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Why are Millennial Men Failing? (self.asktrp)

submitted by MephisLay

O.k- this is a little bit of an organized rant:

Over the past few years, it has become abundantly clear that young men are facing a serious crises. There is a serious attack on men in our society and not enough men are standing up to take control of their lives.

More men than ever before are underachieving, and addicted to pornography and videogames. An incredible number of men are still living with their parents well into their 20’s and 30’s. Many who are not living with their parents are still dependent on them financially.

In contrast, more women than ever are surpassing men academically and financially.

Traditionally, as a man, you were either a soldier, a breadwinner/provider for your family or a monk/priest. Today there is a huge push to redefine masculinity for men. Everything that mad men “MEN” is being eroded. Aggressiveness is taboo, testosterone is a bad word, traditionally male spaces are opening up to women, boys are becoming increasingly feminized.We have stay at home dads, 30 year old adolescents cosplaying at comic con and beards becoming a fashion statement. Beards you say? Yes- beards. Beards usually become fashionable when masculinity is under threat. As the psychologist Robert Pellegrini said: “the male beard communicates an heroic image of the independent, sturdy, and resourceful pioneer, ready, willing and able to do manly things” Men are seeing more and more women dominate in the workforce, take on male roles and finally, not require a man for any thing. Sometimes in the face of this takeover, with no clear path, its much easier to just grow a beard and call yourself a man.

the male beard communicates an heroic image of the independent, sturdy, and resourceful pioneer, ready, willing and able to do manly things

Men who are stay at home dads for instance get little or no respect from other men and I don’t feel sorry for them. No woman is interested in dating a man who makes less than her and even if she does marry such a man, he would never freely admit in the company of other men that he is a stay at home dad.

Porn and video games are our virtual escape routes. Since we can’t build our skills as warriors on the battlefield or at different skilled trades, we instead level up on World of Warcraft and become League of Legend professionals. Our online game skills have become our status symbols.

Here are a few of the problems facing men who spend most of their free time playing video games and watching porn: -social anxiety -violent tendencies -obesity -impulsivity -depression -academic failure

A kid that is exposed to video games for 6 hours a day will never find school interesting. How can his formal education compete with that level to stimulation. To add insult to injury, young boys learn differently from girls and the current educational format does not give boys a digestable education. Instead, they get an ADHD diagnosis.

If you are a grown man and you’ve self diagnosed yourself with ADHD, try this:

-Disable all social media for 30 days -Don’t read the news for 30 Days -If your work/school require internet use, limit checking your emails to once a day. -Disable data on your phone- for 30 days – Practice Deep Work- sitting your ass down for 2hours intervals everyday to do a specific task without interruption- no checking your phone, no day dreaming, just intense focus.

It makes sense, though. Porn and video games offer some things which most guys are not getting in their real life:

1) Instant Rewards: With porn you get to see the exact sort of women that turns you one, the exact scene and you get to orgasm whenever you desire. With video games you gain access to a world where you can immediately life an adventurous life that was only available to your ancestors in their wildest dreams.

2) Clear Goals: With pornography the goal is to find the most stimulating scene that will get you off in the most satisfactory way.

3) Less Risks and Consequences: There’s no risk of dying or getting hurt when you get shot or stabbed, or fall off a cliff in a videogame. Similarly, you don’t have to worry about STDs, or rejection from real flesh and blood women when you masturbate to online porn.

4) More Excitement: Sadly, for many men, video games are infinitely more exciting than their current lives and their hours at their “masturbation station” are more stimulating than sex in real life. Sadly, for the porn users- porn REALLY becomes more exciting than real sex as time goes by.

5) No Fear of Rejection: Why worry about meeting an attractive woman in real life when you have thousands a mere mouse click away? Cam girls will never reject you as long as you pay them, so why even bother?

To truly understand exactly why millennial men are failing in life, we have to look at three very important issues:

Logistics: Lack of a male presence in early life: Any community that allows a large number of boys to grow up in broken homes, not build stable relationships with male authority figures, dominated by women and never gives them a clear cut route to the future will ultimately be destroyed.

