A story of a massive beta - just no! (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by RomanEgyptian

I lurk on a here a bit, and it seems that oneitis effects many people in many different ways, but it is the main, overwhelming reason, for being beta.

To emphasise how beta some people are here is a story that I saw happen.

My friends and I are from Britain and we went to an American Spring break a few years back. On the second night my mate, let's call him Harry came back from the night out on his own. Got into a large hot tub where there were a few guys and a few chicks. Long story short persuades a girl to come back to his room. As he is getting out with the girl my friends and I are returning so he asks if we can chill for a bit around the pool whilst he bangs her. We're cool with it, but the girl has a guy friend that Harry was unaware of. This guy, let's name him Darren. Darren drove the girl for about 5h to get to spring break. They had been friends for many many years. And he clearly loved her.

So Harry and the girl go to the room and for a few hours we made some small talk and then we're like fuck it, we need to sleep. At this point Darren asks if he can join us in our room. We were like wtf, where are you staying? His plan had been to come to the party with her, and then leave with her and drive home. We didn't want to leave a bro out in the cold so we allowed him into the room very aware that the girl he loves is getting dicked by our mate. He knew it too, we suggested he sleep in his car but the girl had the keys. We offered to get the keys but whatever was going on in his head he wanted to be near her.

Go to the room and Harry is banging her in a bedroom with paper thin walls for all to hear(but not see), and we eventually get to sleep. Darren sleeps on the floor as we don't have another bed for him. I gave him my towel as a pillow. So Darren is sleeping on the cold floor of some random people's hotel whilst listening to a girl he loves getting banged Next day the girl gives car keys to Darren and says come back in a few days. She chilled with Harry (and us) for a few days and got banged repeatedly, she even made a few videos for Harry whilst they were fucking.

Few days later Darren returns picks her up and off they go. He is really angry with her, yet he still picks her up. Harry later tells us that Darren and the chick had a little falling out as friends because 'she ditched him'. (Harry is chatting to her via text for some reason)

Fast forward a year and Harry gets Snapchat from the chick of Darren and her being friends again. Just friends and he is so happy, yet we know that he loves her like crazy

Moral of the story Don't be Darren - the girls a ho, she will happily be fucked by anyone but beta guys. Darren was stuck in some crazy world of oneitis and made himself beta. He would do anything for her. He drove 10h, twice for a shitty party. He slept on the floor whilst his oneitis was fucked next door. He was ecstatic at being friends with her again, but he will never fuck her even though he so badly wanted to. Don't be Darren

If you end up with a chick like this and she isn't giving you what you want, go for the next one. You have 3.5bn options. There is no 'one'. Don't do stupid shit like this and degrade yourself

[–]AcrossHallowedGround 304 points305 points  (49 children)

Ho-lee fuck. What a horror story. More and more the concept of Aristotle's 'Natural Slave' starts to make sense.

At what point do you realize someone doesn't give two fucks about you? Someone explain to me what is going through that guy's head, because I just don't get it. I used to get oneitis pretty bad, but this is some next level shit.

[–]jaaydogg 141 points142 points  (38 children)

She probably gives him just the right ammount of attention to keep him around as an orbiter, basically keeping his fantasy alive.

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    [–]1GroundhogLiberator 43 points44 points  (28 children)

    It's insane that some people (women) can use others so shamelessly.

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        [–]Red_SL4 33 points34 points  (0 children)

        Some people will say you're hamstering.
        I say you're free from women and that's great.

        [–]no_face 11 points12 points  (0 children)

        Once you cross into your 30's its common to be picky about women.

        [–]aDrunkenWhaler 7 points8 points  (7 children)

        Mate, I'm with you on this one, but from how you describe yourself you've got everything going on for yourself. Top 1%. You can pick and choose easily, while the rest not only struggle, but can't get their dick wet to save their lives. 6'2" with style, game and decent money doesn't have to bother picking up anything, women come to them. When you have several women available on a daily basis, of course you don't want to fuck Suzi, the fat pig from Marketing.

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          [–]aDrunkenWhaler 4 points5 points  (1 child)

          You should check your testosterone level.

