"You had best unfuck yourself, or I will unscrew your head and shit down your neck" or "How to improve AskTRP with these few simple steps" (self.asktrp)

submitted by Endorsed Contributortepper2


I am not a mod, I am just active here. This is a rant, but I'll stand behind it.

There's been a lot of irritating, repetitive topics on AskTRP lately. It's all basics that guys here should already know. So this is for all you new guys who ask the same questions over and over that could be answered by either lurking for a few days or using the search function.

How Do I Introduce My Bro/Friend to The Red Pill?

You don't. You are not a missionary. You are not a sales rep. TRP does not need you forcing the pill down somebody's throat.

TRP can only be internalized by those who want to wake up. This usually comes as a result of heartbreak or extreme disappointment. Some guys will wake up eventually. Others will continue to ignore the truth because they can't handle it. The best you can do is to represent TRP by being an example. Improve, learn, approach, and if a buddy asks you, "How do you do it, bro?" drop a few nuggets of wisdom. But don't take the podium and give a sermon. Definitely don't talk to women about it.

TRP is ebola for your social life. It's a controversial topic, and talking about it in social settings will do nothing but harm. The minute some social justice warrior or plugged in beta gets the idea that you're a misogynist woman-hater, you become a target. People talk, and your reputation becomes suspect. Just smile, nod, and know that you have the ace up your sleeve.

Which reminds me...

How Do I Deal With Feminists?

You don't. Amused mastery. Don't get drawn into arguments or debates. Don't post in TwoX, TheBluePill, AskWomen, or any of the other shitty subs because it's a waste of time. You won't change anybody's mind by arguing. Certainly don't engage these people in person, because you'll get nowhere and be labeled a rapist in training.


She is not a "plate" unless she is a regular. That girl you hooked up with last weekend and won't hear from again? She's not a plate, she's a one night stand. Some girl you want to bang but don't know how to lock down? She's not a plate, she's a prospect. Girl in class that you slept with once a few weeks ago and now won't return your texts? You have oneitis and you probably went too beta. She's not a plate, she was a hookup, and your game needs work.

Don't Shit Where You Eat

Don't fuck women you work with. Period. Don't even ask, none of the veterans here are going to give you the go-ahead. The only ones who will should shut the fuck up and lurk more.

No piece of ass is worth risking your livelihood, whether you're a barista or an executive.

On Posting Here

Use correct grammar and separate your wall of text into paragraphs. Don't waste our time.

And whether you realize it or not, the way you communicate will influence the way people think about you. This goes for every social interaction, not just AskTRP.

Confidence, or Why Am I Pussy Repellant?

There have been several posts lately from guys who want to bitch and complain about women not giving them attention. The common trend here seems to be rooted in a total lack of self-confidence. Some points:

  • Don't tie your self worth to women or pussy, first of all.
  • Confidence comes from being satisfied with your own life. You could hit the gym 7 days a week and make a six figure income, but women can smell your insecurity a mile away. Be a man, have goals and work towards them.
  • Focus on and improve yourself so that your confidence comes naturally, the women will follow.
  • It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. Improvement takes time, keep going.

And then there's this guy. Don't be that guy.


She's not being receptive, she's the one that got away, how do I get back at her?

You don't. Move on. Abundance mentality solves all these problems.

She doesn't belong to you. It was just your turn.

I'm sure there's more, but this covers most of what I've seen in the last week or two.

To the guys here who continue to post solid advice, keep it up. These guys need you. To the guys who lurk for a week and get a boner over a few upvotes on a post, don't get ahead of yourself. There's been a lot of crap advice being thrown around here lately that doesn't add much to the conversation. Don't give advice based on what you've read, give advice based on what you've personally experienced. TRP isn't about being a redpill scholar, it's about putting it into practice.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled circlejerks.

[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 35 points36 points  (11 children)

Don't Shit Where You Eat

Don't fuck women you work with

I gave up a fine piece of ass because of this. Annoying, because I actually liked her personality too. No exceptions to this, no matter how much you like the bitch, it's never a good idea.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the linked thread, OP knocks up a coworker. Shitty warehouse job. Imagine if that poor motherfucker had a solid STEM job and a promising career. Fucked because of some psycho bitch and him going in raw.

Now what? Start over entry level because you fucked up a career. Not worth it.

[–]Prostate-Punch 3 points4 points  (9 children)

Dealing with this now. She wants to hang and "watch Netflix" so bad and it's a damn layup. Shit's hard man.

