Interesting relationship developed in my senior year of college. Met a girl, about a 7, who I sexually advanced with the first night we met. Her roommate, who I've fucked countless times, introduced us. All was going well for about 2-3 weeks until I started spending too much time with her. Started meeting up with her before bars (never do this), leaving early, even getting food together. Was planning on taking her to my fraternity formal and had already invited her. However, she felt too comfortable. A week before the formal she texted me "I think we should just go together as friends". Yeah right. I immediately responded with "thanks for letting me know, I'll take someone else then," and invited another plate that I'd been spinning (lesson here: always have options and leverage). This was like a sexual turbo charger in my relationships with the 7. Sure, she was upset, offended and had already bought her dress-- not my problem. But the sex that week leading up to formal was amazing. More passionate, frequent, and she wanted to do anything and everything (had never offered certain orifices before). She was trying to show me that she was the superior sexual prospect. Even fucked me the day I left for formal because she wanted to do it the same day I fucked my date. And the day I got back.
My point is, before this I had never had such a first hand experience about how women simply want a man with high status who is desired by many women. It's a herd mentality that if a guy is desired, I should desire him too. In the future, I plan to be open and forthright about the plates that I'm spinning to each plate. This flips the abundance script. Now the girl is vying for your attention, whereas the reverse is the situation everyone should avoid. Women don't really care about exclusivity. They might say they do socially, but deep down it isn't one of their concerns outside of STDs. Never show exclusivity to a plate, and always keep her emotional hamster running. Demonstrate that you have many plates, that she isn't special, and then she will try to prove that she is special. Best sex I've had in a while.
TLDR: Have options, be upfront about them, and your options will beg for your attention