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Red Pill TheoryQuick-and-dirty tips and tricks for aspiring alphas (self.TheRedPill)

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A pure, natural alpha doesn't need tips and tricks for maintaining frame, but I am anything but a natural alpha and these are some simple techniques I've employed to "fake it till I make it" with respect to communicating with women, including in a LTR.

Never discuss your feelings or emotions. Just don't. Holding her hand in silence or hugging her warmly is all she needs. Do not betray your inner emotional life to a woman's fickle ears.

Do not talk about yourself. Don't psychoanalyze yourself out loud to her. Talk about the things you love and enjoy. Don't talk about yourself. She is not worthy of that. That is for a close male friend if at all.

Occasionally be unexpectedly thoughtful. Give her a cupcake with your names on it. Pick her a flower. Tiny expressions like this, devoid of any verbal affection and followed immediately by a return to the relatively aloof and stoic frame, can pierce a woman's heart with an emotional snag that sparks a deeper kind of attraction and love.

Be in charge of goodbyes. Initiate departures most of the time. If she says she should probably get going, immediately comply with a smile. Always appear comfortable leaving.

Touch her. You are entitled to her body. It's your toy for you to play with and enjoy. Assume this right as early as possible, beginning with benign physical contact and quickly escalating. It's her responsibility to protect herself from unwanted physical affection, not yours to guess how much affection she is comfortable with. Her restricting your access is funny, always. Acting butt-hurt about being rejected is tremendously unattractive.

Regularly temporarily withdraw from initiating any physical affection. Find that you're touching her first a lot? Withdraw for 15 minutes to an hour. Don't refuse her touch, just abstain from initiating it. She may not notice this consciously but subconsciously it can trigger a slightly oxytocin deficiency that will clue her into how much she needs you.

Sex should consist of her acting in submission to you. In bed, she is a rag doll, a slave. Exercise complete dominion over your woman in bed. The only limits to your alpha expression in bed should be legal ones. Don't be an English farmer, be a Viking pillager.

Obligatory: Lift 3x week, keep a top-tier haircut, wear good clothes (if you have no idea where to start, just go to H&M and Urban Outfitters).

Ditch all processed foods. Eat as clean as possible. This will improve every aspect of your life immediately. If you need to ween off processed foods, start with clean breakfasts, then add clean lunches, etc. No added sugar, no corn syrup. Buy natural ingredients and learn to enjoy simple home-cooked meals.

Meditate. Just do it. Meditate every day. If you don't know where to start, sit down somewhere, close your eyes, and count your breaths to 100. Tame your mind.

Cut out all porn. It's time to put that away. Fantasizing is for teenagers.

Experiment with abstaining from masturbation. Shoot for one week and observe the cognitive and hormonal effects. Everyone is different but many people find that abstaining dramatically increases social confidence and energy. This has been my experience. YMMV.

Usually wait at least 10 minutes before responding to a text. If you're hanging out waiting to receive a text on your phone, at least pretend you're not.

Don't use smiley faces, exclamation marks, or laughing ("haha," "lol).

Send less words to her than she is to you. Count them. Additionally, a text should be less than 8 words.

At least 75% of texts sent to her should be unserious, witty, flirtatious, teasing. Texting is for entertainment, not meaningful relationship-building.

Before sending a text, ask yourself this question regarding the text: "Could an idiot have written this text?" Don't say things like "How are you?" Don't ask her about her day. Tie in a previous bit of information in a witty way. Stimulate your woman's mind in a way that other people can't.

Never discuss feelings or emotions via text. Your sincere thoughts are probably too meaningful and sacred to even be communicated verbally to your woman, let alone put into a cheap text.

Err on the side of less texting. Regularly fail completely to respond or acknowledge her texts, including questions that seem important to her. You love her, but you love yourself more and you have a life to attend to.

Furthermore, occasionally ignore her for periods of time ranging from 12 to 48 hours. Two days of radio silence, unexplained, will increase attraction from a woman who is already has feelings for you. For a long-term relationship, 24 hours may be sufficient. I promise you that causing your girlfriend emotional pain by occasionally ignoring her for an uncomfortable 24 hours will directly result in more attraction, not less.

If you are a hopelessly beta, bottom of the barrel male, I recommend shocking your system by committing yourself to a couple of days of solitude in the wilderness. Buy some gear and go into the wilderness for a couple of days with food and water. Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.


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[–]razor5151 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter, my card has a subtle off-white color, and tasteful thickness.

[–][deleted] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

[–]starvinmarvin30 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Greatest scene in the movie imo. Everyone always looks at me like I'm retarded when that scene comes on cuz I'm the only one laughing..they just don't get it I guess.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It takes a certain kind of person to catch all the humor in American Psycho.

[–][deleted] 180 points181 points  (25 children)

i feel so alpha counting words in texts to make sure i dont put as many words in?

edit this was a popular comment with lots of replies I just wanted to say its indicative of the fundamental flaw in the rp theory... alphas do not do something for any reason other than they want too.

making rules and keeping a mental check list of what is alpha... is essentially not alpha.

[–]sefmz 202 points203 points  (2 children)

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What is this?

[–]HocusDaber 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Show that you are in charge of situations! And just don't charge up your phone to 100%. This will get their battery juice really flowing

[–]DossSayss 66 points67 points  (9 children)

yeah some people on here go overboard with the rules. just chill. do whatever you want, wack off and reply back immediately. just learn from the experience if you get results you don't like...either adjust them to better suit your goal or drop them altogether. all this absolute shit...like 8 words... is someone playing around in daddy's clothes. grow up

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

reply back immediately

I reply back as soon as I have time. When I'm doing somthing different, I will finish doing that. But if I just finished doing something (or am about to start something longer) I will reply immediately.

I honestly have better things to do than waiting 10minutes before I am "allowed" to reply. If you actually have the time to wait that's more of a problem. You should not sit on your ass waiting for something and if you have an active enough life you will be often enough in situations where you will reply "late".

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    [–]rpscrote 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    all this absolute shit...like 8 words... is someone playing around in daddy's clothes. grow up

    It's a tips and tricks thread. It gives you shortcuts which simply embody greater principles.

    If you can't see "reply in 8 words" means "your time is more valuable and you should indicate this," then you probably still need to use tips and tricks.

