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Well, you guys were right (self.asktrp)

submitted by willysmiles

I was having trouble with my girlfriend and she told me it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to get engaged. She cheated on me with at least four guys. Maybe more.

How do I know this? I saw her Facebook. Tons and tons of proof that she never loved me and she was even laughing with one guy that when I proposed she was gonna say no.

I haven't told her I know this. I don't know what to say but I am done.

EDIT....I'm gonna follow everyone advice and just ignore her


[–]Gogo4u 158 points159 points  (2 children)

Closure is for the weak. You have the Information you need. Put it behind you, learn and grow. The best revenge is a life well lived.

[–]MarlboroMan62 13 points14 points  (0 children)

listen go Gogo4u, he knows. you need to be concerned on who your next girls are ... 's ... plural. you havent met them yet ... go .. now .. develop a plan ... now .. go !

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (15 children)

Move on. Your gut was right she's a whore and you don't owe her any type of closure.

[–]Praeda18 27 points28 points  (3 children)

I sincerely hope you're not still with this bitch, otherwise goddamn dude show some respect for yourself.

Your (ex)girlfriend is just like every woman on the planet, and all you need to do in this situation is go non-contact, block her on social media if you have to, just don't look at another one of her photos, her texts, her life, nothing. Move on, and take what you learned with you to the next girl so you don't make the same mistake(s) again.

No closure texts/emails, no snide remarks. Nothing. We're not here on this Earth for a long time, so stop wasting yours.

[–]WillWorkForLTC 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I ways wonder where all these women end up when they get found out.

[–]dj10show 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Me too. Do they end up snaring the alpha that they're cheating with? Or do they just end up with the most beta of beta as they slam into the wall like Fernando Alonso?

[–]WillWorkForLTC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh they probably hit the wall then convince some beta they are beautiful then take him for all he is worth in divorce court if he doesn't let her "hang out" with her friend Chad.

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Drama is what she wants, that's her fundamental emotional power over you. If you break with her ice cold style, no explanation, no closure, no emotion - daaamn the poor girl's gonna squirm & try to get something, ANYTHING out of you.

This behaviour is also characteristic for high value males and horrible sociopaths, both of which are exciting for women. She will second guess herself bad, and wonder if she's an idiot letting a good thing like you go to some other woman...

If that's not your style, you still want some drama, then why not use the classic storyline: "sorry, I met an ex of mine and it just happened, we reconnected on a deep emotional level and I can't go against our feelings for each other". Notice how it's again the same thing, you're taking ALL the power away, yanking all the carpet from under her feet.

The instant you start trying to morally shame her for something or you reveal your snoopy sources of info, you lose all the power to her. It's the position of a hurt, helpless dependent to cry & moan about her misdeeds to her.

[–]willysmiles[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm still no contact but how do I know its working?

[–]daveofmars 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Your new life begins tomorrow.

[–][deleted]  (2 children)

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[–]WillWorkForLTC 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Best fucking troll move in the history of troll moves.

[–]RPSnuggles 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So win.

[–]nrjk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ghost and start fucking other women.

[–]PantsonFire1234 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Tons and tons of proof that she never loved me and she was even laughing with one guy that when I proposed she was gonna say no.

Fuck is this really true? That girl is fucked up man.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is very common imo. Some girls I have known who flirted back, mocked their bfs every now and then only to eventually get engaged/married.

[–]PantsonFire1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why you go uncaring asshole. When she mocks it's just her acting butt hurt.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

There's excellent advice in this thread. Following it won't be easy, but you will love yourself if you do.

Do what everyone here says for YOU. Not for anyone else. Love yourself. Good luck.

[–]phamousTRP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's subtle, but don't start off living your new life in spite of her either. She no longer exists as far as you need be concerned. She is just like any other thing in the past - dead.

[–]Caucasian-African 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Here is something to remember about her. She isn't hurting at all! In fact, cheating is a hostile, distainful thing to do with someone. To me, it's like calling someone a btch. And guess what, YOU AIN'T NO BTCH! You may feel shtty inside. You might even be crying your eyes out over her, but you still ain't no btch.

