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Does anyone else think they wasted their 20s? (self.asktrp)

submitted by acertenay

I am a 29 year old guy and by the end of this year I will be 30. It seems it was only yesterday when I was 22. I cant help but feel sad that I did not enjoy my life as much as I wanted.

When I was young I spent all of time on studying and other bullshit. You know what did I really want? I wanted to sleep around with a lot of women. I wanted to have sex with dozens and dozens of women before getting married. I wanted to get this out of my system. I know some people will think its stupid but this is what I really wanted. However I only had two serious girlfriends so far and only ever slept with 3 women in my life.

Now that I am 29 I almost all of my friends are getting married or getting engaged. It seems like my time is up as a single guy. It makes me sad thinking about it what my life could have been.

I am learning seduction and focusing on it more than ever but I think its too late for me now.


[–]Terdmuffin 178 points179 points  (4 children)

You can't do anything about the past so stop whining about it. All you can do is move forward and make your 30s awesome.

[–][deleted]  (2 children)

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    [–]resnine 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    You miss every shot you don't take.

    [–]ThatKassiusGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    We don't quit at half time man, you don't score until you score?

    Is this what we're doing, quotes?

    [–]creating_my_life 77 points78 points  (0 children)

    Try being in your mid 50s, and feel like it was only yesterday when you were 22.

    DON'T LIVE A MINUTE FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU. DON'T WASTE A SINGLE DAMN DAY CHASING ANYONE'S GOALS BUT YOU OWN.

    Nobody gives a shit about you. Live for you.

    [–][deleted] 143 points144 points  (3 children)

    You are in the perfect age to fuck 20+ years old women. What's your problem? Also, do what the fuck you want and don't get pussied around by your mother..jeez.

    [–]TheIcePill 31 points32 points  (1 child)

    IKR, lol this guy.

    [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Mindblowing how people perceive "30 years" as the magical barrier where you are suddenly old. Yes, most people actually do look old by then but if you follow most or all of the TRP rules (diet, lifting, game, finances, your mission etc.) being older is actually a huge bonus and you will be the opposite of "looking old".

    [–]mozofila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Don't know why but I just read dis with Napoleon Dynamite's voice

    [–]360_no_scope_upvote 83 points84 points  (3 children)

    You feel it's wasted because your self perceived value is low. Stand up to your mom, don't be a beta pussy and tell her you're not interested in getting married. Get in shape, and do something with your life.

    Anyways, you're drying up the pussy around here with your self loathing.

    [–]The__Tren__Train 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    he's drying up my pussy that's for sure

    [–]Pluglord 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    ---------> r/ redpillwomen

    [–]IncognitoMaster91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Lmfao @drying up the pussy.

    [–]Locoboy713 27 points28 points  (7 children)

    35 yr old here, I can somewhat relate. . ooking back to 20s, life in general during that time frame was confusing, challenging and unstable. Shit, I gone through the motion and only fulfill what my family, society and what I thought was important: college degree, corporate job, work my way up to 6 figure salary, buy a house, drive a nice car, dated "nice girls" and hopefully find "the one" (smh) and start a family one day. I don't regret any of that, because that put me on a good path in general and set me up financially where I am today. Don't get it wrong. I did enjoy my 20s with all the fun, irresponsible, dumb shit with friends. But undeniably BP in my all relationships, onetitis, orbiter, you name it. Went full monk mode for 3 months, started lifting, be more self-aware, and discovered RP turning 30. Life is a bitch, but we make the best out of it. Learn how to control your emotion (be stoic), prioritize your need, making gains socially, financially, intellectually & physically. Everything else is just byproduct including women.

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      [–]3d_truth 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      reported for multiple accounts

      [–]africansn0w 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Lol you literally got him banned for saying "you are me! :o"

      [–]3d_truth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Rofl holy shit. I actually reported him, seemed like it was a neccesary step to my joke at the time.

      [–]resnine 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Why do you put nice girls in quotes?

      [–]Locoboy713 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      AWALT. I had naive thoughts about how some of them are just so special and different.

