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Red Pill TheoryValue Your Time (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by BurnoutRS

Many of the core tenets of TRP revolve around one simple truth. That truth, should you wish to accept it, is that you only have so much time and it is constantly running out. Given this knowledge, I would hope that a number of things become clear to you as they have to me.

1) Strive to Enjoy Yourself This doesnt mean living a life filled with sex, drugs and partying. A wise man once said that there are two ways to live a good and easy life. The first way is to be rich, the second is to live in a way that requires as little money as possible. Now you can argue against that pretty easily, but it stand to illustrate my point. Learn to enjoy things more. Learn how to make things more enjoyable. Doing shitty work? take a deep breath and think about your mission. Think about what the money youre going to earn will do for you. Meditate. Learn to appreciate moments for what they are and the experience they offer you

2 Make Moments and Take Moments There are certain things you will never be able to do again. I was taking a walk downtown once in a city I had never been in. Something about this building I passed caught my eye. I checked the door and saw it was open. Inside was a man and the room was mostly empty save for a few paintings. I asked the man where it was that I had walked into and found myself swept up into a wonderful conversation about the art in the gallery I had stumbled upon. This is something I value greatly. Learn to take notice of the little opportunities life affords you. They often come about in the form of curiousities. This is the stoo and sme the roses aspect of enjoying yourself. It's also wonderful for dates. You only need an idea of where to go, a city street, a country road and then you just follow whatever catches your eye.

3 Invest Your Time You get something like 18 retard years where you're mainly subject to the whims of the people above you at school or at home. You dont have much direction or drive during this time until eventually you switch on. Some people never really do. If youre here reading this, you definitely have. Youre aware that you have only got so much time, so you need to figure out what to do with it. old age probably brings about another 10-20 retard years. If you really look at it you get about 40 years where your body and mind are decent enough that youre not constantly in pain or forgetting which pants you shit in, you have a greater potential to be attractive, etc. So youve got options here. You can settle for putting in enough effort to take home hb5 bar skanks and then fuck hordes of them. You might get a higher overall N-count than a man who spends more time improving himself so as to game 10's. This is living in a way that requires as little money as possible vs being rich. The point being that you can trade some of your good years in the form of time spent improving yourself, and in turn that can enhance the quality of your leisure tims. Id lift, if nothing else because that the one thing where you can put in time now to get more time later. More healthy years

4 Identifying and Mitigating Timesucks You can bring a book to read in the waiting room at the doctors office, you can listen to a podcast on your commute to work. You can practice social skills on idiots who waste your time. Learn to categorize and prioritze behaviours in a hierarchy based on which ones will have the greatest reward to you or the greatest return or investment. There are several areas of value to be aware of. Financial, mental/spiritual and physical value are probably the most important. They all feed each other. Money problems stress you out and thats a mental burden. Being stressed, overworking yourself, not taking a needed rest can burn you out and that takes a toll on you physically, mentally and if left unchecked can prevent you from working to your full potential.

5 Bringing It All Together Ok so we value our time because we recognize it for what it is. Every passing moment is potential. You get good at capitalizing on that potential and your life improves greatly. You start to see these moments as opportunities to improve. The more you improve the more powerful you feel and it starts to get fucking addictive. This is part of what I mean by saying "enjoy yourself" and "learn to enjoy work". See when im in the gym the harder I push myself the more I enjoy myself. When im doing an approach the more nervous and outside my comfort zone I am, the better.

You learn to see your time as a means to an end. You need a moment because youve been working really hard. So you take a breather, do a quick meditation, get a snack, a nice drink of water, maybe watch a video. You limit yourself to that short break and feel good because not only are you refreshed from your break, you were responsible which in turn makes you confident. This part is painfully obvious to me now but I used to be the kind of person who shirked off all personal responsibility and then developed an anxiety disorder because I was so accutely awate of my own incompetance. You keep your shit together and your ability to believe you can keep your shit together increases. Which in turn increases your ability to keep your shit together. Its a positive feedback loop.

If you get what Im saying you learn to enjoy every moment and just live in it. mindfulness and meditation are a key in this process. When you take your time into your own hands, when you make every moment a conscious effort and decision, you begin to truly live. Im not just hanging out with friends, im engagin gin the act of socializing, blowing off steam and testing and improving my social skills with a softer audience. Im not just cooking this healthy meal, Im taking time to invest in my health, im learning a useful skill and saving money.

Live with the majority of your being rooted in the present, with a careful eye tuned to that which may improve your present in the future


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[–]CarthaginianSalt 87 points88 points  (0 children)

'People are frugal in spending their money; but as soon as it comes to spending their time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy.' - Seneca

[–]daffy_duck233 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I find this helps to ease the social anxiety too because i was often worried about a future that might never even come.

[–]crespo_modesto 4 points5 points  (3 children)

On the Shortness of Life

Nice throwing that on my audible wishlist or buying it now, reading 48 laws

[–]Cos_7_ate_9 8 points9 points  (2 children)

It's on YouTube if you don't want to buy it.