          [–]Sinth42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          This. I used to be all crazy over sex and PUA etc. Afterwards I realised that there are more important things than just getting my dick wet. I'm 17 right now and I work out every two days, wake up at 4 am in order to do things that I love and will eventually make me money (while still sleeping at least 7.5 hours). I'm not saying that I'll not use all the great advice here to get sex but now I have a lot of free time to prepare myself for everything from the financial perspective and I'm not willing to waste it on chicks.

          [–]pevans12 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          That's fucking scary bro. Get some help

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            [–]ArkAngelEV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Great for you Chad. I am NOT picky, havent been able to afford to be. Only way i got to a respectable number is by swallowing my pride and do what i needed to do

            [–]mrbluesdude 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            Damn dude, sounds like you missed out with molly girl.

            [–]Scandinavianredpill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            TRP attracts alot of inexperienced teenagers - sex is still new to them. as you know it gets old after a while and you prefer quality pussy.. not because you are an old idiot, but because time got scarcer and you had your experiences.... I am the same. I get it. I think redpill eventually will send one off to some kind of mgtow path where you only go for cute girls with minimal investments.

            [–]Wilreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            It's all about internal happiness and peace. Now I need to nut in some chick's mouth to reach that state. Once I reach that state, then you and me are no different. You just do not need the gal, for better or for worse. In a way you are RP when it comes to girls. Just do not meet a girl and then suddenly feel she is special. NO, hos will be hos.

            [–]1RXRob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            AWALT, AMALT, every gun is loaded.

            [–]zattraction -5 points-4 points  (3 children)

            You probably got low T levels. Plus some hamstering.

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              [–]LethalShade 3 points4 points  (1 child)

              How much porn do you watch and how often do you wank it? That has a huge effect on your sex drive and your lust to fuck every attractive female you come across.

              [–]TRP_Lee_zard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

              No, it's part of everybodys nature.

              I'm last to stand for a woman, but it 90% of situations like this chick will tell a guy she is not interested, but pathetic mangina will practicaly force her to accept his gifts, tokens of affection etc.

              Why would she (or anyone to that matter) refuse to take something when they are asked to take it over and over again.

              It's not her fault he was a pathetic beta, she just used him as he was supposed to be used, maybe, just maybe he will open his eyes.

              [–]Tuga_Lissabon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              There are some people that seem to beg to be used.

              [–]selfsufficientnigga 0 points1 point  (1 child)

              Women see the society as a resource, as opposed to men who see the nature and environment as resource.

              So an easily manipulated loser like this to a woman is like ripe fruit dangling from a tree to a man.

              [–]throwlaja 21 points22 points  (2 children)

              When you have that level of oneitits, basically it hurts more to be away and thinking, than to be with her and seeing it. I have experienced this. By doing that, Darren was very likely minimizing his suffering. Probably he tried ignoring her for several months, and didn't worked.

              All of you laughing at this man, consider the raging inferno that is the life of this man, in which this option causes the least amount of pain.

              [–]Buchloe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              Yeah I agree. Your imagination just kills you.

              [–]unpluggedoasis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

              He can use that inferno to fuel his self-improvement and life change if he ever finds this place.

              [–]harsha_hs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              that girl is a player and she knows it!

              [–]thetotalpackage7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              Yes, the orbiters live of off the crumbs of affection they get from their oneitis ho's. A quick head scratch here, a long hug there, a few compliments...all they need to stay hooked.

              [–]MrJanglesLovesBooty1 37 points38 points  (3 children)

              Lmao Darren was probably jerking off and crying while he listened to his oneitis getting fucked

              [–]AcrossHallowedGround 9 points10 points  (2 children)

              How it that in any way helpful?

              [–]WhorehouseVet 35 points36 points  (0 children)

              It makes sure I'll never be Daren, the image is too vivid.

              [–]MrJanglesLovesBooty1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

              Lighten up, it was just a joke. Someone that acts like that and refuses to listen to advice deserves to be made fun of.

              [–]twenty7lies 2 points3 points  (1 child)

              I can almost guarantee that he had known for a very long time that she didn't want him. He was under the impression that he wasn't good enough, but 'must be close'. That's why he brings her out there with the intention to bang. He likely also thought that because he thinks about her so often, she must as well. Think about how often they spent time together in his head, they're practically soul mates!

              [–]yomo86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

              I guess this is why girls get up in arms when they hear bros giving the advice to one another "would you do it for a guy friend?"