      [–]resnine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Sure, we all think we've found our UNICORN. I honestly believe that is our default behavior because as males we always want to "protect and provide", it's just our nature. So when a girl pays attention to us we just ignore all their bad traits and idealize any good traits. And the lower you are in life (aka loser, no money, no friends) the more inclined you are to start pedestaling and idealizing said girl into UNICORN status. I know this because I did this shit for years until I began to realize all these girls were seriously flawed and I ignored them out of desperation and loneliness. Thank God for TRP.

      [–]btrpb 26 points27 points  (0 children)

      Don't worry dude. I'm 40. If you look after yourself then you have the gift of manhood; aging and maturing like wine. If you spent a lot of time studying then hopefully you have a good career by now. That's your backbone. Now get down the gym, and start getting new hobbies and start living the life. You've still got load of good years ahead of you.

      [–]anon1moos 44 points45 points  (0 children)

      Why are there so many people in here that think 30 is some kind of big deal for a guy?

      lt's a reasonable thing for a woman, but you're not a woman and you don't have to worry about the wall.

      ya'll are hopefully hitting your prime -right now-.

      Would it have been better to have killed it in your twenties? Sure. But you didn't. That would have been the best time, but the second best time is -right now-.

      I spent a lot of my 20's locked up. Get out there and do it man.

      [–]Wrath_of_Trump 18 points19 points  (3 children)

      Everyone on this sub over the age of 28. But don't listen to your mother, she is projecting her reality onto you. Men's shelf life is much longer.

      [–]thegreattot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      22*

      [–]juaracam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      I'm 19

      [–]eccentricrealist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      23

      [–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

      A man is most attractive in his 30’s and 40’s if he takes care of himself. So you probably dodged a bullet by not signing a life binding legal contract in your 20’s. Your good man, use your 20’s to mine wisdom and make now builds the life you know you can.

      [–]yesbuthereswhy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I can attest to this. I’m happily married but from my early 20s to mid 20s I have become very attractive from lifting and increasing my self confidence. I get eyes everywhere I go and I am only average. It’s all about confidence and this is something you can build at any age. 30 is a piss in the pond. I am excited for my next 5 years. I want to be in the 1200 club, make close to 6 figures and be the first to have my degree in the family.

      [–]The__Tren__Train 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      dude... you're 29 and not married?

      better hurry up and tie the knot so you can get divorced and lose everything / be stuck with a fat, unappreciative, nagging ham

      I know 8 guys who have been divorced

      and that's just at my gym during the hours that I lift kek

      [–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (19 children)

      I'm 22 now. When I was younger, the "Dream" was to be a bachelor and sleep around. Fuck all the women I could. Gain complete control over that area of my life.

      Now, after years of living the "Dream", I'm not completely satisfied. I'm not truely happy. I feel I destroyed my capacity to pairbond, my empathy, and in large part the mystery and strong emotions I could feel, in comparison to not focusing on this part of my life pre RP. I love it all the same and love everything about my life, but hear me when I say The grass is Always greener on the other side. After a while being able to pull, gaming and spinning plates isnt as important. Most important thing is that you work towards what You want, Today. Your regrets can become blessings, getting what you want now might not be as important to 40 year old you. Step back and look at the bigger picture. Good luck.

      [–]BACONisKEWL 47 points48 points  (13 children)

      “Years of living the dream”

      Bruh your 22

      [–]neoda1 11 points12 points  (10 children)

      Thats what im saying.. 22??? please.

      [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (9 children)

      So at what age are individuals magicly turned into people with valuable life experiance?

      [–]neoda1 -4 points-3 points  (8 children)

      years=experience.

      [–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (7 children)

      22 years is enough time to experience everything relevent to my original comment. Not saying I know everything, but more than enough to contribute. I'm confused why out of everything I said, my age disqualifies me.

      [–]neoda1 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      It doesn't disqualify you. You got a long way to go. You didn't give wrong advice. But living The dream part is what conflicts with age. I mean unless you went threw so much shit with in ur 22 year life span. People dont in general to at least 25 that then realize whats happening in the world. Me being 26.

