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Red Pill TheoryHow to meet and bang a girl (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Endorsed ContributorWoujo

Preparation

Be attractive For things you can’t control, make peace with the universe and accept that there are some girls that will just never fuck you because you are an ugly motherfucker. For shit you can control, look in the mirror, be objective, ignore your prejudices and insecurities, and just fucking fix what is wrong with you. If you can’t tell, ask a girl to tell you.

Your goals 1) get her emotionally invested in you (doing things for you, showing you positive body language, talking deeply about herself, being positive, and following you on your journey), 2) lead her around by developing a plan, tell her about it bit by bit, have her come along, change locations 2 or 3 times, end up at your house, 3) get her talking about herself and eventually pushing the interaction, 4) have genuine fun, which means do things you really find fun. If she thinks you’re pretending to have fun just to hang around her, she’ll think you’re corny. Even when you are dancing with her, she should feel like you really enjoy dancing and aren’t just doing it for her.

Your weapons are emotions The only way to break through a girl’s emotional wall is by delivering a strong emotional experience. You want to provide her the full spectrum of emotions: the low emotions (affection, comfort, relaxation, warmth, sexual energy, protection, silliness, authenticity), the high emotions (power, leadership, confidence, dominance, invincibility, weirdness, new experiences, high energy, masculinity), and the transcendent emotions (joy, transcendence, “love” in the abstract sense - don’t say “I love you”). Teasing is fine, but only if done on an underlying framework of positivity, friendliness and warmth. You must also speak intelligently, to overwhelm her thoughts AND emotions.

Strike the right balance Game is like surfing – you must stay at the “lip” of the wave - not too aggressive, not too passive. If you are too emotionally invested, she loses attraction and goes looking elsewhere. If you ignore her too much or act too platonic she thinks you’re not interested and goes looking elsewhere. You need to be slightly less emotionally invested in her the whole time, which means you need to know when to step on the gas and when to tap the brakes. I can’t teach this, it requires practice and the ability to read her.

Stepping on the gas is 1) making deep eye contract, 2) touching (preferably skin to skin), 3) Saying “bond-y” things like “we are the best dancers at this party”, 4) emitting sexual energy (just imagine sexual energy is a magical thing that you can just emit, you will know what I’m talking about), 5) inviting her to the next step in the adventure (“hey, let’s go to bar X after this drink”), 6) talking about deep/personal things. Women are very insecure, so if you don't keep your foot on the gas, her insecurity may make her check out of the interaction. Read her body language to determine if you should keep pressing the gas, but when in doubt, press. If she doesn’t like you, she can leave, or tell you to leave. “Creepiness,” to the extent such a concept exists, is simply emotional overinvestment. Don’t get too invested, and don’t do anything objectively creepy. If she unfairly thinks you’re being creepy, that’s not your problem.

Tapping the brakes is going cold. 1) looking at your phone, 2) breaking eye contact and looking around, 3) talking to other people, 4) doing what you want to do with no thought of what she wants to do, 5) fixating on a song or something else entertaining going on at the venue, 6) bathroom break 7) becoming unexpressive and silent. You tap the brakes when she taps the brakes – if she taps the brakes a little, you tap much harder, to let her know you make the rules, not her. Generally, you should tap the brakes more with “bitchy” girls, but you need to read correctly.

Even it’s going super well, tap the breaks occasionally to keep her guessing and to give her some breathing room. If you press the gas too hard, you can fix it by doing an emotional reset. For example, if you ask her to come to the next bar and she says no, I’ll say “ok, well I’m going anyway.” I then tap the brakes, do something different for a while, and then totally change the subject to something new. I build up the emotions again and then I say “ok, well I’m leaving now.” If she’s into you, she might follow the second time. If not, you’re chasing a dud.

You should also be ready to bail at any time if she is negative, crazy, or refusing to let you lead (that means she’s not attracted), even its 4 AM and you thought you made it. Don’t let the sunk cost fallacy ruin your night. You must have a video game or book you would be happy to go home to. Never do anything where you have to rely on her to get in, or get a ride home, etc… Don’t do something that you won’t enjoy doing. Sometimes she won’t get emotionally invested – it’s ok, not everyone has to like you – find someone who does

Come with the following things Breath mints. Charged phone. Charger if you might need it. Working Uber. Baby pictures - nephew, cousin, whatever. Two, three short stories that are funny, the more self-deprecating the better. A deep story about your perfect day (mine is smoking pot and riding my bike around South Beach listening to Madonna).

Get emotionally prepared Read, watch or think about something intellectually and emotionally more important than women and keep these thoughts and feelings in your head when out.

Talk to 3 girls before you go to your real venue There is a natural emotional “wall” that exists between people who are strangers. It’s the man’s job to break this wall down, but you need some practice so that your end of the wall is already gone.

Principles

Stay above the fray Imagine you just got back from partying with supermodels in Miami and these peasants are lucky you are even in their bar. Don’t get mired in petty conversations, stupid chit chat and negativity. Never forget that you are better than everybody there. And don’t forget you have a bulletproof plan to bring her back that works if you would just do it.

