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Red Pill TheoryHow To 'Hypnotize' A Girl With Your Personality (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by Aghayden

Hypnosis is a state of heightened suggestibility. If you can hypnotize someone, you can influence them to think what you want them to think, to feel what you want them to feel, and to do what you want them to do.

Popular culture makes hypnosis seem like something you induce by counting slowly from 10-1 while swinging a pocket watch back and forth.

In reality, though, hypnosis is a natural state that we drift in and out of every single day. When we become totally absorbed in a TV show, we enter hypnosis. When we have a conversation so immersive that we lose track of time, we enter hypnosis.

You don’t need to buy a pocket watch and learn an induction script to hypnotize people. All you must do is implement a few natural behaviors that will allow you to open anyone’s subconscious mind to your influence.

Learning to ‘hypnotize’ women with your personality may seem immoral – but consider the fact that women hypnotize men by enhancing their physical appearance. Makeup, high-heels, tight dresses, hair extensions: these things all make a woman appear more attractive than she naturally is.

When a woman is physically beautiful, we as men are more vulnerable to her influence. This is because of what psychologists call the ‘halo effect,’ which states that when someone appears attractive, we subconsciously assume they are smarter, more capable, kinder, and generally a better person.

Women enhance their physical appearance to hypnotize men. As a man, your primary weapon of influence is your personality. If your demeanor makes a woman feel the right emotions, she will enter a state of ‘hypnosis’ while interacting with you. As a result, you will be able to make her feel whatever you want her to feel – including sexual desire.

In this article, you’re going to learn 2 powerful strategies for naturally inducing a state of hypnosis in the women you interact with, effortlessly and unconsciously.

 

Cultivate A Calm Demeanor

 

A calm demeanor is the fundamental trait of a hypnotic personality. Influence is subtlem not forceful.

Men often learn that to attract women, we should say outrageous things and speak with the passion of a Shakespearean actor.

Such emotional intensity is not hypnotic. Instead, you want to have a soothing effect. Your personality should make a girl feel at ease. Speak slowly and calmly, use gentle – rather than forceful – body language. And, most importantly, listen carefully to what she says.

The key to making this work is focusing outwardly rather than inwardly.

When in a conversation, most people think about themselves: they think about what they’re going to say next and whether they’re coming across as confident and cool.

To be hypnotic, you should do the opposite. Pay close attention to what the girl is saying, be aware of the emotions she’s feeling (I.E. “Does she seem comfortable or nervous, why?”). Instead of thinking about what you can get from her, think about what value you can provide to her.

By speaking slowly and focusing outwardly, the women you meet will not feel that you want something from them. They will sense that you are trustworthy, and in turn, they will let their guard down. This is the first step to entering a state of hypnosis.

 

Leading and Pacing

 

So far, you’ve learned how to cultivate a calm demeanor that will make women open to your influence. The next step to hypnotizing a girl with your personality is leading and pacing.

Overall, you want to let the girl do most of the talking, but you still must lead the conversation in a productive direction.

Your goal is to get her to talk about things that are emotionally vulnerable: the kinds of things she doesn’t usually tell strangers (in this Youtube clip you can see I get a girl to talk about her bad drug trips: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IBvHN-r9C4&t=1014s).

Getting her to do this will deepen her trust towards you. She will rationalize that if she’s telling you such personal stories, you must be someone she is intimately comfortable with.

You might be thinking, “Why is it so important to make a girl trust me?”

For women, sex and trust go hand in hand. If a girl has sex with you she has to trust that you won’t murder her or rape her (which is a real concern because you’re probably twice her size), and she has to trust that you won’t slut shame her and ruin her reputation (which is also a legitimate concern). Trust is the key that unlocks the door of influence – without trust, you cannot make a woman do or feel anything.

To lead the conversation in a vulnerable direction, start by asking questions like:

What are you passionate about?

Have you ever been in love?

What do you think women really want in a man?

Have you ever done any drugs?

By asking these type of questions, you will lead the conversation towards intimate topics. Oftentimes, when you ask these kind of questions, the girl will reply by giving you a surface level answer.

If, for example, you ask, “What are you passionate about?” She might just say, “Helping people.” That’s a start, but you want to go deeper. This is where leading comes in: say something vulnerable that will make her feel comfortable doing the same.

To continue with the above example, you might say, “I like helping people too. That’s why I decided to study psychology. I want to help people with anxiety and depression. When I was younger, I was diagnosed with panic disorder, and it was really hard to go through that without any help. That’s why I want to help people who are going through something similar recover more efficiently than I did.”

By saying that, you’ve opened the floodgates to a vulnerable conversation. She might mention that she’s dealt with anxiety or depression herself (you’d be surprised how many people have), or she might talk about how she wants to help people with her specific career choice, or she may talk about her own struggles in life that she had trouble overcoming.

