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What is it with the cuckolding shit now a days? (self.asktrp)

submitted by Rudeyyyy

I've seen this shit in porn recently, and even a friend of mine as told me he would like to see some random guy pipe down his girl. What in the absolute fuck is this? He told me it's because it turns him on to see his girl with another man. Are you fucking kidding me?

I may be a 20 year old virgin but I have enough common sense to know already that I would not want to see a gf with another guy. Seriously what's the idea behind this?


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[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 46 points47 points  (35 children)

Some people say that porn is cuckolding because you're getting off to a guy fucking a woman you want to fuck and on the other side it's you're getting off to just her and what she's doing.

I never understood it. You get off to porn when you can be out there actually doing the fucking yourself with a woman instead of sitting home playing your skin flute watching rachel starr.

[–]EminemLovesGrapes 27 points28 points  (17 children)

I can believe it. I've read stories of men who either couldn't get it up due to PMO or went to masturbate rather than bang their SO. It can get that bad. (deadbedrooms subreddit)

Imagine a guy who's probably been masturbating... day in, day out since he was IDK 14, that has a profound and lasting effect on you. It can be whatever you want it to be.

I got paranoid when I was young and mainly stuck to masturbation/pov/ because It felt weird watching a dude railing a women. And I'm glad I did.

[–]xNightly 20 points21 points  (5 children)

I've been jacking off since I was 9 (fucked I know) and developed whole kinds of weird ass fetishes but I just cannot understand a cuck fetish. I can't grasp how you can watch someone you're with getting fucked by someone else and get off to it. Luckily I'm clean of porn now and I rarely jack off. Porn destroyed me.

[–]walruskingofsweden 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Dud how did you manage to quit? I'm currently in the "destroyed" state of porn addiction.

[–]xNightly 22 points23 points  (1 child)

I haven't fully quit. I say clean but that's an overstatement but when you compare it to my past usage, it's a significant improvement.

I quit because it was generally fucking me up. The NoFap subreddit is what initially got me going but I've moved on from that community due to the utter bullshit and broscience they post. When I jack off, I get really tired and I can't concentrate at all. With exams coming up, I can't afford to sustain this mental state.

Additionally, when I'm free of porn, I'm generally more content with myself and my self-confidence increases knowing I'm tackling through a difficult process.

No one can make you stop but yourself. You need to understand that porn is nothing but a toxicity to your life that's hindering your potential capabilities. You need to figure it for yourself or you'll never stop.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get depressed after a porn binge. Usually three days is what it takes to feel power through the depression. My eye contact worsens as well.

[–]R41nmaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

/nofap

[–]EminemLovesGrapes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I look at it is progressive. A slow descent into perversion.

From just watching a women getting fucked by a guy. To multiple guys. Maybe even facials or bukake or something. The "degrading" factor comes into play. As you get used to a type of porn you look for something else that makes you go fuck yes which is usually worse and that's how fetishes develop. You go deeper and deeper.

You get off from women being used by a guy.... and before you know it "a woman" becomes "your woman".

I'm getting clean off of porn now too. Once you get used to masturbating that much you never realize the subtle benefits that not doing it has. I'm not going nofap but I would like to cut it down by quite a bit.

EDIT: People in the comments people attribute it to getting cheated on, that could be true too. With beta's at an all time high due to single motherhood and women bouncing around common...

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 4 points5 points  (10 children)

Also to top that off they develop death grip and there’s only one way for them to get off because of how long they’ve been jerking it. I’m glad I haven’t developed death grip and I’ve been jerking it since like 12? So I’m glad. For me it’s worrying about cumming too quickly because of not being used to the sensual touch of a woman I’m attracted to.

[–]holbrook2 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Yo totally understand your issue, girl's ain't be tripping if you blam in like 5 seconds, they're always chill for round two. The best way to get rid of preformance anxiety is to be aware of it ,think through it and then ignore as best as possible

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

My guessing was just say i'm too attracted to you or some shit and then go back to foreplay. They say don't worry about performance. Just be in the moment and have fun. My problem is i'll be so damn turned on i'll be busting so goddamn quick before I even get my pants off. practice makes perfect I guess. Which I think a relationship might help considering they're there for it all and understand and you practice and build with that same person.

[–]read_if_gay_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

My problem is i'll be so damn turned on i'll be busting so goddamn quick before I even get my pants off.

From all the people with whom I've talked about this there has been exactly one guy whose first time kind of went like this. He got a bj and came really fast. For the rest it was just kinda shitty because they were drunk as fuck and/or couldn't just enjoy it because everything was so new.

So I wouldn't worry about coming too fast your first time. It'll likely just suck. But that's fine.

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gotten head but I was drunk and couldn’t even get it up but I’m sure that’s because I was hammered. Guess just gotta practice.

[–]EminemLovesGrapes 0 points1 point  (5 children)

When I used to masturbate excessively I had no problems lasting at all, but now that I'm working on getting rid of the habit I seem to "PME" a lot more. Weird...

But I don't worry about it, everyone has a first time it's just 99% nerves. I'm assuming women are fine with it assuming you're willing to get her off anyway and don't make a big deal about it.

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I mean I want to learn. I want to please my partner. Use my hands, tongue, fingers, whatever to help get her off. I want her to tell me what she likes to I can try my best and make the experience good for both of us. But most women do not want to sleep with a virgin. So I think I’m better off giving a vague answer or just not telling her at all. I’m not obligated to tell her but she should somewhat know. I’m not like getting shivers and cold sweats I’m so nervous. I’m just inexperienced and want to learn and have fun.

[–]EminemLovesGrapes 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Same here.

We're lucky. I'm 22, you're 20. In this age bracket it's fine if you're a bit inexperienced. You don't have to tell her you're a virgin. You can still ask for pointers on whatever. At this age it's not a nail in your coffin.

I think the key to try shit while you're young and there's no expectation breathing down your neck.

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Yeah that's true. It's not much of a red flag now than it is when we hit 30. By then most people will assume we've had at least something under our belts. Granted most women want an older guy anyway. Tbh I think i'd like someone with a bit of experience but again do I tell her? It depends on the woman. Some will laugh and call me a loser. If she likes me that much she'd be glad to as there are some women out there with popping cherry kinks, and some women outright don't care and don't mind. It's a matter of what you get. But I think if you're open with it and tell them yeah I'm inexperienced but want to learn and please you they'd be much more open to the fact that i'm willing to try.

[–]ruinsthepartyagain 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I’ll tell you right now, I’m a woman, and when I was 20 all I wanted was an inexperienced guy, because I was also inexperienced and I wanted to feel safe and comfortable having fun. The idea of hooking up with a dude with experience was intimidating and stressful. I’m just one example but i know there’s plenty of women like me out there, especially at such a young age, who would be happy with a guy without experience because then hopefully he isn’t expecting much and might be just as nervous and awkward as you. :)

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment and feedback, it’s not that it’s awkward. I think if she tells me what she likes then it will help. I’ll do my best to help her cum. I’m most likely going to bust early anyway. In a way I’d like someone with experience because she knows what she’s doing and what she likes. She can also show me how things go. I’m not expecting much I just want to have fun and learn.

[–]ArthurTheAstronaut 7 points8 points  (5 children)

I never understood it. You get off to porn when you can be out there actually doing the fucking yourself with a woman instead of sitting home playing your skin flute watching rachel starr.

Hold the fuck on. Didn't you say you're a fucking 20-year old virgin?

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Yes and? I approach, I started lifting and dressing better, I’m working on game, I don’t use porn for masturbation anymore, I’m putting in effort. Haven’t had anything yet except fatties. That’s a huge no for me. I would assume because I’m 5’4 it’s harder for me but I’m trying.

