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Red Pill TheoryThe Great List of Non-Negotiables. (self.TheRedPill)

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The Great List of Non-Negotiables.

A concise guide of action to the budding red pill popper.


TL;DR: Quit your bad habits. Lift and Eat. Sleep and Meditate. Develop a Passion. Stop Browsing and Start reading. Talk to people.

You want to be great? Then these are NON-NEGOTIABLE.


The Great List of Non-Negotiables is a list I wrote for myself shortly after swallowing the pill. After nearly 8 years of being a perpetual student in self-help studies, never truly taking action, this list is what finally what got me off my damn ass.

This list is simple. No frills. These are things I have deemed to be non-negotiable in my life, and I think the brevity and simplicity of this list may be of value to others as it was to me.

If you follow this and develop a lifestyle out of what is said here; if you make these tenets a non-negotiable part of your life, you'll be the top 10% of men on this planet.


Quit your bad habits. Watch a ton of TV? Stop. Browse the web till 4am? Stop. Smoke weed everyday? Stop. Jerk off a bunch? Stop. Playing games for hours? Stop.

You know what's wasting your time. You fucking know. If you really haven't the littlest clue what's good or bad for you, go play WoW in a puddle of your own sweaty shame.

Stop smoking. Stop drinking. Stop binge watching fictional lives on Netflix.

Just. Fucking. Stop. Wasting. Time.

Lift and Eat. Lifting is said all the time for a damn good reason. People say "its said all the time for a damn good reason" for a damn good reason. It will boost your confidence, it will develop discipline, it will make you tougher, it will ease your anxiety. You'll actually feel physically fucking dominant.

Take that fucking McDonalds out of your mouth and replace it with some damn kale. Or fish. Or eggs. Or broccoli. Or Chicken. Just eat real food, and buy it in its simplest form. Learn to fucking cook. "But I'll just have a woman cook for me". Where's that woman, huh? Cook for yourself, its fucking satisfying.

Sleep and Meditate. Lack of sleep has far reaching negative effects on your psyche and body. Sleep 7.5 hours a night minimum. Sleep approx. the same time every night. Turn off your TV. Get a routine.

You need to understand your own fucking mind. Daily meditation will bring you clarity, focus, and impulse control. When you meditate you are training your mind to be present and to better observe and exert conscious control over your own thoughts. It makes you feel a greater sense of well being. It makes you quicker and wittier. Meditation is lifting weights for the mind.

Develop a Passion. What do you like doing? What do you love doing? Do a whole fucking lot more of that. Get obsessed with becoming a master at it. Never give up. If you don't love doing anything, start trying stuff till there's something you love doing.

And don't half ass that shit when your trying something new. Feel a little interest? Expand on that adamantly for a couple weeks and see how much you like it. You have any "aha" moments? That feeling of comprehension and progression that elates your whole being? Good, pursue the fuck out of that feeling.

Stop Browsing, Start Reading. You're wasting your time filling your head with nonsense and redundant information. Read the entire sidebar, read No More Mr Nice Guy, read Models and The Book of Pook, read The 48 Laws. Then fucking stop reading TRP...

...and start reading things you are interested in, and things that make you interesting. Read about your hobbies and skills. Read about how to cook. Read about history. Read biographies. Read fiction with prominent masculinity. (I'm talking Jack London, Hemingway, Hunter S Thomson.) Reading books is part of your life now.

Talk to Everyone. Cashier? Hot blonde on campus? Guy juggling at the park? Neighbor? Woman on the bus next to you?

Talk to them all. Talk to as many people as you can. Absolutely no amount of theory and knowledge on social interaction will benefit you even remotely as much as just talking to fucking everyone. One of those people happen to be a woman you find attractive? Fucking escalate. Fucking polarize.

Not in social situations every day? Put yourself in them. Align your social life with your hobbies. Go to a coffee shop. Hell, just make up an excuse to go to the grocery store and meet people. Meet people every day.


Lessons Learned: That it's this fucking simple. Stop making it so difficult. Stop making it more complicated than it needs to be.

Just fucking do it. Its non-negotiable.

Edit: Formatting and clarifying.


[–]Jajajones11 159 points160 points  (14 children)

This correlates to so much more than picking up. These are the keys to living a happy human life.

[–]TRP Vanguardnicethingyoucanthave 82 points83 points  (12 children)

This correlates to so much more than picking up. These are the keys to living a happy human life.

And frankly, a happy life has to come first. If you can't be happy with yourself, then no woman will ever possibly make you happy.