You don’t have to be her dream man This may not sound very inspirational, but the truth is that every woman is settling. Don’t drive yourself nuts thinking about whether you are good enough for her. Whether she likes you is none of your business. Go in, enjoy the interaction, and if she keeps talking to you, that means she’s fine with you. Think about yourself, not her.

Disinterested interest Humans connect on an emotional level and a rational level. Your rational words should show interest and enthusiasm but you must communicate the “emotion” of “I’m just talking to you to be nice, I would maybe rather be somewhere else.” Take the pressure off of her and just allow HER emotions to grow by not getting emotionally invested. And until she emotionally invests, DO NOT STOP YOUR MISSION. She should feel like you might walk away at any moment. Disinterested interest, however, does not mean be low energy or do not escalate – on the contrary, escalate and emit high sexual energy, just make her feel like are not totally emotionally committed.

Double meaning and plausible deniability You must constantly escalate, but also use “double meanings” – words and actions can be interpreted as interest and/or escalation, but also not. This keeps her guessing and gives you plausible deniability in case she feels pressured or indecisive. Say sexual things, but in a way that could possibly interpreted as just a joke. Example: Her: Are you trying to have sex with me? Me: I’m not sure, let’s see whether you mess this up.

Go deep Talk about deep stuff but don’t become her therapist or let her suck you into the vortex of her negativity or craziness. You are the lifeguard standing on the edge of the crazy pool, not another person drowning with her. Shift from silly to serious and back again effortlessly. Silly topics: 1) what’s your DJ name? 2) What super power would you want? 3) Everybody at the bar is secretly a paparazzi there to take pictures of you, but they are just playing it cool. 4) Let’s get drunk and go overthrow an oppressive government in the third world tonight. Serious topics: 1) How you have strong boundaries and don’t let people cross them, 2) How you are independent and do things alone, 3) how you are childlike and “nobody is really an adult”, 4) How you believe love is unconditional and not based on any particular attributes the person has, 5) How you love to live in the moment rather than have material things, 6) How you have a plan for world peace 7) How you love your job/hobby/whatever. Don’t discuss her exes, your exes, any other guy she is dating, or shit you will definitely disagree on. Call her out if she says anything fucked up like “I drink and drive.”

Don’t Don’t ask her for anything. Definitely don’t beg. Don’t let her feel like you are intimidated, awed or obsessed with her femininity or appearance. In fact, make sure any compliment about her appearance is done with extreme disinterested interest. If she does something overtly sexual to throw you off your game, use disinterested interest and double meaning to make her feel like you still may be interested, but the pussy can’t control you. Don’t give her anything she doesn’t deserve. Don’t pay for anything unless she pays for something first or agrees to pay (i.e., she agrees to buy the next round). Don’t let her dictate the conversation, especially if she wants to talk about stupid or boring shit. Don’t agree with her if she says crazy or stupid shit. Don’t validate yourself to her. Don’t brag.

Compliments Only compliment her if she did something actually objectively impressive and you are actually impressed.

The steps

Keep doing shit Motion creates emotion, so always be doing something when you’re out. You’re buying a drink, you’re finding your friend, you’re texting somebody. Women can subconsciously sense when you’re on a mission, and the moment you just stand there dumbly or show that she can throw you off your mission she loses attraction. No matter how hot or famous she is, don’t let her perturb you, change your emotional state, or alter your behavior. Until she gets emotionally invested enough in you, she has to feel like you would rather be doing something else and you are just talking to her to be nice.

Say hi to everyone Make eye contact with everyone. Say hi to every girl you see, with only extreme exceptions (she’s clearly there with a guy, etc…). Wave if she’s far away. The warmer her reaction, the more conducive she is to being approached. But keep doing what you’re doing as you’re saying hi. If you’re going to buy a drink, keep your body in the motion of buying a drink. The worst possible thing that can happen is that she gives you a weird look or looks away, and this usually only happens if she’s there with a guy. No matter how unattractive you are, on a biological level it’s hard to say no to a happy person saying hi to you.

If you’re in a social crowd with people you know, talk to everybody, men and women, so you don’t look like some creeper that just wants pussy. In fact, in a mixed crowd of friends talk to the head alpha male and then introduce yourself to the girls almost as an afterthought. But eventually introduce yourself to every girl there – it’s only polite.

Approach If she shows interest, approach, but keep doing what you’re doing. Sound like a contradiction? It is, but women’s feelings are contradictory. If you’re buying a drink, keep buying the drink as you are “approaching.” Good opening lines: “hey how are you,” “what’s your deal,” “you’re too hot to be here,” “how was your day?” “what brought you out tonight?” Stay warm and keep a big smile: you are a happy retard. Tap into the emotional “tone” of the moment? DJ’s awesome? Say something about it. Funny guy dancing in the corner? Say something about it. Keep it positive unless you can figure out a way to make a negative funny or positive.

