Red Pill TheoryWhy Millennial Men are failing (self.TheRedPill)

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Millennials are constantly written and spoken about in various magazines, blogs, news channels, and books. Why does the world have such a hatred for millennials? Here is the answer, because millennials are actually stupid as fuck. Now this may seem a little harsh, but it is simply the blunt truth. (I will use my own life as an example)

  1. Childhood

About one in every four children, lives with their mother. This could mean single mother, or divorced parents. When raised by a single mother, as a male, you are raised with a female mindset. This could mean freedom in playing with the toys you choose, the way you express yourself, or the type of people you surround yourself with. I am a perfect example. I lived with my mother until I was 16. Up until then, I was very emotionally, clingy, sheltered, and somewhat feminine. I had more friends that were girls, than friends that were guys. I would partake in gossip, chose girl talk over sports, and could not click with very many guys. I was a pushover, and I was okay with people walking all over me. I even when to an elementary school with all female teachers. Now at first glance, this may not mean much, but it really means a lot. Female teachers are actually very sexist. They prefer female students over males, and do not think logically. Punishing a male child for something minor, and letting a female child get away with it. This creates a dominance hierarchy with women at the top of it. This is a large part of the problem. I ended up leaving my previous school for disciplinary issues, and moved to a small Christian school.

  1. Adolescence

I ended up leaving my previous school for disciplinary issues, and moved to a small Christian school. This is where things started to change. At this school, gender roles were much more traditionally, and guys hung out with guys, and girls hung out with girls. The staff was more male than female, and it was run very strict. When I arrived, I was immediately adopted into a group of guys, and this is where things start to get interesting. When I was surrounding myself with masculine figures, and not little beta bitch boys, I started to treat women with less respect, started to stick up for myself, and started to run into issues with my mother. When my mother saw that I was adopting different ideals, and not being as feminine in my mindset, we began arguing, and fighting a lot. This is essentially a subconscious crab bucket mentality. When people seeing you do well for yourself, they will try to pull you down, sometimes even your own family. This is huge in today's society, as many women put down men who are trying to better themselves. Things got so bad, I went to live with my dad. For the first week, things were alright, and then my dad started to notice problems. I was sheltered, emotional, and relatively feminine. He began to tell me things like "man up", "handle your shit", and "don't complain". From a person who never heard these said to his face before, it was a shock. After a while, it became normal, and I started to realize these ideals.

  1. Adulthood

When a Millennial man goes out into the world, he is basically an ant, already mentally prepared to get squashed. He is brainwashed by feminine ideals through home life, media, school, and modern society. Millennial men are weak minded, and this is a huge part of the problem. If they try to do better, they will be put down.


Millennial men are major pushovers with no sense of self. They care to much about what other people think, and blame all their problems on everyone but themselves. They do not think of life in it's most basic form. To succeed nowadays, one must become somewhat of an outcast, and not care about societies rules. Almost every successful person has stepped outside the box, and gone through life in an unorthodox way. Almost all millennial men are beta as fuck, and have nothing of value to offer to you. Still around people who are successful, and think in a different way than all these brainwashed cucks. The problem with millennial men, is an over feminized society, with everyone trying to push you down.

Would like to hear everyone's thoughts on this

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 157 points158 points  (39 children)

Guys interested in this topic may find the below useful:

Things My Father Taught Me: Advice for guys raised by single moms

-Fatherly Wisdom, Distilled.

[–]Radkin007 11 points12 points  (22 children)

There a version of this for guys raised by single fathers?

[–]halfback910 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Yeah, it's called a cookbook.

[–]riggedved 26 points27 points  (7 children)

I was raised by a single father. I will be constructing a post on it shortly.

[–]Radkin007 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Cool, I was also raised by a single father and was going to post on it as it’s not the norm. I’d like to discuss in details with you our differences and similarities.

[–]moronicmango123 35 points36 points  (9 children)

My mom taught me about the importance of being compassionate, the importance of sacrifice, how not to use my overall superior physicality against women who aren’t posing a threat to me, how celebrating a death (even that of a criminal) is in poor taste, how forgiveness heals both ways, and how to empathize with my fellow man.

My dad taught me that constant drinking will cause you to lose your family and an amazing woman who was capable of forgiving someone that put her in the hospital in a drunken rage.

I really love people painting the world, the people, all its intricacies with what feels like an aerosol can. Maybe a roller.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 12 points13 points  (3 children)

She taught you how to be everything your father wasn't.

Of course, she was attracted to your father, enough to have him put a baby into her... So I guess you can trade off sexual desire for making mom happy

[–]moronicmango123 6 points7 points  (2 children)

My father was a human. Alcoholism and addiction is an illness. To say that I was taught to be everything my father wasn’t is to imply you know who I am and who my father was.

I’m not really understanding the whole trading off sexual desire for making my mom happy. I’d really appreciate if you could elaborate.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Ugg. I need a tampon after reading that.

Your innate protective instinct for a female that is suffering is not your mother teaching you. Taking a fist and smiling about it is a shitty lesson to a young man. She may be signaling something to other women, but she sure as fuck isn't demonstrating how masculine behavior should be, either by her actions or tolerating the actions of others.

It doesn't take a 150 IQ to figure out that getting shitfaced and beating women is going to put you in a bad place. You don't even need your father to learn that. Hell, I figure that one all out on my own.

Now you may kindly ball up all that moral outrage and shove it back up from whence you obtained it. We don't do that in this sub.

[–]moronicmango123 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I mean I was just replying to the thread and showcasing the different things I learned from both of my parents. I didn’t really mean to claim that the things I learned from my mother were masculine.

However I admit, I did want to convey the idea that a single mother (albeit not fully equipped to raise a son as a father might) had valuable things to learn from and that my father was a trash can of a human being. I guess I overstepped my bounds there. I apologize.

It also might seem obvious to any person that drunken violence is bad but for me that is a lesson I learned early and deeply. I guess I’ll buy you a box a tampons, because it seems like it’s about that time for you. I hope u feel better.

[–]AceMav21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I like the endorsed contributors😂.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like a couple other guys are composing one.

[–]mushroom_overlord 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think so, and I imagine this sub will say "who cares" since it's about positive masculine roles, which the single father is providing. I think a good mother figure is important, but you should probably look somewhere else.

[–]Poloyatoki 48 points49 points  (8 children)

As a millennial man I was left to my own devices since the age of seven. We were the true defective girls. I sucked at school then all of a sudden I get into STEM and started to fuck up shit cause it's mainly a male field, male lecturers etc. All the trauma we face is because we have been raised with ignorance, an incongruence so to speak.

You look like a man, feel like a man but act like a girl. Women don't understand this they just see this incongruence.

[–]shhadowboxxer 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I feel this in my own self. It is like having a different self that is constantly pulling you towards a feminine narrative. My own brother basically threw his life away because a therapist convinced him that his problems in life stem from the fact that he is in fact a woman. Now he is trans gendered and demands everyone call him 'Emily'. Its ridiculous and a fucking sham. And it's everywhere.

[–]Wabbajak 44 points45 points  (5 children)

One big thing is the education system, as you noted. Not only that elementary school teachers are mostly women who automatically treat girls better than boys ("Hannah is so nice and sweet and reminds me of myself when I was a little girl!"), but the school system itself prefers girly behavior.

Our current school system is entirely focused on discipline, dull repitition and following orders: Students who are able to sit still, listen to the teacher's instructions, never ask critical questions and do as they are told are rewarded. On average girls tend to be more agreeable (being nice and compliant, cooperative and follow orders without wanting to risk an argument) and are more conscientious (orderly and industrious when it comes to following an objective).