[–]TRP Vanguard: "Dark Triad Expert"IllimitableMan 14 points15 points  (8 children)

Haha, "let's watch a movie" aka "let's have an excuse to be close to each other in the dark for a prolonged period of time" aka "I want to set up logistics to fuck you but need a plausibly deniable reason for doing so."

I've used this one myself so many times. The movie is playing tops 10 minutes before you're escalating and getting to fucking.

Man I swear "let's watch a movie" is the new "you should come in for coffee."

[–]I_like_big_titays 5 points6 points  (5 children)

how do people fuck without netflix?

[–]Wolfenstein052 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Videotapes. Speaking of which, I need to return some.

[–]Redditinga 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Nice. Haha. Let us see your card

[–]TheLife_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pre-Netflix era in Australia. We use Foxtel, mostly. There'll be like one person per 10,000 who have geo-burrowed for Netflix, and maybe the occasional person who uses Google play movies.

[–]2redbluepilling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Bring the movies"

[–]Prostate-Punch 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It sure is. I've used it once or twice as a closer as well. The girl I work with is 20 and if memory serves, the others who liked this type of "plausible deniability" setting were around that age group.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in my fourth decade of life and I still use "watch a movie" to get laid sometimes.

[–]speed3_freak 71 points72 points  (5 children)

So I have this plate that I work with, and I really want to sleep with her. We went out once a few months ago, but she stopped returning my calls. I definitely have abundance mentality, but I really want her back because I think we are great together. Her best friend is a feminest, and I was thinking of showing her this sub to get more feedback. What should I do?

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 85 points86 points  (2 children)

Shit all over that plate. Txt her a dic pic. She's obv LTR material. Try to plate the femn'st. Next them all and bro do you even potato?

[–]JayViceroy 20 points21 points  (0 children)

the circlejerking strong

[–]87GNX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I'm pretty sure "text her a dick pic" is actual Amanda Marcotte advice.

[–]REDPILLRECKONING 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find out if she has a sister and fuck her. Then be very flirtatious with her mom, fuck her friends and watch the sex in the city movie with them without her. Become best friends with her exes and create a weekly poker game with them. If you do fuck her, make sure to jizz in her ear.

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[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

It's the new "hit the gym, lawyer up, delete facebook."

[–]1truchisoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why don't we sticky generic questions and answers? Like "What is a plate?" And only one answer detailing it.


Maybe 4 / 5 of those will go a long way. People learned to ignore sidebars because of ads.

[–]Preevyet 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I almost feel like there should be an asktrp for highschool / college and a separate one for adults. The mindset of the under 21 crowd makes me want to slam my head into a wall sometimes. I think I saw a post on here the other day where the guy wanted to know if he was past his prime, reading down a bit more, he is a freshmen in college....

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)


[–]I_like_big_titays 8 points9 points  (0 children)

this forum is or subreddit is a shit shield. It prevents the shit like what you posted from getting into TRP, and gives a chance to let new pill takers to apply theory to freshmen level questions or situation like you posted. These guidelines are legit. Yes the quality of posts in this subreddit are NOT to TRP standards. No shit. Thats why they made this place, so the clueless can ask dumb questions and those of us who are digesting the pill can help by applying theory.

Learning by teaching in a way.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This should be stickied.

[–]RPthrowaway123 13 points14 points  (18 children)

Its true that there are a lot of these kinds of threads. But isn't that the whole point? People who have done some reading but still need help come here to ask questions. AskTRP should be a more laid back place that fosters those kinds of questions, from curious people who want to know what this is all about. No need to hit them over the head for asking questions that almost all of us have asked at one time or another, even if it is repetitive sometimes.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 25 points26 points  (15 children)

Sure. But it's literally the same question over and over. Should I fuck this chick at work, how do I get back at my ex, why am I pussy repellant, how do I introduce my friend to the redpill. The answer is always the same.

We're here to ask, answer, and discuss strategy. We are not here to hold hands with the new guys who can't be bothered to read up on the basics.

If it saves us having to answer the same questions over and over again for a week, it's served its purpose.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 2 points3 points  (5 children)

Since we can only give points in comments, here is one for your excellent post and for relieving me from having to write all that by myself.

[–]Modtrpbot[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I figured one of us would have to post this.

And where the fuck is trpbot

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Patience have you must, young skypiller.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 15 points16 points  (1 child)

is trpbot like a beta orbiter? Giving validation, yet getting nothing in return?

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]AskTRP Endorsed ContributorAlphaAsFAQ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The problem is, if we started enforcing the rules about posting without lurking, i.e.

