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Field ReportDecided To Stop Theorizing And Act (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by 1Noblefiz

On mobile so formatting is bad.

Ive had some success with women in the past, but only 3 lays since I discovered TRP 2 years ago. I’ll leave the details out except for what’s truly important:

 

-I spent most of my time theorizing instead of actually doing

-i avoided interacting with women because of inadequacies in the sexual field that I’ve beat myself up over for a very long time.

Enough backstory. On to the meat of the report.

 

This past weekend I had some friends come down and visit me in my newish apartment a couple of states away from where I’m from. I love my friends dearly and was super happy they showed up. One of my best friends has a female house mate, but he’s gay so it works out well for him and they both work together.

Now I had never met this girl before this last weekend. She moved in after I had left earlier in the year but I had talked to her over group video chat with all my other friends since they knew her. Not many hints over a video chat so I didn’t think too much of it. But I had told myself I was going to go for it.

 

She is short. 5’1, 27, still has good looks for her age (thanks to her Cuban/European ancestry) and is witty and charming to engage with because she truly is just like a child at heart. She laughs a lot, loves to make jokes and genuinely was a pleasure to speak with. She’s also a triage nurse. So “Women are like children” really made sense to me finally when I realized: women don’t want heavy, info-laden topics when they’re not working or acting like adults. They just want to have fun.

So I did my best to channel that this weekend. I never mentioned anything about politics or dumb guy things. I managed to avoid seeking entertainment from her and just enjoyed what she offered and built off that. When she made a joke or pointed out something funny I would build off it and paint a vivid picture in her head of something ridiculous.

I don’t have any younger sisters or cousins or anything so I had try to pretty hard consistently to remember to treat her like a bratty kid sister when she did dumb/silly things.

I did my best to make myself my own mental point of origin and be outcome independent. I truly was more concerned about enjoying my time with my friends who I never get to see. She was also genuinely kind and enjoyable to be around so that helped.

 

Cue 2nd night of my friends being here. We get wasted-ish. Long story short, I managed to seal the deal. She gave off IOIs, and reciprocated harder when I gave some back. So I went for it.

Now let me be up front. I wouldn’t rate her a 10. Or 9. Or 8. Or even a 7 I gues. Maybe a 6 or 6.5. She was cute, had big tits and a fat ass, but she had some stomach and the fact that she was so short didn’t help. Her face wasn’t Victoria’s Secret either. But she was fuckable if only for that ass. I won’t embellish false details. She wa just ok. Nothing crazy.

But she knew how to handle herself. Obviously. Nothing surprising there. But I wasn’t expecting a virgin. She is a career focused woman who enjoys NSA relationships. So that was fine with me cuz I didn’t know if I’d ever see her again.

We messed around over the next few days and had a good time.

 

Lessons Learned

-women want to be treated like children.

-Be vague and use their imagination against them.

-DARE not DEER

-BE VAGUE

-Keep the info heavy topics for guy talks. Keep it light hearted with women.

-Women want to leave all their adult life baggage at home when they go out. They don’t want to talk about their jobs and stuff. (Some love their jobs enough to be willing to talk but don’t count on it).

-Be dominant, authoritative. Make decisions and don’t second guess yourself.

-Go out and practice what you’re learning. Action is better than theorizing. Even if you “fail”.


[–]gbdoragnic 96 points97 points  (8 children)

> women don’t want heavy, info-laden topics when they’re not working or acting like adults. They just want to have fun.

Gold right here

[–]salinorum 31 points32 points  (6 children)

Seriously. Knowing this is a game changer. I assume many of you are intellectuals / information hoarders just like me. I always tried to connect with women mentally rather than emotionally. And didn’t understand my lack of progress, until I recently learned women prefer fun, emotional connection rather than serious, ideological connection

[–]PayingDwyaneWade 5 points6 points  (4 children)

So what do you talk about then?

[–]clausternn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's always the hard part, right? It's great to learn these gems like "women want to have fun", but they don't really help that much, since they don't teach you what you're actually supposed to do instead.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anything that gives her emotions. Bullshit topics, literally anything. Bad emotions, good emotions, happy, sad, angry, furious, cuddly, joy, bitchy, glee, contentment, etc et . Let her ride your rollercoaster of emotions while you stay sturdy as a rock, unapologetic. The only reason shes speaking to you is because you give her emotions. As soon as the emotions are gone, shes gone.

[–]drkinferno72 23 points24 points  (0 children)

As the song goes, girls just wanna have fun

[–]Gruss_p 9 points10 points  (5 children)

More masculine your body is, less you have to speak and "be funny" and "interesting" and all that shit.

[–]2chazthundergut 16 points17 points  (4 children)

Correction: The more masculine you are, the less you have to speak and be funny and interesting.

You can be a skinny dude but if you've got a masculine frame and act like a man you will be attractive to women.

[–]Gruss_p 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Or you can have masculine body and then you don't have to act like a man you will do that automatically, because you will be a man.

[–]2chazthundergut 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I agree in general, and you should of course lift to become more masculine.

But frame > physique. Ideally you want both.

[–]TheStoicCrane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The two are more or less equal. Woman will excuse alot of lapses in frame so long as you look the point but only to a point.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its pretty hard to be masculine when you dont work out. That testosterone just floats away. Thats why we preach working out often and hard so that the natural man essence just grips ahold of every thing in your body and makes you a real man. Its awesome.

[–]myrenaissance 4 points5 points  (1 child)

How old are you? Just my food for thought. Great job by the way, keep it up.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This past weekend I had some friends come down and visit me in my newish apartment a couple of states away from where I’m from. I love my friends dearly and was super happy they showed up. One of my best friends has a female house mate, but he’s gay so it works out well for him and they both work together.

The key thing you shouldnt miss here is the social proof you got from your friend. If he's one of your best, he had already bigged you up before they arrived and likely the decision for having fun with you was already halfway made. Sounds like you slam dunked it, so that's an easy one to get a repeat lay with.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I dated a PhD grad who was a solid 7 without makeup we had fantastic deep conversation

And she is a libertarian like me

It was awesome. Remember, intellect attracts intellect

[–]1Noblefiz[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

it probably wasn’t the actual conversation, but other underlying factors such as the emotions involved in the topics discussed, your body language, tone of voice.

Women are also like water and the political ideology they identify with are anything but permanent.

Fantastic deep conversation is also subjective and it’s possible you’re the only one who enjoyed it.

[–]Eheran 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you feel like he got what you wanted and now you try to make it look bad so you can feel better? As if it was only his imagination that they had a good time? That he is still wrong somehow and u are right?

Why should the world be black and white only? There are WAY too many persons for everyone to be the same on something so dependent on character/mind/education/...

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasnt the conversation. It was the emotions.

[–]javiercer20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you fucked her?? I mean...

[–][deleted]  (2 children)

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[–]1Noblefiz[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Incorrect. Please reread the sentence. But thanks.

[–]izzyinjurious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see now. My bad. Cheers.

[–]MarcosDomingues -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I thought this was just common knowledge