Notice how the description of your average teenage boy is anything but what was said above. Boys have a high drive to go out and move, tell jokes and do pranks. Their brains need more dopamine in order to get motivated and do things (partially why boys are prone to be addicted to video-games or masturbation, both of which provide huge amounts of dopamine). In addition, boys have a natural inclination to compete with other kids, to one up whenever they can. Sitting still in a slow and boring environment while listening to teachers is the opposite of what any boy wants and what drives their motivation circuitry.

Male virtues such as strength, courage, challenging authorities and choosing to act on one's own behalf by being highly competitive instead (low agreeableness), the ability to solve problems in creative ways and not be dependent on following well established routes (low conscientiousness) are punished instead.

Critical thinking is punished. The students who learn in order to pass have more success than students who learn in order to understand the topic. That is, partially, why girls tend to have more success in schools.

[–]kalashnick 31 points32 points  (1 child)

-but the school system itself prefers girly behavior

-Sitting still in a slow and boring environment while listening to teachers is the opposite of what any boy wants and what drives their motivation circuitry.

Which is why stereotypically, the highest male academic achievers in the classroom are not very masculine.

[–]chopcult 2 points3 points  (1 child)

You must have read "Boys Adrift" by Dr. Leonard Sax. You wrote an excellent synopsis of his book.

I would add that girls do well in school not because they want to learn the subject, per say but because they want to please the teacher. Primary education is female dominated. Female teachers are in education primarily because it's not a competitive endeavor and the rewards are validation by most girls and many of the increasingly non-competitive boys. It's a self-perpetuating validation seeking circle jerk tailored to women.

Boys learn by trial and error, competitive pursuits, and attaining competence in their interests. They don't just want to learn, they want to become good at it as it provides the rewards of competence. Boys are willing to take risks and failure is feedback that is embraced as a learning aid.

Female teachers don't want any hint of failure in their classrooms as they see it as a black mark against them. The validation students provide female teachers is their primary motivation.

Blaming parents for their unruly boys is how Ritalin became the best tool in their arsenal to maintain the smooth running agreeable validation machine.

[–]Wabbajak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not exactly, I just tend read and absorb anything that I find interesting about that topic, among others obviously. Where I got most of my information for writing this was this Art of Manliness podcast I listened to a while back. The author talks intensively about boys and why they fail at school.

You mentioned a very important point that stems from girl's tendency to be agreeable: they don't want to get into trouble with the teacher and follow their orders in order to please them.

Anyway, thanks for your input. I will consider reading it.

[–]gonzo1986_2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of pink floyd.. Another brick in the wall

[–]AssDefect20 52 points53 points  (28 children)

Why do single mothers raise their sons to be beta bitch boys? Its your son, your blood, your genes, you should want him to be the biggest fucker ever.

[–]jonpe87 64 points65 points  (4 children)

They want you to have a good life, but they dont know what it takes from a man to have a good life, because they are a woman. A woman will never understand reality from a masculine point of view, that we are survival beasts. So once you start to try to face the world her ego fear your loss without compreend that is in this battle that you will become a man of value. It's like a natural shit test.

[–]AssDefect20 21 points22 points  (2 children)

The scary part is that a majority of men (even now, and that number will rise in the future) dont even know what masculinity is, and cant be expected to raise masculine men.

[–]Orbiter45 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The emotional and physical pair bonding, activates female submission, and male dominance. Or another way to look at it, is that women loose their autonomy through relationships. They need the chemical exchange, and emotional bond, drawing them into compliance. But they buck at the loss of their personal power. Given how easy it is to get a man's attention, its kinda embarrassing to loss one's self to man. Which makes them fight dirty, demanding comfort, and constantly redefing that that means.

They continue this fight in their brains, creating a roller coaster of emotion. When you know how this works, its crazy accurate, and fun to watch.

[–]InterNetting 70 points71 points  (2 children)

They want their boys to never leave them like the father did. Some would rather their son become a 40 year old virgin than ever leave.

[–]alex_b98 22 points23 points  (14 children)

They want them to be Mama's little boy forever, without actually worrying about the consequences of that. Has been happening to me. Would still be if I hadn't woken up in time. It's both ironic and sad.

[–]AssDefect20 18 points19 points  (5 children)

I was in a tram, watching a grandma talking with her cca 5yo grandson. He randomly flipped off another kid in a car that was next to a tram, and started laughing loudly. Then grandma and 2 other random women proceeded to scold him for 5 minutes. The phrases they used were so disturbing, like they were training a dog. "Good boys have to be polite." "You are grandmas good little boy, right?". You could see the joy being removed from that kids face, his life force being sucked out by the Feminine Imperative. Contrast that with how I raise my younger brother. We would give each other high fives and laugh about it. And guess what? In important social situations he never does stupid shit, and is always the most charismatic kid of the gathering.

[–]hearse223[🍰] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me so strongly.

Being raised by mostly female relatives you hear this "be a good boy" shit so much it gets programmed into your psyche.

[–]alex_b98 12 points13 points  (3 children)

Yes, it is fucking bullshit. And it feels horrible to experience the effects of this programming when it's done to you. I was raised by my psycho mother while my father worked abroad to keep the family going, so no father figure for me during puberty, when I most needed it, and I went through the exact same crap you mentioned. Needless to say, it was a huge wake-up call when I realized all the crap that was going on. It was time for change, and I found the strength to do it

[–]AssDefect20 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Good luck bro. Dont ever relativize things you accomplish. For every one of you that had the strength to resist the programming, there are ten beta mamas boy low t no gym gender studies hipster bearded feminist instagram leftist cucks.

[–]Philosophipster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

#mylifestorytoo Thanks for sharing :)

[–]askmrcia 8 points9 points  (7 children)

I look at so many pro athletes and you can tell which ones came from a single mother.

Kevin Durant is probably the worse. Love him as a player but it really bothers me how he brings his mom around him and every where he goes. And you can see the effect that it takes on him because he is ridiculously over emotional and insecure.

LeBron James isn't too far behind.

[–]ssr402 8 points9 points  (6 children)

LeBron James seems to be doing pretty well in every aspect of his life. Hard to see him as a bad example.

[–]askmrcia 7 points8 points  (5 children)

Him doing well isn't my point. Durant is doing well in every aspect of his life as well.

I'm talking about their personalities more than anything.

Constant complaining, sub tweeting, communicating indirectly, lashes out at people who critize them, very sensitive, ect...

LeBron, Durant, terrell owens and many other athletes from single parent households do this compared to the ones that aren't coming from single parent households.

[–]SuperCrazy07 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Agreed. You don't/didn't see Tom Brady or Peyton Manning being nice to people who fuck up during the game, only to write vague twitter posts after the game.

[–]NealAMerr 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Yeah, but you also don’t see Lebron James and Kevin Durant kissing their male kid on the lips either. The man is truly the GOAT, but come on

[–]SuperCrazy07 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Agreed, that was odd.

Still, if before birth I could choose between being raised by a single mom or having a dad teach my ass into how to become the GOAT with a couple of quirks...

[–]AllahHatesFags 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They are incapable of properly raising their sons to be men because they aren't men.

[–]NightTripInsights 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Because single moms hate men, either moms hate men because they ended up single or they hated men to begin with. Only single mom I know that doesn't hate men and is raising her sons to be strong and respectable like their father is single because her hubby died in the line of duty during a drug raid. Other than that, the reason single moms raise beta bitch boys with their wallet open and attention ready to give is because mom subconsciencely raised what she wanted from the beginning, not a man but a bitch who will take care of her and not question her.

