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Plate caught feels and this was her shit test. What’s the reason for it? (self.asktrp)

submitted by captaintrippay

Been seeing this plate, let’s call her Jane, for a few weeks now. Fucked 5 or 6 times or about twice a week since we met. She drives over an hour to my place every time, sex is good. Been doing everything to a tee with this one but I’ve never gotten this shit test. Usually girls try to qualify themselves for my commitment not act like they’re gonna leave. Idgaf what she does at this point I’m not responding.

What’s the meaning behind this test?

shit test

Thanks fam.

Edit: A better, closer plate called and asked to come over. I called Jane a few hours before she was supposed to come over and canceled. This was her response

Edit2: I didn’t respond she said “It’s nothing against you... you should totally respond when you can 😏”

Final update: u/dr_warlock was spot on. He’s got that RedPill crystal ball mother fuckas!

https://imgur.com/a/2d1m807


[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock 213 points214 points  (6 children)

"That's unfortunate. But if that's how you feel, it's cool".

What follows this can have you squeeze out a couple more bangs, just expect her to delve deeper into it fishing for chaos. The hidden goal of this text was to garner a desperate response out of you to get 'closure' (i.e. "are you sure?", "we can work things out", "please don't go"). The power is in your favor and she wants the dynamic reversed. She can't leave until you do something 'beta', giving her the power and an excuse to not be attracted to you and stop feeling the way she does about you. She wants to leave with the leverage (credit: /u/Omlala).

"No no it's fine if that's how you feel" will probably be the best response to what follows. She'll ignore you or send you're an asshole, then a little while later apologize or wanna see you for another sesh again. Redpill Crystal Ball muthafucka.

edit: the good thing about saying "that's unfortunate" implies that you like her and the time you spend together (part of what she's seeking). As opposed to just "okay, good luck" which is dismissive.

[–]captaintrippay[S] 58 points59 points  (1 child)

This is the answer I was looking for. Thank you

[–]sternje 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eject. Politely and without neediness. If she can't or hasn't already found closer, better sex, she'll be back like Arnold.

[–]LodestarAuriga 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Post saved.

[–]ThatKidinAfrica 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I only wish I'm as wise as you one day.

[–]equilibrium57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro. True testament.

[–]yungbuster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If gotten this before and my response was something along the lines of " i understand but we can still chill if you want" banged her that night and she still rides my cock on the regular and its been two years 😂

[–]Huffnagle 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Not sure I’d call that a shit test, more like a power play. She likes you and wants an upgrade. Not that there’s really anything wrong with her wanting that, but if that’s not what you want then don’t give in to it.

I’ve never had a plate that hung around very long that didn’t do this a couple times. A lot of times they come back, sometimes they don’t.

[–]blacwidonsfw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This dude girls

[–]hrm0894 11 points12 points  (1 child)

"okay, take care"

"I understand. Wish you the best of luck"

She's making a power play. In a relationship, whoever is not afraid of losing the other and can walk away holds control. You essentially have to let her know that you don't really mind/care if she leaves or stays. Because YOU can get a girl with ease.

She'll either be more attracted to you and chase you like a dog, or she'll leave the relationship. In my experience, it's more the former than the latter. But if she leaves, who gives a fuck. Don't have oneitis.

[–]dtyler86 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why is this a shit test? I’ve had a dozen girls say this and everything the only reply is one that basically says, that’s unfortunate but alright. In my experience, girls can’t resist or they leave quietly. These are humans too, they’re allowed to responsibly not get devoured by us.

[–]LodestarAuriga 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I would think she's trying to fish some commitment from you. When she wrote "...catching feels and i already know that's not what you want" i read "I'm catching feels, and i hope you too. But since you always manage to avoid direct answers, this time i'll state something about you as a given, hoping you bother trying to disprove me, in fear of losing me."

Well, i think it's clear you are in an uncomfortable situation. You could a) Indifferently say she's right, b) "I don't see how any of this is complicated. We're enjoying ourselves", c) Say you do have feel for her.

A and B will have the same outcome: either she'll leave your life or she'll stay a few weeks more. C would be correct if you wanted an LTR with her. But since i'm guessing you don't, C would instead be pretty weak of you at first, and then just cruel, when she realizes you were toying with her.

Yeah, most people will say you can toy and lie. But (as you've done thus far) i vote for gaming and sexing without toying with feelings, and just being prepared to leave when they want something more (as could be expected)

[–]captaintrippay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the input. Solid points

[–]richboy297 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Something I've explained to all of my girls -"it's gonna be so easy to date me but to get me to really commit my entire future..they're gonna have to propose."

[–]fiislove 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bor, lets call her jane? Aight not alissssssa then.

[–]SpookyJuice96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally went through the same situation today and used the same reply in different words. She immediately retracted what she said.

[–]Random_throwaway_000 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I question if that is even a shit test. That's actually a reasonable thing to do. What do you expect her to do? Demand commitment when you made it clear that you are not willing to give it?

Also, having to drive an hour for dick probably has something to do with it. I say move on, this plate is broke. Soft next only tho, there's still potential in the future.

[–]captaintrippay[S] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

She is a very good communicator and the reason I believe it’s a shit test is because of the emojis. They weren’t accidental. Dunno tho

[–]1morescoobysnacks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not a shit test. She wants commitment. This is her way of asking for it and this type of strategy isn't unique to women.

Warlock's theory is good I guess. Ultimately, because we stay in our own frame, the outcome is the same regardless of what we think about girl brains.

[–]captaintrippay[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Edit

[–]DevilMayCry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You linked the same image as the one in your original post.

[–]boy_named_su 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I would just ignore her a few days then continue as you were before, invite her over for sexy times

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Fuck, I dunno about you, but I hate playing these games...

[–]eaazzy_13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gets old doesn’t it?

[–]dbz0x 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye ok peace

[–]RPAlternate42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"That sucks. I wish you the best. You got my number."

Anything else switches the power to her.

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[–]captaintrippay[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

She asked if her dog could come with. Last time, she brought no food. Felt bad for the dude in the am and gave him some leftovers I had. It was a long stinky car ride home for her, apparently haha.

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    [–]captaintrippay[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

    If you use it and it works for you.... Your welcome