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Red Pill TheoryImportant reminder for men in the game (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by ThrowFader

What do women like in a man?

When women are asked about what they like in a man, 85 percent of the time you will hear the word confidence pop up. I know we shouldn't listen to what females say blindly, but there is truth to this sentiment. Women like what they call confidence. But they don't understand what it really is. When women say confidence, what they really mean is...

Outcome indifference

Almost every successful man displays high levels of outcome indifference. Why? Is it because it is good not to care about things? Not really. Rather, it is of the utmost importance not to be too invested in things. When you are over invested, you are forced to act in ways you otherwise wouldn't. You lose leverage. You lose credibility. You lose control.

This is the key. Being in control is the single most attractive trait any being can have. Male or female, lion or sheep, business or consumer. Being in control is always better than being controlled. Because if you are in control, you have power. You have value. The main reason why women are attracted to outcome indifference is because it is almost a telltale sign of a high value person.

How is outcome indifference cultivated?

The good news is that there are no prerequisites to being outcome indifferent. The bad news?

You can't fake this shit. If you really don't care, it is hard to fake caring. And vice versa. Incidentally, this is why psychopathic men seem to be more sexually successful than neurotypical men. They really do not care in the same way that normal people do. This makes them hard to predict, to control, and consequently gives them social leverage and power. Women are disordered by default, they are ruled by unpredictable emotions. They need someone who can keep them sane, without being susceptible to anything at the same time. But I digress.

Usually, the circumstances under which people display high levels or outcome indifference are when they are overqualified to perform a task, uncaring about the end result of a situation, mentally distressed, or calm and relaxed.

For example, professional athletes will display outcome indifference when competing with high school teams. Is this because they want to lose? No. Because they know they won't. They don't care about what will happen, because they know what will happen, and its in their favor.

If you are high as fuck and struggling to remember what planet you are on, chances are you won't pay as much attention to some things you usually do. This is incidentally why drugs can increase outcome indifference.

Make no mistake, the best way to be outcome indifferent is to truly not be afraid of the outcome, good or bad.

Fear?

The men who fail are usually the fearful. The men who are brave win the dangerous wars. There is a common theme here. The end result changes based on the mindset. Fear can paralyze you as a man. Don't let it.

In almost every area of your life, there is something you could be doing better. And usually the reason why you aren't is because you are afraid of something. What is it? What are you afraid of?

Afraid of seeming weird for approaching? Afraid that your startup company will fail miserably? Afraid that others are better than you? Afraid that you can never get over your mental issues?

Fear is the absolute worst thing for a man. Outcome indifference is one of the best. These things work against each other. Face your fears head on. Start lifting. Do your research. Start that company. Approach these females. Get that raise. Write that paper. Fix your family issues. Face these fears. Because when you do, you will realize that failure is better than paralysis and stagnation. Don't be afraid of failing. If you fail you always have a second chance. If you die while fighting you die a man. If you run from your problems you die uncared for and forgotten.

Fuck fear.

How do I start?

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Fix your mind. The mind is our greatest enemy and ally. Fix your mind.

If you have some addictions, get on it. You know what you need to do. Stop rationalizing like a little bitch. You know what you need to do.

If you are procrastinating. STOP. And fucking start working on that project.

If you want to get stronger but you don't know which gym or which training program, just start by doing bodyweight exercises.

Read Stoic philosophy, Seneca is pretty cool too.

Meditate (not any fancy shit just clear your mind and set goals and repeat real shit that will get you focused)

TLDR:

You are capable of a fucking lot. Don't be afraid, be outcome indifferent. Lift, meditate, read Stoic shit, and START being a man ffs


[–]monadyne 115 points116 points  (6 children)

Another way of expressing what underlies outcome independence is IDGAF. The I Don't Give A Fuck attitude.

Let's say you approach a woman at a bar. You start talking with her. She's obviously somebody you'd want to fuck-- you wouldn't be talking to her if she weren't. But if you have embodied the IDGAF attitude, it's because you realize that if after talking with you she wants to bang you, that'd be great... but your life, your happiness, your image of yourself-- everything that is of real value to you doesn't depend upon her having sex with you later. Whether she fucks you or not, you're still you, you're still in absolute command of yourself, you're still loving your life. In other words, you Don't Give A Fuck what happens. Your state-of-mind is independent from the outcome of your meeting said chick at the bar.

