Girl at bar rejected me found out I was doctor, gave me number, what to do (self.asktrp)

submitted by drinkingdoctor

So a little about me so can get the full picture I'm 6' 3'' and lift occasionally I do not come across as skinny or really muscular. I was at a bar after finishing up at the hospital and I approach a HB9 she shuts me down I accept and go back to the bar. Then a colleague of mine from the hospital walks in and shouts, "Dr. drinkingdoctor" and talks with me about a challenging procedure I performed earlier that day for a few minutes. Everyone in the bar heard him call me doctor and the people around us heard our convo. HB9 then comes up to me and we chat for a bit she then hand me her number, should I contact or just lose the number? And if I contact how should I handle it?

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 242 points243 points  (11 children)

You know exactly who and what you're dealing with.

Sex-only. Use condoms. Let her think there's kinda sorta maybe a shot at something more for as long as she'll keep fucking you with no strings. When she gets pushy or difficult regarding commitment and no-strings sex, or if she doesn't put out early on, just ghost on her.

Have her meet you somewhere for coffee or a drink. Already have your own drink by the time she gets there so that she has to go buy her own instead of you buying for her. Escalate like normal. Have a second location in mind to jump to. Walk in the park with a good bench for sitting/making out, hitting golf balls, whatever. Something where you can be close and intimate and touch her. From there, move to your place. If she's really down early on and you can tell, skip the second place and just go home.

If she's really difficult, just bail. Golddiggers can be a lot of trouble.

[–]the_Milkweed 66 points67 points  (1 child)

Pump and dump, treat her how she asks to be treated.

[–]upvoteguy2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pump and pump*50 and then dump

[–]Ika- 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is the only comment you need to read here

[–]Theebenedetto 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Awesome, great advice right here.

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    [–]TRP VanguardArchwinger 36 points37 points  (1 child)

    It's not a matter of crime or punishment. It's just how the game is played.

    People use each other for the value they provide to one another, while trying to appear as valuable as possible to others.

    She let her cards slip by showing that she wasn't holding very valuable personality or ethics cards. She's still a reasonably hot 9 who owns a vagina.

    So a shrewd player of the game will play to win that vagina card, using the minimum about necessary to get it, without paying extra for personality and ethics, because he knows that her pretend personality and ethics is just a bluff.

    [–]MarkyMark8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This was actually a great analogy.

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      [–]WeTheAwakened 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Isn't flushing condoms a good way to screw your plumbing up?

      [–]NikoMyshkin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      there is absolutely, definitely no prospect with this one other than purely casual sex. there can be no exception to this. so: if you want to fuck her then do so but never let yourself forget the start.

      [–]RPShitlord 87 points88 points  (0 children)

      Whore confirmed. Plate only, condoms always, dispose of it yourself.

      [–]FrameWalker 52 points53 points  (3 children)

      Whenever I see an incentive for sperm jacking I don't leave any soldiers behind. Carry in carry out.

      [–]the_red_monk 19 points20 points  (0 children)

      Leave no trace. Always a good policy.

      [–]improvingme63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      I like to treat it like camping and take some shit on my way out. Leave it better than you found it? /s

      [–]Endorsed Contributorbalalasaurus 29 points30 points  (0 children)

      This is how the scenario will play out should you pursue it.

      Right now, you are firmly a BB in her eyes. If you set up a date, she will put out as soon as the situation will allow to secure commitment. It will probably be some of the best sex you will ever have. Following that you will be subjected to ridiculous demands and put through outrageous hoops as she dangles her pussy in front of you like a magical carrot to a dumb mule.

      Your game will need to be tight. You can fuck her and leave her but be sure to document everything and most importantly apply every kind of sexual protection you can think of. She sounds especially calculating considering that outside of hearing you being referred to as a doctor and you describing a procedure (which you could easily have been bullshiting), she made the switch from rejecting you to all out propositioning you.

      I smell crazy, and I would be very careful around crazy.

      [–]omega_dawg93 55 points56 points  (1 child)

      go in raw and donate the full DNA sample... have a kid, marry her, & fuck up your life for at least 18 yrs.

      [–]wont_tell_i_refuse 21 points22 points  (0 children)

      Some men just want to watch the world burn.