    [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    When I'm walking down the street and I see a guy having stating contests with everyone, I just assume that this guy cares way too much about asserting dominance.

    Part of being the alpha you is being comfortable with yourself.

    [–]osborne_cox 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    just chill. do whatever you want, wack off and reply back immediately

    I'm speechless. You're on a sub that focuses on in depth analyses of how to self improve and get women and this is the best you can muster up?

    If you think it's that simple, you're sorely mistaken. If you're thinking to yourself, "I'm successful, and it is this simple," I urge you to look deeper. Chances are, it's just because a lot of alpha behavior comes natural to you.

    Alpha behaviors become "simple" and natural after you've practiced them for a long period of time. These are suggestions for adding more alpha behaviors to your repertoire.. If you see something that runs contrary to your experience, disregard it. But I wouldn't disregard something solely based on the fact that there's too many rules.

    [–]venicerocco 31 points32 points  (0 children)

    OMG that last text was nine words sorry lol ;0)

    [–]PlebDestroyer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    You do realize that he prefaced his post with faking it till you make it right?

    [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children)

    I think they are teaching the effect, not the cause. You should aspire to be a man who doesn't want to text a lot like a teenage girl, but they don't know how to say that so they just say "text with few words".

    [–]PlanB_pedofile 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Text that bitch a Smiley Face. Bitches love smiley faces.

    [–]HS-Thompson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    The rules are for people who don't have good instincts yet.

    Counting words can be a good tactic to develop habits such that you can internalize the behavior and do it naturally in the future.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If you have something longer to say you should call and not waste your time texting like a teenage girl.

    [–]Shai_Huluds_asshole 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Wilderness trips benefit you in so many ways it's ridiculous

    • you get to see amazing landscapes, ecosystems, animals etc
    • it makes for good stories and makes you an interesting person
    • you will learn how to survive, back to basics
    • you can do it with friends or girl together

    [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

    Good stuff.

    Always keep an open posture. Never cross your arms or so much as clasp them at their hands. It's made a huge difference in my life.

    Remove the word sorry from your vocabulary.

    [–]Venomroach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    As a Canadian sorry is a hard thing to remove.

    [–][deleted] 35 points36 points  (5 children)

    I'd like to amend the nevery text a smiley face point. They're highly effective of you say something REALLY outlandish that needs to be seen as a joke. Like really brash shit.

    [–]-Awake- 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Check out CH's emoji game post, it goes into the dos/don't of this nicely

    Edit: I'd link this, but links are pretty no no here at TRP. His "emoji game" is basically only using obscure emojis in outlandish or ridiculous circumstances to spin the hamster. His favorite seems to be the "cat with the birthday cake" emote you can find on facebook. Happy googling

    [–]Tfsr92 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    There are many constants in this post. We should all know that this isn't a world of constants, and there are exceptions to almost every rule. Gotta admit, "lol, haha, :)" is going to look weak most of the time when you text it

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Never use :), always gotta be a :P

    [–]HS-Thompson 230 points231 points  (96 children)

    This is an excellent post, absolutely top notch.

    Although as a NYC resident over the age of 30 I would say you'll have to step your clothing game beyond H&M or Urban Outfitters if either of those two things apply to you.

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      [–]BowlOfCandy 14 points15 points  (3 children)

      Depends on your physical frame. Check out Express, Zara, & Uniqlo, get key nice items at Nordstrom Rack. Nothing wrong with getting plenty of staple/base items at H&M, but invest good money into the key items (peacoats, dress shirts, shoes)

      [–]yarbroughwalter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      Brooks Brothers, Orvis, L.L. Bean, Patagonia

      [–]epixs 21 points22 points  (16 children)

      Brooks brothers is a start.

      [–]Heizenbrg 6 points7 points  (15 children)

      How much you make?

      [–]Jamtastic1 13 points14 points  (10 children)

      Brooks Brothers isn't that bad... Their suits are certainly expensive, but their shirts and pants are affordable, especially if you don't buy an entire wardrobe in one visit.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children)

      Or do. Save up and apply for a credit card same day. On large purchases you can sometimes get 60% off or more, particularly on a sale.

      [–]SPESHALBEAMCANNON 16 points17 points  (7 children)

      you wanna go in debt to buy clothing? Be fiscally responsible and don't listen to this guy.

      edit: didn't see where he wrote save up. my bad

      [–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

      He's saying you open a store credit card for the discount then pay it off when you get home. I did it for a suit.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      What's wrong with taking advantage of the huge discounts for signing up for the card, paying the full balance, then cutting up the card?

      [–]IllicitG 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      I... believe he mentioned to save up first? Obviously implying that he had the money to pay the credit card off.

      [–]flyingwolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      How is saving up to buy what you want and opening a credit card possibly going into debt?

      [–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (4 children)

      Vancouver.
      Suits when appropriate (also depends on job) Club Monaco, Topman, Banana Republic for casual outfits.

      [–]blacwidonsfw 37 points38 points  (14 children)

      Zara, American express, banana republic, nordstroms.

      [–]RedbullF1 42 points43 points  (5 children)

      American Express

      I think you mean American Apparel

      [–]DMCer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      American Apparel if you want to look like a broke hipster. The rest are good.

      [–]Gadnuk_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      I'm a student and the nordstrom rack keeps me in high quality designer shit for a very reasonable price.

      [–]autoNFA 3 points4 points  (3 children)

      Charles Tyrwhytt has some nice shirts for reasonable prices.

      [–]gotgame740 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      This. Found out about their dress shirts a few months ago, now I have ten of them. Never buying express dress shirts again lol. When they have sales, the process can be as low as 30 a shirt (same price I usually pay at express)

      [–]CD_Johanna 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      Express for men. Absolutely no to that hipster garbage at UO.

      [–]tyranus89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Absolutely no to most of the stuff at Express... Way too flashy and guido-esque, and covered in outrageous designs and logos.

      [–][deleted] 64 points65 points  (39 children)

      You left out body language:

      • Chin up always

      • Never put your hands in your pockets

      • Move slowly and with purpose

      • Eye contact with every person that walks by and never break contact first

      [–][deleted] 68 points69 points  (14 children)

      With eye contact, I usually only do this with pretty girls. I used to do it with everyone but kept on getting in death stare contests with other guys and had to break it with a smile or something or I would have got in a fight. Maybe I live in a shady area. Don't get me wrong, I make lot's of eye contact and definitely eye contact strongly with anything I like. But no need to go round getting in to eye wars with societal scumbags right?