While many are attracted to TRP because they've been striking out with women their whole lives and want to turn that around and start getting laid consistently. Kool! But, I believe, absorbing TRP principles can lead to a much deeper state of learning to be your authentic self.

As such, IDGAF is appropriate in every other endeavor a man may make. Let's say you enter into a negotiation with someone to buy a car. You've decided that you're okay with spending $22,000 on it. After going back and forth with the seller, he says he won't go a penny lower than $25k for the car. Easy: you walk away. Because you Don't Give A Fuck whether you have the car or not. Sure, you'd love to have it-- that's why you're willing to part with twenty-two thousand bucks for it. But if you can't get it for that, then fuck it. Your happiness isn't dependent upon your owning that particular car. Your happiness is dependent upon you being who the fuck you are and that's all.

Let's say you're suddenly called upon to give a speech in front of a roomful of people. Does this cause you to have anxiety? Hell, no! Why not? Because you Don't Give A Fuck what a bunch of people think of you. You only give a fuck about what you think of you!

What's funny about this is that, by not giving a fuck, you often can attain the goal anyway. In the case of the chick at the bar, she's so used to guys wittingly or unwittingly displaying their desperate desire for her, when she meets a guy who doesn't seem to care one way or the other how she responds, she'll find that compelling. The guy selling the car may view your ability to walk away as it being on him to lower his price if he doesn't want to lose the sale. And the crowd listening to your speech react so strongly to your evident confidence that they place no emphasis on the fact that you flubbed a couple of times. You obviously didn't give a shit when that happened, so why should they?

[–]Classy_Amir 25 points26 points  (6 children)

Finally a post where it's not all about women and sex. We need more posts like these.

[–]Zech4riah 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Yeah, it would be so weird if the sub regarding sexual strategy would only include posts about women and sex...

...oh wait this post also include women and what they like in the end.

[–]Classy_Amir 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I thought TRP is about self-improvement and it has been constantly stated that getting women shouldn't be a man's first priority in life.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (3 children)

It's right there in the top of the side bar:

WELCOME TO THE RED PILL The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.

Perhaps you should start reading the side bar?

[–]Classy_Amir 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Perhaps we should keep our opinions to ourselves.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So you are telling me what I can or cannot do?

That's some true internet warriorism right there bro. Keep your entitlement up!

[–]Classy_Amir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Loud and clear

[–]TheLanternFlame 36 points37 points  (1 child)

There is one woman in a talk I went to and she was the speaker. She gave the same sentiment as this post. Her words were, "I have never became late for work, meetings, forums. And you'll never see me before you came in, you'll see me after you came in class, meeting, forum events. Heck, I have braved cancer and stroke to work in universities, and it has never keep me down. Because I will be there sitting in front of you wearing braces over my body to educate you, rather than giving up at home crying over something I can't handle." She made me realize that is how you become a man (sad to say, she has a point in that), to brave all odds stacked against you. Tempered by failures and unlucky events that could force you to just give up, but once you've accepted that everything is finite, you will have a higher sense of care that is similar to idgaf level 100.

[–]ThrowFader[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I've been through shit I won't disclose and it really changes the way you see everything.

Men have it hard, and through the fire we become real men.

[–]BurnoutRS 11 points12 points  (2 children)

I unkowingly performed a very interesting experiment with myself in my highschool days. I started smoking weed at 13 and it generally made me more social. I was so caught up in how awesome and new being high was that I wasnt afraid to be all high and stupid around people. had fun times, might not habe seemed smart but definitely seemed fun.

I was still beta though, so drugs gave me a brief resurgence of social popularity but when that bubble burst I crashed back down and the effects of weed flip flopped. when I gained a tolerance, when I was smoking more regularly, I sarted getting more in my own head. I would smoke and get paranoid that I was socially awkward and then I would become socially awkward.

Ok so we flash forward and Ive been out of highschool for 5 years, been smoking weed for about 10. When youre a teenager youre trying to define yourself and you often turn to your peers as a feedback mechanism to see whether these new personality traits youve adapted are helpful or harmful to your quality of life. Being a stoner was more an identity for me when I first started. I thought in the most bizarre terms. Id be this cool hippie dude, fuck cool hippie chicks. Which I honestly could have done if I wasnt such a try hard.