      [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      I got the advanced starter kit when I turned 18. Felonies and a kid. fully independent by 17, worked for 14 companies over the past 3 years, leaving for raises or high level fraud. I am currently rebuilding my pest control companys website. Most in my age bracket are still trying to elect a major. I'm nothing too special but I'm fucking barreling through life on a train towards death. Yolo.

      [–]neoda1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      then it sounds like your doing good kid. Keep at it

      [–]BACONisKEWL 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      It was that exact quote I pulled that made me chuckle. If you think you’ve been living the dream at 22, you’ll either be pleasantly surprised down the road, or you’re in for a rude awakening.

      [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      In my original comment I described the "Dream" as a concept that OP was seeking. Spinning plates, getting good at gaming. Something my younger self wanted as well. I was living the "Dream" by 19-20.

      I really thought putting quotation marks around dream would help the context of the word, not at all it seems. My bad.

      [–]thegreattot 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      Hey man remember people on redpill have generally spent most of their life dealing with oneitis and by 30 have only slept with a few girls so the idea of a 22 year old having already been there and done that is hard to grasp don't take it to personally .

      [–]ArcusDeri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      His dream was to fuck women around and party. He already experienced that. He is 22... so what? Is it so hard to understand you don't have to be 50yo to share your experience? People, please.

      [–]Dartleather 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Fucking beautifuly put and timely AF.

      [–]Andgelyo 0 points1 point  (3 children)

      You cannot possibly relate to OP. You’re 22 (I’m 27) and while I do understand what you’re saying (sleeping around, not feeling any emotions, missing “magical” love) it’s not what OP wants to hear. He wants to live a life full of freedom. You are essentially invalidating his feelings of missing out in his 20s. In my opinion he should absolutely mess around with other women first and then settle down. That is the way to do it without any regrets.

      [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

      I can in fact relate, and do. I read his post and from what he said, yes I understand the feeling. Not his exact situation or mindset, but the general feeling yes I relate to. Repill is not prescriptive, it is Descriptive. I do not seek to tell OP what to do. Just sharing my personal experience and opinion. That what I did. Not invalidating his opinion. He should do whatever he feels falls in line with his mission, and build himself up however he sees fit. All we can do is share perspectives and offer knowledge. Reread the sidebar, maybe check out the rational male forum. Get a better understanding of red pill before you look to discredit a fellow brother in the community. Good luck.

      [–]Andgelyo 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Lmao did you really tell me to reread side bar and check out rationale male? I’m not discrediting you, I’m simply telling you that it seems like you are invalidating him. It’s like saying to your virgin friend who really wants to lose his virginity “ It’s okay man, pussy is whack anyway, fuck that shit”. It still doesn’t truly address his true problem.

      P.S. I’ve probably been on red pill more than you have buddy.

      [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Im glad you took the time to include probably to your PS.

      [–]resnine 14 points15 points  (4 children)

      I am also 29. I was literally just thinking this right before I opened up Reddit, "why didn't I seize the day? why didn't I grab life by the horns and just savor it more, why didn't I try to game more chicks?". I also spent a shit load of my 20s studying computer science and twiddling away my precious youth and time, I didn't even get my degree in it, still finishing up with another degree, which, I don't even know if I'll be able to get a job with it. I recall several times in my twenties where I was like "today! today! I am going to be different and live different and seize life" but I didn't, I don't know part of me feels like if you don't have money or are super-smart your life is just going to be that of a dullard and not much else. Or just being a crazy risk-taking motherfucker. Somewhere around 27 I just asked myself "What truly makes me happy? am I doing what makes ME happy?"... at that point I was studying hard computer science and advanced math and my social life and life in general had hit and all-time rock-bottom. I was extremely unhappy, masturbating 4-5 times a day as a coping mechanism. Hair was a mess, never brushed my teeth, worked a miserable low-paying job. I changed a few things and life past 27 has been better, but, I still feel like I am not achieving or have achieved nearly anything in my life, and as I am going to be 30 soon I just keeping doing this LIFE IN REVIEW thing, and asking myself all sorts of existential questions "who am I?", "why am I here?","where am I going?"... still don't have those answers. I feel quite lost in life, leaps and bounds better than where I was. My n-count is pathetically low, and the amount of partying/drinking/drugs is pretty much nil, some might thing this is a good thing, but those are ones who have already experienced the ups and downs of it. You all have had a varied life full of different adventures and fun. I am also unmarried/no kids. Let me know if you want to talk, I'd like someone my age and in a similar situation to discuss things with.