              [–][deleted] 115 points116 points  (14 children)

              I remember a similar story for me.

              I was at a few parties with this chick Jackie. She had this acne faced loser Arnold as a beta orbiter who loved her. Jackie and I fucked for a month straight. Arnold tried to interrupt us once when we were making out by bumping into me and feigning falling over, it was really pathetic. He then asked me straight up "dude, don't you have a girlfriend?" (I did, but neither of us gave a shit about each other).

              One night she was blowing me and Arnold knocked the door drunk, demanding to see her. He questioned her and said "I knew it- Jacques Penisse is in the room! Is he?" And Jackie was like no, no. Reassuring him and promising him a friend date the next day.

              Jackie was the best blowjob I ever got. She sucked my hard member like the solution to world hunger lay in the bottom of my shaft. She had thick Latina lips and supple breasts, and a 90 IQ, but was a master at playing men and could never quench her thirst for male attention and sexual domination. She told me she loved being manhandled and tossed around. I let her suck me off like a nice slampiece should, and came a few times each job. One time I placed my hand on her hair as she went to work and she slapped it off-!"Don't do that! I'm not a slut!" Psh, okay honey, if you say so.

              Best part of all this was that Jackie had a boyfriend for five years. She not only cheated on him with me but with two other guys- James and Kevin. A little horn dog, and I gave her a few full body orgasms. Arnold hates me to this day, and this was college shit. A decade ago.

              I eventually fell for Jackie when she started talking lovey dovey to me. I then found out about her boyfriend through one of my jealous exes and found out about ANOTHER guy James she was fucking who she was saying lovey dovey shit to as well- mid branch swing, prepping to jump to one of us- so I reached out to the other dude and we all reached out to the boyfriend. A five year high school sweetheart to college sophomore relationship crumbled in a week. Jackie then tried to say she was pushed into it/taken advantage of, and the boyfriend tried to invite me to a party of his to "thank me for telling him the truth about Jackie" (kick my face in with his friends). I politely declined. The boyfriend harassed me for years. Meanwhile ONE WEEK after the epic breakup Jackie goes official with THE THIRD GUY she was fucking, Kevin. Jackie and him are now married, baby coming up. James drank himself to sleep every night when he found out she was sleeping with me and had a boyfriend, and me? I was miserable, but felt great notifying the boyfriend at the time. If he's not still a dipshit, he would've known I saved him a ton of headache. As for Kevin... poor dude. But that's his choice.

              Sickening hypergamy story. Beware fellas! Jackie was one of the innocent looking ones, too.

              [–]MrAnderzon 34 points35 points  (2 children)

              There we got 2 horror stories for the new section.

              [–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana 23 points24 points  (2 children)

              As bad as I feel for Arnold, I feel even worse for Kevin.

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                [–]throwlaja 19 points20 points  (4 children)

                It's funny how you feel pity for Arnold, the poor guy, only to fall yourself for the girl that it's obviously a bitch.

                [–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (3 children)

                Yeah it cuts both ways, and I hope the story teaches that. Hoes ain't loyal...

                [–]1empatheticapathetic 5 points6 points  (2 children)

                At least you got out of that one without a broken heart or nose and still learned some shit.

                [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

                Yeah, the boyfriend was a maniac for a year, still single and swears off relationships. A lot to learn from. This bitch tried to make it the fault of the guys she fucked, and literally didn't care that her boyfriend went insane and could have killed any of us. This is the root lack of empathy in women. She created all this drama having affairs and then turning men against each other for herself, not realizing if one of them was mentally ill or had a gun it would be overwith.

                [–]Tuga_Lissabon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                You are wrong; if she realized it she'd do it anyways.

                It'd be some drama that she'd love to have as a history, because it reinforces her importance. "Guys shot each-other over me" is win when bitches compare stories.

                [–]ArkAngelEV 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                Take a deep breath and sigh, this is par for the course. PAR FOR THE FUCKING COURSE. And most women think nothing of it, like this is how it's supposed to be, THIS is normal

                [–]throwlaja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Not par for the course, but not uncommon.

                [–]KaptainKrunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                'She sucked my hard member like the solution to world hunger was at the bottom of my shaft'

                Holy shit im crying

                [–]Thatssadseth 48 points49 points  (10 children)

                Holy shit dude, I hate to admit it but I've been a darren more than once in my life. I could sit here and say I regret that shit but hell no I needed that beta fuckery to happen to me. It's a reminder of the guy I will never be again.

