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Red Pill ExampleMy Omega to AF TRP year. (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by vorverk

TL;DR: title.

After more than a year of TRP I thought it's time to give something back, so I thought you guys want to hear a success story. I know I needed those in my worst times and they helped me move forward.

Background:

I'm probably much older than most of you guys. Born 1980. Raised by quiet, non-confrontational dad and manipulative, choleric mother. I love them both, but the dynamic they have is a recipe for a disaster. My mother has no respect for my dad and he was no leadership role model for me. So there I am in 2013, 33 years old, still living with my parents, no girlfriend since college, sinking my sadness in alcohol or staying in bed, thinking I can sleep away my life and problems. I had some luck back in high school and college with girls. Some random lucky AF moments, but beta programming was just too strong to figure it out fully. Slowly the communication with girls just faded away. I was not even in a friendzone. I did not exist in any girl's life. At 24 (2005) I found a job that I stayed in because of the job. Not career, just to get a shitty salary so I can buy stuff. Like a big car, so I can drive my friends around while they laugh at me and have their fun. Or buy them drinks, so I feel social for an evening. Nearly 10 years pass like that. I lost all muscle and gained huge amounts of fat. I became ugly.

End of 2013 > The girl:

At the end of 2013 I stumbled upon a HB9 (she's super hot and equally crazy) that I knew through a friend. I probably met her back when I had some AF personality... We had a quick chat and agreed to go hiking one day. Classic story: instant oneitis and I put my best Beta Bucks guard on. Oh what a coincidence. It's exactly what she needed (30 y.o. being fucked by alphas for a decade, she's now in need of emotional connection).

I'm a great conversationalist and give all my free time to listen to her problems while fixing her stuff and changing car tires and taking her to trips and what not. Available over chat at any time (during work and sleep!!!). All this while I'm allowed to give her a massage from time to time if she feels like it.

In my mind, this is ideal love and I should be happy to be in her company and if I can get us an apartment soon, we will live happy life after that. Sex is not important while we build our future. Although everything seemed perfect, something just didn't feel right. As I said, I did have some AF qualities back in my life (girls cheated their boyfriends with me) Back in my head I knew she was just too relaxed and I was putting too much effort in the relationship. I did know PUA, so I made up some imaginary girls in my life and tried to be cocky and funny from time to time.

beginning of 2014 > Found TRP:

Reddit was a big time waster before I found the girl. So now that I'm in a relationship, I browse through /relationships /2xchromosomes /deadbedrooms etc. I stumble upon TRP somewhere and take a look at it. Denial phase lasted a week or two, broken by a pretty nice event, which I still can't believe happened: She was shit testing me the whole time, how she's going to find some other guy. To be honest, she could go find another guy anytime she wanted, so it was not really a test, just her way of making sure I'm in the right place > BB zone. So she does it again, and I just reply: "Go ahead, go find another guy". She thinks I'm kidding, but I hold frame. I say to her that either we're having sex, or she can go get another orbiter. She couldn't believe it and kept testing with tears, anger, disbelief etc. But I hold my frame and tell her that she can come over and we'll have sex or she can go elsewhere. I could not believe my eyes. The second I put my penis in her vagina, the denial was over and a big smirk on my face: "Holy fucking shit, this shit is for real?!". Months of being her slave got me to 2nd base once, now here I am, fucking her by being an asshole. Vanilla sex, she never came, but it was a fuck.

Anger phase

Anger phase is not a joke. I could easily believe most people just stay in anger phase their whole life, because it's not something you can come out of easily. I was now 34, no money saved, shitty job, with acute oneitis on an alpha widow cheating girlfriend, living with my parents, fat and ugly. I realized I'm a loser. An omega with no future. Suicide was on my mind. In the words of Morpheus: "I feel I owe you an apology. We have a rule...we never free a mind once it reaches a certain age. It's dangerous, and the mind has trouble letting go." I was too deep in shit for my mind to swallow all the stuff. I will never be an alpha. I could hardly be a beta. No girl would want to commit to such a loser. Current girl was already cheating with alphas. She was probably just waiting for a better BB branch to swing on. We broke up soon after. I caught her cheating and after asking in ASKTRP, I cut all contact. She kinda felt relieved, while I was in worst agony of my life. My anger turned into depression. I couldn't keep up with the work at my job. I got fired. I wanted to die.

