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TL;DR Man finds pictures of his fiancee performing sex acts on her old boyfriend. He's hurt she's never tried those acts with him. Her reasoning? She had no 'self-esteem' back then.
The poor beta fiancee was subjected to pictures of his girlfriend:
Roleplaying, bondage, anal. He was kind of kinky and he really really loved taking pictures of us naked. You name it, the photos were there. There were pictures of us having sex, there were nude pictures.
Of course the guy is blindsided:
I obviously knew he was upset. We talked on the phone today during our lunch breaks and he essentially told me he feels like I don't love him because a) I kept them and b) I was doing things I don't do with him in them.
She kept them because they were reminders of her old flame. Who keeps pictures like that?
A lot of the stuff I did in college was because I wanted my ex to love me and I was desperate for affection and I thought being in a relationship meant doing everything the other person wanted. That meant doing stuff I actually didn't like. I'm not that person anymore and I don't think the same way about sex anymore.
It's like she's a redpill strawoman. She did those things for Chad because she was afraid of losing him but she never has to worry about Beta dumping her so why would she ever put any effort into their sex life?
Her hamstering is hilarious:
I do believe in doing stuff for the people you love but I don't do sex stuff anymore that actively turns me off or that I don't enjoy. I'd totally dress up for him now that I now he'd want me to but I've always hated anal and I never want to do it ever again. I hate deepthroating. But now that he's seen photos of me doing that to another person he's taken that to mean that I just don't love him enough to do those things.
But I'm sure she expects her bf to go down on her every time they have sex.
Is it okay for me to not want to do these things with my partner? I feel shitty but I'm a little mad at the mentality that just because I did something with one person I have to do them with another. I just don't know what to tell him.
He's supposed to be home tomorrow night and he says he wants to discuss "where this relationship is going" which is anxiety-inducing.
This comment from /u/archwinger summarizes what this woman's fiancee is probably feeling:
The biggest, angriest lie that keeps "beta" men in check is the belief that women need to feel some kind of emotional connection with a guy before they'll be willing to have sex.
When a loser man learns that his wife/girlfriend was a super-slut, who can't even name or remember over half the people she fucked or messed around with, it hits him like a truck. All of that crap about how a woman needs to feel safe, comfortable, special, loved, and emotionally intimate is bullshit. She fucked all kinds of guys she barely knew, just for fun.
Then it dawns on him even more: all of the times she rejected his sexual advances because she didn't feel special, comfortable, loved, emotionally intimate -- that was all bullshit excuses to cover the fact that she just plain didn't want sex with him at all. If she wants sex, she doesn't need any of that - she just fucks for fun. But she's not into him, so she uses those excuses - those lies he's believed his entire life - to hide her lack of attraction to him.
Then, he feels used, exploited, tricked.