                [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 12 points13 points  (7 children)

                Good to hear! You learnt and became better. That's what matters. If someone who is currently in this stage reads it, hopefully they will realise that no good can come of being an orbiter

                [–]throwlaja 5 points6 points  (6 children)

                I think I'm in this stage. My oneitis invites me to coffe and apparently she goes out of her way to meet me, but she won't give me anything. I don't drive her around and don't even pay for her food but I can see she want me around, but as a friend. Next time I will try to escalate with her as a caveman, to see what happens. I don't care about losing her as a friend, frankly.

                [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

                Better option is for her to see you around with girls and make her jealous. Then she might come to you. I'm not a fan of the Hail Mary when you're clearly classified as a friend. Just seems desperate.

                [–]BreathOfDick 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                Definitely try to escalate. If you're beta friend zoned she'll be completely disgusted by it, so brace yourself to feel shitty for a bit. Then that sweet, sweet rejection will set you free.

                Just had a similar thing happen a couple weeks ago haha. Always make intent clear.

                [–]RedrunGun 0 points1 point  (3 children)

                If you're already in the friendzone, it's to late for the direct tactic to work, so unless your goal is to desensitize yourself to rejection, don't bother. If you want this girl, at this point you need to be tactical. You need to manipulate her thoughts of you. Firstly, you need to be seen with other women, ideally ones who are attracted to you, but any will do. It's best if the girl you're interested in sees you with these other women from a distance so she can't start asking a bunch of questions, you want her to start making assumptions. Only after she starts seeing you with other girls should you move onto the next step, which is distancing yourself from her. Give her shorter replies through text, blow her off once in a while with a vague reason, leave early sometimes when hanging out, etc. You need to do this over a period of time. The amount of time depends on how often you see her, but it needs to be enough for her to notice a change rather than just a few freak occurrences. This will naturally make her start to consider that the women she's been seeing you with and your fading interest in her are correlated. Her emotions will be in flux, where as before she thought she had you all figured out, so much so that she just knew she wasn't interested, now she won't be so sure she knows everything there is to know, which naturally makes her malleable. Now that her emotional state when thinking about you isn't so solid, you have your opening. I'd suggest inviting her to some place private, have something planned that you two like doing, but treat it like a date, not a hangout, she'll most likely follow your lead because of where she is emotionally. Don't clarify that's it's a date either, just treat it like one, unless she specifically asks, then I'd just kiss her, then ask "Does that answer your question?". The idea is to use common human psychological mechanisms to make her wonder what she's missing out on, then to surprise her by letting her know, and all through actions rather than words.

                Now, this plan is good, and isn't all that complicated, the hardest part will probably be being seen with women, but no matter what tactic you chose to implement, everything hinges on you acting confident, like everything is completely fine and normal throughout the entire process, you cannot allow any negative behavior on her part to have any visible effect on you. Also, make sure not to confuse confidence with cockiness. Being cocky is a like walking a wire, if you say one wrong word you look desperate and weak, it's a very risky tool, only really worth using in humor. Confidence is to be humble and unshakable. Hope I've helped some, good luck!

                [–]throwlaja 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                Hey man it looks like a good tactic.

                Problem is, I only see her every two weeks or so, We live cities apart so it's very hard for she to see me with other womens. I could try it with social networks tough.

                Problem is, I made a mistake. I went to a coffe with her, every went well, I Kinoed a lot, hold hands, etc.

                At the end, se went away, and I made the stupid mistake of following her to see if she was going to meet with another man. And guess what, she saw me.

                I blowed it big time. She is not angry, more like amused, but my sexual value went to the center of the earth. Stupid me, things were going pretty well in the date. I can believe it my stupidity, I want to kill myself.

                [–]Lsegundo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                so you have to find some girls you pretend to like, set up this whole scenario, follow the steps...

                Forget the pretending and all those steps. Your oneitis is not a unicorn and her pussy doesnt dispense vanilla ice cream.

                Invest the time in yourself that you are thinking about using to try to impress oneitis. Improve yourself. Future you is going to look back, laugh and wonder WTF you saw in this girl because the women you get are much better.