What to talk about? The beginning conversation is less about the subject matter rather than proving to her you’re not a creep or stalker. Ask her what she’s doing at the bar, give her a compliment, make a joke and then just talk about whatever comes up naturally.

Eliminate duds as quickly as you can Who is she there with? Her boyfriend? Eliminate. Is she being negative? Bad mood? Being a jerk? Eliminate. Her friends? Where are they? What’s her plan for the night? If she’s leaving in 10 minutes, eliminate. Wait until it’s appropriate to ask these questions, but you need to know these answers before you waste too much time on her. Also, be careful to not get distracted– many girls, even those who rejected you previously, will suddenly get very friendly if they see you with another girl. If you spend too much time on these girls, you WILL screw it up with your primary mission.

Take the power position in the conversation Whoever is more physically comfortable has the power position. If she’s sitting and you’re standing or if you’re contorting your body to talk to her, she’s in the power position. You must absolutely demand (without words) to speak to her face to face, have your own space, and feel comfortable. If you’re sitting, don’t offer her the seat. Take a step back every once in a while to make her feel like she is crowding you, not the other way around. Be calm. Speak slowly. Think before you talk. Don’t get sucked into her emotional vortex.

Be the opposite of a jealous, controlling, judgmental douchebag Introduce her to all your friends and anybody else important at the bar. Introduce her to the “alpha male” of the party to show you’re not afraid of him (if she decides to fuck him, she wasn’t that into you in the first place). Be super nice to bouncers, Uber drivers, etc… If she starts being a bitch, give her a serious look and tell her “he’s just doing his job.” Random guy comes over and starts talking to her? Great, he’s now your best friend and you should try to include him in the conversation as much as you can until he freaks out by how nice you’re being and runs away. Talk to all of her friends in 1-1 conversations and compliment them. If one of them is being a bitch, ignore the bitchiness as if it doesn’t exist. Try to read her friends and see how they feel, if one is skeptical focus on him/her the most. If it looks like they will veto you, get her number and bounce.

Keep escalating emotions Humans constantly want stronger emotions. If we eat a cookie, next we want 2 cookies. Give someone a bump of cocaine, next they want 2. Etc... If you provide a flat, consistent emotional experience, she will lose interest, so you must provide stronger and stronger emotions. Human emotions are also dynamic. It doesn’t matter that you were tingling her feels at 10:00, you need to bring new tingles at 10:05. When you hit an emotional peak, say something “bond-y” (I’m glad I met you, this is such a fun night, I am so good at finding awesome people) the first time, get her number the second time, go for a kiss when it’s appropriate. Read the situation.

The man must dictate the emotional tone, but it also must match her emotions. If you don’t match her emotions, you won’t connect emotionally, but if you let her dictate the emotional tone, she is controlling the interaction and not you. Your best bet is to show her you can do any emotions she does but bigger, more pure, and more positive. Don’t bring out your weird, edgy or offensive side until she’s bought into you and knows you’re not a creeper. Say real shit to show you’re not putting on a façade (I lose my wallet all the time, etc…).

Hook her At some point in the conversation, establish that you guys are “together.” If she’s showing interest, say something like “I’m really glad I met you tonight, we are definitely going to hang out.” Don’t say anything too grand like “you’re my girlfriend now.”. After you hook, you can press the gas harder and tap the brakes more often. Depending on the situation, you may have to hook sooner – if you’re in a big group of girls and/or guys, you need to hook early.

Take the plane off, fly, and then land it Women want to fuck but are too afraid of rejection to approach guys or push the interaction, so you have to do it. You must show you are reliable and can pull off the whole process with no weirdness, awkwardness or making her feel shitty. Make her feel like the entire night is planned out and she can just stop thinking and enjoy the ride. Act like you know what you’re doing and that you’re a professional (girls say they hate players but awkward, unconfident guys are worse). Act like you know the game. Act like you don’t need to manipulate or cajole her. Think three steps ahead and have a plan for the whole night. Transition everything smoothly - if you are going to the bathroom, tell her you’ll be back (unless you need to slam the brakes for some reason). Don’t ever let her feel like you abandoned her.

Back at your place

If she’s ready to fuck, throw her on the bed and fuck her. If she needs some emotional escalation, put on a movie and cuddle up next to her. Watch enough of the movie to make her think that you might really just want to watch the movie, have some non-sexual conversation, segue to deep, emotional conversations, and then at an emotional peak, kiss her. If she’s into it, stop a few times, keep chatting, and then go for a kiss again. After two or three false starts, start undressing her and/or rubbing her pussy. Sometimes really emotionally damaged girls don’t want to kiss, but will respond if you start rubbing their pussy, so act accordingly.

If she turns you down, confidently acknowledge the situation (I sometimes jokingly say “I’ve never been turned down for sex ever”, etc…), and then do a complete 180 emotionally, changing the subject to something completely non-sex related (hey you wanna watch a cool video on Youtube?). After enough time has passed, escalate the emotions again and then when you hit an emotional peak, try again. If she turns you down 2 or 3 times give up.