      [–]AnkhofRa 68 points69 points  (1 child)

      sort of unrelated but I was at a poker table a few nights ago and this middle-aged dude who looked like he was bossing everyone kept staring people down. Being the new guy at the table I could feel him doing it to me too. so I said to myself fuck it it's on, and stared his ass down immediately the next time i felt it (we weren't in a hand at all). didn't even blink. must have been at least 20 seconds of raw staring and chip shuffling. 20 sec doesn't seem like a long time, but it is. he eventually looked away and I felt like a goddamn thug, all thanks to you fools.

      [–]starvinmarvin30 28 points29 points  (0 children)

      Cue in "thug life" music after you won that staredown..

      [–]frequentlywrong 30 points31 points  (4 children)

      Man-to-man prolonged eye contact is a threatening gesture. You honestly didnt know that?

      [–]GC0W30 31 points32 points  (0 children)

      Dad always told me if you lock eyes with someone for more than 30 seconds you either need to kiss them or punch them next......

      [–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (6 children)

      If it is obvious that the guy isn't going to look away then just say "How's it going" and keep walking

      [–]iSnORtcHuNkz69 8 points9 points  (3 children)

      If you state death each other then you go ahead first and say hey yo what's up how's it going. As if you know the person in a casual buddy way.

      [–]tubameister 13 points14 points  (2 children)

      and if they try to pick a fight just say they look like someone you know

      [–]fhghg 50 points51 points  (0 children)

      I could swear I saw you on grinder!

      [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (10 children)

      I've asked this question on theredpill before but never gotten a good answer: I go to university, and probably walk past a thousand people a day - am I supposed to stare down every fucking person I walk past?

      [–]DuskVision 45 points46 points  (2 children)

      Assert your Dominance. Eye-Fuck all thousand of them, male, female, or other.

      No on a serious note walk with purpose. Eye's focused on where your headed but when you catch eyes with people be the last to break contact, practice throwing in smirks and making things seem casual. Don't be the weird timid guy who stares at people like he hasn't ever seen other humans though.

      [–]kevkos 12 points13 points  (3 children)

      "Never put your hands in your pockets"

      Ha! Even when getting your keys out? Silly.

      [–][deleted] 61 points62 points  (2 children)

      Your driver should be opening your doors for you

      [–]RosewoodPill 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      I have lived in a major urban centre for 10 years and never ever look at guys. Not in the streets or in the clubs. They are invisible to me and you should really learn to take that approach. I only see women.

      [–]Cant_Tell_Me_Nothin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      This is why stare contests seem childish to me. If I'm walking, it means that i have a purpose and I am going somewhere. I don't have time to be locking eyes with people for prolonged times when my focus is something bigger. To me it feels that if I accidentally lock eyes with someone while I am walking, and I break it because I don't have time for that, and if they keep looking at me, it just shows that they put too much importance on my presence. They are too irrelevant to my purpose to be locked in a stare down. I will acknowledge them at least but only if I need to.

      Do you think a King has time to be locked in a stare-down with a peasant? No, most likely he will just look past him.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorTheRedPilsner 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      Never put your hands in your pockets

      I live in the Rocky Mountains. Even Chad Thundercock puts his hands in his pockets on a cold winter day here.

      But the rest of the time. Yeah, keep your hands out of your damn pockets. It makes you look nervous and uncomfortable. But instead of letting them just hang at your side doing nothing a good thing is to stick your thumbs in your pockets but keep the rest of your fingers out and slightly curled, pointing at your crotch. It makes you look both relaxed and confident.

      [–]ContinentalRP 10 points11 points  (1 child)

      But instead of letting them just hang at your side doing nothing a good thing is to stick your thumbs in your pockets but keep the rest of your fingers out and slightly curled, pointing at your crotch. It makes you look both relaxed and confident.

      You get laughed at for doing that here, "who's this fucking cowboy".

      [–]kevkos 51 points52 points  (8 children)

      "Usually wait at least 10 minutes before responding to a text."

      Game-playing PUA bullshit.

      [–]The_Floating_Dick 15 points16 points  (1 child)

      Which doesn't work anyway. If you never respond within 10 minutes - it will seem weird. It's statistically unlikely that there isn't a single instance of you receiving a text, when you can actually immediately respond and she'll eventually come to realize you're doing it on purpose.

      If you respond immediately from time to time - it gives more weight to your delayed replies. Also I wouldn't even bother trying to control this - respond whenever you feel like it, just make sure you don't respond immediately every time.

      [–]disposable_pants 3 points4 points  (4 children)

      If you're texting back immediately and she's texting back at her leisure, you're doing something wrong.

      The phrasing here (usually) makes it clear that this is a guideline, not absolute rule, and the guideline is spot on -- don't make it look like her text is all that important to you, even if it is. I don't see anything bullshit about this.

      [–]Imapancakenom 26 points27 points  (9 children)

      Sex should consist of her acting in submission to you. In bed, she is a rag doll, a slave.

      Most of the time, sure, but I gotta say sometimes I love laying on my back, clasping my hands behind my head, saying "ride me and get yourself off" and just relaxing while I enjoy the show.

      [–]polarpack 44 points45 points  (0 children)

      You're still the boss during that too.

      [–]metalc2 4 points5 points  (5 children)

      There's also the fact that 30% of men have predominately submissive sexual fantasies. That doesn't mean they're submissive outside the bedroom, just inside. Why should those men have to do something they don't enjoy sexually?

      [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      Theres a big difference from being physically submissive and emotionally submissive. Having a girl do all the brunt work while you lie back and enjoy it is maybe physically submissive but definitely emotionally dominant.

      [–]metalc2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Yeah, a lot of men are emotionally submissive. I'm a switch, so I can enjoy being dominant or submissive, but a lot of men are entirely submissive. They're pretty left out in the modern world.

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      [–]GC0W30 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Check your spelling on that first link.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorTheRedPilsner 22 points23 points  (1 child)

      Don't be an English farmer, be a Viking pillager.

      But I've heard that farmers are good at plowing.

      [–]GC0W30 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      They have trouble getting their hands on new fields....