THANK TRP

This is where you guys come in. The success stories that I read here kept me from going deeper in depression or alcohol. At first I couldn't do much more than lift, but it's what helped me turn the downward curve back up. Full monk mode for a couple of months. I read TRP (recommended books, bodybuilding, diet etc), listen to podcasts and RSD Tyler, cut all alcohol, lift and watch diet. Months go by. I started seeing results in my appearance. I keep lifting and reading TRP and slowly tried to socialize. Lucky I still did have some true friends. I worked on my resume and references and started applying for jobs. No results at first. After a while I do get invited to couple of interviews. Then I hit the jackpot - one of the best employers around needs a guy that fits my description. I am ready for this. Slowly getting out of monk mode. Look my best, dress my best, couple of employees lined up (sort of abundance mentality at job interviews is a big plus), which gave me great negotiation leverage. I get the job and negotiated double salary I had in previous job. Lucky coincidence, but without that girl I would still be in that shitty job, without TRP I could not get this job and would be fat and ugly drunk.

SEX LIFE

Now I know there is no official TRP stand on hookers, but they sure helped me after the end of the monk mode. After I got the job and got out of monk mode, my sex life was still empty. Remember, I was full omega, no females in my life. After couple of awkward sessions with hookers I learned how to handle women, how to touch them, how it feels to have sex (even though it's "fake"), but most of all, I internalized how cheap the pussy is. I learned that jumping through hoops and being someone's slave to get that piece of meat for 20 minutes of pleasure is just not worth it. Sex is not THAT great. It's fun and all, but not worth the trouble. Oh, and AWALT goes for hookers as well. I could feel whores acting different while I improved my body and confidence. Business is business, they got their money, but the visits turned from awkward hand-jobs to fun meetings, laughs, conversations, and good sex that we both enjoyed. I got my confidence that I can have good sex. Sounds like a sad story for someone, but it really helped me understand female and their sexuality. At the end, I could see their hamster spin with questions about what's my zodiac sign - I must be a leo or taurus. And how good my body looks. It helped give me confidence that I needed.

NOW

After more months of bodybuilding, upgrading wardrobe, posture, reading books, securing my place in the company (48 laws of power FTW!), where I can actually build career, I'm in best shape of my life, have a fantastic job in the best company on this part of country with double salary then in previous job, I'm renewing my apartment and have 2 plates (Hookers are history. They helped me build my confidence, but are too expensive for a casual fuck). I'm building a social circle of 15-20 guy friends that are all successful. I make social events happen, so us guys can hang out together. They love it, they listen to my stories and we laugh at each other's stories (not at me). Their girlfriends/wives are jealous of me, since the guys love spending time with me. None of them are full RP, but they are not average blue pillers.

I ran in to my ex and I saw it in her eyes she couldn't believe what I have become. I'm pretty sure I gave her some tingles. She told me we need to talk. I said sure, we will some day. Then left. I would fuck her though. She's hot as fuck. But fuck this cunt, I've got a life now.

I can make tingles now. I can see that in girls now. What a powerful feeling when you know you're giving tingles to a girl, just by standing near her. She swallows every word you say and you can see through that bambi eyes that she could swallow much more.

FUTURE >

I'm happiest I've ever been in my life, but I know that is not the end. Staying on the top is constant work. It get's easier and byproducts are amazing, but you can never let go. It's tempting to think about a day I can just let go, relax and get lazy. But I never want to be that low again, so I know I have to keep pushing forward. Bodybuilding through the whole winter, I can't wait what the summer will bring after I cut down to a one digit body fat. WRAP UP> If I could give one advice to me one year ago - when I was at my lowest - is: keep going. You will get there eventually. The way up is hard and bouncy. It looks unreachable. It's like going against the current. Once you're at the bottom you don't see any way out. The point is that you just have to keep moving and changes will happen. Slowly. You think you're making progress and then fall back. And you will meet enemies. People resent you and shame you for not being you anymore. Getting out of depression or anger phase is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But I did it. And so can you.

