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Field Report[FR] how hanging with some beta friends showed me how far I've come on my TRP journey (self.TheRedPill)

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This post is for the new guys just starting their TRP journey, as I myself was in your shoes not too long ago. It's a reminder that with self-improvement, digesting the sidebar, and by NGAF you will be able to not only see results, but be able to see how far you have come just by interacting with people.

I had a couple moments over the past few weeks that helped put into perceptive all the things I have been trying to improve upon since taking TRP. This all came after hanging out with some beta friends of mine recently and observing behaviors that I know I exhibited before I found this sub. This is not a bash on my friends, but more a reflection of what practicing what you learn here can change you for the better.

Case 1: Went out with some friends for one of their birthdays and one of my buddies said he was bring his new girl around. He has been hanging out with her for over 4 months and never made a move. I can tell instantly that this girl is using him as an orbiter, but has no real intention of letting him get any. She immediately starts flirting with me and I can tell it is making my friend angry. I flirt back a little, but I draw a line, as I don't think it is worth losing friends over one girl. Gaining an abundance mentality has truly helped me not get hung up on every encounter. After some time we start talking about frolfing and she says she's never gone, but would love to go tomorrow if I was free. I told her I had to work, but my friend was a pro and could show her how to play. I figured if she said yes it would put my buddy in a good spot for some kino and 1 on 1 time. She seemed into it until he opened his month. Immediately he lets her know that it's not a date and tells her he will bring his younger brother along. I was shocked at first. I set the kid up for the easy layup and he missed by a mile. Then it sunk in on the ride home, I was that guy not even a year ago. Too afraid of losing one girl out of fear of when the next one will come along. Jealous when the girl that was not even mine, got attention from someone else. I was at first mad at myself for ever behaving like this, but as I thought about it I was so glad that I had seen the light. No one girl is worth the frustration my buddy is putting himself though. Playing the friend card will only make you an orbiter.

Case 2: Went out to a beer festival with some friends of mine and ended the night at a bar near one of their places. The bar was pretty dead, but our bartender was very attractive. After going up to the bar to grab a round I can tell she is into me and I start to banter with her. The next couple times I grab a beer she starts talking with me and I kept negging her about not remember that my last name starts with a C and not a K. She's loving it, but my friends see it differently. She comes to our table multiple times just to talk and I continue to tease her the entire time. When she leaves the table my friends keep telling me to stop being an asshole to her. They were going to be her white knights. I just laughed it off and tell them it's not a big deal. The night ends with her following us outside as we get ready to leave and I ask her for her number. She gave it without hesitation and my friends are floored. They don't get why treating a potential plate as I did ended up with positive results. It was a good reminder that nice guys finish last. It got me thinking today about how fear of rejection use to cripple my chances. By not putting pussy on a pedestal you take all the pressure off yourself. Learn to hold frame and what you found so hard six months ago will over time come naturally to you.

In conclusion: What I've learned coming to TRP is that really what this is teaching you is a set of skills to get what you want out of life. Keep busy, learn new things, talk to everyone interesting, go for what you want and create a life you can be proud of. Over time this will seem less like a task and just who you are. It won't happen over night. If you fail today, know that tomorrow brings another chance to sink or swim. Practice a life of abundance and reap the rewards. Don't just take what the sub is teaching to pick up women. Instead, use it in all aspects of your life. Make it who you are. That is when you will see the results you are looking for.


[–][deleted] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

I love this.

I'm looking forward to making results like this come true for myself as well.

[–][deleted]  (25 children)

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[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (9 children)

Just remember to keep it light, ask questions, and let her do most of the talking. Be a mystery and have her ask questions to get any personal info about you. Big thing I learned is that the more time you spend taking with a potential plate hurts your chances. Talk for awhile, get her number, and get out if you don't think you can score that night. Your sole attention should not be on one girl while out with friends.

[–]aBetterNation 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Women always fill in the gaps of what they don't know with some crazy awesome illusion of yourself. Less talking- always.

[–]Trooper_1868 34 points35 points  (1 child)

Like anime. Damn thats funny. I would probably say the same :P

[–]Naebany 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seems like she wanted him to kiss her though.

[–]Robocompany 2 points3 points  (4 children)

How do you tease without actually coming off as rude or an asshole? I've always found it difficult to hop along the line. Any tips?