Once you engage in vulnerable conversation, the girl will trust you on a deep level. (Remember, the key is usually to offer up a vulnerable anecdote about yourself before she will feel comfortable doing the same.)

You can use any of the above questions (or your own similar questions) to spark a similarly intimate conversation.

For example, you might ask a girl whether she’s ever been in love. She probably won’t offer anything more than, “ Yeah I have.” To deepen the conversation, you can talk about your own experiences with being in love so that she’ll feel comfortable doing the same.

If your demeanor is calm and you talk about emotionally rich topics, the girl will slip into a state of hypnosis (which really just means she’s open to your influence).

 

What To Do When She’s ‘Hypnotized’

 

Once a girl is in a state of hypnosis, you can easily make her feel a powerful sexual attraction for you. There are two powerful ways you can use to accomplish this:

 

1. Hold strong eye-contact

Steady eye-contact greatly increases sexual attraction between a man and a woman.

Most of the time, a woman will not hold particularly strong eye contact with a guy she’s just met, but if she’s in a state of hypnosis, she will.

The easiest way to make stronger eye-contact in your interactions with women is to watch an “eye-contact practice” video on Youtube once per day. The concept behind these videos is a bit strange, but they work.

Your brain can’t tell the difference between a girl looking at you in a video and a girl looking at you in real life. By practicing holding eye contact with the girl in the video, you will develop a habit of making strong eye contact that will carry over to your real life interactions with women.

 

2. Get Yourself Into A Sexual State

 

There is a principle in psychology called emotional contagion. Put simply, it means that when one person feels an emotion, the people around them will feel that emotion, too. (If you’ve ever been yelled at, you know what it’s like to have someone else’s emotions transferred onto you).

The same applies to positive emotions. Sexual arousal is a transferable state. So, if you can get yourself into a sexual state, that state will transfer onto the woman you’re interacting with.

This effect will be even more powerful if the girl is in a state of hypnosis – because she will be more receptive to your influence.

To get yourself into a sexual state, appreciate the woman’s beauty. Don’t just look at her as a person, but look at her as a sexual being: as someone that you want to give pleasure to and get pleasure from. To heighten this effect, you can even visualize yourself and her engaging in different sexual acts.

If this sounds ‘creepy’ that’s a sign that you’ve been conditioned to repress your sexuality when interacting with attractive women. Oftentimes, that very conditioning is the true reason we have trouble seducing women.

Women want to be seduced, they want to meet a guy with a strong sexual charge.Unfortunately, most guys are too uncomfortable with their sexuality to give women the carnal experience they secretly desire.

Start experimenting with this. Learn how to get yourself into a sexual state, and you’ll see that women respond to you in ways you previously didn’t imagine possible (especially if you get her into a state of hypnosis, first).

 

Wrapping up: How To ‘Hypnotize’ A Girl With Your Personality

 

Hypnosis isn’t some magic trick reserved for old men with Snidely Whiplash-esque mustaches. It’s a state of emotional openness that we naturally enter on a regular basis.

Using the strategies you’ve learned in this article, you’ll be able to consistently bring women into this influenceable state.

Once a girl becomes receptive to your influence, she will be more receptive to having a sexual interaction with you. Use strong eye contact and bring yourself into a sexual state to create sexual tension with her.

Then, you’ll be able to lead the interaction in whatever direction you want.

 

PS: If you’re concerned that this is manipulative, consider the difference between manipulation and influence.

When you manipulate someone, you’re convincing them to do something against their best interests.

When you influence someone, you’re convincing someone to do something that will benefit them.

If you think having a sexual relationship with you isn’t in a woman’s best interest, then using the strategies you learned in this article would be manipulative.

If you think having a sexual relationship with you is in a woman’s best interest, then the strategies in this article will only make you influential.


[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 152 points153 points  (6 children)

If this is field tested, keep it coming.

For the newbies: this is not going to be a shortcut to attracting your oneitis. She has to find you attractive first to submit, b/c if she doesn't submit she won't follow your "relaxed frame" leading.

[–]Governor_Humphries 69 points70 points  (0 children)

For the newbies: this is not going to be a shortcut to attracting your oneitis.

This could be the top comment to nearly every post on this sub

[–]Self-honest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Added these concepts into my game the other night and fucked a 9. Took longer than I would like, but she was hotter than most so, I'll take the W. Definitely got her taking about things she was super vulnerable about. The second she loosened up a little and seemed more receptive to my charm, I escalated. Now she's texting about doing "it" again sometime.

[–]trp_nofap_rewire2018 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Therefore newbies should disregard this, lift eat right and improve their status.

This sort of “technique” seems silly. If you got your shit sorted you don’t need to bother with such things.

[–]Endorsed ContributorJamesSkepp 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Yes and no. Yes, b/c the basics you mentioned have to be there. No, b/c you CAN get better results while using "techniques" than you would have without using them once you have the basics down.

