupid Pixar face go all goofy

      Then you can be all like "Hello. My name is Billiam BetaBucks Junior. I like boats, golf and equality."

      [–]UltimateCrypto 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      What's a wild and goofy line that works for you?

      [–]Onidramon 26 points27 points  (0 children)

      I like to start with something quick and light-hearted, like "Nice arm hair bitch did you grow it yourself?"

      "What?"

      "I said, you're pulling that outfit off without a hitch, it's really top-shelf!"

      And then we fuck while everybody claps and I bust a nut from thinking about the karma from the field report to come

      [–]PerplexingPegasus_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      but it all starts with having the balls to compliment a stranger.

      If you don’t have the balls, this post is useless. Good message OP, if you don’t act, you’ll never learn.

      [–]izotonias 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      I can agree and confirm what OP has said.

      I tired this idea from Tom Torero Day game and he explains it as a warm up to actually talking to women before you really try to game them.

      Just go up to anyone you kind of like or don’t at all and get the approach out of your system and that fear out of the way.

      It’s great for approach fear. But he doesn’t say that it feels fucking great to make a person smile.

      Did it to 7 people in a row, while walking through a park. All of them loved it. And it made me feel on top of the world.

      All I did was walk toward them, stop them for a second and say

      “Hey, just saw you across the park and I had to tell you that I thought you looked really pretty/beautiful. “

      Then their face would light up in a huge smile or a grin or laugh. One asked if I was sure because she just came from the gym. And I just doubled down.

      and then move to

      “That’s all I wanted to say. Have a nice day.”

      And then leave, as my own smile would get bigger.

      [–]telytuby 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      Torero seems really cool and genuine too, thinking about doing some first time daygame using the London daygame model. Have you done the rest of the steps or just the warmup?

      [–]izotonias 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      I have only done the warm up and taken parts of his escalation game. Which I can also vouch for on a first date. It helps a lot and even in general day to day flirting and talking with women.

      I can definitely see a benefit form it. And with practice on the escalation I can see when to spike and go back to cool.

      I recommend his videos on YouTube and his podcast. His stuff is very good and very beginner friendly.

      [–]telytuby 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Cool, atm I’m looking for a wing to go out with just for a bit more fun. Also a little worried about police, Ive seen several stories where a guy is doing pickup and someone goes to the police about it.

      [–]izotonias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      That seems fucking nuts. I would still try it because it’s just gaming. If she is being freaked out you need to rethink your game. Or something about you aren’t doing right.

      Giving the creeps too someone is not a good sign and something that needs to adjust.

      Good luck with day game my friend.

      [–]Londonliving99 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      The title of this post is make HER day. Please find me a post where women are discussing about how to make our day?

      I live in central London and we are all assholes here whole don’t smile at each other.

      [–]UltimateCrypto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      You're in control. Do things that improve your life and make you feel better. Stop expecting other people to do that for you.

      [–]Londonliving99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      Correction. Do women plan in a reddit group to go out of their way to compliment men?

      If so pls post the link.

      My point is there is nothing wrong with complimenting anyone but planning to do it is just weird in my book. Doesn’t come across as genuine.

      Agree to disagree

      [–]SheenCharlie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Naw. We’re not gonna waste our time engaging in one-sided interactions that only reinforce the feminization of society.

      [–]RedPilledRoaster 5 points6 points  (6 children)

      Compliment her if she earns it. Don’t force compliments to get her to like you,

      [–]nondescriptpenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This follows a good rule in general:

      Focus on what you can give others

      [–]RoseSpaceMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Chivalry never actually requires acknowledgement or gratitude. You do the right thing because it is the noble thing to do, especially when it will never be recognised or you will gain no reward from it. The second you do this naturally, it automatically comes from a place of power. You are being nice for the sake of being nice as a simple smile is the smallest form of charity you could give to another human being, it is a charity because you do not have to do it and it may require a little bit of effort for no return whatsoever. The fact that there may be some return in being chivalrous is irrelevant because the second you are doing it for some kind of benefit other than for the fact of doing whats right for the sake of doing whats right, it stops being chivalrous in nature .