Every time I read one of those "incel" posts I think to myself that if I wanted to curse that guy, I would give him exactly what he thinks he needs: a girlfriend. Because he's unhappy and he's obsessed. If he got the thing he was obsessed about and discovered that it doesn't magically make him happy the way he'd hoped - after he'd spent all those years pining over it ...he'd probably just kill himself.

You have to be happy first. You have to be responsible for your happiness. You can't be dependent on other people giving it to you.

And once you are truly happy and content, all you have to do with regard to women (or really, anyone) is a bit of diligence in guarding yourself against being taken advantage of. With that tiny caveat in mind, once you're happy and content in and of yourself, you'll be able to appreciate any woman that you allow into your life, and cut away any that aren't participating in your happiness.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Every time I read one of those "incel" posts I think to myself that if I wanted to curse that guy, I would give him exactly what he thinks he needs: a girlfriend. Because he's unhappy and he's obsessed. If he got the thing he was obsessed about and discovered that it doesn't magically make him happy the way he'd hoped - after he'd spent all those years pining over it ...he'd probably just kill himself.

Story of my life. Literally. Although I couldn't push myself to go through with the latter.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Every time I read one of those "incel" posts I think to myself that if I wanted to curse that guy, I would give him exactly what he thinks he needs: a girlfriend.

You know what happens when "incel" gets a girlfriend? He bases his whole life on her and gives up whatever little life he had going for him. Then she gets bored and hunts herself a new beta, and he's left with nothing. The only way you'll ever be happy in an LTR is to know you'd still be happy without the LTR. It keeps you from being dependent and it keeps you from losing control of the relationship. This is why your guy friends spent so long telling you to get rid of that girl you spent all your time with. A healthy relationship is a beneficial extension of your life, not a vital part of it.

[–]waldo888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The irony in this is that most women will try to make you give up certain aspects of your life to make them feel secure and comfortable. Then if you do ultimately lose the attraction for you.

[–]Jay-Kay44 5 points6 points  (6 children)

I dont belive in happiness (i personaly am never going to be truly happy). I dont belive that life is about reaching a destination where you are happy and content. You fucking struggle and hassle with pain and sorrow (and all other feelings) until the day you die.

Sure better yourself. But the idea that you must be fucking Dhalai Lama to get a girlfriend is ridicoulus. My philosophy would be do try to meet women, but also try to better yourself. You are never gonna be good enough for everyone, and you never (probably) gonna reach happiness. But you need to have some direction, or maybe you dont need it, but its good.

[–]scrantonic1ty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont belive that life is about reaching a destination where you are happy and content.

Correct, it's about putting yourself on an endless journey that makes you happy and content.

You fucking struggle and hassle with pain and sorrow (and all other feelings) until the day you die.

I don't. Maybe I'm doing it wrong?

[–]OneTouchHowMuch 2 points3 points  (2 children)

You are completely wrong about happiness, then, from an evolutionary psychology perspective.

Happiness (long-term) is NOT a destination. It is one of many moods we feel when we are on the path to pleasure (short-term).

[–]Jay-Kay44 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think i kind of said that. Anyways i agree with with you say. The point is that happiness is not the destination, and no feeling in life is constant.

[–]OneTouchHowMuch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bad. I misunderstood. We agree.

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    [–]franklyforthright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Pretty much all life is about chasing the chemical highs that our bodies produce

    [–]endogenic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Happiness is the life in which one isn't hungry, lonely, nor worried.

    The conditions which need to be fulfilled in order to produce such a life are frugality, honesty, and diligence.

    Once these things are made truly alive in one's own life, happiness comes into being in oneself.

    [–]asmartpanda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Can I atleast not stop smoking weed? Haha

    [–]1REDPILLRECKONING 27 points28 points  (6 children)

    Stop Browsing, Start Reading. You're wasting your time filling your head with nonsense and redundant information. Read the entire sidebar, read No More Mr Nice Guy, read Models and The Book of Pook, read The 48 Laws. Then fucking stop reading TRP...

    Ooohhh, I love this. Way too many guys practice positive procrastination. It's just procrastinating on stuff they thing will help them, but doesn't actually address the issue at hand. I think I just found my next post btw.

    [–]ShounenEgo 2 points3 points  (5 children)

    God dammit OP got removed and nobody thought to save it on archive.

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

    Got removed? Is the post not showing anymore?

    [–]ShounenEgo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It's fine now. Probably a hiccup.