Not having a father robs a young man of some important traits which a feminized society or women in his life will teach him instead. Some common symptoms of men who grew up without a father are:

Lack of decisiveness: Indecision is a feminine trait. More and more men are joining the “IDK club” Inability to dominate in the bedroom: Most men have been brainwashed to believe that women just want you to “make love” to them all the time. Men fear rough sex because they have been dominated by their mothers who have taught them that women should be treated with respect. While this is true, they don’t realize that this behavior does not carry over to the bedroom. Lack of passion for their lifes work: Passion in this case simply means learning to love the work that you are doing right NOW. Young men have been fed the belief that they should “do what they love” and “follow their passion”, which are both shortcuts to mediocrity and poverty. Many fathers have to work to make a living and support their families. My father did not wake up in the morning to “follow his passion”. He was thankful he had a job he was skilled at and delivered value to a large group of people. Fathers teach boys to follow their skills, not their passions.

Pornography is another logistical problem: Young men now have access to a stupendous amount of pornography. When you watch too much porn, your sex life begins to mirror your porn life. You believe that a good sex life means lots of sex with low quality/trashy women. You desire to have sex with promicuous women, increases, as does your supplicating behavior. You’ll do anything for sex including spending your money on undeserving women, jump through hoops for them and shower strange women with compliments. The thirsty behavior of guys on social media is evidence for this.

Individual Social awkwardness: I’ve seen a growing number of guy who are opting out of social engagements for one simple reason: they are socially awkward. Modern technology has made face to face communication more and more difficult. Men today spend so much time communicating online that the simply don’t know HOW to interact with others- especially women- in social situations. Reading body language and verbal cues has become next to impossible for them and when they struggle with it too much, they end up retreating back to their online world.

Impulsiveness: We can get everything with the click of a mousepad today. A date, food delivered, a car at our door step, an t shirts in our mail box, a new video game on our hard drive, a newly release movie- everything is available to us NOW. As a result, men have been trained to react to their urges immediately. You feel horny? Watch porn and masturbate Feeling bored? Play video games for 7 hours Feeling Hungry? Order pizza, or swing by the nearest fast food restaurant

System: Society today has succeeded in putting womens needs first. Young men grow up seeing this is every part of their world:

Media: There are rarely any positive role models of TV for kids. Think of the shows you grew up with- Everybody loves Raymond, Homer Simpson, King of Queens, Married with Kids. All a bunch of inept fools masquerading as men. Gender roles have been DELIBERATELY confused and this makes young men apprehensive about demonstrating their masculinity. Men fear being labelled as “aggressive” or “overbearing” towards women.

Legal System: The legals system is the most obvious proof that boys grow up in a society rigged against men. Men only receive custody of their children in 10% of divorce cases in the United States,leaving their children to be raised primarily by women. Men still pay exhorbitant alimony payments despite the fact that the woman at the other end of the divorce maybe fully capable of working and earning an equal wage.

Masculinity banned: There is a concerted effort to minimize and in many cases, completely eradicate masculinity from all facets of society. Whenever masculinity is brought up prominently, it has been roundly denounced as “hate speech”. Recess is now cut in schools – boys and girls do not get a chance to go out and develop their masculinity and femininity among themselves. This leaves a boy with only two places to learn about masculinity: the movies and his mother.

Environmental: The food you eat, the water your drink and personal care products that young men put into their bodies decrease testosterone and cause serious increases in estrogen.Here are a few ways your testosterone is being eroded.

-Refined Carbohydrates

Processed carbohydrates make up a huge portion of our modern diet. Past, cereal, milk and burgers among other things lead to chronic elevation in insulin secretion from the pancreas. Increased insulin disrupts the hormone cycle in your body, which suppresses testosterone production.

-Hormones in Meat

Hormones are used in the beef, dairy and pron industry. Unless your meat is grass fed- you are most likely consuming hormones which disrupt your testosterone production.

-Stress

Stress raise cortisol levels while suppressing your central hormone pathways. What does this mean? It means that testosterone secretion is suppressed. Studies show that stress blocks testosterone in your body.