      [–]MeatCurtainRod 26 points27 points  (0 children)

      Watch yourself with this one. Use your own condoms (lubed ones that will contain spermicide) so you know for sure the condoms are fully functional. Never trust a whore like this one. This is literally the text book definition of whore. She obviously just wants your money, otherwise she wouldn't have shut you down the first time.

      [–]itsbooming 26 points27 points  (0 children)

      Proceed to fuck her then when tired of her introduce her to your buddy "the brain surgeon"

      [–]nastynickdr 18 points19 points  (0 children)

      As long as you dont consider her for a LTR you are good.

      [–]knightSwolaire 11 points12 points  (1 child)

      Gold Digger. Plate only. However... I'm getting a bad feeling you're going to fall into LTR trap with her.

      For your sake.. walk.

      [–]All_Ads_Deceive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Me too. She'll say she was really into him from the start but isn't "easy"

      [–]H42 9 points10 points  (0 children)

      Do anything you want, but make sure you do not get her pregnant. Because that is her planned goal.

      [–]deadwoodcylon 11 points12 points  (1 child)

      If your game is weak, forget her and move on.

      If your game is strong, plate her. But tread carefully.

      [–]FilosMan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Best answer

      [–]RPthrowaway123 17 points18 points  (1 child)

      Blow her off, she's a gold digging whore. Not the kind of woman you want to be involved with.

      [–]bitterbut_true 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Good advice. Run. This one's a job for the 'experts'. Sounds like you're not (yet). You can bet if she puts out her 'assets' for you...gunna test your 'conscience'. But worse than a gold digger, she may end up a blackmailer particularly if she thinks you're loaded...(and she's your 'garden variety' gorgeous female sociopath)

      [–]cazzah123 7 points8 points  (1 child)

      Imagine if a girl in a big sweater and baggy pants started talking to you, and your like mehhhh shes not that hot.

      Then later you see her in a bikini and shes a 10.

      See the resemblance

      [–]inspiron3000 38 points39 points  (2 children)

      Don't understand the question.

      You're tall and got rejected.
      I have no sympathy.

      You find out that the girl is a superficial gold digger and now you are confused what to do about it.

      You're seeking advice on whether to smash this girl or move on.
      You haven't given us any idea on what outcome you are looking for.

      I think you should call her up and propose marriage immediately.
      Please act on this advice.

      [–]the_Milkweed 4 points5 points  (1 child)

      I like you

      [–]Osoto_Gari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Give him your number ;-)

      [–]gekkozorz 11 points12 points  (2 children)

      Enjoy your success. Lots of cynics in this thread saying "dump that whore!"

      Nah, no need for that. Is she a whore? Yes. Yes, she is a whore. Most people are whores; we all just have different prices. Question is, can you still have fun with a whore? Yes to that too. Experience is experience. Get it where you can. Sometimes you have to grind on your way across the main quest.

      WITH THAT SAID, beware. You know what she wants. Her eyes are green dollar signs right now. She's going to whack you like a pinata get that sweet dosh out of you. "Forgetting" to bring her wallet on a lunch date--that sort of thing. Expect lots of "Oh hey, can you pick this up? Thanks" when you go out for drinks. Over-expensive jewelry and shoes will be required as "mandatory" with clam-access implied to be restricted unless such spoils are acquired.

      Fuck all that. Be the cheapest Jew bastard she's ever met. She'll tag along with you for a few dates and maybe a half-decent fuck as she tries to get you on her hook. In the meantime while you're courting her (and not paying for her shit) be the Red Pill badass you've read about on these forums. Apparently your looks didn't impress her initially, but if your personality is intriguing enough, perhaps she'll start to dig you after all. You've already got the height going on, so you're halfway there already.

      Just for the love of God, put your wallet away. There's no reason to sink shekels into a potentially shit investment.

      [–]waynebradysworld 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      Oy vey goyim, that's a low price!

      [–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Pump and dump baby. Don't get snagged on anything.

      [–]the_red_monk 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      should I contact or just lose the number?

      Why not? What have you got to lose?

      Side note: this is an obvious case of demonstrated value. The lack of subtlety from women never ceases to amaze me. As soon as you have status she magically changes her tune.

      And if I contact how should I handle it?

      Tell her you'd like to perform a physical? (jk)

      Archwinger already provided sage advice on this, so I'll defer to his comment.