                [–]throwlaja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                I did exactly as you said and my crush just sent me a text "I saw you with an ugly girl" (BTW the other girl wasn't as ugly).

                Dammit RedrunGun you are a genius.

                [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                Alot of guys on TRP have had a girl destroy them, or found out the hard way a females nature,

                It's a epifiny that when you have it happen you won't look back, you except it and go learn how to get what you want out of life.

                [–]0kool74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                Don't worry dude you're not alone. I was a Darren back in '95 over a sloot that had 2 pieces of womb filth from a POS loser. Of course, I was 21 and clueless at the time so I did have that working against me lol :-)

                [–]MrAnderzon 45 points46 points  (16 children)

                The new section of the red pill. Horror Stories Red Pill Edition

                [–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

                I'd love if we had a stickied horror stories thread.

                [–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

                I'd love if we had a stickied horror stories thread.

                [–][deleted] -5 points-4 points  (7 children)

                I'd love if we had a stickied horror stories thread.

                [–]NickA97 29 points30 points  (5 children)

                Hey, dude, would you love it if we had a stickied horror stories thread?

                [–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (0 children)


                I'd love if we had a stickied horror stories thread.

                [–]ShelDoNot 9 points10 points  (0 children)

                Nah I don't think he would.

                [–]SovereignSoul76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Haha, I was just about to write the exact same thing...

                [–]SovereignSoul76 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                Haha, I was just about to write the exact same thing...

                [–]Buchloe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                Haha, I was just about to write the exact same thing...

                [–]0kool74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                dude you got keyboard tourettes or something??? lol

                [–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

                I'd love if we had a stickied horror stories thread.

                [–]TryDoingSomethingNew 30 points31 points  (9 children)

                It gave me douche chills just reading it.

                Wow. Ugh, man, the agony!

                [–]xmotorboatmygoatx 13 points14 points  (7 children)

                Honest question: do you think that a man like this knows that being treated like shit is 100% up to him, or would he see himself as purely a victim of "nice guys finish last"? Perhaps the latter suppressing the former subconsciously?

                [–]lolligagger3000 23 points24 points  (2 children)

                "The problem is that girls don't see how nice I am, if I befriend her and show her I'm not a jerk like the other men she whines about she'll love me forever"

                This sound familiar?

                [–]TryDoingSomethingNew 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                Yep, all based on a thought process founded on lies (that women are inherently "good", that they want a "good, loving man", etc) . Very sad.

                [–]xx69bootyhunter69xx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

                Apart from the 'nice guys finish last' rhetoric being repeatedly played in the guy's mind, lemme give my own version of what the beta might think-from my own BP days-basically I used to think that somehow all girls like hot guys, that hot is more or less objective (from all the social media pics of typical 'hot' guys I used to see) and if one girl doesn't like me it is likely that I'm not objectively hot and therefore neither will other girls like me-an extreme version of the scarcity mentality. That's what eventually drove me into a oneitis-a desperate trial to make any one girl like me-and it is so cringeworthy I am really not mentally prepared to tell my oneitis' story right now. Of course I would often hear about game and how being the bad boy attracts chicks like crazy but I would dismiss all of that as "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is...". Little did I realize that being the bad boy that girls like and that gets to game girls isn't so easy and it was not therefore too good to be true. Neither did I realize how much of a difference lifting could make-I had often heard girls say "OMG why do guys think that going to the gym would make them hot? Big muscles are NOT sexy!! insert eyeroll " Once again I assumed that since the worst possible scenario is mostly true, it is probably that way and that the girls were probably right in saying that muscles can't make me look good and that it's useless to try because it won't make any difference. If only I had seen their actions instead of believing their words...

                Anyway, the crux of my comment is that a blue-pilled mentality and pedestalization of the pussy can occur due to several rhetorics being played inside a guy's mind-and one or more of them simultaneously running the hamster inside the guy's mind.

                [–]TryDoingSomethingNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                I'm sure he knows it, but as is classically the case, his beta mindset (to be specific, his emotional attachment and lack of self reliance, confidence, and wholeness) means he is too obsessed for her and his subconscious need for fulfillment and validation means he is tolerant to abuse, manipulation, and disrespect from the woman he pedastalizes.