[–]frooschnate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can’t help it

[–]TheBadGoy 107 points108 points  (21 children)

I also think "the Matrix" has forgotten to update its software. Think about it, we have the Internet now with so many possibilities, yet we are still using the Prussian school system. Millennials are simply tired of the same ol stuff... Hollywood, News Outlets, Politicians, Military, The Rat race and The famous "American Dream" They would rather become Nazis, Marxists or Incels and have a YouTube career. The Matrix has lost control of the narrative and is struggling to find more bodies to feed itself, unfortunately having them clean their room won't be enough. Millenials have given up... being an adult is no longer appealing

[–]Ezaar 60 points61 points  (16 children)

I mean, we’re comfortable. Theres no real push to become an “adult”.

[–]SteadyRoamer 42 points43 points  (5 children)

As a guy who who battled depression most of his life coupled with being a bit aimless, I spent most of my early adult life just "checked out" being a homebody gamer. Started to change all that in my late 20's, but I feel I'm starting to see more and more of this checking mentality of people in their late teens to early 20's.

I hate to sound like parrot, but I believe the invasion of male spaces is not doing anyone any favors. I'm a proud Eagle Scout and have been wondering just wtf the BSA is doing by allowing girls in. It's sad that instead of the Girl Scouts changing to what their girls want, they instead lose them to the Boy Scouts.

[–]climaxingplatypus 5 points6 points  (4 children)

"I hate to sound like parrot, but I believe the invasion of male spaces is not doing anyone any favors. I'm a proud Eagle Scout and have been wondering just wtf the BSA is doing by allowing girls in. It's sad that instead of the Girl Scouts changing to what their girls want, they instead lose them to the Boy Scouts."

Has the organization actually gone theough with this? I read about this while back, but never followed up on it.

[–]Incel9876 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Has the organization actually gone theough with this? I read about this while back, but never followed up on it.

The "Boy Scouts" literally don't exist anymore, they dropped "Boy" from the name to signal their full acceptance of females and the Left. Just last nail in coffin really, hand writing was on the wall when they accepted sodomites and atheists.

[–]blazeddto 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Can you explain what being atheist has to do with anything boy scout related? Seems out of place to me.

[–]Persaeus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Boy Scout Oath

On my honor, I will do my best To do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; To help other people at all times; To keep myself physically strong, mentally awake and morally straight.

the last BS law - be Reverent

source - an atheist Eagle Scout

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They always historically required members to have some sort of religious affiliation. They changed, not because they wanted to, but because they were badgered by the left (read: women) into it.

[–]Smigg_e 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have so many friends that are 27 years old living at home working enough to get by. Don't work out don't do anything to better themselves. Go out every night and go fishing all day on their down time and bitch about how their lives suck and that they're parents are pieces of shit for giving them shit all the time. I cant even hang out with them anymore..

[–]Prophet6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They may be that way now but the loss of squandered potential will catch up with them soon. It's not about following some cheaply marketed American dream, it's about staving off nihilism and finding something that's personally fulfilling.

[–]bonusfruit[🍰] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Standing up straight while cleaning your room. Now that's the key

[–]TheMrk790 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It never was appealing. But now we tell them, that they are bot responsable and so they ask, why they should put effort in a hard and useless task

[–]civilization_failed 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It never was appealing.

Honestly pulling six figures, owning a house, driving paid for vehicles and having a stay at home woman to mother my kids properly makes me feel pretty smug when I hear about these nu-males blogging that they can't afford houses and women crying where have all the good men gone.

The best part of it is, I'm flying through the shit tests and been maintaining my spine and testicles the whole way.

Being a millennial adult is appealing to me. Thanks red pill!

[–]69odin420 16 points17 points  (12 children)

I wholeheartedly agree. I had the same problem growing up with my mom and I'm trying to get out of that mental state while trying to stay sober from drugs. It's a struggle but I gotta do it to succeed. Any tips? Just started college.

[–][deleted] 41 points42 points  (3 children)

bro simply realize, that literally no one cares about you. hard realization, but its essentially.

[–]CaptainSweno 26 points27 points  (1 child)

bro simply realize, that literally no one cares about you. hard realization, but its essentially.

this isn't true. Nobody cares enough to do your work for you. But people care. People will help if you need help and are trying. Actually no they won't. Fuck, you're right.

[–]jonpe87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol, good, people like you when you can provide something. but sometimes you are their punch bag, watch out...

[–]NoMoreMrNiceGuy95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You nailed it with that one. I'd also add that after certain point in your life, if you don't do your absolute best to better yourself, no one else will. And when i say better yourself i'm not talking about the blue pill version of it, you know exactly what i mean.

[–]tukiusebi 25 points26 points  (2 children)

Don't be a pussy. Get your shit together.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this is the best advice. I used to self wallow in my pity and ask why i had a weak father etc. I now do nofap, go gym 4x a week, supplement, drink plenty of water, eat no junk (Just natural foods), cold shower everyday and I try to emulate my uncle as best as I can. He is into woodcrafting (built a tree fort over the summer), shooting, cycling etc. I am 18, long way to go, but just thought I would write it up for my own sake even if no one cares lol.

[–]mattizie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Spend the money you were going to spend on drugs to move out and pay rent. Get room mates to keep shit affordable.

[–]sleepyweaselisawake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your GPA matters, do your best in every class. The core courses and electives are typically BS, but they're easy As. Don't go through the motions, stay engaged and get something out of each lesson.

Join social clubs, volunteer to be a tutor, and don't isolate yourself from your classmates. If you don't understand something or want more info on a concept let your professor know.

Start building professional relationships. They might be able to help when you start a job search.

Good luck.

[–]Kampizi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did a lot of drugs in college, still did well, still am doing well enough

Wish I had tried harder, I would be living like a king instead of we'll enough

[–]Yoblad 91 points92 points  (46 children)

My gauge for how much of a pussy someone is, is based on eye contact. This is true for all generations but I agree that it seems to be rampant among the early 20 somethings. Every day I pass countless hipster beard ironic glasses wearing 35% bodyfat bitch tits motherfuckers with no chin that will not look me in the eye. I'm about as alpha as a wet maxi pad but somehow I'm a god to be feared to these asshats. It's shameful.

Maybe I'm invoking the wrath of GLO and his sensitive TRT Nips but I say embrace some mild nihilism and enjoy the fall. By comparison you will look better than these shitbags.

[–]RedPlanetMan 27 points28 points  (15 children)

I thought this short paragraph was great. Can you write more?

[–]1dongpal 36 points37 points  (11 children)

it's porn. simple and easy. watch a lot and see how you have problems to look at peoples eyes ( which you dont notice because thats your default mode). once you go nofap 2+ weeks you have laser focus. just try, if you manage ...

[–]general_derez 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Always happy to see support for NoFap in this sub. Getting off porn was a foundational change that was instrumental for me getting my shit together in general.

[–]hackintoshguy 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I will share mine.

I have had this problem before. my conclusion is that it happens because you don't have any substance in yourself. If you don't have any thought process, and you can't actively think about things, life, challenges and your approach to challenges then you can't see people in the eyes.

The first time i noticed this is when i was extensively trying to read and i came across Ayn Rand's 'Atlas Shrugged' and it was discussed in there.

[–]RedPlanetMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, you should definitely write more. What was the context for all of this?

[–]Praeda18 12 points13 points  (5 children)

Ditto. I was raised to maintain eye contact when you speak to other people because it’s respectful, but i feel a little pity holding it with some millennial men because they get so flustered and uncomfortable about somebody looking at them, and worse, run off to their friends to complain and moan that somebody was “staring” at them? It’s a very jarring feeling having other people be intimidated by you, especially when you’re only trying to be courteous.

