Found girlfriend on Tinder (self.asktrp)

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Looks like Christmas came early. Friend texted me early this morning and sent me a screenshot of her profile. Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it. Biography alludes to sex and drugs. I feel extremely stupid. That's their nature I suppose and I have some work to do on myself.

What should I do? I'm supposed to hang out with her and her family today. Natural reaction is to confront but women love drama. I've set myself up pretty well to ghost her. Should I wait until after the holidays for image sake?

[–]kittenssavedmylife 399 points400 points  (5 children)

you are now the ghost of christmas past.


[–]DysfunctionalControl 50 points51 points  (1 child)

Underated comment. Lmao.

[–]TomFoo 16 points17 points  (0 children)


[–]Smigg_e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shell remember you for many a Christmases to come.

[–]BusterVadge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spit out my coffee! Well done!

[–]killm3throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Responding late as fuck to let you know how brilliant this comment is lmao

[–]bittr_n_swt 215 points216 points  (1 child)


Ghost her now. Don't wait for after Christmas. Block her on everything. Hard next the bitch.

Fucking hell

[–][deleted] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Perfect time for a Christmas present!.... To himself.

Anyhow OP, this guy is right. Ghost her. Drop all communication.

The ton of pics means its less likely to be fake but if you can find a way to verify its her, do so. If only for this would I delay, if you are absolutely sure? Ghost her.

[–][deleted] 208 points209 points  (5 children)

what the fuck guys

anything beyond deleting her from his life is not the right answer. revenge is for children. stop talking to her, find the nearest escape, and block all forms of communication. be a man and walk

if she tries to track you down and trap you in confrontation, say something general like "wasn't feeling it". the last thing you want to do is help her cheat on the next bro by pointing out her grave mistake. you have no reason to invest in making her a better person. she isn't your problem

she wasn't yours, it was just your turn. you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth. you avoided marriage and children. you won

now go win again

[–]The__Tren__Train 22 points23 points  (0 children)

you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth. you avoided marriage and children. you won

this is like....one of the primary tenants of TRP... I really don't think it gets enough attention.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This would be the best advice.

And I want to agree with it, so bad. But bstuansalts advice is just too hilarious. Reminds me of my xpost from here 'divorce, done right'

[–]herewegoagaindammi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth

[–]SpinPlates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well said!

[–]freeeid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best i will ever read.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Go to the supermarket buy her some coal. Giftwrap it with a picture of her tinder. Have her open it in front of her family than leave.

I mean honestly we talk about asshole game and dark triad all day. Eventually we have to live up to our own expectations.

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[–]slurmfactory 50 points51 points  (2 children)

Ghost hard. Dont give her the drama satisfaction. If she is just getting "likes" like the one comment suggested, you should ghost her for that too. Even tho she's prob cheating. Best thing to do, cut her off completely and dont talk to her at all, itll drive her crazy, if you blow up or get upset it will fuel and satisfy her, then go date lots of other chicks. Definitely bail on the family bullshit.

Edit: REMEMBER, the power of indifference is the ultimate

[–]herewegoagaindammi 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Dont give her the drama satisfaction

damn so drama is good for them? wut

is it because it is a form of closure and more arguments for her hamster?

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[–]Poptart318 37 points38 points  (2 children)

If she's asks why are you ignoring her just say "bishhhhhh I swiped left"

[–]plenty_of_eesh 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Why isn't this higher up?

[–]GarlicSaucePunch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

because "bishhhhhhhhhh" is cringy.

[–]lostinyukon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hard next and don't tell her why.

[–]RedWinter88 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Best revenge imo is just to ghost... no response. Never hear from you again.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dude don't waste one more second on her. Ghost immediately.

[–]TehJimmyy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

happy new year

[–]Huffnagle 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You should attempt to verify that it's legit. There are scammers out there making fake profiles, also it could be someone you know trying to fuck you over. (That said, it's probably legit)

If it's her doing, she's not girlfriend material.

