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Red Pill TheoryAlways maintain the appearance of being busy--even if you aren't (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by malesromm

This is one of the biggest TRP lessons I've learned over the last year as a recent grad joining the work force. My job is not very demanding and I often only have a few hours of real work to do a day, if that.

As you can imagine, this situation has left me with a fair amount of free time. In the past, I've wasted a lot of this time on social media: responding to text messages, checking Facebook, snapchats, and the like. I would even have day-long conversations with my LTR over text while at work, responding to her texts every few minutes because I didn't have much else going on.

If you've spent any amount of time on this sub, you can tell that this is a recipe for failure. The more time you spend being available to women, the less they respect your time and the less they respect you as a man. And after all, they are completely justified in this belief. As a man, your primary goal in life is your mission and pursuing your goals. A lot of your mission as a man is related to your career. And if you spend all day of your 9-5 texting her, what does that say about what your priorities are?

I've noticed that my girl will not be pissed at me if it takes me several hours to respond to her texts. Maybe she will feign being annoyed that you took so long, but deep down she's pleased that you have more important things going on in your life. It's definitely much better than responding every 5 minutes. Longer time in between interactions subcommunicates that you have a lot going on in your life and simply can't spend your entire day interacting with her. Furthermore, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and she will actually value me and respect me more the less I communicate with her. It shows that I'm busy taking care of my shit as a man and she is secondary in my life.

Treat the hours of 9-5 (or whatever) as your time for masculine development. If your job isn't keeping you busy, find a better one that suits your goals. Or, spend that time improving yourself, learning, reading, becoming a better man. But don't squander it talking to her all day.


[–]AlfredTheGreatest 165 points166 points  (28 children)

So true. I have my business set up so I only have to work 20-30 hours a week and can often travel freely. I spend a lot of time making sure none of my employees and few of my friends and family know how good I have it. I've made the mistake of being too open and the resentment followed strongly.

[–]clonegreen 59 points60 points  (3 children)

I used to laugh at people who complained about "haters" and claiming that people are deceitful and shady once you make it.

Once you build any power base you're likely to get feigned respect, orbiters, and those who would seek to sabotage you.

[–]yomo86 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly as Machiavelli put it it is better to be feared. It is very much known that a partner in my law firm bangs everything with a pulse. But he can fire you and during an office Christmas party he knocked a guy out because this man was hitting on his wife.

No one talks shit about this guy. No one. Not even gossip.

[–]MrRaspberryJamz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm already seeing it with my family commenting on smaller improvements I've made like getting up early to work out and leaving the house on my own accord.

I can only imagine how much worse it'll be once I'm established, so at least it's good practice.

[–]fflando 20 points21 points  (2 children)

People resent the hell out of you when you're in your 30's and have avoided the baby trap and are able to buy awesome stuff and travel. It kinda sucks, but not as bad as if I'd fallen into society's trap.

[–]LarParWar 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It's only a trap if you let the mother saddle you with the baby responsibilities. The father only really needs to take over at 8 to 10, and even then only in an advisory capacity.

[–]103342 38 points39 points  (18 children)

Just next them and get new ones.

[–][deleted] 95 points96 points  (11 children)

haha I chuckled on this one, next your family and friends and get new ones.

[–]truthyego 23 points24 points  (10 children)

It's easier to next your friends than you think

[–]LaRedPill 39 points40 points  (6 children)

Not so easy the oldest you get, real friends are forged and that takes time and crisis to happen.

[–]weiguk 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Seriously... I've been friends with my 4 closest friends since grade 5. I've known those guys for over 25 years. That's not something I can easily replace.

But honestly, I don't need to. While not a single one of them is a fully fledged alpha, neither is a single one of them a fully fledged beta. And I know I can trust those guys with everything.

I think one of them put it nicely, when his then LTR of 3 years said "Why do you go on a trip with them? Am I not more important? Do something with me!" and he answered "Do you really believe trying to make me chose between you - a 3 year old LTR - and my 4 best friends - of over 15 years - is a good idea?" The LTR lasted 1-2 more years, his friendships are still going strong.

[–]whuttupfoo 2 points3 points  (1 child)

You could just soft next them. Just spend less time around them and have them less involved in your life. You don't have to cut them off.

[–]LaRedPill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That already happens naturally as you get older, you'll see.

[–]EvrythingISayIsRight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, nexting is easy as hell. Its just hard to find new ones.

[–]Zinamam 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Just next everyone before you even speak to them.

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Lol some people take this shit too seriously

[–]AlfredTheGreatest 3 points4 points  (3 children)

The problem is that you don't know which ones will be dicks and which will be happy for you until after the fact. You can't just pre-emptively next everyone you know. Even good people you love, my cousin who is poor for example, try really hard not to resent it. They just can't help it and it comes out at the worst times.