[–]jonpe87 5 points6 points  (3 children)

This is a psychological tactic of the weak, make you feel weak for being strong than them. This is the tactic of humanism, equalism and etc.. "dont be strong than me, lets be equal, be shit like me"

[–]KrustyKrabReject 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why don't you use er on words that are comparative?

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    [–]SteadyRoamer 33 points34 points  (17 children)

    I'll echo this but for me it's the handshake. Even being a wimpy blue piller in my early 20's, I 'thought' a firm handshake was something that men just did without any thought, but boy was I wrong. And it's bad enough that hipsters always had the limp noodle grip, but it was even more entertaining when they would look at me with confusion seeming to have no idea what a handshake even is.

    [–]Smigg_e 28 points29 points  (9 children)

    For me its guys that think they're above sports and any other physical activity. My friends a pussy. I scratched his cheek on accident throwing a cardboard package to him and he literally cried and moaned about how bad it hurt for over an hour. Meanwhile I'm nursing a broken pinky for 6 months that I never got checked out that gives me issues constantly. He's never played sports. I don't care what anyone says about sports, sports make you tougher. They teach you to deal with pain and tolerate It.

    [–]TheNextMilo 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    Yeah yeah but still dude get that pinky checked out, the bones in your hand are fragile and should be checked if broken, as it could cause you problems later in life.

    [–]Rudedabega 10 points11 points  (2 children)

    Don’t be a statistic. Men don’t go to the doctor for actual medical issues until it’s too late.

    It’s not alpha/beta shit, it’s your life in your hands. Notice something that’s there for more than 2 weeks it’s time to get it checked out.

    [–]drkinferno72 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    How about for guys like me that can't stand team sports like football but prefer more 1 on 1 like boxing, wrestling or martial arts

    [–]Smigg_e 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    I think team sports are important in a lot of ways but at least you're engaging in competition and physical exertion.

    [–]Dabunghole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Team sports are great when you are young, but unless you’ll go pro you should move into an individual one. It allows you fit it in your schedule. Idk when you’ll find a time when 10+ of your buddies can meet to play a game once you’re 22+.

    [–]zestytacoz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    For me its guys that think they're above sports and any other physical activity.

    That was me a few years ago. If I somehow met myself from that time, I'd smack him upside the head and tell him to fucking LIFT

    [–]Arabian_Wolf 20 points21 points  (0 children)

    The limp noodle grip is so common it's scary.

    [–]civilization_failed 18 points19 points  (3 children)

    Weak handshakes are how homosexuality spreads. That's how it feels when I get one.

    [–]liquidizeass 17 points18 points  (1 child)

    Why? Do you get them on your dick?

    [–]Kakistokratic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    But don't you love it when you shake with someone who knows what's good and you both have that little glint of surprise in your eye? Firm solid handshake. Nice!

    [–]AltBuzzer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Good grief yes. 9 out of 10 handshakes I give to guys I get the limp noodle back. When I actually get a firm shake back it almost throws me off.

    Edit: guys not men

    [–]AltBuzzer 28 points29 points  (2 children)

    I'm glad you made this comment, because lately my eye contact power has shot through the roof and I'm about as alpha as you are.

    Today, I go into my favorite coffee shop on campus and I'm just tired of stragglers and people who waste time. So this particular cafe sells cakes and baked goods for some reason, and this guy at the front of the line is just bitching about how he wants one of the full-sized cakes, but in cupcake size, which he obviously can't fucking get, but he won't shut up about it.

    I'm a weird point where I know I'm not alpha, but I don't give a fuck about how I come across in public, because being beta obviously is just a frustrating existence. So I just put on my "fuck you" stare into the back of his head, and he turns around and meets my eyes, and I can tell I just fucked his head up because his eyes dart around and he quickly sidesteps out of my way.

    Incidents like this have been happening a lot around campus with eye contact. It's a confidence booster for myself for sure, but it's disturbing because it really makes me worried about the future when guys cannot hold eye contact and visibly panic.

    [–]civilization_failed 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    It doesn't take much to be a big fish in a small pond these days.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I had a similar story. I am young and not with the best of frame. I was on the train and it was packed. A man behind me kept pushing me away. Once the train emptied slightly I turned around and gave him a cold stare and he moved along the train trying to avoid me. He was a 30 year old man. Eye contact is powerful.

    [–]422456 215 points216 points  (74 children)

    Millennial here.

    Every male under 21 has grown up with:

    -Parents who gave there kids video games because they couldn't afford to take them out properly - Access to porn hub their whole adolescence (open relationships) - Fathers who have abandoned, or not taught their sons properly of the brutal reality of the world, instead feeding them movies and Disney bullshit - The uprising of feminism and the general garbage of equality - Watching their mothers treat their fathers like children - Fathers who believe "you don't need to go to gym" (direct quote from my father) - Instagram, facebook and garbage social engineering - Fathers who neglect their daughters and don't teach them to respect men

    Combine this with the economy, global warming and capitalism (elites), we won't be around for much longer. It's far too late to change. Our fathers and fathers before that have failed us decades ago.

    Enjoy the decline.

    [–]kalashnick 57 points58 points  (12 children)

    Fathers who believe "you don't need to go to gym" (direct quote from my father)

    You sure your dad isn't my dad? LOL The countless times I've begged my dad to come lift with me.

    Talk about an exercise in futility.

    [–]Youngyoda89 10 points11 points  (3 children)

    The only time I’ve actually taken my dad to workout with me he’s got on a pussy machine and he picked the lightest setting. I was like wtf? And he told me he needed to start very slow. I was so embarrassed.

    He also asks why do I pay for a gym membership when I have an apartment gym that’s free.

    Every time, EVERY TIME, someone sees my dad they say- THATS YOUR DAD?? I thought your dad was gonna be big... he’s tiny.

    [–]Arabian_Wolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I'm always a firm believer that a mans highest role model is his dad.

    I'm sorry for you.

    [–]alecesne 10 points11 points  (3 children)

    My dad has straight up said “that will give me a heart attach. I’m like a salmon who having bred, can die upstream.”

    He says it as a joke, but then just makes a sandwich and watches tv. He treats like as something that happens to you. Other than the one friend he plays guitar with on Sundays, he does not appear to socialize.

    What’s more, my brother is learning that this is acceptable. Living at home and working haphazardly. The X-box is his occupation. It was something the family sort of ignored for a decade. But he’s 30 now. Hasn’t pursued a woman since the time when I got married, 5 years ago.

    Blue pill is almost black.

    [–]facestab 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    Blue is meant to prevent boys from becoming men.

    [–]alecesne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I have a neighbor who plays a lot of games and watches anime with a cohort of other lost boys. In elementary and middle school we were very close friends, but you can’t be 12 forever (right?). Now my brother goes over to hang in the basement and they have such tremendous inertia together that I think it will take someone losing a parent to destabilize them.

    [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    My had has straight up said “that will give me a heart attach. I’m like a salmon who having bred, can die upstream.”

    As much as I disagree with this I laughed my ass of reading it lmao

    [–]Appex1 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    Not only were I told that lifting is unnecessary, but they literally prohibited me getting my calories. I was a 15-yo skinny wreck; 6'3" tall weighing 157 lbs, which made me give up on lifting and adopting an unhealthy lifestyle, which I eliminated about 1,5 years ago and started eating healthy again.

    [–]TitsAndWhiskey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    I was a skinny little bitch too until I joined the military. Always hungry growing up, and not because of poverty.