      [–]zenRP 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      I'm 25 now and basically skipped school to party and have fun until now, but am realizing I'm going to be forever broke at this rate. I'm considering going back to school since I have pretty much my first two years of comp sci done. I feel like it would guarantee a good job by the time I'm 30. Why did you stop pursuing it?

      [–]resnine 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      The school I was at was one of the best America so they tried to weed everyone out quite early, only took 4 CS courses before I said enough! At the same time I was taking the whole Calc I, II, III, DiffEq, LinAlg, Stat track of courses, I burned out hard. My life was so hectic at that time, and it was probably a combination of stress/anxiety/depression that really did me in. And my mindset was so fucked back then too. The program was grueling as hell, Java/C/C++ exams looking nothing like material covered in class, teachers teaching concepts deep as an ocean in one lecture. Some people just have a knack for thinking and soaking in programming, highly logical types, although my personality is geared like that I prefer something strictly practical and less theoretical, I'm the same with math, give me applied over pure any day. I switched to something related to programming and so far I am a lot happier in life.

      [–]bombgg 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Interesting story, care to share what are you doing now?

      [–]resnine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I really don't think my story is that interesting nor unique. If I had a dime for every person who told me they started a CS degree only to come out with something else... oh man I'd be set. It is a notoriously difficult major, very generalized much like physics. The material is designed is an extremely ambiguous way (which is good) so that it can be applicable to any and all fields. I have considered either getting a minor in CS or doing a bootcamp.

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                [–]satlinrabbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                Chuando Tan

                Thanks for posting this! this really blew my mind!

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                  [–]satlinrabbow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  shut up, Faggot.

                  [–]TFWnoLTR 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  I'm 31 and up until this year I felt the same way. The trick is to just get over it. It's really not worth it giving any fucks about the past or anything else you can't change.

                  Move forward with your life. Stand up to your mother. Try talking with a decent therapist if you need to. It really did wonders for me.

                  Your 30s can easily be your prime years. You're not really old yet. It's a perfect time to turn a new leaf and stop regretting the past.

                  I'm still fat and I just banged a 22 year old girl last night. She was no swimsuit model, but no hamplanet either. You can have tons of fun if you just let go of the past and work for the future and present.

                  [–]Mr_Badass 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  Lift and get to 15% Body Fat. You will look at least 5 years younger. It's time for you to enter Monk Mode.

                  [–]red_matrix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  Lift weights, focus on being the best version of yourself. That's all you can do, women come and go. Nowadays it's almost impossible to get a woman to commit, even if you wanted to. Never forget AWALT, follow the Pook and understand that it's a cruel universe, we're here for a good time, not a long time.

                  [–]thegreattot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                  You know ...I'm 22 and I was stressing that I had wasted the last 4 years of my life doing nothing but fucking tons of girls and getting fucked up on every vice you can think of. I think you'll always regret the path you didn't follow you are in your prime though bro so if you're bored it's never to late to get trashed with 23 year old girls .

                  [–]TheIcePill 8 points9 points  (2 children)

                  You're 29, go get hookers, there you go, you have slept with a lot of women, problem solved.

                  [–]resnine 8 points9 points  (1 child)

                  Oh God, where is the fun in that? It is similar to when one wins the lottery, great you have all that money but you never worked for it. Then there is Bob over there, he worked his ass off hard and built up a company and has millions, he is self-made. Half the joy of having money is how you made it, and the honor you carry by making it through hard work, determination, and finessing it.