[–]lionsfan2016 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I banged a chick 5 inches taller than myself, its an issue for some yes but some things you can't change. I'm 5'6" so I sorta feel you, Confidence is the key for me anyway

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been working on it. Note I don’t care if the woman is taller but they do. They’re insecure. At least I’m Lean with low body fat. Gotta keep trying.

[–]ruinsthepartyagain 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Aw shit now I feel gross for trying to make you feel better with another comment after the “fatties” comment in here. It ain’t your inexperience that’s a problem, it’s that you’re judgmental and mean.

[–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I’m allowed to not be interested in fat women. Nothing wrong with that. I go to the gym and keep myself in shape if I dated someone out of shape and didn’t want to do activities and get outside with me we wouldn’t be compatible. I appreciate you’re other comment by the way.

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    [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Fantastic ass that can twerk and ride that’s all you need to know. Look up her POV video with her hair in a bun. Go nuts.

    [–]Pluglord 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Am I in the porn subreddit?

    [–]P4_Brotagonist 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    This is funny to me because I specifically only ever watch porn that are solo girls for that exact reason. I don't need or have any desire to see some dude pounding some chick. If I want that, I have enough motivation to BE that guy. Instead if I decide to watch it, it's about that woman alone.

    [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    exactly this

    [–]geturcraptogether 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Same with strip clubs. Why pay for entry, then pay to fantasize about a chick gaming you for a shit lap dance when you can just go out and find a chick to bang and plate. Haven't been to one since my bachelor party at 21 ( obviously divorced now)

    [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I have no desire to go to strip clubs. I never understood them. Let me throw money at some chick to give me blue balls. No thanks.

    [–]Kommanderdude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Eh. When I watched porn I just imagined I was fucking her. Probably why I could never get a boner from videos where the guy had a smaller dick than me. It was too much work to find videos that worked.

    [–]CMajorThe3rd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I think thats the problem, men see porn as a way to relive themselves, it should be the opposite, you should masterbate for an hour, slowly working your edge game so you can control yourself and take you and your women over the fucking edge.

    Porn is fine till its not.

    [–]walruskingofsweden -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Lol not if you're like me and you started HD porn at age 11. I'm 20 now and my dick doesn't even work with real girls. After 9 years it might as well be heroin.

    [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Cut the porn and masturbation for a bit. I know my dick works with women. They grind up on me at parties and I can get hard instantly. I’m glad I don’t have the same addiction like many of my peers do. At one point I found it disgusting tbh. Like I’m jerking off when I should be out trying to get laid.

    [–]Throwaway-242424 4 points5 points  (2 children)

    Honestly this whole thing makes me super glad I grew up mostly watching girl-on-girl. Knowing what I could have otherwise conditioned myself into is scary.

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      [–]Throwaway-242424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      As in watching a guy and a girl is conditioning you into getting off on sitting there and watching.

      [–]dotwav2mpfree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I have had it described to be as having your own 'personal porn star.' Smh, what a load

      [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 32 points33 points  (3 children)

      A. People are weird. (Although really, everyone is pretty much entitled to their own kink. Usual restrictions apply - no kids, animals, people who don't want to get fucked, etc.)

      B. For some guys, I guess it's a form or intellectual masochism. It's always been a thing, just now its more mainstream. That happened with interracial sex and later with "incest" (although that's being acted out, at least AFIAK.) Back in the early 90s, a buddy of mine wanted me to rail out his then-GF (I declined). People are weird.

      C. Porn - which everyone should be eliminating or at least cutting down on - is about extremes. That's why you see a lot of dudes in it with horse cocks and women with huge tits.

      D. Learning about sex from porn would be a lot like watching "The Fast and the Furious" and assuming that that's what everyone's morning commute looked like. It's not.

      E. Lesbian porn - the kind made for straight men who fetishize "lipstick lesbians" (so pretty much all of us) - is basically threesome porn for guys who don't want to have to see another man's dick on camera.

      [–]CMajorThe3rd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Had a work friend invite me to his place, an hour latter his then GF was trying to blow me in the spare room saying ‘its my turn’.. people are fucking weird.

      [–]blackedoutfast 17 points18 points  (3 children)

      it's either dudes who grew up watching too much video porn and training their brain to get off from watching a dude fuck a woman instead of the good old days when we would use our imagination or look at a centerfold pic of a naked woman and imagine that we were fucking her.

      or it's a jew conspiracy.

      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      I’ve watched porn for years and I have no desire to watch another man fuck my woman. She’s mine for a reason. She gives pleasure to me I give pleasure to her.

      Recently I’ve switched to pictures and fantasies and I feel better honestly.

      [–]fitalt47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Considering the entire porn industry is heavily Jewish and has been since porns inception there’s a good chance it could be both

      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 15 points16 points  (19 children)

      If you want to understand feminist though, go to Efuked. There's this video if this feminist bitch. The entire time she talks about feminism and how the patriarchy need to fall. The entire time these two men are spitting in her face. And she's got this gaint smile on her face. It's really a quite interesting video to see into the phycology of a feminist. She's eating one of the dudes assholes at one point.

      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

      she's eating one of the dude's assholes at one point.

      Sounds like she's into some shit.

      [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      The best way to pass a shit test is spit in the face.

      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Or eat their ass apparently...

      [–]wisdom_is 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      You mean efukt.com

      [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (14 children)

      I used to hang out with some guys in highschool that would get high and love watching efucked. That place is horrible. I have seen some nasty ass shit that they thought was hilarious but I did not get it. after a couple times of our hanging out and it devolving to that, i would leave. One guy would say "wtf? you dont think this is funny? you bein a faggot?" Terrible site to ever be at.

      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 1 point2 points  (12 children)

      True, it's such a terrible site. It's better then what I was watching in highschool. I use to watch video after video of people dieing, or girls being fucked by horses.

      [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (11 children)

      FUCK.... ive seen those too. Im never the guy to want to watch that shit but the (highschool) people around me think its the best thing to get a reaction.

      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger -1 points0 points  (10 children)

      Dude, ever since someone turned me back into them, I can't stop watching all these fucked up porn videos. My favorite is this chick rain degrey, serious they just strap her up to a vibrator, and just leave her hooked to it.

      [–]Ill_Will7 -1 points0 points  (9 children)

      Ive seen one where dudes put huge subwoofers in their cars, that have insane bass. They have custom noises for their purpose and they have the chick sit on the e-brake and it vibrates so hard and loud the bitches hair floats up and she gets off like crazy in a couple seconds. I sorta enjoyed that one actually because nothing disgusting happened

      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger -1 points0 points  (8 children)

      Another one of my favorites, is the dude who takes a mouse trap, puts a tack I. The end, and hits the head of his dick with it. He doesn't even scream. I'm also sure I watched some dude kill himself, he put tin foil around his dick then stuck it in the light socket.

      [–]Ill_Will7 -1 points0 points  (7 children)

      That is fucked up. we shall go no farther in this fucked up conversation. Im sorry for both of our experiences watchin this terrible internet crap. Desensitized for life now

      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 2 points3 points  (6 children)

      Hahahaha dude we are on Reddit, there's a subreddit dedicated to crime scene photos. The world we live in is fucked up. That's why I preach the gospel. Come to Jesus be saved from your sins, we are all evil. We did sorta participate in the evil done to those people. And Jesus died so we don't have to go to hell for that evil.

      [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (5 children)

      haha, I know. I like you but im just saying that i dont wanna get into a one up contest about dudes gettin mouse trapped in the dick. I follow the word of the buddha but by no means am i anything close to a good buddhist. I had a wise friend once tell me that the bible isnt a religion, its the word. I have seen the bible and other religious/spiritual texts from this perspective now. Im glad you know the bigger picture

      [–]redpilledcuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Try inhumanity.

