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MetaEyes on the Prize (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Seoul_Brotherx2

Back in your blue pill days, you "fell in love" with a girl that may have not even known you even existed. You had your eyes on the prize but couldn't reach it. This may have been in grade school, this may have been in college, this may have been at a bar after work, this may have been your whole life, this may have even been yesterday for whatever reason. We've all been there at one point or another in our lives. At this time, you felt as if you were a peasant before a queen. You felt a foot tall in the presence of this woman. The pang of rejection scared you into inaction or a misstep so hard that the collective memory of the times you didn't pull the trigger or had poor execution made you cringe at yourself. But you cannot keep looking to the past regrets and fear of missing out. You need to keep your eyes on the prize fellow brother.

 

BP conditioning makes the acquisition of a relationship with the woman you love ("the one") best thing that could possibly happen to you. The joy and honor of providing for some beautiful woman is the destiny you chase during these times. In a generation where women all call each other "queen," demand to be treated like princesses, and push for the i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t movements, we are merely products to be discarded upon one time use, yet painted as the "privileged" ones. One day you muster up enough courage and land yourself with someone you see as "the one." You now have the honor of providing for this seemingly unobtainable woman and she loves how she feels about herself with you. You do the best you can and spend sleepless nights putting her happiness and comfort over yours. You wonder just how you could have gotten so lucky to have landed a woman like her; so you sacrifice, you compromise even your fundamental beliefs with her, you do all that you can to try to make her happy no matter what. You do this, thinking that will get her to tie the knot with you, have babies, and live happily ever after like Disney movies have been telling you for years. You think you deserve your prize for being such a good, virtuous man by staying chaste and only making your life about her and her happiness. Her smile is the thing that keeps you waking up in the morning. This is what you were told your whole life: she is the prize, your purpose in life was to find the one, and here she is in the flesh. Eyes on the prize my fellow brother. You got your prize now, right?

 

Then one day, the foundations of your reality shakes at its very core. This might be after the honeymoon stage is over. This might be after she's engaged to you. This might be after the wedding/honeymoon. This might be after you've already had your children together. This might be years down the road after your kids have grown up and gone to college. For whatever reason, it ends. Maybe somewhere along the line you stopped trying. Maybe you got comfortable. Maybe she didn't love the way she felt around you anymore. One day it all ends. She leaves you (and maybe takes your kids/home/percentage of your paycheck with her). You're dumbfounded as to why and how it all ended. You dropped your gaze on the prize and it slipped out of your hands. Some time passes and she’s with someone new now. It almost feels like you never existed and that everything you did for her has been for nothing. Your dream is shattered. Your happily ever after went out the door with her.

 

So you take a while to grieve or feel bad for yourself. Hell, maybe you go out on some dates and sleep with some strange for a while, but during this critical juncture you are faced with two choices: you can choose to put back together the shattered blue pill reality you once had, or focus on picking yourself up and changing something. Some of you choose to go down a black hole of self-loathing, with many days spent on a couch watching Netflix while eating a tub of ice-cream or whatever high fat content food there is so that you can eat away your feelings. Maybe you drink your days away to try and forget during nights alone. Maybe you thought you lost "the one" and contemplated taking your life over her. Maybe you are convinced she was the only source of happiness you ever knew. Maybe you continue to hook up with randoms to get your mind off of "the one that got away," until you eventually meet another woman to restart the process of securing the all fated "one." Maybe you’ve been somewhere similar or have repeatedly made the same choices that led you back to the same shitty ending, but this time you choose to do something differently…

 

You start going back to the gym or you go for the first time in your life. You start pushing yourself to try new things and realize things about yourself you never had. You pick up a couple of hobbies for yourself that weren't pushed onto you by women from the past and you find your true passions. You work harder at work. You become more focused in the things you do. You start doing things for yourself, like prioritizing time for yourself instead of giving away your time to pretty women for the hope that one of them commits to you. You start to hang out with your actual friends again. You stand taller. You start to walk with some swag. You hold yourself confidently. You start dressing better. You start to look better. You start to feel better. You start to BE better.

 

You start noticing women sneaking a look at you in public places and you like the feel of someone checking out. You notice their eyes on you when you talk among your own friends in public. You catch a glimpse of their smile as they quickly look away to hide the fact that they were taking a peek. You start to notice they approach you more or make an excuses to talk to you in every day situations. Maybe they "bump" into you at the bar. Maybe they dance near you on the dance floor with their girl friends in the hopes that you will ask them to dance. Maybe you respond in kind, flirt with them, and they end up taking you home. It suddenly feels much easier than before. There is a moment during all of this where it all feels way too easy...