    [–]Apanthropos 11 points12 points  (5 children)

    If you find your passion and go after it, you will find that most things in the list come naturally.

    You will enjoy your life without feeling you are sacrficing anything while stayimg motivated in the long run.

    [–]ReconClass 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    I've been looking for a passion for a long time now. I work tech support and I'm a computer nerd. My passion is with tech related stuff. And I am really good at it. But I want a more physically motivated passion. I took up lifting a while ago but I'd like a sport or something... Nothing really excites me though.

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Get into rugby. Funnest, manliness sport I've ever played by far

    [–]rpscrote 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    try: rockclimbing, martial arts, different lifting program (powerlift if you body build, body build if you powerlift), ski/snowboard, parkour, gymnastics, urban exploring, regular forestry exploring, hiking, hunting, carpentry, mechanical tinkering (rebuild a lawnmower engine)... the list goes on. The key is to give each thing a real college try

    [–]TheGreenLoki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Try Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. It's a great work out, you get some structure, and utilize that testosterone you've been storing by wrestling. It's also mentally very technical. Some call it the mental art because you end up playing it like a physical game of chess. Thinking moves ahead as well as learning your limits and creating new ones.

    [–]WiiWynn 22 points23 points  (13 children)

    Great list. I'd also add to lose cynacism. You think you're being clever, and you might be, but it's almost always at someone's expense - worst if it's your own. You're not helping yourself or anyone else. It's a drain.

    [–]Kalidane 6 points7 points  (12 children)

    This is a big one for some people.

    Also, fuck kale and all 'super foods'. There is no such thing as a 'super food'.

    [–]rpscrote 8 points9 points  (8 children)

    kale's just as good as any other leafy green, which means its quite good as part of a complete and rational diet, but I totally get it. I love it when landwhales eat mcdonalds 3 times a day, but then when they're "getting healthy" they eat mcdonalds 3 times a day but add a berries and kale smoothie in the morning like thats gonna fix it. It would be funnier if so many people didnt actually fall for that garbage.

    [–]omolicious 4 points5 points  (6 children)

    A fruit and kale smoothie is just candy disguised as a health food. Kale might not be some magical ingredient that extends your life twenty years, but deep green leafy vegetables added into every meal can definitely be significant for your health.

    [–]the-Real_Slim-Shady 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    Just include a lot more vegetables than fruit in your smoothie. Google Joe Rogan's "Hulk Load" recipe... I've been slamming one everyday for the last month and really feel the difference. I recommend the updated recipe with less ginger and a whole apple instead of the pineapple.

    [–]TruckerJohn 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I've been making kale shakes for 4 years now. NEED THEM to feel at my best. Kale, spinach, beets, mushrooms, garlic, lime juice, tomato, carots, garlic, and creatine. Have some coffe or protein shake as a second drink and you win the next 8-12 hours physiologically.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Creatine eh? Does it feel sandy? That's my issue with the few mixes I've tried. Now I just drop a scoop in my mouth and wash it down with water. But it's been suggested that I start juicing recently, might have to try that esp. if you don't notice sandiness.

    [–]iwish4zombies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Whats your recipe? I make sure to get celery, kale, cucumber, chia and 1 part frozen fruit. Also, rogan stomachs a fuckton of ginger.

    [–]rpscrote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    its wisest to look at a vegetable/fruit smoothie as basically your multi-vitamin with calories. The problem is people add it on and act like extra micronutrients is somehow going to change the fact they just added 300 calories a day by drinking that smoothie

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    As long as you're not making a fruit smoothie with a touch of greens so you can pretend it's healthy, there's nothing wrong with sweetening that shit up.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Agreed. Kale is a gateway green. It leads to things like butter lettuce and spring green blends or some shit. A kale salad with meat and cheese >> McDonalds burger >> iceberg lettuce salad. Living in a state with fucking amazing produce has opened my eyes, coming from a place with still-weak seasonal produce.

    [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    there's no such thing as super food

    What? Maybe you're sick of misleading advertising about super foods, but that doesn't change that there are foods that offer way more benefits to you than other foods. Whether it's providing a lot of nutrition per calorie, nutrients that are uncommon in the average modern diet, or various other miscellaneous benefits, super foods exist.

    No shit you should eat differently for different goals, but some foods are way better than others. An avocado vs some bread for example.

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    You do realize you're being cynical right now about kale?

