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Hard nexted a bitch over $20 (self.asktrp)

submitted by piper19832

I was staying over at this girl's place and she said that I should buy her a CO2 cartridge for her water carbonator. She said she would pay me back. Whatever, we fuck, I don't care so I just buy it when I'm at the grocery store. Mistake?

Next time I see her I give her the cartridge and she says, "Awesome. Thanks!" and goes on whatever she was doing. I say, "Um... What about the $20?" She says, "Oh come on it's only $20..." "Did you not say you were going to pay me?" "Don't be so cheap."

I fucked her and haven't contacted her since. She promised but she didn't deliver and tried to guilt me out of collecting. Usually I don't even care about the money. I just see it that I paid $20 to find out that this person is a piece of shit. Red flag -> next.

Anyone do anything differently here?


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    [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    He's only a pushover once, if he never does it again.

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      [–]empatheticapathetic 10 points11 points  (7 children)

      What about the situation where she says she has no money while they're out. Either he caves and pays and is even more of a bitch, or...I don't even know. They wash dishes together.

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        [–]empatheticapathetic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Because if she was a guy, there wouldn't be all these fucking games related to attraction and categorisation just because he bought her something she had asked for. She'd appreciate it, give him the cash and probably respect the dude more. It turns because she's a woman, the complete opposite occurs.

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          [–]Thizzlebot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          I actually had a chick say she would suck my dick for a $15 vape pen I had a few years ago. I straight up told her she was a $15 hoe and I wouldn't give it to her since I dont pay for sex lol.

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            [–]empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I bet she'd use her pussypass to blame him and say he'd promised to pay, end up getting him a bad reputation or something.

            [–]adam_varg 5 points6 points  (0 children)

            Too petty and passive agressive.

            [–]BeklagenswertWiesel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            i would do this, except that i would pay the check less $20 and then bounce.

            [–]Disaster_Voyeurism 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            You would keep a girl in your rotation that disrespects you so blatantly...

            Damn.

            [–]empatheticapathetic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            If he is getting what he wants from her and is grounded in where his ego is derived (she can't hurt him), then what is the issue.

            Personally when someone disrespects me in life, i have to next them. But it shows I am easily affected by people.

            [–]Surfincloud9 17 points18 points  (1 child)

            Where do you find these bitches? My plates will pay for all their stuff. We go to a lot of concerts and I buy the tickets up front and she pays me back at the show. Every time. No asking, no arguing. 50/50

            [–]4D6N2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

            Some people command respect. Others don't. I think a lot of it has to do with height and stature. But there are certain men who even the sluttiest crack whores wouldn't double cross. Even in their stupid pea brains, they know better.

            [–]Endorsed Contributorstickfiguresk 12 points13 points  (1 child)

            That's amusing. I won't say you were in the wrong for nexting her, but I absolutely do not loan anything that I also wouldn't give away for free. She's right, bullshit over $20 is petty, but you also shouldn't have put yourself in that position, imo. Any direction you choose to go in, think of this as a lesson, I'd forget about the $20--you got plaid, "fool me once..."

            [–]RedPillN00B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            $20 for plaid?! that's absurd!

            [–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang 9 points10 points  (1 child)

            Would've done the same as you. Fuck that noise. It's not about the $20, it's about the presumption.

            Probably doesn't apply to your situation, but I've observed this behavior a few times just before the breakup / branchswing. When that "new guy" energy has worn out a bit, they start testing the boundaries and seeing what they can get out of you.

            Had almost an identical situation, except she was a little more cunning, after she got her item, she deliberately pretended to forget paying me for it and then said "we cool? I owe you anything?"

            Of course as a good little beta you're supposed to say "all good" and be happy at least you're hitting the pussy. While she's grinning and secretly despises what a weak can't-say-no-to-her piece of shit you are.

            I think the overall lesson is, better nip it in the bud - bitch no, buy your own catridge.

            [–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Its not about the $20, it's about her saying she would pay for it then trying to brush it off (deception/disrespect/no integrity). Instant demotion to "wet hole", if she was even anything more before that.