 

Then it finally clicks: You are the prize.

 

You worked on yourself and had noticed improvements in the quality of your life and as natural effect, women start to notice this as well. You became a high quality man by focusing on yourself and living for yourself. The next plate/ LTR you choose to have is a much higher quality experience that isn’t detrimental to you because you chose yourself over her, and she’s the one trying her best to keep you around. She feels like a concubine before a King. She rightfully feels small in within your presence. The pang of being rejected by you is so strong that she works her best to stay in shape and please you the way you wish to be pleased. She is the happiest she’s ever been because she knows she's got herself a real prize.

 

The foundations of your reality build themselves back up brick by brick, constructing a new world view (The Red Pill). You are finally able to be happy because every day, you choose to love yourself rather than letting someone else decide what happiness is for you. “The one” you have been seeking all your life was you all along; so you readjust your sights and aim to work every day to shoot for the best version of yourself cause no one else is going to do it for you.

 

Eyes on the prize my fellow brothers, eyes on the prize.


[–]vagbutters 101 points102 points  (9 children)

As an addendum, I'd like to advise people here to never compare yourself to other men-- it works against your own benefit when you see a finished "product" and put yourself down for it. Each day you build the body you want in the gym, be it going from a fatbody to chizzled abs or a scrawnybody to a dude who's shredded, you're doing all you can do to better yourself.

Focus only on your own journey-- never put yourself down based on the accomplishments of others. You'll find yourself soaring higher and higher.

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Everyone's got their own summits to climb towards

[–]mattstanton 9 points10 points  (3 children)

I have to say I've been going my own way and it's been fun as fuck. I'm the happiest I've ever been. Just started working out today. Suck at it, but whatever.

[–]vagbutters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Suck at it, but whatever.

So did I when I first started doing it. Just keep at it.

It. Gets. Better.

[–]25toten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Google is your best friend. I started up last week and have done a bunch of research on workouts / seen guides on how to do exercises properly.

Its really not that bad. Best of luck to you mate

[–]redpill-account 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally Reddit subreddit are great , got me in best shape of life

[–]RedBikerMouse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A friend said it best: Don't compare your chapter 2 with someone else's 202.

[–]mrccmrp10 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This.. The more I grow as a person, I realize sucess is very silent. Anyone who reads TRP, who lifts, who does the things he needs to do to succeed feels as if he should be better than most people but you never know what the other is doing either.

Its a hard process to take in. I always compare myself with others still but its getting better. I try to compare myself to the me of yesterday.

[–]vagbutters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a hard process to take in. I always compare myself with others still but its getting better. I try to compare myself to the me of yesterday.

It's very hard to get used to this idea. We always want what we don't have at a given time-- it's just human nature. Give yourself enough time, effort, and introspection, and you'll get it.

[–]coveredwthsores 185 points186 points  (7 children)

Fuck I love this so much.

This is way better than "all women are narcissistic pieces of garbage who will leave as soon as something new or 'better' comes along".

This is "be the best you can be, love yourself, and others will love you".

It's an age old cliché but worded like this for the TRP fellows, it makes sense to me, for the first time.

[–]theONE843663 20 points21 points  (3 children)

Those are both true statements and must co-exist. Synthesized, it looks like this: "AWALT, so be the best you can be, love yourself, and shit will work!"

[–]Bulk_king11 19 points20 points  (2 children)

And what he means by awalt aren't that all women are pieces of shit who will leave once something better comes along because not all women will. I've seen it first hand. Some women have morals and won't cheat no matter the situation if it isn't something they are cool with.

What he means by awalt are all women have women tendencies. Will shit test you non stop. Try to cause you drama. Etc etc. you have to be aware of this and know how to work around it. Because if you don't get your shit together then she will leave no matter what her morals are

[–]theONE843663 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hmm... I could have sworn that the exception proves the rule...

[–]RedBikerMouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't be a cliché if it wasn't working throughout the centuries.

[–]11-Eleven-11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, this is the only way the cliche makes sense.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More positive and productive too!

"Be the prize" - tells you what to do and how to do, puts the control of your happiness in your hands.

The fact is: if you are the prize, there will be no "better"

[–]yuyevin 29 points30 points  (0 children)

"Then it finally clicks: you are the prize"

This shit right here is it. The foundation of the perfect mindset.