    [–]Kalidane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    oh my god - kale flavoured inception

    Point taken

    [–]RichieFinn 9 points10 points  (22 children)

    anyone got any tips on meditation for someone who struggles focusing on things like that?

    [–]Redasshole 10 points11 points  (4 children)

    The simplest Buddhist meditation:

    Sit down. Back straight. Close your eyes. Focus on your breathing.

    The goal is to focus all your mind on your breathing (realize when it's slow, when it's fast, observe), not to force it to be slow or anything else.

    [–]Jalato_Boi 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    This really helped, thanks

    [–]iwish4zombies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Also notice the sounds around you then bring it back. Its a real-life useful tool.

    [–]billcosbyeatsbabies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Yup. Just had a nice meditation a few minutes ago. Helped me figure out what I needed to do today.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Interestingly enough, the same advice applies to starting running as I've been finding. I did 5x my personal record much above my normal speed by breathing a certain way (2.5mi @ 5-7.5mph, over 0.5mi @ 5mph a few weeks prior). When I feel my heart pounding, I can meditatively think about what's distracting me to the point of messing up my breath.

    [–][deleted]  (11 children)

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      [–]kk3l 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Do you have any advices for someone who has trouble breathing? I can't breathe properly due to mucus, and it bothers me when I pay attention to my breathing. Because of this I can't even sleep properly.

      [–]MotchGoffels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Cystic fibrosis? Maybe white noise? A fan?

      [–]Blaat1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Meditating with a goal in mind is doing it wrong.

      [–]MrGudmoore 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      Being able to clear your mind for mediation isn't too hard. But it is tricky and requires discipline.

      You have to teach your mind not to wander. Sometimes it will take a lot of time and practice to achieve it. But it's definitely doable, just keep working at it. Always work towards bettering yourself.

      [–]VectorBoson 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      The goal is not necessarily to teach the mind not to wander, rather it is to notice when the mind is wandering and bring it back to the present moment. Doing this repeatedly will eventually reveal to you that your thoughts are no different than your breath or your physical sensations, i.e. they are something you have no control over so you shouldn't get caught up in them and just accept that they are there. Most people think that they ARE their thoughts which causes a lot of anxiety because thoughts are usually self-conscious. This is simply not true though, you can observe your thoughts as they arise just like any other type of sensation.

      [–]neocelt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Close your eyes focusing on your breath take large belly breaths push , expand your lungs with as much air as possible and allow your mind to calm down . every time it wanders gently pull it back. Do this enough and you will have trained yourself to calm your mind

      [–]RichieFinn -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

      ive always wanted to try it, but feel like actual meditation and relaxtation and such is a bit of a myth thats why i wanna look for some methods.

      [–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

      "Success is what you attract by the person you become." - Jim Rohn

      Good post.

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      [–]adam_varg 18 points19 points  (9 children)

      I do cold shower for couple years.

      They have many benefits like better immunity, better mood and helps with dispicline.

      But muscle recovery and rised testosterone was never proven by some study.

      [–]Ma1nStreaM 3 points4 points  (3 children)

      According to a 1993 study by the Thrombosis Research Institute in England, cold showers increase testosterone and white blood cell production in men.

      Enhanced muscle recovery is an effect of increased test.

      [–]adam_varg 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      Thrombosis Research Institute in England

      Have you seen that study? Send me link via pm or here, i am really curious.

      I did not found it. All i found is citing this study, repeated ad nauseum at every other selfhelp web. And it mention correlation not causation only. Only studies i did found was on rats or inconclusive.

      IMHO cold showers will raise T (insignificantly, unless you are depressed and spend majority time overheated), indirectly just because due to lowering cortisol (proven), which helps with T levels.

      [–]Ma1nStreaM 8 points9 points  (1 child)

      I emailed the institute directly, I'll let you know what/when I hear back.

      [–]reigorius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      me too please. Curious as to what and how the tested it.

      [–]reigorius 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      neither is immunity conclusively proven.

      [–]adam_varg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Nope.

      Something with white blood cells change to better state (dont remeber exactly what) the more you are adapted to rapid temperature changes, cold showers is one way to get this adaptation (ice baths, outdoors time, sauning are just more effective).

      [–]Playsz 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      I read somewhere cold showers stop imflammation, so I stopped taking them. Maybe I should start again.

      [–]adam_varg 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Why do you think its bad thing? Maybe i dont understand you..

      afaik to recover from muscle strain and inflamations for some people helps cold, for other its heat.

