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Building PowerI never got around to thanking you guys (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by grafae

The Red Pill changed my life. It’s funny, I came across the community at a time when I’d already been ‘red pilling’ myself for some time. Frustrated with life, I was in the early stages of weightlifting, reading myself smart, and striving to improve my work situation. And like all of us, I suppose the red pill was always in my system, but had been subverted and suppressed by societal influences. It’s hard to say whether I found the subreddit or I finally grew up and it found me.

Either way, I was hooked. Those first few weeks I spent hours every night devouring red pill content – related books, the handbook, classic posts and new posts. It was extremely nourishing – at last after 28 years of frustration and confusion I had been offered a structure for living that never failed to make sense in reality or eventually make me a happier and better person. There were some rocky moments at the beginning as I was coming out of the anger phase – “you’ve changed, what's happened to you”, my girlfriend said. But eventually it balanced out and our relationship is now stronger than ever – I have assumed control like she always wanted me to but couldn’t find a way to ask, and she is happier too. She is radiant in fact.

I have transformed my body. I had been a runner since dropping 40 pounds about 8 years ago after allowing myself to become a fat lump of shit, but a disciplined weightlifting and eating program has given me the attractive physique, strength and aura of confidence I thought I would never have. I’ve taken up boxing and gotten back into football (soccer), which I was absolutely retarded to leave behind for so long.

Replacing TV and videogames with books has added an indescribable richness to my life. Good books – new and old – are the secret to powering ahead of the herd and helping you build an understanding of the world that is not shaped by corrupt corporate media organizations.

I find myself in a work situation – perhaps with some luck – where I am working from home picking up a salary from GloboCorp that has virtually become passive income. I developed my skills and proved myself to the point where I am seen as the only person in the company who can provide that kind of service, and so am treated with respect and left alone.

I cut out all the extraneous busywork that was weighing me down and have turned most of my attention to new projects unrelated to GloboCorp. I’ve got my finances in order - $70K in the bank with most of it invested – so if GloboCorp decides to make cuts I’m not worried. I’ve moved out of my Soviet style apartment into a little old home on a nice quiet street, and feel much more ‘grounded’.

Perhaps above all else, I have recently felt a wave of blissful calmness come over me. Now that I understand how the whole game works, I almost find myself sitting back and relaxing as the blue pill world continues to be defined by frenzied arguments, misery and boredom. I have become truly grateful for the opportunities I was given, and begun to capitalize on them instead of feeling sorry for myself.

I’ve repaired damaged relationships with my family and gotten to a point where I see the world from a position of love, with no hate. I can even empathize with the SJWs and see they are just living in pain and confusion like so many others, looking for answers. I am hopeful and excited for the future. RP skeptics might say maybe I just matured, but I find it very hard to believe I would be where I am now without this knowledge. I guess I'll never know for sure.

It saddens me deeply that red pill thinking is demonized, because this will be to the detriment of many men who could have otherwise found happiness. It’s proof enough that society in its current state cannot function without beating down a large subset of what should be strong, healthy, independent men. The Red Pill would surely have been standard discussion among men at one time (without all the initial anger phase stuff), but now it’s happening at the fringes and we are told we should feel bad for engaging in it.

If you’re new here, I urge you to ignore them. You don’t have to be a woman hater to be redpilled, quite the opposite. You have to learn to love women, let go of the bitterness and understand them so that you can have healthy relationships with them. The mainstream crap about TRP is where the true bitterness lies, sad little men and deceptive feminists cherry picking anger phase comments in a desperate attempt to keep men they don’t understand miserable. This is a place full of wisdom if you know who to listen to, role models that are hard to come by for men today. Having reached what feels like Red Pill Nirvana, I now aim to become one of those role models.

Thanks to everyone who contributes value here, and I wish you all the best of luck.


[–]3itiswr1tten 257 points258 points  (6 children)

Glad to hear it. One of the things I love to say to others is, "I am a beacon of fucking positivity." It is easy to be fun, interesting, and attractive when your mindset and attitude are under control.

Anxiety is inwardly an obsessive preoccupation with failure and outwardly a preoccupation with being disliked. Overcoming anxiety is often simplified into "not giving a fuck" but that is just a symptom. Being able to look at the guy in the mirror and say "I like this guy, he's #1" is the cause.