      [–]All_Ads_Deceive 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Women are very aggressive when they want something. That's why I don't cold approach. If a chick wants to fuck she'll usually make it clear

      [–]the_red_monk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Dude, it's only the crazy ones that are aggressive when they want something. I cold approach because otherwise that would be selecting for the bottom of the barrel. Most women are never going to make the first approach. That's just how the game is played.

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      [–]drinkingdoctor[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

      Yes, people worry about the debt, but they being penny wise and pound foolish. You can easily make 10-20 times as much as a doc compared to a nurse. You'll still make a lot more than most men your age as a nurse though.

      [–]the_Milkweed 0 points1 point  (4 children)

      It funny how often the money is the prime objective and I never hear nurses or docs talk about the lack of life they have.

      [–]drinkingdoctor[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children)

      You should watch less Grey's anatomy and maybe you'll have a more accurate perspective on the medical field. I own my own practice so I schedule every weekend off and every other Friday off. During the weekdays I typically only work 12-14 hours per day. Not that bad.

      [–]the_Milkweed -1 points0 points  (1 child)

      Would you say you're an exception to the rule? I would think this is a rare case.

      Edit: but thanks for the snarky remark.

      [–]drinkingdoctor[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

      Depends on the specialty. Dermatology and radiology are known for being easy hours. I'm a surgeon and most do work more than me. But I suspect if one has no hobbies and an overweight and ungrateful wife to come home to I understand why they would work so much. It's really up to the individual though.

      [–]randarrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      You didn't say what you want to happen?

      Do you want to fuck with her?

      Do you want to fuck her?

      Do you want to black list her?

      [–]flatox 4 points5 points  (2 children)

      You should have told her to fuck off, she missed her shot.

      [–]All_Ads_Deceive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I'd rather pump and dump a 9 than be butt hurt

      [–]omega_dawg93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      this. but not many guys have the balls to take this stance.

      [–]RedPillAccount69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Fuck her once, then never speak to her again.

      [–]TheSupr3m3Justic3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Fuck her, and never call her again, cover your ass for possibly baby/rape drama.

      [–]bittr_n_swt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      I'm a medical student and it's something I don't like to share with women because of reasons like this...

      Of course she's not LTR material. Hit her up and plate her only. Plate material maximum

      [–]returnofthemackX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      She has dollar signs in her eyes

      [–]stephcurryftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Pump and Dump with protection.

      [–]deci-mator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Enjoy yourself. But you must internalize that AWALT. Have an abundance mentality and do not get attached in any way. Always have your shoes at the door and your keys in your hands.

      [–]jovijovi99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      So she didn't like the cover but she likes the book? It's up to you however, she'll move on the moment she meets a richer man.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

      Pure fantasy post lol.

      [–]mzzmuaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      signed consent forms for each encounter. use the hospital MRN label printer to save time for future

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      [–]All_Ads_Deceive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Pump and dump is the best "gotcha bitch" for a gold digger

      [–]whatwhatinthebutt19 0 points1 point  (0 children)


      [–]Sir_Distic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Quite simply

      Next her. Don't contact or anything. She's not worth your time. She'll simply try to use you for money.

      [–]Forcetobereckonedwit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Write it on the bathroom wall.

      [–]Apexk9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Fuck her and never call her again.

      Pretty much act as if she wants your dick. Make a move and if she does any resistance drop her.

      [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      When you text her ask what she was wearing that night or whatever to make it seem like she wasn't the only bimbo who gave you a number. If you do take her out never get exclusive with her. Never imply exclusivity and even if you are not seeing anyone else never see her more than two days a week.

      [–]Kalepsis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Grudge-fuck her once. Wear protection. Then never contact her again.

      [–]nigborg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Hey man, I totally respect what the other guys in this thread are saying, but I think they have it just a little off. What were you wearing that day/how did you look? A girl in a bar has a lot of defense up by default, aspecially one who probably gets a lot of attention. You probably came off creepy at first, then when she saw that you weren't at the bar by yourself/had friends, she realized she had the wrong impression, and decided she should come apologize. Did she apologize? What was her attitude like? It takes a big person to admit they're mistakes, I think you might have found a keeper. Give her a shot, take things slow, definitely do not have sex until the 3rd or 4th date, then if it turns out that she is sincere, then maybe you can consider taking things to the next level.


      [–]improvingme63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

      Marry it /s