We are removing new posts from new accounts that are young or have little karma.

then the guys who actually need help will be turned away. Having said that, my old man raised me to only help others that want to help themselves. If you are serious about getting answers, then you should be putting in the effort first.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying we need to remove posts from new accounts. That is one of the reasons why I like asktrp, that isn't done here. We need to invite the new guys to ask questions, but we also need to avoid turning into /r/funny where the same shit gets reposted ad nauseam. There was a time where I felt like every other post was "texting is for logistics only."

If you are serious about getting answers, then you should be putting in the effort first.

That's what I'm getting at. The influx of crybabies lately asking "why even bother" is pathetic.

Edit: fuck your downvotes, you are

[–]lolimamurse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Made post about going to nursing school. Never read anything about surviving in an ALL FEMALE environment 24/7 for 2 years. I should log it so that someday, some one can learn from it.

[–]theproudbanana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Its the same type of question . Im Indian/Asian or/and 3ft im a fat hobbit why do women hate me.

[–]Overzealous_BlackGuy -1 points0 points  (4 children)

We could have a sticky for frequently asked questions. Have mods delete threads that dont have a valid reason for asking a common questions.

The FAQ can give brief , answers and link back to material that has more insight.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Per my other reply, I'm against deleting threads. How do we preempt the shitty threads and improve content/environment without becoming the main sub?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

How about a modification to trpbot to automatically post responses to the common-yet-dumb questions?

/r/guns does this. For instance a comment of gunnitbot shitpost causes a link to "Why did I get downvoted/yelled at/banned?"? A guide to posting on /r/guns."

Here's a FAQ.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I support this.

[–]Overzealous_BlackGuy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something has to give, if we implement a FAQ thread and people refuse to read it, why not delete their thread.

Asking questions like : "Should i fuck my co-worker?"

Is different from a more open ended question like, " Im having trouble understanding info on dread game, can someone give it to me from a different angle?"

[–]machimus 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It is good to have patience with newbies. But clearly many, if not the majority, of posts here are repeats of the same concepts that have been posted many times or are commonly accepted maxims like don't shit where you eat and don't stick your dick in crazy. Any of these could have been answered by reading the sidebar or previous posts in any nontrivial capacity.

We don't get paid to do this. It gets frustrating when OP's are clearly just too lazy to put in the work, which is contrary to the values on this sub. It's a big waste of time.

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It gets frustrating when OP's are clearly just too lazy to put in the work, which is contrary to the values on this sub. It's a big waste of time.

Exactly. A guy coming here and asking the same basic questions without first exhausting effort to find the answer on his own is the antithesis of what we strive for.

[–]Luckyluke23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't post in TwoX, TheBluePill, AskWomen, or any of the other shitty subs because it's a waste of time.

or 3/4 of reddit because it's been taken over by the feminazis.

Confidence comes from being satisfied with your own life.

thanks for posting this, I just came here to see your rant and agree with you ( because this place doesn't need these post or more women hating.) This really clicked with me, Last night wasn't a good night out for me ( gaming wise) though this put things into perspective.

thanks (sorry to hijack)

She doesn't belong to you. It was just your turn.

this is fucking awesome too.

thanks for posting man this needed to said.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sticking this. Excellent points on all fronts. I think a lot of low-quality, oft-repeated questions could be headed off by simply reading this, and that will bring better quality questions to the top.

That, and FMJ is one of my favorite movies of all time.

[–]moiez326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

solid post. Especially about the "don't shit where you eat". too many fucking douchebags on here that think they're alpha red pillers giving advice.

[–]MorePancakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here Here!

[–]bertmaklinFBI 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You forgot "How do I turn my ex into a plate"

[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought about that, figured "oneitis" covered it.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is cool and all but I read my posts to my girlfriends friends and they laugh cuz im an asshole. Women think my OK Cupid dating guide is hillarius. If you have enough charisma you can do anything.

[–]RP_Since_Birth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is pure gold. Hell, I wish it'd get stickied over at /r/theRedPill also

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those of you trying to save the lost souls of /r/deadbedrooms - if you're going to do it use a throw away account for gods sake. Observe the first rule of Fight Club. We'll end up with new members regardless.

[–]RedBigMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For arguing with feminists I always think of this image...