[–]VolatileEnemy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had kinda developed this naturally through my own experiences and reading stuff, but there are other versions of this self-posts, and the only difference is, they don't call it "hypnotize", they just call it "having game".

Finally it still kinda falls under the ranking:

  1. exposure to women
  2. status, celebrity, power
  3. attractiveness
  4. conversation skills / game (this is where this falls under)

Relying on only #4, doesn't usually work.

[–]ThrowFader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it is because I've noticed that an over the top personality is a cherry on top of the cake.

The weird and quirky stuff high SMV guys sometimes do, only stands out because they are usually calm and collected. Those are the emotional highs, but calm and assuring behavior is also necessary. Push Pull. High low. Interaction is duality.

This whole business of human interaction is really delicate and interesting.

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    [–]inexorable_stratagem 73 points74 points  (31 children)

    Russel Brand does this perfectly

    Edit: watch this.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

    Credits: /u/omrhmslf

    [–]omrhmslf 27 points28 points  (1 child)

    This video came to mind. He is in control. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

    [–]8thball 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Strangely Russell Brand also came to mind

    [–]ValuePrestige 26 points27 points  (22 children)

    How is Russell Brand calm though? He always gives me a little "gay" vibe as well

    [–]assholeofthesky 24 points25 points  (1 child)

    Russel brand is the definition of fun, DGAF and obviously has power because of fame/riches. I mean for fuck sake the guy was banging KP

    [–]assholeofthesky 15 points16 points  (0 children)

    If you think he's gay, it's because he's camp and a wizard with words. just because he gives you the gay vibe aint bad, he's just pretty much peace and love kinda dude.

    [–]inexorable_stratagem 14 points15 points  (13 children)

    Main thing OP is talking about is "how to hypnotize a girl". This is exactly what Russel does.

    He does this in his own way by being hyper energetic and very expressive. I dont think many people can pull that off, but it works for him.

    [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 22 points23 points  (4 children)

    He does this in his own way by being hyper energetic and very expressive

    So basically the opposite of what OP proposed.

    [–]inexorable_stratagem 15 points16 points  (1 child)

    And thats a great thing. It shows that the hypnotizing state OP talks about can be achieved not only by being calm, but also being energetic, like Russel does.

    The main lesson here is the hypnotizing state. Thats where all the power is. How you achieve it is secondary.

    [–]Sirkisskindofman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    (Devil's advocate?) I'd say you have to know the rules before you break them correctly and effectively. This is basic beginner stuff, being calm and maintaining frame, duh

    [–]4matting 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    If you're talking with passion and energy, you can melt panties. I've turned girls on by talking about making the best fucking pancakes they'd ever try in their life.

    [–]aesu 2 points3 points  (7 children)

    If you're as hot as Russel brand and dont have women falling over you, you have a serious personality problem.

    [–]Aghayden[S] 10 points11 points  (6 children)

    He's not ugly, but he's not that attractive man, it's his status and personality that make him so effective.

    [–]aesu 6 points7 points  (3 children)

    Holy shit, hes extremely attractive. His status and personality do him no damage. But, on looks alone, assuming he wasn't personally repulsive and a benefit scrounger, or something, he'd pull plenty.

    [–]Aghayden[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    I have friends who are better looking and make good money but don't pull at all. I asked the girl sitting across from me what she'd rate him looks wise and she said a 6 or a 7. I'd say that's about right.

    [–]aesu -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Given that male attractiveness isn't evenly distributed, and 80% of guys are rated by women as below average, that puts him in the top 10% of guys, on looks alone.

    Your friends must have dogshit personalities, or impossibly high standards, if they rate higher than a 7 on looks, and make good money. I know plenty of guys who make okay money, are definitely not as hot as Brand. They can easily get girlfriends, and can pull based on looks alone, at clubs and such.

    [–]DatsRenegade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I feel like what OP is trying to get at is that the level of attractiveness doesn't matter as much as his personality. Sure he might be in the top 10% but that isn't what pulls alone. Work on your attractiveness with what you can but working on developing that hypnotic personality is what will truly pull the attention of a room. If you get stuck on the "oh well he's attractive, of course he can pull" you ignore what information you can pull out of HOW he takes everyone's attention.

    [–]VolatileEnemy -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

    Russell Brand

    Has made a career out of being a shit personality, with shit politics, humiliating himself multiple times, and shit opinions.... while he was just a very handsome man.

    That's it. His success is directly linked to his attractiveness and his unique style of obnoxious talking.

    Would we even know about him if it wasn't for that one movie? Where he is typecasted as an attractive boyfriend?

    [–]KarmicPrism 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    His mind is very calm and collected. He just has that high energy which women LOVE.

    [–]1dongpal 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I thought women love that calm and quiet energy?