Do what a man does. Handle your business. Open up to someone you can trust, if you have such a person. Cry like a baby on the floor if you need to. Let it all out, then move on.

The absolutely best thing to do is to just cut her off 100%. Don't fantisize about her starting to pine over you, then you to getting back together.

If you decide and are resolved to never contact her or seek her out ever again, the hardest week will be the first week, then it will be easier & easier to accept that she will never be a part of your life again. And good riddance!

Be stong my brother!

[–]Apexk9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Never talk to her again.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's 24. What the hell did you expect. She's still a child wanting attention from Chad. Girls in their 20s are the absolute worst girls to be in a relationship with. They are extremely flaky; they have very little idea what they want in life; and they believe they deserve everything in life, so they end up sabotaging their relationships because they believe Chad really wants her and will settle down with her if only she wasn't so totally booooreeddd with Beta Bob. These girls always believe there is more to life - more sex, more attention, etc -, and they destroy anyone else in their way until they hit the wall and realize they were wrong, and then they settle for a chubby 5'6" dude with a good job and a small dick.

[–]Modbsutansalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's two approaches you can take:

  1. Simply dump her with no explanation and let her stew over being dumped / rejected.

  2. Put her on blast by collecting all the info that she cheated and making it public.

The second may seem more fun right now, but the first is actually more diabolical and is the fifty that keeps on giving.

[–]Goldfulgore 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Just viewed your account history. Sorry to tell you this but you had it coming.

Start reading the sidebar of TRP.

[–]willysmiles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one deserves this shit, im so crushed

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Women aren't fans of silence. Do the right thing, ignore her from here on out. You'll survive this bro. And you will grow in wisdom from it to be a better man. Let no woman have this power over you ever again.

[–]abdada 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Just meet up with her and tell her "This relationship isn't where I want to be in 10 years" and move on.

[–]willysmiles[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'll do exactly this

[–]abdada 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Remember, you owe her nothing -- you only reward a woman's good behavior. There's zero need to get emotional or explain ANYTHING.

Just tell her that you don't see a future and that's it. End of conversation. She deserves no more.

[–]RPSnuggles 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Don't even do this. Jesus Christ. Don't give her the fucking satisfaction of an answer. Disappear.

That will bother her most. She will wonder how she lost control of you.

The best revenge in this situation is no fucking answer where the fuck you went. Drop off her planet.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a bitch. Get rid of her.

Men never get passes like this. If some dick was rambling on like this in a group of men, we'd all tell him to get lost.

Man, facebook seems to be the undoing and truth revealer for a huge number of relationships these days.

[–]harrybelden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be really nice to her for awhile, and then in mid-text sentence, go Permanent No Contact everywhere. Do not tell anyone she could talk to why you broke up with her. Make sure she never finds out for sure why.

[–]bittr_n_swt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

women can be cold ass bitches. NEVER talk to her again or give her a chance to explain etc....she'll flip it and make you look like the bad guy here

damnn what a whore

[–]The-Ban-Hammer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The more I read this... Is this true? C'mon.

[–]JustDoMeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been reading through your history, hopefully you're eyes are opened now. You HAVE to go no contact with this bitch, then hit the gym, read the sidebar, read the top all time posts on TRP, do that even for a couple months and shove that amazing life of yours in her face, or don't.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait...

are you still dating her?

[–]BenjiDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The advice here is on point. Even if you're looking for revenge, ignoring her and leaving without an explanation is the best way to get back at her. U just don't get to see her suffer. Don't worry about it. Read the sidebar, channel your anger into lifting.

[–]magicplayer123abc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP you're a lucky man dodged a fucking bullet here. If you live together or share anything don't even talk to her about it just get your shit safe and move on.

[–]Redditis4virgins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cheated on me with at least four guys. Maybe more.

Jesus man. Shoulda broke up with her permanently with the first one.

[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points  (2 children)

You could also shame her publicly for being a slut, or at least let her family know

[–]WillWorkForLTC 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then she might try revenge. It's best he keeps it simple. He needs to believe and care for himself and that means dropping this cunt as fast and efficiently as possible.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comes off as insanely butthurt and petty, something a woman would do.

[–]JavidanOfTheWest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

take a royal shit on her bed and dont look back