If she wants to have a long conversation about whether she should or shouldn’t have sex with you don’t engage. I usually say something pithy and end it at that (“I am not going to judge you and who cares what society thinks.”). If she’s still struggling with it, tell her “I’ll give you some time to think about it” and then go back into a non-sexual, deep conversation, hit an emotional peak, and then go for it again. If she says something like “you do this to a lot of girls” give another pithy response and don’t let her dwell on it (“I am flattered you think girls want to fuck me. Not every girl makes bad decisions like you do.”).

Have your own condoms that are big enough. After you are done, dispose the condom in an environmentally-friendly way, making sure that you don't lose any jizz. Pull out if you think it may have come off.

She won’t go home with you?

Get her number. After you leave, text her something later that night like “great to meet you tonight, let’s hang soon!” Two days later, text her about some random thing you guys did or talked about, but don‘t ask her out. Two days after that, invite her out but phrase it like this “I am going to be at X place at Y time. Come join.”

Last word

All of this writing is useless. It’s all true, in my opinion, but what’s important is being there in the moment and feeling and breathing that energy. You can’t go in with a script. This is all stuff that you need to know but don’t expect it to happen overnight – you need to get caught up in the moment. But at the same time, you need to do what’s right, not necessarily what you feel.

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[–]condude 188 points189 points  (46 children)

Don't flush condoms down the toilet dude.

[–]NotMyBestEffort 182 points183 points  (3 children)

You get twice the mileage on your condoms if you just turn them inside out and reuse them...

[–]Monsterpiece42 85 points86 points  (1 child)

That's actually a good investment because after the second time you probably won't need one again for the better part of a year.

[–]deadendstory 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Remember to shake the fuck out of them.

[–]IWantaPupper 36 points37 points  (1 child)

Don't flush lone condoms down YOUR toilet. If it's hers or someone else just wrap that bad boi in TP and let it ride.

[–]KaRzual 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck i laughed so hard after reading this, thanks

[–]condude 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Lots of people messaged me. I don't flush condoms down toilets for two reasons. The first is that it's littering, and that's just immature. The second reason is that you could seriously clog the plumbing under whichever toilet you flush that condom down. It's a stupid idea for stupid people.

[–]Hsnbrg501 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do plumbing, and have had to respond to cloggages, in which, 9 times out of 10, the culprit was a feminine product of some sort (tampons, feminine wipes, etc, excessive amounts of toilet paper, makeup and cosmetics being poured down the drain.). Haven't discovered a condom yet, but these people always end up being joked about for not taking common sense measures to prevent a clog.

[–]Mantas_Confid 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Why?

[–]ZT3V3N 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Can fuck your plumbing, like tampons.

[–]gummycurly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because there exist, albeit a few, girls who will try and intentionally get pregged.

[–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 7 points8 points  (32 children)

What do you do with them?

[–][deleted] 86 points87 points  (2 children)

Funny story. Moved into a place when I was 22 with a couple other guys.

Landlord was this awesome like 70 year old hippie dude.

He was like look I know you are gonna do a little partying and whatnot but that's cool just obviously don't trash stuff.

Fortunately you aren't girls though. No matter how many times I tell them I always have to end up charging them because they flush tampons and whatnot.

In fact the worst thing was the girls before you in fact the one that lived in your room. Her toilet was backing up and I had to call her parents and ask for 1500 in plumbing fees because she had flushed like 50 condoms down the toilet.

Just be smart and don't make me do that shit again.

[–]NotProgramSupervisor 44 points45 points  (1 child)

1500 in plumbing fees because she had flushed like 50 condoms down the toilet.

50!? I wonder how the conversation with her parents went

[–]casemodsalt 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Your daughter is a whore but at least she's not a dirty whore

[–]maxman573 72 points73 points  (7 children)

Tie them shut then wrap in tissues and throw in the garbage. Flushing them is bad for the sewage system and the environment

[–]Laserman422 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Really. I thought children are bad for the environment

[–]okiedokie321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

a silent violin for all the would-be children out there.

[–]deville05 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Pour hand sanitizer into it and leave it. If she puts it into her cooch, it will burn

[–]Viklove 12 points13 points  (1 child)

And it will kill the sperm...

[–]crimsonkodiak 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I just turn it inside out and give it a rinse in the sink. Then you can just wrap it in a tissue and throw it in the garbage.

I mean, you could do the hand sanitizer/bleach thing, but that seems like overkill to me.

[–]Jackrabbit710 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Your gunk isn't water soluble. It clings to hairs and other crap and eventually will also block your bath/sink drains. (Extreme cases obviously)

[–]crimsonkodiak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eh - I'm not really worried about that. I'm sure lots of the stuff that goes down my drain isn't water soluble (hair gel, all the crap women put on their skin/hair/whatever, etc.). The odds of the successive thimbles full of jizz that go down my drain actually building up and causing a problem seem infinitesimal.

And I'll take washing the condom out over either (i) looking like Mr. flipping Wizard who pulls out a bottle of bleach/hand sanitizer and mixes it into the used condom or (ii) worrying about some kid-desperate woman fishing it out of the trash and sticking me with child support payments.