-Estrogen contaminated water

Estrogens which primarily come from pharmaceuticals containing synthetic estrogens have been measured in high quantities in municipal water supplies if they can induce sex changes and population drops in various species of fish, imagine what they can do to your body? Solution? Filter your tap water and drink bottled water. For the absolute cleanest drinking water, invest in a reverse osmosis system.

Domestic Abuse Against Men Whereas women have numerous safety nets to turn to if they become victims of domestic abuse, men have virtually none, despite the fact that domestic abuse against men is a huge and growing problem. In the UK for example, 44 per cent of domestic abuse victims are male, while more married men suffer abuse at the hands of their spouse than married women. While domestic abuse against women is constantly highlighted by the mass media, domestic abuse against men is a complete non-issue.

What do you guys think?

*curated from www.quitporngetgirls.com


[–]notmyusualreddit 15 points16 points  (1 child)

All of society is telling men that they don't need men. So men slow down and just idle, because no one cares anyway.

The next step is to find a purpose beyond relationships, because who really wants to slave away in a relationship to a 29 year old ex tinder slut.

[–]alp100 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is a quality post, thanks

[–]dongpal 8 points9 points  (1 child)

all the info are correct but :

what is the end goal of both versions? the guy watching porn and video games has a safe and enjoying life while the guy who does not struggles and has to fight for everything (as a bonus he can call himself a man and get some pussy, and still gets less stimulation).

in the end, the guy 200 years ago would wish for a life we have right now, and we want a life like a men 200 years ago (only the postitive things). the grass is always greener on the other side..

[–]leon32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen to that brother!

[–]RunForCoverBaby 34 points35 points  (0 children)

this is the wrong sub. head over to r/theredpill for that content

[–]50pluspiller 15 points16 points  (8 children)

Why? Because baby boomer parents coddled their children and told them that they were snowflakes. They were helicopter parents who did everything for their children not letting them fail. Everybody got a prize there were no losers.. And they allow them to live with them in their thirties rather than what my parents did to me and kick my ass out at 18 years old.

[–]bowie747 11 points12 points  (5 children)

Also baby boomers refuse to die. As such they're all maintaining their positions of power that nature would have had them relinquish 15 years ago. Now young people have less positions of power to aspire to.

[–]50pluspiller 4 points5 points  (4 children)

More than just refusing to die, what the Baby Boomers are doing are actually staying in the job market a lot longer. This is due to the excessive in the eighties and nineties and the large purchases that they made and the way they live their lives.

I am actually at the tail end of the baby boomer generation by two years, and what I find with this part of the generation we are also living a much healthier and active lifestyle. So yeah, it's going to be a long time until I die.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Until the Millenials snap and start, ah... purging.

[–]50pluspiller 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Actually because Millennials are so weak minded, they will start purging themselves. They are so caught up in their Fantasy games, their handheld devices, and living in the basement of their parents they are unable to function. They are the ones who are going to be committing suicide. It's a sad fact, true and sad.

[–]improvingme63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true. The only thing that keept me out of a dark depression is TRP. I found this forum at the perfect time of my life and it's helped me turn around completely. My outlook on life has taken a 180 turn and I've never had an easier time finding purpose and taking steps to improve my life. If it wasn't for TRP I'd be a miserable sack of shit or dead.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think even millenials are subject to survival instinct. But you're right, as long as millenials (and people in general) are pacified with their stuff, there will be no purging. But if that stuff goes away...

[–]TheRedVanMan2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 'baby boomer' generation were post WWII, that's why they're called baby boomers, they were actively encouraged by the government to repopulate Europe, Britain specifically in this case. They're all old and dying off now. My mother and father were part of this generation and both had 6 brothers and sisters each.

The 'everybody gets a prize' stuff started in the late 90's. There's quite a large gap between the two generations to be fair.

[–]awalt_cupcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

baby boomer parents coddled their children

There's more to it than that. Baby boomer parents are also abusive (the women mostly). Father's oblivious. And both raised most men to think that the other men are bad.

