I know these are a dime a dozen but I just need to get this off my chest. If anyone get's any value of this all the better.
I was in a serious relationship for a good third of my life. During which I tried to do what I thought was right. I listened, did all the things she wanted and over time my character and my strong dominant side started to become blue to the core.
Don't get me wrong. I did my share of errors but I took no shit. Slowly I started to tolerate. After tolerance I started to accept. Then it became the way of things. "That's just how women are - LOL" became my stupid mantra. The sex helped too.
But things came to a crashing halt when my son was born. I saw the path that i was heading and pulled the breaks on this bullshit marriage and dealt with the divorce as civil as I can. Guys, divorce rape is real. You don't know what it's like until she takes half your shit, tries to push you out of your own child's life, alienate friends and family and then use the money you BROUGHT to the table to buy lavish luxuries.
But I digress. This occasionally still strikes a nerve even though it's been years.
Recently, I started to look back into investing. When I separated, I had brought close to 40 grand in terms of investments to her. She used her money for expensive trips post divorce and I used my remainder to hire a lawyer for basic visitation rights to my son.
The result. Pay attention fellas. Is that she got my son, my possessions, the money I had been savings and I got the basic right to see my boy (which is a blessing TBH), debt and the burden of living with friends and family till I got back on my feet.
While looking at the current price of cryptocurrency, I saw that it had exploded. When I was looking at investing into it, I was going to put a few hundreds into the coin for the novelty of it. I figured I spend more of food and drinks with friends, it goes somewhere and I make a few bucks back then great. If not then I won't be breaking the bank. Nope. She had a business venture that she wanted. This required money and savings (which I brought) but was POORLY executed and tanked.
12k wasted on this nonsense with nothing to show for it. Hell, I didn't even go after her for this on our separation because I wanted nothing to do with it.
But had I invested (she didn't know that I was investing before because I was using a portion of my income from a raise to make sound business decisions) she would've been livid for the gambling. Fast forward and I see how much bitcoin was/is going for. Keep in mind that when I was looking into this it was 2012...the amount of money that could've come from that venture made me see red. It took some time for me to process the facts. Had I made even more money she would've got half of it. Sure I would've got some but the outcome would've been the same. Me paying for a lavish lifestyle that I put towards and she capitalized on.
Had I won the lotto she'd get even more money through child support.
Guys do not get married and if you HAVE to for the love of all that is holy sign a document to protect your asset. If she makes more than you, great but how many of us can say that? How many of us marry a 'stable woman' with good values, sound business sense and a rational compassionate soul?