    [–]KarmicPrism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Yeah that can be creepy af if you can't pull it off right. Just don't be a spaz you know. Keep the girls interested with fun convo/mannerisms. This required very fine tuning. I mean... don't try to Russell brand it, because I think that's something only a few can pull off, mainly just him. Just don't be too quiet/ a weirdo.

    [–]just-slater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Could you elaborate a bit more?

    [–]putin_vor 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    He is good looking, rich, and famous. He can literally do nothing, and women will jump on him.

    It's pointless to use celebrities as an example.

    [–]plenty_of_eesh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    I take your point but he's definitely one-upping other celebrities every time he opens his mouth.

    One might ask if he's famous because of the traits that op is talking about.

    [–]tenXten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Perfectly? I want my time back after watching that.

    [–]1dongpal -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

    No? He is the opposite of what OP told you to do. Be calm and not hyper energic.

    [–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 17 points18 points  (5 children)

    Not for guys starting out, but certainly an effective approach.

    A calm demeanor is the fundamental trait of a hypnotic personality.

    Approach, approach, approach. It's hard to appear calm when you're approaching a women for the first time. When it's women no. 467 it's as normal as breathing.

    Overall, you want to let the girl do most of the talking

    If you're so focused on how you're coming across, you miss the ammo she gives you.

    Women are very comfortable speaking about themselves, it's an easy topic.

    Ask questions, get them to talk, they'll give you enough rope to hang them with. The more you know, the more you have to tease and talk about.

    By simply directing the conversation, she's talking herself into attraction, with you doing very little. After she's spilled all her beans she'll still be very curious about you. Feed her just enough for comfort, but keep her guessing about the rest.

    More time spent with you=more comfort.

    Get Yourself Into A Sexual State

    I've heard so many girls talk about sexual energy, so tough to explain, but so effective.

    It's impossible to build sexual energy and direct that into conversation if you're self consciously wondering what she thinks of you.

    It's almost approaching it like: "we're going to fuck, and this conversation is just foreplay"

    She does have to be attracted to you somewhat otherwise you just come across as a thirsty creep.

    Interesting post, I think PUA has more of a place here than people like to admit.

    [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Interesting post, I think PUA has more of a place here than people like to admit.

    Agreed, and I've saved it to my personal collection. It seems like as the sub grew, topics grew somewhat more general. This might not be a bad thing, but this post was good with relatively novel content.

    Approach, approach, approach. It's hard to appear calm when you're approaching a women for the first time. When it's women no. 467 it's as normal as breathing.

    This reminds me of an all time favorite, heathcliffs "I have become Chad, destroyer of pussy" which is one of the best progression posts I've ever read. The thing that really resonated was this: becoming self conscious. Women staring at me out and about....do I have a booger hanging out of my nose? Women loitering around me. Me? Really?

    My numbers aren't great after 6 months under the barbell....5'9", 162#'s, 45 y/o, DL ~ 200#'s, squat ~150#'s, OHP ~ 80#'s....but with decent genetics and a fair bit of grappling, it's enough to get a decent v-taper started, and it's like a light went off in the last few months (I was already in good shape when I started lifting). Seriously. My jokes have gotten funnier, my stories more compelling. Women position themselves in my line of sight and smile at my eye contact. Women occasionally directly open me.

    I will admit that I'm piss poor at isolating and escalating. I was in LTR's way too long. I need to get some plates in the air. It's a strange place to be. In a world of invisible incels, I am annoying women by not hitting on them. Yes, I have a good career, and no, it has nothing to do with women noticing me all of a sudden. I wear slim fit H&M v-neck t-shirts and jeans. I drive a 2-seater and live in an apartment in college town. I work remotely, in coffee shops and the like, it's not obvious I'm making good money doing technical work. For all appearances, I'm a good looking loser (the big brother I certainly needed).

    I think the OP was solid but it was also a subtle game > looks post, and that's fine, but let's not pretend that having a good physique isn't a massive multiplier to the hypnosis.

    [–]3LiveAFTSOV 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    You opinion on Machivellian PUAs? Guys who fake DHV'd and fooled dozens of pretty, but dumb girls into bed?

    [–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    No problem with it. I think each conscious being is responsible for it's role in navigating natural selection. It's propensity to develop tools determines fitness.

    Game is just one of those tools, like lifting, money etc.

    If you use game you get better girls, if you lift you get better girls, if you have lots of money you get better girls.

    I would promote working on all of the above, and using each to the best of ones ability.

    I would however always endorse being the thing you're appearing to be, over pretending to be the thing you appear to be. It's former is a far more sound long term strategy. The latter is only a short term strategy.

    Because of it's short term nature, it's fairly easy to defend against by employing a simple vetting strategy. Most high status women who hold out for a bit will surely smell somethings off. So if she falls for the trick, it's on her for not developing better tools for determining high status mates.