      [–]Heizenbrg 89 points90 points  (19 children)

      Never discuss your feelings or emotions. Just don't. Holding her hand in silence or hugging her warmly is all she needs. Do not betray your inner emotional life to a woman's fickle ears.

      I don't agree with this is if you're in a long-term relationship. Short-term of course, don't waste your time talking about your shit when you'd better spend it fucking her.
      You'll need to open up to her from time to time, not the same way you do to your parents or a buddy of yours mind you, but show some emotion or otherwise she will question your commitment, which you should not interpret as some kind of shit test. Just my 2 cents bros.

      [–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 45 points46 points  (5 children)

      It's a subtle thing that needs individual case-by-case consideration... but in general, far better to undernourish her comfort needs than to overdo it and kill her attraction, which is fueled by the very uncomfortable uncertainty that you're supposed to save her from by gushing about true feelings. BP upbringing predisposes a man to heavily overdoing it, without even realizing that's what's happening.

      If she's questioning your commitment, that's GOOD for "the relationship".

      [–]1Halfjor 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      I agree with you on this.

      My take on the "not discussing emotion" is to keep it rare. If you want to drop a little conversation about your feelings on something then frame it so it accentuates your alpha-ness. Even if its just bullshit and you do actually feel very upset or anything that would disgust your average girl.

      Some would say it's manipulative but that's how you play the game if you want to be successful.

      If you want to discuss your real emotions talk to your family or one of your best friends.

      [–]1KyfhoMyoba 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      I don't agree with this is if you're in a long-term relationship

      It's true ESPECIALLY if you're in a LTR. You can show some emotion, just be absolutely certain to NEVER SHOW WEAKNESS. If you got to get chemo or something, KEEP HER AWAY. She won't support you anyway, and when she smells your weakness, she'll turn on you in a heartbeat.

      [–]Dronitto 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Fuck, then why the hell you need a woman in your life, if she cant even support you, lol.

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        [–]Heizenbrg 22 points23 points  (3 children)

        Hate to brake it to you, but you may have already lost if you were orbiting around her.
        What was her reaction?

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          [–]the10thrider 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          College girls, high school girls, etc. all girls are the same. Just the older ones are now fighting time and emotional baggage so they tend to move things along quicker and with less teenage angst.

          I'm afraid if she's reciprocating with you it's already too late. Emotional reciprocation is something that women do with other women, and even they're sometimes disingenuous about it. Especially if she's talking about her dating life, etc. As in, she already thinks of you as a girlfriend, and she (probably) isn't attracted to her girlfriends.

          If you're developing feelings for this girl, it'll only get worse over time; it's time to cut contact or become emotionally distant. Don't explain. Don't ever explain why, she doesn't need/want to know. This is about self preservation.

          Develop yourself, for yourself. Do the things that interest you and become passionate and good at them. Live your life with purpose. Then if she happens to come into your life in the future you'll be better equipped and more secure in yourself that you won't have to ask an anonymous internet forum how to be an attractive guy to teenage girls.

          [–]MLMIKE39 32 points33 points  (16 children)

          Good post, but I'd avoid H&M and Urban Outfitters if we're really talking about "good clothes".

          [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          Good is relative though.

          If you're literally starting from where a lot of guys are, buying a bunch of $7 shirts that actually fit from H&M is a really easy option that will make you look twice as good immediately.

          [–]denmaur 6 points7 points  (13 children)

          What would you suggest instead?

          [–]Die-In-A-Fire 24 points25 points  (3 children)

          If you have no clue, start with J crew. They have everything you would need for any situation. Build outwards from there but they are perfectly serviceable for basics. I like uniqlo for casual shirting also, mainly due to fit and quality to price ratio.

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            [–]1jb_trp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

            Nordstrom Rack. If you're in good shape, buy shirts with a modern fit. Seem should be right on the shoulder. Buy pants that fit (hug your waist without a belt, don't drag on the floor). Darker jeans, not light.

            [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

            Brooks Brothers. LL Bean. J Crew. Cremieux. Banana Republic.

            [–]Endorsed ContributorInvalidity 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            Express is good for budgeting and provides a clean, somewhat fashionable look.

            [–]joshsoowong 9 points10 points  (0 children)

            I disagree. Express has toned down their quality IMO. After 1 wash they become shit. The fabric also feels really bad IMO. To each his own though.

            [–]thedude122487 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            I think you missed the point, which I believe was OP moreso trying to tell guys that they shouldn't be buying all of their clothes at Wal-Mart.

            [–]disposable_pants 28 points29 points  (9 children)

            Experiment with abstaining from masturbation.

            Definitely good to experiment with this, but abstaining from masturbation long-term can compromise your indifference toward women. You don't want women to be the only way you can get off because then you need women for something.

            Your thoughts on texting are good rules of thumb but could use a little more fleshing out. For example, it's impossible to "Stimulate your woman's mind in a way that other people can't" with fewer than eight words. I'd also reconsider using exclamation points or "haha" in texts (never "lol" or emoticons, though, those are juvenile); there just aren't many other ways to convey that you're an upbeat, happy, exciting person in that medium.

            [–]SwissPablo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

            I tried to stop completely and it failed. I didn't like how I felt around women, especially as I was working mainly with women. After some experimentation I found once a week was just enough and discharged the build-up in my mind. As OP says it will vary but if you see it as a release rather than doing it for the pleasure then you don't have to stop completely.

            [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (4 children)

            Ejaculating often also reduces your risk of prostate cancer. However, sex is better and increases this beneficial effect. Multiple partners seems to increase this effect even more. Men with 20+ partners had the most reduced risk of prostate cancer (but only heterosexual relationships, sorry gay bros!)

            [–]disposable_pants 6 points7 points  (0 children)

            Probably the best advice is to not feel compelled to masturbate but don't take it off the table, either. It gets back to the idea of doing what you want to without being beholden to anything.

            [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

            Perhaps, that's the point of abstaining from masturbating. It forces you to increase your SMV and game to the level that sex can be had when you want it.

            Conversely, it could prove that you do not in fact need women, because you do not need to ejaculate in order to feel good.

            [–]Gmun23 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            Couldn't agree more, at the start is like what AP's says "I need a woman to release" but after a while (It's been over a year for me), you don't need the woman or the porn. You can spend the extra time/energy/drive on productive tasks and when you feeling super horny, you just call up one of your plates(Usually they call me) that you gained from the drive you attained from abstaining your self from porn/masturbation.