[–]crespo_modesto 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Edit: oh good point, the dineros have been sent already alas

[–]Black_m0ngoose 103 points104 points  (15 children)

I walked outside to see the sunset. My chest, shoulders, and the inside of my quads were sore. My dad was inside- we just got done discussing something about a girl he cared for.

My dog was outside, she has a bit of grey on her snout. She's getting older.

My 30th birthday is coming up in 2 months.

This moment, this feeling, will never come again .

It will only become crazier from here.

All the possibilities for my life were stretched out before me- all the sights, the conflicts, the potential. Perhaps a visit to Japan? Fuck some of the locals- make new friends.

Win a new competition.

Eat some good food.

Learn a new skill.

Become a master of my own destiny.

The question- will I have the strength and the resolve to seize it?

Time will tell. There is something to be enjoyed in everything- the pain and the bad times prime you for the good times. They give the perfect contrast to the good things in life.

Make every minute count. Make every moment matter. Make everyday you trudge on worth it.

[–]BurnoutRS[S] 30 points31 points  (3 children)

This is all we will ever get. Some of us are gonna watch tv. Some of us have mountains to climb. Nowadays you get to the top of Everest and you can pull out your phone and watch tv up there. Theres something beautiful about it. Really at the end of the day you just have to ask "did I do what I came here to do?"

[–]Half-biT 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Did I do what I came here to do? That is a really good question that is going help me re-focus when I need to. Thank you

[–]360NoSnooper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, from me too, for that question...

[–]Chaddeus_Rex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This moment, this feeling, will never come again

This reminded me of an RP quote from the movie Troy (a pretty RP movie),

I'll tell you a secret. Something they don't teach you in your temple. The Gods envy us. They envy us because we're mortal, because any moment might be our last. Everything is more beautiful because we're doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again.

[–]ay013523 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, goosebumps. You're an excellent writer

[–]throwitdown92011 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Love this.

On another note, fucking locals in Japan is damn near impossible, just got back from there.

[–]WolfofAnarchy 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Just got back from there, it's very much possible. Just gotta be in the right circumstances.

[–]throwitdown92011 1 point2 points  (3 children)

You speak Japanese? The only way I could see with the English speaking ones is by lying to them that I'd be there for more than a few days, and I'm not into that

[–]WolfofAnarchy 0 points1 point  (2 children)

That's your mistake. Also, I speak no Japanese. Just got really relaxed and cocky game.

They're not that great though tbh! I like Westerners more.

[–]throwitdown92011 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lol you told them you lived there then just peaced? I was thinking about it, was only in Tokyo for two nights. Couldn't even get into a decent strip club or find a whore in Kabukicho because of their gaijin rule.

[–]WolfofAnarchy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The gajin rule sucks, men need to unwind.

I indeed told them I lived there!

[–]Retiredmagician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RemindMe! In two days "Give this guy gold"

Great comment man, I can honestly relate pretty well to it.

[–]dontbethatguynow 24 points25 points  (6 children)

interesting i was about to write a post somewhat similar, but mostly from a financial standpoint. I guess i'll hold off for another time.

If you're doing life right and are financially well off you need to realize that your time has a value to it, then use that value to delegate responsibilities. My time is valued on average at $60, nothing crazy but pretty good for where i'm located (money is relative to where you live). I've been cutting my own grass for as long as i remember, takes me about 2 hours ($120). I got a few quotes and found a lad that would do it for ($70) to me that's about $50 in my pocket. Same with cleaning my place and other chores.

Even changing my oil. I've always done my own oil changes, but realized by the time its said and done, to get out in the garage buy the oil and get it done its about $30 and and hour of my time ($60) for a total of $90. I can stop at a quick lube and get it done in 15 minutes for $40. essentially saving me $50 plus my time.

Don't be a cheap ass and don't be afraid to delegate. You're time has value, and if your doing the right things that value will go up.

[–]BurnoutRS[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

This is so important. I encourage you to write that post, for my sake at least. Im 23 so I try not to write much about finance given that I dont have much experience with it. Its really important though. I wish I touched more on the monetary value of your time because thats how Ive come to see it and seeing it that way has become very beneficial to me.

You gotta see the point of diminishing returns. My dad bought a log splitter a year ago. We should have got one 20 years ago when my parents moved out to the country. 2 grand for a machine that turns a days work into an hours work. My dad makes something like $50 and hour. thats 40 hours of work it cost him to buy the log splitter. Its more than paid for itself in the amount of time its saved.

Important to note that this doesnt become a diet chips thing. "im saving all this time so now ive got more time to waste doing nothing!". "theyre half the calories so I can eat twice as many!"

[–]dontbethatguynow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You made another great point about having the right tool for the job. it goes along pretty well with what i was getting at. My old man was redoing a subfloor in one of my buildings and was gonna use a hammer and nails.... it would have took him 2 days, and a lot of physical hammering. I bought a $150 framing nailer, got it done in 4 hours. It paid for itself in 1 use, i have it for future use, and still has salvage value if i feel i don't need it.