I was in a car accident several years ago. Brain Injury, major nerve damage, Ive had a migraine for about 2 and a half years straight now. This is important because in the time before the accident I had taken close to a year off from smoking and was considering whether it was something I would carry into my adult life or not. Part of what I experience due to the brain injury is called exercise intolerance. Put simply if Im not high before I try to physically exert myself beyond simply walking around, my symptoms ramp up to the point where I lose my equilibrium, cant stand up straight, cant drive a car safely, etc. Cannabis is the only medicine that treats all my symptoms with minimal side effects, and since Ive been using it for years I dont have any problem continuing to do so.

Now for those of you that stuck around for me to bring it home, the point here is that the thing I struggled with the most when it came to my drug use, was my attitude. Alcohol can make a confident person the life of the party, and it can lower the inhibitions enough of a wallflower to get him to approach a girl, but it cant make something out of nothing. Its the same with weed. Hell its even worse because of the mild psychedelic edge weed has. If youre sitting there, feeling fown on yourself, thinking "oh man I gotta get high to get through this party, im such a loser" you manifest that shit in yourself.

Its all you and you have to remember that. At first weed made me more social and then psychologically I came to rely on it to be social. When the cycles of addiction and substance abuse started to fuck with my self esteem along with other teenage, pot smoking ills, my confidence went down and in response my drug use went up. makes sense because im working with the external locus of control. believing confidence comes from the drug and is not derived internally. Eventually you may realize the drug isnt helping which causes a rebound effect and you penduluum swing to the antidrug, im getting off this shit, side of the spectrum.

I dont believe in all or nothing all the time. maybe with heroin or nicotine. Ill never smoke tobacco again. It takes more discipline to relearn control, to undue addiction and return to moderate, practical use of a substance. I saw myself being faced with a choice. I value my health, my mental and physical ability. Though cannabis may not always make me the most well spoken, the pain in my head also impedes my ability to think and express myself.

I was behaving preemptively. Theres a good way to put it. I would go into situations worrying "am I too high to speak coherently? what if im not high enough?". Now I just talk, If im high and fuck up what im trying to say, I laugh about it and then start over or try to explain myself better.

Its also about owning your shit. Im not advocating drug use here, im not against it either. When I first started smoking pot I wore it as a badge of honour, made it part of my identity and so badly wanted approval. When all you want is to be cool, its often the last thing you will be. One of the most important lessons ive ever learned is to stop trying to define yourself. Its not your job. Your job is to just be, live, exist, let everyone else worry about trying to define what you are. It makes a lot of sense too, why should I waste time and effort judging myself when the world is going to do it anyways? Let them do it for me and Ill have more time to spend making myself into something worth defining

[–]ThrowFader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most important part it to take control of your life. That is YOUR job, not anyone elses.

[–]Don_Vice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Daily Stoic has helped a lot with this shit. Thanks a lot, bro.

[–]InconspicuousWand 15 points16 points  (14 children)

Not to be a dick man but this is not only in the sidebar. It’s posted here once a week in some form or other. it’s RP 101 brother

[–]ThrowFader[S] 33 points34 points  (4 children)

You are right man, but sometimes the newbs need to hear it over before it clicks.

I know I did.

Edit: I didnt vote you

[–]InconspicuousWand -5 points-4 points  (3 children)

That why we always repeat sidebar when they post.

[–]ThrowFader[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I'll let the votes speak here

[–]InconspicuousWand -1 points0 points  (1 child)

The votes don’t mean shit in this sub anymore. It’s filled with lazy autistic incels who don’t read the side bar. Play video games and talk about how alpha they are because they called a girl a bitch. This sub is washed up man. And I been here for a long time to see it happen.

Seriously tho. No offense to your post it wasn’t a bad post it just is redundant. Very redundant

[–]ThrowFader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look, You are EXACTLY correct. I agree with you.

Let me repeat I fucking agree with you.

But I am an optimist.

I made the post in the hope that even ONE fucking incel might decide to change their ways.