      [–]daytonbull90 19 points20 points  (10 children)

      Cuck here, I was cheated on by a girl 9 days into our relationship with my best friend from middle school back in my BP days, she took his, then took my virginity the next day. I was guilted by my mom into taking the girl back after I dropped her, she then cheated 40+ more times between 5 more guys over the following 9 months at age 18. It fucked me up bad, the mental pain turned physical for a little bit. Right after I found out, and I didn't so much as hug a girl for two years following that debacle.

      During those two dry years every time I fapped to porn, the image of her getting railed ALWAYS popped up in my head, and it only got worse. I wanted to know all the details; where, when, with who, what happened, etc. Two more relationships after that, being cheated on always repulsed me but I couldn't help fantasizing about it. I believe it's a developed defense mechanism for poor assholes that get cheated on, after it happened to me. In relationships since then, I've personally always felt like 'cheat on me and I'll dump you, then fap to the thought later', if that makes sense.

      Nine years later the phase is gone, I used to have a no-show sock fetish that faded just like this cuck shit (thank GOD), I don't get off to the thought, and if I still did, I wouldn't embrace it like a lot of men do. You rarely ever see r/cuckqueans (female cuckold), this type of fetish is predominately men. Most cucks were most likely cheated on and got hooked to the rush of being arroused and pissed off at the same time, only some are just extreme masochists/submissive. There are 'dominant' cucks as well, which order their subs to fuck men in front of them, whilst orchestrating it all.

      I never actively asked my relationships to cheat on me or whatever, but they did know of my fantasy. I'vr since gotten jnto 'the scene' after these past relationships though, there are a lot of cucks and swingers everywhere you go, in committed relationships and more than willing to let you fuck their wives/girlfriends. It's like NSA on steroids, no shit tests, no dates, just men trying to get off to you fucking their women.

      I'm not open about this in public, the word 'cuck' has essentially replaced the word 'fag'. Most cuck relationships don't last, they all end in divorce or breakup, there is an endless list of 'hotwife' Reddit posts going into detail how they gradually lose all respect for the men they once loved. If I had to put a number on it, I'd say like 70% of open relationships don't last more than a few years. This number is based off absolutely no hard evidence, but an estimate of what I've witnessed and read.

      Hopefully my post helps trp understanding of cuckold mentality.

      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 6 points7 points  (4 children)

      First off, sorry for everything that’s happened to you. Glad you healed and yes it does help me understand. It’s fused into their brain from previous experiences so that’s what they know. But of course most of these same guys are prob out of shape men who don’t care about getting their body into top tier mode to fuck their woman and keep her pinned.

      I wouldn’t be able to do it myself. If I found out she cheated it would piss me off and just motivate myself even more to get to the gym and get more pussy. And not to think of her ever again because of what she did to me. So there’s 2 different perspectives.

      [–]daytonbull90 4 points5 points  (3 children)

      No it makes sense, that's how I originally felt the first time it happened, I was prepared to move on and never speak to her again. She came to my house while I wasn't there and gave my mom a sob story, to which my mom asked me to 'forgive' her and take her back. I did, but it was one-sided, then the bullshit started when she realized it. And maybe porn did have a lot to do with it, I did see a lot of porn growing up, maybe I was jealous that I didn't get to at least see her fuck other guys? I don't know.

      Try not to dwell on it, the best way to get over someone is under someone else.

      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Nah see I hold grudges, especially against people who outright disrespect me. I’m friends with everyone, I enjoy meeting new people and having a good time but if you disrespect me or cross me you’re dead to me. So in that sense I’d tell my mom to fuck off. I never bought the “puppy dog eyes sad face” from girls when I was younger. I’m a stone cold ginger with a dark sense of humor lol. And this is where abundance mentality comes in. If you had more women you wouldn’t even think about her.

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        [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        So I’m a virgin because I don’t let people walk all over me. Mhm that’s the reason.

        [–]Undisclosured 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        I can relate to this. I was in a relationship a while back where I was unsure if my girlfriend was cheating. There were occasional red flags but nothing exact. Never a smoking gun. Only hints. I trusted her, but the idea of the unknown made me really insecure. It’s a little more complicated that what I’m saying here, but that’s the big picture.

        So, instead of going crazy and breaking things off with a girl that was possibly being completely honest, my mind brought me to unusual places. I would take this dark thought of her cheating and turn it into a fantasy of her getting complete pleasure. I imagined her with one or more other guys. In an odd way, it totally worked. I was able to get past it without being a nervous wreck or hounding her with questions all of the time.

        It was definitely a defense mechanism and I’m definitely not, now wasn’t, ever down for cuckold in real life. It was not very healthy, but I didn’t want to break things off for my insecurities/suspicions. And I never did catch her cheating, but at the height of the stress I would have paid someone a lot of money for honest verifiable proof, just to ease my mind. But maybe it never existed/happened.

        Anyway, the fantasy served its purpose until we later broke up for other reasons. To this day, I can see the possibility of her cheating being 50/50. I wouldn’t be surprised, either way. Would still love to know, it’s an unsolved mystery to me.

        Edit: wording

        [–]daytonbull90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ask her, I asked the woman 6 years later what happened and more shit was unearthed because she forgot what she told me. Hit her with the 'people change for the better, I won't be mad, I just want to know if you ever cheated on me, this would be between me and you.'

        When she was cheating on me, I didn't know, but I ALWAYS expected it. Dozens of little things I thought about that made complete sense, after I found out. The dozens of times I suspected, I was right. So you might be right yourself, our common sense is pretty strong.

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          [–]daytonbull90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          Ya, the human brain is complex, some like to be dominated, but most men like to dominate. Most men can't feel dominated like women can during sex, but in cuckoldry it can be achieved. Most cuckolds are made, not born, so if you know anyone that has been recently cheated on, force them to stay away from porn. That'd be my advice.

          [–]X--Man 3 points4 points  (0 children)

          I feel the same way about 2 girls 1 cup. People b weird man...

          [–]RadioForMen 3 points4 points  (3 children)

          For most of human history, people were driven to murder at the thought of someone doing their woman. You have to wonder what's in the water for a change that drastic to occur.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          Well first I think instead of fucking up the guy we should dump the woman for cheating right? It’s her fault she let him fuck her in the first place. But I think it’s more of a power thing and now that feminism has women feeling like they’re the goddamn avengers shits changing.

          [–]RadioForMen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          In the past the woman was murdered pretty often I think. If the guy was murdered, it was because he broke the social convention of not fucking taken women, not a specific attack against one guy.

          [–]2chazthundergut 11 points12 points  (3 children)

          "I may be a 20 year old virgin"

          Stop worrying about other dudes' sexual fantasies. Start worrying about getting yourself laid. Gym & sidebar. That way ->

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

          I never said I was worrying. I’ve been here for a little over a year. I’ve been lifting. Currently have 12% body fat. Reading the sidebar again.

          [–]Undisclosured 1 point2 points  (1 child)

          It’s reasonable to ask questions about anything/everything. This is how we learn/improve. Good on you for not being a standard moron/meathead.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          Appreciate the support.

          [–]RedSkeller 2 points3 points  (14 children)

          You could argue it's feminist agenda or whatever but let's face it people get into weird shit. More or less it's the power of suggestion mixed with kink, and/or a controlling woman in a position of power in a relationship. Usually the guy is gay or bi if it's his idea, or is simply too lame to get a new girl if his girl is running around getting boned by strangers while he sits at home reading and wondering when she's coming back. I don't think it's anything new, we just are in the age of being overly provocative.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (11 children)

          Sounds like the guy is a complete pussy tbh if he’s straight. If a girl cheats that’s shit they’re dead to me. I mean I’m into some shit sexually but nothing like this. This is literally give your girlfriend or SO away.