    [–]foreignbois 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    It's almost approaching it like: "we're going to fuck, and this conversation is just foreplay"

    its a friday night and drunk browsing TRP between happies and going out isnt probably the best thing to do, but how is this not anti-outcome independence? like if you go in thinking your'e going to fuck this chick until 8am isnt that not outcome independence?

    [–]Endorsed ContributorKeffirLime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'm not saying you should go in there attached to this ideal, but rather using this as an example of what sexual energy looks/feels like.

    Basically embodying someone who backs themselves over someone who questions themselves.

    You can still back yourself and be independent of the outcome.

    Outcome independence is not so much about not having a direction, but simply being unmoved if that outcome is not achieved.

    [–]Ezaar 18 points19 points  (0 children)

    A big takeaway for me is allowing yourself to be in a sexualized state. Coupling that with conditioning, if you frequent pornography, I’d suspect that you are not use to being in an aroused state with out the environment in which you “consume” pornography. So, it’s jarring when you achieve that state with out the stimulus for achieving that state. Reconditioning to your natural state.

    This also low key points to understanding yourself. This is greatly enhanced if you can grip the biomechanics of this stuff; I mean this in a less rigorous sense., with comfortable and appropriate depth. This’ll also help for those who aren’t just animals about it lol, but if you’re an animal...I think you’d be ok in a pure sense of this sub.

    There’s a lot to unpack here.

    [–]dogenes09 100 points101 points  (4 children)

    tl;dr - Speak and interact with her like a cartoon snake. There is a reason they have that sssssimply calming effect....

    [–]U-94 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    'Love Me Like a Reptile ' - Motorhead

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    [–]dogenes09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    That is literally exactly what I was thinking. That and Sir Hiss from Disney's Robin Hood.

    The fact that the original story of a woman being convinced to do something she has been told by God himself is very wrong involved a snake.... noted....

    [–]putin_vor 41 points42 points  (2 children)

    Dude, you need to work on your style. A wrinkled shirt, horrible haircut, even worse neck beard. Talk to a stylist, you can fix all this.

    And please, work out, you're overweight.

    [–]regularbohemian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    He’s not that overweight, but I think his style is enough of a problem to fix bc damn

    [–]Aghayden[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Thanks for the feedback. I'm aware of all this, but part of me likes looking as bad as possible for getting footage - I think it's more inspiring to see a guy who's chubby and poorly groomed get results than it is to see a guy who's maxed out his looks. IDK I could go either way on this though.

    As far as being overweight - I was in a relationship for over a year and gained over 40lbs. I just stopped caring. Lesson learned. Started counting calories and going hard at the gym, I'll be in good shape again soon.

    However, I want to get footage while overweight to show that you can still succeed with women even if you're chubby.

    [–]BobbyPeru 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    I mostly agree. The sexual state should be effortless though since you should be opening with women you are strongly attracted to

    Eye contact- yes, huge. One time I closed a girl same day, and on the way to her work (I drove her), she told me she loved my eye contact. I’d suggest practicing eye contact with live women though- kill 2 birds with on stone: get opening practice and eye contact practice

    [–]buttgoogler 28 points29 points  (9 children)

    Great post, but I have to disagree on one thing: youtube eye-contact videos. I'm glad for you if it actually worked, but oh boy for me trying this shit was the most irritating and weird experience since I discovered TRP.

    [–]PresidentTingles 14 points15 points  (5 children)

    Well then clearly you need to practice more until you are not getting irritated and weirded out. Do it until you feel calm and relaxed. P.S. it might take hours.

    [–]1-Fidelio- 11 points12 points  (3 children)

    I did acting school where it was one of the excercises, to keep eye contact for 5 minutes with someone.

    This is a really weird experience and people would experience a whole host of emotions while doing it (sure we're actors, we're prone to emotional outbursts).

    I don't think you can really replace the interaction that takes place at an animal level from eye contact, because it's a mutual back and forth, whereas youtube videos give no response to what you're doing or signalling.

    If you think this shit is helpful, get someone to do this with you. Find a friend. Convince a stranger of this "cool thing" you found. If you can't find someone to do this with, you have some deeper problems to work on first than maintaining eye contact, imho.

    [–]thephilospherstoned 6 points7 points  (2 children)

    Wait a minute, are you making yourself calm and vulnerable to seduce me?

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      [–]buttgoogler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Thanks for advice, but I already have my eye-contact on point. Practicing on real women makes progress faster.

      [–]rockyp32 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      Not fapping makes eye contact 100000 % easier especially when using porn

      [–]buildup12345 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      you mean not fapping but watching porn?

      [–]rockyp32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      No I’m saying using porn is way worse

      [–]2virusofthemind 7 points8 points  (3 children)

      Solid post. Essence of hypnosis.

      1/ Attract attention: This is usually the approach itself.

      2/ Generate an unconscious state in the woman; an "unconscious state" in this sense is a state which involves an emotion, but eye contact is an outlier in that it's not a pure emotional generator but it does involve the same part of the brain (the limbic system) and can be used to the same end.