The best part of everything is not the girls or the money or the friends or the apartment or the new car or fit body. The best part of it is that once you have all that, you can finally enjoy LIFE. I don't care if it's hard day at work, a lonely rainy day or a bungee jumping day. I'm enjoying all of it. I don't drink to get drunk, but have a beer with my friend. I make plans for future. I feel competent in driving my own life and happiness. Girls? I'm not planning on going MTGOW, but I don't need them for my happiness. It's funny, they want to stick around anyway.


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[–]Merwebb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could say that its about learning the true value of things

[–][deleted] 458 points459 points  (29 children)

The Red Pill: The only place on Earth where men can show up, describe their problems, and see genuine advice and help without judgment that leads them to better lives---and we're considered Nazis.

Way to go man. Makes me happy to hear shit's working out for you. After all your hard work, you deserve it.

[–]BeeGinger 104 points105 points  (5 children)

This is the biggest part that blows my mind. I think sometimes TRP doesn't place enough blame on the MEN of our society as well, and I used to be apart of those men. The men who judged the assholes, and was convinced that guys needed to be nicer to women.

[–][deleted] 91 points92 points  (3 children)

I blame men plenty. Feminism's a shit test and it's the fault of a bunch of beta fuck heads that we, as a gender, failed it.

[–]foldpak111 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Ironically enough, it's made them miserable.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Women are genetically predisposed to follow trends and social norms, so they want every other woman to be miserable like them. "Misery loves company."

Things will keep spiraling out of control for gender relations until men straighten them back out again and tell the feminist pushers and white knights to fuck off.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think things are coming around. Feminism might push a little harder but it will only alienate more.

[–]ZackCross 67 points68 points  (15 children)

Anyone that doesn't support the redpill is either too stupid to understand why it all makes sense, hasn't read much into it, or is a woman.
Edit: Thanks for the gold, I'll pass it on just as Redpill theory should be passed on.

[–]Ouchiess 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Yeah the issue is the massive stigma associated with TRP. Half the defaults will often see top posts with TRP portrayed in a negative light. Its why I was skeptical to ever visit here until I finally did.

Now I realize its a bunch of white knights unable to comprehend how the world really is; a shark tank, and the fastest way to swim out is to come here.

[–]thrice_as_nice 8 points9 points  (1 child)

One has to make a choice at some point, IMO. Or, at least, one has to understand that in order to live any kind of happy and fulfilling social life, realism/pragmatism must take precedence over idealism, almost all the time.

That's what TRP is to me, at least when it comes to relationships with other people.

“How we live is so different from how we ought to live that he who studies what ought to be done rather than what is done will learn the way to his downfall rather than to his preservation.”

-Machiavelli

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Or will swallow in a year.

[–]Falkrik 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well when I first learned of TRP it was always on other places of reddit where they called us all assholes and misogynists. I saw a few extremes/bad apples and figured it was all like that so I brushed this sub off. Then I started seeing TRP pop up more often... and actually came here and read stuff on my own. Very glad I did.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus 16 points17 points  (9 children)

/r/RedPillWomen would disagree with that statement.

[–]6of1halfdozenofother 7 points8 points  (8 children)

Check your logic: parent comment did not imply all women hate red pill. It implied that people who still hate the pill after understanding it are women. Very different idea.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus -3 points-2 points  (7 children)

Then why the distinction between those who cannot understand it and women?

too stupid to understand why it all makes sense , hasn't read much into it , or is a woman.

The 'or' and commas (here made bold for extra understanding) imply exclusivity. Or did they not teach you proper grammar growing up?

It's your logic that needs to be checked son.

[–]hatertauts 5 points6 points  (6 children)

interestingly enough in formal logic, particularly mathematical logic, the word or does not imply mutual exclusivity

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus -3 points-2 points  (5 children)

Which is why I asked about grammar.