          [–]Swelfie 4 points5 points  (10 children)

          Doesn't make him a pussy necessarily. I'm a Dom and I've dealt with a lot of subs that like to be spanked, beaten, mock raped. Sure, a lot of it is that most of them like a little pain with their orgasm. But some of them flat out don't like it. But they still want it. A component of that is that they feel guilty about shit and they deserve punishment, so they are beating themselves up for something. When I spank them then cuddle them and tell them it's okay, then they can relax. They got punished sufficiently, and now it's done and they can stop feeling guilty. So this guy subjecting himself to a painful scenario, either in fantasy or reality, in what he considers a safe environment where afterwards everything is okay may just be him blowing off steam and relaxing his own self punishment mechanism. Of course, if it's in reality and not just fantasy and other guys are actually fucking his wife, I doubt he's much of an alpha male in that relationship.

          Others are just truly polyamorous. They have no territorial instinct and feel that her fucking other guys does not diminish her fucking him in any way. I don't think that would manifest itself in porn fantasies though, since it's him not giving a shit at all.

          Personally, I can't fathom it for myself either. But my brain isn't like everyone's.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (7 children)

          I can see why In a dom sub relationship. But the key is there to cuddle afterwards and tell her it’s ok because if you don’t like you said they still feel guilty. In a fantasy it’s whatever. But in reality. Bbbboooyyyyyy no fucking thank you lol.

          [–]Swelfie 2 points3 points  (6 children)

          There is self cutting too, which is amazingly common and is almost always a form of self punishment. There's no cuddling afterwards there. Cuck videos I suspect might be a similar mechanic.

          And yeah, no thanks for me too.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

          That’s not a healthy mental state of mind of anything. It’s one thing to want to be slapped but to cut oneself? That crosses the line tbh.

          [–]Swelfie 0 points1 point  (4 children)

          Oh, totally agree. That's when it crosses the line and begins hurting onesself. From Bing a quirk to a disorder. It's common though. I've known LOTS of girls that were cutters. I've never met a boy cutter though, but maybe they hide it better.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

          What the fuck? I thought people cut because of depression, suicidal thoughts, etc not from a dom sub sexual relationship. Just goes to show how much I know about the BDSM community.

          [–]Swelfie 0 points1 point  (2 children)

          I think you might be misunderstanding me.

          No, lol. I didn't mean cutting as part of a Dom sub thing. I've heard of that, but no. I meant girls who cut themselves, like slashes across the lower arm. Seen some that do palms or legs. Generally where they can hide it.

          Yes, often accompanies depression and suicidal thoughts. Alot do it without suicidal thoughts and have no intention of killing themselves or doing permanent damage. If asked to describe why they did it, at least the more self aware ones will often say they felt guilty and the pain and sight of their own blood was a punishment and a release.

          That's what I meant. Which sounds similar to me to the mechanism at work in a dom/sub relationship flogging for guilt release. Not that it was common for Dom's to cut their subs or command their subs to cut themselves and not cuddle afterwards lol. That would be a pretty over the top relationship.

          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          So kind of like Hannah in thirteen reasons why? She gets bullied, cheated on, raped, and ends up killing herself despite her being a victim in all this.

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            [–]Swelfie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            It just happened. Sexually, I'm pretty damn vanilla. I really don't get much out of paddling a girl's butt. But I'm with this girl and give her a little swat and she fucking just melts. So yeah, I did it more often, cuz it's getting her off, next thing you know I'm having her call me Master, taking over everything in her life, making her do anything I want, making her ask permission for the dumbest things... Because she liked it. So then I'm reading up on it and just kinda start naturally doing shit in my other relationships too, and what do you know? To some extent, they all liked it. Maybe not full on slavery, but at the very least some hanky panky.

            Being a strong man is like being the king of the world. Being a Dom is a lot of work. On the upside, you probably will have less housework to attend to.

            How do you get in on it? Well briefly (I mean, could write a book on it):

            First off, do everything in the side bar self improvement wise. Read "No more Mr. Nice guy" especially. It's probably nothing like what you think it is from the title (it has nothing to do with being a dick). Lift. Love yourself. Be confident in your self, your desires etc. and totally honest and strong in your communication with others. You will not be a Dom if you are full of self doubt. Sure, you will sometimes doubt yourself, but it can't be the guiding principal of your life. No one wants a weak man and certainly not a weak Dom. Then get yourself some women. You are going to need at least one.

            Now remember that confidence thing. That's important here. She's going to begin to trust you with shit and you are going to need to trust YOURSELF with that shit. So listen to her and learn what makes her tick. What turned her on? What does she want to achieve? Where does she feel she's failing? Also, give her a little swat on the ass once in a while while fucking her. Learn her tolerance to pain and how much she gets off on that. Observe particularly what she is uncomfortable with. Like, is she gobbling up your cock or is she treating it like she might break it and kind of ashamed? Is she still getting wet even though she's ashamed? Well bingo! You just found a way to help this girl. Everything about being a Dom is about helping her. If you just want to spank a girl, that's called topping and they have clubs for that.

            So now when you see her even the slightest bit ashamed, you tell her she's a good girl and you lavish her with praise. Call her different things too until you find something that just makes her melt. Maybe she's a little girl, or a kitten or puppy, or whatever. You will find an anchor word. Then start putting the "my" in front of it. You are my good little girl.

            Now help her. Taking the uncertain cock sucker example, try feeding her your cock. Don't push her too hard, but get just a bit naughtier than she let's herself be. Then tell your good little girl how good she was and how much you appreciate her. You will confirm whether this really is her thing this way. If she just dries up and it feels like she's burdened by the sloppier blowjob, not ashamed, then she's just not really all that turned on by sloppy blowjobs so don't keep going. Find something else.

            Introduce a powerful anchor word for yourself. Something that gets her wet. Try on a couple for size. A dialog might go "Did you enjoy that blowjob?" "Yes" "You didn't thank me for it.." "Thank you!" "Thank you, sir." Then make her repeat it. Try Sir, master, daddy. Daddy is a dangerous one cuz it may either turn her on massively, or make her think incest and disgusted, so be careful with that one. Do this playfully, so she feels like it can all be played off as a joke and she feels safe.

            Unless she is just turned the fuck off when you give her a swat, tease her with requests. "You better have baked me some cookies when I see you or you're getting a spanking!" She's going to miss some request you threatened a spanking on. So follow through. Playfully wrestle her down on the bed, pull down her panties and give her a little spanking. Just what you know she likes when you are fucking her, not harder, maybe a bit softer if anything. But a spanking outside of sex. Then have awesome sex with her and cuddle her good, and the most important thing is to anchor that. "You are my good little girl. You took Master's spanking so well. The cookies don't matter anymore. You took your spanking. It's over. You are good now. Master took care of you."

            What you are doing is giving her an outlet. We all fuck up. Most of us just keep our mouths shut about it and hope no one noticed or apologize, but we carry some guilty feelings about the fuck up. You just provided an alternative. She can fuck up, take a little spanking and Master will fuck her good and lavish her with praise and alleviate all the guilt. She can be fully transparent with you and live guilt free. It's going to take more training, but that spanking is the first step.

            Now that you have punishment and reward in place, you start giving some requests that are in line with her goals. Like, she's beating on herself about skipping the gym lately. Soooooo, Master tells her to go to the gym or else she gets a spanking. Sticking to her diet. Take charge of those things in life she wants to do better and give her no choice in the matter. She'll appreciate it. No more guilt. Improved life. Good sex.