      3/ Lead to the desired state; The desired state being of course a sexual one. We all give of and receive subtle emotional cues to and from other people and it's generally accepted that mirror neurons are involved. Mirror neuron informational transmission is sort of like the "dark web" of interpersonal communication, it works under the radar and most people don't have a clue it's there.

      When an emotional state has been generated in the target then her conscious brain is dropping the situational state down to her unconscious for it to utilise its own heuristic pattern recognition system and response modules.

      In other words its saying "whats the frame? What's the frame?" as it (the conscious) doesn't like uncertainty, because uncertainty can mean danger but also paradoxically opportunity. The unconscious doesn't know the frame either so you're going to give it a helping hand.

      Think of it as someone in the middle of the sea flailing about looking for a life vest. You of course provide the life vest which in this case is sexual attraction. By doing so you can bypass her critical factor (conscious mind) by injecting the sexual state direct into her unconscious for her to grab onto. Uncertainty gone, mental homeostasis achieved.

      The delivery of our sexual state/life vest is done by "going first", in other words putting yourself into the state and letting her mirror neurons detect it and latch onto it and then of course incorporating it.

      I mainly recommend this technique for polarising girls (Mark Manson) to save you some time infield. First force an ioi and then if she responds use the method and see how it goes.

      As a fun demonstration: Next time you're out on the town and chatting to some random girls stop a sentence midway through (mild confusion and heightened attention on her part) when you know she's listening and then make full eye contact and make a vivid mental picture of you railing her hard and her squirting all over the shop. Picture it hard using as many sensory inputs as you can and watch what happens. Look for eye widening, softening of the features or pupil dilation (sometimes they even touch you) if you get these responses, then she's dropped into the sexual frame and it's time to escalate. If you don't get the response don't worry just carry on as if nothing has happened and try a bit later when more comfort has been added. Sometimes there's a time delay involved and the girl will approach you later.

      Note: This method works best with intelligent women but not as much so with vacuous party girls due to their lives being full of confusion anyway so your state inducement has other inputs to battle it out with.

      [–]Vrokko 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Wait just stop talking mid thought? I playing this scenario out in my head and its fucking hillarious

      [–]_PM_ME_UR_LINGERIE_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Vrokko.exe has stopped responding... wait? Or close program?

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Attract attention: This is usually the approach itself.

      The only minor quibble with an otherwise excellent comment. Then again, I'm a slightly older dude and I'm not going to approach without an IOI, specifically eye contact and some sort of signal, smile, whatever. It's not too hard to attract attention if you take good care of yourself.

      Note: This method works best with intelligent women

      You're speaking my language, bro. It's great fun getting into a smart bitches head.....in both senses.

      Great comment. I'm going to give it a try. I love it. Straight up love it.

      when you know she's listening and then make full eye contact and make a vivid mental picture of you railing her hard

      If I've learned anything on TRP it is to sexualize and escalate. I am living proof that without Killer Instinct, nothing else matters. Lift all you want, pump your SMV, none of it matters without escalation, full stop.

      [–]AceMav21 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      Biggie🍆 Biggie🍆 Biggie🍆 Can’t you see I love the way you hypnotize me. Just gotta be like biggie RIP.

      [–]KingKongAinGtNtnOnMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      True that! If Biggie can anybody can! 👍

      [–]BurnoutRS 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      A thought on morality

      Thoughts are neither immoral nor moral Actions are

      One of the trapping of the BP mindset is that thoughts are put forward as having equal weight as actions. If you think something racist, or say something that betrays a, potentially, racially motivated thought, you are condemned as being just as bad as those who have acted on such thoughts. Your flexing cognitive muscle lifting the load of racially motivated thought is seen as the same strain and effort as the physical, exertive muscle lifting the load of the black mans body into the tree

      To discuss power is not evil. To have power is not evil. To use power to inflict suffering and only in the name of suffering, that is the only true evil and it is fucking rare. How many times have you honestly hurt someone or something just to derive sheer pleasure out of causing suffering? Not even as a byproduct either, I mean the type of shit where you get up in the morning, go to the petstore, buy a hamster and then drown it in your morning coffee for shits.

      So Nietzsche said something along the lines of "I have often laughed at those without claws who thought themselves good"

      It is fallacious to think that desiring power makes you evil. That it is indicative of a restless soul that you arent content with all that you have or that its even a negative state of being to posess a soul that one might deem restless. A man, watching his village suffer at the hands of bandits, is he evil for wanting to make more of himself so that he might make life better for him and his neighbours?