[–]makethemwant 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I'm sorry, you're not very good at this logic thing. Do you happen to be female?

[–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus -1 points0 points  (3 children)

Haha yea. As female as they come.

[–]makethemwant 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Sorry dude. Didn't mean to attack you at the testicular flame-war level. Just wanting to recommend you triple check your logic.

[–]bluedrygrass 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Not the only place, but one of the few.

[–]bama79rolltide 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bow to your Reddit name. Well done, sir.

[–]PeteMullersKeyboard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Success is the enemy now, if you're not average, you're evil.

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    [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Mmmm, dat female validation that I crave so much.

    No wait, fuck off. Nobody's looking for your opinion or your half validation. You almost certainly haven't taken the time to get to know TRP so your opinion's completely worthless. Even if you did, still worthless since I know about this place well enough to form my own opinion. Btw, your comment doesn't contribute or add any value to this sub. All you're doing is whoring out your vagina for karma. That shit ain't gonna fly here.

    [–][deleted] 118 points119 points  (5 children)

    dont you ever puss out or i'm coming after you

    [–]1jb_trp 49 points50 points  (3 children)

    We'll all beat him with pillowcases full of bars of soap.

    [–]PeteMullersKeyboard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    YOU NEED MEN LIKE ME...

    Wait wrong sub

    [–]soccerplusaviation 22 points23 points  (0 children)

    Reddit TRP intervention... not a bad idea.

    [–][deleted]  (3 children)

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    [–]-CONTRABAND- 13 points14 points  (1 child)

    You write like a clickbait article.

    [–]prodigyx 173 points174 points  (7 children)

    I caught her cheating and after asking in ASKTRP, I cut all contact

    If you had asked that in the other subs (2x, realtionships, deadbeadrooms) you would still be with this girl getting cucked. It actually feels pretty good to know that those of us that take the time to reply to people in askTRP can actually make a difference in people's lives.

    Great work on using hookers correctly also.

    Again, thanks for sharing. Anyone can turn their life around if they have the willpower to Just Keep Going.

    [–]vorverk[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

    Exactly. Looking back that advice was really perfect at the perfect time. I was so emotionally invested and fucked up that I would have done anything to stay with her, intuitively. So a big thank you to all ASKTRP-ers from me.

    Funny thing though. She's really hot. In that social circle I'm now her ex who left her. That means all other girls in that social circle wonder what I've got to not stay with such a hot girl. Win win situation after all. :)

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      [–]prodigyx 18 points19 points  (4 children)

      realationships has gotten a lot better in the past year or so. 2x is still very harmful and deadbedrooms is all over the place

      [–]1rlh1271 21 points22 points  (0 children)

      That's because there are TRP spys among their ranks ;) Hi r/relationships!

      [–]srtor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

      Relationships got mod issue. (loser mods). 2X mostly retards. Deadbedrooms depressing.

      [–]AlphasEatBetas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Yeah I mean seeing as 2x is all about the female struggle it doesn't seem like the place a man should go looking for advice. That said you're spot on, /r/relationships has gotten WAY better. Luckily I've never had the need to check out deadbedrooms ;)

      [–]NeoreactionSafe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

      "The best part of everything is not the girls or the money or the friends or the apartment or the new car or fit body. The best part of it is that once you have all that, you can finally enjoy LIFE."


      That's the deeper message of Red Pill to reconnect to your true inner nature and be able to fully enjoy life.

      White Knights, Betas, Omegas, even to a degree MGTOWs aren't fully realizing their biological nature in life.

      "Most people live lives of quiet desperation."

      ...is very true.

      We never fully realize "it" but our goal is to get as close to natures Truth as we can get.

      It's similiar to the Neoreaction saying:

      "There are no enemies to the right."

      ...which means as one approaches Truth (right) we always fall short. But everything that brings us closer is a good thing.

      Sounds like your (OP) journey is just beginning...