            [–]SpinPlates 10 points11 points  (0 children)

            Good job.

            I would have said "Exactly, its only $20 so pay up"

            Thats a huge red flag. Glad you got it in though.

            [–]thor_away92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            20$ hooker so fuck it

            [–]clint_bronson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

            20 shekels are 20 shekels after all....

            [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 6 points7 points  (8 children)

            "Oh come on it's only $20..." "Did you not say you were going to pay me?" "Don't be so cheap."

            You: "Don't be a liar."

            That said, if you loan someone $20 and you never see them again...it was worth it.

            [–]disposable_pants 2 points3 points  (6 children)

            You: "Don't be a liar."

            This will just come across as petty, and won't get her to pay you back.

            [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 1 point2 points  (5 children)

            Never underestimate the power of shame. Besides, at this point, he's paid his 20 bucks. He might as well get his licks in. If she was going to pay him back willingly, he wouldn't be having this conversation in the first place.

            [–]disposable_pants 0 points1 point  (4 children)

            It's a sunk cost. "Getting your licks in" is just rationalizing unproductive behavior.

            [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 1 point2 points  (3 children)

            Unproductive behavior would be running to the grocery store for some bitch in the first place. He's already lost his $20--never spend money on a girl that you expect to get back--does he have to lost the $20 and be shamed for being "petty"?

            [–]disposable_pants 0 points1 point  (2 children)

            Unproductive behavior would be running to the grocery store for some bitch in the first place.

            Agreed, but that's already happened; it's a sunk cost. Nothing he can do about that now.

            shamed for being "petty"?

            It's not shaming, it's (rightly) pointing out that getting into a pissing match over $20 is going to be perceived as petty by her and by most (if not all) people who hear about it. Your reputation is worth a lot more than $20, he's probably not going to get his money back whatever he does, and there are far better ways to handle the situation.

            [–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            It's not shaming

            I meant by her.

            is going to be perceived as petty by her and by most (if not all) people who hear about it.

            Or it's her rep for not paying a debt. If one is worried about what the Fedoras and Miladys think, then one has other bigger problems.

            [–]disposable_pants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            If one is worried about what the Fedoras and Miladys think, then one has other bigger problems.

            Think as you like, behave like others. If you're openly railing against what most people don't see as a big deal, you're just shooting yourself in the foot.

            [–]pbgswd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            nope. you did well. Really, nobody should ever put up with that. Its lying to your face.

            [–]YouDislikeMyOpinion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            I'd make her cook me a 3 course meal. And then after eating it, I'll tell her it was "okay".

            [–]1TopTRP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Whether or not you next her isn't the important decision here.

            I probably would, but I would have never been in that position in the first place because...

            I don't care so I just buy it when I'm at the grocery store. Mistake?

            By the way you describe it going down (she said that I should buy her a CO2 cartridge), by doing it you're putting yourself into a position of servitude. Running her errands for her.

            Replace her with one of your guy friends. If you're hanging out with a bro, and he says "hey man you should pick me up an AC filter next time you're out", are you going to do it?

            Aside from the fact that whether or not he has a new AC filter is the absolute last thing on my mind, I definitely wouldn't be running his errands for him and none of my guy friends would think of asking me that in the first place.

            [–]InformalCriticism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            It kind of sounds like you were hoping she could be an LTR, so if that's what you're after, then it was a good call to move on.

            Keep your expectations high, almost unreasonably high, when looking for LTRs. Never, ever, settle.

            [–]ReallyLikesRum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            This reminds me of the time she slapped me in the face for not buying her a drink.

            [–]GarlicSaucePunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I mean, 20$ for sex is actually a pretty decent discount.

            [–]rattamahatta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            Sue her in small claims court 😂

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            [–]W_O_M_B_A_T -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

            You implied through your actions that it wasn't a big deal at the time.

            You lost frame by asking for the money after the fact, instead of asking up front when she asked. "what's it worth to you?"