            Although excessive sex can lead to to a lack of energy; In my case sex 3 times a day, but I felt depleted. I try and go for no more then 2-5 times a week to keep my energy level up for business meeting / presentations / plates.

            [–]Endorsed ContributorFLFTW16 14 points15 points  (3 children)

            Be in charge of goodbyes. Initiate departures most of the time. If she says she should probably get going, immediately comply with a smile. Always appear comfortable leaving.

            I really like this tip.

            If you are a hopelessly beta, bottom of the barrel male, I recommend shocking your system by committing yourself to a couple of days of solitude in the wilderness. Buy some gear and go into the wilderness for a couple of days with food and water. Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

            This is also mandatory to becoming a man. I spent a couple of years day hiking through New England, USA at least once per week. I would intentionally get lost to learn how to find my way, reserve my energy, and manage my fear. And I had tons of fun doing it. Now I live in a city of 10 million and miss my connection to the land and the lessons it teaches. I'm planning to go back.

            [–]disposable_pants 4 points5 points  (2 children)

            Now I live in a city of 10 million and miss my connection to the land and the lessons it teaches.

            Try running/biking on an unfamiliar loop through the city. You learn the same lessons (but how they apply in cities) and find new bars/restaurants/interesting places to explore.

            [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

            Streets are easy to navigate, nature is dense and can be very frightening.

            Not to steal your thunder but the lessons are not the same.

            [–]disposable_pants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            Streets are easy to navigate

            Depends entirely on your familiarity with them, with how neatly the city is laid out, and how many landmarks are visible.

            nature is dense and can be very frightening.

            Cities can be pretty frightening too if you wander into the wrong area. You're right that there's never the "I'm going to die alone out here" type of frightening you can get in the wild, but it's not as far off as you're making it seem.

            [–]Cryocasm 44 points45 points  (35 children)

            a couple of days of solitude in the wilderness. Buy some gear and go into the wilderness for a couple of days with food and water. Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

            Bro just the idea of this makes me want to do it, even now as a sleeper alpha. Just the fucking adrenaline of the cold night sky and bugs in the trees and shit.

            [–]HeinousFu_kery 58 points59 points  (12 children)

            "Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child."

            I'm all for this, but if you REALLY have no clue in the great outdoors, start small or get some help. Read up, find a club/outing/REI...anything to not start from zero. All those movies about clueless people in the wilderness have a real-world equivalent. It's okay to goof up, but don't make your first trip up Denali solo or something really dumb.

            Every year people -- usually from big metropolitan areas and cushy suburbs -- wander off and wind up in real trouble, injured or dead just by being "stupid" (inexperienced/unaware/unobservant/unprepared) though the arrogant ones are worse; "Why didn't you rescue us sooner and why aren't you giving us a ride back?", "Why can't I get a cell signal on the bottom of the Grand Canyon". Fuckwits.

            All of that aside, something else to think about are "microadventures" to keep your karma lined up, particularly if you're pushed for time or resources - Alastair Humphries in the UK put together a pretty good web page on it, as well as a few more audacious things like circumnavigation by bike and sailboat.

            Yeah, sleeting outside here in the fuckin' flatlands. Hurry spring!

            [–]Kerberos- 23 points24 points  (2 children)

            Heed this man's advice. I go on backcountry skiing trips pretty often and that's not the kind of stuff you want to go about by getting lost or avoiding trails. That's how people die.

            Having said that, everyone needs to do a trip or two into the wilderness for a few days every year.

            [–]DontYouTrustMe 4 points5 points  (1 child)

            tip a canoe in a cold, fast moving river in the middle of fucking nowhere. that's how I almost died

            [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (4 children)

            You are completely right.

            It can be ridiculously easy to die in the wilderness. We saw bear cubs once on the trail. The girls went, "aww" and started to move towards them. The eagle scout and I pulled us out of there damn fast, but if he and I hadn't talked about that threat, the night before, that could have gone south quick.

            Been camping plenty of times, but always with at least one other person. Something almost always goes wrong. One guy didn't check his car in at the welcome center and we might or might not have had to break a chain to get out, one girl twisted an ankle on mile 13 of a hike in and had to be semi-carried. Once a snap freeze hit. All the weather people where saying temperatures in the 40-50s. It hit the 20s, tons of snow, low visibility, and everything was iced over by the next morning.

            At this point, I expect something to go wrong when I go backpacking/camping, and I try to just anticipate for every possibility.

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              [–]IllicitG 4 points5 points  (2 children)

              Jesus, oxy and whisky? I imagine you couldn't feel a thing in your ankle. Just be careful, acetaminophen and alcohol are a bad combination for the liver.

              [–]GC0W30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

              Heavy enough on that combo and you will just freaking die, and well before your BAC makes it to 0.35 and kills you. ...

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                [–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (6 children)

                I bet some idiot is going to "get lost" based on this advice and need rescue or worse.

                [–]like_a_ghost 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                It's cool bro, I got Google maps on my phone. Won't get lost.

                [–]justgrif 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                Part of my own journey to personal improvement has involved lots and lots of nature. Even if I can't get out and camp all the time, I try to do 2 to 3 outings a month where I day hike around 14 miles with my full overnight pack. Exercise pays some dividends anyway. Doing it out in the wild maxes that out. After enough of this, the volume just gets turned way way down on everything else in my life.

                [–]Cryocasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Doing it out in the wild maxes that out.

                Because even the gym has idealized circumstances: a nice flat running surface on the treadmill, the weights all have easily held handles on them.

                In the wild you ain't got shit to hold on to other than the floor and the floor out there isn't flat. Also hiking uphill and in mountainous terrain adds to the stress as your whole body is engaged in not tipping over and arms will get involved hanging onto trees and shit.

                [–]The_Man11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                The way the alpine forest smells at night...

                [–]AntixD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                campout in your backyard or a huge field

                [–]princenotsocharming 10 points11 points  (0 children)

                Once in a while a kind soul like you decides to encapsulate a lot of TRP ideas into a single no-nonsense post which serves as a great cheat sheet. Thank you so much.