I know the majority are lazy fucks who don't even know what the sidebar is. But if even a twinge of self improvement strikes them. That could literally be life and death right there.

I've been through so much shit and so many people have essentially left me for dead. I could be super cynical and just let everything go to shit.

I want to give back, even if it means being redundant.

[–]monadyne 12 points13 points  (8 children)

In future, InconspicuousWand, if you start reading a post and it's something so familiar to you that you don't need to read it again, just close the window and move on. It obviously wasn't for you.

There are some people who may benefit from the post, even if it has been stated before, here or in the sidebar. Perhaps the post is a new perspective, or is articulated in a way that actually reaches a given reader.

A guy goes to the doctor.

Patient: "Doctor, it hurts when I raise my arm over my head like this."
Doctor: "Then don't raise your arm over your head like that."

[–]InconspicuousWand -2 points-1 points  (7 children)

Wrong we are promoting laziness. Guys who actually read the sidebar don’t need to rehear what is stated over and over again in the sidebar and here every week.

Only the lazy do.

[–]BurnoutRS 4 points5 points  (5 children)

there has to be balance in all things. Obviously newbs post shit thats in the sidebar because they arent as aware of the sidebar. Ignorance of something is not simply laziness, as you can be incredibly active running around and consuming information, but if you never happen upon a certain piece of information, how can you chalk up your unawareness of it to simple laziness?

Newbs post sidebar info, disgruntled older members post and bitch that "this is already in the sidebar" then somebody comes and reminds that member that this board isnt all about them, we have to tolerate newbs.

This is all part of a process. How do we break that process? Can we transcend the cycle? Can we build a perfect world free of newbs rehashing the same old content? nope.

so instead, we gotta update our filters. Learn not to waste valuable time complaining. Im not even directing this at you either. Im spending time writing this right now because Ive never really fleshed out the concept before. Its just as important to prioritize what pieces of information you should ignore, as it is to prioritize which ones are important and deserving of your time and attention.

By which I mean if you ignore too much shit thinking you know it already... anyways my point has been made by now

[–]InconspicuousWand -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

If they actually read everything in the sidebar. And don’t understand this basic stuff. They are never going to get it from this post or the same variation of it that gets posted every week. That’s what the ask sub is for if they still don’t get it after reading the sidebar. This is just mental masturbation for the lazy. I’d say 80% of this sub has not actually read the sidebar

Not to mention the stuff in this post aren’t some crazy hard concepts that are hard to wrap your head around

[–]monadyne 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Good info, changing my life because of this post; everything i needed to hear.

Positivecrystal wrote that, below. For whatever reason, this post articulated the idea in a way that really got through to him. If the OP hadn't written the article, that wouldn't have happened.

a_crapybara wrote:

What a timely post, I was just thinking about this and how I want to have less fear guiding my decisions. Thank you.

There are other responses like that. Maybe these men don't learn in the same way or at the same pace as you learn, InconspicuousWand, but that doesn't mean that their way is wrong and yours is right.

[–]InconspicuousWand -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

Saying thank you doesn’t me they get it. It means thank you for the mental masturbation. Usually.

They’re the same guys posting about the same shit next week in asktrp.

Read the sidebar, you won’t need this particular post.

[–]monadyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

changing my life because of this post; everything i needed to hear

Saying thank you doesn't mean someone gets it, but saying changing my life because of this post absolutely does.

[–]BurnoutRS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so everyone that comes here reads the first introductory post and is made completely aware of the sidebar? funny I dont remember that being an enforced prerequisite for new members to post

[–]trancedj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, you just called me lazy!? Dafuq? 😉

It’s not promoting laziness. I’ve read the sidebar countless times. I’ve been a member here for many years. And this was a solid post; something I needed to hear again but in a different light. It’s like an inoculation shot. Or better yet, just as iron sharpens iron, men sharpen men. That’s what OP is doing here in my view.

[–]DareyFathom 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Call it semantics, but I think "outcome indifference" is quite the misnomer. As Todd V implies, it instills a weaker resolve before approach. I'd classify not being outcome dependent and being outcome indifferent as dramatically different states to me.

[–]Caysath 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Call it outcome independence instead of outcome indifference then

[–]thecuriousmindofaman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is general advice but may be more specifics would help more people.