Improving your physique, straightening out your mind, and achieving your goals is the fastest way to liking the guy in the mirror, no surprise much of TRP's advice is dedicated to doing just that.

[–]anon2777 62 points63 points  (0 children)

it’s better to overcome your problems than to cope with them.

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    [–]omw_to_fuck_ur_bitch -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

    Because I couldn't say it better makes me feel inferior. But that's just because I haven't been redpilled yet.

    [–]hawkeaglejesus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Being able to look at the guy in the mirror and say "I like this guy, he's #1"

    If I had to sum up my TRP transformation in one sentence

    [–]rad_dynamic 47 points48 points  (7 children)

    Beautifully written. Which books do you think was the best in terms of your development?

    [–]grafae[S] 36 points37 points  (2 children)

    Embracing masculinity: Atlas Shrugged & The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand. Rational Male - Rollo Tomassi. The Way of Men - Jack Donovan. No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover. The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida. Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

    Spirituality: The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle. Fight Club. The Stranger - Camus. Walden - Thoreau. Man's Search for Meaning. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.

    Creative (writing): The War of Art - Steven Pressfield. Zen and the Art of Writing - Ray Bradbury. On Writing - Stephen King. David Foster Wallace. Bill Bryson.

    Society: 1984 & Animal Farm - Orwell. Brave New World Revisited - Huxley. The Unabomber Manifesto. Amusing Ourselves to Death - Neil Postman. Fahrenheit 451 - Ray Bradbury. Utopia of Rules - David Graeber. Sapiens - Harari.

    Work: Rework. Four hour work week. Deep Work. So Good They Can't Ignore You.

    Peterson and Rogan have been inspirations too.

    I'll add to this later if I remember others.

    [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    How to Win Friends and Influence People

    [–]papapinga 38 points39 points  (0 children)

    Red pill is simply a gateway to betterment and enlightenment for the human condition. Learning to love and understand the nature of our reality is the hardest for many, as this transcends red pill thinking.

    [–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (2 children)

    Thank yourself. You're the one who actually put in the work and made the efforts everyday to better yourself.

    RedPill didn't make you who you are; you did that.

    [–]Cynotex 13 points14 points  (1 child)

    TRP gave him the tools... All he had to do was use them.

    [–]redd_reality 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Trp is the truth. Once armed with the truth there will be a gap between where you know the winner is and where you currently are.

    How you navigate that gap to become the winner, to whichever degree honestly satisfies you, will determine your satisfaction with life.

    Op has gone far. He has integrated knowledge and action with honesty to the degree which allows him to love outwardly, because he finally loves inwardly. And all because he is an effective man in today's world.

    [–]Lordarshyn 42 points43 points  (4 children)

    I think I'm in "anger phase.". I started reading red pill a few weeks ago. And I was pissed. I still am pissed. Not at the content here. The content was an eye opener. I'm starting to see the world as it really is and I'm fucking pissed that I just spent 31 years buying in to blue pill bullshit. I'm probably half way through the side bar reading. I have a ways to go, but red pill has been a huge eye opener.

    Thanks for your post. This keeps me motivated.

    I found red pill because I was sick of being beaten down for being a straight male that enjoys manly shit. I needed an outlet. I needed an explanation. I needed to know the things I was feeling, that I'm always told are wrong, are actually okay ..and NORMAL.

    So big thanks from me too, to TRP.

    I've still got a lot of reading and a lot of progress to make. But now I feel free.

    [–]akatalyse 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    I was sick of being beaten down for being a straight male that enjoys manly shit

    From OP

    the red pill was always in my system, but had been subverted and suppressed by societal influences

    The Red Pill had another name before: Common Sense. Embrace your innate masculinity.

    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    You're not alone, I was 34 before I woke up. I always knew something felt "off" about society but I thought maybe I was just different, and I kept that attitude while being miserable and depressed throughout all my 20s. When I found TRP, everything I had felt all those years finally made sense.

    [–]jihocech 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Men have emotions. We do not show them much, but we have them. There is nothing wrong about the anger, the sadness or bitterness. Just go through it. And use the anger as fuel in the gym. It really helps.

    [–]auosie 11 points12 points  (1 child)

    One of the best things I’ve ever read to this day. I truly mean it. I dabble on red pill and mostly see it’s woman haters where do I find the real shit like this post. I would love to read more

    [–]grafae[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Thanks. The book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover is a good summary of a positive red pill mindset without any of the anger phase stuff.