Unless you're a complete degenerate, you're going to wash yourself off after sex anyway, so might as well rinse off the rubber while you're at the sink.

[–]TheSp4rk 12 points13 points  (3 children)

It's really on a case by case, I try not to but when in doubt...

-> Flush the condom down the toilet - I've had girls eager to get pregnant ("oh it's so much better without a condom!" to "let's make a [XYZ ethnicity] baby it would be beautiful!"), and they get to go to the bathroom after me

[–]NotNormal2 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Bring hot sauce, put some in used condom, throw in trash.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's bizarre. I mean if it's at her place fuck it. Just don't do it at yours.

[–]badchad_isglad 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Bring a plastic zip-lock bag to put it in after your done

[–]Reastruth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IF you're going to flush the condom - be sure to tie it off near the opening, so that it doesn't create a water balloon. THEN wrap it in tp and flush.

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    [–]MEpicLevelCheater[M] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Keep it civil. This is your only warning.

    [–]Hillarysdilddo_2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Destroy the evidence.

    Swallow the condom.

    Or hide it in the back.

    If you know what I mean.

    [–]1Tommy_407 31 points32 points  (1 child)

    Im convinced that TRP as a whole disregards this entire post due to the issue of condoms being flushed down the toilet.

    Im also convinced we are more concerned with condoms down the toilet than the titled of the post, "bang a girl"😂

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Haha so true. I just happened to have had a funny story illustrating why you shouldn't. I guess we all got a bit carried away

    [–]BabaGanoush12 22 points23 points  (2 children)

    So in other words dont break out the magnum condoms and a wad of cash?

    [–]Sandman616 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Not this time, Dr. Taboggan.

    [–]wazertujj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    From what I've heard it's more affective than the D.E.N.N.I.S system

    [–]Dookiestain_LaFlair 69 points70 points  (6 children)

    You can also say "bond-y" things as in "What would James Bond say?" Like if you are walking with a girl and someone tries to mug you but you disarm them and stab them with their own knife, you can look at her and say "I think he got the point"

    [–]Sandman616 17 points18 points  (1 child)

    That only happens to me like, once a month, though.

    [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Start watching stand up, you'll begin to pick up good one-liners and jokes that have been demonstrated to play well to a diverse audience

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      [–]Dookiestain_LaFlair 15 points16 points  (0 children)

      Any car can have an ejector seat

      [–]Chiptehubah 19 points20 points  (1 child)

      killer line, puns are great if you're smooth about it

      [–]logicalthinker1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Ehh I think of their cheesy, you need to play up the cheese so she doesn't think you actually thought it was witty. But if it's truly witty, just say it like it was no effort at all. And let the flood gates open

      [–]oZeplikeo 49 points50 points  (31 children)

      This is all good stuff. Doesn't this seem like a shitload of work? I'm a student and I don't have much time to do HALF of this stuff. I suppose this is more directed at guys with 9-5 jobs that are financially stable? I guess I'm not ready for pick-up just yet.

      [–]Fartfacethrowaway 52 points53 points  (8 children)

      This all takes 2-3 hours tops he's just wordy.

      [–]oZeplikeo 8 points9 points  (7 children)

      Yeah I guess I mean to try to remember to half of this stuff. I have so much shit on my mind.. but to be fair this is a post from someone who has perfected the game over years I am sure. So these would definitely be the IDEAL things to do. It's just a bit daunting at first glance.

      [–]Chiptehubah 16 points17 points  (0 children)

      After you've experienced the emotional roller-coaster ride of engaging a woman for an evening much of this seems pretty obvious, but its fantastic to see it broken down and organized this well. Like he said, you can't go into it expecting to remember these, especially not like a checklist.

      Once you develop the desired mindset it comes naturally.

      [–]imn0tg00d 7 points8 points  (2 children)

      Not daunting. It's all a bunch of small habits that add up to the whole. It helps if you have a friend trying pickup with you, that way you can critique and push yourselves.

      You guys have it lucky though. When I was learning this stuff it was new and there wasn't as much information available. All we had was the Venusian Arts Handbook and "The Game" by Neil Strauss. I learned to get over my AA by doing magic card tricks in a bar with random groups. It had the added side effect of teaching me how to control frame as well. I stopped with the card trick thing and the peacocking once I learned what I was doing of course, but it helped because it made me think of something else while I was learning game.

      Fast forward about 10 years and all of those habits this guy talks about are pretty much second nature. You don't think about the steps, you've done it so many times that you just intuitively feel what the proper thing to do is.

      [–]gerannu 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      The Game was absolute gold back in the day. I lost count of how many times I recited 'the box' to girls in the smoking area of bars/clubs!

      [–]imn0tg00d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I still use style's kiss close from time to time.

      [–]mmmoreos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Just gotta practice man. Everyone has a lot on their minds but when you want to go out and do practice and hopefully get laid you just forget about all that. Just go have fun. Like its just a new activity or hobby you're picking up.