The way you show you don’t care is by having a riskier interaction with a girl. An interaction that most guys will be afraid of. You can tease her more. You can disagree with her ideas. You can be cocky and slightly arrogant. You can be looking around as she’s talking to you showing you’re not impressed by what she has to say. You can stare in her eyes deeply even when there is silence in the conversation. You can interrupt her. You can be escalating the interaction with more touching even though she said she has a boyfriend. You can be vague in your answers even though she wants exact responses. You can completely control the interaction the way you see fit. Risk taking in such a way conveys that attitude.

Risk taking shows desire and determination without care of outcome. She rejects you. So what. Until that happens you’re in control and you’re taking her for a ride.

[–]BitsAndBobs304 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfodtunately im calm when I do not care, and whats the point of being with a woman if you dont care. When i am strongly attracted i am nervous and that minimizes my attractiveness. If I could "meditate" myself into being indifferent and calm with a woman im strongly attracted to... i wouldnt be interested, bceause i woukd be indifferent, so what would be the point :(

[–]MakeMenGreatAgain44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love the motivational stuff. There is nothing worse than fear. I have gone through this in some personal issues and had reacted with fear. Now I know better and I know to stand stronger. It's better to be angry than afraid. Fear literally brings nothing positive. Fight the good fight and if you die you die.

[–]saltyafrican 4 points5 points  (6 children)

Great post. I completely agree with controlling your mind- it is the single greatest asset we have to succeeding.

I am 6'2, muscular and have my own business but I personally have a lot of trouble with confidence and insecurity, and I keep struggling to find out why. The funny part is friends and family tell me that I'm the smartest and most confident person they know.

To overcome my issues I am practicing stoicism and putting myself out there but being a huge minority (black guy in Taiwan) is very challenging.

[–]Classy_Amir 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Read the book "Think and Grow Rich". First, it'll help your business and second, your mindset. Best book ever written.

[–]saltyafrican 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I've read it and it's great. My confidence issues lie in getting women.

[–]Classy_Amir 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Care to explain a little more where the issue lies? Is it approaching? Or "Impressing" them? Would love to hear more details.

[–]saltyafrican 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Man, it's hard to explain. Maybe it's just the culture here (and no racism intended) but when I go out and game girls I seem to be losing to shorter, fatter, (and usually older) white guys.

I put the blame on myself- maybe it's the venues I go to? Perhaps I dont have as much game as I thought? I've been told I'm very handsome but still seem to have difficulty getting the girl I want even though I see them staring at me everywhere I go.

One more clarification- I'm mainly referring to locals- foreign girls are easy so I don't even bother half the time.

[–]confused998 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Are Taiwanese girls really that attractive? Better than Koreans?

[–]saltyafrican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends man. Personally I prefer them but that's probably because I hardly get them

[–]positivecrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good info, changing my life because of this post; everything i needed to hear.

[–]jonpe87 1 point2 points  (1 child)

"They (psychopaths) really do not care in the same way that normal people do. This makes them hard to predict, to control, and consequently gives them social leverage and power."

Here is what most people don't get about apex predators, they care, they are very narcisistic, what they don't care about is you the prey.. they will try to charm you, if that don't work they will get what they want by force.

So, don't fool yourself, you always care, but here is a psychological trick that gave me some results: just don't care about caring, there is not you can do. You see a big ass and you already is caring about fuck that ass. What this trick does is the same when you meditate a lot, it gives your consciousness the ability to disidentify from that feeling. It's like there is two of you: a part who cares and a part watching the one who cares. But don't overuse, you can really become psychopath or come close.

[–]trancedj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“The silent observer or watcher” as Eckhart Tolle describes. You have your ego-identified self and you have the observer. I’m just learning the power of using the later.

[–]doyouevenvape420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In short, you need to try your absolute best, but also not give a fuck. This is most true at work. You spend hundreds of hours working, so obviously it's something you're heavily invested in and care deeply about. However, corporate America is cuthroat, ruthless, and unfair, so thats one of the ways people get worn down and depressed with careers so quickly. You need to give a fuck, without giving a fuck.

[–]geetarstar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Millenials should be experts of outcome indifference lol.