      Personally i cant use icepacks, muscles get tight as fuck, hotpacks helps, but cold showers are okay.. on contrary - friend has fibromyalgia, baaad idea to take cold shower.

      For sure cold showers significantly lower cortisol levels, so it should help body to recover (inflamations too) whatever it needs as other effect.

      IMHO unless you have some medical condition, there is no good reason not to take them

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Could you prove more information about cold showers? Any hard evidence or is this primarily anecdotal? Not doubting your experience with, just curious about the source of this practice.

      [–]adam_varg -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

      Lowered cortisol levels, serotonin release, helping with depression, stronger immunity (something white blood cells, dont remember what).

      Saw studies on human which prove above.

      I found nice breakdown article, examine.com level quality, but cant find it again :/

      [–]getRedPill 1 point2 points  (3 children)

      Literally ice? I have bad time with just ambient-cold. Can't imagine ice cold.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Doesn't have to be icy, just cold. Little to no warm water, full cold.

      [–]getRedPill 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      I'm gonna do it. i've been trying with relatively cold water, until I can go full cold.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      First few seconds suck but then it's not too bad. You got it.

      [–]newpua_bie 0 points1 point  (6 children)

      I recommend ice swimming instead of (or in addition to) cold shower. Most showers can't produce properly cold water, thus making the whole practice a bit meh, and the heat transfer is much stronger when you're fully immersed in cold water.

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        [–]qpinto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        usually you cna find an olympic sized pool where swim teams train. these are usually colder pools so you can do laps.

        [–]newpua_bie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I live in northern Europe so I have access to natural frozen lakes, but all of the local swimming pools also have small 4-6 Celsius pools.

        [–]adam_varg 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        Yeah discipline part is over for me after 5-20 days after start (or restart). Shower is not cold enough to be challenging or uncomfortable after that period. Actually i look forward to it and am annoyed when i dont have time to take one.

        If you have bath tub and easy access to ice, i strongly recommend icebaths (or swim if you live in siberia).

        [–]redestofthereds 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        I heard, and I mean only heard about it, that it's part of the navy seals training regimen.

        [–]elevul 13 points14 points  (16 children)

        For meditation i highly recommend headspace. First 10 days/lessons are free, after that it's paid. While I usually prefer free stuff, this is the thing that finally, after over 10 years of dabbling in Meditation, has pushed me to be consistent with it and now I'm nearly 3 months in, meditating every single day.

        Perhaps it's the sunk cost fallacy, I'm not sure, but it had worked, so I recommend it to others.

        [–]monobrauw 8 points9 points  (5 children)

        Keep it going! I'm on my 93rd day in a row, can't stop since day 1, those little badges are addictive.
        My road hasn't been perfect, a couple of days ago I finished my daily session at 11:59 pm, some days I just make the 3-minutes SOS, but I've managed to keep a 93 days (and counting) streak.
        I feel SO much difference on my whole life, physically, business, relations, can't recommend it enough.

        Coupon codes for anyone interested (I guess they're only valid for 1 person, so only redeem if you plan to really use it):
        REW90-9ONKNG
        REW30-6RQNMZ
        REW15-GRV0VQ

        [–]elevul 1 point2 points  (3 children)

        Yeah, the achievement thing was really addicting at the beginning. I'm happy to see those gaming tools used for a good purpose.

        [–]monobrauw 1 point2 points  (2 children)

        I think it's a great tool to compete against yourself, sometimes I just don't feel like doing it, but that stupid pixel badge has something that makes me want to keep it.
        Which series did you started? After the foundation I went with creativity, which I just finished last week and yesterday started with self-steem.

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          [–]elevul -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          If works, that's what matters. It's a tool like any other, let's leave the philosophy to the people whose job that is.

          [–]DionysusfromOlympus 3 points4 points  (2 children)

          I may or may not have used a very famous Sweedish web-site to obtain the collection for free.

          [–]elevul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          As long as you stick with it.

          [–]sorceryofthetesticle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          Your post reminds me of a quote from the great Sri K. Patthabi Jois," Yoga is 99% practice, 1% theory."

          It's true for everything. Endless theorizing doesn't mean shit.

          Thanks for the post.

          [–]GasStationCoffee 4 points5 points  (2 children)

          You need to understand your own fucking mind. Daily meditation will bring you clarity, focus, and impulse control. When you meditate you are training your mind to be present and to better observe and exert conscious control over your own thoughts. It makes you feel a greater sense of well being. It makes you quicker and wittier. Meditation is lifting weights for the mind.

