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Off Topic5 Tips To Improve Your Sex Game (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Alpha_Jedi

I wanted to share a few tips that can help take your intimacy and sex game to the next level. A large part of sex is mental, and many of these tips are rooted in stimulating the mental game to make your physical game that much more powerful.

Let me get this out of the way and say that I am talking about activities between consenting adults. I know for most of you that have some sense this is apparent, but for those of you that might misinterpret my meaning, I only advocate consensual activities between adults. Now that that's out of the way, on to the juicy content:

5. The "Tantric Pause." One idea from the Tantra is the concept of delayed gratification. The reasoning is that by delaying the gratification, the reward will be much more intense and pleasurable once received. Taking this idea, one thing I have found that makes make out sessions and sex much more intense is during heavy kissing or sex, to go in as if I am going to kiss the girl, but then stopping frozen when my nose is just about to touch hers. This creates a break in the action as well as a tease scenario, and by being able to hold still while looking directly in her eyes, it builds excitement, connection and anticipation. The best part is that it usually takes about 5 second before the girl becomes so overwhelmed with excitement and tension that she passionately will grab me and kiss me, allowing us to resume the activities with the passion amplified. She lost control and I didn't; which not only shows the power of her desire for me; but also keeps the balance of Frame in my favor.

This is also a great display of discipline, as you will be demonstrating that even while having passionate, bed-breaking sex, you are still master of your domain and have absolute self control to be able to pause sex at will, just because you can. It shows you possess dominance, not only over her pleasure but also over your own, and that is a man that truly is Alpha and worth competing for.

4. Getting "lost" in a kiss. This is a passionate tease tactic that is the inverse of the Tantric Pause. This is something I usually do when saying goodbye, and is very useful when the relationship hasn't been consummated yet. What this involves is during a goodbye make out session, I begin by being firm yet gentle with my kissing. Then, after a few moments, a sudden flash of hot and heavy gets introduced as I firmly squeeze her body into mine while giving her a long, hard, passionate kiss. I then immediately pull back with a smile while looking in her eyes.

What this does is give her a brief flash of raw, unfiltered passion which leaves her wanting to see how she can extract more of it from you. Also, it allows you to create the Frame of "being caught up in the moment" and allows her to get sucked deeper into the moment as well. The key is to be firm but gentle, passionate, but in control. The illusion is that you've temporarily lost control, but by pulling back it creates a bit of doubt as you "catch yourself." This is a great note to end an encounter on and as they say in show business; "always leave them wanting more."

3. The "out of the blue" ass-smack. This one has been discussed elsewhere plenty of times, but I love employing it so much that I had to share my thoughts. I only use this with women that I have had sex with. Mostly because after sex it feels way more natural, but also I feel that once you've had sex, this maneuver is best suited the present dynamic of the relationship. Essentially, this is giving a girl a firm, playful smack right on the ass, usually followed with a smirk and a wink, and can be done after sex or just hanging out, usually around the house.

This action reinforces the playful dynamic of the relationship as well as shows you're not afraid to display some dominance every now and again. It's like a subtle reminder of "that ass belongs to you" which is a playful way to play the conqueror. Hence why I only do this after I have had sex with a girl. To me, doing so before hand is not authentic in that the terrain hasn't been conquered yet.

2. The "Villain's Choke Hold." This move is a next-level power move that if done right will show your dominance, raw physical strength and can drive a girl wild with passionate lust for you. The Villain's Choke Hold is pretty much what it sounds like. While having passionate sex; and not hum drum "love making" because this maneuver will be way out of place; it's best to do this with girl on top as it makes logistics easier. It can be done from missionary or if you're fingering her to make her squirt, but for the sake of explaining this I will use the example of the girl being on top, in the cowgirl position. So, while having passionate sex with the girl on top facing me, I will suddenly sit fully up and place my hand around her throat. I will then firmly, but gently (remember, control is everything) squeeze to lightly choke her while I pull her face about an inch from mine and I stare intensely into her eyes, much like many villains do in movies where' they are choking out some poor soul. After a few seconds I'll continue to passionately have sex, usually pulling her in for a deep kiss first.

This move is a total show of raw dominance that works on several levels. First, on a primal level, it shows that your physical strength is literally capable of crushing her. She will be able to physically feel your power in way she hasn't experience it before. That danger factor makes things more exciting and intense, and also shows that you have the physical capability to exert more force and could use this same force to defend her. Secondly, it's a very overt showing your dominance and is a reminder that you can be an untamed wild man at times. This fierceness works as it shows your are the conqueror, not the conquered. Lastly, most men don't have the balls to pull a move like this because they "don't want to be even slightly rough with their delicate flower." This move show's you're a man that takes what he wants, when he wants and is beholden only to his Frame and knows better than to put her on a pedestal and treat her like an equal sexual being.

Usually after doing this move the girl I am having sex with get a lot wetter and even more turned on, and in a few cases this move brought them to the edge of an orgasm and it only took a few strokes after to finish the job.