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't care if you are rude or an asshole. Don't go out of your way to be a rude asshole, just let it come naturally- and don't care. The "not caring" is what attracts women.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

coming off as rude or an asshole?

You can't control how others think. you'll come off as you come off.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Keep it light and playful. If they think you are an ass, their loss. Most girls will eat it up, while the orbiters will try to use it to ruin your flow. Just hold frame and if she's into you, you'll have a lot of lead on the rope. If not, well move on. You got better stuff to do.

[–]Robocompany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you senpai. I shall keep that in mind.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (11 children)

The autism is strong with this one.

[–][deleted]  (10 children)

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    [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (9 children)

    Quite honestly, your story is depressing and unfunny (Although funny for redditors - no surprise) Turn off the anime, go outside and lift weights.

    [–][deleted]  (7 children)

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      [–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (6 children)

      You're a big boy now, aren't you? Heres a gold star.

      [–][deleted]  (5 children)

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        [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

        Truth is, I could smell the beta-rage in you a mile away - and I clearly brought it out. Welcome to TRP. If you're still mad, turn to the gym and not to miss 2d suki.

        [–][deleted]  (3 children)

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          [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

          BTW, I watch anime. I don't tell new plates if they are not fans themselves, but at the end of the day, just be yourself. As you said you are in the transitional stage. You can't learn from your mistakes if you don't review them. Keep it up and keep it light.

          [–]powerbaseballfan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          whats the point of being so serious about it if you truly dngaf

          [–]allrandomworldnews 7 points8 points  (0 children)

          That is the moment were you got to look her in the eyes. Smile at her and say “yes of course“, hold eye contact and if she smiles back at you go in for the kiss.

          If she likes you she wont resist. If she resists nothing was lost and you give your attention another girl.

          [–]grandmazboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          Look at her with a raised eyebrow.."Big eyes?"

          Use two seconds to have a quick glance at her chest, "Big tits are better" and smirk.

          Cue giggles.

          [–]LittleRedditAddict 20 points21 points  (6 children)

          Sorry to tell you, but barring changes by them, you're going to lose them as friends anyway. At least as you know it currently, and that's a good thing. There's only so many hours in a day and you can't waste your time on losers. You'll probably think I'm harsh until a dozen or so times that they try to undercut you and you learn the hard way. Posts on changes in friend interaction are too few and far between, but most will express the same sentiments. Good luck.

          [–]m0rphing 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          Yeah, the key here is "barring changes by them". But you can at least try to help out your beta buddies by giving them little bits of advice here and there. Don't full out talk TRP with them, but push them in the right direction. Some of them might be receptive to it. The ones who continue to be beta bitches and insist on ruining your flow will have to be cut out of your life or at least demoted to acquaintance.

          [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

          No actually, I know you are right. The guys from the second example are not going to change. They are the buddies I go to beer events with, but normally I don't call them when I'm looking to go out to talk to girls. The guy from the first case is actually my favorite friend to go out with to pick up chicks. He works in the bar scene and has a great social circle. He's social with girls, but thinks the way into their pants is by being a friend first, so I know he is not competition. He's a great wingman, as he does a lot of stuff right, he's just got the end game so wrong.

          [–]LittleRedditAddict 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Nothing wrong with different friends for different occasions. Have fun.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (2 children)

          I always thought the Crab Bucket image was not adequate. These White Knights use a lot more weapons than natural claws and they do a lot more than just try to drag you into the bucket. Your best "friend" will stomp on your face to get closer to a used up smelly snatch.

          Your occasional friends and acquaintances will go out of their way to sabotage you and then laugh in your face.

          [–]1Shadowsduh 78 points79 points  (0 children)

          Yea you start to notice smaller and smaller workings of TRP in the world as time passes.

          [–]Best_By_Death 34 points35 points  (5 children)

          I cringed at those and I'm sure other RPs would too. I remember tip-toeing just like that but just can't remember why now.

          [–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (4 children)

          Think these are bad? I have a buddy who's girl dumped him a year ago and last time I saw him he cried for an hour about her. I just got up and walked away. Let the ladies in the group handle that one. Haha

          [–]Best_By_Death 13 points14 points  (3 children)

          Essentially the busier he gets, the tougher life obstacles he faces and overcomes, the more your friend will become RP. Then learn some female psychology and manipulation (not the same as psychology taught in schools). That's all.