[–]Apexk9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

School is designed for women.

Affirmative action.

Lack of jobs.

And generation are lazy bitchess

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up with a single mom, which really fucked me up socially. Like really fucking bad. Thanks to trp and working in some really rough industries I finally consider myself sorted out at 21 years old. Although I disagree with add being a bad thing. I'd hate to live without it, it makes me creative and a very good social chameleon. But honestly. There's a war against men, but it's a political war. I don't need society's permission to step up. To protect those around me and do my duty. I've never had issues and I live in fucking PC hipster central. (Portland)

[–]TankVet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are a bunch of screen-addicted babies not able to overcome educational and economic systems run by people who don't want them to succeed?

....I don't care. I take care of myself, that's the only person who will.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're dealing with back-to-back-to-backish generations of people who were raised to become narcissistic buttholes who never had to really struggle for anything in life. That and mainstream society is deeply cucked at this point and willing to tell itself sweet lies to avoid harsh truths. I think Maddox's video that compares the Disney version of the Little Mermaid and the historical version by Hans Christian Andersen. Everything is white washed, and everyone is dumb and happy and nothing is learned.

Hormones in Meat

When it comes to food in broad strokes it pays to spend more, although exposure to hormones, and the cows being grass-fed are two separate issues. Grass-fed beef is better than grain-fed, but the rancher can still absolutely inject their cattle with growth hormones.

Of course sometimes you're talking about something that's just wasting money like organic bananas.

Refined Carbohydrates

Of all the things you could mention, burgers? You should absolutely replace a plain white bun with something else, but burgers are not a carb issue. Milk isn't really either. Most people could stand to reduce the amount of dairy in their diet- I am never giving up cheese so help me god and yogurt is pretty good too- but milk isn't exactly a carb issue.

The only one you got right on that list was breakfast cereal which is typically refined carbs covered in sugar. When it comes to carbs- remember, sugars are carbs, as far as your body is concerned it all ends up being turned into the same stuff- the biggest issue is 'white' foods. White rice, white bread, white sugar. Most junk food is an intersection of two of those things.

Porn

Porn is one of those issues of aggregation. On it's own it's not a big deal- we've had porn for centuries- but the problem is that it's never just porn. You have an endless supply of it coming from sources that provide it for free, with an industry that's constantly evolving to meet consumer demands. So what goes from something that should really be a once-a-week to once-a-month habit that's really only occurring to keep the pipes running becomes a twice-a-day habit. Which then leads to some very specific problems.

1: Porn leaves you with unrealistic expectations. Porn stars are paid actors. Emphasis on actors.

2: Porn is a passive experience, which can wire you to taking that passive role.

3: The industry feeds on broken lives. Very few people get into porn as a career- one which renders them a persona non grata in most other industries- because they're intelligent, well adjusted and bound for bigger and greater things.

[–]WeedDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that the above applies to about 20% of young men. If you are in nerdy circles, 90% around you can look like it though.

The ultimate issue is the lack of worthwhile jobs and women. If there are 30 profitable jobs for every 100 men, some men are smart enough to realize that not everyone who makes the effort is going ot get them, and they have little chance of beating the more entrenched competition.

Women are not feeling the "man crunch" at all. The handsome and popular are keeping the cock carousel whirling, business as usual. And the sturdy betas who dutifully accept whatever work spam the hambeasts online.

There's always been male losers, but in the past they were out of sight, locked away at farms and factories. Today we see them online and in service and STEM industries.

[–]ponkyol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's that nowadays, developing yourself is much more difficult. By the time you're done with a decent degree you're 25 and with a mortgage's worth of student loan debt. Then you'll also need a house to really be self sufficient.

And for what? An ex tinder slut with just as much student loans as you (for an useless degree). Who, just as likely as not, may divorce you in a couple of years while ripping your children away from you. And honestly, of how many couples who've been together for 10+ years do you think "I'd like to be in his shoes in 10 years"?