                  [–]TheLanternFlame -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

                  This is gold

                  [–]cobalt1728 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  Why the FUCK, do you think you still can't sleep with more women? What, because your age no longer has a 2 in the first digit?

                  And what the hell man, why are you letting preasure from your mother get to you? I tell me mom shes never getting grandkids and I am never getting married. "It is 2018, not 1918 Mom..."

                  Stop with this bullshit.

                  [–]Sumshot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  Don't listen to your mother. Don't fall into the same trap as at least 50% of your friends.

                  The following will enlighten you about your current position in life: https://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/

                  After that, take a look at the MRP sub to get a grasp what getting married _really_ means.

                  After that, you will probably feel better. :)

                  [–]Trposh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                  I'm in my mid-30s, became RP aware right around the same age as you are now, and know how it feels. Whenever I find myself regretting past decisions or missed opportunities, I remember the following pieces of advice that I've seen in various threads on these forums:

                  • Time is always going to keep on passing, no matter what. In that way, time is a bitch. Some day, tomorrow is going to be today. Same with next year, and same with ten years from now. When that time comes, do you want to look back on this day with more regret or would you rather be like damn, I'm sure glad I turned things around? Don't let regret over past decisions or missed opportunities keep you from taking action today. You can turn things around - the only thing stopping you is you.
                  • The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today. I love this metaphor because it reminds me that, just like how trees take time to grow, change doesn't happen overnight - I'm not going to see instant results - but if I want to taste that sweet fruit, I've gotta plant that tree today so I can reap the rewards of my labor down the road.

                  Also, what other people said: Your life isn't over when you hit 30. Your 30s can be the best years of your life. Feeling sorry for yourself because you "missed out on your 20s" will get you nowhere.

                  Visualize your ideal lifestyle, and then go make it happen. STARTING TODAY. You can do it, man. Anybody can. Just don't be a fuckin' pussy, and take responsibility for your own happiness.

                  [–]Ricklogical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  It's cool, in my mind that's what my 20's were for.

                  [–]Inceltyrone 2 points3 points  (1 child)

                  You can just lie about your age.

                  [–]acertenay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Lol. What should I say? I am 25? haha

                  [–]Merwebb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  I feel like that. I'm currently looking to meet women, getting fit, eating right, getting hobbies, the works.

                  I used to be a blue billy big time in my 20s.

                  But i can't regret, is what brought me to take deep looks inside. Now what's important is to keep moving forward, to be the best I've ever been every day.

                  Sucks that most people my age are into the "fuck im getting old" or the "fuck im already old" phase. It kinda gives a perspective on social normatives and self programming. Fuck all of that

                  [–]IncognitoMaster91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                  It's only a waste if you didn't learn anything. And it seems that at 29 turning 30 you have learned how to be more introspective and conscious about your actions..so it seems you didn't waste your 20's.

                  You learned how not to waste your 30's.

                  So go on and start a new chapter. Forget the old. Keep the good lessons you learned from the mistakes and make the 30's be double awesome.

                  [–]Incaahhh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I'm 24 right now. Guess what? I'm not in a rush to do anything atm. Will life be over when I'm 30? No. Do I have to get married before a certain age? No. I know how to take care of myself physically, I'm still learning the physiological aspect. Stop reminiscing about the past when the present in your face.

                  [–]diggrecluse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Yes this is very common. I used to whine and bitch about it all the time. Then I realized that does jack shit for me so I decided to just live my life. Make the best of the time you do have. There's no magical rule that your 20s have to be your best years, it's what YOU make your best years.

                  [–]Zanford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  You're still young. 29 is young in male SMV terms. Get jacked, work on your career and your game, you've got decades of good years ahead.

                  [–]RivenHalf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Also 29, I leave with you a quote I just saw on here not too long ago...

                  "The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is now."

                  Stop thinking, start working

                  [–]huntersam13 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                  nope... spent my 20s in China, single... livin the dream.. I am wasting my 30s though after knocking up a psycho

                  [–]Sumshot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Are you a tall white guy? :)

                  [–]purplefidgetmidget 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I didn't get laid until I was in my 20s, and I was so envious of people that did. Even at college I had little luck. Thought those young hotties were a thing of the past for me.