                [–]MrShoeguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                Being treated like shit is the best he can hope for. You know how sometimes you're walking along & you see dog shit? Well he'd be invisible if he wasn't doing this. Those are his choices.

                [–]yomo86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                Free will is over-ridden by the BP narrative. Girls are good. Stand by your girl no matter what. And last but not least, friends to lovers.

                [–]yomo86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                It isn't even the story which is agonizing it is the relateability.

                [–]richardguy 26 points27 points  (6 children)

                This is the kind of shit you read that makes you curl up into yourself and feel sick.

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                  [–]1empatheticapathetic 15 points16 points  (1 child)

                  Some would just straight up enjoy it tbh.

                  [–]Utterberetacht 11 points12 points  (0 children)

                  I wouldn’t be surprised if such women say “LOL at men, so easily manipulated, we can play them like puppets hehehehehehehe”.

                  Part of TRP’s bitter taste is that women have always known the very things we discovered at TRP [blarghgfhghthghftghhfgtlgh]

                  [–]1ozaku7 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  Well, it's not like the chick was in a relationship with the guy that took her to the party or anything. Who is really to blame? The guy was too slow.

                  [–]MikeAlphaGolf 22 points23 points  (3 children)

                  Everyone is ragging out the bloke but I'm sure 90% of people have been in Darren's shoes.

                  Oh to be 18 again and know what I know now. So many wasted years.

                  Never go back.

                  [–]saito200 12 points13 points  (0 children)

                  This. Years wasted in bullshit. Oneitis is a sickness.

                  [–]Wade856 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  As I got older, I finally understood why my uncle would always say that youth is wasted on the young. To be 18, but with what I know now would be completely life altering.

                  [–]iWantABabyJesus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Never should have watched movies where they show being nice is getting the hero laid... It's one of the biggest mistake.

                  [–]CollaterLDamage 52 points53 points  (11 children)

                  jesus fuck.

                  did you help him? this guy sounds like he needs a fucking sign. he sure as shit wouldnt swallow the red pill but the leash is so tight i dont even think hes aware there options,

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 53 points54 points  (3 children)

                  We tried to help him. I even told him not to pick her up once he leaves but he was insistent that it would not be nice to leave her stranded. He failed to realise she was treating him like shit. Hopefully he sorted himself out, seemed like a decent bloke and all that but the oneitis was killing him

                  [–]Gearski 10 points11 points  (1 child)

                  I hope this is a wake up call for him....because fuck I threw up in my mouth reading this story.

                  [–]0kool74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  We tried to help him. I even told him not to pick her up once he leaves but he was insistent that it would not be nice to leave her stranded

                  And it is VERY HARD to overcome that kind of conditioning. It takes gut-wrenching experiences to overcome something like that.

                  [–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (3 children)

                  Guys who r that far deep into denial cannot be helped. They have to come to terms on their own

                  [–]Shadoninja 2 points3 points  (2 children)

                  My old friend (who is an 8 or 9 out of 10 as far as looks go) hasn't been cheated on (that I know of), but he is what you describe. Nothing will make him leave his short, pudgy, failed-to-attain-an-art-degree, leach girlfriend and it fucking breaks my heart. The girl has treated him like shit for 4+ years and he is completely blind to the gravity of his situation.

                  [–]TheRedThrowAwayPill 6 points7 points  (1 child)

                  Throw some slut women at him

                  [–]0kool74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  I agree!!!! Take the dude out, get him drunk, and then throw strange at him from all directions.

                  [–]Docbear64 7 points8 points  (2 children)

                  When a guy is this consumed with Oneitis he is bereft of logic . He so desperately needs ( not wants) to be a part of her life he will suffer every condition she puts upon him to do it . Eventually ... HOPEFULLY he gets sick of it , gains some semblance of self respect and goes on his merry way but If listening to the girl of his dreams get railed all night doesn't do it , nothing another man says is going to shatter his world of illusion either.

                  [–]1empatheticapathetic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  It's not even so much oneitis as simply a lack of self respect and boundaries. Things to do in his life. Even if he had mega oneitis he would still have to set his priorities based on what he needs to get done (friends, hobbies, work, school) instead of being this girls bitch but he is unfortunately simply a loser who has no self respect. Maybe he will fix himself one day.