[–]flavioj 27 points28 points  (2 children)

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lolled. That guy basically became awesome.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (1 child)

The pang of future rejection scared you into inaction or a misstep so hard that the collective memory of the times you didn't pull the trigger or had poor execution made you cringe at yourself.

Wow does this ring true to my former blue pill self, so many years wasted trying to be the "perfect gentleman" while watching the girls I pined for fuck Chad in the woods.

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Then you found out being a gentleman is overrated and fucking in the woods is a sexual rollercoaster ride for both you and her lol

[–]Rommel0502 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This reinforces a message I've said here so many times Ive lost count. Its not about getting laid - its about being the best you that you can.

Mistaking cause for effect, forest for trees - whatever cliche you want to use. Don't focus on the fun rewards at the end - focus on the hard journey to get there. Keep disciplined - its the most important quality you can have regarding your overall happiness and success.

Good luck gents, and enjoy your journey to the summit.

[–]iWantABabyJesus 17 points18 points  (8 children)

I wish I could give you more upvotes 😭😭😭😭

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 27 points28 points  (7 children)

Thank you!

I used to tell myself "you are the prize" in my head every day to drive me to be the best version of myself by hitting the gym hard, reading more, learning more, and just trying to be the best version of myself through my everyday choices. Through this, I improved my finances, learned more skills for my career, got stronger physically, and read more literature than nonsense buzzfeed articles. Now it's second nature and I love my life a lot more than I had back when I didn't view myself as the prize.

I chose to write out in no specific way certain experiences that I and other people may have experienced in the search for this "true love" during their BP days, and how a lot of us reached this stage of enlightenment in a very relatable way. I just wanted to put into writing what a lot of us have realized, but had trouble putting into words.

I've been in feminist circles during my BP days and they always stressed self care and loving yourself, and I always found it odd that male only spaces don't overtly say this to each other. We always shroud it in things like "bro don't worry about it."

You are the prize brother. How good a prize you are is how hard you're willing to work to be the best you can be.

[–]iWantABabyJesus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are awesome! Will surely try to follow what you have done!

[–]mattstanton 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Oh how many times I've heard the old addendum "dude, just stop.giving a fuck."

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol that's pretty much the tl;dr version. Takes a while for that to click, but I hope this little piece helped synthesize what IDGAF really means to people.

[–]1empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Positive affirmations and this post make sense to me but I just can't buy it in my head. Lack of self esteem and confidence are my biggest lifelong issues and I just can't seem to snap out of it. I've read mountains on the stuff but nothing really gets through. The reliability of negativity is too comforting.

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Reading is one thing, doing is another.

[–]1empatheticapathetic -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Ok well I do plenty but fail to break out of my mental prison.

[–]Castleprince 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go see a male* therapist if you haven't already. It has helped me tremendously. If you find one that you gel with it, it can be life changing. I'm lucky a found a red-pilled dude therapist that is just reinforcing the values that are found here.

[–]TyrannyVengeance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good content. Can confirm, I am the prize.

[–]LeJamesBron32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This.. this right here, man, is what it's all about.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Does it ever stop though? Are we always striving to reach the summit or do you just finally "feel" it

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I think of it as a series of wins throughout life. You feel a sense of accomplishment in learning something new, reaching a goal, mastering an art, etc and those wins are all summits of their own in the scope of your own life. I don't think there is a moment where you finally "feel" the apex though cause life can always get better and can always get worse depending on where you are and how you've positioned yourself.

It's like reaching the top of the local mountain, then your own Camelback, then your own Mt. Fuji, then your own Kilimanjaro. You keep striving for more and you have your own personal Everest. Once that's done, maybe you climb some more Fujis, some hills, and then another Everest of a challenge. We can look back at our life's accomplishments at old age and choose a couple of times were we have done an Everest, a few more Fujis, a bunch more Camelbacks, and endless hills we've conquered, but I doubt there is an all-encompassing feeling reaching a final summit. This is where stoicism works well to have as a philosophy.

[–]Castleprince 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I needed to hear this today. Take some gold bro. Eyes on the mother fucking prize.

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sir are a gentleman and a scholar

[–]bitchpotatobunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This, to me, is the essence of TRP. For me, I understand TRP not as a way to "get money, fuck bitches", but as a way to open your eyes and realize that focusing on being a better you is all you need for the others to fall in place. It's about working on who you are as a person and understanding the world enough to never lose sight of that. It's about accepting that there are going to be times that suck, but choosing to do something about them rather than just cry about them is the way. It's about knowing that your goal should never be based on what will attract others or make them like you; rather the goal is about becoming someone that will happen naturally to. The focus is on you improving, the rest is just a result of that focus.