This can damage your business also. For example, I had a very useful employee quit because he was resentful of me having a better life. This cost me a lot of money. I could have avoided the situation. Lesson learned

[–]SoundMake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a very useful employee quit because he was resentful of me having a better life. This cost me a lot of money.

Resentful?

Oh, finding a better paying job somewhere else makes an employee "resentful".

Based on your other comments, you seem to be a psychopath.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my cousin who is poor for example, try really hard not to resent it. They just can't help it and it comes out at the worst times.

Can you give an example or story of this happening?

[–]GIGANTIC_NIGGER_DICK -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

There is something in the 48 Laws of Power book about resentment. Hold up I will find the passage real quick.

Edit: okay guys I was mistaken, it's not a specific passage but the word resentment is mentioned over 24 different times the book. Need to read it to understand the context. Wish I could quote it real quick here. But basically read it if you haven't. And you seem smart OP so I'm sure you have.

[–]TryDoingSomethingNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recall that being more oriented towards not causing others to hate you in terms of you humiliating them or disrespecting (as opposed to simple envy) as they at times may dedicate themselves to vengeance against you.

[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Your time is valuable. Spend it on people who value it as much as you do.

[–]maadkekz 71 points72 points  (19 children)

I'm sat here at my desk literally in the same position. Mid 20's, punching below my weight, recent grad, LTR in another state..

I get maybe 5 emails a day? 2-3 hours of productive work, tops. It's horrible. Reading your post has made me realise that I've lost touch with TRP theory.

Self improvement is an absolutely critical part of personal development and here I am being a pussy to my LTR about my job. Yup may have saved my relationship here.

Maybe not right now, but surely further down the line..

[–]malesromm[S] 29 points30 points  (16 children)

Absolutely my man. Just something I've been realizing over the last year and wanted to share. Save the LTR talk for when you're off the clock. And never EVER complain to her about your job or make it seem like your work is meaningless. How is she going to respect what you do if you don't? Even if you're cleaning toilets for a living, having an ambitious and positive attitude towards your work will take you a long way.

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (14 children)

One of the mistakes my father continuously made in his marriage to my mother (married for 45 years, but live like roommates now) is bring home his frustrations from work. My dad is a brilliant scientist but couldn't handle politics at the office. He especially struggled dealing with SJWs and it got him forced into retirement. This created strong resentment in my mom.

[–]maadkekz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. It saddens me to hear something like that can still happen to us (men) 45 years down the line.

It's like a never-ending game of trying to appease women. A man shouldn't have to put up with that sort of shit in his life after decades of putting bread on the table and fulfilling his male role.

Women are supposed to be our partners, yet we can't talk to them about our own troubles or else they'll leave us/resent us. It's so easy being a woman in 2016; a time when sexual options and feminism are running rampant.

[–]hores 9 points10 points  (11 children)

can you even call that a mistake though? He refused to cow tow to the PC nonsense out of his own principles. In my eyes that's a sign of a real man. Not one that defers to what society thinks he should do.

[–]QE-Infinity 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Yeah, stand up for yourself but don't whine to your wife about it.

[–]CountryYuppie 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Think what you want, but behave like those around you.

[–]hores 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the opposite of what Trump's doing, and it seems to be working well for him.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

My father is blue pill and handled it like a blue puller. He kept getting out maneuvered by a female scientist who ultimately took his position. My brother and I warned him but he was in denial as he understands straight talk in the workplace but not power talk. He had no idea what was happening and I think he won't admit it to this day.

[–]hores 0 points1 point  (5 children)

That's interesting. Could you go into further detail of how she did it?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Sure. She made an alliance with my dad's boss. My dad is focused on thoroughness of work to the point of not meeting deadlines (I'm sure people would say he is a slow worker and nit picking), so he was regularly in conflict over it anyway.

My dad never worked with female scientists, and as awkward as it is, I think he had a weird attraction to her (she's post wall ,probably a 5, but my mom is much older and is not science oriented) that just came across as cringey. She reported him to HR and he was on an improvement plan as well.

She got a supposed friend of his to pose as a peacemaker but act as a spy (straight out of 48 laws of power). He always thought they had "worked out" their issues and wouldn't listen when my brother and I told him she was just biding her time.

Then she got him demoted and he writing was on the wall at hat point. We told him to ride off into the sunset, but he thought he was going out in a blaze of glory of something. He demanded a retirement buy out from HR and they basically told him to retire now and we'll give you one more paycheck. He didn't realize that he had no leverage in he situation.

Finally a few weeks later she executed a coup with his boss where he was fired and marched out immediately.

[–]hores 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Thanks for that. She sounds more machiavellian than most.