      [–]m2kzw6 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Some seriously solid advice for those who are without a member of the opposite sex.

      [–]NoOneMatters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      They literally have a scene in a drake and josh episode about this lol. Not discrediting this, I think it’s a great post, it just reminded me of it.

      [–]EdmondDaunts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Reading the comments some for and some saying don’t compliment a woman and such I’m reminded of something I was told a while back:

      Develop your charm.

      Being charming is one of the greatest skills you can have. It is actually a difficult skill to master, a fine edge. It encompasses your physical attributes and your social.

      So I agree with the OP. This technique can be used to build charm.

      [–]LeHung1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Thanks for the nice story. Great write-up btw.

      [–]Vithonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Wasn't there a rule somewhere saying “don't compliment women unless you've slept with them first“? So many different theories lol

      [–]jonpe87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I like to make my day, I m pragmatic, if that leads to her giving me something, I do.

      Never do nothing for free.

      [–]d3g4d0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This is such a positive outlook. I love everything about it.

      [–]lordspesh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Don't do this at work kids. Compliments to women are grounds for dismissal these days.

      [–]ThePlague 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      If you need the practice, that's one thing. But randomly giving away male attention and compliments is the masculine version of being a slut. It sounds like something a BP simp would do, trying to spread random joy to the women of the world.

      [–]WonderfulNinja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I can't believe this shit got so many upvotes. I just hope that fucking idiot will compliment the wrong girl or woman and will get his knees or jaw bone destroyed.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This is a quality post not just some macho bullshit.

      [–]BoughtenCockloft 13 points14 points  (5 children)

      What is this blue pill shit doing here?

      [–]S-Blaze 6 points7 points  (4 children)

      Being a genuine person isn't blue pill. Getting fucked is.

      [–]ReformSociety 9 points10 points  (3 children)

      Complimenting on women's looks and telling them they're "pretty" and "beautiful" is definitely blue pill.

      [–]Marty30001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Thanks man, a much needed post. Sometimes when I'm reading here and practicing it outside, I forget we do that for our happiness and good. I often get stuck in a too serious mindset, letting oppurtunities slip by, fucking up because I can't relax - trying too hard to have the perfect frame maybe. Occasionally, I loosen up and start talking random shit on the bus with a girl or a friend, earning smiles, laughs and strange but positive looks from everyone around me; or find a face I've seen before and go talk to the person just for the sake of knowing each other. Every single day I do something like that - just feels better after.

      [–]Endorsed Contributorredpillcad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Timely and must be coordinated with Chateau Heartiste who brilliantly said today:

      Men desire. Women desire to be desired.

      [–]MrCarepig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Anyone in thir right mind would react positively to a compliment. This is kinda beta if you ask me.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      This is a "feel good" fairytale for guys who don't game seriously (regular nights, PUA, learning game for learning game's sake - not just "talk to women and have fun").

      [–]dumbkidaccount 12 points13 points  (0 children)

      Dont compliment and feed their ego. Thats beta behaviour tbh

      [–]wendysNO1wcheese 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I stopped reading at the use of the word "fuckboy".

      [–]Future_Alpha[🍰] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      I was under the impression to never give women validation? Arent compliments validation?

      This article reads BP af

      [–]farendsofcontrast 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      Don’t worry about the downvotes. There has been a huge influx of betas recently that don’t understand the core principles. This entire article is Blue Pill. This is some Disney fantasy shit. Op probably thinks these women are going to remember him for the rest of their lives as the Prince Charming that said I was pretty on the escalator.

      Remember women earn your validation. It is not freely given

      [–]ElOweTea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      I agree wholeheartedly. Blue pill AF

      [–]bradanter96 1 point2 points  (11 children)

      There is a super attractive lady working at the Subway I frequent regularly. She always makes my sandwich and I have no idea how to compliment her.