    [–]r0b0b0 69 points70 points  (6 children)

    Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times.

    If humanity survives global warming we will come out stronger than ever!

    [–]422456 13 points14 points  (4 children)

    From a pendulum point of view, sure.

    Except never in human history: The food that we eat is full of chemicals, government is full liberal, institutionalized feminism, surveillance, the list is endless. Try and think of a few good things that outweigh the bad in current life and society. Here's a tip, you won't.

    Even after society collapses or when WW3 happens, humanity will never recover. I believe we've reached the current peak of human civilization. So much will be lost. No wonder the elites are buying tickets to Mars.

    I used to think the doomsday preppers were the funniest specimens. How wrong I was.

    [–]Endorsed Contributorredpillcad 25 points26 points  (2 children)

    Millenials are the byproduct of 2 generations of feminism

    [–]aegir98 28 points29 points  (4 children)

    I firmly believe, having watched Stefan Molyneux, that the root of this problem is the State. Mainly the welfare state i.e. coerced transferral of recources.

    [–]ethernetcord 5 points6 points  (3 children)

    What about people who work 40 hour+ per week and still need welfare and other government subsidies because the corporations they work for don't pay them enough to survive?

    [–]YungYason 9 points10 points  (15 children)

    People 21 and younger are not millennials. The cut off was 1995. People born after 1995 are post millennials.

    [–]Gainster1990 6 points7 points  (10 children)

    Trust me, those aren't even worth talking about. Lost cause

    [–]25russianbear25 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    The videogames due to being poor, porn due to being poor, beta fathers is spot on.

    Videogames and porn are for poor. Rich guys they play sports, socialize, go out, party, go out some more and talk with girls. Poor people cant afford to go out that much and play sports etc. Plus why would a girl date a poor guy? Its expensive to upkeep a GF for poor people. Being poor is a curse.

    In my life there were countless times where i had to defend my dad from my mom, since about age 15 lmao. I feel bad for my dad letting my mom take the head of the household and him being the doormat. Thats what happens when youre a pacifist with 0 game.

    [–]frooschnate 10 points11 points  (18 children)

    capitalism (elites)

    What do you mean with this

    [–]2johnnight 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    At some point during globalization corporate elites became detached from their nations, becoming the global Davos men.

    [–]omega_fat 23 points24 points  (14 children)

    Everything. Vast majority of the problems in society is because of colossal amount of manipulation, brainwashing and social engineering. All directed at you being a good corporate slave, only intelligent enough to use computers and machines and stupid enough not to understand how badly you're being fucked. Start with reading about Prussian education system.

    [–]TheStumblingWolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Fight Club should be required viewing here. Not so much for facts or anything, but it will surely get the ball rolling in one's mind.

    [–]frooschnate 16 points17 points  (1 child)

    Let’s assume you both have the same idea.

    We’re all aware people in power never have the public’s best intentions in mind, there’s always some ulterior motive and manipulation or whatever. It’s what this place preaches, no one gives a shit about you, people use you for their personal gain and you are disposable.

    However, I don’t put myself in this headspace of counter-culturism thinking everything is a conspiracy to fuck us over and how we are slaves and must fight the machine. Man that’s some 99’ Matrix bullshit.

    If things were like that and you were a lil puppet you wouldn’t be able to do shit about it. It‘s the same situation as men who complain about not being born as attractive as someone else. Get over it, there’s nothing you can do to change that; however it’s your responsibility to make the best of yourself and love it, that or to live in pain and negativity.

    Yeah the education system has most likely failed in making people smarter, Prussian system or whatever. I’ve been through countless schools in South America, and they were flawed in similar ways to the American one I went to (which was a nice school in California), but on top they had third world dumbasses and rules on top.

    You mostly learn shit that doesn’t really challenge you or make you think, just memorizing bullshit that goes in the bin after passing exams, we know that we’ve all been through that. Teachers just care about completing the pensum, rather than engaging the kids in actual discussion or learning something useful that will make them change their way of thinking about anything. Female teachers always have some bullshit practices or agenda to carry out.

    In my case you paid almost a grand a month so some dude could check if you brought the official gay ass certified school socks, and if you didn’t they sent you back home. It’s stupid, it doesn’t make sense.

    But with my generation at least, there’s the typical rebelliousness about it where some kids go “when am I ever going to use this?”, you know the type, that Hopsin “did the man who invent college go to college?” shit. It’s the lazy stoners or some mfs who play ps4 all day and has no thoughts of his own or skills, and they think they got school figured out when in reality this is their daycare and if they weren’t here, they’d be doing nothing productive with their life.

    Cause education shouldn’t be seen as a privilege or right, shit’s more like a tool that you must take advantage of to progress in whatever stage of life you’re at. It’s on you to learn.

    [–]PsychedelicDentist 22 points23 points  (1 child)

    Socialism is the issue, NOT capitalism

    What we actually need, is more capitalism

    [–]sdrawkcab_kaeps_i 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    I agree.

    Capitalism promotes individual responsibility.

    Socialism promotes reliance on the state (and starvation).

    Cut-throat capitalist societies have no place for laziness.

    [–]throwaway-chemist 0 points1 point  (7 children)

    Of course. So what? See past it and move on.

    [–]omega_fat 2 points3 points  (6 children)

    Seeing past things like inflation and sales tax, among hundreds of other systems designed to rob the poor will not make them go away.

    [–]throwaway-chemist 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Agreed. So our options are:

    -Bitch and moan about capitalism like Marx et al -- what most of this sub does, eg: "If I cuss and say ((jews)) a lot, its Alpha, not whining!"

    -Do your own thing and cram as much hedonism into your worthless meaningless life as possible, you nihilist you. -- what most of this sub preaches but leads to up inconvenient moral questions. Not that many of the people here are truly enjoying the decline.

    -Get involved in local politics and content yourself with the admittedly miniscule amount of progress we can make there. -- Why tf would we do that? Talking to people and winning a popularity contest sounds hard. Plus, why would we want power or the burden of leadership? Yikes.

    [–]UnderFighter 6 points7 points  (3 children)

    Inflation is actually socialist, not capitalist, because it only happens through government Institutions

    [–]omega_fat 4 points5 points  (2 children)

    Inflation is Rotschild owned central banks. The greatest capitalist achievement ever.

    [–]JuliusTestvola 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Im 28 and I can say my whole generation grew up with this bullshit also.

    [–]kalashnick 37 points38 points  (6 children)

    ...started to run into issues with my mother. When my mother saw that I was adopting different ideals, and not being as feminine in my mindset, we began arguing, and fighting a lot.

    This speaks to me a lot because it's happening to me right now.

    Since swallowing the pill, there has been a notable increase in tensions with my mother. She uses emotional guilt against me all the time and I'm afraid stakes may rise to the point where she kicks me out of the house. I'm working on my finances to move out, but how do I play my cards in the mean time? I'm 19 & trapped.

    [–]Obscene_Goku 27 points28 points  (0 children)

    Treat being at home like being at a hotel - you’re there to shower, sleep and use it as a temporary spot from one day to the next. Be so busy that you spend a minimal amount of time there. Just long enough to take care of any household responsibilities that are yours, otherwise you fill your time outside of the home via the gym, more education, building up a network etc.

    [–]AmeriStasi 17 points18 points  (3 children)

    Yah, I’ve made my mother cry on many occasions. Prepared me to deal with making my girlfriends cry. Women cry. All the time. Gotta learn to manage that shit. Just wait until you get a girl pregnant. It’s like the usual shit amped up to 10x due to the hormones. Hard to get sleep some nights lol.