[–]COLIE53 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I didnt read your long ass post but to answer your title its because they believe in disney fantasy bullshit..

I say good, let the weak die out and the strong reign supreme. A lot of men are unfit for reproduction and undeserving of a next generation.

Masculinity is a lost art, bend the knee to no man, command and conquer your harem. The world will love you for it. And for gods sake dont apologize for anything unless its warrented (IE genuine fuckups and mistakes)

TL:DR Dont act like a cuck....

[–]zue3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best part about these answers is that guys think they belong to the superior category when in reality it's always the opposite.

[–]play_time_is_over 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Because millennial men arent men at all. They're boys.

They play video games, eat junk food and are afraid to talk to girls. This is what little children do.

Why so many men depressed these days? Because they live the life of kids (video games, weed, junk food) and never grow up.

[–]peezofchit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have cousins who live that kind of way and are in their late teens already. Wish there was some way to snap sense into them

[–]MagmaiKH 1 point2 points  (6 children)

TL;DR Fuck-off concern troll.

Other than being successful at taking on tremendous debt to get shit degrees young women are not doing "better". This is a generational issue and the chics are getting a pussy-pass to excuse their failures.

"Addicted" to porn? No. There is no incentive for most men to go fuck live women. What does "success" even mean here? You waste your money on a bitch just to have her spit, demand you use a condom, or cry rape if things don't go her way? Why would you bother having sex if it's not going to be real sex - masturbation is better. The only reason to play this game is for the sport of it. This is going to hit a lot of TRP right in the butt-hurt but the only reason to do all of this shit is to agree and join the feminist in their designed utopia of easy lays where young women are free to fuck around as much as they please with no social repercussions because another non-judgmental lay is across the bar. (Once you are forty you are going to be faced with the reality of settling for a once-divorced ex-tinder-slut if you want a family or decide fuck it and just let your multi-million-year-long evolutionary-win-streak die a pathetic death.)

"Addicted" to video-games? No.
They say the same stupid shit every generation with whatever is new.
Once-upon-a-time comic books were as derided as video-games for "corrupting the youth" and making young men damaged goods unable to cope with the harsh realities of life.

The only +30 yo man I know that is still at home is there to take care of his mother because his dad is dead.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (5 children)

Are you saying aspiring alpha's shouldn't cut out video-games and porn? Pretty sure the alpha studs of the 80's weren't nose deep in comic books

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What an alpha does with his time is irrelevant so long as he still has power, respect, and pulls pussy. That's why he's alpha.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child)

How much power, respect and pussy a man has is DIRECTLY dependant on what he does with his time. Are you trolling?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. I'm saying alphas do whatever they want. As long as they have what alphas have, they're alphas. I did not imply that alphas aren't doing what they need to do to have power and status.

Don't attribute words to me which I didn't say.

[–]NSAgentSteve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can thank American freedom for all of this. Real life isn't real life. It's all programmed and setup. We're all slaves, and no one even realizes, and if they do, we still don't do shit. It's all about money, power, and controlling the masses. Destroy all the men's spirits and you can get away with whatever you want.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pokémon GO is one hell of a drug.

[–]ecosci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The state wants to get rid of the family unit because real alpha men control spending in thier household which is not good for the economy most women are emotional spenders just notice how there are more smaller suvs driving around its designed for the mom and her kids not dad.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estrogens which primarily come from pharmaceuticals containing synthetic estrogens have been measured in high quantities in municipal water supplies if they can induce sex changes and population drops in various species of fish, imagine what they can do to your body? Solution? Filter your tap water and drink bottled water. For the absolute cleanest drinking water, invest in a reverse osmosis system.

Doesn't bottled water come in plastic (which is estrogenic)?

[–]StrongArm1650mi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bottled water is a scam

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

In my experience, my colleagues who are fellow young (<30) people see fucking useless. They expect instant gratification, to be promoted immediately and recognized, and don't want to work at all.

I spend 6 hours a day playing video games on my days off but I make six figures and lift every day... does it cancel out? Still debating myself, but I know I certainly enjoy the vidya enough to have a baller pc.