[Update] Girlfriend disrespects me in public (self.asktrp)

submitted by peppercorn837921

Original thread here: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4pzgnj/girlfriend_disrespects_me_in_public/

Just wanted to update everyone here that I did it. I didn't want to deal with any drama if I told her we are done and that she should leave so I just waited until she had to visit her family a city away. And then, I struck.

I dropped her off at the bus terminal and wished her a good trip. She didn't see it coming. She thought she had it all in her hands. "Are you going to miss me?" she asked as I was driving her. "No, not really." She laughed and gave me a playful nudge. Little did she know, I was dead serious.

As soon as I dropped her off, I made my way back home. I had already prepared the garbage bags and quickly cleaned out my place of her belongings. I called her grandmother (her mother and her grandmother don't talk and they live separately) and told her I would be dropping off her things. I told her it just didn't work out. I drove over and unloaded it all with her grandfather's help. Her grandfather gave me a handshake and said, "I'm sorry it didn't work out, buddy! You can come and visit us any time!"

I blocked her on FB. Around 9pm, the calls began. A few "WTF?" texts and a voicemail saying, "Hey, that's really nice of you. That's REALLY FUCKED UP!" to which I don't respond to.

The next morning, it hits her. We had a fight before she left because I didn't have any cash on me so I gave her my debit card to buy weed with. She bought weed and then she went out by herself and got shitfaced by the time I got home without even asking if she could. But the stupid bitch doesn't even realize that it's not a particular fight that we had. She doesn't even fucking see or recognize that she is essentially stealing from me and lying to me and fucking me over. I am the only one that works and she doesn't give a fuck at all. Here's the voicemail:


Her family hates her because she's a selfish cunt. That's why her grandma/grandpa didn't tell her I was dropping her shit off and that's why they told me I can visit them anytime. Shortly after she realizes that her mom, sister or grandma are not going to let her stay, the barrage of texts begins. "Why did you do this to me I cared so much about you" "If you loved me then why did you do this" "That is really fucked up of you" "I miss you so much" She was so entitled and arrogant that she honestly didn't think that treating me like shit would ever come back to bite her in the ass. She thought it was my job to pay for her shit. Well, fuck her.

The next day, a few missed calls and a shitload of texts later, she leaves this voicemail: https://a.pomf.cat/nvfaza.m4a

More texts about what a piece of shit I am for leaving her penniless. She actually fucking said that as if it's my job to make sure that she is taken care of even after I kick her ass out. She texted me for a few days more and then it was silent. I called her grandma to see how she was dealing and she said she checked into a hospital and that she was staying at the homeless shelter.

Ha ha. Good riddance, cunt. She didn't love me. She didn't care about me. She used me as a means of getting by to get high and be a generally shitty person. She wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. She only cared about herself. I feel bad for the dude that ends up with these damaged goods.

Off to the gym. Peace.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T 262 points263 points  (15 children)

OP needs to be careful the next time he goes out walking due to his balls swelling to 5x their previous size.

[–][deleted] 99 points100 points  (7 children)

OP is the like the Grinch that stole a greedy bitch's Christmas.

I love these TRP feel good stories.


[–]Sementeries 40 points41 points  (1 child)

called her grandma to see how she was dealing

Can't tell if OP is too good hearted or a sick kunt

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Maybe a little of both...

He's definitely learning.

[–]CrodudeClassic 25 points26 points  (1 child)

And what happened, then? Well, in Whoville they say – that the Grinch’s small balls grew three sizes that day. And then – the true meaning of Red Pill came through, and the Grinch found the strength of ten balls, plus two!

[–]InChargeMan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally LOL

[–]bonerpotpie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The wake up stories like these make me get a pride boner.

[–]icecow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

is the like the Grinch that stole a greedy bitch's Christmas

That is a Repeatable line. Using that. Next time I see a guy in a similar situation I'm going to say something like, "Leave her and be known as the Grinch that stole the greedy bitch's Christmas."

[–]causeandcorrelation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So few and far between

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (1 child)

I use stories like this, every time PPD TBP or some other fem talks about how mean we are.

Fuck you, this guy saved his own fucking life, fuck your morality.