      [–]Doctorpepperpants 50 points51 points  (2 children)

      Hey man, I need to thank you for this post, it is a huge asset to r/trp in my opinion, and is the type of thing that keeps me disciplined and moving forward in life. I'm at the beginning phase of where you were a year ago, and shit, it sounds corny as hell but I actually got goosebumps half way through your post because of some of the similarities I saw. Keep on moving forward brother! Also, RSD Tyler is the man I just discovered the RSD community.

      [–]Bearhardy 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Same here I'm younger but in a similar place that OP was and this helps me to keep going, sometimes I lose sight but trp always puts me back on track

      [–]Doctorpepperpants 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Keep on progressing man and make sure you keep doing it for yourself!

      [–]jorgander 24 points25 points  (1 child)

      Great post. One particular idea that struck me:

      I read TRP (recommended books, bodybuilding, diet etc), listen to podcasts and RSD Tyler, cut all alcohol, lift and watch diet. Months go by. I started seeing results in my appearance.

      .

      I worked on my resume and references and started applying for jobs. No results at first.

      This is what stops a lot of people from getting there. They try a little bit, but it hurts their flabby soft body to lift and run. Or it's painful to get rejected by employers and women. They don't understand that results won't happen immediately, you must persevere.

      I am in this phase now. I look decent, but not great, because I go to the gym just enough to not get fat. I have a decent job, but it's not great and is not really what I want to do. I want to do all that and become all that, but it's not easy to be committed to it every moment of every day.

      [–]thrice_as_nice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Outcome independence works as an overall mindset, not just with women. Though it's very difficult to internalize.

      It's cliche, but it really is about the process IMO. You'll be thankful later that nobody gave you what you wanted at the very beginning; instead you worked your ass off, earned it, and took it.

      [–]press_to_restart 19 points20 points  (6 children)

      Dude, your post is such an inspiration to me. I'm 34 too, got into the sub last year, gathered knowledge and all but my story has a couple of twists: 1) I live in a part of Europe where it's hard to get your foot in a job and 2) I had no other girlfriend since 2005 and that was with a slut that was hiding some shit from me and was attempting to get pregnant from me in order to stick around (clutch chance, I got mad with her for a completely different reason and we broke up, yet all my buddies went batshit insane because "she's such a catch for me".

      I just wanted you to know that your post really helped. I only wish I could do something with that shit ass dead end jobless situation that I'm into. I'm trying to learn programming (it's the one thing I like) but I have my doubts that I won't end up getting a job because of my age and lack of degree. At least I started working out at home 2 months ago, reading books I torrent (sorry but if it weren't for my parents right now I'd be homeless) and taking care of my nutrition, which resulted in more confident tonality and overall behavior with other people.

      And of course a big thank you to everyone on this sub for the content!

      [–]ToshiroOzuwara 12 points13 points  (3 children)

      If you can program, you don't need a degree. Learn to hustle and social network with people who do program. You can do it.

      [–]vorverk[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

      I'm in east/central EU working in IT. Job is not easy to find. Like ToshiroOzuwara said: Socialize in start up and IT events, learn, also learn social skills (you're not born with them, you learn them like anything else) and build social circles in areas you want to get a job in. Just keep improving.

      [–]press_to_restart 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      Much appreciated response and thanks to both of you guys. I sure working on getting networked.

      Good luck with everything you do!

      [–]niggertron9000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Start a blog, find interesting things to post about. Hell, some chick did a new website a day for a year and that got enough traction on HN that it landed her a job in SF.

      [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      all my buddies went batshit insane because "she's such a catch for me"

      Holy fuck. Some buddies you had.

      Hang in there. Things will get better eventually after your country defaults on its debts and leaves euro.

      [–]nesshie91 14 points15 points  (0 children)

      Very inspirational. Stay awesome .

      [–]itsmehobnob 11 points12 points  (3 children)

      I'm probably much older than most of you guys. Born 1980.

      Shit. I was born in '80. Am I old?

      [–]diskiller 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      Shit, I was born in '80 too. When did I get so old? :(

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      '78 here, just checking in to keep you whippersnappers in line!

      [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

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      What is this?