    Why do you need to fight your mother after learning about how women behave though. Use it for your sexual strategies, until you get what you want. Ignore the noise at home. You might be picking fights to prove yourself because of your insecurity. Or maybe it’s just practice for you, that will be useful experience later. What do I know.

    [–]Critical_Mongoose 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    I don't know anything about you or your mother, but I think making your mother cry is an ugly thing. I've learnt to not argue with my mother even if she is clearly wrong. Letting go of shit like that is part of being a man. My mother may have fucked me up mentally but she still tried her absolute best and sacrificed a lot. I'm sure your mother has made some sacrifices for you too and that's something you need to respect. This goes for the other dudes in the thread too

    [–]j_arbuckle2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Sure. She may have. Still doesn't stop us from evaluating the people in our lives based on our own properly structured standards of decent conduct.

    My mother and father sacrificed a ton clawing themselves up out of the abyss of 3rd world poverty to raise my sister and I in the US. They were poor, they knew it, and they hated themselves for it. They were weak enough to try and lie to their own kids about it. No matter how grateful I am for them raising me here in the States I will never forgive them for lying to me, trying to force me into a mold that would never fit, trying to brainwash me into an obsolete set of tradcon behaviors that hasn't been relevant in two hundred fucking years. Your emotions regarding other people can indeed be complex. Don't fall into the black and white thinking, there are some things people do that are unforgivable, no matter how important to your life they are.

    [–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children)

    To succeed nowadays, one must become somewhat of an outcast

    Oh my god, im so tired of hearing this. What are the most successful people in the world doing, my boy? what do they do? Who do they hang out with? Did you know Edison was with 30 other scientists when he discovered the lightbulb? He wasnt alone, in a shack, like our individualistic society would like you to believe. He was with many, many other people. And he constantly was with others, every day. Why do people say you must be a hermit to be successful? I do not understand this thinking. What is the deal? Who do you know, being a hermit, who is also successful? Okay, now who do you know, being a gregarious and sociable person, who is majorly successful? My god my boy, what on earth is this nonsense about? Please show me one instance of a man in solitude who achieved success. You mustn't be miserable to succeed... this is a statement that is so.. so prevalent in this forum. Why????

    [–]S-Blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Yeah right you just have to be picky about who you hang with and where. If you really want to be successfull you need connections, lots of connections.

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    [–]AmeriStasi 24 points25 points  (4 children)

    I think it has to do with the decline of marriage. A married, father with children, looks at another father as an ally. Both have more to gain by maximizing their reproductive success with their existing partners, and both have something to protect (their children). It’s easy to build an alliance on that foundation.

    A single man, looks at another single man, as a direct competitor to his reproductive access as he has yet to even guarantee his capability to father children.

    Even if both stated cases had men of the same age, their behaviour would differ.

    A man is evolved to be a father and patriarch of his family. It’s the final stage of a young male’s maturity. Today’s culture of childlessness amongst 20-25% of men and women is a disaster.

    [–]InterNetting 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    The world is overpopulated. I'm fine with it.

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    No, it's not. This is leftist drivel.

    [–]askmrcia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    It's really not over populated. If people stop living on the damn coasts then you would see that there is plenty of places and resources to sustain us

    [–]TwoThirteen 18 points19 points  (2 children)

    not to be a dick but that sounds like a lot of projecting

    [–]Jet757 33 points34 points  (0 children)

    No you're right. All of this sounds like bullshit written based more on feeling than facts. The whole post is borderline patting OP on the back by implying how he's now somehow better than some generic millennial. The dude writing this is 17. Wake the fuck up people.

    [–]Aestheticcunt1996 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    It actually is... the post is said to be about the generation of milennials yet he goes on and talks about his own upbringing by a single mother just to mention the milennials again in his conclusion... wtf? Doesn‘t make any sense.

    [–]throwaway-chemist 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Want to do something about it? Raise your sons better.

    Don't feel up to it? Enjoy the decline.

    One of those is more fun. The other is better for the rest of western civ. How much you're willing to sacrifice for the tribe isn't something you can let others decide for you.

    [–]3CainPrice 49 points50 points  (18 children)

    Things are worse today than they've ever been. Society - not just millennials, not just feminists, but even many men - has declared war on conventional masculinity. Today, telling your son to handle his shit, quit complaining, and be a man is child abuse.

    Society has decided to free us all. To liberate us poor males from conventional gender roles. It is no longer okay to be a broad-shouldered, beer-drinking, truck-driving, burping, cussing, football fan who's frequently horny, angry, aggressive, and doesn't complain about stupid shit. That's not what a "real man" is like. "Real men" are skinny with squishy bellies, sharp-looking glasses and hipster beards, identify as feminists, and think they might be bi-sexual.

    Society doesn't just think that conventional masculinity is bad. Society thinks that conventional masculinity doesn't exist, and that those beer-drinking football-watching conventional men who played sports in high school and talked shit in the locker room are poor, oppressed souls who were only pretending to be like that out of fear of other guys making fun of them and calling them gay.

    If you told your story to the correct crowd today, they would roll their eyes at the evils of organized religion and the wealthy and how brainwashed you were by the male culture at your white Christian private school. And they'd point out how badly your father abused you by teaching you to fit a certain gendered role... that happens to get laid often and succeed at life.

    [–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (14 children)

    bro its actually crazy, everyone who has these ideals of feminism, and stupid gender roles has zero respect from me. i hope there is a social revolution in the works, and that it happens relatively soon.

    [–]3CainPrice 13 points14 points  (12 children)

    There already was a social revolution. The upper echelon of society realized that men are too busy working for a living to buy stupid shit or research elections. If you want to make money or get voted into office, you need to appeal to women.

    The modern feminized world that tells women (the people who spend more money and vote more) whatever they want to hear while demonizing men (who don't spend as much or vote as often) is no accident.

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      [–]JOHN_MOLESTA 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Regardless of his policy he's pretty alpha, especially in comparison to HRC who can hardly tackle a flight of stairs.

      [–]3CainPrice 9 points10 points  (5 children)

      Russia knew their one weakness. If you post bad shit about Clinton on Facebook, women will change their votes. Women are powerless against Facebook.

      [–]Rudedabega 5 points6 points  (4 children)

      Muh Russia. Believing mainstream media and catching Trump Derangement Syndrome is a weakness. Falling for the civic nationalism and “based minorities” of T_D is weakness.

      Homogenous societies have lasted the longest and been the most successful, the US since the 1965 immigration act (90% European descent then, 60% now) went full steam ahead inching ever closer to its own end.

      Reality is not supremacist, it just is. But for the western world the path of least resistance wins out. It’s easier to be pro diversity and multiculturalism than to realize different groups evolved with different cultures some bad some worse. So enjoy the decline.

      [–]3CainPrice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Put your tin foil hat away! The news is clear as day. A lot of people in Ohio voted Democrat even though the Republican guy still won, and I know this means that all of America hates Trump. And some guy who worked on Trump's campaign committed some financial crimes and this means that Trump and everybody he knows is guilty of rigging the election. Get with the program. Oh yeah, and Trump had consensual extramarital sex with women and having consensual sex with women who later come forward because they don't agree with your politics is rape and that means he's sexist.

      The TV above my favorite squat rack is tuned to CNN, so I know things.

      [–]DickZinnendorf 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      I agree. Have you read The Culture of Critique?

      [–]AmeriStasi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      He appeals to European Americans, some of which are women.