                  But I read TRP and all kinds of associated stuff, put it into practice instead of just talking about it, and a 20 year old HB9 took me back to her student flat after a night out and the rest is history. I'm mid 30s. Never imagined that kind of thing was possible.

                  [–]3d_truth 1 point2 points  (2 children)

                  Too late? lol I fucked literally one girl, two times from the age of 20 up until 29. This year (still 29, 30 in one week) I have fucked around 20 girls from ages 17-27 some girls so hot I cant believe it.

                  Do you know what the biggest waste of time is? Complaining about wasting time. Not only are you wasting your time, you are feeling miserable about it too. This is literally what you are doing. Take a step back and just realize how fucking stupid that is.

                  What ever you did in the past was the perfect thing for you. Why? Because it lead you up to this moment and gave you the motivation to transform into the person you want.

                  Whatever you did in the past is just a story you tell yourself in your mind, it doesnt tell you who you are, it doesn't even exist, so don't worry about it. I couldn't give 2 fucks if I didn't spend my past wisely. All I care about is this moment now.

                  Also, fuck your mum. Don't give into her pressure. She wants you to be married so she can say to her friends that her son is getting married and has a normal life. Life your own life. Your 30s will be the best decade of your life.

                  [–]7mays 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                  How in the world did you progress so fast in one year, man? That is some astounding level of progress numbers-wise in that amount of time. Feel free to DM!

                  [–]3d_truth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  All my progress came in a period of about 3 months. Ill tell you what happened.

                  Well one year ago i downloaded tinder, was a complete noob, asked beta friends for advice etc. No idea what I was doing. Found some slut who I quickly developed oneitis for, and made her my girlfriend. She would cheat on me and openly had another bf in another country whom she left me for after 5 months.

                  That break up lit a fire under my ass and led me to redpill at the start of this year. I read the entire sidebar. I downloaded all the dating sites I could, and spent hours everyday grinding chat. I would try meet up with girls as much as possible. Basically, I threw myself into the fire. And learnt from failure and direct experience. And I failed alot. At first my dates would lead nowhere, because of me. All my failures stung bad, but they showed me the way forward. And helped me realise getting rejected hurts wayyyy less than kicking yourself for not making a move.

                  It took about 4 or 5 dates before I had sex. And the next night I was back trying with a different girl. And this was key. I would sometimes date 2 girls in one day, I was addicted to dating sites and meeting new girls (and just over 1 year ago I was too afraid to go on a tinder date). I was constantly streamlining my whole process, repeating what worked, learning from mistakes.

                  The sheer volume of girls I was seeing and chatting with gave me a natural abundance mentality for the first time in my life. This was the major breaking point for me. I suddenly had power! This had a profound and transformative effect on me. Everyone wanting to be succesful in this domain, must experience this. Oneitis was now impossible. If my best plate never texted me again, I wouldn't think twice about it. My ex gf who I used to cry over, now I couldn't care less about. I truly realized that there was just an endless stream of girls at my disposal. So I got to work.

                  I feel 20 isnt that much and couldve been alot more, but over half the girls I had sex with became plates so I stopped meeting as many new girls and kept a balance. Some weeks I would have sex with 4 or 5 different girls. It just became normal for me. Its not a very hard skill to get good at (and a few years ago I was pretty much an introverted virgin). I even started taking things too far, being a not so good guy. Lying to these girls just so I could fuck them. Kicking them out after sex etc.

                  It very quickly became unfulfilling. I used to think this kind of sex life would make me extremely happy. Well it becomes very obvious that this path does not lead to happiness or satisfaction. It ends up feeling like you are just trying to fill in an endless pit. I now have a new gf, and no longer cheat on her.

                  Sorry ended up writing too much, ive never really reflected this much on my journey! Was good to get it out. What a trip! feel free to ask me questions

                  [–]Straightfromthemudd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Me and you are opposites. I wasted my 20s partying and chasing girls. Now im almost 30 with not a very good career. Youre in a good spot to have it all. You can still go out and witha good career you will have increased smv.