      [–]_whistler 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      This hit me right in the feels, brother. Congratulations on the new life you've built. Never stop moving forward.

      [–]Nazrath2112 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Thanks for taking the time to right all that out. Can confirm that you can still go TRP later in life. As a 40 year old man who did this recently, dont ever be happy with BP mentality. However if ever you find yourself in BP behavior, dont get to down, just assess where you are at and make gains.

      [–]Youbetripping 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      This was genuinely inspirational. I love how this community helps each other out and makes a genuine difference. Almost always non-judgemental advice. I've been in the anger phase for months, reading this keeps me optimistic.

      [–]puthrowitdown 6 points7 points  (7 children)

      Thank you bro. I'm 31 going on 32 in just a few short months and I just found this sub. I've been eating up the sidebar like candy and just started trying to lift and work out more. I felt that I was surrounded by younger dudes that might not get me. I have some other issues, mainly a long standing battle with arthritis that inhibits my ability to lift a bit but your post gave me hope.

      [–]denmaur 4 points5 points  (6 children)

      Well guys, I'm much older than both of you. I continue to lift through sore shoulders and knees, continue to learn from TRP which I discovered about three months ago, and started reading The Rational Male and along with several others. Things are looking up.

      [–]puthrowitdown 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Its an amazing thing this RP. I wish I could have figured it out in my 20s.

      [–]Ditario 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      In my 20s. Wish I knew about it in my highschool / college years. I was always that awesome guy in the group/team/frat but always was beta with women.

      Just turned 26 and have feelings like I missed out. I hate that feeling but it drives me to work even harder.

      This post really was awesome to read.

      [–]Endorsed ContributorRS73 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      Turmeric (curcumin) supplements are a huge help with muscle, skeletal, and body aches. I don't know if it would work for actual arthritis like puthrowitdown has but for anyone with muscle and body aches it's a godsend.

      Many supplements are just bullshit or even harmful but turmeric/curcumin is fantastic. It's one of the few supplements I've ever taken that made a clear, noticeable difference for the better. It's even a bit of a mood lifter.

      [–]NaughtyFred 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      To clarify (as some spices have different names in parts of the world) are you referring to cumin?

      If so I've recently been eating a lot of that in my diet and I don't get anywhere near the level of post workout muscle soreness I used to. I never thought the 2 might be related

      [–]Endorsed ContributorRS73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      No, I'm referring to this stuff: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turmeric

      http://authoritynutrition.com/top-10-evidence-based-health-benefits-of-turmeric/

      I don't know much about cumin. Maybe that helps too. I can say that turmeric has helped me quite a bit though.

      [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (2 children)

      well done now don't get complacent.

      I was lucky enough to find TRP at 17, I'm almost 19 now and I'm very happy with the changes I've seen. I'm optimistic about my 20s and 30s if I keep working out and doing everything I can do to improve my employment prospects and social life. My sex life has become a side story ever since finding TRP I am no longer desperate for sex ( i have a plate) and have had a few ONSs. Thanks TRP.

      [–]denmaur 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      You've got the world by the balls. Don't let go.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      They say youth is wasted on the young...

      Not any more.

      [–]TRP VanguardCyralea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      The crux is that you didn't feel beholden to an objective standard that couldn't be met. Too many guys give up along the road to improvement because they'll never fuck as many girls as Dan Bilzerian.

      You only cared about the world in which you could control, and in doing so you made the best out of your life. That's the essence of TRP in a nutshell right there.

      Good stuff.

      [–]coffee_and_lumber 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      You are killing it man. Keep up the excellent work.

      [–]gzmaster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      Many congratulations to you, my friend.

      [–]1CowardlyPetrov 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Awesome post. Very inspirational for someone at a much earlier stage of the journey.

      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Thanks for posting man really spoke to me

      [–]Betterthanuatlife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Man, this was inspirational. God bless you and good luck with your future.

      [–]bnine_ 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Great post!

      Which podcast do you recommend?

      [–]musclebound92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Joe Rogan, he's the fucking man.