I have a post on finance from a few months back if you wanna dig into, pretty beginner stuff on how to save cash and make more

[–]yomo86 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Love this approach. Just as an unsolicited advice. Only delegate things you either cannot do without gaining substantial knowledge in a field that is not of interest to you, say engine repairs, or things you could do on your own. Otherwise people will start ripping you off. Suddenly the oil change you mentioned is done with the cheapest oil available and sloppily so.

[–]uwey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

delegate

delegate properly and accordingly is the first sign of strength, which will draw power.

Be the one that guide and point direction, you never know who will follow, use other to do a task and essentially purchase their life.

I love telling people what to do, and if you manage people's emotion (everyone worships something, maybe is companionship, maybe a kind praise, a recognition, a leverage position etc) you can actually not be a dick but get everything done.

Doing wrong to delegate will earn you a nickname of an asshole or egotistic because of social shame when someone getting power for free. Don't use people for free, never ignore their emotion. Sate and paint their emotion all and you will own them for life.

[–]thechiefoflife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The car one was big for me. When I first got my car, I would do all the work myself like changing oil, brakes, suspension, etc...

Then as my pay increased over time, I realized I’m better off paying someone else to do it quicker and better than I would’ve too. Plus they have that liability insurance that I wouldn’t if I did my own work lol.

[–]lister777 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Time is the only element we can never recover. It is the only valuable resource we have. Every man should know that!

[–]PlazTheBarbarian 20 points21 points  (2 children)

Really speaks volumes, so much to achieve in such little time. Make the most of your life, laugh, love and most importantly live. Live the life you want.

This is why I come to this sub, to read gold like this which pops up everynow and again.

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    [–]PlazTheBarbarian 23 points24 points  (0 children)

    Yeah I've even got it in this fancy gold frame.

    [–]ketxn 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    the only exception to the abundance mindset is treating your time like a finite, scarce resource

    [–]yomo86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    amor fatis learn to play the game, try to get better but love the hand you are dealt.

    I quit my lawyer practice to be an inhouse counsel. It is a 9-5 job. Most of TRP is arguing against this setting out of spite, yet, I love it, I sleep tight until almost 8 each morning or go to the gym early on, I get paid to do what I like and on top of it I don't have to worry about getting a paycheck, yet I literally am unterminatable. After 5 work stays at work. Hiking, motorcycling, reading, travelling are all on the table.

    The point is, yes, always try to get a better deal out of life, but sometimes be a man and deal with a certain situation in a satisfactory manner. Always hustling upwards in any given field is the male equivalent to women's hypergamy.

    [–]aryansaphir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Approved Brother, no matter who you are, you only get 24 H a day, snooze, you ll loose

    [–]oldrunnerguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Great information. A comment on some of the points you make, there is a quote "Mo money, mo problems," thus the virtues of a simple life. I have heard many older divorced men retort on how easy it is to live on a budget when there is no woman around.

    Something struck me when you talked about someone having a shitty job. Recently, I watched a video from Mike Rowe talking about the people he met when he had the show Dirty Jobs. A lot of them were financially successful because they were good at jobs nobody else wanted, and I would assume that many of them were pretty frugal with their money.

    One more item I'd like to comment on is making moments and taking moments. Recently, I was doing some hiking in western Maryland. I found a side trail and decided to explore it (something I probably would not have done in days past). I went up the hill and found the most awesome campsite. It provided a beautiful view of a bend in the Potomac River. Further away I could see the mountains full of snow in the background, an awesome view that I will make sure to visit again.

    Unfortunately, it took a failed marriage and divorce to realize the truths of what you speak. For all my brothers out there, don't be like me!!!

    [–]gains_o_clock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    time sucks can be people too. Learn to walk away from pos people that don't add any value to your life and be comfortable with it as well

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    If something isn’t worth my time (movie, party, conversation) - I just leave.

    It’s not that hard to make an excuse.

    Additionally - I’ve begun to be rigorous about my calendar. If a meeting gets thrown on that I don’t want to be on - I make an excuse and ask for the notes.

    Not a lot of people can do this, but I leverage my life immensely after listening to Tony Robbins. I use Lyft, Instacart, and other services to give me time to do what I want.

    I own my own business so my time is valuable. Even if it’s hanging with my wife or watching basketball.

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    [–]xeroblaze0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'd add that self reflection through meditation will help a man realize himself. Learn from your own behaviors and mistakes, then act to make a difference. Frame will become less something you actively focus on but rather something passive that you bring others into.

    [–]Voyaller -1 points0 points  (3 children)

    Talking about retards years when I'm required to go to the army for 9 months while I'm in my early twenties. Fuck my country.

    [–]Callidus32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Only option is to make this most of it.

    [–]A_Crazy_Dolphin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Im in for 3 years here, started 6 months ago and dont know how i feel about it yet

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    [–]TheDreRock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Would be pretty ironic for a post about valuing time to not have a tl:dr...or maybe it's quite ironic that it doesn't

    Good post nonetheless.