                [–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

                Not bad advice. Being stoic is great and all, but it's not for everyone, and can easily be taken too far. I imagine a lot of guys here walking around thinking they're James Bond, when it's probably a classic case of "what you think you look like vs what you really look like". Verges on fedora. You don't always need to be so serious, there's nothing wrong with being the kind of guy who talks shit all the time, what matters more than anything else is that you hold your frame, and stoic is one frame of many. E.g. often at a party I just randomly get my balls out (something J.B wouldn't do) and however people react, whether they laugh or are horrified, I hold frame.

                Still all points agree. Except maybe don't talk about yourself. I'm quite arrogant and girls don't seem to mind.

                [–][deleted] 79 points80 points  (10 children)

                There are a few good points here, but this reads like a male version of Cosmo. A bit cringeworthy. If you are an alpha, you'll text however you want -- and live life on your terms. You could ignore a good chunk of these rules as long as you maintain frame. Also, a top-tier haircut? lol

                [–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

                Kind of agree. There's no way TRP can be distilled into a "10 Ways To Become Red Pill" kind of list. It's about attitude and frame, very general things, and these are all specifics which could vary depending on the person.

                [–]-Awake- 12 points13 points  (1 child)

                It's just for the newbies. "be not contained by formula" is the Pook maxim that comes in to play here. Formulas, rules, and guidelines are useful, but they are the training wheels we put on the new guys until they earn their wings and can do it themselves.

                I'm all for these little lists, they make a good starting point for anyone

                [–]disposable_pants 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                "be not contained by formula"

                My favorite way of phrasing this is from Enter the Dragon:

                Shaolin Abbott: What is the highest technique you hope to achieve?

                Lee: To have no technique.

                [–]Endorsed ContributorMentORPHEUS 35 points36 points  (2 children)

                Disagree; do we want the sub to be a museum of perfect Alphas, or an effective school for aspiring ones?

                At my martial arts dojo, nobody is considered too good or too advanced to be exempt from helping the newest students with their techniques. This is solidly written, just beginner level. Good job, OP.

                [–]-Johnny- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                I was honestly thinking this the whole time reading the post. I kept saying, that's bullshit, i live my life how ever the fuck i want, if they arnt down then next.

                Then i realized this is for the betas, the ones who have no clue. These are decent points for betas and to find hook ups. Other then that, disregard.

                [–]Shai_Huluds_asshole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                I think op specifically said these were like cheap tricks to fake it till you make it. Real alpha doesn't need advice from reddit

                [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                "Experiment with abstaining from masturbation. Shoot for one week..."

                Sorry, this made me snigger childishly for a good minute.

                Also, great post.

                [–]kevkos 35 points36 points  (8 children)

                "Never discuss your feelings or emotions."

                Ridiculous. You want to be a robot? I'm not saying you should go crying on her shoulder every night, but hiding emotions is not manly, alpha, cool, or even human. You have emotions, she has emotions, this isn't a "red pill" area....and for those of us who are in or looking for a LTR, this tactic ain't gonna work for long.

                [–]jdoe5 11 points12 points  (5 children)

                Never DISCUSS, not never SHOW. It's unreasonable to not have emotions, by she doesn't care about how you say everything makes you feel. Let her read your emotions.

                [–]kevkos 8 points9 points  (4 children)

                Not discussing is still being a robot.

                Feelings are meant to be expressed. Yes, to women. It's not "beta" do do so. This notion of hiding emotions around women is unhealthy and needs to die. Again, I'm not saying to whine and cry to women but expressing emotions is certainly manly, and 100% healthy.

                [–]jdoe5 1 point2 points  (2 children)

                Yes it's healthy and normal, but healthy and normal do not necessarily mean attractive. Women want men to be stoic. Sure they'll listen to you and it's good for you, but it's not making them think you're any hotter. Just like how it's healthy and normal and "womanly" for women to have periods, buts it's not attracting me to hear about them.

                It's not good for men to bottle up emotions, but it's expected of them to be attractive. Just like how it's not good for women to obsess about weight and makeup, buts it's expected of them to be attractive. Each gender has its pros and cons.

                Also saying feelings can only be expressed as words is a little myopic. A vast majority of our communication is body language. Words are only a small part.

                [–]kevkos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                I'd rather not conform to society's standards and here is why.

                You start doing things that are "expected" to be attractive and pretty quickly you are trying to be somebody else.

                Most guys are running around trying to hide feelings and act stoic. Women are totally used to this. I would not say it is inherently attractive. I've had many relationships that some of the best moments were when we were both honest with our feelings.

                This is gold if you can do it.

                Hiding/holding back/acting tough can certainly "work", and you can get laid and be attractive to some women that way- but lots of things can also do that. Some women will drop their panties because of the car you drive, others because you can play guitar.

                I'd rather just be honest about feelings. If I'm pissed off, I'm not going to fly off the handle but I'm going to let her know. If I'm sad, I let her know. If I'm thrilled, I let her know. She's not my ONLY source to discuss feelings but in an LTR, that's a necessary component. And yes, of course, body language is sometimes enough.

                [–]Endorsed ContributorPopeman79 9 points10 points  (3 children)

                Meditation is awesome. It builds your state of consciousness, and you start projecting an unseen energy, a kind of aura, that people gravitate towards.

                [–]kcchiefs0927 5 points6 points  (1 child)

                just go to H&M and Urban Outfitters

                Some people quoted this and voiced their opinions on their distaste but never gave any quality alternatives, at least in my opinion.

                If we are talking good clothes, I would recommend:

                Brooks Brothers

                Ralph Lauren Polo (classics, not the big ass logo shirts)

                Allen Edmonds or Cole Haans for shoes

                LL Bean, just to name a few

                However, I am a fan in people choosing their own style. For example, I dress in southern style with a cowboy mix, so expect jeans, boots, pocket tee, and plaid. On nice events/work, expect Brooks Brothers, Polo, etc. If you want to choose your own style, more power to you. Most of you are adults capable of making your own decisions.

                Also, whatever path you choose, please make sure your clothes are fitted. Casual clothes are exempt from this, but suits, button downs/ups, and dress pants/khakis need to be fitted or you'll be the butt of all jokes at any job that requires professional attire.

                [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                Ralph Lauren Polo (classics, not the big ass logo shirts)

                Couldn't agree more. Also, I'd add Alden to your shoe list.

