Summary: I'm new to TRP but am/was familiar with many of the principles already. Despite this, I occasionally fall/fell into oneitis but have made a special effort going forward to apply principles/rules with the woman I'm currently sleeping with. Below I relate the experience I had last night and my success from simple application of TRP principles. (edit) I tried to get the line-breaks for sections but couldn't quite get it.
Body: For background, I'm a new attorney, I'm attractive and muscular, and I possess reasonable intelligence and wit. Despite this, I often fall into my old "programming" (hyper-religious cult-like upbringing had a hand in that) which often leads me to see myself as some kind of white knight, here to solve all a girl's problems and ride off into the sunset with her. Thing is, despite being "good" at that and having five or six of 3-month relationships over the past year and a half, I often get bored, lose interest, and dump the girl. Playing the "good guy" card got me into the sack a lot, but with a lot of damaged, clingy, and ultimately toxic girls. They loved a man who "treated them right" and "wasn't an asshole." The problem is, I AM AN ASSHOLE!
First lesson? I get bored of that shit real quick and then those psycho girls make my life miserable. I can't sustain it. Nobody can. It's torture.
Fast forward to today. Pussy is pretty easy to obtain by virtue of the above: I can be witty, I have a great job, and I'm physically attractive/fit. The problem was, I never really committed to the TRP principles and made a conscious effort to break out of my beta-mindset which I often fall into. Part of me always hoped that I'd be able to find "that special someone" who would gel with me and I'd be with for the next 30 years. Stupid.
Starting a few weeks ago, I made a real commitment to TRP principles. Last night she hit me with a "well, I hope you have a good rest of your night" text. It was like 8pm and we both stay up much later than that. I responded with "I will. You going to bed?" She responded "No." I'm already smelling games at this point, so I say, somewhat disingenuously "Oh, sounded like you were saying goodnight." She replied "No, I just know you're busy and talk to lots of people all the time so I don't want to bug you" After a delay, I responded with "That's very considerate of you. I'm just listening to music and relaxing now. You?" Her response: "oh, just talking to my friend Justin." Here's where TRP REALLY kicked in, but it was really hard for me to send this. All of my natural instincts told me not to, but I resisted. I replied "My turn to not want to bug you."
I left it at that. I didn't text her the rest of the night, or the next morning (one of us usually says good morning). Hours into my work day, she hits me with a "Good morning handsome! hope you made it to work alright! Can't wait for dinner and drinks tonight! Are you staying with me afterwards?"
And there it was.
- Lesson 1 Simple application of TRP principles works.
- Lesson 2 Ingrained habits of thought require concentrated effort to break.
- Lesson 3 Look a shit test in the face and tell it to fuck off.