                  [–]cnwilks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  I turn 44 the day after tomorrow, and my answer is yes...I stayed with the same woman for 8 years because I got complacent, and she dumped me at 27. I felt like a senior citizen when I was trying to start over. I've had some ups and downs in the subsequent 17 years, and have collected a lengthy list of things I wish that I had done differently. But you can't. The quicker you learn that, the more proactive that you'll be. But you're still gonna fail. A lot.

                  [–]dongpal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  You either have fucked a lot of girls in your 20s or you have worked a lot and achieved good financial position.

                  As you can read in the comments, people here have done only one thing proper, because they are too young to be able to have experienced both worlds. People who only experienced one world always think the grass is greener on the other side. So just focus on the women and you are fine.

                  [–]michaelmindset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  It’s all a bunch of carrots my friend. The job, wife, kids, “success”...we live and we die, nothing more. Whatever story you are telling yourself exist only in your head, and you can choose to rewrite it any time you wish. Don’t let societal pressure get to you, you sound like a guy who has a level head. I respect that you don’t do drugs or drink alcohol, I don’t either...your health will thank you for it. Not married? Well honestly marriage is quite a shit deal for men anyways. In all honesty you sound like you have your shit together way more than 90% of people I know. Cheers to your 30s

                  [–]ronalddrump69 0 points1 point  (3 children)

                  I'm 21 and have girls over every 1-2 weeks, it's not that special. Would rather do good at school and hang out with my buddies

                  [–]JW_2 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                  Bring them back from the bar or what?

                  [–]ENTPunisher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  He kidnaps them.

                  [–]Blckclaw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  humblebrag

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                  [–]acertenay[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                  Don't miss gym because it's your exams. Don't stay in your home because you want a fuckin 4.0 gpa because no one gives a fuck about that. Not even the interviewers. Hit on women. Have fun. Improve your game.

                  [–]nofilmynofucky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Better than wasting your whole life

                  [–]zboo1h 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Get this: one day (if you're lucky to not be run over by a bus or die of cancer) you'll be 80 and close to death. What will you do then?

                  [–]excent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  29 here too, I was thinking the same way at the beginning of the year, but then I started going to the gym and studying different career paths and now I don't give a fuck what my age is. I'm going to make my 30s the best years and so on. It's just a number

                  [–]andtoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Fuck, man. Thanks for the wake up call. I am 24 and I'd better get my shit sorted out.

                  [–]Kabuki431 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Yep i did but now i am spinning plates faster than a industrial dishwasher. 😎😎

                  [–]TRPKiddo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Never too late, brother.

                  [–]boy_named_su 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  There's no getting it out of your system. The more you get the more you want

                  [–]TheLanternFlame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Same, but that's how we get here today. So it's not a regret for me, it's the path that I have chosen. Whether it was a good run or a bad run, it still molded to who I am today.

                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  This might not help you that much but well I think a lot of people would say the same thing (wasted their 20s) for a lot of different reasons.

                  I don't think studying is 'bullshit' for one, and in my case I wish I studied more. Not that I was lazy, it's just I knew that I could make more out of my college years. As for girls well you could say I was lucky enough to have few reasonable relationships. It's good that you at least slept with women few times. Many other guys don't even have that luxury.

                  As for what your mother said, that's what I'd call BS. Nothing against your mom but guys usually have better chance finding better partners during late 20s to early 30s. We're usually more matured, better at detecting red flags (hopefully anyway) and financially more adequate so that gives us an edge over younger guys.

                  But well, YMMV.

                  [–]camknight15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  I’m 20 and I’m afraid that I will end up the same way.

                  [–]Toxik6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  You sound like me. I’ve decided to not be in a relationship till I’m ready to commit. I’m giving myself 6 years.

                  [–]meme_poacher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Any advice for a 19 year old?

                  [–]downvotesanimals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  I slayed way more pussy in my 30th and 31st years than i did in my entire 20s. Took me a bit to figure things out, but was worth it in the end.