[–]TryDoingSomethingNew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I've seen otherwise very capable & smart older men be so damn hard-headed and/or protecting their ego (which is an obvious sign of weakness) that they end up getting into arguments with other men over very petty shit that no one in the real world cares about.

I remember stories about one guy who worked in my engineering department at my last job. I was curious about why the designs/firmware I had to work on were so damn archaic, were stuck in the past, no modern tools would work on it, etc.

As predicted, he seemed to think his way was the best, and this means arguing with others and anyone (me) working behind him afterwards on the mess he designed fucking hated the work.

His "going out in a blaze of glory" was quitting after having a hissy fit and yelling one day.

Not saying your dad was quite the same, but I've seen similarities a few times. It's a shame.

[–]calibrateThought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how much was he making at that point? how much would it have cost to have her killed ? people who specifically try to get you fired are striking out at the very living you are trying to make; it puts all options on the table IMO

was the performance plan her fault? would have have been able to succeed there without her in the picture? or was he just underperforming

[–]peruvianlurker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seems like he broke a Law of power... I feel his frustration to call out the SJWs on their bullshit and submit to play politics when you are climbing the corporate ladder.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I'm a master of the custodial arts! ...or a janitor if you wanna be a dick about it."

[–]KumonRoguing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Audio books, real books, and furthering education. Desk activities for those of us with easy jobs.

[–]LLL3peat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing the same thing. Although I don't have to physically be in the office to do most of my work. Have my own hobbies and potential start up in the works, a couple side gig's, and live in the gym.

I seriously put in maybe 18 hours of actual work in a week. The rest are spent brainstorming while in the gym or working on my other income generators.

Once you streamline everything it gets easy

[–]KermitTheeFrog777 27 points28 points  (8 children)

You forgot the much more vital necessity of appearing busy to your BOSS. Don't let his management failure make you appear to be disposable...(speaking from the same position as you!)

[–]malesromm[S] 19 points20 points  (7 children)

You bring up a great point. I would also add the importance of appearing busy to your coworkers, less they begin to resent you.

[–]FreeRadical5 9 points10 points  (4 children)

I'd argue the opposite. I had a habit of overcommitting and overloading myself and as a result always being terribly busy. Then every now and then when I'd get my shit barely under control, people would assume that I was free and give me more or get resentful.

Starting last year when I started a new job I completely changed that up. I would do the bare minimum possible and spend majority of my time at work researching, reading, shopping, socializing, working out etc. Then every now and then when I would work people would think I was busy. I actually got a promotion and ~35% pay raise... Now well into 6 figures. It comes down to setting the expectations low and then over delivering intermittently.

[–]voraciousparticles 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Couldn't agree more. Keep up the illusion of being busy to co-workers. If a project will take you 2 hours, say it will take you 8 hrs and then get it done in 5 hours. You overachieve and still slack. That being said Put your time into something you are passionate about (i. E. Side business /cash source that u take care of during working hours).

[–]skiff151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had this exact thing without moving job.

People don't give a shit how busy you are, just if you deliver for them. Killing yourself on too many things gets you nowhere.

[–]satanicpriest13 2 points3 points  (1 child)

In my previous organisation, there was no work to be done for anyone whatsoever. Everyone roamed about chatting. Only difference was, I walked around with a folder in my hand. Management and other people viewed me completely differently. Oh and when they asked how work was going, I just said good etc, instead of reminding them how no one has any work and were all fucking about.

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (5 children)

I think this is one of the benefits of having hobbies. Everyone at my wife's work is in awe because I actually do shit besides watch Netflix. I get out and do stand-up sometimes and play bass in a band a couple times a month.

Like anything else here, if you just have fun shit you like to do, you're already ahead of 95% of chumps and do-nothing bitches.

[–]squidracer 31 points32 points  (4 children)

I amazed at how many people sit around.

I live in a huge hoa that has hiking trails, stocked fishing lakes, 5 pools, 5 gyms, all free to residents..

I'll go for a walk on a beautiful night and you can just see all the TVs on from the houses

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. I would definitely get weirdly into fishing.

[–]Collector797 1 point2 points  (1 child)

5 pools and 5 gyms? Holy shit...

[–]squidracer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a big place so it has sections.. With trails going through all the sections

[–]Care_Asthma 8 points9 points  (2 children)

I appreciate this post. It's a long overdue reminder for me.

I have slowly been swallowing the red pill over the last 3-4 months. It wasn't easy accepting the truth that AWALT, and that women are not capable of love in the way that we love them. Women spout wanting to fall in love, when really all they man is to leech onto a man that can provide for them. This is my first post on TRP, actually.