          Additionally, the manipulation part is very useful for all other aspects of life aswell and not just for sexual success alone.

          [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Agreed, been telling him for months to get busy and focus on himself. We game together at night, as we both get off super late after work. I've been slowly spoon feeding his RP truths and he takes some and leaves others. His problem is he doesn't have much value at the moment and only wants a LTR. Dude needs to mellow out and just have some fun.

          [–]DerangedDiphthong 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          Where would be the best sources to learn said psychology and manipulation??

          [–]Airskycloudface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          start fucking with people. go drive somewhere far from where you live and chat people the fuck up.

          [–]Jailhouseredpilled93 12 points13 points  (1 child)

          Being an asshole to hot girls is anathema to Betas. Before TRP when someone negged a girl I would get embarrassed for her! My own male solipsism would see her red face and interpret that as embarrassment. Oh how blind I was!!!

          [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Red face indicates increased blood flow and lubrication.

          [–]zboo1h 12 points13 points  (1 child)

          I work in education. Most of my coworkers are women. Whenever I meet their boyfriends or husbands or whatever, I'm always secretly shocked. One of my coworkers routinely emasculates her beta boy whenever we have get-togethers. She'll mock him for balding or being short or skinny, or having a shittier job than her. He just smiles and remains quiet like a good boy. This is while she takes every opportunity to touch me, talk to me, "accidentally" push into me when crossing paths.

          Discovering TRP is one of the most important things to have ever happened to me.

          [–]-PurSang- 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          I'm tagging you as future me.

          Please keep updating us with the kind of things you are able to notice more and more with time ;)

          [–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

          All interactions with women clearer with TRP. And all interactions become better when treating them like little girls who never grew up

          [–][deleted]  (3 children)

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          [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

          I wish my buddy could understand this. This same girl has been all over me every time I see her. Touching, flirting, seeking me out when I'm talking to other people, and out of respect I turn her down every time. Hell, she even invited me to sleep at her place right in front of him. He told me her loves her and I'm pretty sure he hasn't seen her naked yet. Dude is about to get his heart broken for no reason. This is why abundance is so important.

          [–]mishasam89 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

          It's really just your turn

          dude, you make it sound like it's just like going to an escort.. lol

          [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          Take the Red Pill Bro. Unfortunately the Pill is also a suppository. If you won't swallow it, at some point it is going to get shoved up your ass.

          [–]allrandomworldnews 11 points12 points  (0 children)

          You should also add that your friends are probably socially retarded when it comes to body language. Else they would stfu about you negging her because they would see that she is into it.

          Always give body language more value then words!

          [–]goldenhourlivin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Solid post. As someone new to TRP, stuff like this makes me feel like I can't fucking wait to finish the sidebar reading. Only things stopping me from mowing it all down right now are two exams I'm studying for.

          [–]Thinkingard 6 points7 points  (4 children)

          Sounds like you're on the right path and finding out how easy it is, at least in comparison to the old BP ways. When I think back of how BP I used to be I just shake my head in disgust with how many opportunities I threw away. I could of had a very feminine and cool girlfriend but I smothered her in beta-tude and pushed her away within a week. Another chick I found decently attractive, and maybe could have had some fun with, but I was too concerned that I wasn't attracted enough to her, and well, I was looking to wife someone up, because I am Christian, you know? Lol. That meant I had to have severe oneitus for a girl to even give her a shot, when I myself wasn't much for them. Stupid, right? Well, sometimes a BP is stuck in a specific worldview that is nothing but toxic for him and he doesn't realize it.

          That's why it's so nice for guys to learn about this stuff the younger they are. When you're swimming in hot girls in HS or college you have many opportunities to work on your game. My thoughts are for guys to become effectively RP so if they ever decide to get married and have kids they at least grab a high quality woman, not some crazy broken post-carousel post-wall bitch. For me, I became RP a bit late, meaning, after I was already married. I was in the process of learning when I was engaged, but it took awhile for things to really sink in.

          [–]Could_have_listened 8 points9 points  (2 children)

          could of

          Did you mean could've?


          I am a bot account.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I had a lot more RP attributes while in college and never thought about it, as girls would chase me all the time. It was after I graduated that I fell into my BP ways and once I figured it out, man, it just got so much easier. Stop chasing so hard and the girls will come to you.