                  [–]ArkAngelEV 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                  He needs to physically see his oneitis get DP'ed while taking a third dick in her mouth to break the glass.

                  [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (3 children)

                  Paragraphs are your friend dude. Use them.

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

                  Thanks - was doing on phone and overlooked it

                  [–]iFrozy_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  Just keep reading what you are typing above every few minutes , if you feel the para takes at max 1/2 the screen of your mobile , break the shit down.

                  [–]Wilreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  It is cool. But the story was savage.

                  [–]Fredo100 9 points10 points  (1 child)

                  There is no such thing as genuine male to female friendship unless both are gay. It's always the girls using the guy for emotional support, free meal ticket or a backup plan.

                  I guarantee you when her cock carousel ends and she cannot find another Chad, she will commit to this beta boy and he will live a celibate lifestyle from then on.

                  [–]1empatheticapathetic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

                  Men and women can be acquaintances. I've never had a strong female friend though.

                  [–]beginner_ 7 points8 points  (2 children)

                  She is probably a sociopath. I mean why did she have his car keys? She probably made him hand them over so he can't take off without her...because she knew what that she was going to make him angry (get fucked).

                  [–]ratthing 13 points14 points  (1 child)

                  I have found it is next to impossible to tell the difference between a woman being a sociopath and a woman being a woman.

                  [–]SovereignSoul76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  (Golf clap)

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                  [–]milkywayer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  deleted What is this?

                  [–]bowie747 11 points12 points  (2 children)

                  Hey, we've all had our moments!!

                  I once cried on a chick's shoulder for 2 hours after she dumped me (again).

                  [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  God damn, that shit hurts to read.

                  [–]throwlaja 5 points6 points  (1 child)

                  I was very similar to Darren, but I was not in love, she was my genuine friend. She was a slut, fucked everybody but me, but I was OK with that, she even provided some of her friends for me. Eventually with the years, I developed some feelings for her, obviously I was in the friend zone.

                  I managed to fuck her twice tough, when she decided that we should sleep together "as friends". Best tits I ever had haha.

                  [–]Wilreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  she decided that we should sleep together "as friends".

                  The kinda shit women say. AWAFLT

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                  [–]darkmoon09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I agree, things like this should be a sticky thread or a separate flair, though things like this have never happened to me, it's still painful to read knowing that guys are this pathetically desperate that they'll sell their dignity away to the point of sleeping on the fucking floor for a whiff of pussy, it easy to hate on the woman because she does sound like a sociopathic cunt, and it easy to blame the dude for being such a spineless beta bitch, but fuck; guys aren't being properly raised into men, they'd being neutered and emasculated. It's truly fucking sad.

                  [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  Amazing. I was even worst than Darren years ago. Live and learn. Also, try not to get fucked in the mind by sluts... Just play them before they realize it. Or if you fail, either ignore or run. There's no staying in the net of a bitch. The moment she got you, you start chewing those nets and run free. Else you drop down. It's not really a choice if you are wise enough. Else, live and...

                  [–]IMTheKilla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  I will just hope that they were in some kind of a BDSM relationship. If not, this guy is the most beta guy i have seen

                  [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                  The NSFW tag is funny. The whole sub is actually NSFW.

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I don't post many new posts, but yes. lol. Never mind

                  [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  Reminds me of the old me. (Not that I get laid now, but I haven't been in this situation now for years.)

                  Sucks but this Red pill stuff really does force you to accept what is. Reality can be beautiful, and it can also suck too. But remember these experiences can help you transform yourself over time, it hardens you.

                  [–]Cesare_MA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  Lord Almighty this actually hurt my soul. Usually I'm just left thinking the beta is a dumbass, but I really feel bad for the guy here.

                  [–]NihilistMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  I too have a Darren acquaintance who is a massive beta. Dated and paid for everything for some girl for three years while she was banging other dudes behind his back. The real kicker is that in the entire three years they never had sex. Proceeds to try to bang all the girls in our mutual friend group and fails. The real takeaway I'm getting from this is to not name my future son Darren.

                  [–]GinsengandHoney 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  Darren sounds absolutely retard but my God, what an evil bitch!

                  [–]no_face 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Oneitis is like meth. You know its destroying you but at the given moment, its what you want.

                  [–]FruitSalad1010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  The best part is when he eventually wakes up and next's her friendship she won't even bat an eyelid.