    [–]Shredderick420 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    This was nice to read, love thoes success stories. Inspiring.

    [–]hiaram_hasnem 4 points5 points  (4 children)

    I love the self improvement part the most. This what I'm experiencing myself as well. Cutting out inane drivel such as social media, video games, and sticking to reading, coding, and investing is already bringing a change in me.

    [–]anubisbender 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Did you stop playing video games or cut down? Trying to stop myself.

    [–]grafae[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    Let me tell you about my videogame experience. I used them as an escape from reality and the emptiness of my life for many years. I would check every day to see if there were new games I could torrent and if there were no new single players I'd get on Battlefield or Team Fortress or something, or find some classic game from the archives to play. Got to the point where I wasn't even enjoying them that much anymore. This is when games are toxic, but that doesn't mean they should be demonized completely. Nowadays I'll have a quick game of PUBG with my bro once every few weeks, or I'll play a worthwhile single player game like Prey or Kingdom Come Deliverance. I now come away from gaming like I come away from a good movie like Three Billboards - richer for either the social or artistic experience, rather than empty and self-loathing. I was able to get to this point because I added substance, meaning and discipline to my life in other areas.

    [–]hiaram_hasnem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I completely cut it out. I'm a computer science major, so I can't afford to waste time on stuff like video games.

    [–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 4 points5 points  (3 children)

    I love TRP. I live my life by it. It has changed my life even though I am still somewhat BP, anxious, and awkward. I feel like you guys are my family even though no one knows me. But let's be honest here. There are some RP principles and mottos that paint a dark picture about women and the world.

    AWALT

    Treat them like children.

    All women are hypergamous and will leave you (or want to leave you) for a better man.

    Don't show women your weakness or they will resent you.

    Women have no honor.

    These are dark fucking things. I don't refute a single one but it's a fucking pill to swallow for sure. People aren't just cherry picking the bad stuff. A lot of the basic principles of RP paint a negative picture of women. You learn to love them by accepting that "it is what it is". But it seems delusional to be upset that the mainstream doesn't accept RP in it's current form. I love this shit but let's be realistic here.

    [–]grafae[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Yeah I hear what you're saying. It's almost like things like 'AWALT' need to be so forceful to snap people out of their BP stupor. Like maybe there's no other way to do it than to shake people's belief systems to the very core. All the things you listed are dark but the only thing that matters is that they have some essential grain of truth in them that you have to properly understand to extract lasting value from them. Something I think that's maybe not too appreciated here at TRP is how much of a dark reflection it is on men too. We could just easily say "don't forget, AMALT", or AH(humans)ALT, and it would be just as true. Perhaps you need to have a decent grasp of biology, zoology or evo psych or whatever to see why these RP tropes hold truth, and most people don't have that. Good comment.

    [–]SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I believe all the things I wrote are 100% true with 100% of women. I have a good amount of first hand experience and have seen it in most of the relationships around me. This has been one of the darkest realities of my life. Don't paint this out to be a nice path to becoming an independent man. You become a strong, independent man because you have to go through immense pain and suffering to become a man.

    [–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (13 children)

    Take a walk downtown. Go visit a mall. Drop by the nearest Walmart. What do you see? Slaves, nothing but slaves as far as the eye can see. Slaves to hypergamy. That's when the calmness sets in, knowing your are right, knowing that redpill is the truth. From there you can just sit back and be amused by it because the predictability of it all is quite hilarious and entertaining. Women? Just give 'em a wink knowing that you know what they know. Good times.

    [–]Cesare_MA 9 points10 points  (6 children)

    You can never rest though, never become comfortable in your perceived superiority over the average man. Everyday there are people in your competitive range, be it for school or lifting or whatever, that are elevating themselves just a little more.

    [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (5 children)

    Nope. I sense you are young. Amused mastery trumps it all. When you don't care what women think, but want to be attractive for yourself, to like yourself and like being around yourself, life becomes very easy and entertaining. When you can relax and laugh at it all, women know. Trust me, THEY KNOW!

    [–]Cesare_MA -2 points-1 points  (4 children)

    Idc what some bitch thinks. I want to be better than others to feed my own ego. It feels good to be better than people.

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      [–]Cesare_MA 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      It feels good being better than others doesn’t it?

      [–]monadyne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      You're still emotionally invested in others, i.e., what they're doing, what you're doing compared to what or how they're doing. As long as you Give A Fuck about others, you're in a state of codependency with aspects of them.