Anyway, in regards to this thread, I especially relate to the comment about feeling this NEED to respond to texts from women, messages on OKCupid and the like, immediately. I have to FIGHT to not respond right away. I am sure it has been my downfall, as OP says, since yeah, duh, women don't want to date/fuck men who aren't busy or who have nothing better to do than text them back right away.

So, I am going to consciously wait a least a couple hours or till the end of the workday to reply. I currently work from home in one of my jobs, which makes it that much harder. But I will try, to the extent that I get any messages at all. I have an "alpha" mindset (though I will say, the way that term, and "beta", are thrown around on this sub are pretty fucking reductive and stupid. I have a feeling there are a lot of fat, basement-dwelling "alphas" on this sub), but my dating game has yet to reflect this.

Anyway, thanks for the reminder.

[–]sirfuckboysupreme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would argue that at times not replying at all is better! I used to believe that i needed to reply to everyone and everything. That is simply wrong. Reading and not replying gives the impression that you don't think their message warrants your time to reply. A smack to anyones ego (and it lets them know where your priorities are).

On not replying straight away, might i suggest actually being busy and changing your priorities. If you are working but need to reply this instant, then your work is not your priority. If you are at the gym and need to reply rather than smash that PR, then the gym is not your priority.

You should be your priority. Then everyone and everything after that. Focus on you and the rest falls in to place.

[–]_the_shape_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyway, in regards to this thread, I especially relate to the comment about feeling this NEED to respond to texts from women, messages on OKCupid and the like, immediately.

If you have to leave the house (especially for several hours), I highly recommend deliberately leaving your phone at home. Give it a shot. Yes, it will be excruciating in the beginning, but your mind will eventually adapt and you'll come to grips with the fact that there's nothing you can do about the circumstances you find yourself in ("I'm here, my phone is way over there, several miles away - what, am I going to hysterically go out of my way to retrieve it? Fuck it - out of sight, out of mind")

It took accidentally breaking my phone to stumble on this. Pathetic, yes, but egh, that's how it played out.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's definitely much better than responding every 5 minutes.

Best of all... respond in rapid succession for a few (she has your undivided attention)... then be busy for hours or days (depends on the girl and where you're at with her).

It's about the variation. The unpredictability. Rapid responses are fun and exciting, long delays are mysterious (and a bit infuriating). There must be no predictable formula: if she knows it always takes two hours to respond, she'll text and not expect anything for two hours. She'll get used to it.

She must never get fully comfortable with you. Keep mixing it up.

[–]1favours_of_the_moon 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Here's a tip for young guys just starting out.

Often times you will obtain a laborer position. Once you get done with all your assigned tasks, what young dudes have a tendency to do is to hang out with each other and shoot the shit.

The manager is testing you. He's letting you get done early to see how you react. HOW TO REACT: When you're done with your shit, GRAB A BROOM AND START SWEEPING THE FLOOR. This is a CLASSIC employer shit test type situation. And a CLASSIC thing that your employer will want to see.

None of the other guys will do it. They will be in the break room talking shit about sports. Don the manager comes back in, and believe me, he KNOWS how to time it, and he sees YOU are the one who grabbed the broom and "found something to do" by sweeping the floor.

You got potential. Could be management someday.

[–]VancouverSucks 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Most of my managers are retarded and are the ones talking about sports. I'm not sweeping the fucking floor.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 37 points38 points  (24 children)

When I worked (1990-2001) in the computer programming profession there was an infinite amount of thinking that kept you busy.

That's actually the biggest downside to that profession in that it's very hard to not be busy in the mind.

And I'm still the same way even without working for a decade and a half. I'll never be bored.

Why do they call it "Business"?

...because it is your Busy -ness.

 

[–]malesromm[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Interesting. I'm in the tech industry as well (not programming) and my impression has been that it's a mixed bag in terms of what your workload is. In some cases it's as simple as making sure that nothing is broken. But no matter how light the work is, you can always find ways to make your time valuable.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the type of project you are involved with.

If you are building the core infrastructure then you need to get really deeply into the problem and "hopefully" you are in an area with little legacy code to slow you down.

These days many jobs are either legacy or second hand implentation work... the grunt work. Not much thinking involved in grunt work.

Remember this was pre-internet in the beginning. (1990)

On one project my company visited another company that had this crazy new idea. Their idea was to use the analog cell phones to instead send "packets" of data just like the internet. We were astonished at the idea.

Of course today we accept packet based smartphones as a given, but back then they weren't even imagined yet.

 

[–]truthyego 7 points8 points  (2 children)

On occasion I had to do some programming in my last job. Sometimes I would literally bury my head in my hands, put my head down, and blank everything out so that I could conceptualize what exactly needed to be done next.

It of course looked like I was sleeping or crying, and occasionally had a coworker ask me if I was ok. But when approaching a wall, it was the best way to figure out how to proceed.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many times my most complex problems at work were solved at night in my dreams. The answer was always so obvious when asleep.