[–]Supremedis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dangerous wars are won by smarter armies.

[–]hugaddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do i start section is on point. Thanks for throwing that in my face, sadly I need to see it every few months or i seem to forget what is real and what is not. Personally working on it.

[–]a_crapybara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a timely post, I was just thinking about this and how I want to have less fear guiding my decisions. Thank you.

[–]jitsbay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a thing that has helped me along in becoming more carefree and outcome indifferent is being fully present in the activity or situation you find yourself in. If you are climbing a mountain where a fall means death you don’t want to look down; it’s a much better idea to focus on those 3 sqft in front of you and calmly find your next handhold. Be present. Focus on reaching what is right there in front of you.

[–]RPinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much OP. This post gave me the courage to finally leave a toxic environment.

[–]Vasallo7G 0 points1 point  (0 children)

meditation is the difference between a brad pitt stare and everybody else, by meditating you let your inner light shine and that makes you 100x more attractive

having money also helps

lifting gets you girls but that is nothing with what it gets you in how you feel inside, not to mention you will sleep like a baby

[–]jkingauthor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy way to become outcome indifferent: fail a lot. I mean a hundreds of rejections. In a weird way, this builds confidence. You'll see that failure isn't a big deal, then IDGAF comes naturally.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (5 children)

There was some good things in the post but why the incredible word twisting...? Like "Outcome Indifference". There is a term for that already and it's called outcome independence.

Outcome independence (or in your words, outcome indifference) and confidence are different things.

  • Confidence is when you think you can do it (a thing that matters for you) even against all odds.

  • Outcome independence is that you do something without any need for confidence because the end result doesn't mean shit anyway. You don't need confidence to complete meaningless tasks.

So yeah, women like confidence and that's what they actually like too. Stop hamstering dude.

[–]ThrowFader[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

You are so asleep it's actually sad. I mean exactly what I fucking said.

If i meant outcome independence I would have said that. Clearly you are the one hamsterimg my words to mean something else.

Suck my dick, dumbass

P. S. Go grab a dictionary before you talk shit.

And read the sidebar

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (3 children)

There could have been a productive discussion here and atleast I could have learned something but I think I wont even try here. Too much anger in this young lad.

[–]ThrowFader[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

If you don't want to learn then I won't force you.

I only responded that way to see how you would respond btw. Bluff.

[–]Zech4riah 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks for lowering yourself to my level.

I'm just saying that inventing new words for a nuance of already existing concept is mental masturbation and won't get you forward but it certainly seems cool and knowledgeable.

There is also couple of other words for outcome indifference like: numbness, apathy or maybe even depression.

But yeah, sry it had to be you but sometimes TRP just takes a leap from practical world to philosophical semantics which is just dumb in my opinion.

[–]BoilingBleach 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Hmmm just got to TRP but this is not intuitive, passion seems also like a driver of success and that is the opposite of indifference. (A balance seems best)

Not denying women like indifference, just this is probably more related to using it to gauge how much higher value is that man to her... Gotta get the best genes

[–]ThrowFader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Passion fuels what you do.

You are indifferent because you already anticipate your outcome.

Be passionate, but also do not overinvest.

[–]a_crapybara 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Just FYI, women are not the goal or the focus of the redpill.

[–]BoilingBleach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No doubt, for me is realizing of the matrix, how girls are hardwired to create it, men are wired to believe it and every social system is built around it.

The difference in men and woman and their evolutive roles is in the center of all of it.

[–]calloberjig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only had to read the start before I knew you put into words something I have been internalising for quite some time. Bravo on the post and great writing style

Mods please. If you really read the rubbish we post, award this guy some magical mod points

Oh, and sidebar

[–]Organicana -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks sweetie I'm sure Ccooo

[–]thebadmanpuntdbaxter -2 points-1 points  (1 child)

This is a whole lot of ra ra shiskumba. Top tier athletes have outcome independence because they assumably left no margin for error in their routine. They trained HARD and they respect themselves for it. They didnt skip shit because they were hunover or to sleep in. They did not waste because they had a goal in mind. They’re on their path and nothing can pull them away. They know that after the game they will return to honing their craft, win or lose. Theres always another game

[–]ThrowFader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

um im not sure we are disagreeing here?