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Red Pill TheoryThose Three Little Words (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1atticusfinch1973

Before you think this is going to be about something romantic and wonderful, have you been to this sub? I'm writing a simple post about the most important three words you can use in any relationship, dating or otherwise to establish a dynamic, make women want you and have the best time you'll ever have:

I'll Handle It.

This is the automatic answer to things like making plans, being asked to help with something by an LTR, or any other scenario where it is required that a decision be made and action be taken.

There are major benefits to using these three little words. First of all, whatever is getting done is getting done by you, under your control. Therefore whatever restaurant you want to eat at, colour you want to paint the walls or activity you want to do the woman is simply along for the ride and will enjoy it. They will also appreciate the fact that they didn't have to make a decision. You're taking a leadership role in the relationship and are assuming the captain dynamic.

In a work situation it shows leadership, the ability to work independently and any boss or manager will highly appreciate that they don't have to keep an eye on you or your work.

Of course, the other component of this is once you tell people you're going to handle it - actually handle it. Over promising and not delivering once an expectation is established is suicide in pretty much any situation. And you have just destroyed any credibility you might have had in establishing your authority.

Comments and additions welcome. If there are a better three words that you can think of, fire away.


[–]blindface 308 points309 points  (5 children)

Until TRP, I definitely used to be annoyed if a girl was indecisive after giving her options for going out to eat or whatever. It's a trope that many guys bitch about and try to guilt girls over.

Now I know that they just want you to make a decision, to control them, and to take responsibility off their plate. They don't want you to ask them for advice. And that goes double for anyone in a relationship - you're not being considerate by asking them.

Just handle it. Great advice.

[–]WhySoRuff 55 points56 points  (1 child)

Either choose the spot straight out or give her no more than two choices. The options should be #1 and #2 on the list of places you want to eat.

[–]half_man_half_cat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

+1 I think giving her a finite amount of choices also works great.

[–]AussiecuntTRP 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I knew this intuitively before discovering red pill. You see all these BP guys asking their girls where they want to eat/go/drink then they have a hissy fit when they can't get a girl to decide. You are the man. You fucking decide where to go or at least give her limited options. She aint going out with you because you go to fancy restaurants or expensive bars (unless you're a BB). She's going out to be with you and have fun and ultimately fuck you. Who cares where you go?

[–]zattraction 13 points14 points  (0 children)

to take responsibility off their plate

You could also say you're taking responsibility off YOUR plate ;)

[–]rikleeRed42 116 points117 points  (2 children)

finally a good, useful post that isnt PUA bullshit. cheers.

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    [–]CSMastermind 70 points71 points  (2 children)

    Personally I like delegating. "This restaurant, this time, make reservations". As long as your mako ng the decisions and doing any of the hard stuff having them to the menial tasks works great.

    [–]beginner_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Good point. A leader doesn't do everything by himself. It's not like a captain is steering the ship himself. He tells the crew in which direction to go.

    [–]Scheme00 19 points20 points  (0 children)

    I think the OP is spot on with this. Over and over I'm told this is what makes me more attractive with women I'm dating compared to other men.

    [–]WorldNewPilla 17 points18 points  (4 children)

    Thanks for the post bro, I see what you are saying. Yet, I feel that using it too much may show you as a beta for doing all the things with her only participating after the work is done. What are your two cents about that?

    [–]smyger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    My thoughts exactly, in a relationship this turns you to beta?

    [–]Redpillandrew 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Good point. My two cents are: you make her do her part. Like "go fetch me this", "go wash the dishes". Yeah you handle all of it but you're in charge... don't forget this part. This way you show leadership and you don't do all the work like a beta provider. Plus: very once in a while, when asked to do something, tell you just won't. Firmly. Strong boundaries.

    [–]WorldNewPilla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I see what you are saying, it makes sense. Thanks mate.

    [–]BreakingRed_ 11 points12 points  (6 children)

    There are people who haven't read "Extreme Ownership" yet and are browsing this sub?

    Get to it.

    [–]rp_newdawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I've had it sitting on my Amazon wish list of "books I wish I had time for". After reading your comment, I pre-ordered the new edition coming out next month. Thanks for the kick.

    [–]butter_coffee 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Hey!! I read that book. His new one “Discipline is Freedom” just came out 3 days ago.

    [–]BreakingRed_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'm baffled at how this sub rarely mentions his work. "The warrior kid" was basically portraying himself as an alpha uncle teaching the beta kid how to work hard and have a code in his life.

    [–]SultanPepe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Alternatively, "I've got this"

    [–]prodigy2throw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    I never let women decide anything anymore. Decision making is a mans job

    [–]CeleritySteam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    "What do you wanna do?" Confused silence. "Do you want A or B?" Indecisive prattling. "We're doing this." Ok. AWALT.

    [–]SonOfTerra92 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    That's actually 4 words mate.

    But Great post though. That's what men do. Translate will power into work that gets things done, whether it's moving mountains or getting laid.

    Those two are kinda the same things aren't they.

    [–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Clicked on the thread expecting to see "I am pregnant."

    You are right and this could be a far more developed post, because this is a very rich mine to dig. Imma gonna need the name of your grammar school English teacher though; they can use a bullet to they're head.

    [–]konradcurzed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    It is good to note that the 3 exact opposite words are "I Don't Know". Even if you don't know and are planning on making it up on the fly, never out right say "I Don't Know". It makes everyone uncomfortable.

    [–]1Metalageddon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Very well done.

    Shit, now I've gotta scrap another submission. You've done this very well, thanks OP.

    [–]DntPnicIGotThis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Great post. Solid utility for life.

    [–]1GreenPiller 1 point2 points  (3 children)

    "Are you done?" Is also a good one to use when she's done ranting.

    [–]psionicsickness 19 points20 points  (1 child)

    "Are you done?" is just oppository (sp? is this the right word?). You are allowing for a response. I get it, it says, "I don't care what you just said", but it's not authoritative, it's catty.

    Someone starts ranting about unrelated or unimportant things? Just walk away, don't ask them if they're done.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Someone starts ranting about unrelated or unimportant things? Just walk away, don't ask them if they're done.

    Yeah, I used to listen when my girlfriend was ranting about pointless crap. Then I tried just saying 'uh-huh' and going off to do what I want to do. Works a lot better.