      What truly feels good is to love yourself, to feel completely content in your own skin, to meet your challenges --and your responsibilities-- head on, to be master of your own emotions so that what others think or say about you, or what they do, has not the slightest authority over you.

      [–]ThrowFader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Facts

      [–]innadi786 2 points3 points  (5 children)

      Who are the slaves, the people working there or the customers? Could you please explain how you arrived at the conclusion that either group are the victims of hypergamy?

      [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (4 children)

      A single man can survive on very little and really only needs a part time job. A few men rooming together cheaply means all of them can live below the income tax threshold.

      Slave: any man who pays taxes into the current system which is a direct or indirect transfer of wealth from men to women.

      And then many will say "but, but, but, you need money to get women". No friend, even that one is false. You need money to be enslaved by women. To have women attracted to you, you just need to follow 2 simple rules:

      1. Be attractive.
      2. Don't be unattractive.

      [–]daymi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I wouldn't live like that but it is possible - and a friend of mine did that and owns his own apartment in the capital city now because he only paid tiny rent all those years and kept saving and saving (taxes: 0). Now he won't ever have problems with money - and he had lots of free time to build a band that's touring internationally.

      AF/BB. If you want to be AF, be attractive. That's it.

      [–]stickythestick87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      The problem with sharing your space with other men is that you can't always predict how the domestic hierarchy will evolve, or what your place in it will be. Not sure that anyone can be truly free to live RP if they aren't top of their domestic hierarchy. Better to live alone than to be treated with daily contempt by partner, family or housemates. If you really want to live with a bunch of dudes, buy a house and let out the rooms individually to men of your choosing.

      [–]innadi786 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Okay, there are a few things worth pointing out here.

      1) Money is created when a) the government spends money (by giving infrastructure projects to contractors, trade deals with nations, healthcare, setting up and paying employees of public sector, etc) and/or b) banks give out loans (yup, the bank doesn't give you a little bit of the common pooled money, the banker just changes your bank balance if your credit score is deemed good enough, look up fractional reserve banking).

      So, in a way, taxes are a cash sink which in a way act as a counterbalance to wealth production from loans taken and money spent by government, to make sure a right balance exists between inflation and production.

      Thus, its not the same money the government gives as social welfare benefits to women (if that's what you implied) that the government gets from taxing people.

      2) There's asymmetry between how men and women chose partners. It is true, that to a large extent, men choose women by their looks, and are willing to marry a woman from a lower socioeconomic-economic class given their looks make her worth it, but the ball game is different for women.

      They let men compete in a hierarchy (outsource their choice to a system both parties are willingly a part of, I.e, society/culture) and the men who are more successful (of which money is an indictor of) have higher SMV. They, essentially, peel off the top, not just based on looks, but financial standing, family (women marry up or across their social-economic class, very rarely below), conscientious, etc., not just looks.

      That is why, saying that women only choose good looking men is a tad bit too reductionist. Of course, you can bring in the BP cuckold trope, but that scenario isn't universal, and only validates the hierarchy model to the extent that you're willing to admit women choose for more financially capable men intuitively.

      [–]RPmatrix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Okay, there are a few things worth pointing out here.

      yes there are

      bro, you are extremely naive to think "the Govt makes money by" ANY means except taxes .. and even then . . .

      the US Federal Reserve loans the US Govt money! Which the US govt pays interest on! Why? Becoz 'The Fed' aint the US Govt, it's a private bank.

      The Forex "system" is highly sophisticated stupidity that's unlikely to survive another decade ... shit China just began a "gold backed oil futures" which the US is not happy about ... really unhappy, like a 15yo girl UNhappy!

      TRP members should stick to discussing women, not financial speculation

      [–]Andgelyo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Refreshing post, I especially resonate with the “we don’t hate women part”, great post.

      [–]strikethrough123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Yes sir. TRP is the best thing that has happened to me. It feels amazing to finally strip yourself of your conditioning and catapult yourself to an amazing life full of good friends and good women. I found TRP at a time when I was confused. Confused to about everything, about who to be and how to act. When I was shamed as a child and as an adolescent for acting masculine and aggressive, I got lost in all the masks I tried to create for myself to the point where I lost touch with who I was. I then found TRP and everything started falling into place. I stopped ignoring my instincts, stopped overthinking, started lifting, and started gaming women. One year ago I was a completely different person than I am today, the difference is night and day.