      [–]the_red_scimitar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Abso-fucking-lutely beautiful.

      [–]chuckthundercock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      All great stuff. Very effective use of hookers as well. Hookers are great for keeping your head in the game while in monk mode, or in the event you start putting pussy on a pedistal or case of oneitus. A good open post coital conversation with a high end escort who is going off later to fuck her unbeknownst boyfriend is the ultimate cure to oneitus and a great reminder that AWALT. Yes, even my bride. Stay alpha brother, congratulations on the turnaround!

      [–]curiousthis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      I can make tingles now. I can see that in girls now. What a powerful feeling when you know you're giving tingles to a girl, just by standing near her.

      This. You don't even have to say one word, just stand there.

      The first time it happened my mind was blown - that was the way I used to behave when a hot girl stood next to me. Feels really good to have the tables turned.

      [–]HeinousFu_kery 6 points7 points  (0 children)

      The best part of it is that once you have all that, you can finally enjoy LIFE.

      This. Welcome back from the darkness. Your life becomes your own when you declare it to be your life, on your terms - not a public opinion poll.

      [–]dabrah1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I hope to be where you are now in a couple years my man.

      [–]srtor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Fantastic. Thanks for sharing. Keep up and carry on.

      [–]DexterousRichard 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Have a coffee, bud. Good job. /u/changetip

      [–]changetip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      The Bitcoin tip for a coffee (6,676 bits/$1.58) has been collected by vorverk.

      what is ChangeTip?

      [–]CaptainPoopsock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Wow, super inspirational stuff. Way to go, man.

      [–]bobbobbitybob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      This feels so good to read, keep it up! Being consistent with the actions is very, very important. Easy example - gym and diet. Nothing will change in one week, but after one month You will see results!

      [–]bama79rolltide 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Man, I can relate to some of this. Great job, stay strong, pound pussy!

      [–]TheYellowPill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      You sexy mother fucker. I almost skipped gym day...almost. Thanks. The journey is better with peers.

      [–]the99percent1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I'll always remember that first year when it all starts to fall into place..

      My story was similar to yours. I was depressed. No direction in life with a dead end job. Renting space with losers and degenerates. Fattest point in my life. No girls. I felt like an embarrassment.

      Straight after I finished my degree, I decided to quit my job, move interstate and start afresh. The rest as they say, is history.

      [–]almostaristotle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      excellent post.

      We can have a success stories tab where all these go. Such stories motivate me so fucking much, but at times people fall into a mindset that reading such stuff is somehow = action. Look out for that everyone.

      Keep going. All the best.

      [–]canadianhousecoat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Thanks for this, your right about reading success stories.

      [–]Locastor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Months of being her slave got me to 2nd base once, now here I am, fucking her by being an asshole.

      Needs to be shouted from the mountaintops.

      [–]iluvpeople 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Good for you man. Keep improving.

      [–]chillmonkey88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This read was just what I needed... I'm 5 classes away from graduating school, summer is around the corner, and I feel very anxious now when I think of being social. Reading this I'm going to take away that this shit isn't done in 5 weeks... this process to growth as a man is still very tender and needs more time and I need to stick to it for more gains of mind body and soul. I got some highs to feel in the gym through working hard and really fine tuning my diet and need to take my focus I have had in school and put it to my finances. (My severe weak point I've always been bad with money)

      I'm going to read this as much as I can as a reminder to continue the life I'm on because I know I'm making the right steps...

      Fun story i was thinkjng of posting - I actually got approached by a few girls I've known for while at the very few social gatherings I've gone to (my classes for this apprenceship im in have forced knto monk mode because they required 100 % of my attention at the beginning of this year) and they definitely are not bbing me (one was feeling me up at a party for my friend in front of her bf while she was drunk on new years and another purposed oral to me at a bar)... unfortunately I don't find them attractive (first one is cute thicker - 10-20lbs overweight - 6 vocal progressive and the other is a 3 obese that has two kids) - I'm 28 for reference that these girls I've known since 18 on forward. They used they're tickets for the cc ride and are the same age as me aka the wall. There were 3 other ones but none were worth any more mention.