      Any suggestions?

      [–]useyourmouth 20 points21 points  (0 children)

      your roast beef is so moist and delicious.

      [–]thestockartist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      You: "hey you always make my sandwich"

      Her: "haha yeah"

      You: "can I has it for free this time?"

      Now you've started a conversation and might get a free sandwich out of it. Always think of your own benefit first.

      [–]SlayOfCourage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Tell her to come over and make you a sandwich like a good women.

      [–]lerossignol77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Don’t overthink it. You have a compliment in your head already, use it but sprinkle it with a push n pull method to get her talking

      [–]ReformSociety 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      It's difficult to compliment as she's wearing the Subway uniform, you can't see her shoes, she probably doesn't have any jewelry/accessories on.

      Instead, start small talk.

      "Hi, how are you?"

      "Did you see those two homeless guys fighting outside?"

      "Who do you have winning the World Cup?"

      "Can you recommend me your favorite sandwich/toppings/sauce/desserts/hidden gems (such as the cookies)?"

      The Subway workers get a free meal during their shift so ask what combos she's tried and what's the best/what's the worst.

      [–]Londonliving99 2 points3 points  (3 children)

      Come on mate. Do women go around complimenting men randomly? Why should we go out of way to make them happy ? They will come to you just focus on yourself.

      There’s is nothing wrong with paying a compliment to anyone if it’s in the moment but planning to pay compliments to women is just weird in my opinion and quite beta

      I’m not saying that because I’m alpha. Really I don’t care about the terminology but just have a think..

      [–]Gman777 10 points11 points  (0 children)

      There used to be a time when strangers smiled and greeted each other for no reason.

      It costs nothing, has a big positive outcome. Why not so it?

      [–]Olipyr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      Do women go around complimenting men randomly?

      Yes.

      Step 1: Be attractive

      Step 2: Don't be unattractive

      Works 100% of the time, every time. Usually won't go anywhere, but it does happen at least 3 or 4 times a week.

      [–]Youngyoda89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Heath- the goat. I appreciate all of your input here. It’s so fucking real. Your character really reminds me of myself.

      That first one you threw out with the old woman was hilarious. So even you, the great heathcliff, STILL get approach anxiety? Would this type of shit work on people that you will see on a regular but casual basis? Example- girl at a convenient store that you go in almost daily?

      It’s funny that I was actually considering doing this shit before you posted it but I hamstered to myself- “no this isn’t trp. This isn’t the trp way fuck it.” And I didn’t do it.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Heathcliff is my hero

      [–]Shadyren 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      In malaysia, I would get slapped if i did that.

      [–]cannibalstreudel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Fuck yeah man! I love looking at TRP and seeing something that's uplifting!

      Relationships should be a win win! A lot of stuff on TRP comes from guys super frustrated with their dating lives because they don't have the right idea about what to do and are angry, and I love an uplifting post like this! Mentally healthy girls like being complemented if the guy genuinely means it and doesn't expect anything in return...

      If you're complementing to get her attention or her approval or her pussy you're taking value and girls sense this immediately... Girls wanna feel sexy, and it makes you both happy if you're emotionally healthy yourself :) cheers for sharing bud!

      [–]abudun79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Really good read. It's nice and rare to read someone's positive TRP experience.

      Thank you!

      [–]bone_shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      This is great for cold approach anxiety. I've used in many situations to start up a conversation or to honestly compliment them without expecting any result. It should be noted that you should never expect anything, human nature is human nature. Now to tell you a quick story about a very rare time where this went awry:

      Be me, 6 feet, long hair, deep, loud voice taking long strides across the street in New York City. I'm no Chad but I've certainly been called attractive by women before. I get to the other side and I see this little cute 7-8 with a cool little punk fashion style going on (metal is my thing so I felt it would be fine to cold approach.) She's coming the other way to cross where I came from and I say "you're really beautiful, ya know that?!" And she realizes who said something to her (NYC, many people were around) and she screams, no screeches:" YOU'RE A FUCKINGGGG ASSHOLE, YOU KNOW THAT?" I was like "whoa" a bit taken back by the hostility. So was everyone around me. People were staring like I just raped this girl. So I just kept it moving, as she continued to gleam at me while moving to her destination.