      [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

      absolutely. look at how much hate TRP alresdy gets, imagine there was a public protest lol. would be a nightmare

      [–]jordanbadland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      someone once brought up TRP in a different, I think even default subreddit, saying that rTheredpill people were rape apologists LOL

      These fucking assholes

      [–]maciejczyk 5 points6 points  (2 children)

      Society now is just a one huge shit test.

      [–]jordanbadland 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      How do you pronounce your name?

      [–]ColmM36 11 points12 points  (1 child)

      Where I grew up (I'm currently 23), in a rural part of a rural country in Europe, we had all the above. Porn, internet, video games etc.

      But it was strange because we also had fathers, traditional mothers, and older siblings who were just like our parents.

      Most men I grew up with would have fallen by the wayside to porn and video games, and later succumbed very heavily to alcohol and drugs, but I always found myself idolising my father, his father, and their generation of men. They had control of their lives and respect from each other. They were men. Most were agricultural, hardy men who worked from dawn til dusk. Older men had been blacksmiths and carpenters or mechanics. All of them were physically in shape and intimidating. They all had frame, they naturally had a persona when talking to women, even their wives. They were outspoken, and you would know where you stood with them. I like to quote Tupac and say "I grew up amongst a dying breed".

      And the women of my generation... just wow. They are some of the worst people I've ever met. So entitled, demand so much with nothing of value to offer in return.

      The values of the men I knew growing up were instilled in me from a young age. Most of those old men have died. Values the world no longer follows, values that others my age do not care for. Almost a relic.

      Nevertheless. I am far more like the older generation of men than my own. And I wouldn't trade it for the world.

      [–]420KUSHBUSH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Punishing a male child for something minor, and letting a female child get away with it

      Every single time I was in elementary school. Every. Single. Time. Not even exclusively for girls though I just got blamed all the time

      [–]marcopoloman 23 points24 points  (9 children)

      I have said this for the past 20 plus years. Overall father's are better parents. I think that women have a weak mindset when it comes to discipline and understanding the world. I don't think it's intentional. I think is just how they are.

      [–]mattizie 11 points12 points  (7 children)

      Depends what age.

      Women are much better with younger kids. After that, I completely agree with you.

      [–]marcopoloman 10 points11 points  (5 children)

      I'm a kindergarten teacher. The win still goes to the men

      [–]mattizie 11 points12 points  (4 children)

      Wow. I take my hat off to you, mate. I tried doing that (teaching young kids), and it was a fucking nightmare.

      [–]marcopoloman 10 points11 points  (3 children)

      I work for a private school in china. 3 to 7 years old. The worst kids are the ones overly spoiled by their divorced mothers, kids that live with their fathers are always better behaved. I taught high school my first 2 years here and even then the kids were better behaved when raised by their fathers

      [–]mattizie 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Well what a coincidence, I'm also in China (Nanjing). I didn't have the mettle to handle young kids, especially when I can't speak Chinese, and they can't speak English. For me at least, I can't seem to be able to reason with them like one would normally do with adults. You have to be constantly entertaining/playing games to keep their attention so that they learn, but I ran out of ideas 15 minutes in.

      [–]marcopoloman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I'm in Yinchuan. North Central China. Been here almost 3 years

      [–]snowmoose1 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      This is right on point however here in Sweden you will get in serious trouble at work or school if you don't have this female mindset to some extent. It is such a lost cause for this country and yeah, i am seen as an outcast but my last girlfriend at least gave me huge amount of respect since i refused to shut up and i said whatever to people in public. Peoples jaws just drop. Remember, people are twice as stupid as you may think, that should give you enough balls to do whatever within the law obviously.

      [–]AllahHatesFags 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      I think we should bring back the phrase "bitch-made" to describe these millennial men who were raised into soyhood by single mothers.

      [–]NormalAndy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Well I'm glad you understand what needs to be done to sort your life out. Better late than never

      [–]BostonPillParty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      I’m so thankful to be older and not in the middle of this mess of the current college climate or demonization of masculinity wave. Lucked out I guess.

      [–]DennyBenny 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      Much of what is said here makes some sense. I raised two, and we had a intact home. Do you think my sons are the same as what you are professing? My sons minds were more polluted with this thinking based on college teachings than I think home life.

      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

      most likely, you are the boss of your household, and your mentality subconsciously rubs off on everyone in the house. college is very feminist now, and women can ruin a mans life with the snap of a finger. it is a high possibility that both of these things influenced your sons for the worse.

      [–]DennyBenny 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      I was the person who enforced rules, but they also have a strong mother who is some what a feminist. We complemented each other in how the boys were raised. I agree woman are easily snapping men's lives with simple accusations.

      My son, or one at least changed 180 in college from masculine to a crazy liberal with feminist ideas and under the spell of a women. He is love, for now.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      oh, you're a guy? I thought you were their mom bro lol. if your son is in love, tell him two things, the story of the frog and the scorpion (and the analysis), and that she is never yours, it is just your turn. most likely your son is gonna get dumped or cheated on hard, and then he will realize.

      [–]stolen_loom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I hope this isn't off-topic, but I sometimes wonder if Red Pill is for the masses or for The Few?

      I ask because you said success nowadays requires being an outcast. Clearly we must let everybody else leave themselves behind, and that requires thinking of ourselves as The Few, but we're also talking about opposing a mindset which steals something natural from The Masses.

      It all reminds me of Nietzsche's Master vs Slave morality (which I think might have originally come from Schopenhauer). And Nietzsche was writing for The Few.

      I think this is a practical aside because thinking in terms of The Few can help mentally solidify the place in society that you've chosen.

      [–]BIG_HUB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      I was raised by a single mother, she did the best she could but as women do she couldn’t manage finances, didn’t know shit about raising boys to be men and failed miserably with me and my brothers. My father was out and about and gave zero fucks about us. Thank God I joined the Army when I was 17, it saved my life. I struggled the first few years, but pulled my head out of my snatch and made a successful career out of my service. I retired at 50, this would never have happened if it wasn’t for the Army.

      [–]gbdoragnic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      They care to much about what other people think, and blame all their problems on everyone but themselves.

      Do you really believe this? I tend to find blue pillars blame themselves for everything even things they can't control, they got hung up on impossible.

      As a red piller I don't blame others for my life but I understand I'm not a brick wall and if someone fucks up I cut them out as they would hurt me so in essence I'm blaming others but hold myself responsible for continued abuse.

      In short it's not your fault your mother mistreated you

      [–]red_matrix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Millennials are also addicted to porn before they get to third base.

      [–]_A_L_3_X_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      sadly i was raised mainly by my mum from 5~14 years old. then my father could finally move i with us again. that changed a lot. before i had issues finding any friends, but since then it has only been going upwards.

      alos, if you want your child to man up, or man up yourself one should go on some kind of exchange year. there one is completly alone somewhere far, far away from home, and has to 'survive' on ones own. this actually helped me a ton, and i really manned up. i finally started standing up for my self, taking fights and not backing off easily.

      [–]InterNetting 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      32 here, yesterday I gave a guy in his late 50's a jump start on his Harley. He literally did not know how to attach jumper cables to his battery. A nearly 60 year old man. This problem goes beyond millennials.

      [–]Senior Endorsed ContributorRian_Stone 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      It's so weird. I've noticed in RMG comment sections. Everyone talks about themselves with this distanced language. You can't come out and say your millenial upbringing had issues, it has to be 'millenial men'... like they are from Mars or something.

      I should probably link the scene with the lye from fight club and not hiding from ones pain/reflections; reference the detachment from realizy-as-hedge against the personal responsability an adult has to focus on his masculinity... Maybe go on a limb and suggest one doesn't want to be masculine, they want someone to point to as an excuse why they won't be able to measure up, so why bother?

