His father was living in some african country and had helped hundreds of people who were living with him -- people who had been raped and whose families had been murdered... and OP was fascinated by how they still managed to be joyful and happy while people from his society got depressed over the smallest things.
I will never forget a quote from OP's father: "In life, by the end of it, you are either a warrior or a victim. Nobody will ever understand your potential. Nothing is owed to you but death."
Does anyone have a link to the original post?