                  [–]Eulerbrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  you're sad because you couldn't sleep with a lot of women?? huh..

                  [–]Helpmedecideplz2008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  not me bud, i chewed more ass than a shark in a swimming pool.

                  [–]Gamelova 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  My situation is the opposite of yours. I'm in the early 20s. I discovered TRP sometime in April of this year. As my Reddit name suggests, I have consumed a lot of my time playing video games. Without going into my story, I am trying to find a balance between improving and using my life with TRP and studying and not flunking out of college.

                  [–]trppr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  who cares about what your mom wants? your mom.

                  [–]Locoboy713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Amen dude. Mindset of abundance and we are always the fucking prize.

                  [–]Black_m0ngoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  You'll live until you're 100, and probably be lifting into your 80's if you're taking care of yourself.

                  Do not look back on the past unless it's only for reference. Look to the future. The present is the only moment you have control over.

                  You have plenty of time, but time is precious, son don't waste it on regrets. Learn from your past. Control your future.

                  Don't want to settle down? Don't. Your parents aren't living your life.

                  [–]Casd12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Lol you're almost 30 and you're still taking orders from your mom? Comon, live your own life

                  [–]PhaedrusHunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  Ask your mom for sex tips

                  [–]room_303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                  There a flip side that - Life is ultimately meaningless in and outside yourself. Everyone's been programmed to think they are THIS PERSON, who's story is special and just like 'those movies I watched growing up or the Rock star i loved and revered' - Reality - living in this century is the worst time to be alive, It's the dark ages where government doesn't give a fuck, immigrants are taking over, Money does nothing outside of buying essentials like food and shelter to keep your body running and brain calculating and rummaging with thoughts that portray things that never happen or did long ago.

                  90% of the women you find around you now are useless tattooed up sluts who can't cook, clean and think it's anti-women to do so - uber eats. They'll earn and save, buy the things they need and live a better lifestyle than men simply because girls don't self-police like men, they'll never get a back turned on them and can get jobs with their intuned crafty social intuition.

                  Most people who went to college will are or soon realize they just wasted a few years and got into thousands of dollars of student debt with the banks all for a useless piece of paper - They either can't even land a job in their field or soon realize the job they get is possibly really shit, add to that, all the womenz now in the workplace, any small wrong gesture will get you in front of HR, whom have to side with the vagina.

                  Win, lose - it doesn't really matter, money will not make you happy, either will working till you die, the good eras of working hard and being paid well with a gold watch at the end are long gone, home ownership - forget it, 90% of women these days aren't worth it either, cunt attitude, gargantuan entitlement, fat, tattoos, blue hair, entitlement, #metoo era - anytime a girl feels now she can say she said no, then moan about this all over insta-facebook-social-shit to 1000's of women and you are then guilty BEFORE being proved innocent

                  "Reflect too on the yawning gulf of past and future time, in which all things vanish. So in all this is must be folly for anyone to be puffed with ambition, racked in struggle, or indignant at his lot—as if this was anything lasting or likely to trouble him for long" - Marcus Aurelius

                  [–]Self-honest -1 points0 points  (1 child)

                  Who the fuck cares???

                  [–]Self-honest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                  Spend your 30s thinking about your 20s.

                  [–]Two_kids_in_a_coat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  Dies anyone else think this guys gonna waste his 30’s wishing that he didn’t waste his 20’s?

                  [–]seedster5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

                  You sound like a brownie

                  [–]ValorElite -1 points0 points  (1 child)

                  I am a 29 year old guy and by the end of this year I will be 30. It seems it was only yesterday when I was 22.

                  No offense, but how the fuck did you let time go to waste that badly? I mean I get it if you are a drug addict and the days start to blend together, but if you completely sober and active member in society?

                  I wanted to get this out of my system

                  Spinning the male hamster: instead of focusing on getting your life on track to be the best it possibly could, you were fucking around for 10 years.

                  Nothing to do now expect get to work.

                  [–]acertenay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                  Read before you comment asshat. I did not waste time badly like you said. I was working on my career and I have a good career now. The only thing I regret is not enjoying myself