[–]Surfincloud9 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Vengeful mother fuckers. Just drop her from your life, you are better than that. Show you are hurt, which does encompass acting like a royal prick, will make her happy

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Your tears, real or imagined by her, will marinade her while she "gets over the relationship". It will give her something to get off on emotionally as she processes this.

What you want to do is give her a black hole of nothing. Make her feel like she is shot into space and floating alone and cold.

That is why I'd ghost and not give her anything to latch onto.

[–]Modbsutansalt[M] 62 points63 points  (32 children)

Your friend gave you the best Christmas gift ever as this is an amazing opportunity in disguise, both for the OP and for men in general as this is a teachable moment!

  1. Have the freakiest, dirtiest hate fuck/sex you can have with her (wrapping it up of course).

  2. Print out the screenshots, bundle them up in a number of boxes, and wrap them as a special present for her and her family to all open at the same time at her family's place.

  3. Pack up her shit and put it in the trunk of your car ahead of time.

  4. As they're opening them simple walk out to the car, get her stuff out of your car leaving it in the driveway, and drive away never speak to them again.

Never giving her closure will sting for her the most out of all of this, and walking away cold turkey is one of the best things for you in the long run as ZERO contact is the healthiest approach.

Re this being a teachable moment... Maybe, just maybe, she, her future kids, and those in your social circle will get that you shouldn't solicit sex from others when you're in a relationship. Let HER be the example to others of what NOT to do.

The OP's situation is also a lesson for everyone else as to why it's so important to choose women wisely. That being said, please understand that even if you do everything right that it's still only your turn 9 times out of 10. That's the reality of relationships in the 21st century. Enjoy it while you can, but always keep in the back of your mind things are (likely) only temporary.

Edit: The only caveat is do your due diligence to make sure it's legit. Get your hands on her phone to verify the account is hers so you don't get duped by someone trying to fuck you or her over.

[–]Kalepsis 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm going to go ahead and disagree. Yes, this is a teachable moment, and yes, it was a gift to OP. But the course of action you've suggested sounds more like something a woman does than a man. My advice would be to carry out the "all her shit in the trunk" portion and leave it at that. Just wait til you're there and everyone is busy, tell them you're going to the bathroom or something, dump her shit, and drive away. Never speak to her again.

Revenge is for women and children. Be better than that, OP.

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    [–]crazycattime 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Seconded. Pinning this is bullshit.

    [–]exerciseaway[S] 32 points33 points  (10 children)

    I am sure it's her because her spotify account is linked to it and it's all her favorite bands.

    Looking for a drugstore to print these out at the moment!

    [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    I'd say just give it to dad, maybe an apology that it didn't work out, something he can hang his dignity on.

    [–]Werkzeug81 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Pls Deliver OP 😉

    [–]cavscout55 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Stop. Don't. Next her. Revenge isn't the way to handle it. Hard next the bitch and move the fuck on. You're a man, not a teenager in a fucking movie.

    [–]niggasfrombohemia 7 points8 points  (2 children)

    Pls do this OP & make an update post once you do so

    [–]thebrandedman 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    Comment so I can return for delivery.

    [–]Duchenne4089 0 points1 point  (0 children)


    [–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 1 point2 points  (0 children)


    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I have no experience with Tinder. Is there anyway to link a spotify account to it without knowing the spotify password? I don't know.

    [–]BusterVadge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Don't waste your time printing all of these out. Use your rage and need to do something as energy to write everything down you want to change about your life NOW, and act on it.

    [–]Cunt_Robber 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    Yes. Please verify the account is active and that it is for sure her using it, and not some creep who took her photos to set up a fake account! This could backfire just as horribly. LEAVE NO ROOM FOR PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY

    [–]johnsonsson 8 points9 points  (3 children)

    he shouldn't give a fuck if she gets closure or not. what's best for him, he should ask. and this move certainly makes more trouble and is simply a very childish, hurt gesture.

    dont do this OP

    [–]Modbsutansalt 14 points15 points  (2 children)

    It's the holidays, a time for fun and family. Normally I'd say just move one, but this was a gift, even if it means ending the relationship. Gotta look at the silver lining.