      [–]CollaterLDamage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      its the "mystery method" in a nutshell. you can practice this at anytime.

      it is recommended for people who are stable;getting your shit together should come before getting a women but that doesnt mean you dont make time for practice.

      practice at work if you have to. social skills are a universally necessary trait. i can near guarantee the people you work with go out regularly.if the least you can do is make friends with everyone, then that'll help you develop stories/ a more interesting life.

      [–]NihilistMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      It's a learned skill like anything else. You get better at all this shit the more you do it, until it becomes the natural way you behave.

      [–]MarqueeSmyth 19 points20 points  (9 children)

      Are you actually implying that students have less free time than people with 9-5 jobs?

      You're due for a very unpleasant surprise.

      [–]oZeplikeo 5 points6 points  (2 children)

      I am a dental student, I suppose I was talking more about myself.

      If I have free time I am in the library cramming.

      [–]MarqueeSmyth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      It'll get worse before it gets better. A lot of people think of college as the best and happiest time of their lives, and there's a reason for that.

      [–]OpenFire1 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Right? I would KILL to be in college again.

      [–]thegymismysanctuary 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      I wouldn't. University/college means spread out and irregular class routines, a horribly slow paced and lazy mentality, constant deadlines, hand-ins and exams. Just started a graduate job in an oil refinery (office hours) and absolutely loving it, i come in, learn loads of interesting stuff, make my contribution and leave knowing the rest of the day is mine. Just my 2 cents (or pence where I come from.)

      [–]OpenFire1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I preferred the varying schedule. I could also just not show up if I didn't feel like it. Deadlines are nothing. Being stuck somewhere for 8hrs straight 5 days in a row is hell. Then only having 2 days off? Yeah no thanks.

      [–]palaceposy6706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Wait until you hit management...

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        [–]MarqueeSmyth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Good luck with that bruv. Engineering students have very little free time, that's true, but engineering jobs are like 60 - 80 hour weeks. And it doesn't come in semesters with nice breaks between them, and it doesn't end with a degree and a pat on the back, it's forever, for the rest of your life - and you may want to try to have a family and friends and a life outside of work, too.. I hope this isn't the first you're hearing of this.

        [–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 12 points13 points  (1 child)

        What part of it seems like work to you?

        [–]RmX93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I like the examples you giving us.

        [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (9 children)

        here's the not over thinking weirdo way to get to know women:

        1) believe you can actually do it 2) try to do it 3) be genuine and listen more than you talk 4) mutual respect is key 5) either succeed or don't 6) if someone doesn't seem interested in you, say nice to meet you and walk away

        people who have problems talking to girls almost all stumble on that first point. get passed that and you're probably golden. do the above things enough and eventually you'll find yourself in bed with someone you probably don't hate being around and doesn't hate being around you.

        if you just want to get laid then just get some opinions on what you choose to wear if you're not confident about that and go to a bar or something.

        [–]slay_it_forward 1 point2 points  (8 children)

        Just be yourself bro! Bluepill faggot detected.

        [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (7 children)

        that's not what I'm saying. if everyone who can't talk to girls just continued being themselves they'd get nowhere. what I'm saying is you have to cut out the nervous pathetic bullshit. nobody likes that shit. and also to not dress like a guy who says "blue pill faggot detected" probably does.

        [–]techfronic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Yeah it's seriously so simple. Just be confident

        [–]slay_it_forward -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

        Just remember, mutual respect is key to fucking women lmfao

        [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

        dude have you ever even left your mom's house? people like you wonder why girls don't even want to look at you. at least I know what it feels like to have someone other than an anime pillow want to spend time with me.

        [–]slay_it_forward -3 points-2 points  (3 children)

        Uneven pizza king alpha slayer!

        [–]Scriptopeia 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        I can see from my desktop here that you are one of those keyboard warriors.

        [–]slay_it_forward 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        suck a dick pussy. Say that to my screen

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        [–]Totsean 10 points11 points  (3 children)

        1) Lift

        2) Be Social

        3) Tinder / Club/ FB/ Instagram

        4) Match, Talk, Message, Message, interact.

        5) Meet up, Coffee shop etc

        6) Take her home

        7) Profit ???

        That's what I do. Works well.

        [–]slay_it_forward 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        The best guys I've known with women didn't lift. Theory debunked!

        [–]Totsean 6 points7 points  (1 child)

        Well, lifting helps in self confidence, if you have it, you don't need to lift. It's being comfortable with your body.

        [–]Warren_Bates 18 points19 points  (1 child)

        Sometimes really emotionally damaged girls don’t want to kiss, but will respond if you start rubbing their pussy, so act accordingly.

        Also, know when to leave.

        [–]Furgz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        I'm 9 days late to this thread but I had some criticism at that part. If a girl denies a kiss the first time, she's not going to accept one 10 minutes later. It's a really really good sign that you need to stop trying for the night. Maybe try once more in like half an hour. If that fails, she's obviously not into it. Also under no circumstance is it a good idea to start reaching into a persons pants if they have already denied you several kisses. That sort of stuff lands guys in trouble.