The conscious mind can labor because it is very stiff.

The unconscious mind is the Amused Mastery mind where things just float together... it's where the beauty is found.

 

[–]BuschMaster_J 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were palming your eyes that is very relaxing for them and a good destressor.

[–]cjsenecal 3 points4 points  (15 children)

This is the exact profession I'm heavily thinking on going back to school for. I want to keep busy.

I dislike my job right now and I'm unmotivated with my work. Hence why I'm on reddit.

[–]tuzki 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It depends. Feast or famine in most corporate dev jobs. Mismanagement makes dev hell, and most managers have no business (pun intended) being managers.

[–]sirencow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a self employed network eng and I've never been this tired of what I do .There's no longer the desire to wake up and go to the office like there was a few years ago.Been in for 10 years and the feeling for the last 2 is that I should do something entirely different .I'm soon taking a sabbatical to figure out things

[–]God_Mode_Challenge 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Upvote for being on TRP at work in a shit job you spend your day planning to escape from.

[–]cjsenecal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My overall mindset and lifestyle has drastically changed in the last two months and I cannot thank this subreddit enough. It has literally changed my life and will continue to do so.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (6 children)

If you have a masculine intellect and a decent IQ it would be foolish not to pursue STEM careers unless you have the ambition to get into upper management or to be independent and start your own business.

Many people do not have the brainpower.

Check your brain potential... if you have the digits (I'm 145 IQ) then you ought to use them to make some money.

Back in the 1990's they paid programmers better, so the money might not be as good.

I also bought real estate at the right time, so a double whammy.

Ten years of work, then I've been free for 15 years so far and will also inherit money when my mother passes away.

55 years old... ten years work, plus all those school years, then Freedom.

But I love tech stuff still so I have fun projects that I'm still into.

I "work" as passionately on my hobbies as I used to "work" for money.

 

[–]cjsenecal 1 point2 points  (5 children)

STEM jobs are highly sought after nowadays and will continue to grow in the future. If you have a degree in computer science or medicine you're golden.

I'm 25 now and I work in the architecture field. I'm not an architect but simply a CAD operator, so I'm basically at the bottom of the barrel as far as pay. One of the things my ex told me when she broke up with me (the reason I came to TRP in the first place, surprise surprise.) was that she didn't think I wanted more in my life. That really set me off and stuck with me because at the time she was right.

Now I'm applying to schools. When I was 18 I originally majored in CSCI but didn't apply myself and dropped out. Now I've made it full circle and would really like to get back into it. I've only completed a couple basic lessons through Codecademy learning HTML and walking through how to make a website. I just need to keep building and learning.

I love tech stuff myself. Always like to have the latest and greatest and I built my own computer so I know how they work, I just need to learn how to communicate with them.

Do you recommend any physical books? I have this one ready to buy already.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (3 children)

My advice is to seek the projects that seem the most intellectually challenging.

These days the mix of electronics / robotics / software / engineering is the complexity "sweet spot". Each discipline has an entirely different skillset so few people can be literate in all areas.

Be able to design a robot, program it and create the mechanical CAD specs for it and you should be golden.

Factory automation... manual labor is becoming less and less neccessary and the high paying jobs will be in these high tech cross training fields.

Software is headed into mind control now. (Google) Unless you want to join the psychopaths and create Blue Pill mind control programs I'd for the sake of your peace of mind choose factory automation.

My longest lasting friend of 45+ years (I'm 55) does CAD design for the military. He lives at home and designs weapons in a CAD program. He has people from all around the world that he sets up Skype conferences with.

I started as a Mechanical Engineer then went to Computer Science. My friend went into Mechanical Engineering only.

I've also picked up Electrical Engineering knowledge along the way.

You should know how to "build things" and "fix stuff"... these are things women and most men cannot do these days.

  • Mechanical Engineering

  • Computer Science

  • Electrical Engineering

  • Robotics

...by actually building something you know what you need to know.

Don't let people oversteer you down a narrow path unless it's in the specialty you choose to take.

There are too many specialists who are now made into a commodity... and paid less.

Don't be the "one trick pony".

 

[–]cjsenecal 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thank you for passing the knowledge, I appreciate it.

I'd like to go for my B.S. in Computer Science. The school I'm planning to attend gives the option of completing one of ten subtracks:

  • Software Engineering

  • Security & Privacy

  • Robotics, Vision, and Graphics

  • Artificial Intelligence

  • Computer Architecture

  • Networking

  • Software Systems

  • Programming Languages & Compilers

  • Theory of Computation

  • Search & Data Mining

Which would you choose in today's world?

Just looking for your personal opinion.