Absolutely great post. Extremely well written. Thank you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoyed this read very much

[–]kranos33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"One day it all ends. She leaves you (and maybe takes your kids/home/percentage of your paycheck with her). You're dumbfounded as to why and how it all ended. You dropped your gaze on the prize and it slipped out of your hands. Some time passes and she’s with someone new now. It almost seems like you never existed. Your dream is shattered."....

-- Well, let her fucking go. After a bit you will be fine and will find another one, probably younger and better. Even Elon Musk's wife divorced him. They had been together since right after college, had 5 kids, then she was "unhappy" and left. This is Elon Musk!, the most successful entrepreneur of this generation.

What happen after it? He divorced, married another (younger and hotter), divorced again, married the same girl again, divorcing again, and dating some actress. Meanwhile he is changing both the automotive world, and space travel and solar energy generation, enjoying the life to the fullest. Fuck it.

Sometimes TRP errors too much in the "you can never be too cautious, side, never marry, etc...", and teaches people to stop enjoying life.

Your wife wants to leave? Fine, let her go. let her take your kids, sure you will have partial custody and you will see them time to time, but who cares. If you have your shit together, you will probably find another, younger hotter wife, and have more kids with her, meanwhile your ex will probably be dating some loser that is ok to raise somebody's else kids. That's true abundance mentality.

Three rules that TRP advocates but needs to stress more:

1) Have your shit together, no matter what. (don't treat getting married as the end goal). If you get divorced, you should not have trouble finding a replacement.

2) If you marry, marry an women that brings more value to the table than just her pussy. Ya know, a woman that has a stable career, and is fine working. Don't marry loser leaches, that want to coast life as soon as they get married. Those are the worst kind.

3) Enjoy life, and the journey. That means if you want to marry and have a normal/stable life, go for it and don't fall for the 'never marry mantra'. Living a paranoid life for the rest of your life is not worth it.

[–]Dirkz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent post man, this is what it's all about.

If this post does not resonate with you then you're not far enough into your journey and you must trust that this is your life on TRP.

[–]TooMuchToDoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's how many of us started off. The best buildings are built from a strong foundation; it's tough to build a skyscraper unless your being has been shaken to its foundations.

[–]DirtJellyBeanz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, when I read stuff like this it makes me feel good. Sometimes reading all this "females are enemies" content makes me feel bad, almost like putting a big shield up. When I read this I instantly got an adrenaline rush knowing that I'm not the only one going through hell, and at the end of the day its just US.

[–]Theunforgiven193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although a lot of your reality is totally foreign to me. The last part is certainly true. Try to BE the person that will attract the quality of women you want. Don't wish for the world to be different.

[–]SaltySkramz 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You can start killing yourself at the gym or spending hundreds on better quality shirts but if you're fucking ugly to start with then none of that matters. No amount of biceps or acne clothes will fix that.

[–]Seoul_Brother[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this topic has been covered on many different threads and at this point we are beating a dead horse, stuffing candy in its entrails, hanging it from a tree, and beating it even more as a pinata.

If you're ugly when you first start, you can still improve your life in many different ways. Your level of attraction changes as you make your life better and practice abundance. If you're objectively not that good looking, then you're going to have to play the field game better and thus deal with more rejections to learn from them and find the sweet spot within your own strategy. As a man, being ugly doesn't mean you're out of the game since you can always make yourself more interesting, buff, rich, etc. As a woman, if you are ugly and can't change that through a good diet/working out, then you're fucked and not by an alpha kind of way since we as men find attraction in objective physical appearance. Women get wet panties over objective appearance first, but long term get wet over rock hard frame.

Simply saying "None of that matters. No amount of biceps or clothes will fix that." is a dejected attitude that sets someone up for failure, and I don't see someone who would say that they are ugly and that they are at a disadvantage would be successful with women to begin with. If I were a woman, I would rather see a guy who isn't objectively good looking be buff, wear nice clothes, have a more interesting life, and be able to kill the shit tests women throw at them rather than some guy crying for a whaaaaambulance.

Form fitting clothing, a sense of style, a deep voice, a swagger in your walk, an abundant mentality, a smile, rock hard abs, biceps, a well groomed face/body, greater intelligence, knowing traditionally manly things (ie: survival skills, fixing up cars, etc, and most importantly, a confident attitude/outlook goes much further than crying about your appearance and having that be your primary pitfall.

But that's just my view.