                [–]cascadecombo 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

                I like the idea of this, but for the majority of people who don't have experience with the outdoors, they should notify at least the rangers they are out, or have someone who knows they are out in a possible dangerous situation.

                [–]LazlikesAlly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Some of these tips are absolute quality and credible. All should be applied. However, when in serious relationship, some of the points are way to extreme, unrealistic, and should only be used very moderately.

                [–]bobjoe177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                As someone who lives outdoors 6 months of the year for the last decade, I think recommending that someone with little to no outdoor experience go gt lost in the mountains (especially at this time of year) is a bad idea. Tell people where you're going and don't try to take shortcuts in areas you're not familiar with.

                [–]token_stache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                This shit is golden. Be a fucking man, I think most of us are naturally alpha and have just had society beat it out of us. Go into the wilderness, mediate encounter your uncomfortable poltically incorrect thoughts. Deal with them accept the fact you want a submissive woman and that's good.

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                [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (4 children)

                Is anyone going to write ever something for "what to do with friends/other males etc

                [–]disposable_pants 2 points3 points  (2 children)

                Can you elaborate a bit more on what you'd like to see?

                [–]erniesmoove 4 points5 points  (1 child)

                • How to set bundaries
                • Handling shit tests
                • Scalating pecking order
                • Communication
                • Winging
                • Girls, ex, plates. Who has the call of a girl, the one who sees it first or the one that makes a move first?
                • Favors
                • When to look for other friends.
                • When to let some red pill or alpha concepts to them.
                • How to support a bro in life, girl problems, etc ETC

                [–]goodguy29 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                If you are a hopelessly beta, bottom of the barrel male, I recommend shocking your system by committing yourself to a couple of days of solitude in the wilderness. Buy some gear and go into the wilderness for a couple of days with food and water. Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

                I cannot recommend this strongly enough. I took up bowhunting about 5 years ago, and I feel that just the repeated experience of being alone in the woods mentally toughens you. The terrain here is extraordinarily rugged, and to pursue elk effectively, you have to be prepared to hike for miles away from any roads or trails, often in the middle of the night. It has an effect on your psyche, much like lifting does. It's kind of hard to explain, but when I get back into town, I'm physically exhausted, but feel so relaxed and confident.

                [–]Ojisan1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                Meditate. Just do it. Meditate every day. If you don't know where to start, sit down somewhere, close your eyes, and count your breaths to 100. Tame your mind.

                If you want to take this good advice but don't know how to meditate, I highly recommend the Headspace app. The first 10 exercises are free and will teach you the basics. Grab your headphones and your smartphone and sit somewhere that you can close your eyes for 10 minutes and not get mugged. It doesn't even have to be somewhere quiet.

                [–]SwissPablo 3 points4 points  (2 children)

                Furthermore, occasionally ignore her for periods of time ranging from 12 to 48 hours.

                The hard part here is dealing with her demanding to know what you've been doing. This is where you can practice building solid frame. You don't need to explain yourself, you were doing your thing.

                [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                The hard part here is dealing with her demanding to know what you've been doing.

                "I flew down to Brazil to bang some hookers."

                "I decided to join a monastery, but it was too quiet, so I came back."

                "Doing fun stuff."

                [–]texx77 10 points11 points  (9 children)

                I had two women over this weekend on Saturday and Sunday. And I still masturbate incredibly frequently. I fail to see what is alpha about not jerking off.

                [–]RedditArgument 7 points8 points  (7 children)

                Self-control. Also for newer guys it may be beneficial in forcing oneself to seek stimulation outside of porn/masturbation, increasing their chances of getting out there and doing something real. In my opinion excessive pornography makes most people lazy when it comes to picking up women.

                [–]texx77 6 points7 points  (6 children)

                That's a fair point for some people. I really dislike OP's absolutist language.

                [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (4 children)

                Experiment with abstaining from masturbation. Shoot for one week and observe the cognitive and hormonal effects. Everyone is different but many people find that abstaining dramatically increases social confidence and energy. This has been my experience. YMMV.

                That's the least absolutist endorsement of nofap I have ever read.

                [–]texx77 0 points1 point  (3 children)

                Cut out all porn.

                This is the same thing as saying stop masturbating. Who the fuck watches porn and doesn't jerk it.

                [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children)

                But some people jerk it without por

                [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                im jerking it to this thread.

                [–]GREF_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                This could be sidebar material.

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                [–]therefiller 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                I thought this post was satire. Most of the points are totally ridiculous. I would never want to live my life trapped in this sick mindset.

                [–]SexyDeviI 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                I thought I was alpha, but thinking on it, I wouldn't have the balls to spend a night in isolated wilderness.

                Challenge accepted.

                [–]puffpuffpastor 3 points4 points  (4 children)

                I'm just wondering if you guys realize how embarrassing and sad this post looks, I've never cringed so hard in my life. Wow.

                [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (25 children)

                Ditch all processed foods. Eat as clean as possible. This will improve every aspect of your life immediately. If you need to ween off processed foods, start with clean breakfasts, then add clean lunches, etc. No added sugar, no corn syrup. Buy natural ingredients and learn to enjoy simple home-cooked meals.

                Jesus Christ. Every time I see this shit it just pisses me off.

                Stop recommending this shit. You have no fucking idea what you're talking about, you have nothing to support why you recommend this, and it's fucking retarded. Just stop.

                However, it's not as bad as this:

                I recommend shocking your system by committing yourself to a couple of days of solitude in the wilderness. Buy some gear and go into the wilderness for a couple of days with food and water. Avoid trails, climb mountains, get lost, take some risks. If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

                If this seems unnecessary or dangerous, you are still psychologically a child.

                Yeah, how about no. Anyone who has ever done any hiking/camping ITT will know that 1) this is a terrible idea, and 2) you have obviously never done any hiking/camping.

                [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (11 children)

                I feel a lot better eating clean as opposed to the processed junk I used to. This isn't a science blog or subreddit, so citations and support aren't necessary; opinion and personal experience can stand alone.

                Solo backpacking can be done safely and responsibly. Didn't see another human being in Iceland for 14 days. I'm still here.