1. The "Jedi Breath Trick." I call this one the "Jedi Breath Trick" because it involves the girl having her eyes closed and having to rely on her sense of touch to feel you, much like a Jedi closing their eyes in order to "feel the force." In order to do this, I will either use a sleeping eye cover or a tie (anything that can act as a blindfold will do) and cover the girl's eyes. Then, while she is laying on her back naked, I will bring my face about an inch away from her body, and then I will exhale a hot, deep breath over her body. I usually start around the neck or stomach, and then I move my face all over her body as I exhale. I never do it in her face as that is not sexy, but what I usually do is run my breath over her body, starting around her breasts and then making my way down to her vagina. From there I will get between her legs, and then continue to run my breath between her inner things and vagina, before focusing my breather on her vagina, and eventually finishing with some licking or kissing that leads into eating her out.

What's great about this technique is that it puts you in a dominate role as you are in full control of what happens next. And since her eyes are closed, she has no idea what you're going to do next. By using your breath, you can let her "feel you" without physically touching her, as your warmth from your breath makes a soothing sound and the movement of your head moves the warmth to various parts of her body. Her not being able to see increases her anticipation as well as intensifies her sense touch, so she can experience a heighten sense of awareness.

Another great thing about this technique is that is can be combined with other things, such as she can be tied up to the bed as well or you can finger her while you breath over her breasts or do as I do and transition it into oral sex. A word of caution, sometimes a girl will be ticklish or a little overwhelmed by this, so she may squirm and writhe around uncontrollably and unexpectedly. I'd suggest starting around the neck or breasts and making your way south slowly, just to see how her body reacts. But the girls I have been with and myself have had a lot of fun with this, and several of them got so turned on they actually had orgasms when I moved my breath across their bodies down to their vaginas and focused my breath on their vaginas for a minute.

Final Thought

Please remember to excise control and be safe. Sex is a fun and amazing experience, but you can take things to far and you can physically injure yourself or other person. Also remember that sex is about consent, so if you try any of these and the person doesn't respond positively to them, then you know this particular thing doesn't do it for them. Keep it consensual and use your judgement. Try one or all of these out and see how they fit into your style and can impact your sex game.


[–]FaderOne 185 points186 points  (47 children)

Good post, some new ideas. Exactly the type of stuff I come to the sub for… Thanks for sharing.

I’ve never met a girl so far, in over 30+ lays that does not want to be choked. It’s hilarious

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 77 points78 points  (4 children)

Glad to share. The phrase "choke me daddy" could be the new national anthem

[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat[🍰] 10 points11 points  (17 children)

Really? I've had girls ask me for "exposed" sex...in a public toilet, on a train, on a park bench...

But none of them asked to be choked.

You serious that they like it?

[–]1Metalageddon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah most do in my experience.

I usually introduce it in the first session which is dependably passionate. When you need to get a good grip on her just keep grabbing different things until you settle on her neck. Pull downward to lock it and ensure it is a firm grip and anchor her hips to you, don't squeeze too hard, it's more about having an iron immovable grip than a constricting one.

If your hands are large, like mine, you can pin her against something without doing damage too. Seem to really like that.

Then just pound away.

[–]FaderOne 6 points7 points  (11 children)

Yeah I think a lot of things go into it… Thru a combination of trial and error (no dead bodies!) and reading a lot of posts about it this is what I’ve learned:

There are two paths you can follow one is the one of direct consent where you are asking if “is it okay if I choke you lightly, while I fuck you of course”… You have to be confident cool and hush, act like you know exactly what you’re doing. Smirk, look amused, etc. The other path you can follow is just by doing it in the heat of the moment, I found the second path tends to work out perfectly and it’s almost nonverbal communication that it’s OK and wanted after you start doing it lightly…You can often see them smile, feel them pushing their neck into your hand, etc.

Some general rules...Never use two hands, that can get out of hand quickly, always remember that you are strong and a neck can be fragile – use force appropriately with this in mind, besides having a SafeWord also the physical gestures that can be used to stop…mix in some kissing while you are choking so you do not look like a lunatic that just gets off on trusting and choking.

And for fucks sake lift weights, as nothing is more embarrassing then wanting to choke something but being so weak that all you are doing is the equivalent of a light hand hug.

[–]TheNextMilo 25 points26 points  (5 children)

“is it okay if I choke you lightly, while I fuck you of course”

Read that in an Indian voice.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

can i proceed to cunnilinge the vagine ma'am

[–]TheNextMilo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beta (Indian word for son) who are you talking to?

[–]BaronIncognito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And then terrorize them with a mountain cat!

[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok I'll keep it in mind and see if my next girl is interested...

Thanks for the tips.

[–]DayGameChirality 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Where exactly do you choke? I think there are some safety rules.

[–]FaderOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right under the chin, where the throat meets the bottom of the face

[–]heartbroken_nerd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I read opening post by /u/Alpha_Jedi, I had this thought: if isolating one of the senses (sight) amplifies others, what else can we do? And then it struck me:

What if I equip myself with some soundproof earplugs and make the girl use them during a sex session (especially in combination with using a blindfold and/or tying her to the bed).