            And here is where you might hit the real resistance. You start making her ask if she CAN do things. Like can she buy that dress. You propose it as if you want to tell her about whether the dress turns you on or not. When she fucks this up though and cones home with a pair of socks she didn't run by you, when you spank her for it you are going to know whether this level of control turns her on. She may LOVE the feeling of having her every decision taken care of. Or, she may feel like she's getting punished for no reason. She has no guilt. Those were her fucking socks to buy. You should know her well enough by now to tell the difference. If she's the latter, then you don't have a full on sub on your hands. Sure, she likes playing the part as one and it's a great sex game but she ain't no sub.

            And then you buy her a custom made collar just for her with matching wrist and ankle cuffs, you chain her safely and sanely and you use your paddle or flogger on her and give your little girl the best orgasm of her life. Then, just like always, you cuddle her and tell her that she's masters good little girl. Such a good little girl.

            Make sure to research the bondage well, have surgical scissors, don't use rope on your first time out and be very safe. You don't want to hurt a good little girl. Just make it sting a little.

            [–]TheBrokenRuler 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            My theory is this- men these days have been so thoroughly washed down with the acid that is feminism that they need another man to handle the job of satisfying their woman- not that they can't make her cum, but they can't be Alpha. They want someone else to take the pressure off which is living up to a woman's expectations.

            Swallowing TRP solves this- maybe we aren't all 6'6 Kratos-looking motherfuckers, but we no longer have pussy on a pedestal, and that solves the problem right there.

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            I’m a 5’4 leprechaun I’ll be fucking damned if I’m gonna let another guy fuck my woman openly. If she cheats that’s different. I’ve felt like this since I was a kid though. Like she’s my woman, so I’m the only one who gets access to her pussy. No threesomes, no cuckolding, just me and her. And I’ll definitely get her off. Mouth tongue hands whatever. But it’s my mouth tongue and hands. I used to have it on a pedestal when it came to approaching now I just don’t give a shit.

            [–]Ill_Will7 2 points3 points  (7 children)

            Porn is a horrible addiction. I have been jerkin it since 14. My parents said videogames were bad and didnt let me have a playstation but got me a computer instead (SMART!). No fap helped me slow down and got me to trp. I now jerk off a lot less but still finding myself wanting to see these hot sluts.

            I would never want to see my girl get banged by a random dude but the thought isnt that far off from what porn really is.

            I try to think of it now as, everytime i jerk off to some random slut through a window on my computer, that i am essentially giving that slut a piece of my power. For the millions of dudes jerkin it to her, that must give her incredible (sexual) power.

            Control your jerkin. after a few weeks of not jerkin it, you will be in a much better frame of mind to hit on and f-close on a random girl

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children)

            Well first off I like my video games. I’m not the fat out of shape neck beard who lives off of Cheetos and coke but I like my video games. In moderation of course. Whenever I have free time I use them to relax at the end of the day. I’m hyped for Red Dead Redemption 2 and Days Gone this fall. But besides the point lol.

            I have a high libido imo. There are periods where I can go jerking it 3 times a day and then it falls off to no sexual urge for 3-5 days. I abstained for 75 days once....that sucked. I bought into the nofap bullshit. Turns out I don’t have a porn addiction I’m just a pussy when it came to talking to women. But I cut out the porn and I just jack off to pictures and it’s much better imo.

            [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (5 children)

            Good for you. I realized that I am a pussy to talking to women to. All the women I have ever fucked came to me first. My record is 52 days but I felt great about it, the reason I broke it was because I was hella hungover and knew it would make me feel better. How is jackin it to pictures? havent moved that way. Just jerk it a few times (on the same day) after 2-3 weeks of no jackin. sorta keeps going in that cycle but a lot better than where i was

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

            Hey at least you've fucked lol. Jacking it to pictures isn't that bad. I use my imagination and fantasies and it does the job. Much healthier than browsing 20 minutes for that one video than busting your nut now you've wasted all this time when you could have just made it in your head by yourself. Try it. Take someone you're attracted to and jerk to it and fantasize.

            [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (3 children)

            I have a question for you. You seem to be aware of yourself enough, why havent you taken down a bitch? I didnt lose my v card til exactly on my 19th birthday. Im not pressuring or judging, just want to understand because i have been in the same position of trying to find the perfect girl to fuck because im picky, And im definitely not saying that you cant, just want to know your reasoning behind it. Im sure there has been girls that have tried to throw themselves your way

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

            I'll give you a bit of a rundown. I was raised by my parents to be the nice guy. To treat women with respect and like queens. Yeah mhm great right? Even better that i'm an only child so their focus was all on me. So that's what I did in highschool. I played multiple sports so I dressed like a homeless person every day. Sweatshirt, sweatpants, sneakers, because I had practice after school or a game. This led me to having no sense of style when I got to college and decided to rather work and make money to save myself from drowning in debt than play sports. In highschool I never asked out girls because I had no confidence. I don't know why I just didn't.

            This carried with me to college my freshman year and at the time I swear I fell in love. I met this girl, who was everything in my eyes the most beautiful woman i've ever seen. (at the time. remember BP me talking) I befriended her hoping she made a move. Yeah NICE GUY material. Again no sense of style. On top of that my parents were cheap. I wanted a beard trimmer but they said I didn't need one. You can infer from that. I wanted new shoes instead of beat up old sneakers. Nope I have perfectly good shoes. I wanted new clothes like jeans and henleys instead of sweatpants and hoodies. Nope, my clothes are fine. You can picture where this is going right? On top of that I lost all my muscle because I stopped playing sports so what did I have to offer this chick? I eventually worked up the courage to tell her I'd like to take her out after befriending her for 4 months. She said she had a boyfriend. (shit test that I didn't know about at the time) and I said ok no problem like a BB I was. She then unfollowed me on all social media and stopped texting me. At the end of the semester I joined reddit and posted in relationshits sub and some fine fellow linked me to here and i've basked in the glory ever since.

            That was March of 2017. Since then I opened up my own checking account, had all my paychecks go into direct deposit and I ordered new clothes for myself, a fucking beard trimmer finally thank fucking lord, some new shoes, and I started lifting again. I cut out the porn and excessive masturbation. I limited the video games and replaced it with reading on game, sexual strategy, and investing because investing as a 20 year old is great when you're young. My GPA skyrocketed from a 2.8 to a 3.7.

            I still see her on campus once in a while. We exchange glares as we walk passed each other. I'd like to apologize to her if I could but it's not worth it. I deleted her number, blocked her on social media and I don't want to go back to that version of me. I feel bad for putting her through that.

            So here I am at 20, with better style, a better haircut, no more braces, 12% body fat, good grades, a good social circle of friends, hobbies, and I feel much better about myself. I'm not waiting for the perfect girl to lose it too. I wouldn't like to pay for something that a guy can get for free. I think my height is a factor. I'm 5'4 but people have called me good looking including some of my female friends and say I look much older and manly with a well kept beard. I'm trying, I'm approaching and asking out girls on campus. I can get the number but they mostly flake or ghost. I think it's my game. I'm the only virgin out of my guy friends but they don't hold it over me. They help me with setting me up but the first question all the girls ask is how tall am I and that's that without even meeting me. I've been told I have a great personality but from afar i'm no one. Most of my friends commend me for having standards as most of them just stuck it in the first woman with a vagina they could get and regret it according to them.

            I could have lost it in highschool my senior year to a girl who threw herself at me while I was still dressing like shit, and had braces but she had a n count of 40 by 18 and fucked multiple teachers and told me she was raped and had a rumor about her that she had STD's and I wanted no part of that. But i'ts getting better. I think there's a good shot i'll lose it this year over the summer whether it be from a girl I meet at a party since everyone is coming home or a girl in one of my classes i'm taking over the summer. I don't mind the questions. Sorry for the wall of text I just wanted to vent and explain myself.