OP, dont delete those links, I have a feeling this will become part of the sidebar

[–]Drogba006 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you misinterpreted the comment

[–][deleted]  (3 children)


    [–]thebrandedman 13 points14 points  (1 child)

    If bitch shows up with cops, demand to see the warrant. [ ]

    Don't let her in. Police have no way of knowing what belongs to whom.

    [–]Smigg_e 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Police won't even show up with her unless she has a court ordered civil standby. She's dumb

    [–]InChargeMan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Not married, no reason to get a lawyer.

    [–]1kick6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I can't imagine the raisins he had to begin with if pulling some bitch-shit like waiting for her to go out of town would cause 5x swelling.

    [–]AfterC 175 points176 points  (0 children)

    Dear Diary,

    We haven't spoken in a while because life has been really busy. So much has happened and I can't get to it all right now.

    But one amazing thing happened. Today, OP was not a faggot.



    [–]DirtyProject0r 77 points78 points  (4 children)

    I drove over and unloaded it all with her grandfather's help. Her grandfather gave me a handshake and said, "I'm sorry it didn't work out, buddy! You can come and visit us any time!"

    This is my favorite part to be honest.

    [–]OverDragon42 29 points30 points  (0 children)

    Yeah it shows that even the grandparents know that she is a piece of shit and he is a good standing guy in there eyes lmfao

    [–]dgillz 26 points27 points  (1 child)

    Gramps is probably RP as hell

    [–]landon042 29 points30 points  (0 children)

    inb4 Gramps shows op how to properly manage bitches and he has 5 plates that's why his marriage has worked

    [–]KumonRoguing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    You get this a lot from the parents. I still watch football with one of my ex's dad's. He's chill.

    [–]trpthroway123 56 points57 points  (0 children)

    "Why did you do this to me I cared so much about you" "If you loved me then why did you do this" "That is really fucked up of you" "I miss you so much"

    Classic shaming tactics and attempts at pulling at your heartstrings. Kudos to you for recognizing and resisting.

    Her family hates her because she's a selfish cunt. That's why her grandma/grandpa didn't tell her I was dropping her shit off and that's why they told me I can visit them anytime.

    Family issues like that are a red flag you should watch for in the future.

    Family being on your side, offering to maintain a relationship, is confirmation you're a damn good person and they know it. They know what's really going on, and they fully understand why you did what you did. You did the right thing, and you did it the right way.

    Please, don't go picking through your garbage, don't take her back, don't fuck her, don't text her, don't engage her. You truly have nothing to gain, never forget that.

    [–]landon042 88 points89 points  (21 children)

    the Fucking voice god damn. No girls talk feminine anymore it's like all basic bitch nagging voice.

    I don't think we all realize it but it's a big factor, a sweet soft spoken childish voice is a huge plus

    [–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 25 points26 points  (1 child)

    I can hear the lazy stoner in her voice. The kind of girl that does a sharp inhale through the nose all the fkn time cause it's always runny. My god the worst kind of bitch.

    [–]landon042 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    it's sad they're all on drugs to have fun/ but mostly forget the numbing pain of being pumped and dumped

    [–][deleted]  (1 child)


      [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 35 points36 points  (3 children)

      I love how it's somehow your fault that she's "homeless" because she can't stay with her grandparents, her mom or her sister. Why would that be? Because even her family doesn't want anything to do with her? So basically, she's burned every relationship she has in life, and yet it's somehow not HER that ruined her own life. What at twat.

      [–]MuhTriggersGuise 16 points17 points  (1 child)

      Not only that, but she's unemployed so has no money for a place (his fault apparently), nor does she have any kind of savings to rely upon (again, his fault). Not only is she in this precarious position depending on someone else like that, but she treats the person like shit. What a lunatic.

      [–]CumForJesus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Not only is she depending on one guy, and treating him like shit, but she's using him to buy weed. Like, really ? You use your sugar daddy to buy weed instead of a house ?

      [–]rot_barth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Would you expect anything else from the soliptic hampster on overdrive?

      [–]knightSwolaire 25 points26 points  (0 children)

      omg you REALLY delivered. Never heard a voicemail EVER in my reddit history. Your balls are the size of cantaloupes dude.

      [–]RXRob 26 points27 points  (6 children)

      Is it just me, or if your relationship with one person was the only barrier between your current situation and homelessness would you not make a huge effort to keep that relationship sweet?