      Youre only evil for wanting to get better at fucking girls if girls are pure and innocent, nymphlike creatures who are stained and corrupted by sex. Since girls are just as horny as you are, youre actually good for wanting to have more power over women. You want to fuck hot chicks well? So do they. Its desireable for both sexes because when you are a confident man who takes charge in the bedroom, you'll have the best sex youve ever had. When she's being taken by a confident man who takes charge in the bedroom... you get my point

      [–]Psychoptic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Well said man. Whether or not Mao saw himself as the benevolent leader reconstructing his people for the better is irrelevant to his actual detrimental effects upon the world. By that same token, there were Roman generals who took power for no reason other than malevolent desire to see enemy cities burn, but in doing so improved their own country and lessened resource burdens on their people. If you see contemplation as the source of your morality/immorality you have no reason to do anything great at all.

      [–]PM_Me_OK 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      So I guess when we read this post, we become hypnotized too.

      [–]naIamgood 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      You don't wanna talk about anything that will make the girl remember her past too much. Ex boyfriend, past love, were you ever on drugs? Was your father abusive? Are all terrible questions. You instead want her to forget about those depressive things and give her a feeling that you don't care about her past. Make her live in the moment with you and you should be the only thing she should be thinking about. How you do that is a separate topic.

      [–]gbnz87 4 points5 points  (3 children)

      I liked that video. Well explained and I got a few ideas from it. At the end you say you will upload every week but there's only 1 video on your channel.

      [–]Aghayden[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      My computer (which had all my footage save on it) bit the dust. Gathering more footage now and will post more infields ASAP.

      [–]gbnz87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I subscribed so ill give them a watch when they do show up. Who knows if youtube will show up in my feed or not.

      [–]PressingForward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You think you’ll hit that 1 million subscribers dog?

      [–]marcopoloman 17 points18 points  (20 children)

      Ignore them. They come running.

      [–]ValuePrestige 25 points26 points  (18 children)

      This is just not true for everybody. Imagine an ugly looking guy ignoring a hot chick. Do you really think she would come running? Certainly not.

      [–]warthundersfw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Very cool Ahmad, why don’t you bring it to the White House

      [–]danoranika 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Full circle! NLP is back. Welcome to the 90's 🕶

      [–]xiannnnnn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Excited to see this as a top post for the month. Good information.

      [–]PresidentTingles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Thanks OP. Loved this fresh post.

      [–]redpill77 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Wow. Very simple and comprehensive. A great way to conceptualize things for good escalation. And it isn't mentioned enough: be entitled. KNOW that she will be missing out if she doesn't get to have sex with you.

      [–]corneliusmithridates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I feel like if you are the kind of person who is into this stuff, that is probably not true.

      [–]Dawnguards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Its nice PUA article. But redpill guys should be wary of women in certain countries that can make regret rape accuse... Or blackmailing..or both..

      [–]420KUSHBUSH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Solid post and good concepts, however, I'm impulsive and a risk taker

      Eye contact and calm demeanor I maintain, however, as those two are essential to succeeding in relationships of all sorts and living a more peaceful life

      [–]CoolGuyRy099311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Does anyone else feel that TRP is your natural state? I read so many posts describing how to be and always come to the conclusion that those personality traits are already ingrained in me and it is natural.

      I really do not want to brag but I am attractive and it is easy to actually bring in women to like me. I guess I just have that natural charm but I still read these posts since I am good at opening but never try closing. I hope to find some good tips for that specific problem if anyone can point me to the right direction. Thanks in advance.

      [–]TopherOHoolihan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Tldr but i will bookmark this. Seems like a good future read

      [–]RemyPrice 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Holy fuck this video is pure cringe.

      [–]Aghayden[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      If you want to elaborate and provide some feedback I'd be happy to hear it.

      [–]ValuePrestige 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      The YouTubelink is missing

      [–]mark2262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      How do I go about this if I have asperger’s tendencies

      [–]civilizedfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Keep on gaming.

      P.s. You need to lift

      [–]MrAnderzon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      For her to open up one should first open themselves first to get the ball rolling but not say to much

      [–]MiddleClasshole777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      OP, did you find Scott Adams and apply his writing on persuasion to TRP? Because it sounds a lot like it. Not that that's a bad thing, mind you.

      [–]Brickles09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Thanks, what a great post! Congrats on the girl’s cold approach, the incels at the tables behind could have learned with you.

      [–]BurnoutRS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Weird thought just hit me reading your last line. "If you think having a sexual relationship with you isn’t in a woman’s best interest, then using the strategies you learned in this article would be manipulative."

      Its as if AFC/Beta leaning guys instinctively know this even if they cant consciously express it. Maybe they do, I just cant offer any proof so I'll leave this as conjecture. Anecdotally speaking, the more beta I was, the less I thought of myself and the more PUA and Game oriented literature seemed chauvanistic, pigheaded, manipulative.

      Compounded by my then understanding that to be meek, modest and essentially forfeit all my worldly power as a man, was the desired state of actualized being, it makes sense that I would manifest this mindset.