      [–]ratthing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Solid post. Thanks for sharing. The part that is most important to me is the "blissful calmness" you describe. It lets you see the pain and misery that most of the blue pilled world lives with, most of it self-inflicted.

      [–]xOmegaGruntx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I’m glad that you have found peace! Your post motivates me to continue this journey to become a man that I’m proud of!

      [–]c_w_o_o_l_l_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I've never understood how people can think trp is just a women-hating club. To me, it's about understanding what women really want, and finding a way to give it to them. Apparently, women just want men to remain unattractive and unappealing. It blows my mind.

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      [–]nowboarding 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      How did you work on repairing relationships with your family?

      [–]grafae[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      I came to understand what my parents had given up at a young age to raise me the best they possibly could, and now treat them with nothing but respect. I also opened up to my two younger sisters who had previously been a source of great anger in my life, and told them I wanted to make amends and have a positive relationship with them. It worked.

      [–]adam_varg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Think of it as butterfly effect. When you get your head and life straighten up it will have indirect positive effect on those close to you. Slowly and not radically but it will make a change in time.

      [–]QuiteRandomDUDE 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Glad to hear this, I find your text resonating with me.

      IF you see this, how well did you go over the first 3-4 months after you decided to cange? I know that the biggining is hard

      [–]grafae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      The hardest thing at the start is accepting that life is better when you practice discipline and reluctantly putting the structures in place to follow through on that realization. Change is slow, but it compounds - The Slight Edge is very real.

      [–]the_mountains1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Thank you or writing this. I was stuck in the anger phase for ten plus years....ten years! I never had an epiphany moment. It was constant struggle until I became brutally honest with myself and my interactions. That's when I started to feel peace. The red pill has been part of that for me. As well as you, my relationship with my girlfriend has improved to where I never thought it could be.

      Empathy is a great word, because I see it everywhere and try to practice it. It's a state of mind that is humbling and I feel grateful for it.

      [–]02537-41101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This is beautifully written.

      I'm happy for you, fellow stranger.

      [–]Gozsayin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Plz take this upvote. I pretty much have the same story word for word as the Op. I'm currently still in transition but one of the biggest gains I have from the redpill is that it has resparked my interest in reading that has always gone up and down over the years. However before I was only a leasure reader

      [–]neverquitman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      GOOD. Trp is self improvement!

      [–]Ether_Freeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Always great to see someone be enriched by his experiences and lessons learned both here and elsewhere.

      And a great reminder of the work to be done.

      Thank you and all the best.

      [–]youlovethisish 3 points4 points  (14 children)

      For me it's been cyclical. I've gone from feeling on top of the world with TRP to feeling like absolute worthless shit. Furthermore, physical limitations are starting to set in and I can't lift super heavy like I used to, and am starting to lose hair due to skin conditions. I'm literally roadblocked to be physically attractive - and that means so much in this shallow world. Not sure what to do, wondering whether life's even worth it if you can't be amazing.

      [–]Lordarshyn 5 points6 points  (7 children)

      You sound kind of like phase 4, depression, where people sometimes become MGTOW.

      [–]youlovethisish -1 points0 points  (6 children)

      Honestly it doesn't seem like a bad option now. I've only ever consistently been the object of attraction from women in the vein that they want see me as good "commitment material." It's the transactional attraction that comes with not being the alpha they want to fuck simply for the sake of fucking.

      It's heartbreaking to watch all your naturally RP friends (who are over 6' and genetically lucky in the way of physical attractiveness and resilience when training) easily fuck and not be presented with these stipulations when you need to jump through rings of fire simply to get a lay - especially when I'm MUCH more aware of red pill philosophy than them.

      The only thing it's proven to me is that when you're short and genetically unlucky, you're essentially worthless to the world.

      [–]will_del 2 points3 points  (5 children)

      The only thing it's proven to me is that when you're short and genetically unlucky, you're essentially worthless to the world.

      Only if you are not good at making money too.

      [–]motzart73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I've seen short confident red pill blokes do very well in life. I myself are still learning the confidence and not giving a Fuck bit.

      [–]youlovethisish -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

      But if you make money, and are still short and genetically unlucky, people will only want to be around you because of said money. Women will poke holes in condoms when you fuck them bc they want a cut of the pie - not because you're the alpha they want to fuck.