[–]Overzealous_BlackGuy 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I hate to post this, but what if abundance mentality is not working. And im fucking left and right and drinking / doing drugs to ignore her and i dont even see her everyday. How can i overcome a oneitis that has poisoned mmy mind? Its been a month, shouldbi just accept that this is a girl i really wanted and try to get her back or just keep pushing? My problem is im not seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, ive started hamstering for attention and NOTHING is working. It's killling my progress and the only reason im even able to say this and not some extreme sappy shit is because im drunk. I just want to move on, i cant even keep my dick up with other women sometimes. I know I am the only answer to my problems but ANYTHING would help, I'm trying so hard, but....fuck all these bitches i just want the woman I had. I'm doing so well for myself yet...I'm not hapoy how can i know the truth and still be miserable. Ive been reading trp since i was in highschool. Im 23 , and ileverything makes me sick to my stomach

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to spend time with your friends as much as possible. Try to avoid finding yourself without any planned activities. Do not contact her, that is a given. Hopefully, you got the closure you needed when you broke up. If you didn't, I recommend you talk to someone, a therapist most likely unless you can find someone you can trust, and just pour your heart out. Make new memories. Good luck.

[–]ActuallyARaptor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

c'mon man you're better than her or any chick

[–]Bortasz[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleas give this men more fake internet points. He earn them.

[–]Hitman359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Warning: Text Wall

Ok, about not being a missionary. You're right, one shouldn't just shove this down people's throat as that approach will never work on the average person anyway (and it'll get you ostracized to boot). This very much is a series of truths most people don't want to hear. However, I don't think one should be looked down upon or considered a fool if they're trying to subtly inform others they care about as to what's going on in their lives and/or warn them about potential hazards and dangerous situations they're putting themselves in.

This isn't just about getting laid, it's about social interactions in general. "Game" is everywhere, it cannot be escaped. If you have even just 2 people in a room the instant they start communicating with each other the "game" is on. if you make the wrong moves you will end up an outcast at best or in a brawl at worst and this applies to both men and women. What's so bad about warning a friend or family member that they're doing something wrong/stupid like texting their SO too much or that the person they're interested in is throwing out several warning signs that they're using the DT on them (of course you don't use the terminology, but you can say something like "that dude/girl only wants one thing out of you...") or that they're giving off the crazy/creepy vibe to someone? If they heed your words you just saved them a ton of grief, and if they don't then at least you've planted the seed so that when it does go south for them (and you know it will) they'll be ready to hear you out or at least be more inclined to heed your warnings. And if they break contact with you because you gave them a few warnings well, at least you tried and I'd argue they flat out deserve what they get in that case.

We got men and women out there ruining their lives in one way or another for no good reason save for the fact that they have absolutely zero clue as to how social interaction works and are thus going on autopilot (which will get you nowhere unless you're a natural, which is rare). We got people withdrawing from all social contact that isn't done through the screen of a computer or smartphone because they freeze up in front of real people due to making too many mistakes in the past and getting hurt because of it. People who are unemployed who have the skills but they haven't a clue how to impress the person that interviewed them. Lonely people out there because they don't even know how to get a conversation with another person started let alone maintain one.

You're right that you can't "just" tell them how to do these things. But you could at least try to show them a bit by hanging out with them and telling them to observe you. I'd like to know how this could be seen as so wrong to everyone here. Withholding this information completely from those you interact with and just hoping people will pick up on it is a reckless and somewhat cruel MO in my eyes.

It's like being a magician, never telling anyone how you do your magic tricks. The critical difference being that not knowing how a magician made a card disappear won't really affect your life too much, whereas not knowing about the real dynamics of social interaction leaves an individual wide open to another person ruining their life for their own sick fun and profit. How can a person just sit and watch in effective silence as someone they know and care for ruins their life with horrible, ignorant decisions?

[–]my_redpill_account 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid post.

Side bar is there and most people ignore it.

Been here more than TRP because I've seen way too many "lol look at this feminist get owned" links which are fucking stupid and don't help anyone.

Hope more folks pay attention to what you said.

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[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"Don't shit where you eat"

Yes, if you are a weak man you probably can't handle this. If people respect you this isn't a problem. I've had sex with girls at work and I've had no problem at all. If you have frame you can handle it. If you don't have frame, well you're fucked anyway in any work environment that includes women.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what is this profanity?

[–]redpillersinparis -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Off-topic; this is the most cringy quote/title I've seen in a long time.

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[–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 5 points6 points  (6 children)

Don't reddit at work, dipshit. Especially if you're subbed to TRP.

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    [–]Endorsed Contributortepper2[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)


    There's a "hide" button for a reason. Use it and quit bitching.

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      [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children)

      Look at those tears flow from the bad attempt at tone policing.

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          [–]my_redpill_account 0 points1 point  (1 child)

          It's deleted now, what'd they say? Curious is all.