        Realistically, if you're bringing a girl to your apartment alone and she isn't practically leading the way, you're in a questionable situation. The intention of going home with a girl should be clear before you decide to go there.

        [–]vakamaah 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        Don't flush lone condoms down the toilet part.

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        [–]killer3james 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        Creepiness is emotional over investment.

        Couldn't have summarised it any better.

        [–]ArthurTheAstronaut 12 points13 points  (0 children)

        Really enjoyed this.

        Thanks for posting, OP.

        [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        A lot to remember but good shit

        [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        This is good post on night game and PUA skills. Good game is essential to getting laid if you are not Chad.

        [–]systematicSYCO 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        dude you are thinking about this way too much. Banging girls really isnt this hard.

        [–]Persaeus 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        Lot of great advice here; couple thoughts:

        You must also speak intelligently, to overwhelm her thoughts AND emotions.

        Yes, don't speak like a hood rat or a backwoods hillbilly but you can also overdo this if you're very intelligent or learned yourself. Never try to explain something technical, mechanical, etc. unless she is already an expert herself (i.e. don't talk to her like she is a dude). Be careful of using too many big words unless she is using them routinely. You want her respect; but you don't want to appear like you are trying to impress her or bore her because she has no idea WTF you're talking about.

        Is she being negative? Bad mood? Being a jerk? Eliminate.

        Maybe, maybe not. She might be shit testing the fuck out of you because she suddenly wants your dick; but either wants to trade paint first or is incongruent with the fact that she is married (or whatever). I have had plenty of pussy where she started off being a cunt.

        [–]slay_it_forward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Never use logic with women theory!

        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Too much work, its much easier to make money and pay

        [–]YamanekoBlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        how do you guys communicate that you're not gonna pay for the girls' meal/drink/whatever?

        I ask the girl out, and I'd feel like an asshole if after we finished I asked her to pay for hers. I usually just pay without even noting the bill. But I'd rather save some $.

        Is there a certain point I should be explicit about it?

        [–]AlwaysFlank 3 points4 points  (1 child)

        This is a lot of good stuff. Thanks for writing it out

        [–]fcb98292 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        It is sometimes helpful to dumb down your language a bit for the sake of female conversation.

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        [–]SloppySynapses 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        sits down. backs up from you. establishes disinterest.

        we're the best redditors in this comment thread

        I don't care about pussy. We're definitely going to hang out again.

        [–]kutwijf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Yo wanna nexflix and chill?

        [–]juicystick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        And remember, if you don't memorize that entire essay, there's no way in hell you'll ever get laid!! /s

        [–]NotNormal2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Seems complicated. I think I'll just go mgtow

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        [–]BiggerFrenchie 2 points3 points  (2 children)

        Ohh, is that all...

        You guys are idiots.

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          [–]BiggerFrenchie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

          Only a real tool-bag writes a 10 page essay on picking up girls. It takes a real idiot to follow the advice.

          Just put your punk asses out there and you'll meet girls. God damn. Somehow men and neckbeards alike have managed since the dawn of time to reproduce.

          You boneheads are fucking up the flow with this pickup culture nonsense.

          [–]callienoel7 3 points4 points  (11 children)

          Or you could just be yourself instead of read this dissertation and try to formulate behaviors from it. Yikes.

          [–]SloppySynapses 6 points7 points  (6 children)

          it basically boils down to "be yourself and don't come off as desperate" anyway. anything that strays too far from that comes off as weird and excessively analytical/manipulative

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

          Exactly. I really hope guys on here don't try and pretend they're someone they're not just because they read a few internet articles. Do people really need this stuff written down?

          No fault with OP, but what you wrote is just stuff that happens naturally. I fear for the people who take your advice and end up behaving in a robotic manner instead of just letting things happen naturally. I suppose that's not your fault though.

          [–]Sandman616 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          Do people really need this stuff written down?

          Do you know what sub you're in?

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I do. I just think some people on here over complicate this type of stuff. It comes off as a really autistic way to getting a women. Maybe some people on here need that though. SloppySynapses said it best, just be yourself and not desperate. Have the balls to approach women but don't get upset if you get rejected.

          If you do this then in the long run you'll do well enough. This whole breaking things down into a formula and thinking you've the whole puzzle figured out is just such naive thinking. 'oh I forgot about rule number 4.3, that's why I couldn't close the deal.'

          [–]tsirolnik 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          happens naturally

          You do realize that some people got fucked up in their lives and therefore it doesn't comes naturally?

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          That's fair enough but to be honest I wouldn't know what sort of advice to give them type of guys. I knew an autistic lad back in college and he would ask us advice on women. He literally wanted a play by play of what he needed to do from talking to her to getting her to his room and what to do then when he got her to his room. He couldn't figure out that the best way is to just play it by ear. No, he needed that instruction manual that would only be good be good in one situation and heavens forbid if the night slightly deviated from the plans he made in his own head.

          Meh, I'm not hating. Some people find it difficult that others.