          Or do something that's just as good. Meditation doesn't work for me. Running does. It's my moving meditation. If meditation works for you, good. If it doesn't, find something that does similar stuff.

          [–]Kubomi 3 points4 points  (1 child)

          Note that meditation is a broader concept than simply sitting in zazen or lotus position. Walking mediation has been around for just as long as these. Meditation is more a mind state (or no-mind state) one brings to normally mundane tasks.

          [–]GasStationCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Agreed. Sometimes people (including me) think that meditation has to be the Buddhist monk you see in movies. I've gotten into a Flow state in many a different way.

          [–]tag2man 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Great, practical and relevant. The funny thing is that you've underscored all the elements of a healthy lifestyle; the physical, social and intellectual. The proverbial eat, pray, love sans 'feels good' bullshit. OP, simply if you've maintained all of these or are working towards so, you are a badass. Thanks for the content.

          [–]B_uckets 12 points13 points  (7 children)

          Just fucking do it

          The most useless advice ever given.

          You already said yourself that everyone here already knows what they should be doing:

          You know what's wasting your time. You fucking know. If you really haven't the littlest clue what's good or bad for you, go play WoW in a puddle of your own sweaty shame.

          And yet here you are, reiterating all those things as if hearing them for the 10th time will magically motivate people to get off their asses. News flash: It won't.

          Why are so many doctors fat? Why are so many fitness experts skinny, weakass bitches? Why are we as a society in worse shape than ever despite the fact that we have more technology, more fitness books/videos/websites, more gyms, more food, and better access to all of them than ever before? It's because the problem has nothing to do with a lack of knowledge or awareness. There are mountains of research on self-sabotaging behavior. If the solution were as simple as telling people "just stop doing those things and start doing better things", don't you think they would have figured that out by now?

          There was a thread on here about over-tasking yourself that offers far more useful advice. I can't link to it because auto-mod is a piece of shit that deletes links even if they're to this sub, so you can use the search feature. Chances are this comment will be buried anyway because people are too busy hopping on the "JUST DO IT" hype train.

          [–]rpscrote 7 points8 points  (1 child)

          good post. Is this the post you're talking about? https://archive.is/50Qy5

          [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children)

          Did you also see the reply to that thread about your perception of the tasks being more important than the quantity?

          This list is what got me off my ass because I stopped thinking about what I needed to do. It was concrete and full proof in my perception. I needn't do any more or any less. Its simple enough to carry around in your mind, or on a postcard.

          I decided these are things I wanted to do, and I stopped thinking about its importance, and rather thought about it as a framework for my day.

          Also, get rid of bad habits is at the top for a reason. Get rid of all your distractions and you will have the most boring week of your life. But guess what? You'll eventually start doing other things to fill that time. Its much easier to do things out of boredom than obligation.

          At the end of the day though, there's really nothing else you can do, than to just do it. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          What's the passion that you developed? How did you find it and how did you go about it?

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          I have a few, but my main is music production. I loved music to a great extent all my life, and my friends always told me I had great taste, and that I should make music, so I did. Been going hard on it for three years.

          I also love fantasy fiction, so I started writing.

          I love visual aesthetics, so I started making digital art.

          What do you love experiencing? Start making those things. That's how I found my passions.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I have a passion for listening to music, just like you mentioned of yourself, but getting into a hobby like making it always was too daunting, specially when i was lacking discipline in all other aspects of my life.
          What I'm wondering is:

          How important was it to you to develop a passion for that?

          Because imo i would place "hobbies" as the least important of that list, having a hobby belongs to "self actualization", which is nice and good but i feel like all of the basics must come before it. Thoughts?

          Even though I do plan on trying to get into hobbies because it's nice, I'm afraid i wont be able to be passionate about it, to me passion is the same as when you feel motivated all of a sudden but then the motivation leaves and you are only left with discipline to keep doing whatever you felt motivated to do.

          [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          How else will you ever do anything if you don't "JUST DO IT"?

          It takes discipline to get started and to stick with it, and that's what "just doing it" is.

          You've gotta stop looking for the secret, the one thing that will let you finally succeed, the right book, the right supplement, the right article, etc. You've got everything you need and now it's time to just fucking do it. Action and success are self-reinforcing cycles, but to kickstart them you've gotta take your discipline and "JUST DO IT".

          Talking shit on just doing it is saying you need external factors to get you off your ass. That's weak.

