Whenever I begin to doubt this tenet of our one true faith, something always happens to reel me back in. Went on a date with a very attractive girl - made out with her but it went no further. Shortly after she invited me to go to the beach with her and her friend. I showed up and we chilled for a few hours. At the end her friend said she was getting an uber and she told her to go ahead because she was going to "walk me home."
"Sweet," I thought. For sure hookup. We get back to my door and start making out, and she starts protesting that she's not coming up. I tell her she can wait for her uber in the lobby and she agrees. We go inside. I tell her she can look at my apartment if she wants and she agrees. We go up. Five minutes later and I'm inside her.
She later told me that she "had not intended" for that to happen. Well of course.... we've all heard that before. It's a face saving maneuver right? But then she went on about how she had explicitly decided that she was going to make me wait till the fourth date. I laughed and asked when she decided to break that, and she very seriously said that not until she was in my room with my hand up her shirt did she finally realize she was going to fuck me.
I inquired further.
"So you really didn't plan on having sex when you volunteered to walk me home?"
"So you really didn't plan on having sex when you came into the lobby?"
"So you really didn't plan on having sex when you agreed to come upstairs?"
The only thing that matters is how she feels at that moment. She walked me home because at that moment, she felt like it. She came inside because at that moment, she felt like it. She came upstairs because at that moment, she felt like it. And she gave me her pussy on the second date instead of the fourth because at that moment, she felt like it.
She did not stop to think how any of these incremental decisions leading up to sex would affect the plan that her logical brain made days before, or if she did think on it then the logic was simply over-matched. A woman's emotions lead her in the direction of the best genes and she follows where they lead, twisting in the wind and helpless to resist.