[–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pick one of:

  • Robotics, Vision, and Graphics

  • Artificial Intelligence

...Robotics will get you factory automation and AI will get you into the hardcore weird shit the globalist psychopaths are after.

If you want to get close to the psychopaths you pick AI, but be prepared to do things that go against your conscience because they will use AI as part of the Blue Pill to destroy humanity.

Robots in factories are $$$ but you don't have the mental pain of destroying people. (other than eliminating their jobs... but they are shitty jobs anyway so you are doing them a favor)

Depends on your personal tendencies.

If you are 666 (Machiavellian) pick AI, if 777 (Amused Mastery) pick Robotics.

Imagine working in a Tesla car factory configuring their robots.

OR:

Imagine working for Google and bending people using Game and mind control.

 

[–]TedTheAtheist 3 points4 points  (2 children)

You should visit Khanacademy.. do you know how to do all of that programming?

[–]cjsenecal 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I've been going through a few lessons through Codecademy to get started.

[–]genjuro_zero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dislike my job right now and I'm unmotivated with my work. Hence why I'm on reddit.

Same. Though I'm already in that profession.

[–]TheYoungOwl_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a lot more thought provoking than when I say "do what you love.."

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    [–]NeoreactionSafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I was in real estate for my investement.

    Sold the house in 2002 some years before the Housing Bubble peak.

    Fortunately my money was already tied up so nothing lost in the Stock Market.

    The house was increasing in value at 25% per year since 1997.

     

    [–]TheYoungOwl_ 14 points15 points  (4 children)

    You would think this kind of advice is common sense, but these are things that fellow men need to think about when securing success with the opposite sex.

    [–][deleted] 33 points34 points  (3 children)

    nah, it goes against what you're taught growing up. I think most if not all guys grow up hearing that girls want a 'sensitive guy that listens to them'. That's really the last thing they want, now we know

    [–]malesromm[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Exactly. Sometimes I'll be working out, hanging out with friends, etc and get a text from a girl I'm interested in. I'll rush to answer it as soon as possible, thinking that if I wait too long, she'll get mad at me and think less of me. But almost always, the exact opposite is true.

    [–]TheYoungOwl_ 23 points24 points  (1 child)

    Haha I heard it too, but there's that famous quote by that famous scientist that goes "doing the same thing 1000 times and expecting different results is the definition of insanity."

    I still listen to women and practice human sympathy, I just don't put up with their bullshit and tantrums anymore, and I never trust her word.

    [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    yeah for sure

    it's crazy how some people still refuse to believe things like this though

    [–]IVIimes 4 points5 points  (4 children)

    How can I apply this during the Summer at the end of my senior year of highschool? I don't need a job and working out/playing sports can only take up so much of my time on certain days of the week.

    [–]malesromm[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    Get ready for college in whatever way you can. I'm jealous of you, college is a shit ton of fun and you wont want to be spending that much time actually studying when there are so many other fun things you can be doing.

    This summer, try to take off some of the pressure you'll inevitably have once you start college. Exercise a lot. Buy some decent clothes so you that you're a step above the other freshmen. If possible, see if you can get a head start on some of your classwork--if you're taking a programming class, it can't hurt to learn some basic programming skills. Get a job so you have money for beer etc. Most of all have fun and enjoy yourself

    [–]thor_meaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Study abroad your between your 2nd and 4th semester. Chances are you'll be taking your basics, which don't matter and can be taken anywhere. Once you go deep into your core classes, there is less leniency to travel abroad. Also, chances are your university's tuition cost will transfer to wherever you wanna go

    Travel and make yourself interesting

    [–]MrRaspberryJamz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If your school has Greek life, figure out what the top fraternities are and get as much info as possible. Your social proof will go through the roof if you get into one and you will always have something to do.

    This will put you miles ahead of the other kids sitting in their rooms all day eating Cheetos and jerking off.

    [–]unicorn-carousel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Nice, I do this to job recruiters too. They seem eager to blab out bigger numbers when I use TRP's advice.

    I found my natural rhythm and a bunch of hippie shit, but practically speaking, I have a few blocks in my day where I know I'll be having lunch between 11:30-2:30ish 95% of the time, so I only say I'm available then for lunch interviews then. If they want an onsite, I give 3-4/5 days for a week. If They want a phone call, I give a couple small time windows on about 3 of the days. I also distinct days if I have multiple threads hanging. Removes all scheduling friction, which just blocks you getting in the door. Smooth logistics only, basically.

    It's sick. Sometimes I'm honestly busy, otherwise I only have a phone call at 3pm.... LOL.

    Edit: They key of power is having your own visual guide to decipher the projected chaos, i.e. a calendar. I say this because I didn't always have calendars and it was hard as fuck to schedule multiple things... take nothing for granted :)

    Edit 2: I'm in tech and fucking awesome at what I do, so recruiters are always on my nuts. YMMV if you're not in a sought after position (why the fuck not? GET IT).