          Why are so many doctors fat? Why are so many fitness experts skinny, weakass bitches? Why are we as a society in worse shape than ever despite the fact that we have more technology, more fitness books/videos/websites, more gyms, more food, and better access to all of them than ever before?

          Because most people are undisciplined fucking wrecks. That's no excuse. If you're shit, don't blame society. Blame yourself.

          [–]Goldfulgore 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          That's the "sugar" in life in order to get rid of the bitter taste of the red pill. This should come with a warning though:

          Should you become sick in the future, it's time to take the pill again.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          This is important. I say "stop reading TRP" for effect. What I really mean is stop reading it so much.

          In a world that is constantly trying to bring us down, it's important to compensate with information that brings us up.

          [–]Izzenw 1 point2 points  (2 children)

          Respect is also non-negotiable.

          I always say this in every business contact I do. "I'm here to sell my services, not my respect".

          Be a Gentleman, but be ready to become a crazy dog if someone abuses your politeness.

          [–]realmisc 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Did something happen in the past regarding respect?

          [–]Izzenw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Not at all. I always pay close attention to what older men say. And this is one of my old business professors catch phrases. He always used "Respect is not negotiable". At least once during his classes.

          He was a great professor. He started as a substitute professor and ended as rector of my university. Got fired because he was too much traditionalist in his methods.

          He also used another cool catch phrase. "Channel your sadness in into effort". He also got divorce rapped and got a heavy depression. Managed to beat it by teaching. He was not the best professor in the world. But he had so much "masculine wisdown". He used to teach TRP concepts to his students, he learned then during his life, thanks to all the shit that his divorce brought him.

          [–]OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Last two days, some deep fundamental shit is being posted on trp. Things that make you pause for a minute, and reflect.

          [–]Nearox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          This is what makes life worth it.

          [–]Redasshole 1 point2 points  (2 children)

          I'm addicted to reading TRP. It's the only sane place I have in my life.

          [–]648262[🍰] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Step 1. Make your life sane.

          [–]Redasshole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I went MGTOW, currently monk mode. No relationships with the other gender. Life is as sane as it can be.

          [–]drummmmmergeorge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          The problem isn't enough to know the problem, one must be able to alleviate the dreaded symptoms of the problem. People do not drink, watch, waste time solely for that purpose alone, there is a deep psychological hindrance which causes said problem. I myself struggle with some issues, and I am a scholar academic with in depth knowledge in psychology and I myself fall victim to myself. Let's first look deep into the "why's" and go from there. Why do you masterbate? Why do you watch 5 hours of TV everyday? Once we understand our triggers we can tackle the problem instead of artificial advice, such as this.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I'd also recommend joining a martial art class.

          [–]nantucketghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          deleted What is this?

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          How does one escalate in an interaction, aside from using kino?

          [–]1htbf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          1/ Fuck her with your eyes.

          2/ Sexualise the conversation.

          [–]Fafner2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I'd add being successful to this list. Too many bottom-feeding losers these days who don't try to achieve anything substantive with their lives, and instead work low-end white collar or retail jobs their whole life just to get by.

          [–]getRedPill 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Post deleted. So bad, this one was gold

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          It's back now. Not sure what happened.

          [–]sourpuss_ashkenazi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          This is just the introduction...the rest you need to figure out for yourself.

          [–][deleted]  (3 children)

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          [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Richard Bransons biography "Losing my Virginity" is excellent. He is one of the most impressive and inspiring people on the planet right now, imo.

          Elon Musks biography is equally inspiring.


          All Quiet on the Western Front by Erich Remarque is intense and powerful and will practically leave you shell shocked.

          Walden by Henry David Thoreau is a must read IMO. He was the George Carlin of the late 1800s, and his prose is beautiful and rule breaking. This is easily one of my favorite books of all time.

          [–]RedPillduNord 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Hemingway is some pretty good male oriented fiction. I'm biased though because "For Whom the Bell Tolls" is among my favorite reads of all time.

          [–]Gadsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          what do you guys think about sacrificing sleep to go out to talk to girls? I have a pretty steady schedule from 11-7, but friday and saturday I go out to the club to practice social skills until like 2 am.

          [–]tallwheel 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          What do you like doing? What do you love doing?

          Playing video games and watching TV. ;)

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I'm glad someone finally said this. Was fully expecting it.

          [–]RationalKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I bookmarked this so I can come back to it if I slipp!

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Lessons Learned: That it's this fucking simple. Stop making it so difficult. Stop making it more complicated than it needs to be.