    More importantly, this is a teachable moment for her and those around her. This benefits society as a whole and I wish more guys would do this sort of thing so women in our society would stop doing this shit and know they risk real consequences if they do. SHAMING for indiscriminate sexual dalliances is a good thing and it's high time we brought it back IMO.

    [–]johnsonsson 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    yeah I give you that. the moment society liberated women from the shaming system, they went totally nuts.

    [–]seeing-red- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    You shame, I'll watch actions but convey a non-judgmental and open-minded attitude. Let's see which works out better.

    [–]TheStumblingWolf 9 points10 points  (1 child)

    This is pure evil. I have to be honest. I like it.

    [–]Ganaria_Gente 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    i wouldnt say it's evil. it's justice. poetic justice....the best kind!

    [–]Endorsed Contributormordanus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    OP please do this.

    [–]jupc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Printing out screen shots? This is woman's behavior. Don't do this.

    [–]beachbbqlover 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    No need to send pictures, that's just malicious.

    [–]Arcturus_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Girls love drama so let's give advice on how to be a dramatic bitch.

    This is terrible advice.

    Just ghost her OP.

    [–]zboo1h 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I cannot stress how important #1 on this list is. Do everything.

    [–]mr_nate_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Oh Jesus this is a wet dream

    [–]herewegoagaindammi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    if you do everything right that it's still only your turn 9 times out of 10. That's the reality of relationships in the 21st century.

    How about the other countries? Where should one go to decrease the rate of 9/10?

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    What's with the white knights? If he wants to embarrass her in front of her family for cheating on him, let him do it. It'll be fucking hilarious. If the only reason not to do it is "you don't need revenge", and the reason to do it is "It'll be god damn awesome". It's a clear cut choice.

    [–]Werkzeug81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    OP please deliver!!!!!

    [–]TheFirsh 11 points12 points  (5 children)

    What if it's fake, set up by a 3rd party crazy woman to break you up out of jealousy? Otherwise why would she include pictures with you in it?

    [–]nubfilter 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    This should have more visibility... yes, AWALT but it could be the psycho cunt that you nexted for your current GF.

    [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    Which is more likely?

    You may be right, but how many cheating stories have started with some extravagant excuse, which the guy buys, and then trickle truth?

    And how many end up being really crazy stories like this?

    [–]nubfilter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Added reply below mistakenly... tl;dr I agree but it helps learn the lesson.

    [–]zboo1h 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I've got pictures with women in it, and sometimes others ask me who my "girlfriend" is, then I fuck those women. It's not nearly that far of a stretch.

    [–]Ninokun 0 points1 point  (0 children)


    [–]aditas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    She is not but a plate. Wear protection.

    [–]flatox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    You know what to do. No closure. And do it now, don't wait for after christmas.

    [–]SpinPlates 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Please ghost her OP. Not a single word to her. No explanation. Just ghost.

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    [–]Uzinero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Just hard next. Block her, don't go to her parents house, just move on to the next girl.

    [–]Thizzlebot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    [–]Nergaal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Remember, you don't own her it is/was your turn.

    [–]NabroleonBonaparte 4 points5 points  (2 children)

    Just text her

    "I'm swiping left.." then ghost.

    Nothing more, nothing less

    [–]Tamarin24 15 points16 points  (1 child)

    No. No reason to say anything at all.

    [–]NabroleonBonaparte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Yours is the more mature route. Hamstering is amusing to me, I enjoy reading the "after ghosting" txts.

    But I think we'd agree on don't be bitter and don't seek any catharsis through her.

