One of the biggest concerns I hear from young guys (18-22), especially in today's age, is "missing out". Now while missing out can mean a lot of things, in this context I am going to relate it to girls, partying, and social life. In my last post titled "The New Cool", I talked about how the "college experience" is shoved down the throat of every young guy out there in American society and the belief is more or less that life ends after college in regards to girls, parties, and friends.
Your average college kid who is stressed in a demanding major (this assuming he went to college for the right reasons), lacks the connections that a frat bro might have (at some schools these can make or break your "college experience", being in a fraternity is more or less mandatory), having to struggle paying for college, and feels like he isn't having the time of his; this can be a depressing feeling. In mild cases, it can lead to a guy feeling sad and down about life as he sees some kids from his university having all the fun. In severe cases, you have a guy who become mentally unstable due to all of that depression, regret, and those sad feelings.
You feel this way because society has OVER-pedestalized youthful experiences such as high school and college, especially in regards to social life, parties, and girls. Not only that, just like most guys, you want to feel validated, cool, and fulfilled from these experiences. Your fear is that as you get older, the opportunities won't be there.
College is EVERYTHING in American culture when it comes to social life, friends, sex, parties, and fun. In American culture, you have a life after college but you're supposed to "grow up" and not enjoy it, it is supposed to be serious, boring, and highly cut throat.
For those who are familiar with college game and how it actually works, you end up realizing that most of the times the "college experience" is only granted to a very small number of guys. Most of the times, from my own experience, it was guys with rich parents and easier majors who could have the college experience. The guys whose parents paid thousands every semester for their kid to be in the right (keyword) fraternity and enjoy the things such as drinking, partying, picking an easy business major, making friends, social life, and getting girls.
In American culture, this is the apex of the male experience in terms of social life and sex. Every guy wants to be a Chad, no doubt about it, even though the "philosophers" and older guys on TRP will lecture on and on and on about how bad validation is, you can't help it as a guy just like you can't help being aroused by a beautiful woman. You want to socialize with other high SMV males, feel like you're in that special high value clique, get acknowledged by hot girls, and enjoy the fun experiences that come with it.
I am here to tell you it is okay to feel that way, even though some will nag and say "but wanting validation is bad, it is so immature" or "parties, girls, and casual sex are bad; you must find a life purpose". I am here to tell you that you should not feel guilty as a guy for wanting to make friends, party, and get laid; no matter how much the feminists or these days even some members of TRP (unfortunately) try to put you in that situation.
You fear that as you get older, you're going to miss the train. The parties, sex, and fun won't exist and even if it does exist; you're going to be a very odd one out for experiencing them. You fear that by the time you get older, the appropriate thing will be cheesy dates involving drinking wine and talking like some Renaissance poet as opposed to a Friday night full of hot sex after a nice party.
Seriously, after reading all that, take a deep breath and relax.
Now here is the thing, you're hearing the stories of the losers!
Yes, the loser who got fat in college and married in his early 20s. The loser who peaked in college, made nothing of himself after that, and now goes around telling everyone how getting older sucks. The loser who whines about how "all the good ones are taken" (in regards to women) while he himself gets fatter, balder, and uglier every year. The loser who tries to show the world how he is taking a moral higher ground and hates the Leonardo DiCaprios and Dan Bilzerians of the world while secretly crying himself to sleep over the fact that he is not one of them.
Most importantly, the loser who likely only had success in his younger years due to rich parents who granted him everything and gave him an easy life and now can't adjust to the real world where he has to work for whatever he gets.
Unfortunately, it is the losers and failures that roar the loudest while winners stay quiet.
The loser with a nagging wife who could not handle life after college or working for anything is the one who is spreading this nonsense of college being the "best 4 years of your life". The Leonardo DiCaprios and Dan Bilzerians of the world won't waste time telling their awesome story, their lives are too amazing for them to even spend time doing so.
THE WORLD IS YOURS. Life does not end after college, NOT even when it comes to girls, partying, and social life. In fact, if you play your cards right, it will get a lot better. College life may have a great basement but it has a terrible ceiling, real life may have a terrible basement but it has a very high ceiling.
Believe it or not, you will run into hotter girls than your typical bleached blonde sorority sister. Have you even seen how beautiful foreign women are compared to American women? Have you even seen how much hotter the women in the wealthier parts of NYC are compared to your typical basic bitch in an American college town? Most of all, a lot of these girls will likely be more sane than the typical spoiled bleached blonde sorority sisters that dominate your typical American college campus. Call it sour grapes on my part, whatever, but most guys will admit that there are much hotter girls out there than sorority girls and that European women are generally more attractive than American women.
I would take a threesome with two HBB Euro blondes over a threesome with two HBB sorority sisters, sure a lot of guys on here would as well.
But you will never be around as many hot and single girls!
Okay, maybe college DID have a lot of girls in the 18-21 year old age range, that doesn't mean shit. You lacked the resources to get the same girls who saw a frat boy with a dad bod as the beauty ideal for raising their states. The truth is that most big cities can readily offer you the same opportunities with women and have a lot more attractive women. I've seen just as many hot girls in Miami and wealthier parts of NYC as I saw in Tempe, AZ.
Plus, just because you're around so many available girls in college doesn't mean they're really that available. Most of the times they have to worry about being seen with you and how their judgmental friends, who they have to see EVERYDAY, would view it. If you sleep around a lot, on most college campuses the world will get out, college is even overhyped in this regard.
But WAH! That's only big cities and only certain ones!
Well captain dumbfuck, not every university is Arizona St or even close to it.
Forget drinking cheap beer, the alcohol is way better after college. Yes, it is true that the parties might be LESS frequent (though you can break into professions where they are just as frequent) but they can be just as awesome. Go to nice rooftop pool parties in a major city, Halloween parties thrown by a higher SMV crowd, and realize that amazing parties exist after college. Yes, you can get drunk and wasted if you want in your late 20s and life will give you the opportunity to not only do so, but find other friends to do it with!
Despite society and blue pill media doing EVERYTHING in its power to convince you that people after college are miserable loners without any friends, the truth is that social life happens after college. You won't just make friends with other 18-21 year olds who are emotional and filled with drama, you will make friends with amazing people. People praise college as being "so amazing because you're around others your age" but quickly forget how dramatic, emotional, and unstable a lot of 18-21 year olds are.
Nothing feels better than making it in life and being among others that have made it. Feel like the man by having other high SMV people in your circle as you watch the failures who used to think they were better than you suffer, okay that was a bit extreme but whatever! My point is, you don't stop having a social life after college and it doesn't even have to die down.
Here is the other thing, the next generation won't be "settling down" in their 20s.
The next generation will not be full of 25 year olds who are married with kids.
The next generation will be kind to the 30 year old guy who has his shit together, get ready to score and have an amazing life.
The next generation will grant you more opportunities to enjoy a nice social life and a lot of fun without feeling like a weirdo for being a bachelor past the age of 30.
The future is on YOUR side, so keep on working and realizing that a promising world awaits. Do not lose sleep over missing out, there is a lot you have yet to experience once you put in the work. Keep on raising that SMV fellas, life can get a lot better!