          I told one of my co-workers something similar earlier this week when we were talking shit and it turned into lifestyle stuff and he used the phrase 'just how I am' or similar. I said to him something like 'you aren't just like anything. You can be however you want, you can make that choice and I don't judge you, but it's a choice...' and he said 'this is why I love hanging out with you' ... it was tight.

          Just fucking do or don't, own your shit.

          Smoke weed every day if it's legal where you are.

          Context: recent post history, hella lifestyle changes pre and especially post TRP in the last 3 years.

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Lovely guide.

          Great for beginners to have a checklist/starter-pack. Also great for intermediates/advanced to reevaluate their weak areas to improve on (e.g. mine's talking to people, because I usually get so consumed by my passion/work that I am detached from society/friends).

          Sidebar-worthy, I'd say!

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Lovely guide.

          Great for beginners to have a checklist/starter-pack. Also great for intermediates/advanced to reevaluate their weak areas to improve on (e.g. mine's talking to people, because I usually get so consumed by my passion/work that I am detached from society/friends).

          Sidebar-worthy, I'd say!

          [–]FamineX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Very good summary. I'm curious: What are your favourite books by Hunter S. Thompson, Jack London and Hemingway?

          [–]Thistookmedays 0 points1 point  (4 children)

          I drink, I smoke, I binge-watch. I don't meditate. Because I enjoy these things.

          I eat healthy, I have a successful business, I've been lifting for years. I'm social. I get plenty of sleep. Because I enjoy these things.

          I'm in that 10% you mentioned. Probably top 1%. This list is perfectly negotiable.

          [–]Ferguson_Curly 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          If you wrote a post detailing how you got there and why you believe these things, it would be much more concrete. I'd be interested but without proof I am skeptical

          [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          This is not negotiable unless you are already very well in control of your life and how you want to live it. Most people, are not there, and this is non-negotiable if they want to improve.

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          [–]What_The_Shoe 2 points3 points  (3 children)

          Still trying to justify being a lazy, socially inept fatass? Good for you. No, really. I hope you get a lot more bliss out of your life than someone who actually makes something of themselves, because otherwise you're not only worthless, you're an idiot.

          [–][deleted]  (2 children)

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            [–]What_The_Shoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Okay, keep watching TV 'till 4 AM. That will surely make you a better person because it challenges the status quo. Yup. Follow the horde and just pretend you don't give a fuck, never doing anything to improve yourself. Seriously. Do whatever the fuck you want. But don't attack OP for explaining how to improve oneself. Wallow on your own.

            [–]ShounenEgo 0 points1 point  (9 children)

            I'm stuck in the "develop a passion" stage for ages. At this point I'd much rather do something interesting that's profitable than keep looking for feels.

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              [–]ShounenEgo 0 points1 point  (4 children)

              I'm not saying they are. I'm saying that finding both on something is hard for me.

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                [–]ShounenEgo 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                I'm checking it out right now, was watching the Tedx talk. At the beginning he mentions that "taking jobs to build up your resume is the same as saving up sex for old age" and guess who laughed in the room the most (protip: it wasn't men).

                But I sat through the whole talk and I enjoyed it. I'm checking the tools now.

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                  [–]ShounenEgo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Same thing. I have dailies which I complete, some days I progress a bit while others I progress a lot. But I stopped having zero days a few months ago and this week I'm finally progressing with learning programming (after procrastinating for literally forever).

                  I decided to focus on loving the process, the goal is something that fluctuates (goes with abundance mentality).

                  [–]ketolifting 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                  Getting good at something preempts "passion" for it.

                  [–]ShounenEgo 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  Then I guess I'll either become good enough to develop it as a passion or ditch it for something different.

                  [–]ketolifting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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                  [–]alphabeta49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Well... that certainly demonstrates the diversity of the word.

                  [–]halfnakedraise -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  "Stop binge watching fictional lives on Netflix."

                  -Really? Im just gonna Netflix and chill, literally.

                  [–]RP_is_mainstream -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  One thing I'd like to add is reading Sex God Method. This book transformed sex and female attraction for me more than anything else I've found on TRP.

                  It's seriously the only book that correctly frames sex, what it is, and the different corners of sex we didn't realize we were utilizing (and since it categorizes them, you can actually make practical use of them).

                  [–]Vasallo7G -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  I would add having a mission.

                  Like beyond money and pussy, something you can spend your lifetime achieving, something that you can say: before me the world was less awesome because I did X during my lifetime.

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