          [–]tsirolnik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Not talking about autistic people, but rather about people who've ate shit throughout their lives and therefore lack social skills

          [–]1Sir_Distic 0 points1 point  (3 children)

          "Be yourself" is foolish (safe) beta thinking. "you're a nice guy. Don't worry. Just be yourself Billy Beta." (HOW DARE YOU TRY TO BREAK OUT OF THE BETA ROLE I PUT YOU IN. GET BACK IN YOUR PLACE.)

          Don't "be yourself". Be someone who is awesome. Don't fake it, don't pretend to be someone awesome. Be it. Then women will flock to you.

          [–]callienoel7 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          Then in 6 months that fake persona you put on implodes because you're tired of lying to yourself/your SO and you revert back to the shit for brains who took advice from a Reddit post. But that's just a woman's opinion. sips tea

          [–]zyzzguido55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          It's not fake if you become it. There's no such thing as a fake persona as well because in essence everyones playing a game so in that sense, everyone is fake.

          [–]trapaik 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Damn I already do a lot of this but awesome to have it all written down, thanks op.

          [–]Zaerx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          You knew you may or may not get any direct benefit back to yourself by sharing your thoughts. You didn't mind, and you did it anyway.

          It may not seem like it sometimes, but people take notice.

          [–]TheSp4rk 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Woujo, thanks for a great helpful post that encompasses much of a date from the approach to the close - it felt fresh/natural/honest in its push/pull + methods + examples.

          In the Last word paragraph, what do you mean "do what's right, not necessarily what you feel."?

          [–]1empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Why is self depreciation good? I love Conan and have great self depreciation game but as soon as I found TRP I realised it doesn't work for me and saw a lot of my past mistakes.

          Self depreciation might work but you have to be simultaneously pulling it off with some serious background confidence to subtly negate it.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Well how do you become the "alpha male" of the party?

          [–]ChromeJester 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Don't say anything grand like "you're my girlfriend now"

          I don't know why I find this so funny

          [–]tolerantman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          1.Be rich 2.Be famous 3.Be good looking 4.Say "hi, wanna fuck?"

          [–]killa_beez420 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          "Only compliment her if she did something actually objectively impressive and you are actually impressed"

          "Ask her what she’s doing at the bar, give her a compliment"

          Pretty much sums up this wordy ass manifesto

          [–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          No I don't think that's an accurate summary.

          [–]lucasappo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          did all of this on one girl, now she is obsessed by me

          [–]LostAnimalSpirit 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          While reading this I went back to so many nights out when I was in the moment and following all your advice unconsciously. Yet for some reason, there will always be a time that I will need to read something like this as a reminder. Any idea why this is?
          Thank you for this amazing post.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          because a lot of this is counterintuitive and not what you would want to "naturally" do. That's the whole reason for writing it down.

          [–]yummyluckycharms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          People - always, always, always, flush condoms down the toilet when you've fucked a girl and its not at your place. Wrap toilet paper around it, and the sewage system will treat it like typical human waste.

          The reason why you flush it is because you dont want to get sperm jacked which happens pretty frequently. Remember - we are talking about a society where there is a thriving black market for positive pregnancy tests or where there are commercials on tv raving about people who poke holes in condoms.

          People say that its bad for the environment? Wanna know whats worse? Adding another person to the already overpopulated planet. Always look out for numero uno

          [–]Metrack 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Great post, many good advices with explanations but still I have a question. What do you advice when I don't have a place for easy fuck close, because I'm living with parents?

          [–]realslimshady1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Now all i need is a guide on how to let them hoes stick 'em on the other hole

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children)

          Two, three short stories that are funny, the more self-deprecating the better.

          This is where I stopped reading. Self deprecation is beta game

          [–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 3 points4 points  (6 children)

          Being afraid to say anything self-deprecating about yourself is the sign of an insecure douche.

          [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

          Sure. But relying heavily on self deprecation is the sign of a beta bitch. This is a site full of betas trying to reform and a few successfully reformed betas, the last thing they need to be told is "the more self deprecation the better"

          [–]BoyWhoreWithASword 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Excellent point. There's a balance and of course there's levels to this shit.

          But overall I agree with you.

          Self-deprecation should never be relied on but it also shouldn't be feared.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorWoujo[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          This post isn't supposed to be training wheels for betas. It is designed to be the overall "right" thing to do, so I am assuming you are coming into it acting alpha.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          I am assuming you are coming into it acting alpha.

          Are you kidding? The post is called "how to meet and bang a girl," and it entails the most basic game that could only be described as training wheels for betas. Why would anyone who acts alpha be reading this? Other than the 20% of guys who actually manage to reform their beta ways, the demographic of TRP is not alpha males

          [–]benzguy1972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I've been binging on the Youtube pranksters JStu & Big Daws for the last week or so. They aren't afraid of self-deprecating. I would say that 75% (give or take) of the girls they approach are super receptive. All it takes is walking up to a girl and saying "Hello". It also helps if you don't look homeless.