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I'm an idiot (self.asktrp)

submitted by dumbarsefuckup

I fucked up big time.

Gave up my job, friends, family and house to move to a different country for a single mom (she's really hot) thinking I could handle the situation and not get cucked. Got dumped because I wouldn't move in or marry her.

Now at my lowest point in years where I have no friends/nothing happening, and a job I hate and zero game or confidence. Can't even seem to get any action on tinder.

Only good thing is I never stopped lifting.

Any advice on how to stop being a butthurt little bitch and move forward?


[–]DebonairD 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Well you’ve made a royal mistake, but the damage isn’t irreparable. You have two choices: let the mistake leave you worst off, or allow it to be a learning experience to help you become a better person

[–]LeonardoDiDraperBond 31 points32 points  (2 children)

Visualize where you want to see yourself in a year. And in 5 years. Decide what you want to improve about yourself and how you are going to do that. Then start monk mode. Focus only on improving your life. Lift, read, grind. And don't concern yourself with girls for a while.

[–]johnhancock789 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beautiful advice, I’ve been doing that for the past couple months.

[–]dumbarsefuckup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is great advice.

I've lifted, run, done martial arts and be on a cut religiously. It's the lack of a social circle that I'm struggling with the most. Going from a well known dude about town to a guy with no friends spending most of his time isolated has been the hardest part. Guess this is what I should be focused on.

[–]m3ch1n4x 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Holy shit OP. You are in the most apex postion you could possibly be in to reforge yourself.

Read, Keep lifting, Game bitches, Develop the hobbies you're passionate about, Create new habits, Become the best version of yourself.

[–]thechaosz 14 points15 points  (2 children)

Future; "Chasing checks, never chase a bitch".

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[–]mickey__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao

[–]1redhawkes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

At least you're aware of the mistake you've made. Learn from it, and move on. Keep lifting, find a mission and work towards it. Read the sidebar, all of it, and apply the knowledge.

[–]mrHappyPotatoe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

well you suck it up and own it. OWN IT!

[–]thebadmanpuntdbaxter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You get to start at square one with so much experience on how to not be a chump. And you're still in shape? Youve got nothing but opportunity

[–]brinkleybuzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. Acknowledge to yourself that you fucked up. Learn from your mistake but don't beat yourself up over it. Happens to the best of us. Might help to share what happened with the group.

  2. Never make the same mistake again.

  3. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your life back on track today.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any advice on how to stop being a butthurt little bitch and move forward?

Yes.

Stop being a butthurt little bitch, and move forward.

Lesson learned I hope: self first, women second, individual woman third.

[–]Psychocist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which country did you move to?

This is all about perspective, man. I just gave up my job, friends, family and apartment AND GF to move to a different country for ME. Now you're in a great position to do exactly the same thing, because you've already done most of it. Focus on yourself.

Did you move to a country where you can live a better lifestyle? I moved to Thailand. I live cheaply and absolutely a better lifestyle than where I'm from. I do whatever I have to (except become ladyboy) to stay. If you're in a similar situation, do what you can to STAY there. This is a massive learning opportunity. No social circle, nobody to lean on.. great. You'll be forced to stand on your feet or resign and leave. Of course, if you're in a worse country with a worse lifestyle, GTFO.

So please try to look at this from a different perspective.. maybe this was a huge mistake, but maybe it was an incredibly happy accident.

[–]Scheme00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In a new country and fit? You're in the best spot ever man. Don't forget that. Flip your thinking.

[–]empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning opportunity and new experiences. Only stagnation is a negative.

[–]dongpal 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I dont understand. you went to a different country for a woman, which means you actually already moved in at the person, no?

[–]dumbarsefuckup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I got a room nearby. I didn't want to move in as she has kids. I made sure we discussed this before I came over and she assured my she wasn't looking for a stepdad. That was a lie. Slowly got pressured into taking on more of a role with the children. Did my best but being woken up at 3am by another mans sperm never sat right with me and she could tell.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not an idiot. You’re a wimp with very little self worth. And I mean that in the most constructive way possible.

Now lift, eat healthy, start working hard etc. Do all the shit trp recommends to build better self worth and frame

[–]Eclectiqque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you learnt

[–][deleted]  (1 child)

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[–]dumbarsefuckup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't want to move in as she has kids. I made sure we discussed this before I came over and she assured my she wasn't looking for a stepdad. That was a lie. Slowly got pressured into taking on more of a role with the children. Did my best but being woken up at 3am by another mans sperm never sat right with me and she could tell.

[–]GreenPiller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you didn't move to another country?

[–]bluepillcarl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things could be worst. You could be a stuck beta provider in a house with a bunch of kids and a lazy ass wife. Cheer up and look at things like this: you learned from your mistake, you're healthy, you can lift weights. Opportunity is now here, take it its yours.

[–]1Pink1Stink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You played yourself

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to realize that single mother's are the worst people in existence, they have children as an accessory, not for the sake of the child but simply because I want a kid at age 26 is what they selfishly decided. Of course parenting the poor thing doesn't matter. Nothing is her responsibility, the government and the cucks she attract raise and pay for her child, and then she takes credit, as though she is some hero.

Never, under any circumstances enter a relationship with a single mother or raise someone's kid.

[–]LordThunderbolt -1 points0 points  (3 children)

How long have u known about trp?

[–]dumbarsefuckup[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I had enough redpill knowledge to build myself up to having abundance. Met the girl on holiday let my ego get the best of me. She's was that hot we'd walk down the street and every single dude would be staring at her and she was spending thousands to come fuck my brains out every few weeks. Got oneitis, dropped my plates , stopped looking for new ones and moved over.

Then reality set in. Two kids to two abusive exes. All the left over issues. Her jealous and controlling nature came out. Going through my facebook friend list wanting to know who all the girls were. Constantly on my case whenever my phone went off. Her last ex would controller where she went and who she spoke to. My lack on mate guarding drove her crazy. She equated jealousy with love.

[–]LordThunderbolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly you didn't read enough RP

[–]Pork_Sword3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why you VET women out for a long ass time before you even consider LTRing them. These red flags have a way of revealing themselves before you ever need to get in as deep as you got. Ahh well, it’s a learning experience. Use this to experience to improve yourself.

[–]RedPilledRoaster -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Quit whining and fucking work