    [–]johnsonsson 1 point2 points  (3 children)

    i will NEVER understand how cheaters make a tinder account! for christ sake you are showing your face to the whole city saying that you want to branch swing. it is just so fucking stupid, it is impossible to understand. at least have the brain capacitiy to go to a bar where noone knows you

    [–]Tamarin24 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    Say together now. Attention!

    [–]johnsonsson 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    why not write a poem with a selfie and put it on facebook then, or cry about sexism or wear a miniskirt in the mall? dont you use tinder for this shit.

    [–]Tamarin24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    That's not as fun or dangerous.

    [–]H4RV3YSP3CT3R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    BRO RUN.

    Ghost. Do not even say a fucking word. Scream into a pillow right now and hire a escort. Then go do your fave hobby.

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    [–]iwantsomeons 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    too much time wasted

    [–]StudntRdyTeachrApear -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Yea she won't think it's creepy at all

    [–]illusiveab 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    While I don't agree with the tactic, you have to admit that it doesn't really matter what she thinks. That shit is over.

    [–]nubfilter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I think if minimal effort is involved and the (I agree expected) outcome helps to solidify the lesson then that may not be wasted effort. With me personally lessons are best internalized when I have all the facts - others may be so lucky as to absorb them the easy way but sadly that was never my luck.

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    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    you can add photos from anywhere

    [–]BusterVadge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Dude, she is on Tinder, looking for cock. She doesn't deserve another second of your time, let alone another day.

    [–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Rough anal at the Christmas party, collect your gifts, then ghost her.

    [–]All_Ads_Deceive 0 points1 point  (0 children)


    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Also, you shouldn't feel stupid. You held up your side of the deal, she was the philandering slut.

    [–]flashbang123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Friend texted me early this morning and sent me a screenshot of her profile. Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it.

    Sounds like she's not even trying to hide it, she enjoys the rush - the danger of being caught. Don't give her the satisfaction, she has zero respect for you. Give her zero fucks.

    Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it.

    I think this was on purpose...that's some cold shit.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Disappear suddenly

    [–]CRAIBaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    The amount of endorsed contributors commenting that OP should print out the pics and do some revenge act makes me seriously disappointed.

    The tag should be revoked from all of those tbh... seriously wtf?

    u/redpillschool (just picked the first mod in the list to see this)

    [–]sd4c 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I have a different take on it, after hearing that 70% of girls on Tinder are in a relationship. Tinder, Facebook, Instagram, texting- these are all just porn for women. They get off on attention. The question is, what are they doing/giving back in order to get that attention?

    If your woman is meeting up with guys, even "just friends", even for a cup of coffee- dump her.

    Ask her about her tinder profile. If she lies to you- dump her.

    If she owns up to it, and explains it's just for fun, then it's probably just a fantasy. Not much different from us men imagining plunging into an HB9 from PornHub.

    A relationship means you get:

    -All of each other's enthusiastic physical sexual attention
    -Honesty (if she lies, bail ASAP)
    -To be the only person of the opposite sex, who they do "favors" for, or spend time with

    This is strong reason for suspicion but not quite enough to convict. See how ashamed or defensive she is about it. Gauge her response for deceptiveness, and go from there

    [–]PurpleTurtle12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'd first try to get my hands on her phone to confirm everything. Then get rid of her, don't wait.

    [–]Igaunija 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Your friend is a real nigga

    [–]RichieFinn -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

    Jesus you must be next level bitch if she didnt even attempt to hide the profile

    [–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon -3 points-2 points  (0 children)


    For comedy effect tell her you'll see her on Tinder - and wait to hear "I only did this because hamster hamster hamster it's your fault".

    But really, you want to just ghost her. One message saying "no thanks it's over" and then no more responses.

    Let her think you dumped her because you found better, not because she's trying to.

    AWALT - live your life accordingly.

    [–]adam_varg -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

    Determine if its not fake profile first.

    If all pics are from public part of fb or alike and profile sounds like easy lay its likely..