      The entitlement and lack of foresight of these girls always blows my mind.

      [–]InChargeMan 16 points17 points  (1 child)

      This is what I say about married women too. They could literally just give a BJ every 2 days and most guys would just deal with the rest of the BS until they die. They spend more time putting on makeup.

      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Fuck, even HJ's

      [–]BenjiDread 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      My thoughts exactly. My ex acted like me paying the rent and bills never happened...... Until she had to pay her own rent.

      [–]RXRob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      My ex reached a point where I had to sit her down and explain that I'd just put the deposit on a new house and that we would both have to move out in a month.

      [–]SovietMoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Logic my friend, logic.

      [–]jm51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Had a women in her 30s stay with me, full on alcoholic but fun...at first. Kinda amused her that I was a year older than her mother. I'm into homebrew so she had all the vod she wanted. Took 5 days before she started being a proper drag, on the 6th day I had her leave.

      [–]Late30sMasculist 23 points24 points  (5 children)

      Listening to those calls I can see why you waited for her to be out of town to move her out instead of kicking her out yourself.

      Next time, be more careful with who you get close to and expose yourself to.

      [–]CumForJesus 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      Can you write what she said ? I'm not native, and i'm only good at writing english. Spoken english is very, very hard for me.

      [–]dons90 3 points4 points  (2 children)

      Might be late but here's the transcript. There were some inaudible portions which I've marked with a (?)

      Voicemail #1

      [Initial Operator Voice]

      "That's really awesome, you packed up all my things and took them to my Grandma's house while I'm visiting(?) my fucking family? Over something that you said you weren't even mad over? That's really, uh, yeah, awesome. When you said I could take up money to buy weed, then I spent an extra $, big fucking luck(?).

      But uh yeah no that's great, have a nice life. There better be every single thing of mine in that packing(?) place otherwise I'll be coming back over there with the police to double check the apartment - And uh make sure that not a single thing is left back in there - I'm probably gonna be doing that anyways. So I'll come over tomorrow and I'll bring the RCMP(?) with me. They can escort me around and make sure you've packed up every single fucking thing of mine and uh, I'll call you and let you know what time I'm coming, thanks bye."

      Voicemail #2

      [Initial Operator Voice]

      "Hi, just wanted to say thanks a lot, for not only ruining my life, but now I'm homeless because I can't stay here and I can't get my mom so my life's a joke(??). So thanks a lot, I'll be probably hitch-hiking it back to Vancouver today, bye"

      [–]CumForJesus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Thanks. Damn she's crazy.

      [–]Strahm 14 points15 points  (0 children)

      "the red pill ruins relationships, it was great before he started reading that bullshit"

      [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child)

      Ha ha. Good riddance, cunt. She didn't love me. She didn't care about me. She used me as a means of getting by to get high and be a generally shitty person. She wouldn't spit on me if I was on fire. She only cared about herself. I feel bad for the dude that ends up with these damaged goods.

      Kudos to you for resisting telling her that after all the texts and calls.

      [–]MuhTriggersGuise 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      The part where she talked about bringing the cops over to raid his place to "look" for more possessions of hers really got under my skin. Good on him for not reacting.

      [–]bigk12345 29 points30 points  (0 children)

      OP, you are such a misogynist.


      Just fucking with you.

      Great job.

      [–]returnofthemackX 13 points14 points  (1 child)

      Sweet justice. Also the way she speaks doesn't sound like she actually gives a fuck about you.

      "and I spent an extra 40 dollars, BIG FUCKING LOT"

      What a bitch, good job.

      [–]BenjiDread 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      This coming from someone who doesn't have 40 dollars and had to steal it. The entitlement is real.

      [–]jb_trp 21 points22 points  (1 child)

      She's not penniless... She has a vagina. She'll find some other thirsty sucker to be her betabux and pay for all her shit.

      Learn from this and be more discerning about who you commit to. There are about 10 red flags in your post... I'm assuming there are about 100 more in real life.

      [–]Sementeries 13 points14 points  (0 children)

      She'll be crawling around the bars looking for a sucker to pound her day old fish.

      [–]Apexk9 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      Lol dumb bitch thinks the rcmp would waste their time. She needs a sherif and they take forever.

      Good job eh.

      Glad you realized what you're worth.