    [–]TrueJeeper 14 points15 points  (7 children)

    In my opinion, you should always be busy anyway. If you aren't busy at work, you're busy improving yourself (learning, working out, etc.). If you aren't busy improving yourself, you should be busy improving your relationships. If you aren't busy improving your relationships, you should be busy improving the static things around you that your life relies on (your home, your vehicle, etc.). To me, there's no excuse to ever be doing truly nothing

    [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (4 children)

    Meditation and appreciation of life. Doing nothing is the greatest thing, but it's a challenge to truly let go and be at peace.

    [–]RPthrowaway123 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    This is a big challenge for me. I have ADHD, and even with medication my mind wants to go a mile a minute. I try to sit still and 5 minutes feels like 5 hours.

    [–]adam_varg 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Keep trying. Thing of meditation as it is lifting. It works like that. You are that bonybro kid who struggle to lift empty bar. Just keep trying and it will come. Propably after weeks to months of effort. But its worth it. One thing i can promise you about mediation (or lifting) that after 6 months of consistent effort you wont regret time and effort you spent.

    At start i struggled same as you do, now i would hate not finding out time for atleast 15min every day and if my body (can sit still without pain for long) and time schedule allowed it i would love to meditate for hours.

    [–]RPthrowaway123 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I will try again then. there's so many things I want to improve right now I don't even know where to start. Some things like fitness I have a great handle on already, others like social life and status I have no fucking clue.

    [–]adam_varg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I know that feeling very well.

    Dont be me. I would slap myself for not starting meditation right off the bat years ago when i found out about it and postponing.

    Thing is it make everything you need to work on easier and you will progress in selfactualization faster. The more trouble you have with concentration, frame or anxiety now the more it will help. Its brain workout afterall.

    Downside is progression is like with lifting. You will feel better immediately, you will see nice progress 3-6months, but major change (killer frame etc) will happen after 1-2 years.

    [–]HappyMexican 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    I like this advice. Trying to get the motivation/energy to get some sort of tier system set up. I find that 1.Job is covered 2.Diet is covered, I find I am at a loss of what to do. I have hobbies (Music/animation), but live alone and start feeling too depressed to work on them during the week. I work from home a lot too. Starts getting hard to leave my own room, and even clean up after myself. Get in the wtf ever mode ("Whats the point?" mode), even through I never really have zero days anymore, but nothing I do latly seems to go right.

    Weight loss has been slow as shit for the last year, and I find I have to pedal to the medal perfect diet just to lose one pound. Only Plate I have bailed on me months ago, and despite going out most weekends and really trying nothing has worked out. Dry spell, low calorie diet, well paying but boring job and general frustration at life makes me pretty depressed and kills my want to do anything I think.

    [–]God_Mode_Challenge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If weight loss is your goal try doing Rawtil4 high carb vegan diet. Its mostly fruit, rice, potato, and veggies, and is excellent for energy levels and weight loss. I'm not some paid promoter, I'm only telling you this because it changed my life. Keep working. Being a man worth a shit is a fucking grind.

    [–]vagbutters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    This is especially true of texts/phone alerts-- the longer you take to reply, in general, the more likely people are to respect you for being busy.

    [–]BobBobCan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I don't believe that simply being late to texts or always seeming busy is necessarily the only takeaway here. It´s more about not concerning yourself with consuming thoughts and concerns that steals your time and mental space. I admit, I used to be heavy into texting, checking social media, listening endlessly to people about their issues and on and on. Constantly distracted. But at some point you have to stop and just reassess what you´re doing with your time. Where the hell those 16-18h end up in. It´s like calorie counting: Unless you´re counting, you don´t really know what you are doing. If you´re not planning your time, someone/something else will steal that time.

    [–]Stythe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    This is amusing to me as I e always noticed friends and family reach out if I go awal too long. Some time ago I cut my social life down to a almost nothing and now I've started re-entering and noticed how much leverage it's given me. The distance created a rift between people and they're still not entirely sure how to interprete me sometimes. This gives me a lot of freedom I didn't have when I was pegged as my former self.

    [–]Overzealous_BlackGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It should be clear that this should apply to everyone not just plates and women you are in relations with. I know you touched on it, but no one really needs to know exactly what you do everyday; it justs gives people something to stand on, something to judge you by, this goes for accomplishments as well.

    Nobody wants to hear about your accomplishments unless they find out about them on their own. No one cares about your gym routine until they see your six pack, and when they ask give them as little as possible "I just lift the weights, the heavy ones."

    Mystery gives people the room to paint the beautiful picture they see of you in their mind.