      Now I read this and thought of this situation, which I said before is somewhat rare, but it can happen. My only guess is a couple of things: 1.she was a femnazi that was actually really good looking 2. Just got dumped 3. Sick and tired of being aggressively cat called, which is common in New York City.

      [–]UncleChido 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Great post,

      A simple compliment goes a long way in making another persons day, if not week. It should not just be women but everyone. When you see something good about someone or noticeable difference, please compliment it. It doesn’t cost you a thing and it makes you and that person feel good. Social media subculture has made everyone so engrossed in themselves. A little selflessness is always good.

      [–]10211799107 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Good advice. Personally I stay away from personal compliments about looks with younger women. Older, sure, you don't want to fuck them anyway. For the younger ones I'd comment on something they're wearing, doing, or whatever. Good exercise to practise cold approaching.

      [–]telytuby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      From what I understand it was OTHER passers by who were reporting it. Oh well just gotta maintain frame and not get all skitty when the police show up. Good luck to you too!

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Behaving like this naturally leads to bodhicitta also. When you are nice to someone, for no reason, no want nor gain. That is true kindness.

      [–]miiike23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Where's the "Go do it, pussy"?

      Seriously though, I've read a ton of posts on here and none have been nearly as wholesome as this. Good work

      [–]Count_Giggles 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      I recall last November.

      I was in a mall looking for some notebook but had trouble finding it. I approached a lady that was stashing some things away. She was wearing a scarf indoors and when I asked her if they had what I was looking for she couldn't get a sentence out without coughing. When I left the mall I crossed the street to stock up on some medical supplies in the pharmacy. In addition to my purchases, the pharmacist handed me a pack of tissues and a cough drop. I went straight back to the mall, found that lady tapped her on the shoulder and handed her the cough drop without a word. Took her a second to realize what had happened. Her face lit up. Before she could say anything I said "It's good for Karma" turned around and left.

      5) You did a good thing

      And most importantly, it spreads happiness and good intentions without asking for anything in return; yet you will reap the rewards in Karma, almost instantly.

      [–]ThePlague 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Yes, because being servants to women has worked out so well for so many men.

      [–]thepontiff_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Good reports, Good reports.

      Man not lying.

      [–]theivoryserf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      It's almost like women are human beings who enjoy people being nice to them, and manipulating them is wrong

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      All I read was “couldn’t close.” I thought this was TRP. Since when do we believe that telling girls you just met how pretty they are is good strategy?

      [–]manwithoutwire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      A well placed neg can do the same thing. All you got to do is stand out and neg her in her environment. " You forgot to hold the door for me" "Your music is loud, turn it down" . "You listening to post Malone right now? Turn that shit off my ears are bleeding". These women on first dates told me how it took a lot of courage to say these things and it made you stand out. Be different, embrace your inner asshole, just don't be a complete douchebag or pedophile.

      [–]thestockartist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Okay so you made her day.. For what? What did she do to deserve this compliment?

      Most of the girls you just compliment are gonna go back to their friends and tell them how some guy was trying so hard with these cringe worthy compliments, but pussied out at the end.

      "OMG this guy was like all over me telling me I'm pretty and like wtf ew what a loser"

      This still makes her look cool to her friends, but makes you look like a cheeseball. Even if women like compliments, they're gonna portray it to their friends in a completely different way.

      [–]remonacxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      This has potential to become an approval self-worth-test addiction.

      Be warned.

      Overral thanks for the report. Sounds reasonable enough when you set your mind not for a big goal but small even for no goal, that makes approaching a lot easier.

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