      People are instinctively driven to seek out higher positions in social hierarchies as a means of survival. Knowing this, one can see how the whole world would then be in competition, with everyone seeking out the dominant place. So from there a number of strategies can be employed, but the ultimate one would be to eliminate as much of the competition as possible. Get people to strive for mediocrity under the guise of greatness.

      So simply put a person who thinks lowly of themselves, when pressed to sell themselves, feels like a charlatain. If, they internalize this to be the natural state, that this is how they should be, then everyone else who "claims" to feel good about themselves, is an arrogant prick, a liar, delusional, however else you might rationalize it

      [–]TheAmazingFactBoy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Surely some of these things are contradictory to some red pill principles? Like never showing your weaknesses? I mean having a conversation where you admit you had depression in order for her to talk about things like that will make you just look weak?

      [–]Aghayden[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Talking about something vulnerable isn't showing weakness unless you're ashamed of it. Acting tough by never talking about anything vulnerable to show off how "strong" you are -that's what makes you look weak.

      [–]PM_ME_UR_NIPS_GURL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Good post. I've been neglecting touching on my personality, or rather, building it up because I didn't think it mattered. In my arrogance I just thought that looks was everything. I was looking for anything long term so I got what I wanted. But I will try taking an active interest in others and flip the questions they ask me.

      [–]JerryLawlerPigFace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Interesting post. I liked it.

      However I do have one question:

      Wouldn’t it be unwise to share such details such as “I dealt with anxiety and depression?” I understand that you may want to admit to a few human flaws every now and then as to not appear too perfect...however from what I’ve read here on TRP it’s always better to lean into being perfect rather than lean into being the sensitive guy that is open about his problems.

      I’ve personally dealt with anxiety and depression and there is a major difference in the interactions between the girls I’ve told about it and the ones I didn’t. For the ones I told, they are not compassionate and I can tell they lose respect for me or see me in a more beta light. For the ones I don’t tell, I act as though my life is sweet, always has been sweet, and always will be sweet. I am unperturbable, always in a fantastic mood and came out of the womb immaculate. This has worked far better than allowing myself to become emotionally open and vulnerable with women

      [–]Philosfy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Excellent article. This is what TRP is all about

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      [–]Katayani108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Err like you said fine line though between manipulation and influence. I think in a healthy relationship both parties can influence each other to be the best person they can possibly be, no hypnosis required.

      [–]l-aww 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      This post has great content and I do agree with most of it, however:

      No, hypnosis is actually a very real and very powerful thing. It has these dumb origins but once you crack open how it works the origins make sense. Hypnosis only works if they believe it's going to work. So if we go back to mesmer, who wore a cape and used a crystal ball and told people he was casting magic...

      but hypnosis isn't magic. Mind control isn't real. And this post is correct in that it's simply an altered state of consciousness, which we come across every day.

      However, hypnosis is not some small or weak thing. It is incredibly potent when done correctly. It has been used to induce analgesia for surgery. It has spawned its own form of therapy because it can help treat PTSD... etc.

      Anecdotally, among many other things: I've successfully used hypnosis to make several women orgasm without touching them. And I've successfully hypnotized myself to the same result. As in, I literally made girls writh in pleasure just by talking to them, and I made myself ejaculate just by talking to myself. No touching at all. Which makes you wonder? Is sex just all in our heads?

      But I digress. See, this post might have incorrect premises but it actually ends up saying many correct things. You absolutely can put a girl in trance just by talking to her. And the more rapport you build, the deeper the trance.

      The author is correct. You don't need to count from 1-10 or swing a watch back and forth to hypnotize. Those methods are mostly in the movies, but they work on the principle that if you distract the conscious mind you can deepen a trance far more effectively.

      I'm tempted to develop some methods to hypnotize women more directly just in casual conversation. Ie, without them knowing. Pretty amoral but eh, what do y'all think?

      [–]thossthoss 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      As in, I literally made girls writh in pleasure just by talking to them

      Was this during a normal conversation?

      [–]l-aww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      No, I haven't tried to make it covert. But this isn't just telling someone porn. It's more like you're commanding their body. I didn't say any "erotic" things. Other than maybe her submitting to my voice, stuff like that.

      [–]Tarentula12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I would be very interested in knowing more about it.

      [–]warthundersfw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

      I have this quirk whet if I stare at a pattern I hallucinate wiggles. Well I met another girl and she was about to describe it and I interrupted her saying it. If you guys have played the fallout series, it’s as if I went straight to “Gracie idolizes you”. It’s as if you immediately know each other’s secrets and have that level of trust. This experience shows me that the hypnotic effect works described here.

      Once you’re in it becomes as if she doesn’t even need to hide attraction or comfort. Close body language. Grumpiness at having to leave, great stuff

      [–]Low-Belly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

      Why not drop the bullshit (and very creepy) hypnotizing idea? This boils down to: Be kind, Be strong, listen, get to know each other.

      [–]perdipp -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

      Citing the increased rate of Rape in the country re...

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