                [–]daprospecta 5 points6 points  (2 children)

                I have no idea why you are being down-voted. I feel the same. Since I cut out processed foods, I feel better as well. Of course, not eating processed foods will not make you super man but it's like your body is working like a well oiled machine. I contribute it to being in our DNA. Call me crazy but our ancestors going back many generations ate fruit,legumes,meat(of course), basically things that were in nature and spices. I think our bodies handle that better because it's engraved in our DNA. In the year 3000, our body may be better prepared to process Cheez-It's but maybe not so much right now.

                [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Its going to take more than 1000 yrs

                [–]disposable_pants 1 point2 points  (3 children)

                opinion and personal experience can stand alone

                The problem with this is that anything can be rationalized -- we talk about women doing it all the time and we're not immune from rationalization either. We all want high-quality advice on here and if we're swimming in conflicting opinions and experiences we aren't likely to always pick out the best parts.

                More importantly, think of sourcing claims as a personal development exercise. I do a decent amount of writing and look up stuff constantly, and a solid 10% of the time I wind up learning something new and changing my mind substantially. No one knows everything, so the more often you look something up the more often you'll learn something.

                [–]tallwheel 1 point2 points  (4 children)

                Yeah. The first may be good health advice, but I really don't think it has much to do with being alpha. There are probably plenty of alphas who eat garbage all the time. Doesn't make them any less alpha.

                Furthermore, once a girl sees how much organic this, and grass-fed that you religiously keep in your apartment, it's not exactly gonna look like the most alpha badass thing she's ever seen (and in the case of an LTR, she will see eventually). Eating clean, though a good idea, is more often associated with hipster types than alpha badasses. Alphas are not supposed to give a fuck. They're supposed to just have naturally big and healthy bodies regardless of what they eat. So... catch-22 I guess.

                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

                Eating garbage does make their semen less alpha. It probably puts off bad pheromones or signs of poor immunity. Both of those matter in women's attraction.

                The idea of "clean" is too vague, but eating the healthiest you can afford is a good idea. Include fatty pastured beef for testosterone production.

                [–]tallwheel 3 points4 points  (2 children)

                True, but I don't think eating better is going to have an immediate effect on one's appearance of being alpha the way most of the other things on this list will. It's more of a long-term lifestyle thing, and it is important, sure, but belongs in other more advanced posts here in this sub rather than a quick 'dirty hacks' list like this one.

                Smoking is a horrible lifestyle choice for your health, but I guarantee a cigarette in one's hand will have more immediate effects on one's alphaness than a kale smoothie.

                Alpha isn't defined by good life decisions, it's defined by dominance, being fearless (and that includes fear of death and poor health), and just overall not giving a fuck.

                [–]elvendude 2 points3 points  (5 children)

                Thank you. I constantly see people recommending that you "eat clean" without any backup as to why. Sure, processed food generally has more calories. So long as I'm keeping my body comp correct...so fucking what?

                [–]madgreed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Well, the intentions are ok. Generally eating less calories benefits everyone who isn't skinny - and most people aren't skinny.

                Processed foods tend to be amongst the most calorie dense. I think better advice would be more simple: Try to drink only water and prepare at least one meal day.

                [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Good list - always handy to get a reminder of some of these things. Slowly internalizing.

                [–]erniesmoove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Man this guidelines is just what I needed this days. Even though I know most of them its easy to make a mistake when youre not constatly reminded. This should be read daily.

                [–]Silas_Caliburn 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                The texting advice is key. My marriage has improved significantly since I cut down on acknowledging her novel-length texts.

                I keep my texts in her direction to-the-point. Yes, no, do this, etc. No emotional or discussion content that can be twisted in her mind. Too often they read the text and frame it in their current emotional state. You have no idea what that is. I used to get endless questions of "why are you so angry?" After a simple text message.

                All of these principles are doubly important if you make the mistake of getting married.

                [–]Beast-MO 0 points1 point  (7 children)

                born betas trying to act alpha by over analyzing every aspect in life. This is not the road to being alpha, this is the road to being a pitiful fake alpha. You are the person who changes everything to look good to women. You are the person putting the pussy on the pedestal.

                betas gonna beta

                [–]daprospecta 7 points8 points  (0 children)

                There isn't anything wrong with analyzing every aspect in your life. That sir is how you get better at life. I often times find myself saying "Yes, this works but is there a better way?" Another thing, 90% of the things men do are for women. I seek knowledge at every turn. That has nothing to do with women but when I dress sharp on a regular day, I do it so I look sharp and to be attractive to the opposite sex. Ask yourself next time you are looking dapper, are you doing it for yourself or "Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man?"

                [–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (5 children)

                Some of us gotta fake it til we make it, homie.

                Why not provide constructive criticism instead?

                [–]Beast-MO 1 point2 points  (4 children)

                my constructive criticism is mixed in there. Over analyzing, putting the pussy on a pedestal, and changing everything about yourself is not alpha at all. Im new to this subreddit(not new to redpill) and I guess I expected something different from a red pill group than this.

                [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

                Practically every one of us here was a beta in some form or another before happening across the Manosphere. I mean, OP says right off the bat,

                I am anything but a natural alpha and these are some simple techniques I've employed to "fake it till I make it".

                changing everything about yourself is not alpha

                I disagree. I had to change a lot of behaviors about myself (putting myself first for one) before I started to see success with TRP.

                Sometimes dudes just need a reminder of what not to do. Also, keep in mind that this sub has grown a lot since I found it ~8 months ago, so there's a lot of guys unplugging who are brand new to this stuff. If it's not your style of post or you disagree, move on to something more advantageous to your time usage.

                [–]Beast-MO 1 point2 points  (2 children)

                Self improvement is a good thing. Bettering youself is always a good thing, but changing into what you think women want you to be is not.

                OP says

                "I've employed to "fake it till I make it" with respect to communicating with women, including in a LTR."

                Is that what you want to be? To me a part of being alpha is deciding who you want to be not shaping yourself into what women will find attractive. If you want to be the guy OP is describing do it, but dont do it because thats what women want.

                [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                dont do it because thats what women want.

                Couldn't agree more. I didn't change my behaviors so I could be more attractive to women. That was just a great side-effect. I did it so that I wasn't supplicating to them any longer and so that I could love myself more, because no one else will. TRP helped me realize that I had a shit job I didn't want to be in forever, that I had to go back to school and be a man for once in my life at 27 years old. Hopefully guys who read OP can distinguish the difference.

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