            [–]Ill_Will7 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            Stick to cold approach over tinder and that bs. When your at an environment like school girls are all over the place. Find one you think is slightly below your smv if you want an easier kill but really just find any girl you would enjoy seeing naked. Over summer it should be real easy at house partys or by partys at the river/lake/water. Most girls by the age your in have already been alpha widowed and they are more willing to take a chance with someone beside Chad. You will be successful.

            OH and dont catch oneitis for the first girl, it is really tough to not get feelings for the first girl who swallows your load. But dont be afraid to keep her around and keep learning about how girls operate and practice sex on her.

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Appreciate the advice. Yeah my college that I go too doesn't have a lot of good parties or any for that matter. I've been building a larger social circle recently and reconnecting with some old friends. Once all the popular kids come back from college i'm sure there's going to be parties and what not. Also since I'm from NJ we have the beach so i'm sure someone will rent a house and throw something there too. I have options. I had an opportunity last winter but she was fat. No thanks honestly. I'm not desperate.

            OH and dont catch oneitis for the first girl, it is really tough to not get feelings for the first girl who swallows your load. But dont be afraid to keep her around and keep learning about how girls operate and practice sex on her.

            I caught severe oneitis for a chick I didn't even hug lol. But that was BP me talking. I'm more aware and have a better sense of understanding. I'm not Chad by any means but I know i'm much more content with myself. I'll put it to you this way. I work with a girl who I took to homecoming senior year. I've known her for years. At the time in highschool I was awkward and weird and had braces. Fast forward 5 years later and she openly told me that i'm much better now and she likes me a lot more. So i'm getting better. But I want a NSA relationship. A plate. No commitment. I'm in college. It's poon city. I don't want to be locked down. A plate is nice for starters but I want more you know? And i'm sure once I get my first my confidence will go up. Practice makes perfect.

            [–]inlovewithyourmother 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            Maybe he's gauging if you'd be into fucking his girl. Inquire further lol

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            Possibility lol but she’s not my type and that’s the type of shit that ruins friendships. I’ll keep it in my pants.

            [–]inlovewithyourmother 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Fair enough!

            [–]_the_shape_ 1 point2 points  (5 children)

            It can be argued that porn itself (in this case, I'm talking something as basic as one dude, one girl) is already a form of lite cuckolding.

            The female pornstar may not be your gf or wife, but you have her, a girl you'd presumably want to fuck, a guy fucking her, and you watching as you rub one out to it. Lite cuckolding.

            Is it that big of a step up to say: "ok, I'm tired of jerking off to women I don't know personally getting drilled by another man - let's sub my girlfriend/my wife in for the role occupied by the female pornstar"?

            Factor in the number of guys who probably consider it a perfectly normal thing too, to regularly jerk off to something as basic as what I described, mix that together with "The Future Is Female" vs. "Toxic Masculinity", and with those variables alone, the prevalence of the cuckolding phenomenon should not come as a huge surprise.

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            I understand where you’re coming from but porn is not reality. It’s a fantasy. The girls are flawless physically unless you’re looking up some specific kink or fetish then in that case it’s different. Realistically people jerk off to porn stars because they have no shot to get with them. Let’s not forget porn isn’t real. There are no bumps or laughs or queefs or farts or anything like that in porn. Not to mention the stupid angles they do. And this is coming from me, a virgin. If I wanted to see my wife or girl get fucked I’d be the one doing it.

            Is it still cuckolding if you watch a video of yourself fucking her? Now there’s a question to answer.

            [–]Swelfie 1 point2 points  (2 children)

            I personally don't see porn that way, but I'm totally not a sub either. In fact, I don't watch porn with men not of my race or uncircumcised because I'm projecting myself into that cock mentally, and the cock needs to be the right color or shape or it ruins the projection for me. I'm not watching some other guy fucking in the video, I'm watching myself.

            But yes, I assume that there are people that are fantasizing it's a guy fucking a girl they can't have.

            [–]walruskingofsweden 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            It IS a guy fucking a girl you can't have.

            [–]Swelfie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            That's why it's called a fantasy.

            Die Hard is a guy shooting people I can't shoot too, but that doesn't mean I don't like the movie.

            [–]higherpublic 1 point2 points  (5 children)

            I totally agree with you. It's repulsive. Maybe if it was a FWB that you are watching get fucked, but holy shit that would just be awkward. Would not be able to get hard if the girl was ignoring me, much less showing another nearby male sexual attention. Like... What???

            If some guy fucked my girl id fuck him up BAD. No way I'm pulling my cock out. end of discussion.

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children)

            Well I would think you wouldn’t fuck him up but you’s hard next the cheating bitch and delete block ghost.

            Especially in a LTR. Like do you know how that affects shit down the road? Your girl gets piped by another guy and she kisses you with his cum on her lips and you’re just gonna take that? And then if you want sex she’s already satisfied so no no for you tonight. Miss me with that bullshit.

            [–]higherpublic 0 points1 point  (3 children)

            If it was a serious LTR I'd fuck him up and if she's defending him or the act in any way I'd be hard pressed not to slap the fuck out of her too tbh

            [–]dr_disrespectmywife 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            This is one thing I dont get lol. Why is it that the guy gets the beating? He's partially at fault. The woman on the other hand ALLOWED it. She's the cheating bitch and should be dealt with. Beating up the guy to send across a point "dont fuck with other women" doesnt do much. The cheating slut should be the one getting black eyed and stomped on.

            [–]higherpublic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            I agree with you. Just my first instinct. Also, hitting women even if they are cheating whores is a good way to get locked up.

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            You let your emotions get to you and now you could potentially get arrested and have a record and go to court because you lost your shit. If anything you should be thanking her for showing her true colors and not allowing you to waste anymore of your time on her.

            [–]prodtorok 1 point2 points  (1 child)

            I loved it when a ltr would "talk dirty" & about getting fucked (not just by me -- hearing her just get into and excluding me was the best, basically like she was a porn star vs my ltr).

            TBH it was the porn. I grew up on internet porn and "the extremes" (so they call it) and idolized those chicks. The best porn was when the girls were so into it like they couldn't help themselves. Part of me wanted that out of my gf.

            So what?

            [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            You like it until it happens in reality and then you might realize this isn’t what I want. It happens a lot.

            [–]SuperCrazy07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Yeah, I try to be open minded, but I don't get it. Sometimes, I think I'm just older than most people here. I was lucky. Although me and every other dude in history masturbated since 12, I wasn't exposed to easy porn until I was a full fledged, experienced adult.

            I know tons of dudes my age who love sex, ONS, FWB, etc. NONE, NONE, NONE of them want me (or anyone else) to fuck their LTR.

            It's a new thing (I mean for it to be mainstream like this). I have to think it is easy access to porn because I can't think of another reason for the disparity between 40 y/o and 20 y/o dudes.

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              [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children)

              That doesn’t bother me.

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                [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children)

                What? I’m saying I don’t watch that shit. That’s not a turn on at all.

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                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

                  Sure I have. I don’t watch them. Nor do I watch cuck porn.

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                    [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                    I don’t think about it. What pisses me off about the cuck thing is my friend hinted he wanted me to fuck his girlfriend. That I couldn’t give 2 shits about.

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                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                      Yeah I’ve noticed that too. But again porn isn’t real.

                      [–]ollyollyollyoioioi 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                      I have no source to paste but I always had a feeling it was connected to excessive porn exposure. Same with low t males nowadays. Men are supposed to have sex not watch it.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                      I’ve watched porn for years. I quit recently but besides the point I never had any urge to watch another man fuck my girl or anything of the sort. Maybe it’s just a proportion of people.

                      [–]PatnarDannesman 3 points4 points  (3 children)

                      That sort of shit and people who like cartoon porn makes me think there’s no hope for humanity.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

                      Those and the my little bronies seriously make me feel better about myself that i'm not one of them.