Not only will she be unable to see what I am doing, but also she'll barely be able to hear me breathing or physically moving around. Her experience of the heat of my breath and me touching her body would be even more amplified.

Thoughts on this, anyone? I'm so going to try it out myself.

[–]MisterRoid 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I don't know about choking, but the girls I have had sex with have liked it when I have held them by the throat while fucking them.

[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat[🍰] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I've heard of girls liking hair pulling, but not the throat thing. I will try it (consensually)

[–]bragbragz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its very individual, but you can change how hard you choke and how hard you pull

[–]bragbragz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Short answere, yes. Long one, yes.

[–]all4gibs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same with the 12ish i’ve had the past couple years

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[–]Leonidas_79 52 points53 points  (0 children)

”moans like a dying animal”

Oh my days, a perfect description if ever there was one lmfaoooooo

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The sound of a job well done...one of the things I live for

[–]courtesy_flush_plz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

we need to have a small creepy/funny meme box plz

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy shit dude - "moans like a dying animal" - I'm adding that one to my to-do list!

[–]courtesy_flush_plz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to give props on a more meaningful level than a like sometimes

[–]ImHerWonderland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw a post a while back about a girl talking about a guy doing this to her. Maybe it was on this sub

[–]metallicdrama 52 points53 points  (1 child)

Sex has never been better for me since I stopped giving a shit about them. Just treat them like a fleshlight. Amazing every time.

[–]Kennigmatic 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Don’t crush her larynx.

Place your thumb and fingers where her jugular veins are, and gently squeeze.

[–]Don_Himself 49 points50 points  (0 children)

  1. Always rape-fuck

...that's it

[–]all4gibs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the last one mentioned is not for me, but i’ve used all others and they work very well. the closest to that last one i guess is using my belt on her as a leash while doggystyling? idk, not very close

throating a girl is good too, where while getting head you force her head down for about 5 seconds longer than what’s comfortable for her. if you see tears from gagging, then it’s good. in terms of acceptability, this is on par with choking in terms of dominance

[–]bluepillcarl 14 points15 points  (2 children)

But what if you are more into star trek... What then? Thanks.

[–]silverhog1 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Then you give her the ‘spocker’

2 in the pink, 2 in the stink!

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call it the "Vulcan Breath Trick"

[–]DadOnDabs 7 points8 points  (1 child)

These are solid. 10/10!

Only thing I'll add is on the Jedi Breath trick. Try doing this to her ear and watch the sparks fly. You'll shoot chills down her entire body.

[–]almostshredded 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Need more, these are all natural

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That'll be for another post

[–]1Sir_Distic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'll add another. I will kiss a girl, especially her neck and gently nibble her earlobe. DO NOT stick your tongue in her ear. kiss down from her earlobe to her collarbone, then softly, ever so softly, lick back up to her earlobe and suck/nibble on it. Then kiss/lick back down. I've had women begging me to fuck them in a minute of doing that.

[–]Rares5555 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I’ve tried choking, but my girl seems not to like it. I usually take her back and do a rear naked choke on her. She seems to enjoy it.

Jokes aside, one thing I want to add here is practicing the dominant frame. If you feel uncomfortable choking or manhandling women, the effect will not be the same.

[–]Milk_moustache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get all the hair on the back of her head in your hand and just grab it into a fist. Same sort of effect.

[–]1GreenPiller 14 points15 points  (16 children)

What if I have a small benis? I would like to try jelking but a purple penis isn't very aesthetic

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

All of these tips here still apply, they can help get things started before or reinforce your Game after.

[–]BrownGummyBear 8 points9 points  (11 children)

Learn to eat pussy like a champ and your penis' size won't matter

[–]lordkrink 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Purple penis > small penis

[–]Yoasted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends how small we talking? Jelqing works too. Just takes some time. Probably start now if you want results in 3 months to a year.

[–]Luckyluke23 2 points3 points  (1 child)

great post man, I like the fact it has the WHY and the how... not just some lame. " yeah nar you should do this it's good ay" kind of bullshit.

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I try to make my posts actionable

[–]PhaedrusHunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those familiar with BJJ. Put a rolled up towel or pillowcase behind her neck, or just have her wear a robe. Baseball bat choke, turn the corner to teabag. Or facefuck.

I'm telling you man, they LOVE it.

[–]frankreyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the pause a few days ago. She loved it.

[–]provoqate 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You, sir, are the mvp. Have been using those here and there from beginning and they are for sure are fun and helpful things to do. Most of girls (even the most shy ones) loves to get choked or dominated, telling from my own experience. Thanks for posting.

[–]Alpha_Jedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words, glad you enjoyed the post.

[–]SlippinJimmii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tldr - blow to cool down before eating

[–]Your_Coke_Dealer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The names you have for these things are Cosmo-tier shit, but decent advice for all the guys here who can't lay pipe correctly.

Bonus reason to do this: if you finish too fast, anything that doesn't involve moving your dick, like the stuff on this list, makes it last longer as far as a woman is concerned.