      But it's early, and I'm pretty sure you would simply lash out at me for doing it and get a ban, I'm simply interested in why this phenominon is happening, and we need more content anyways.

      A field report would be nice.

      [–]_Aaronstotle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Millennial men are failing for the same reason a lot of people fail, they’re scared of the truth and would rather use any distraction than face the truth and change themselves for the better. It’s definitely been exacerbated by SJW politics but that just means it’s easier for red pilled millennials

      [–]VickVaseline 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Going to an elementary school with all female teachers isn't strictly a Millennial thing. I went to an elementary school with all female teachers, and I am a Baby Boomer.

      [–]jesper_lundqvist 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      The millennial rabbit hole is a deep one. Every generation gets stick from the generations above it but I think millennials are unique in blaming their woes on every generation above them (particularly boomers). You can blame your elders for preparing you poorly for the world (which this post accurately pinpoints) but that wears really thin after the age of about twenty. Most millennials are in their 30s now and yet their Facebook posts are still full of autistic screeching about how somebody else ruined the country.

      For the record, I am a young millennial but younger people I know (Gen Z) don't have the same victim culture hang up. The whole "my hobbies include procrastinating, Netflix binging and being bad at adulting" joke that millennials have is seen as really lame even in college. It's encouraging that millennial men are discovering the red pill but it's still a drop in the ocean at the moment

      [–]laidtorest47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Literally everyone's Facebook posts and memes are whiny bullshit, it doesn't matter who you're talking about. I hate speaking too generally but gen z probably is the more laid back generation, and more emotionally mature.

      [–]griz3lda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      totally agree. sick of the lack of taking charge of one's own life and finances (it's called fucking hustling, catch up) and whining about boomers. and the indulgence in describing onesself as weak and lazy as though it were something positive or universally sympathetic-- disgusting.

      [–]Acerp321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Spot fucking on. I’m glad I’m not a few years younger. I feel like it only got worse. I’m one of the oldest millennials. Don’t identify with their culture. Never did.

      As soon as puberty hit and I started becoming a man I was at war with the teachers and administration in jr high school. All while getting straight A’s. I did not ignore my nature. I would not be bullied. I’d break noses and fight until someone pulled me off. Got punished so severely it was ridiculous. Always threatening to ship me off to an alternative school. It was a defining moment in my upbringing. Had I backed off and been passive to bullies I’d have been a bitch forever. That seems to be what the school system desired...

      Well, they are getting it in many cases. The fucking birches they created are lashing out with guns. Feminism has fucked our schools. Millennials are the just largest adult product of it. Add in social media and programming from the mass media, and hell, I feel sorry for them.

      It would take a very involved, red pill father to steer a boy in the right direction these days.

      [–]Persaeus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      almost all of the Millennial men i know are nothing like this at all

      got there heads on pretty straight actually. stop hanging out with fags

      [–]laidtorest47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      This argument is one of the biggest strawmen I've ever seen and maybe why I shouldn't even be subbed to this. For one using only your own life as an example isn't scientifically valid. Two, you're saying "millenials are fucking stupid and that's the blunt truth" and expecting people to take you seriously, which of course you will be because this is the biggest echo chamber for that kind of mentality. History repeats itself and unless we learn our history we are doomed to repeat it. As a few people in this thread may have said, we aren't failures in and of ourselves because we've been failed by the mistakes of previous generations. You're placing blame on millenials in the introduction, but then using evidence that the blame isn't on millenials but their parents. Maybe it's not that millenial men are fucking stupid but you don't know how to write an essay and write supporting evidence. Maybe try instead either use evidence that supports your initial claim or change what your initial claim is to be supported by your evidence.

      [–]hackintoshguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)


      Can't format properly cuz on mobile right now But watch 0:31 Quit whining. David firth-not Stanley.

      Amazing, how much 2 lines from a cartoon can teach you. Especially when you never heard such words before elsewhere.

      [–]JohnIan101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      They care to much about what other people think, and blame all their problems on everyone but themselves.

      That's it in a nutshell. Though I would add a lack of social skills.

      [–]Pastelitomaracucho[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I am a millenial man with the luck of having been raised by loving parents in a strong, solid family with values. Myself and friends which grew in the same conditions, ended up faring much better, especially during our teenage years and early adulthood. I am also proof of your testament, from the other side.

      I am also witness of the disaster you can become by being raised by a single parent.

      Reading the fatherly wisdom post, I can see that 50% of the advice there was given to me by my mom. While the other 50% of the advice was given to me by my dad. Live is very complex, and I think as a kid, the more brains you have around you to distill the world for you to understand it, the better you will do.

      [–]zyqkvx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I'm over 50. If you have any doubt I am not writing this in the 'butt hurt' context though it might sound like it because I'm accessing child hood memories. This happened 38 years ago. My mother passed years ago.

      After 7th grade I got two paper routes. The tiny amount of money it brought me was huge in my life and gave me some agency, especially since I knew how to pinch a penny so tight expensive valuable things popped out. I thought I leveled up in life because I didn't have to ask her approval for every petty thing that cost money, and I could distance myself from her and think on my own. Unilateral fights broke out she did not like that I had two jobs and sabotaged me by sending me to live with my dad. 8th grade was the only year I spent in elementary that I wasn't abused and I gained some overt masculinity. I was always covertly masculine yet was just about the last male picked in sports before 8th grade.

      The summer between 9th and 10th grade I spent at a decent low-middle class boarding school. I made the deal with my mom that if I worked all summer (8 hours a day for $2.85 an hour / 5 days a week, 3 months), which came to about $900 instead of my projected $1200, that I would get to keep it. There was a cost of $150 a month for dorm and food. She agreed to pay that part, but I knew she was going to jew me out of it because of her body language. In the end she did not let me have cash. She made me select an item I could have. I chose a $400 bike that I could not really use at the boarding school and didn't.

      The lesson of this petty sounding rant is you can not cure a bad master's intentions with extreme efforts. You can not overtly become a man when you are under the thumb of any person.

      After that I got a bank checking account at 18 that I did not tell my mother about. I acted like I had little money. Any time I mentioned having money she would tell me I had to pay my own car insurance to wipe it out.

      This happened around 1980-1982. I used to ride public busses when I was in 4th grade (about 1975). I didn't see other kids doing this, but I could get away with it by just paying and not making eye contact with the bus driver. I believe 1980 is about the year single mothers were getting an upper hand on boys. Then my generation grew up and raised their kids to be pussies, and that generation raised their kids to be completely gender confused.

      [–]M9ter 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      The biggest factor that allows all of this insanity to manifest and suppress men today is the inclusion of estrogens into practically every item men consume. It's the hidden reason why men have allowed all of this to happen. Do you really think men from 100 years ago would have put up with any of this shit? Testosterone levels have been dropping the last few decades due to this intentional poisoning. Guess who owns most of the food production facilities around the globe? The same people who own the media outlets that push feminism. None of this is men's fault....NONE of it....we're the real victims, not them. We are literally being turned into women so they can easily make everyone into emotional drones who don't question anything.......like most women today. Google "The Plant Paradox"by Steven Gundry, MD. Explains how unhealthy our diets really are and a great read.

      [–]the-ape-of-death 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      What I get from reading this is that OP is a little bitch and would like for everyone else of his generation to be one also, so that he does not feel as inferior.

      Not all millennial men are feminine or submissive; sorry guy.

      [–]robert-5252 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Luckily I was able to travel the world as a child so I don’t think I fall under this category

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