                      [–]ArthurTheAstronaut 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                      I thought Bronies were fucked too, until my machine-gunner-marine friend who killed tons of humans in Iraq and Afghanistan became one.

                      Now I still think they're totally fucked, but I certainly don't assume they're pussies or less-than men

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                      As long as they don’t bring that bronie shit onto me we’re good. You wanna sit home and do whatever it is you do I’m not gonna judge just don’t bring me into it or try to force anything on me.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 1 point2 points  (54 children)

                      Feminism is the idea behind it. Feminism is trying to opress men, my own personal opinion is that the red pill is the polar opposite of it, and that the right answer is somewhere in-between. But there is some solid advice and information on here.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (53 children)

                      Feminism to me sounds like a ploy for women to scandalize and make men look like shit while they get to be nothing but superior. I see shit like this all the time on social media. A guy cheats on his girl. "All men are trash. Ugghh this is why men suck. Men suck at giving head anyways." Meanwhile if it was the other way around they'll somehow spin it to be the mans fault. " He caused her to leave and cheat. He was abusive. He didn't treat her well enough so she has a right." My fucking ass. It's gotten to the point where I just ignore all this shit because they can say men are trash meanwhile they still come back for more. My first eye opener about watch what women do rather than what they say. All bullshit.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger -1 points0 points  (52 children)

                      Well think about it this way, modern feminism allows, and even encourages women to blame for there problems m instead of having then take personal responsibility. Our society has stopped teaching that. Your not personally responsible for anything now a days. Feminism encourages that it's all men's faults for women's problems. And on the red pill I see a bit of a over reaction, and over. compensation to the feminist problem. I think the red pill helps you get women who are of the feminist persuasion. There's definitely a difference between feminist women and non feminist women. The none feminists have self respect and they have self responsibility. I'm from a small town so there isn't a lot of femists up here. So I see a definite difference between feminists and the woman I'm around.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (51 children)

                      I think TRP may take some things out of hand but for the most part they're right. Women need to be held more accountable for their actions. And they say they want equality but only the equality that benefits them. Child support is one that they never think of. I'm sure no woman would want to pay hundreds or thousands of dollars.I think you can tell the difference honestly. I grew up in a huge town and the feminists here are pretty much fat, purple hair, nose ring, etc. And the non feminists are long hair, fit, good background. It's just my generalization based off my own experiences.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (29 children)

                      Your Definitely right, but those fat ones are the deep feminist. There's the covert ones also. That are skinny attractive, but do the whole I'm not accountable for my actions thing. There still feminists. Non feminist women realize they are accountable for there actions, it must be a rare women in the city who's like that. But you know small towns. Republican. God. Beer. Guns. And Girls. You got to love all those I sure know I do.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (28 children)

                      Yeah I’m the opposite. My town is big, Democrat, religion is bullshit (I agree with that one), ban guns, and all the girls go away. There are only 2 HB8’s that I know that stayed home and commuted to college and they’re both batshit insane.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (27 children)

                      Idk what a HB8 is.

                      Religion isn't bullshit. I've seen miricles brother. Like straight up wild unbearable miracles.

                      Dude, you can litterly be sleeping with all those feminist women. You just got to where you anti feminist stuff proud. It's like Kanye and chance the rapper. They have taken a ton of shit for what they said. People compare being black and republican as being stuck in the closet, because everyone is going to give you shit if you don't follow the herd.

                      Women are attracted to disagreeable men. Especially feminists. At there core there in the deepest darkest parts of the female mind. If you understand the female mind you understand how to attract any women you want.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (26 children)

                      Eh when it comes to religion I’m not so into it. My parents shoved it down my throat as a kid and it made me resent it more. I even got called a meeting with one of the priests because he found out I listened to metal. Like really dude? I don’t go home and draw pentagrams on my wall and sacrifice chickens. I wear normal clothes, have a job and go to school and have friends like other people lol. I’ve seen miracles happen but I’m not all for going to church on Sunday.

                      And I’ve found out the hard way of disagreeing with women. I always thought throughout highschool if you agree then they’ll like you. Couldn’t be more wrong. So now instead of just agreeing I share my opinions. If they don’t like it that’s their problem. I’m working on understanding the female mind so I’ll get back to you.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (25 children)

                      Eh when it comes to religion I’m not so into it. My parents shoved it down my throat as a kid and it made me resent it more. I even got called a meeting with one of the priests because he found out I listened to metal. Like really dude? I don’t go home and draw pentagrams on my wall and sacrifice chickens.

                      Dude your church sounds like they never once read the Bible.

                      Did you know the whole animal sacrifice, is a Jewish chirstian thing? Not a satanic thing, all the early cultures sacrifed animals. But it actually served a purpose in Christianity. The animal sacrifice, represents the sacrifice God did for us. We sacrificed God on the cross for our sins. Also there is some Christian metal bands, and there is honestly not a problem with metal. I use to listen to slayer, and pantara all the time.

                      I’ve seen miracles happen but I’m not all for going to church on Sunday.

                      That's also not a requirement for Christian's to Go to church, Sunday is a day of rest. You don't get saved by being in a church and going every Sunday.

                      And I’ve found out the hard way of disagreeing with women. I always thought throughout highschool if you agree then they’ll like you. Couldn’t be more wrong.

                      Ya that's a feminist idea, your sopost to cater to women, and wipe there asses because there perfect creatures.

                      I’m working on understanding the female mind so I’ll get back to you.

                      Look up Jordan Peterson on what women are attracted to. Also a Good book that has some solid information, is Corey Wayne's 3% man. It's like the red pill before the read pill. His book is free. He has a bit more of a Christian perspective on it. You do everything out of love for a women, but yet still sleep around with women. It's a very interesting book full of good information about women. Also you could go a little ghetto with Patrice O'Neal. He has a lot of good advice. But none of them are perfect. Like Patrice sorta has a bit of a cuck hold thing. He would tell his girls to go fuck other guys.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (24 children)

                      First I’m catholic lol but Catholicism and Christianity are somewhat similar. And yeah it was bad in highschool. I was a pushover essentially. Thank god I was good at sports and had many friends or else I don’t know where I’d end up as. But if I can go back and do it over again I would in a heartbeat now that I have this knowledge. I’ve read Corey Wayne’s book. I’m going to read it again because like he says 10-16 times. I’m gonna check out Peterson thanks. Was never a big fan of PON tbh. But I like Dave Chappell and Chris Rock. I’ve read Mark Manson’s books and Pook. I’ve read rationale male and now I’m on how to win friends and influence people. So I got a list going.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (16 children)

                      Honestly my advice dude, is find a woman who owns a Gun and knows how to use it. That's a real woman, you won't ever have to deal with any of that feminist bullshit. She's takes totally responsiblitys for her actions.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (15 children)

                      So basically move down south? Bc here in NJ it’s all feminists where I live. It sucks.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (14 children)

                      Or, start red pilling the shit out of people. Get a MAGA hat, even if you don't support Trump. Get good at arguing with there dumb emotional based ideas. You can take that feminist, and turn her into a red pilled person who has self responsibility. It's possible.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (13 children)

                      My female cousins like trump ironically and they’re not whores as far as I’m concerned. One of them is in medical school, has a good job on the way and has only had a few LTR as far as I know. The other only dated 2 guys and she’s in her early 20’s and her new boyfriend is respectable to our family, and treats my cousin well. She says he’s the one and they’ve been dating for a few years. Kid doesn’t hit the gym but as long as he doesn’t hit my cousin we’re all good. So I think they’re out there. Just gotta look.

                      [–]TalionTheWorstRanger 0 points1 point  (12 children)

                      Kid doesn’t hit the gym but as long as he doesn’t hit my cousin we’re all good

                      Well just proves you don't need a gym to attract women.

