One of the plates I'm seeing came over a bit drunk the other night and after we had sex, she said she wanted to "talk". I say okay and then out of nowhere she starts crying saying that I am a "psychopath" and that I am "playing games" and "manipulating" her. She said she talked to her friends about me and they all agree with her. She goes on to say that she's used to being "in control" over the guy and that she feels "powerless" with me. She feels I am consciously trying to control her.
I'm not really doing anything crazy to her besides just being really busy with school, sports, hobbies, the gym, and other plates so I don't have much time for her. I take hours to respond to her messages if I do even respond to them at all. Texting strictly for logistics as well. I never go to her place and she always comes to mine. She's threatened to leave once or twice and I've welcomed her to leave if she wants to. It would make a small difference to me whether or not she is in my life.
My question is why does she think I am manipulating her?
My suspicion is that she (and her friends) believe that I am "faking it" and that my behavior in her presence is incongruous with my behavior while I am not in her presence. I've had girls tell me before that I am "different in person" and I have no clue if that means good or bad (I just treat it as a shit-test).
If this is the case, how do I fix this and become congruent?
If not, why does she think this?