      [–]SwallowedThePill 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Good job man

      [–]4D6N2 11 points12 points  (3 children)

      I can't listen to the calls, for some reason. The site says they're corrupt.

      [–]W_O_M_B_A_T 28 points29 points  (0 children)

      Sounds about right.....

      [–]wanderer779 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      I couldn't listen to them because my "nonsensical bitching" alarm triggered and closed it out. Its not t really necessary to listen. Just imagine a bitchy girl with a bitchy voice bitching about something and you've got the just of it.

      [–]MuhTriggersGuise 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      It's not the site, it's your browser plugin. Right click the link and save them to your computer, then open with a media player. Should play fine.

      [–]Addictedtoiron 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      Good to see an OP that actually fucking accepts TRP advice.

      [–]BoochBrewer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Ho. Lee. Fuck. That voicemail sounded exactly like my ex. The tone change. The threats. Only thing missing (which you may have gotten) was another VM 10 min later of her screaming with rage, then another one 10 min bawling her eyes out apologizing.

      Good move man. Hopefully you didn't get her pregnant. That was my biggest fear.

      [–]samsmith67 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Nice..... Very nice work dude.

      [–]nightmancommeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Great job man! Part of bettering yourself is cutting the negative from your life. Way to go!

      [–]xavine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      This is amazing. Kudos, OP. She was so damn entitled she felt you needed to pay for her company. Disgusting.

      [–]knightSwolaire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

      dude I feel like this needs to be posted on the main sub. i am smiling so hard right now.

      [–]Surfincloud9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      OP! My man. This makes me really happy. More men need to do what you did. Millions of men are in the same position you were and they just stuck with it. The voicemails really added a personal touch to this post and I dig it. Stay strong man and keep on keeping on

      [–]corsega 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Threads like these. It's threads like these that keep me coming back.

      Part of me was hoping this was going to be the guy who was told by a roommate of his girlfriend's that she was into him, and if he fucked her he would tell the guy. Anyone remember that post?

      [–]Endorsed Contributorseattleron 5 points6 points  (1 child)

      The worst part for her is no explanation, but deep down she knows.

      Just wait, you'll get an email or a long text or voicemail where she apologizes for exactly the reasons you kicked her out.

      [–]CumForJesus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      No, I think she'll never see herself as being wrong. Doing something wrong once, alright she can buy it if the moon's full and red. Being fully wrong, never.

      [–]nastynickdr 2 points3 points  (0 children)


      Glad that you found your balls back, gj

      [–]OverDragon42 2 points3 points  (4 children)

      I can't listen to the voicemail I really want to lol

      [–]glawkneintehn 8 points9 points  (3 children)

      50 year old smoker sounding entitled bitch complaining. Didn't miss much.

      [–]OverDragon42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Well damn okay then

      [–]thor_away92 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Intentional bitch tone makes me space out

      [–]glawkneintehn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Yeah as soon as I heard the voice the image of this bitchy "friend" I had who ended up becoming a heroin addict and then attempted to murder her boyfriend and carried off to prison came to mind.

      [–]serialstitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Posting in a legendary thread

      [–]Mustaka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      You should post this over at r pussypassdenied.

      [–]Chinny4daWinny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      My nigga. I was having an alright day, but this just made my day great.

      Enjoy your weekend you fucking sick kunt

      [–]RedWinter88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Lol had to wait to hear the voicemails... "You said I could take out money to get weed, and I spent an extra $40. Big whoop." -girl who doesn't work

      [–]Scholarofsomesins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Bro You Are Free now! Nice Job.

      [–]3rt41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Good for you bro

      [–]knightSwolaire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      OP delivers. You the man!

      [–]RedOkra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      That was entertaining. Thumbs up.

      [–]Refigerator1043 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      This is the best post I've ever seen on Reddit.

      [–]recursoinominado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I know that's wrong but this post just made my day, so awesome to see someone wake up!

      [–]Smigg_e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Goddamn she just has that pack of marb menthol a day dumb cunt voice. Good job I hate that bitch and I've never even met her. What a piece of shit.

      [–]redparadigm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Damn, dog.

      Those voicemails you shared really were the cherry on top. The first one you can really hear what a controlling, manipulative and vindictive person she is.

      [–]TheBeardedMarxist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Holy vocal fry Batman.