          [–]cashmoney_x 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          What kind of stuff were you saying to the bartender in front of them for them to call you an asshole?

          [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          Nothing crazy to thb. Just teasing her for coming to our table so much. She was laughing and having a good time the entire time. I don't even think I was being an ass, I was just teasing her, but in their eyes I crossed a line.

          [–]cashmoney_x 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          It's funny how they ignore her reactions.

          [–]Hnikud 1 point2 points  (4 children)

          Good post OP, one question, how do you gain that abundance mentality? Also I have noticed TRP in action more and more, especially with these two classmates who let girls boss them around. Congratulations for getting this far.

          [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

          I did it by putting myself out there. I got rejected a lot at first, as girls can smell when you got no other options or don't feel confident in your game. Walk before you run. I went out with a bunch of HB5 off tinder or blind dates. Talk to girls at the bar or social situations. When you continue to go out in public and have girls seeking you out to talk you feel the abundance. I know that if I mess up with girl A, girl B is just around the corner. The other big part of it for me is that I feel great about who I am at the moment. I play guitar, have a good job, and my social circle is not bad. When you feel good about yourself girls can tell. Get active.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 2 points3 points  (2 children)

          how do you gain that abundance mentality

          Have sex with lots of young, hot girls.

          [–]K1KK0_1t4 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          How do have sex with lots of young, hot girls?

          You have to gain abundance mentality.

          [–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Thus fake it until you make it.

          [–]theflappiestflapper 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          I feel like people don't understand the concept of negging.... Its not just being a complete asshole, it's more like not being nice. Like why should you have to bend over backwards to impress or woo a girl? You should be able to do it with normal banter, which includes jokes and some humility from both sides. Guys who don't get this are nice for the purpose of sex, while guys who do are themselves for the purpose of sex and well being themselves.

          [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          We've been taught our whole lives to treat the opposite sex special and really all they want is to be treated like everyone else. It must get exhausting to deal with beta white knights all the time. These girls take shits just like the rest of us.

          [–]FujitsuOffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Jesus fucking titty christ. I cringed HARD when he said its not a date and he's bringing his brother. wtf?!

          [–]Saiyandeus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          I really enjoyed this post. It's a very generic TRP post tbh, but without the unnecessary beta bashing and wide generalizations regarding women.

          [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 0 points1 point  (19 children)

          What is TRP and the other one, NGAF, or something?

          [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (18 children)

          TRP=The Red Pill It should have been DGAF= Don't give a fuck.

          When I realized that I should just treat everyone the same and that no one person/girl is special it makes approaching easier. I've been turn down plenty, but now it doesn't sting anymore. Their lose.

          [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 3 points4 points  (17 children)

          Can I just thank you for answering my question and I hate acronyms. I never what they mean. Stupid acronyms. Sorry

          [–]SolarWizard 3 points4 points  (15 children)

          They are initialisms not acronyms

          [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 -1 points0 points  (14 children)

          Thanks for correcting me, it must be a real drag to constantly correct idiots like me. Thank you.

          [–]SolarWizard 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          Nah I'm just trying to stoke your fire dude.

          [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          My fires out guy but thanks

          [–]foreignuserirl 5 points6 points  (10 children)

          dude what is your deal? you are coming off super weird

          [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 1 point2 points  (9 children)

          Thank you for that I am super weird I'm sorry I'll work on that.

          [–][deleted]  (7 children)

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            [–]BIGSTEVEN1987 10 points11 points  (4 children)

            Oh gez sorry man I didn't mean to sound "insincere" oh gez I don't know man.

            [–]Dragon_Garoo 0 points1 point  (3 children)

            Now you sound like morty.

            Hint: Read the sidebar before reading the posts.

            [–][deleted]  (1 child)

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              [–]Commentor544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              I think you may need to stop saying sorry so much. Even though I'm reading, the way it sounds it's as if you're talking really fast and nervous. Best advice is to 1) Stop apologizing so much and 2)Use punctuation to make your sentences more calm and structured instead of nervous and fast. Good luck bro

              [–]lordvaderr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Damn g eventually you’ll find a new wolf pack

              [–]pulsar91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Just read the conclusion and love it!!