                  [–]iWantABabyJesus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Man, I wish I could put some sense in him. I have seen so many of these guys.. they just don't understand.

                  [–]IGoYouStayTwoAutumns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I spent years being Darren. Never again.

                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Omg wtf that sounds something 14 years old me would have done

                  [–]MrBellsprout123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I'm guilty to doing things, not quite as bad, but similar. God it fucking stings reading these stories.

                  [–]marianasentmenudes 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  What do you mean she made videos for darren?

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  For Harry. Videos of them fucking

                  [–]iamneptuno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  If you end up with a chick like this and she isn't giving you what you want, go for the next one.

                  And end up exactly like that with that next one.

                  What this sub fails to understand, is that the majority of males are "betas" simply by design. This case is an extreme of course, but in a nutshell, this is what the majority of males' sexual life is (and should be).

                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  So Darren is sleeping on the cold floor of some random people's hotel whilst listening to a girl he loves getting banged Next day the girl gives car keys to Darren and says come back in a few days.

                  I wanted to throw up at that point in the story.

                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  I feel sorry for him but I'm in no way angry at her. To be honest, he put himself in that situation. The girl is just doing what any person would do. It's not her fault he has this life with her all planned out in his head but he is too pussy to do anything about it.

                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  this is the red pill i like. no pseudo science. just factual stories. it's best for everyone to think for themselves of what to do. a lot of advice i read on here is horrible.

                  [–]Wilreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Man, sucks to be Darren. Pathetic. This story should be framed and hung in the Reddit Museum of Shame.

                  [–]amc2005 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  What.A.Loser. I have no sympathy for this guy because it's not like he isn't being told the truth by others at every turn. Can everyone really be wrong? It's almost as if he believed everyone, but he's addicted to the pain. Jesus, dude. Get your shit together.

                  [–]blasted_biscuits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  It's not the pain he's addicted to but the feelings he gets when near his oneitis he has up on a pedestal. His fantasy is so powerful that he would rather tolerate being shit on by her then being ignored by her. Oneitis is cancer.

                  [–]1ozaku7 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  Darren drove the girl for about 5h to get to spring break. They had been friends for many many years. And he clearly loved her.

                  I already cringed at this point.

                  Moral of the story Don't be Darren - the girls a ho, she will happily be fucked by anyone but beta guys.

                  Are you sure she is a ho? Would you sleep with a desperate chick that is much like Darren? Imagine having a female friend you are not attracted to, but are cool to hang out with and fuck some other than her. Darren was nothing but a little bitch. "His girl" didn't owe him anything, and Darren is just a man with oneitis that expect to get dominated and get fucked for all the nice things he has done, which is laughable.

                  I gave you my advice now, you owe me 2 beers. /s

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Haha. Two beers it is then ;)

                  [–]throwlaja -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

                  Sorry no, you don't have 3.5 bn.

                  You like that one. Darren probably is fucking other girls too, but oneitis is not as easily cured. He's a extreme case tough.

                  [–]TheFalseKnave 13 points14 points  (2 children)

                  Darren probably is fucking other girls too

                  Unfortunately I don't think he is. If he was getting anything from another girl, he wouldn't be in this position.

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

                  Agree with this guy. I really don't think he was getting anything else

                  [–]DepthIgloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  He could definitely be banging some bigguns whilst hoping the hot friend chick's alcohol works in his favor

                  [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (5 children)

                  (Harry is chatting to her via text for some reason)

                  not sure why you felt the need to say this?

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 5 points6 points  (4 children)

                  To explain how I knew what happened

                  [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (3 children)

                  Specifically the "for some reason" part

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

                  Because it made no sense to me. They live in different continents. He banged her. Good job. Next girl.

                  [–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

                  Exactly. You're a tool for including that stupid judgement. Let him do what the fuck he wants.

                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  I never stopped him The whole story is of my perspective thus my judgement Jheez, agree to disagree

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                  [–]RomanEgyptian[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  Very harsh. He just needs awareness and some red pill therapy

                  The reason I posted this was so if someone is in a similar situation they can maybe see some signs and realise stuff needs to change

                  [–]newName543456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  get those trashy genes out of circulation.

                  Not like they're in circulation anyway. And without drastic changes, unlikely to ever enter it.