      [–]lord-denning 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      While we are all high-fiving OP, it's is worth taking a second to recognize that this girl referred to bringing the police over multiple times in her first voice mail. Women know instinctively that the police and the whole legal system are on their side. Op also mentions getting weed - I know things are changing, but in certain states a police check of premises could result in additional headache or worse.

      My point simply is that kicking out a girlfriend in the current day and age incredibly brings risks with it if the girl is entitled. Document everything, check with a lawyer regarding your rights. If anyone else has any input that would be appreciated.

      [–]bonekeeper 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      The vocal fry is strong with this one.

      [–]TrimHer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      She sounds a little "husky" anyway. Buh bye.

      [–]throwaway320_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Why did you wait 2 months to act?

      [–]Apanthropos 0 points1 point  (0 children)


      [–]Strongproudwoman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      ayeeeee a canadian.

      [–]JukeLuke 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Hi, ive been swallowing the pill for almost a year but I still have much to learn.

      However, I have read OP's original story and this one and I have a question. Could this all have been avoided in the first place?

      For example if OP had set the facts straight how he does not like to be called "the guy that pays for her shit" from the beginning? Like personally I might let that slide once as a joke or something but if it happened again I would definitely call her out on it (like almost to the extent that OP came to).

      Also why doesnt she have a job? does she not work or something? Her both not having a job and smoking weed a two huge flags for me before I would even consider her as LTR material.

      By the way, I agree with OP how he doesnt need to give a shit about her after they broke up. and bravo to OP for perfect execution of dumping her ass.

      [–]CumForJesus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      You want to fucking know how to avoid being called "the guy that pay for my shit" ? Don't fucking pay for her shit. You don't deserve respect at this point. Setting the facts straight ? The fact is, you do pay for her shit. OP learned a valuable lesson, and i'm sure he'll start veto-ing his future relations like you and me.

      [–]jupc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Congratulations. Well played.

      [–]TheRedStoic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Op you've got to cross post this to r pussypassdenied.

      Probably the most legit thing there in weeks.

      [–]BenjiDread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      ITT: A legion of justice boners.

      [–]mwandazimu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Proud of ya, ya fuckin' hoser.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      I just realised that her bitchy accent is the Canadian equivalent of the valley girl accent, except that's it's much worse. You can almost hear the gender studies dripping from every syllables.

      [–]0mnipath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Ah the happy ending makes me feel all warm and fuzzy)

      [–]Forcetobereckonedwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Keep up the good work.

      [–]night-addict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      My justice boner PIERCES THE HEAVENS

      [–]MetalliMunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Voicemails? I'm liking this evidence shit :)

      [–]pbgswd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      the sooner you realize you are in a bad spot with a woman, the sooner you can choose to get out, and then you get out. And then you are a bit more picky about what kind of woman is worth a minute of your time.

      [–]DonElDoug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      From beta to double triple alpha. Savage really love that update

      [–]1walawalawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I love these stories where the dude finds his balls and discovers the Red Pill. I see myself in each of these stories slowly moving past the crap.

      [–]ddiogenesofsinope 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      This powered me the fuck up!!!

      [–]Bascome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Next time you give money for anything your GF needs figure out what you are getting in return and make sure SHE knows it as well. Never hand over your bank cards or passcodes.

      Half of this was your fault for setting yourself up as a doormat. Paying is not a manly thing to do, its a beta thing to do. It used to be necessary to get a date back in the 50's because women didn't have jobs or money.

      There are zero reasons to pay anymore.

      [–]DysfunctionalBrother 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      OP fucking rocks! This should be part of the sidebar

      [–]ecosci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Leave the trash alone dude.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Anyone still have the voicemails?

      [–]juzeza 0 points1 point  (0 children)


      She sounds toxic and probably abusing substances/will because of her character defects.

      Very good decision. Now, try and keep from doing it again!

      [–]Melch_Underscore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      I had a similar experience, except I was married with kids. Never again.

      [–]DennisReynoldsAMA 0 points1 point  (2 children)

      Lmao you're a boss dude, just block her number so you don't see her negative texts.

      [–]MuhTriggersGuise 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      The voicemails came from "an unknown number". She's already blocked.

      [–]DennisReynoldsAMA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Oh my bad. Good on you bro