                      [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (11 children)

                      You don’t need a gym but he’s really scrawny and pale. My cousin is shorter than I am. I’m 5’4 and she’s like 5’1? He’s like 5’6? He can barely pick her up and I can toss her around if I wanted to. Muscles will keep them around. If he started hitting the gym I’m sure she’d fall in love even more lol.

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                        [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                        The use of social media. It can benefit you.

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                          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                          I’ve seen tinder and Instagram but they’re against Snapchat and facebook. They can benefit you too.

                          [–]Avskygod0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                          Nowadays in the unusual times, 90% of these weird shit you see are because of too much porn, manipulation of public thought etc etc. Chances are that he isn't naturally into it, kinda how the male feminists and such men fuck with ugly women who they naturally find ugly too but suppress due to reasons knowable and unknowable, much to the chagrin of the men with that specific kink

                          [–]saggygooch20 0 points1 point  (16 children)

                          I actually attempted to watch some cuck porn once. I was partly curious and the girl in the thumbnail was hot. But they were so horrible to the dude watching. And racist because the dude watching was white. Of course it was just a scripted scene and they were all actors but I have to be honest I ended up feeling a little sad. He was supposed to be enjoying it but I couldn't relate to that part so let's just say that I needed to watch something else because I basically nearly lost my erection.

                          [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                          It’s one thing to see it on a screen and see them as actors, but it’s different between people you know and physically being there. I’d feel sad too. This guy is watching me fuck his wife like dude she’s YOUR wife. YOUR job to take care of her.

                          [–]saggygooch20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                          Yeah I want no part of it. I feel somewhat effected by the experience. I think part of it is the idea of me never having sex. I think if I had an LTR I'd be way to into it and I would completely freak out if the girl suggested me watching her get fucked by someone she clearly prefers. I probably have the same view as the incels on it.

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                                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  It's a symptom of porn addiction.

                                  [–]untapped pool of potential pussyslayingLOL-4-DAYZ 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                                  I literally was looking into into the same subject yesterday, like no bullshit!

                                  I agree, i would never fucking want to try it. Through my observations i would say it ties into pussy beta bitch psycology. It is catagorized as a fetish, and more specifically a femdom fetish. I usually am not against any fetishes but i think this one has a deeper meaning to it. Now i personally think some aspects of femdom can be hot like ass sitting/ridinv on my face and suffocating me or tieing me up and using me as a toy for her plesure. But cuckolding is an absolute FUCK to the NO. What i think it ties into is it being the easy way out for beta bitchs who arent alpha and know it. They dont have the muscules or the looks and cant please women, and so instead of working on these flaws, they found a way to get off on doing absolutly nothing and just being exactly who they are. Im not the biggest alpha i know, (though im on my way motherfuckers puffs up chest and puts on sunglasses lol), but if someone gets off to that and enjoys it than sure go ahead, but i think it shows alot about how insecure they are deep down. Plus it lowers the competition for alphas.

                                  If you are interested look it up on pornhub, it makes me die of fucking laughter. Theres this one video i saw where this big musclular guy was fucking a beta bitchs girl. Before they started he was spanking the guy who was on the floor on his hands and legs and calling him a fucking faggot while the girl was laughing and sucking the muscular guys dick. I was like wtf is this pathetic shit lmaooo. There was also one in the related section titled "alpha makes beta drink his piss in front of wife" or some shit like that lmao, though sadly i didnt watch it cause i had to go. Dude i shit you not...you will fucking laugh!

                                  Personally after seeing those videos, it honestly made me want to become even more of an alpha. Now that im typing this comment and thinking about it, ive realized i would so be down to be the alpha in a cuckold. Fucking some faggots wife/gf and having her scream in pleasure in front of him, i dont know man, it sounds manly as fuck...

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

                                  I have no problem fucking a random dudes wife in front of him. That’s on him. I just don’t want to be on the receiving end. I agree some femdom is alright. She sits on my face and does what she wants with me. Key word with ME.

                                  Those videos sound kind of sad tbh like how can someone be so pathetic? Grow set of balls get to the gym and you start fucking the beta wives.

                                  [–]untapped pool of potential pussyslayingLOL-4-DAYZ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Dude im telling you, there a fucking joke lmao!!

                                  But as i said i find it fine because it lowers competition, if everyone was an alpha id probably get into alot of fist fights lol

                                  [–]Phoenix_2015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Your friend is secretly has gay tendencies and this is his way of dabbling with the dark side...

                                  [–]jaedgy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Fluoride in the water /s

                                  [–]lampshade2818 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                                  Porn is not real life. If it was, two super hot 20 year olds would show up and bang me by the pool at my mansion everyday. I really hope this cuckolding thing doesn't really happen that much in real life.

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Let people do what they want but as long as it’s not happening to me I couldn’t give a shit if Preston wants to watch Thad fuck his wife.

                                  [–]morebeansplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  I may be a 20 year old virgin but I have enough common sense...

                                  Thats not logic, its just your animal instinct sense of justice. You gotta crank the volume down on that abit before it leads you astray.

                                  [–]redpilledcuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Probably has a small dick and wants to see his gf actually get pleasure from someone packing and competent.

                                  [–]imaginethegainz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  I thought it was just a meme, is there legitimately a widespread epidemic of men with a cuckolding fetish?

                                  [–]forwhitedove 0 points1 point  (3 children)

                                  Stop watching porn.

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                                  I used to. I use pictures and my imagination now.

                                  [–]forwhitedove 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                                  No pics either man, it's all dopamine hits that help you escape the reality you find yourself in. Not to say no fap, but no porn for sure. Video, picture, or otherwise.

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  Nah I did nofap for 75 days and it hurt at points because I needed a release. I realized I don’t have a porn addiction, I was just a pussy when it comes to women.

                                  [–]omega_dawg93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  in the hood, I've seen women and couples pick up guys to bring home. certain guys would just stand out like male prostitutes on the corners.

                                  they'd come back and tell us what happened... mostly them fucking the girl and the guy jacking off or caressing her.

                                  the cuck stuff isn't new at all... it's been here all along. it's just more accepted now.

                                  [–]civilizedfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  My reply to all cucks is to stop watching porn.

                                  [–]bikermonk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

                                  I got fucked by porn to an extent that I started imagining how awesome this girl must be feeling and ended up for a while on r/sissy , and thats when r/theredpill happened

                                  [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (8 children)

                                  it's just a fetish dude. the fuck you so upset for

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 1 point2 points  (7 children)

                                  I asked a question. Because it baffles me that guys would other guys fuck their girlfriends or wives.

                                  [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (6 children)

                                  cool. looked like you flipped your shit but whatever

                                  you gonna rant about the fact that some guys like dick next?

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children)

                                  Probably how you interpreted it. Would you like me to rant about the fact that some guys like dick? Will that make you feel better?

                                  [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (4 children)

                                  would it make you feel better? like, did this one make you feel better?

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

                                  I don’t have a problem with guys liking dick. I have a problem when a longtime friend hinting at me that he wants me to lose my virginity to his longtime girlfriend while he watches...

                                  [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

                                  rough.

                                  being a virgin i mean.

                                  [–]Rudeyyyy[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

                                  Eh I could have lost it to a decently good looking chick my senior year of highschool who basically threw herself at me but I rejected because 1) I was too nervous, 2) she had a 40n count by 18 and fucked multiple teachers in the school, she was raped and openly told me within a few minutes of meeting her, and 3) she had rumors about her that she had STD’s so yeah I noped the fuck outta there. I was also heavily BP. It’s getting better. Being 5’4 doesn’t help but I’m maxing out my other traits as best as I can. So far the only interest I get is fatties and that’s a huge no for me. It’ll happen. I’d rather not pay for something guys can get for free.

                                  [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

                                  good attitude

                                  now go fuck your buddy's girlfriend