      Good job, thank you, and keep it up! I know I will and thank you again for this post.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Lovely FR! Gratz on all your progress.

      I can make tingles now. I can see that in girls now. What a powerful feeling when you know you're giving tingles to a girl, just by standing near her. She swallows every word you say and you can see through that bambi eyes that she could swallow much more.

      This is great, but sooner or later you get used to this. Sex, like you said, is really not that big of a deal. You no longer seek the validation of females externally, but rather your own validation through the achievements you accomplish.

      Keep hustling. Keep being a badass, brother!

      [–]RealRational 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Fantastic post!

      Really, I'm very happy for you. Don't know you, but still proud man. What you did here is incredible, truly amazing. Going through all that you've learned and grown more in a year or 2 than most people do their entire lives! Great work! Keep it up!

      Personally, this is really encouraging. So many people you try to help just refuse to be helped, it's really encouraging to read about someone who actually listened. IME the people who internalize advice and grow from it are less than 10%. Your story has reminded me that even if it's less than 1% it's still fucking worth the effort! Ignore the ingrates, embrace the men.

      [–]-CONTRABAND- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      You are an inspiration, but you are not done.

      Do you own a hemisphere yet?

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      we're all gonna make it brahs .. sheds a tear

      [–]hamstercide 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      What type of bodybuilding routine did you/do you do?

      [–]LadyLumen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Congrats man. Glad you're happy.

      [–]ostroman1989 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      word of advice don't grasp on to that too hard or some crisis in your life will shatter it all. be prepared to go back to monk mode usually temporarily.

      [–]Shankar_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      All I can say is congratulations

      [–]CormacD123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Favourite this post. Excellent. I feel I'm currently going through what you said about the anger phase,can relate a lot to what you said about it. Experiencing quite a lot of it at the minute and just trying to get through it one way or another.

      Cheers for the great post

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      good on you man , book marked and favourited this post :)

      [–]twitarp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Your profile history has a very interesting history. Good job on all the progress, godspeed!

      [–]nowboarding 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      I'm building a social circle of 15-20 guy friends that are all successful. I make social events happen, so us guys can hang out together.

      I'm looking to do exactly this! Could you please expand on this, how exactly did you do this? Finding quality, successful guys is very difficult. And they tend to be as flaky as women I find. What have been the keys to building and maintaining such a social circle?

      [–]vorverk[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Good question.

      I might have some luck here, but luck doesn't happen to people who sit at home and do nothing. What I did is, send and email to bunch of guys (semi-friends) if they want to go with me and try this one new restaurant with a massive cheap delicious stake one day. I set up the date and said that I'm going. One replied to all that he's in. Then next one. Then next one. After a week I got their friends asking me if they can join. We had such a good time that people are constantly asking me when is the next meet up. We had about 5 now. That means 5 times 15-20 guys hanging, laughing, having a beer. And then discussing next days at work (we don't work in the same jobs) how cool it was, meeting for coffees and drinks, discussing random things.

      Most people are usually bored at home and are just waiting for something social to happen. Most of them crave for social gatherings but are just too scared to initialize them.

      But it does not always work. Sometimes nobody replies and you need to brush it off like nothing important happened. The snowball effect is a bit tricky to start.

      One thing that might help is: set up the initial snowball rolling. So make a plan with the closest friends that once you start the event, they follow, publicly. (reply to all, call other guys etc). And make it seem you don't care if anyone joins or not. So go with the mindset: "I'm doing this and I'm gonna have a blast. Anybody wanna join?".

      Also, watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hO8MwBZl-Vc

      [–]nowboarding 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      These recurring events are a great idea!

      Btw how did you meet these guys to begin with? As part of your year long transformation did you make any cool new guy friends (how so?) or was it mostly strengthening relations with existing friends?

      [–]vorverk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Some of them were existing, but once the snowball started rolling, most of the guys popping I didn't know.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I know this post is old but sure we will some day is the line of the century. Was that in a movie? That should be in movies