    Think about how you view famous people vs. When you find out odd truths about them. They slowly start to become more human and less appealing.

    "I'M BUSY" is one of my most favorite lines ever.

    Everyone thinks im productive. My girl thinks im cheating. My plates think im with other plates. My friends are always jumping to hang out with me. My family thinks im a hard worker.

    This goes for social media as well. Keep variety and a low quantity in your picture.

    If all your pictures are in the same places you dont seem interesting.

    If all you got is selfies it shows no one wants to take a picture of you. Always make someone else take your picture.

    Also never post pictures of you at home.

    [–]prostaddict 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    When you have downtime, I highly recommend small talking with key players in your office. Aside from that - study, study. I made 6 figs in 3 years after college by building the right netwotk and studying certs in my downtime. Then you wont have to pretend

    [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    Don't have to pretend son. I am busy all the fucking time. Pretending you are busy works to an extend - after all a woman comes in touch with the world that you serve for her. But she will see through your games if you are not actually busy.

    [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    People are as busy as they chose to. We live in surplus and to have food and shelter and a decently comfortable life we don't have to work much. But a lot of us chose it because of the challenge.

    [–]Cocunutmilk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Fuck this hit hard at home

    [–]smfc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    tbh i just ignore everyone except my close friends and family if they aren't talking money. bitches too, you ain't getting cash and you broke then get the fuck away from me.

    [–]Sylvester_Marcus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    The George Costanza theorem.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I'm training to be a mechanic. Once I finish, I'll be working in an apprenticeship and saving my cheques to pay for welding training. I used to be shy about talking to girls about what I do, since I'm not even an apprentice yet. I'm a pre-apprentice. That's nowhere near as impressive as having a real job and pulling in big money, right?

    However, I've noticed that if I frame it as less of a downside and more of a positive thing, it works totally in my favour.

    Like, I have a long-term plan that I'm working towards achieving. I'm making progress and learning interesting new stuff every day. I can feel myself becoming more capable and confident with every project I complete. I'm so much more happy and confident now than I was in university, or even in school.

    It all seems to come together as a "mission", like OP says. A mission that I am slowly but surely accomplishing. And girls seem to lap that up. Like, I get so many compliments. A common reaction is for them to giggle and say something along the lines of "Oh, I know nothing about cars...", inviting me to demonstrate my knowledge and confidence.

    I'll usually reply with a light neg, such as: "Pity, and I was so sure you were interesting! Still, I'm sure you must be good at something, right?". Establishes me as the dominant party in the conversation, and makes her want to seem more interesting in my eyes.

    It's good fun, and really goes to show how self-image projects outwards and affects how you come across to potential mates. I still have a lot of progress still to make, but I'm now pretty confident on the subject of how to conduct myself in conversation with the opposite sex; and how to maintain confidence in myself and my goals.

    [–]idgaf- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Between books, guitar, meditation, sleep, there is never any non-busy or non-productive time. Even leisure is important for decompression. Every second of your life is precious.

    [–]kayne2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    twiddling your thumbs will keep you busy!!! I mean if you are going to use them to text....this is a better use your thumbs.

    [–]jav253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Sadly this isn't always true. I know a guy who was divorced because he was always working, and the wife felt "lonely". If your going to do the workaholic thing you better figure out how to also make room for some time to water the Wife. A night out once a week or something.

    [–]Benny757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Corp America here. Don't. Mess. With. Tex. ...ting her more than the obligatory once briefly then maybe after work. Period. You need to show (even fake it til you make it) that your job is kick ass and worthy and you are busy exercising your skills.

    Now, if you have that job, and you can fly under the radar, and do 2, 3, or 4 hours of productive work a day and waste away the rest, then if you want to be promoted, you have to do more. Volunteer on committees, go above and beyond, make your team's and boss's life easier and more professional.

    But, if you text "baby" all day, you are fucked and a loser. You'll be noticed, you know. Right? Get to fucking work! Be a rock star at your employment.

    [–]luke609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    When are you going to tell us how you read minds to somehow know what your wife is thinking and feeling?

    [–]martin-eden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    True that. To my experience, if you keep playing busy even if you aren't, one of the first things that you'll notice is how much value you'll get in return when you contact/meet people. For instance, tell her that you are about to attend a very important meeting today while you are sitting on your desk and preparing a chillout playlist on Spotify. You'll be surprised of her reactions if you keep doing this sort of things.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'm not going to pretend to be busy for someone who is not my equal. I'm a free man god damn it. I do whatever I please.

    [–]in_monk_mode -3 points-2 points  (3 children)

    What if you need the validation that comes with texting with your girl?

    [–]squidracer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Text a different girl every day??

    [–]Care_Asthma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Then you are in trouble and need to disassociate your self-esteem from her actions.