This is the original thread.
Ex-Wife sends death threats to husband when husband reveals to their kids (aged 15 and 16) that they divorced because of her infidelity.
+ 268 points
I want to point out that what you did is classic parental alienation.I don't care if she banged every pizza boy for 10 zip codes. You need to separate her actions against you, with her rights and duties as a parent to her children. Using your issues with her (however valid) to drive a wedge between her and her kids is not only wrong, but she could absolutely take you to court over it and possibly win.
You have violated her parental rights. You need to make some amends.
Great fucking legal advice! Just what this guy came here for. To hear some armchair neckbeards talk about how his wife is the victim and this idiot goes so far as to saying that he needs to make AMENDS with a potentially hostile woman.
And then there's the classic projection from White Knights, Incels, and SJWs.
Honestly, the more I read this guy's posts the more I realize why the wife decided that infidelity and leaving him was the way to go. I'm not saying she had that the right way round, but I don't blame her for wanting out of the marriage.
Isn't it amazing how much push back this simple concept is getting here? A lot of people who don't understand how to handle adult problems like mature adults.
I know right? That woman shouldn’t be threatening the father of her children! Oh, wait, you think the woman threatening to kill someone is the victim...because the actual victim dared tell his kids the hard truth when they asked?
Legal advice is a shithole.
And now here's the original BOLA thread. Another thread filled with classic assumptions. LAOP talks reasonable and is coherent in his tone, he MUST be a narcissistic abuser and manipulating asshole and the wife is a victim! Everyone even going against this is down-voted.
Then OP posts an update. He confronts his ex wife in a reasonable manner and offers her a way to repair her relationship with his kids. He even tells them about how he was not the "best lover" and that she should be forgiven and that he "forgives" her.
bestoflegaladvice continues to maintain that OP is a psychopath and a manipulative jerk who has "hurt" his kids.
LAOP is still insufferable. Those poor kids :(
Clearly. The father responds in the thread, presenting himself in an eloquent and organized manner. He even attempts to repair the relationship between his ex and his kids.
Apparently the kids are "unlucky" to have such a caring and kind father. He should have lied to them forever. Lying fixes everything right?
"I believe I handled this perfectly." isn't very humble.
Sure, that was cocky. Better call him a sociopath, then!!! Better say that he thinks he's a God!
Like those statement aren't extreme and overly confident in one's abilities to judge character.
Of course he isn't an angel. What a stupid concept. And he's admitted as much. So why are you castigating him so hard for not being fucking angelic? You've been frothing at the mouth over this guy's story, calling him a monster. Where's your halo?
Downvoted. Why? Because apparently OP is supposed to be this infallible angel and the poor womyn is being oppressed by such a kind father who, supposedly, forgave her cheating and even tried to help her repair her relationship with the kids.
You can even go to church everyday before breakfast, but what you told here is just awful. You think you are a type of God who can manipulate the emotions of your kids. You are even a worse parent than one that cheats. Thats why you got so many downvotes. You arent seeing reality.
Again, this is what you considered to share. Im scared about what other terrible things you do to those poor kids. Instead of helping them. Terrible.
+41 upvotes. OP is getting savaged.
Oh, and how could one forget! The infantilization of two teenagers. Apparently they should be kept in the dark about why their world was shaken to the core. Apparently, they are too young and stupid to understand that their mother was a whore and that their world was shattered because of it. And supposedly, they aren't able to think for themselves and are clearly being manipulated by, as armchair psychologist eloquently puts, a sociopath.
And people wonder why men face difficulty in family courts.
edit: thanks for gold!