      [–]monadyne 4 points5 points  (2 children)

      There's a key element missing in you, friend. The IDGAF mindset. You obviously do give a fuck: you're depending upon the reaction of others to how you present yourself in the world. As long as you do that, they'll see what you see, i.e., your perceived shortcomings. The point about having money is not because you have money to spend on impressing others, it's to show you have enough masculine power to wrest money out of the world's clutch. In other words, you have the power to become successful... think of all the broke-ass poets and dreamers that don't have that power.

      As long as you Give A Fuck how a chick reacts to you, she'll have power over you. When you don't Give A Fuck, you have the power. Currently, you have this sad-sack, "Everybody's better than me! I can't compete!" attitude. What woman would be attracted to that? Who'd want to be around that?

      Chicks look to beta bux guys for stability and support. They look to alpha guys for excitement and fun. If you're not endowed in a way that women will respond to because of your physical appearance, dazzle them with your adventurous sense of fun. "Hey, I'm gonna drive down to the beach for a midnight swim! Let's go!" If she says, "No, I don't think so," you look at her like "what kind of pathetic loser bitch wouldn't want to go with me for a midnight swim?" Laugh, shaking your head. Then leave. When she sees you back at the bar an hour later and your hair's wet, she'll realize that you're the kind of man that does whatever he wants without out regard to anybody else's reality. She'll realize you didn't give a fuck whether she went with you or not, you were all about having fun yourself.

      The true secret of IDGAF is to NOT give a fuck. You're here on this planet to enjoy yourself, to have fun and do interesting things. If somebody wants to come along for the ride, cool, whatever. From a mind-game level, when chicks think you don't care if they respond or not, that's what they respond to! It suggests that you have massive self-confidence, and that's a turn-on to them.

      There are some Pick Up Artist videos on YouTube that show IDGAF being employed almost to an absurd degree. He says ridiculous, goof-ball stuff to hot chicks in clubs and bars-- super immature joking around stuff. The only one I remember off-hand is when he's stealing some woman away from a handsome guy... who was actually the owner of the club they were in. The chick shit tests him with some dig at the PUA's masculinity, and he replies with, "Actually, I have a tiny dick. Like a little pinky down there." But he says it with this amazing IDGAF smile, laughing, with cocky self-confidence.

      The club owner had been bragging about himself, how he owns this club, how he has a penthouse above it and has some champagne there... but the PUA guy represented Wild Goofy Fun. And he left with the woman. Average height. No six pack. Not great looking. Not projecting "success" through nice clothes and grooming. Just being a Fun Guy.

      And even though he's great at snagging hot chicks... he's still a loser in a way, because he is a Pick Up Artist. He's all about women! At some vital level, he gives a fuck whether he hooks up with women or not.

      Fuck that! Be all about yourself.

      [–]yazen_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      This. I'll save it and print it. Thanks anon.

      [–]monadyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Make sure you add something I left out: in the list of reasons why we're here on this planet, in addition to having fun and doing interesting things should also be: discover your authentic self and become a man.

      [–][deleted]  (2 children)

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        [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        Is the movie (Count of Monte Cristo), same as the book?

        If not, what did you gather from it?

        [–]Deano101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Are you getting enough Vitamin D? I supplement with 3000 IUs daily. It's vital in order for other vitamins to work

        [–]viral_left_stroke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I know "advice" is overrated but you might try keto...helps with immune system and hormone regularization. Gl tho dude I know skin conditions suck

        [–]MelodyMyst -1 points0 points  (0 children)

        Physically attractive? Please define...

        Danny divito. And others.

        Who is defining this “physically attractive” thing...

        [–]renzoken99 0 points1 point  (1 child)

        Been on my journey for a while but curious, where did you start and specifically what did you implement? I ask cause I'm kind of bouncing around.

        [–]grafae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I think most of the detail is in the opening post. Lifting weights, running, sports, reading good books, focusing on improving my work skills, spending money only on good food, rent, and the other essentials while saving and investing the rest. It's not a smooth ascent, peaks and troughs are part of it. The main thing is figuring out the mindset and sticking to it.

        [–]soyDonEladio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        It saddens me deeply to compare myself with you while it seems I can't reach this stage after so long.

        [–]ninoamatore -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

        We need more posts like that from women, I believe. It's not only men who change their lives after reading all this...